Forum Activity for @ecila

Ecila
@ecila
03/04/17 09:10:36PM
898 posts



Could it have something to do with you seeing the future in terms different possibilities, as in all the different cards that could be dealt? Maybe you are wondering how the cards will fall. You might be thinking as your life in terms of a game (your moniker is Lucky Seven...). How much of all our lives are just the luck of the draw? 


updated by @ecila: 07/03/17 12:16:52AM
Ecila
@ecila
02/28/17 04:28:55PM
898 posts

I Want to Be a Sociopath


Arts

Angel:

I don't think the idea is to be consumed by pain, but to learn how to transform it. Using the pain to create something positive out of it. It's not always easy, but without it we would never truely never gain what we seek. IMHO :)

Yes, transformation would be the ideal way to deal with it. Sometimes you need to make life changes. 
The poem was meant to be a joke but I guess I was half serious.

And thank you:)

Ecila
@ecila
02/28/17 04:10:28PM
898 posts

I Want to Be a Sociopath


Arts

Femonique:

I've tried, but this "feel" has also protected me, and I really don't wanna not be me, because that would be a lie.  I already lived like that....blek.  

By all means you should be yourself! This poem was "tongue-in-cheek!"

Ecila
@ecila
11/27/16 02:32:01PM
898 posts

medicine bag for empaths


Tools for Empaths

I use it as a protection against the feelings I get from certain difficult people (mostly my mother). It's just a mental image of the dagger destroying any unwanted emotions or projections coming my way. Instead of an imaginary shield, it's imaginary battle gear of sorts. . . mental support for strength against ugly feelings. Thanks for reminding me. I need to get it ready for Christmas!

Ecila
@ecila
11/26/16 02:49:44PM
898 posts

medicine bag for empaths


Tools for Empaths

Hi CatW and Karen:) It's a Tibetan ritual dagger, similar to an athame in witchcraft, and is known for being used as a protective amulet and other magical purposes. The one I have is about 2 inches long. It's not comfortable to wear so I don't have it on often or put it in my pocket. It came from Thailand off Ebay. There are some cool ones on there. You're not green! I doubt many people have heard of them. 


updated by @ecila: 11/26/16 02:51:16PM
Ecila
@ecila
11/25/16 03:51:40PM
898 posts

medicine bag for empaths


Tools for Empaths

I wear a meed mor on a long silver chain (and keep it hidden) when I feel I'll need lots of protection. I wear mala bracelet or necklace most of the time to focus my thoughts (repeating whatever though I want to reinforce while touching each bead). You can always burn pine for smudging if you don't have anything else, and vanilla from a grocery store will help in a pinch. I also usually have hemetite somewhere on my body, or rose quartz, and a small bag of lavender in my car.

Ecila
@ecila
10/31/16 07:01:53PM
898 posts

how to manage my dreams positively


Dreams

If you fear something bad is going to happen to someone you know, you can meditate on them being protected by a circling cushion of light and with angels around them. You won't always be able to change the future but maybe you can lessen the blows. Sometimes those dreams are to prepare you and let you know that things must be that way.

Ecila
@ecila
10/31/16 06:49:58PM
898 posts

Smarts


Empath

That reminds me of the movie "Little Man Tate." Excellent movie if anyone hasn't watched it.

I haven't had an IQ test but did take one for hemisphere dominance. I was equally dominant on both sides...so C Cat might be on to something there. 

Ecila
@ecila
10/13/16 09:15:34PM
898 posts

Feelings of hate


Empath

I've gone through periods of a sort of disgust with religions, mainly Christianity or Christians, having known so many and growing up in the south. I don't know how any thinking person could avoid a period like that growing up in the bible belt and seeing so many hypocrites and self-righteous people who like to get in your face. I think where you are is pretty bad for that, too. I've gotten over the disgust by avoiding them and remembering the beautiful parts of the faith - the only real or beneficial essence of Chrisitianity - love, forgiveness, kindness.

Ecila
@ecila
09/11/16 11:40:06AM
898 posts

Take a trip though these eyes


Psychic and Paranormal

Beautiful! I see perfect balance in her tiny soul.

Ecila
@ecila
09/08/16 09:50:13PM
898 posts

Need a name for a new furbaby


Animal Empaths

Andromeda is a really cool name! Good for you for saving this little one;)

Ecila
@ecila
08/24/16 11:28:49AM
898 posts



You aren't tied to the physical in the dream state so you're able to travel through space and time. Some call it astral travel. You can go places in this current world or other worlds, even into other's dreams...also different mental states of your own or different lives. There's a good book called "Tibetan Yoga of Dream and Sleep" that you might like.


updated by @ecila: 09/12/17 02:22:12AM
Ecila
@ecila
08/23/16 08:52:01AM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

Me too Lavender&rose, fibromyalgia, migraines and other stuff. Including myself in the compassion was a totally foreign concept until I was pretty old. Live and learn...I'm currently still with my aspergers dad so it is still tough.

H1234...You know this won't be good for you! Maybe he crossed your path so that you can learn boundaries, to trust your instinct, and learn to say no:)

Ecila
@ecila
08/22/16 07:12:05PM
898 posts

Is there anyone who can offer advice on mother-daughter relationship healing?<3


Empath

You're welcome! It works rather quickly but I've found I have to keep it up regularly. Ajahn Brahm has some good ones.

Ecila
@ecila
08/22/16 07:09:19PM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

I currently have a family member who has chosen a bipolar/borderline for a gf and he thinks I'm terrible for not being more positive about it but I just can't be. I fear for what he will be enduring but there is nothing I can do about it. He tells me I'm negative...but I also know that I can't deal with all that goes with certain people anymore! It comes down to survival at times, esp when you get older and tired...I get stress that wrecks havoc all over my body!

Ecila
@ecila
08/22/16 01:40:15PM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

For some sociopaths and narcissists, I also think we make good marks.

Ecila
@ecila
08/22/16 12:44:59AM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

What a date! This culture irritates me with the assumptions that everyone should be married and you're not happy alone, etc. There's nothing wrong with not getting married and far better than marrying someone who ruins your life (or a big chunk of it). Those sure were some red flags! He was luring you into something in a hurry! Funny, my ex did that at first, too. I remember a whirlwind of activities the first few dates, amusement parks, cookouts, the beach, hard rock bars...but I was young and didn't know better!

Ecila
@ecila
08/22/16 12:14:44AM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

My ex could be fun during manic phases...then came the depression and irritability...no fun!!

Sorry about your date.

Ecila
@ecila
08/21/16 10:04:07PM
898 posts

Vague feeling of dread


Empath

I get those now and then too. Sometimes they do turn out to be something and sometimes not. I always take care afterwards, tho, just in case, until the feeling passes. I don't currently have that feeling but with this election coming up I have been worrying more than usual about the future. Reading the news can also trigger that feeling sometimes and I feel like prepping for the apocolypse!

Ecila
@ecila
08/21/16 09:58:42PM
898 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

There are unconscious and subtle signals between people. It can make a compassionate person prey for some dangerous types so it is so good that you are aware of what's going on. (Not saying fibromyalgia, CFS, or dyslexia folks are dangerous but some mental disorders can be). They are interesting as friends but don't make good marriage partners, at least not the potentially dangerous ones. It seems like there are also just a lot of people needing help these days. There's a lot of info online about empaths attracting narcissists and sociopaths.

I don't know that you need to improve or change yourself, tho. Just be careful not to marry someone with a mental disorder, IMO. I don't know where you meet people but maybe you could meet healthier people in healthier settings.

I also have had a long history with the mentally ill, and I plan to only look for healthy people from here on. The unstable ones have taken a lot out of me in my lifetime, and that includes a sociopathic/bipolar ex, an aspergers dad, and an HPD/OCD mom.

Ecila
@ecila
08/19/16 11:24:46AM
898 posts

is this real


Empath

Since you are a meditator you can understand that by "accepting the suffering", meditating on it, you will pass through it. I agree that you shouldn't embrace the pain and that would be a dark path. The idea is to transcend it. Feel it for what it is: a perception of your mind right now. It only has the power that you give it. It is only as real as you feel it through your perceptions. Try to meditate on your feelings and see their origins and see them passing away. All phenomena have their origins in the sense spheres and their passing away. In some senses they could be considered as not real at all. You might be tuning into that feeling of the unreal because of that reason.

Ecila
@ecila
08/19/16 11:10:43AM
898 posts

Is there anyone who can offer advice on mother-daughter relationship healing?<3


Empath

Glad to hear you don't feel abused. If she had a PD it would be pretty hard to miss so she must not. You could try some metta meditation towards her. That has helped me with my parents.

Ecila
@ecila
08/18/16 02:12:30PM
898 posts

is this real


Empath

Sounds like you are a survivor! Hang in there. It won't all be bad and hopefully the worst is behind you.

Ecila
@ecila
08/17/16 04:45:42PM
898 posts

Is there anyone who can offer advice on mother-daughter relationship healing?<3


Empath

That does sound familiar. I'm with lotusfly. If you can get away from the abuse it would be better for you. You could try getting your mother in to therapy with you if you can't leave. It could be that she is somewhere in the Cluster B group of personality disorders and maybe ODC...but wouldn't jump to a conclusion with so little information. You could read up on them, tho, and see if it fits."Walking on Eggshells" is commonly used by people who grew up with such persons. In fact, there's a book called "Stop Walking on Eggshells." It was a term I constantly used growing up and I left home as soon as I was able. I've found that at least 3 hours apart is best for my mother and I and still when I see her I often have the same old buttons pushed and I go into depression. I try to limit my time around her but often still get drawn in.

Ecila
@ecila
08/17/16 04:18:54PM
898 posts

is this real


Empath

If you can't do sitting meditation you could try walking meditation. Being outside can add the benefits of sunshine, nature, and help clear your head. But if you feel suicidal, please get some professional help asap. Hurting yourself isn't the answer and I think that you are a positive influence for this world and it isn't your time to go so forget about that. I keep reminding myself that one day everyone I love and care about will be gone and life is suffering...just accept that suffering without fighting it and you can find peace. You cannot control who lives, dies, or leaves you. Also, time will help heal you from your recent losses and you will grow stronger.

I hope that's some help. It's not easy.

Ecila
@ecila
08/17/16 04:08:45PM
898 posts



This was a very nice post, Angel. I love reading your posts when I find them:)

Ecila
@ecila
08/03/16 05:43:05PM
898 posts

Morning what?


Empath

I understand what you mean and I agree. People are all different. . . but there are some similarities (lots of them) in people with AS. My dad has math superpowers and is really cool in many ways. I alternate between adoring him and hating him.

Not many people are aware of what it is like to grow up with an AS parent or to be married to one because it isn't PC to discuss anything negative in relation to the AS person. There is a FB group and a forum on Delphi Forums. It is like dealing with a narcissist in lots of ways. If you want to get an idea what it's like, go to Delphi forums.

Ecila
@ecila
08/03/16 12:20:35PM
898 posts

Morning what?


Empath

It not easy to think of it idealistically when you are living with a person who has it. Sure, he is unique and eccentric but he's also a lot of other things that make life incredibly difficult. The diagnosis Aspergers has been done away with and now they are just diagnosed on the autistic scale. Yes, it can be very severe and is a disability. Embracing this is not something I can do. I would rather run from it. We give it a label in order to talk to others about it, understand it, and try to cope with it. It is just a fact and you can't pretend it doesn't exist.

BTW, I am Aquarian too.

Ecila
@ecila
07/28/16 11:37:05AM
898 posts

Different perspective on empathy | Ajahn Brahm


Library of Light

Glad you got something from it CCat! Feeling less guilty is something I need to learn, too. He has a very balanced view on it. "Two people suffering only makes twice the suffering...." or something like that:)

Yes, williamrossii, a great influence, indeed!

Ecila
@ecila
07/27/16 01:32:15PM
898 posts

Different perspective on empathy | Ajahn Brahm


Library of Light

Excellent talk on empahty well worth listening to by all empaths.


updated by @ecila: 02/22/17 05:35:52PM
Ecila
@ecila
07/25/16 10:32:01AM
898 posts

Morning what?


Empath

Oh yea we have interesting dreams, too, at least I think Rene does. I also keep a journal. I don't have ADHD tho but have an AS parent so probably have a strange brain and I've read there are some correlations btw ADHD and AS. Some of my dreams are lucid and I've been reading a book you might like call "Tibetan Dream Yoga' by Tenzin Wangal Rinpoche. It's the best book on dream yoga (lucid dreaming) I've found. I always have trouble going to sleep and have tried everything, herbal and otherwise. If I have to get up early I feel like total crap all day. Getting worse as I get older too. Exercise and meditation help some when I stick to the program. Lately I've been making tea with valerian, emon balm and ginger to hide the taste of the valerian. I try to avoid pharmaceuticals but also keep some around for when I know I have to get up on time. It's rough.

Ecila
@ecila
07/24/16 09:41:00PM
898 posts

New to this, and lost


Empath

So sorry that you had to see the motorcycle accident, the death of the man and the the death of your friend's nephew. That would be enough reason to cause you to be tearful. Meditation can also bring feelings to the surface and make you tearful. You are probably going through something that will pass on its own after you have processed the emotions.

You might try a meditation on impermanence and death. The one I was taught involves thinking that:

"I could die in 1 year...11 months...10 months...." just keep counting down until you get to "one week...6 days...tomorrow...one minute...etc"

I did this for a week at a Buddhist center and left feeling very calm. It puts things into perspective. There are others on impermanence on Youtube but I don't know what they are like.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iqV5uWsdadU

I hope you feel better soon:)

Ecila
@ecila
07/24/16 09:06:20PM
898 posts

Morning what?


Empath

I feel ya! I ran across this after years of suffering in the mornings. I come alive at night. I do believe this is what I've always had. Maybe you do too!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_sleep_phase_disorder

It really makes it hard to fit into "normal" society and I've had my share of people thinking I'm lazy.

Ecila
@ecila
07/02/16 03:03:29PM
898 posts

Best Method to Heal and Move on????


Empath

In addition to the excellent advice already given I would just like to add that the best revenge is for you to be happy. Other than that, you must find a way to stop thinking about him. It's not easy but can be done. There are many websites and some books on how to stop obsessive thoughts.

A few books you might check out:

Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

Women Who Love Too Much (I think I read this one when I was divorced)

Ecila
@ecila
07/01/16 01:41:18PM
898 posts

Two Questions... Star and Dangers of Meditation???


Tools for Empaths

Hi 4 peace. That article is bullsh**. There can be dangers of going too deeply too quickly but I doubt you are doing that. If you start to feel in any way unbalanced just slow down on the meditation.

You can have lots of strange experiences but none should be feared. Visions can be meaningful sometimes but often are just the mind's activity. There is another post in this group that discusses this...actually many posts. Do a search on nimittas for more information.

Metta and breath meditations are totally safe and are the ones most often taught to beginners. Meditations on colors, gems, space, light and some others are thought to more often contribute to supernatural powers (or an increase in them) but really that's nothing to fear. .

Ecila
@ecila
06/13/16 11:56:37PM
898 posts

Are disturbing dreams common with empaths?


Dreams

Ignoring your instincts or intuition could be one of the parts of this dream (the crows screaming at you). All people, not just empaths, have dreams that try to communicate to them messages that would help them understand many things in their lives. Many empaths and psychics have precognitive dreams as well. It might help you to try and interpret what this dream is trying to say.

There are many examples of people who have had precognitive dreams. Abe Lincoln comes to mind....A quick search turned up these:http://www.world-of-lucid-dreaming.com/10-dreams-that-changed-the-c...

It is not uncommon at all.

But you are most concerned with upsetting dreams...Intense dreams are not uncommon, either upsetting or unusually pleasant. You can read over some of the ones posted here to see some strange ones!

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 01:43:45PM
898 posts

Are you deeply affected around Athiests?


Empath

Thanks Sarah. He can only believe what he sees and is very stubborn

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 12:15:10PM
898 posts



Good luck. I've had to go rent a place before in order to get people out so they would have a place to go. No fun...

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 12:02:28PM
898 posts

Are you deeply affected around Athiests?


Empath

That was very interesting Sarah. I feel sorry for my dad. I is literally unable to believe in anything. I wish he could so at least death wouldn't seem so scary for him...if nothing else.

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 01:35:56AM
898 posts



You are probably getting upset that he isn't working and feeling taken advantage of by him. That's a natural response and natural that you would get angry about it. If he is bipolar, he will always have trouble keeping jobs (most likely). Take care of #1. Get him out of there and get your center back!

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 01:30:24AM
898 posts

Thoughts on sensing versus stealing energy?


Empath

The psychic vamps I've known steal energy but they don't do it on purpose. They are just anxious/nervous and they wear me down and I leave with the feeling of being physically drained. There have been times I think I have vamped people unintentionally when I was angry/stressed. I've heard of people who actually try to take energy but that is nuts to me..and mean.

Psychic attacks can be more subtle, unspoken words, but a negative energy flow that is so strong it is almost tangible. They can also be unintentional. I've experienced the unintentional ones...once in particular I became very ill.

Ecila
@ecila
06/07/16 01:19:32AM
898 posts



I have had great results from qi gong but I use the free ones on youtube. This looks like it costs $99 for the free monthly healing.


updated by @ecila: 03/19/17 01:20:37AM
Ecila
@ecila
06/06/16 10:48:38PM
898 posts

Are you deeply affected around Athiests?


Empath

I can say that a total lack of belief leaves a person at the end of life to be pretty gloomy. I'm living with an 86 year old who likes to talk about the impossibility of God. He has the questions nagging him but he can find no other solution than "there is nothing." He reads lots of scientific literature as well on physics and the origins of the universe looking for answers. He does emit a lot of negativity but I think it is just him in general and his aspergers, not the atheism, but maybe that is one part of his hopeless black hole vibe. It took me 3 years to get a grip on being around him (as many of you here know). He sees the end is near and can only believe that there will be nothing after...and it frightens him, I know. I've tried to convince him there is something universal but he isn't buying it. At 86 he has his mind made up.

Jung had a lot to say on spirituality and well-being that might shed more light on this topic.

I don't think the common atheist is inherently negative, tho. I used to be one.

Ecila
@ecila
06/05/16 01:03:47PM
898 posts



I've been hiding in the woods for a long time....lol. I depend on nature, animals, music, art. You can depend on yourself...and there are still good people in the world even if you don't know them. There are many on this forum I think. I gave up on relationships and wouldn't get caught up with another person for anything...ever again. It isn't sad for me; it's a relief. I don't feel bitter; just wise. I've tried to forgive and move on. . . but do remain a recluse by choice except for an occasional visit to a monastery or well-known friend's. Family is also difficult these days (i.e. son's manipulative girlfriend). John Prine writes about this insanity beautifully and includes a warning to not let your heart freeze over:

"Bruised Orange (Chain Of Sorrow)"

My heart's in the ice house come hill or come valley
Like a long ago Sunday when I walked through the alley
On a cold winter's morning to a church house
Just to shovel some snow.

I heard sirens on the train track howl naked gettin' nuder,
An altar boy's been hit by a local commuter
Just from walking with his back turned
To the train that was coming so slow.

You can gaze out the window get mad and get madder,
Throw your hands in the air, say "What does it matter?"
But it don't do no good to get angry,
So help me I know

For a heart stained in anger grows weak and grows bitter.
You become your own prisoner as you watch yourself sit there
Wrapped up in a trap of your very own
Chain of sorrow.

I been brought down to zero, pulled out and put back there.
I sat on a park bench, kissed the girl with the black hair
And my head shouted down to my heart
"You better look out below!"

Hey, it ain't such a long drop don't stammer don't stutter
From the diamonds in the sidewalk to the dirt in the gutter
And you carry those bruises
To remind you wherever you go.
Ecila
@ecila
06/03/16 11:58:40AM
898 posts

Time line dream?


Dreams

Incredible dream! You were given the old woman's power. You were using the elements earth and water to fight the enemies. Fire was also present (usually a good omen) in the dream and the running horse could be an air symbol. I'm not sure exactly what it all means but looking back at some of your posts I think you will be developing some super powerful psychic abilities and they are showing up first in your dreams, when you are most able to perceive them. Meditation will make the dreams even more clear. Keep a dream journal. Read up on interpretation.

The elements are used in many spiritual systems, shamanism, witchcraft, even Buddhism. You're part Irish so this is probably in your blood. How exciting!

Ecila
@ecila
06/01/16 03:07:57PM
898 posts

Narcissist Blindside


Empath

So sorry, Sarah. Be glad to be finished with them and look forward to a bright summer:)

Ecila
@ecila
06/01/16 11:10:23AM
898 posts

there's no relief


Empath

Your husband will have to be willing to let go of these energies/entities and he probably isn't in a well enough mental state to do that. Sounds like he has welcomed them since he has even given one a name. I hope you can find a way to focus on yourself. Get rid of the fear you have. These energies thrive on fear, weakness, mental illness and drug abusers. If you are committed to staying with him, you can try to fight the darkness but it will take lots of strength and time and the outcome will depend largely on your husbands state of mind, willingness, and ability to heal himself. . . also on your strength to endure and overcome. I feel that even if the dark energies are conquered, you still have his illness as a permanent issue which will perpetuate the energies to come back. Sorry to be negative here. I just hate seeing people suffer like you when it reminds me so much of what I went through.

Ecila
@ecila
05/31/16 01:19:05PM
898 posts

there's no relief


Empath

I lived with a bipolar/sociopath for 17 years. I loved him and felt sorry for him and wanted to help him. It finally came down to the realization that there was no helping him and he would sink. The only question left was will I sink with him? I finally left with PTSD and depression that took years to overcome. I can't say if your situation is in any way similar to mine, but there often comes a point in life that you have to think of yourself if you want to live. Rene is so right that his illness will become yours, or some version of it. It is noble to care for others in pain, but we must also include ourselves in that caring. We count just as much.

There were other reasons from my past that caused me to not let go of that relationship (absent father, narcissists everywhere growing up). Could there be something from your past that makes you feel you are not worthy of a happy life and your only worth comes from taking care of others?

All the best to you.

Ecila
@ecila
05/31/16 08:59:42AM
898 posts

My crystals are lifeless


Tools for Empaths

I've used water with salt too many times! It seemed logical to me...

Ecila
@ecila
05/30/16 08:16:02PM
898 posts

Are you up to another picture challenge ?


Psychic and Paranormal

I get a sense of darkness, decay, mental illness, emptiness, death. It hasn't always been that way. Once there was life and maybe love there but the world has moved on and left it behind. There is a strength to it, tho, and a stability..some strange order from a hidden chaos.. . lingering presence that is bringing the house down. I think one day the house will heal but it needs big change.

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