Predestinations versus Free Will
I like the analogy of a video game. Everything, all the rules and all the consequences, are predetermined by The Creator of the video game. How we play the video game is up to our own free will.
Short answer "No" :-)
People have asked me about whether there is a conflict between being an empath and religion. Of course, if you indiscriminately follow any particular religious leader, even your local minister, you are giving away your personal power to them. If that person holds an unfavorable view of empaths, then indeed there is a conflict regardless of what we say here.
However, if you want to make up your own mind about this question, the following guidance regarding society’s evolution from control to partnerships may help.
People have created controlling communities since Sumerian civilization in 4,000 BC or earlier. Over thousands of years, human interaction based on controlling others has developed unsustainable greed to a point where the planet itself may not be viable for many more generations. What was replaced can still be seen today in what is left of the planet’s indigenous people who live in partnership societies. The idea of a small percentage of the population controlling a vast portion of society’s wealth is insanity to native tribes. What we are seeing around us today are the early signs of controlling societies crumbling. Institutions are set up to monitor the people within their sphere of influence. As the planet evolves, people are increasingly intolerant of being controlled. All of the civil unrest around the world is reflecting a global trend toward resisting control.
At the level of our personal relationships, how do we interact with others around us? Is it on a basis of who can control who, with a winner-takes-all outcome? Or is it by mutual empowerment, where the only acceptable outcome is a win-win for all involved parties?
The temptation to give our power away is deeply embedded in our societies; from our parents and our schoolteachers to our religious leaders, spiritual counselors, doctors, and financial advisors, most of us were taught from an early age to yield to authority. Specifically from a religious viewpoint, ask yourself, “Does religion try to control me or empower me?” To be more precise, “Do the practitioners try to control me or empower me? Do they pretend to empower me by teaching me how to conform while speaking of freedom? What feelings do they engender in me?” Regardless of their words, if they speak of love but there is a tightness in your gut, ask yourself if they are instilling fear.
On the level of society, we are approaching full circle by coming back to partnership, from control. On the level of the individual, the rising awareness in empaths can be seen as a development from separation to oneness. Concurrent with that, the individual level is learning to trust what we are experiencing in our own bodies rather than what other people tell us we cannot or should not be experiencing.
The Native Americans have a story of having a wolf on each shoulder, a bad wolf on one, a good wolf on the other. The bad wolf represents fear, hate, and greed. The good wolf represents love, compassion, and hope. Which is going to win? The one you are choosing to feed!
It's been many months, so I'd like to repeat my analogy here of two barrels of water (especially ). If a barrel of dirty water feeds into a pipe to a barrel of clean water, the clean water starts to look as dirty as the water in the dirty barrel. If the water flows from the barrel of clean water into the barrel of dirty water, the dirty water gets cleaner, and the clean water is still clean and is refreshed. The effect of only shielding ourselves as empaths is turn off the flow of water, and we know what happens to stagnant water! When we become healers, we keep the flow of water moving from the clean barrel to the dirty barrel.
The culmination of this analogy is my Thriving As An Empath: The light Projector Exercise but let me reiterate that I am not adverse to shielding if it works for you, and I don't expect the Light Projector exercise to wok for everybody (even though it's been great for many).
Thank you Karen2. There isn't a technique that works for everyone all the time, probably not any one technique that works for anyone all the time. Try what works for you and keep experimenting.
let's let go of trying to be right and lets just keep sharing the different ideas here.
Is this all a coincidence? No. That much I am certain of. But can any of us be sure that you created the list of the people who would quit or were you given insight into that list? What do you have control over vs. what do you have precognition of?
And if you really do have that ability to "control" (it's possible) please be really careful to use that ability for the highest good of all concerned. In other words, use it to assist Divine Will rather than gratifying your personal desires. Do I need to explain why?
P.S. A few words on terminology: "Empath" Someone who has the ability to experience the feelings and emotions of other people. Occasionally, this may include experiencing another persons physical symptoms as well. This ability may exist regardless of the physical proximity, the range of the five physical senses, or any intellectual knowledge of the activities of the other person. This is distinct from a whole range of other psychic abilities that many empaths may have. Precognition would be one of those other psychic abilities.
is it hereditary? Absolutely! And if you don't know directly that your relatives are empaths, look for signs of mental health challenges ... in other words, yes, your g'ma probably was an empath.
Could a person or child with ADHD be a misdiagnosed Empath? Again yes!
Now I know not to always take it personal but does that get better with use or time or experience? Is it safe to do it? Yes, yes, and yes again!
As for watching icky stuff ... we are more sensitive to this stuff. It is just better not to engage. Most empaths avoid the TV news (blatent fear mongering) and sad/violent movies. Yes, entities can latch onto us in that space but it is just as much about those negative enegeries dont feel good, so better to avoid them.
Is there a purpose for us? Especially now. - yes, again. Personally, I believe that being empaths is just a signpost on our road as healers and light bearers. Certainly, being empaths is not a goal or destination in itself.
Sounds like you are doing great on your journey thus far. Keep asking lots of questions. Welcome here to the EC. You are among friends.
Feel free to check out some of my other blogs here http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/profiles/blog/list?user=1gak5r9msk249
There are a number of factors affecting how we pick up energy from other people:
Our sensitivity as receivers will factor into how much energy we pick up.
Some people transmit their energy more strongly than others, and the depth of the emotions that they are experiencing will also turn up the volume that they are sending out.
The unaware person may be just as sensitive as the aware person. The latter will understand why they have mood swings; the former will not.
Blood relatives will affect us regardless of where in the world we are and whether we are thinking about them or not. The link between sender and receiver is often stronger where there is a blood connection. Often, empath children may process the emotions of their parents or siblings long into adulthood.
Friends and acquaintances will impact us primarily based on the strength of the emotional connection we have to them, largely without regard to physical proximity. The stronger the emotional connection is, the less important the physical proximity is. Having worked from home for many years with teams spread all over the country, I have picked up energy from managers and teammates regardless of location.
Neighbors and strangers will influence us based on physical proximity. This is true for the people living in our neighborhood and the strangers we brush up against in the shopping mall.
Welcome to the EC. Keep asking questions.
Welcome to the EC. Yes there is a great deal of knowledge that has been shared here.
A timely request for a book recommendation. I have been a member here for nearly four years so I hope the moderators will forgive me sharing my first book "Thriving As An Empath: Empowering Your Highly Sensitive Self" co-authored with a friend. We published just in the last couple of weeks. More information at http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/group/thetootyourownhorngroup/forum/topics/thriving-as-an-empath-the-book
Keep asking questions here. You are among friends and there are many helpers in the community!
My co-author, Abbigayle McKinney, and I are thrilled to announce the publication of "Thriving As An Empath: Empowering Your Highly Sensitive Self" (see https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01I47VTK0). It is the culmination of having realized 4 years ago that I have been a life-long empath. This community was one of the first places I reached out to in 2012 and since then I have been putting in many hours of research and discovery. Now is our chance to share back for newbies just starting out.
It is a combination of stories, exercises, and reference material - everything that my co-author and I wished we knew about when we were first starting out as empaths. Chapters include What Is an Empath?, Shielding, Grounding, Releasing, Forgiveness, Intuitive Tools, Self-care, Meditation, Crystals, Parenting an Empath Child, and many more. It is available in paperback and ebook on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01I47VTK0
We would love to hear what you think.
There are many lists of empath traits. My go-to favorites are:
And if the answer is "I am still not sure" then just know that many of us here started out uncertain if we were empaths or not. Once you start asking yourself "Am I an empath?" the answer will increasingly be a clearer and clearer "Yes!"
You and I have around the block on this one before. I believe people at certain levels can benefit from your perspective but that there are many others, at other levels of consciousness, who absolutely benefit from "coping mechanisms" and that it does not serve them to tell them they are wrong.
I also wish to point out the quote "our deepest fear" does not come from Mandela (a false internet legend) but from Marianne Williamson. Have a look at various sources on this at https://www.google.com/search?q=Our+deepest+fear+is+not+that+we+are+inadequate.Our+deepest+fear+is+that+we+are+powerful+beyond+measure.+mandela+williamson&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8
Blessings ... and love,
Not unusual! Our abilities come from our bloodline more often than not. The only question becomes one of whether we can recognize that in our family. When we and our relatives are well-balanced it is easier to see. Sometimes, the empath trait shows up as emotional imbalance, aka mental health problems.
Secondly, as empaths we attract (and are attracted to) people who are in energetic need of our abilities. There are articles on the Web about empaths and narcissists (although that is a clinical term that I prefer to avoid - let's just say "toxic people"). Given that we attract "fixer-uppers", it's easy to see that our parents often reflect the same patter - one a strong empath, one tending towards toxic.
And, yes, true for my own parents!
The challenge here is distinguishing between the emotions that are truly yours and the emotions that you are picking up from the people (especially the one particular person) you are focusing on.
The biggest challenge that we have as empaths is taking on others' emotions and then thinking that those emotions are our own.
"You begun to hurt because ..." they are hurting themselves!
Does this help?
Thriving as an Empath - The Light Projector Exercise:
My family understands! I wrote something up last year to explain to the mainstream world a little of my experiences as an empath. See
I agree with Moonchild. Sounds to me like you are sending your own energy rather than that of the Divine. Have a look at Thriving As An Empath as a healing technique that keeps you protected and energized while healing the other person.
I am a native born Englishman who became a US dual citizen 25 years ago. I now live in Asheville, NC (a small dot of bright "blue" in a sea of dark "red" which if you have been following the political news of NC you'll understand how hard THAT is!).
Let me put it this way, this country (and the world) needs all the light workers it can get right now.
Some chose to be born here, others were called to come here to America.
Although, bottom line, you have to do what is right for you - it may be your calling is in another place, and maybe not.
Blessings for your choice!
If someone is determined not to accept, there is NOTHING you can do to change their mind.
If they are skeptical (which I think is better than cynical?), then all you can really do is keep chipping away.
If it helps, I wrote up my own story as a way of explaining my experiences to non-empaths. See http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/profiles/blogs/we-are-all-connected-how-i-came-to-recognize-myself-as-an-empath
Good luck ... and best you can, be patient. With the rate consciousness is rising these days who know how quickly we might find ourselves as the new normal!
"can the soul (presumably while its new body sleeps) still visit soul family from another life?" yes, we can.
"Our soul is part of us" no! ... we are a soul. Our physical body and our ego mind are the add-on parts that allow us, as spiritual beings, to have the human experience!
Oh boy! Yes, you are an empath ... no doubts!
It is a common empath trait that we get to process the emotions that the people around us in denial about. In your case that is your boyfriend's lack of passion and lack of motivation. In others, it could unexpressed anger or sadness or any one of the whole gamut of emotions. They stuff it ... we feel it!
While I am here, I am moved to share a saying I learned way back in my teens (many years ago) about how most women think that she can change her man, most men think his woman is going to stay the same. More often than not they are both wrong.
If I am stepping into territory with that where I wasn't invited, my apologies.
yeah, we tend to be a transient community. Some stick around for years, others seem to flit in and out quite quickly. Some are frequent contributors and others are primarily in read-only mode.
As best as you can, don't take it personally. Keep hanging out, contribute and see who shows up. Sometimes we have to let people out of our lives to make room for others to show up.
Glad you're here!
Yes, you are an empath - you have all the signs. Most of us started out here doubting ourselves - are we or aren't we. You are right on track. I'll post some reading material over on your home page in a few minutes.
You are in the right place. Welcome home!
Good points Lotusfly.
Here are my own working definitions of Empath and HSP:
I do agree that there are probably large numbers of empaths out there who don't realize they are empaths. The difference is that, when we truly know we are empaths, we stop trying to fix the emotions going through our body under the false assumption that they are our own. That in itself makes a huge difference.
I just re-watched Simon Sinek's TED talk "How Great Leaders Inspire Action" which I recommend for every leader would-be leader regardless of your field.
In this video he talks about "Something called the law of diffusion of innovation, if you don't know the law, you know the terminology. The first 2.5% of our population are our innovators. The next 13.5% of our population are our early adopters. The next 34% are your early majority, your late majority and your laggards. The only reason these people buy touch-tone phones is because you can't buy rotary phones anymore. (Laughter). We all sit at various places at various times on this scale, but what the law of diffusion of innovation tells us is that if you want mass-market success or mass-market acceptance of an idea, you cannot have it until you achieve this tipping point between 15 and 18 percent market penetration, and then the system tips."
It got me wondering about how many empaths are out there. I've seen suggestions at 5-10% of the population. Then again, we know that consciousness is rising rapidly, if not exponentially, right now. Empath self-awareness is growing fast. What sort of a world will we be living in when we make up 15-18% of the world's population?
Lotusfly has revived a discussion from last year here. But she reminded me to share an incident that I had last week with woodpeckers and turkeys. Have at look at my blog, http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/profiles/blogs/let-s-talk-tu....
Well I am sure you must be responding, at least in part, to my blog about gridding so the least I can do is dive in here. And my apologies for bringing up any unwanted feelings if that is the case.
First let me answer about where I am coming from. I avoid using terms like evil and even negative energy. When we use this type of terminology we keep fear going in the world and there is always the risk of feeding it. The challenge is like how do we encourage people to wear seat-belts without scaring them half-to-death with why they should wear them. There are really good reasons for wearing seat belts. I am not sure that it is necessary to show most people graphic videos so that they get the point.
Secondly for you. Without permission to go in specifically for you, let me answer in generalities. If I can talk about past lives, I certainly believe that many of us carry debris left over from previous incarnations. Many of us were persecuted, tortured and killed in past lives for doing work that we could call "light work". Many potential light workers, in my opinion, have a subconscious memory along the lines of "tried that last lifetime and look what happened. Not going back there again, thank you!". And as I am writing this I keep wondering about what work you have done in past lifetimes in terms of "dark and dense energies" (working against them not for them!). Hypothetically in the reincarnation model, if you worked against these energies in past lives, and fared poorly in your physical body for doing so, it could certainly leave you with strong emotions about acknowledging them in this life time.
Hope this provides some value for you.
Great question Cat. You got me on a writing spree in response.
I think there are many factors influencing how we pick up energy from other people:
Some people transmit their energy more strongly than others and the depth of the emotions that they are experiencing will also turn up the volume that they are sending out.
Our sensitivity as receivers will factor into how much energy we pick up.
The unaware person may be just as sensitive as the aware person. The latter will understand why they are having mood swings the former will not.
Blood relatives will influence us regardless of where in the world we are and whether we are thinking about them or not.
Friends and acquaintances will influence us primarily based on the strength of the emotional connection we have to them largely without regard to physical proximity. The stronger the emotional connection is, the less influence physical proximity has. Having worked from home for many years with teams spread all over the country I have certainly picked up energy from managers and teammates regardless of location.
Neighbors and strangers will influence us based physical proximity. This is true for people living in our neighborhood who we have never met and the strangers that we brush up against in the shopping mall.
I'll leave it to you to determine how much of a different moving across country could make to the amount of energy you are currently dealing with. Being out of sight, may help with you being out of their mind!
Does this help? More clarification required?
It irks me that so many people are writing about empaths and don't know what they are writing about (or feel that they have to invent their own terminology) ... but consciousness is changing faster than human language can keep pace!
The sooner we can communicate telepathically (once more!) the sooner we can move beyond this antiquated notion of using words to convey meaning, LOL!
I am not sure what is meant by "spectacular profiler".
The definition I use of an empath is "Someone who takes on the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of other people as if they were their own. This ability may exist regardless of physical proximity, range of the five physical senses, or intellectual knowledge of the activities of the other person."
If "spectacular profiler" means someone who takes a limited amount of sensory input through the regular five senses and extrapolates the rest of the information in a "spectacular" way, then no, absolutely not. I regularly find myself process someone else's energy where I have got NO connection with them through the mainstream five senses. I know many other empaths who operate similarly.
Blood connection is always strong for us. These abilities definitely get passed down the blood line (whether they are manifested in a particular generation or not). You obviously know a lot about her if you know she has similar abilities so combine that connection with the blood connection and, sure, you could easily be picking up her stuff.
The headline is "I was given a young man's heart - and started craving beer and Kentucky Fried Chicken. My daughter said I even walked like a man"
I don't agree with that trait about empaths crying.
There are lots of lists about traits of an empath. I have whittled them down to:
Sending you a friend request !
It took many of us decades to find this community and to understand what being an empath really meant. I didn't fully get it until 2012 when I turned 56!
You are starting much younger. That may mean a steeper learning curve but your generation are starting from a place that many of us old fogies only dreamed about.
Good luck with all the reading. Keep asking questions!
For sure you are an empath! You have all the classic signs and most of us here have have come here with the same doubts you have.
One of our members, Bing, has a wealth of information (which he will almost certainly post to your page in the next day or two) and I'll add my usual "welcome package" over there too.
You are in the right place! Welcome to the EC.
Sounds like you should be teaching others to heal!
You are obviously a natural! ... with a great deal of understanding!
No arguments from me about healing another person without their consent. I normally would for most people under other circumstances but you are a nurse working in a hospital. You are there to help people to heal! And if you are willing to "ask" if it appropriate for each patient, then great!
So my question is about feeling drained. Are you connecting up (to Source, God, the Divine, Universal energy) and connecting down (into the Earth) before during and after you heal other people?
If not, then this is probably why you are feeling so drained. You are using your own energy not Universal energy.
If you are connecting up and down and still feeling drained, Hmmmmm. We'll talk more.
Welcome here to the EC!
This question seems to come up in one form or another every few weeks here (apologies to repeat readers). You are in the right place! You are not crazy! You are no longer alone, you are now part of a community that has been where you are!
Some material for you to get you going...
For some people being an empath feels like a liability now but it is a gift, an honor and a privilege to have this ability. Enjoy reading the articles.
Hi Eva: a long post but for me a couple of sentences stand out...
We are meant to group together in our communities and start helping our communities because only together can we actually be powerful.
Alone we can heal a few, together our limitations are boundless
I totally agree!
I have been saying this quietly for a couple of years now. The Guides started emphasizing this at the end of last year and I am starting to share this more openly here in Asheville. For the many empaths here who are isolated in small towns, know that even being part of this community is an important step.
Eva, thank you for adding your voice!