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Whity84
@whity84
09/01/16 10:53:00AM
5 posts



Hey Sammi,

It sounds like you could be ending up with narcissistic people that are onlyout for themselves and we attract them sadly. Ihave only had short term relationships my whole life and lately have been looking back over the relationships, im pretty certain themajority were narcissists and I look back so I can figure out how to notend up withanother one again.I also tell myself that even if I feel that I cant find anyone that feels right that I wont just give up because im using being an empath as a reason/excuse not to keep trying. I find dating so hard but after the narc I was with this year that made me realise im an empath Iv learnt its me attracting them and also learnt as much about them as I can to try and spot as many as I can in preparation for more. I have always looked for a "feeling" I felt it before and I seem to feel that with narcs but im hoping that feeling im looking for will one day be in a healthy fore filled woman that I can make alife with. I know its hard attimes but we have a gift, its just learning more about ourselvesand others andthen find ways to keep in control of this gift. Im glad to have it and it made my life all of a sudden make sense when I found out but it can be tricky for sure. Just know you are worthy and are an amazing and unique human being like we all are, stay positive and always have an onwards and upwards mentality even when times are tough and you will get there in the end.

Good luck to us all :)

Whity84
@whity84
08/21/16 12:27:38PM
5 posts

The future.


Empath

Hi Liz,

Love this post as I to can foresee whats going to happen and basically work out weather something is worth doing or not. I mostly use this or have maybe only use it for relationships and people I know or have met. I think this has a detrimental effect on my dating life as I can usually see that it wouldn't work and therefore never give it a chance, im not sure how it would be possible to control the future but predicting it yes. Maybe you could sense those people were not happy and was thinking about quiting? Plus if they didn't like their job then they maybe awkward to be around and have a bad attitude towards people hence you not liking them at your job?

Whity84
@whity84
08/20/16 03:55:26AM
5 posts

Hi from the UK!


Empath

Yes the relationship bit is also a battle I feel and when I meet a woman I either know straight away I don't feel anything or like them that it will go anywhere but then I think am I just not giving it a chance? Could I be wrong? etc... I even hate the idea of going on a date as they seem to so draining to me. Then that just leaves me ending up with narcissists which we all know is a bad situation to be be in but at least im aware of them now and how the attraction works to keep an eye out for the toxic signs. I really want to find someone to be with but I even notice I never sleep when there is some next to me in bed etc which I had read is an issue for Empaths. The work is certainly cut out for us with finding the right person but I have no intention of giving up as I believe we are all here to find that special someone.

Whity84
@whity84
08/20/16 03:45:05AM
5 posts

Where are we all from?


Empath

Im from near Middlesbrough in North East England :)

Whity84
@whity84
08/17/16 12:28:21PM
5 posts

Hi from the UK!


Empath

Hi all,

Im new so thought id say a hello to everyone and introduce myself. Im Paul, 32 years oldand I live in the North East of England (UK) and onlya couple of weeks ago discovered im an Empath. All of a sudden memories from as long ago as being a small child started flooding through my head which suddenly all made sense. I always knew I was different but I just couldn't pin point why and assumed everyone was like this and just dealt with the world better than I did. I was never great at meeting people in the dating/relationship world and when I was 26 had a rebound relationship. I felt such a strong connection to her but in hindsight I guess the feeling was from the hurting she was feeling inside. Anyway it didn't work out and it destroyed me and I suffered from depression for a few years, again in hindsight I may have taken that on from her. Ever since I now noticed iv just had short relationships with narcissists the most recent being in Feb this year which I took very slow and I think dodged a bullet when she went off with another guy I guess someone more of a push over and with more money/status etc. Anyway, after that I couldn't get my head how I felt (which at the time I didn't understand but had learnt to trust) that she felt in her heart feeling for me and yet went cold and disappeared.To understand this and search for answersI searched psychology articles and information looking a ego which eventually lead me to narcissist and discovering she was well and truly one of them. In these articles I kept coming across the term "Empath" which eventually I looked up and BINGO my life finally made sense. Im happy I have this gift and found out I have it as I can now understand and start to learn how best I can use it, although I already know myself rather well and understand what my general strengths are.

This created a questions to me, how long did it take everyone to finally come to the knowledge they are an Empath??

And also im clearly not great at relationship which I now know is because of the Narcs I always attract, the question is, do you ever meet others which are not narcs that give that same strong feeling of a connection. Its such a great feeling but if its just due to their internal hurt and my internal wanting to "fix" them then I need to stop looking for that feeling and try a new technique to find someone meaningful in my life?


updated by @whity84: 01/10/17 07:08:12PM