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Nyla
@nyla
01/30/17 04:06:09PM
22 posts

Signs You are living With a Narcissist or Psychopath


Library of Light

Hi Bing~  When I joined here several months ago this was what I was looking for.  I have since joined other groups that have helped me more than words can ever describe.  I knew all about being an Empath.  I AM one.  Its like describing myself.  I didn't really need help describing myself.  What I needed to know was what in the "heck" I was picking up and what really is this with my significant other?

I have since been thoroughly educated in what "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" is.  Its a cluster B personality disorder.  Its different than being vain and self absorbed.  Its insidious.  Its evil.  At the advanced end are the sociopath and the psychopaths.  And they ALL go after Empaths.

Someone asked me today how long it was until I realized my H had NPD.  Twenty five years.  I don't know how I did it but I give myself credit for making it this long.

The Empath community needs more education on this.  It is horrific what we endure as a group.  We don't even know.  We can not label it.  No one tells us about it.  We need to be informed and educated.

I have no idea why I clicked on here this evening.  But since I know there are no such thing as co-incidences I am sure it was to see your post.  As a group...and worldwide,  a light needs to be held on this psychological abuse.  That is what it is.  Abuse.  Abuse to Empaths.

S.

Nyla
@nyla
09/22/16 07:59:24PM
22 posts

Please give me guidance....


Empath

Karen2... You are an awful human being.  I am so tired right now...that I would rather sleep with bed bugs than deal with you.  Be sure that I will report you tomorrow.  I do know this...Karma always bites hard.  Enjoy my friend.

Nyla
@nyla
09/22/16 07:54:19PM
22 posts

Please give me guidance....


Empath

@Rene...you get it.  Thank you so much for your reply.  It is just before 11:00 PM my time and I am afraid to go to sleep...even though everything is supposedly good.  I guess I'll just wait and see.  As an aside..the doctor told me, which I already knew...it takes one to two days for the bite marks to show up.  I knew this from the last time in December, just in case someone reads this thread later.

Nyla
@nyla
09/22/16 01:46:21PM
22 posts

Please give me guidance....


Empath

I have a condo at Myrtle Beach that I rent out.  I am here now.  It was supposed to be a two week "vacation."  Well, it turns out that we have bedbugs.  Ick.  We went through this last December and it cost thousands of dollars.  They heat the place to 140 degrees for eight hours.  This time its free (yeah) since its  been less than one year since they were here.

Well...yesterday I had to go to emergency care.  It turns out that since I have a bee allergy (anaphalctic shock) I am also allergic to any other kind of bug that bites me.  I didn't know. I have nickel sized red welts all over my legs.  I felt ill. I was given a shot , pills and antibiotics since one bite was infected. 

Here is the thing....I am back. (Thankfully the rental agency put us up somewhere else while they fixed the problem) Even bought a whole new bed.  But I am freaking out.  Am I picking up that the bed bugs are still here?  Or am I just upset over what I went through?  How am I going to sleep tonight?

Please send good energy...Thanks.


updated by @nyla: 02/08/17 12:53:53PM
Nyla
@nyla
09/01/16 07:44:09AM
22 posts



I agree that its a great idea. I was sad when I got the email but I think if we all pitch in somehow we can keep it going either here or somewhere else.

Nyla
@nyla
08/19/16 01:09:45PM
22 posts

is this real


Empath

I read many years ago that you get three "outs" from this life. One near the beginning, one during the middle. and then one at the end when its really time to go. Your "true" self gets to decide. (Your soul, higher-self, who you truly are) Your higher self decided to stay so you are here until the end. I know it sounds scary. But please quit the suicide attempts because they will just make you more miserable. These choices happened to me. I should have died as a child, and then later as a young adult my car started going over a cliff. Miraculously I made it. They weren't suicide attempts but I was aware how very close to death I was. I get a little scared sometimes thinking about living until I'm elderly. My life isn't all peaches and cream. But I try. That's all you need to do right now...try to hang in there. It will get better.

I know it becomes overwhelming at times and maybe its too hard to meditate and find peace. At these times try the very basic grounding techniques. Go outside in your bare feet. Get some sun. Eat something. Wash your hands and wrists. Take a bath. Later when you feel better get serious about the shielding and other helpful information on this site.

Nyla
@nyla
08/17/16 08:57:54AM
22 posts

Have you experienced The Dark Night of the Soul


Empath

Yes. I have experienced "The Dark Night of the Soul." It was difficult and like someone else said, kind of like a fog was around me that I couldn't penetrate. Wondering to myself. What IS this? It was different for me than a normal depression. It was awful.

I find it so interesting and comforting to find that so many of us on this site go through the same things and are willing to talk about it. For so many years I just thought I was walking this strange walk through life that no one else understood.

Thank you Rene' for the link and to everyone else who posted links. They were all really good :)

Nyla
@nyla
07/29/16 11:04:00AM
22 posts

Where are we all from?


Empath

Pennsylvania. USA

Nyla
@nyla
07/29/16 10:55:24AM
22 posts

Anyone else deal with social isolation?


Empath

Yes. I had to remove people from my life because I could not take the negativity. It was unhealthy. I enjoy my alone time, but am thinking that I need to make more friends and do more. I used to do a lot of volunteer work as well. Maybe I will do more of that. But I wish there was some way of steering clear of negative people from the get-go instead of finding out later and having to deal with it.

Nyla
@nyla
07/19/16 03:50:05PM
22 posts

ignored


Empath

I've read what the others have said and I think they covered it. You need to get out. It is so sad and just wrong that you are going through this. But...it will make you strong. My mother was mentally ill. It is one of the reasons that I am an empath. So look at the positive. Don't look at it as a hit against you, bringing you down. Look at it as bringing you UP. You are learning how to defend yourself against these emotions of his. He is manipulative. You are smart. Turn your own empathy dial up Turn his down, and get in touch with your own feelings. Forget his. Take care of yourself.

Nyla
@nyla
07/16/16 10:00:16AM
22 posts

ignored


Empath

I agree with the others here. The person you live with is a Narcissist. Look up "Narcissistic Personality Disorder." One of the things they do is called "gas-lighting." Its what your room-mate is doing when he tells you that you didn't say something when you really did. Its crazy-making.

When people "walk away" while you are talking they are trying to demean you, trying to make you feel "less than." They are trying to boost themselves up by putting you down.

Nyla
@nyla
07/16/16 09:43:23AM
22 posts

What do sociopaths feel like to you?


Empath

It sounds to me that you are subconsciously shielding yourself when you are around your friend so that you don't feel her "stuff." You know that she is manipulative, which is not good, so you are protecting yourself by shielding.

My mother was/is a sociopath. My empath abilities began with her when I was a child just to stay alive. I have met others as well. The feeling I get as an empath when being around one is of hyper-vigilance. It is very exhausting.

Nyla
@nyla
07/11/16 10:32:32AM
22 posts

Books for empaths


Empath

I just downloaded Trevor's book on Amazon. I noticed that there are some other free and 99 cent books about Empaths right now.

Nyla
@nyla
07/11/16 10:29:20AM
22 posts

Books for empaths


Empath

I just downloaded your book to my ipad. It was free with "Kindle Unlimited." (Sorry! I'll write you a review after I read it) I can't wait to get started :)

Nyla
@nyla
07/09/16 07:28:28AM
22 posts

Anybody had a pet reincarnated? Sorry if this is duplicated....


Animal Empaths

Yes. I have. I just posted a story about it here. My dog came back to me.

Nyla
@nyla
07/09/16 07:26:30AM
22 posts

My dog came back to me...


Animal Empaths

This past November I lost one of my beloved dogs, Teddy. He died of cancer. On one of the last couple of days before he died, while resting on my bed, he "told" me that he was going to come back to me. (I am an empath) He was going to reincarnate. I was shocked. It was like in the movies where the car screeches to an abrupt stop. My head was spinning. First of all, I can barely stand the thought of human reincarnation. I find life to be a challenge and would be perfectly happy living on the other side permanently. But animals? I thought they went to the other side or to the Rainbow Bridge and waited for us. To me, that sounds like heaven; having all of our wonderful companions back. I literally spoke him to out loud. I told him, "Nooooo! You were such a wonderful dog. Go to heaven and enjoy your rewards! Don't come back here. Life is much too hard!" He insisted he was coming back. Me? I felt like a crazy person. Dog reincarnation? It must be the stress of taking care of a dying dog. How could that be a "thing?!"

He lived less than two days after he told me of this. I could "hear" what he wanted. He wanted to look similar. Same breed. He was going to be small. He liked being small. (Because I did?) He was going to retain his extreme intelligence but even have some other wonderful qualities that I would love. (How could he be even better?!) His life flashed before my eyes. He had a really good life. We learned a lot from each other and he was a great family pet.

The day he died was of course one of the worst days of my life. But I had a seed of hope. Maybe this dog reincarnation thing was true. I googled it and a couple of books popped up. I read them cover to cover. I was beginning to be a believer, reluctantly.

I began my journey. I was mourning but also kind of intrigued. It couldn't hurt, so I began my search. I thought about what he wanted so I started researching breeders. I found one that I thought was good. One of the presidents had used this breeder. But apparently that wasn't the one. I was lead to a different breeder entirely, who was located in the state he loved. He loved going to the beach there. This breeder had an exceptional litter coming up. Westminster winner on the mom's side and two time Eukanuba winner on the dad's side. This was a bit much for me. My little guy was from a few towns over born in someone's kitchen. Sweet as can be. I wasn't going to breed him so I wasn't sure about the need to have champion blood lines. And how much was this going to cost me?!

The wait was hard. But while I waited I did become certain that my dog was coming back to me. I re-read the part in one of the pet reincarnation books where someone asked if it's possible that you could miss your pet. (get the wrong one) And the author says, "NO. Nope, no way, no can do, huh uh. Not! Absolutely not! And NO!" That reassured me. The fact that the breeder sold him to me for a very reasonable price was also a sign. She feels that her puppies should go to everyone, not just "rich people."

I had the new puppy flown in at the end of March. My husband and I picked him up at the airport's cargo area. When we got him he was very excited to see us. It was like he already knew us. He smothered us with kisses and enjoyed the car ride home. When he got home, he was very happy to see our other dog. They get along great. The first day the other dog did put his paw on the new three pound puppy for several seconds while looking at me with questioning eyes. He took Teddy's death extremely hard. I'm not sure if he knew it was Teddy or if he was wondering why he was so small...? Not sure.

But here is what I am sure about. The first day when I fed the new puppy, he finished up then headed to his house-mate's bowl, took one swift lick then headed to the door to go out...which was Teddy's routine at every meal. I almost passed out! He looks like Teddy but is has his own unique body. The eyes are a little different, but very beautiful. When I look in his eyes I see the same soul. He has every great quality that Teddy had but added some more wonderful traits. He is the most intelligent dog I have ever had. (And Teddy knew over 100 English words!) That must have been the reason for the champion blood lines. He has been house-trained for a couple of weeks now (except for some marking at the pet store) which is basically un-heard of in a little male dog. He is five months old.

He wanted to be the alpha dog, which he wasn't before. He is taking that over quite nicely. Strangely, the new puppy even has some of the annoying traits that Teddy had: Barking while I prepare his food, taking a flying leap up my body to get to my neck, changing positions on the bed several times a night, drinking tons of water, (getting it everywhere!) But the good out-weighs the bad. He's home. It floors me. He is so much like Teddy that everyone messes up and CALLS him Teddy. Its funny because he answers to both his new name and his old one. I wish I could tell people..."Its okay. It really IS Teddy!" They would think I was insane.

If you got this far...thanks for reading. I wanted to let all of know that it really is possible for your pet to come back to you. Set your intentions. Put it out there into the universe and see what happens.


updated by @nyla: 02/22/17 07:30:39PM
Nyla
@nyla
07/06/16 05:06:17PM
22 posts

how were/are you with the pets in your life?


Empath

I have a very deep connection with my pets as well. As a child I remember a family friend's cat was downright nasty. Stand-offish and a scratcher/biter. Everyone was afraid of her. Snowball. Its funny the things your remember. Anyhow, she would come up and sit in my lap every time. Everyone was astonished. I was too afraid of her to push her off. And so it began...my empathic relationship with animals.

Sometimes when I am going through these posts (I'm new) I wonder if I missed somewhere in the terms of service/rules and regulations here that you have to be a cat lover. There are so many "cat people" names and avatars that I get confused at times. Pot calling the kettle black though, since my "name" here is really my cat Nyla's.

Nyla
@nyla
07/05/16 12:22:50PM
22 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

I was on anti-depressants years ago. They all eventually stopped working. I am not on anything now but I am very careful not to let myself fall into a depression. I try to de-stress, exercise, and get enough sleep. Something I learned recently that might be of help, is that I have learned to tell the difference between MY depression or anxiety and someone else's. For example, I would wake up in the middle of the night with the feeling of a broken heart...the kind you get after a break up. I couldn't figure it out. Nothing was going on my life to make me feel that way. Now when I am picking up someone else's "stuff" I know it. I do all the things described in this forum; shielding, etc. And as empaths we are given the gift of "knowing." I use that one to my advantage. I tune into MY feelings and now am able to discern which feelings are mine and which feelings are coming from someone else.

Nyla
@nyla
07/01/16 09:59:57AM
22 posts

I need your help


Empath

I will send positive energy your way right now. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Life can be so difficult at times. But you will get through it. Stay strong and remember that you are never ever really alone.

Nyla
@nyla
06/30/16 12:37:38PM
22 posts

Beyond confused


Empath

I feel that you are going to be fine. The spirit enters the baby's body at different times. Even when it does enter the body it is fee to come and go (to and from here and the other side) up until the birth. Possibly during your earlier pregnancies the spirit entered at the very beginning and stayed put. Eventually you will feel him/her. It may just take a little time. Take care of yourself and have a happy pregnancy!

Nyla
@nyla
06/30/16 12:26:40PM
22 posts

sensitivities(touch, hearing, smell, etc)


Empath

Its interesting that others have the same sensitivities. I have all that you mention. I am sensitive to sound, smells, touch, tastes, and I have to wear sunglasses all year long, even in the winter or my eyes will tear up to the point it hurts. I hate getting my picture taken. I never really thought about this being related to being an empath, though. Hopefully someone here will be able to explain it to us. Or maybe its as simple as the fact that we are not only sensitive to emotion and energy but absolutely everything we encounter.

Nyla
@nyla
06/29/16 09:04:27AM
22 posts

The Meaning of Names


Empath

I had so much fun on this name- site. Thanks for posting the link. The accuracy was downright scary. I think when we come into this world we have already chosen/been told what our name will be. So for example a baby that is adopted gets a name by his biological mother only to have it changed when he/she is adopted. The adopted name is what the child lives with so that is probably his "real" name. I wonder though about people who change their names. Celebrities for example. Does their personality change when they change their name? Or is their new name their "real" name?