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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/07/17 04:20:54PM
579 posts

Trying To Interpret Feelings At A Funeral


Empath

@hermes:

Thanks for your feedback. After some thought I now wonder if maybe some of the attendees at the funeral were feeling anxious dealing with the topic of death and their own mortality? I wonder if being at the funeral made them think uncomfortably of when they might die and that's what I picked up on? Or maybe you are right and it was feelings from the deceased in the area I picked up on.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/07/17 03:19:38PM
579 posts

Trying To Interpret Feelings At A Funeral


Empath

I was at a family funeral this week and had some interesting feelings that I wanted to share and reach out for comment. We were celebrating the life of my 98 year old grandmother who just passed. Due to her age and declining health, it was not a tragic event. We all saw this coming. In fact some of us were relieved for her that she died as she was pretty far gone mentally and is now in a far better place. But there was still some sadness and tears from her immediate children. 

We had the burial service out at her burial plot. And we all had the unavoidable situation of standing on the graves of others while at her service. She had bought her plot some time ago and there had been a lot of burials since that filled up the immediate area. I have to tell you, I do not at all like standing on the graves of others. It gives me the creeps. But at the start of the burial service I was hit with some pretty intense anxiety. My chest was super tight, my face was flushed. I was having trouble breathing. And I was pretty worried that I was going to have the embarrassment of a full blown anxiety attack. Luckily, the priest projected some levity and positive energy to all of us. And some funny stories in remembrance of her were told. That brightened the mood and my anxiety passed. 

Several years ago I was at a very sad funeral of an 8 year old boy that died. And the immense sadness that I picked up at that funeral was unbearable. He had died tragically and I have never since felt so sad and so low in a group setting like that. But I didn't have any anxiety, just deep sadness. At the funeral of my grandmother I just felt an intense anxiety. I wanted to throw these questions out to all of you as I'm starting to wonder if my empath radar needs to be tuned? Do any of you ever pick up on sadness in a group setting that comes through as anxiety? I'm also wondering if maybe I was picking up on some energy from the dead in the area that caused my anxiety? In any event, thanks for helping me figure out what happened.


updated by @hop-daddy: 10/10/17 07:42:00AM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/07/17 02:47:03PM
579 posts

Sickness and shutting down


Empath

@vwsmiles:

It appears to be very common for empaths to shut down and go numb when overloaded with emotion. I tend to have a very close emotional connection to my immediate family so when there is sadness or drama I seem to get slammed with emotions and then go numb or shut down. And as you said, it is your defense mechanism. That's very true for all humans when overloaded with emotional trauma.

You should be able to get out of that emotional shut down by meditating and grounding immediately when you are presented with that situation.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/07/17 02:38:48PM
579 posts

7 Signs You Are A Highly Intuitive Empath


Library of Light

@bing:

Very informative post. Thanks for sharing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/02/17 11:31:53AM
579 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@cheshire-cat:

I am sorry for your health state. You have a lot of things you have to be careful about taking. I hope things improve for your health.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/02/17 11:28:59AM
579 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

@tundra2:

I've spent a lot of years of feeling and observing that helps me justify cutting off narcs. Here's the thing, unless you can help a narc without allowing them to harm or disrupt your positive energy, then it isn't worth your time. It doesn't serve you. In fact, an argument could be made that a narc using you will get in the way of you helping others that really do need your help. For those who have been in close relationships with narcs you basically get sucked into an intense one-sided relationship where the narc cuts you off from others in your life. That’s the type of relationship you really want to avoid.

I also can't remember the last time I saw a narc really need my help or advice. They do come to me sometimes to vent and test the waters to see if I will “let them in spiritually”. But they generally don't take my advice. I can see it in their eyes as they have ulterior motives. And the comical thing is that most narcs that do come to me to talk about a supposed problem spend most of the conversation bragging about themselves. In my mind I’m always thinking “are you really needing advice or are you trying to convince me that you are the greatest person in town and everyone should just worship you?” That’s why at this point in my life I see narcs for who they are and avoid them. A lot of people call selfish narc type individuals energy vampires. They feel good and content by taking energy from everyone else. And they do this through their own selfish controlling means. I think eventually all us empaths learn to cut ourselves off from people like this. It simply isn't in your best interest and can be very damaging to you. I understand that it may be difficult to say good-bye to a close friend who is a narc. But I think eventually you will be faced with that decision.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/01/17 05:56:06PM
579 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

@tundra2:

I hear you. There is a lot of selfishness in the world these days. Our current social media environment is really bringing out the worst in people IMO. But I tend to find that heavy gossipers are usually selfish narcs. They love spreading bad news about everyone as it makes them feel better about themselves. It sounds like you may be dealing with that.

You as an empath are a natural giver. You are probably always there for your friends and would give the shirt off your back to help them. Also as an empath you likely pick up on selfishness and detest it. That's why your friend’s behaviors are getting under your skin (it bothers you more than it does others).

Life is like the old saying that givers give, and takers take. The selfish (particularly narcs) are going to take, take, take in life. And when they are done taking everything out of you that they need, they will move on. You are already seeing that in your dynamics where your friend is ignoring your advice and moving on seeking others advice. Your friend already got good advice from you. But it's not the advice from others she is really seeking. She wants the attention and energy she gains by seeking out others advice and approval. In other words, she used you and moved on to get seek out more attention and feedback. It’s highly annoying and hurtful and is textbook narcissist behavior.

At some point those types of friends will either completely move on from you or you will do it yourself and cut them off. One of the best lessons I learned from another empath was to not let people use me and to be careful who I let into my life. And while implementing that advice I have cut narcs and really self-centered people out of my life. There is a lot less drama and much more happiness this way.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/01/17 05:34:44PM
579 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

Have you tried Rhodiola? Also, this product looks similar to Deproloft without the 5-HTP: Thorne Research - Stress B-Complex

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/01/17 05:27:27PM
579 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

@tigerlily:

In our busy society adrenal fatigue is a growing problem. But I think it's double or triple for empaths. Exercise by doing something you like to do is a great way to keep healthy. And I also forgot to mention that my wife had some sudden unexplained weight gain. She was even on a low cal diet and was still gaining weight by the day. She found out the culprit was a thyroid issue. She was put on some meds and the weight came right off. I don't know if that relates to you but I thought I'd throw it out there since a lot of people have thyroid issues.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/01/17 12:44:15PM
579 posts

Heard My Name Being Called, No One Was Around


Psychic and Paranormal

@sensi-sante:

Interesting. One of my goals this year to find a better way to separate ghost interactions from ghost interactions. I usually can't tell which is which. But for me when something paranormal happens I usually get a strong feeling that the atmosphere in the room has changed. It's hard to explain but everything feels and seems different eventhough I can't pinpoint what it is. I also usually will have either my left or ear ring pretty strongly.

I read once that ghosts often carry emotions that they took to the grave (unhappiness, regret etc...). And when they interact with us empaths we can often feel that emotion. Whereas with angels, there is usually a calming feeling that they project on you.

It sounds like since you were calm that you most likely had an angel encounter. And I think the fact that it came as a voice in your head that no one else in the room heard is another tip off. And it would seem that by being woken up that you avoided getting in trouble with your manager. There is probably an important connection there.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
06/01/17 12:32:56PM
579 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

@tigerlily:

I see that @womanwhowalks gave you a really good response on adrenal issues that can cause weight gain. Many years ago when I was younger I went through some tough times and didn't eat much and I lost a bunch of weight from stress. But now that I am aware that I'm an empath, that doesn't really happen. I bloat out from my belly during times of stress and during times when I'm taking in a lot as an empath. But a side effect of being an empath is adrenal fatigue. Carrying around all that we do wears out our systems and you can have all sorts of imbalance. Cortisol is know as the stress hormone and it is a big one that gets messed up and causes weight gain. A good way t counter this is grounding meditation. And I take quite a few natural adaptogen supplements daily that help me keep my adrenals from getting out of whack. 

And to answer your question, having stomach issues and/or bloat is a very common empath trait. I think part of it is that we get a nervous stomach from what we take in. And then the solar plexus chakra below the heart at the top of the stomach is where a lot of empaths take everything in from the world. I know this is true with me and I run into a lot of empaths who will complain about a sore stomach or lower chest pressure after a tough day.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 04:31:38PM
579 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@cheshire-cat:

As an added plug for Deproloft, my teenage son recently went through a couple months of worsening depression and anxiety. He is also an empath. We were going to take him to a doctor but I am not a fan of anti-depressants (especially for empaths). And I decided to put him on two Deproloft tablets a day since it has worked so well for me. They say it takes about 3 weeks to really start working. But it made a big difference for him in about half that time. He is now back to normal and continues to take it daily.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 04:22:44PM
579 posts

A question to male Empaths


Empath

@ryuukogo:

It's interesting the variety of answers posted here on this topic. Through my own experiences and in reading similar posts I would say a large majority of empaths seem to be women. And of the male empaths poled in other postings, I would say that probably half of the males volunteered that they are gay. 

My view is that most women and gay men tend to be very good listeners and communicators. And that seems to fit in well as a core skill of any empath.

As for me, I would volunteer that I am straight. And I've had many women in my life tell me that I need to get in touch with my feminine side and be more sensitive to  their feelings. That puts me in an unusual category where I am a spiritual sensitive who at times needs to work on being more sensitive around women. I always chuckle when I think of that paradox. 

But I will close by sharing my belief that we empaths are actually all intended to have different traits and strengths. For a team or army to be successful it needs a lot of different people with varying strengths to complement each other and better the whole. And I like to think of us empaths as an army. We're here to help humanity through difficult times and we each have our own unique strengths and skills that we bring to the table.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 03:56:37PM
579 posts

Alien insect creature


Psychic and Paranormal

I don't have any personal experience to add. But I do remember another community member several months back talking about his struggles with opening portals and having creatures come back through to this world. I think in his case he was doing some unprotected astral travel and had some cat sized spider like creatures that would scurry around on the ceiling at his house. They didn't seem to harm him but made him uncomfortable and paranoid. I don't know if this story relates but thought I'd share.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 03:50:47PM
579 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

I agree with @hoofbeats. It is true that many people gain weight when stressed or depressed. And as empaths we are flooded by those feelings most days so it would seem to reason that the tendency for weight gain would be there for us. If you ever go to an in person empath meeting you will notice that more than the average are a little over weight. It's a very common trait. I find myself grabbing some extra comfort food or adult beverages after a tough day. And that does add up for me.

I also have a bloating problem when I take on too much negative and aren't resting and relaxing enough. I can literally feel my solar plexus be sore or burn a little and then I'll bloat up in my stomach area. I recently had a particularly effective grounding session that completely deflated my bloated stomach in about 10 minutes. It was like watching a balloon deflate. That helped confirm for me that the bloating is empath related.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 03:40:58PM
579 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

@ohda:

I agree with you completely. I've had periods of my life where everything went really well. I could feel positive energy radiate around me and I rode that energy wave and life was great. But then over this past decade I've at times sunk to low energy where I was constantly presented with bad luck and tough challenges. And once you start giving in to that and start thinking "here we go again" or "this sucks that this crap always happens", I think I just attracted more negative. I also have noted that a lot of this bad luck and negative experiences resulted from being overloaded as an empath. I think the lesson learned is that I need to step up my grounding game and raise my vibration better going forward.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/31/17 03:31:29PM
579 posts

Heard My Name Being Called, No One Was Around


Psychic and Paranormal

@sensi-sante:

I have had this happen quite a few times. It can be a bit unsettling. On a few occasions it was a booming voice in my head warning me. And then over the past year I've had a half dozen times when I am alone at home and I hear a voice call out my name that will sound exactly like my Dad, wife, or son. Something is mimicking their voices. It's very unsettling. I personally don't know the meaning of what that was all about.

I have had what I believe to be ghosts whispers in my ear on occasion while I sleep. That could be the case for you. But then you did hear a voice again when you started waking up. It could be an angel. It's always tough to tell. Did anything else happen during that time that made the atmosphere in the room feel different? Or did you have ringing in your ears or sounds?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/23/17 01:38:09PM
579 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

Thanks everyone for all the feedback and advice. I think the topic of raising one's vibration is a great solution of how to improve one's path or luck in life. As empaths when our vibration is raised the world is a nicer place and we brim with positive energy that we can use to help others. But the downside of being an empath is that we take in so much energy from others that it at times knocks our own energy and happiness down several notches. And it is in these low energy/low vibration moments where the bad luck seems to lurk. I think I may be able to improve my daily life by working harder on raising my vibration. That’s the goal anyway.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/23/17 01:06:40PM
579 posts

Cosmic disturbance


Empath

@lightstorm:

If you have a few minutes, you may find some of this info. from my prior post helpful as I believe it relates:

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/my_posts/46980/son-seeing-ufos

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/23/17 12:58:52PM
579 posts

Cosmic disturbance


Empath

@lightstorm:

What I was getting at with my last question was also covered by Hermes. I thought I'd add that when you astral travel you open a portal to our world. Sometimes things can follow you out of that world in to ours. I had a problem earlier this year with my teenage son who was experimenting with astral travel. He had some strange things that he could only describe as alien beings follow him out. He also went through a very tough time of anxiety and depression after that. I think he accidentally allowed some things in to our world and they were draining him. I had to help him with grounding and basically had him put a stop to his astral travel. So not to scare you but you should definitely be careful and practice shielding and grounding.

I know from prior blog posts that @mysticangel22 had a lot to say about how to go about astral travel safely. I'm hoping she will notice this post and make a few suggestions for you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/22/17 02:31:09PM
579 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@aiden:

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you already have the gift of mediumship. Let us know how it goes as you learn and practice.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/22/17 02:26:31PM
579 posts

Cosmic disturbance


Empath

@lightstorm:

Were you doing simple meditation or did it progress to astral travel?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/22/17 02:22:48PM
579 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

@hermes:

Sorry it took me a while to get back to you. I went through a pretty stressful work environment these past two weeks. And then predictably my daughter brought some germs home from school and I picked it up in a heart beat and have been pretty sick these past few days.

I have been doing some interesting research on my periods of bad luck and I think the solution intersects with my wanting to learn to get help more effectively from my angels. It's a bit weird but when I fall in with periods of bad luck I can literally feel that energy change as if I had a spell cast on me (I can feel my luck sink and everything seems overchallenging). I took some advice that someone gave me recently. And it hit on something @jonig also mentioned in this post. I prayed to God but also brought my angels in to my prayer and asked them to help me through this difficult time and to help me overcome some obstacles that would change my luck. And part of that prayer was to help me calm down and clear the air of my stress so that I can function more clear-headed and be a better person through difficult times.

The day after my prayer my challenges were not resolved. But I was remarkably calm despite no change in my circumstances. And then one day after that a chain reaction of good luck hit that resolved 3 big things that were causing me great distress at work. The lesson learned for me was that I asked God & my angels for help. And I let it go and left it in their hands. And everything started falling in to place.

So @hermes, I also looked in to what you posted. The kundalini seems to be a bigger picture idea for me. Some of it resonated, some of it didn't. It seemed like so much of the Kundalini transition had intense physical symptoms. And that hasn't been the case for me. They also said kundalini starts from intense years of yoga or some sort of physical trauma. And that doesn't correlate to me either. Am I missing something? What do you think?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/22/17 01:50:31PM
579 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

@loconnoro:

It fascinates me that while we empaths are alike in so many ways, but yet we still have different skill strengths. I know a lot of us can see, hear, and smell ghosts/spirits. But not all of us. In my case I don't think I have ever smelled the scent of a live person who is not present. But I do pick up strong people smells when no one is around. And they are not familiar smells that I would assign to someone I know that is living. When I smell perfume or cologne it is usually something that I would expect a senior citizen to wear (like the original old spice cologne that no one but grandpa would wear). And then I often pick up the heavy cigarette stench of what I would expect would come from a chain smoker. Except no one in my home smokes and I don't have any friends or relatives that smoke either. But we also have a fair amount of ghost activity that usually precedes a smell so in my case it's pretty obvious where the association is.

In your case, smelling the living is curious to me. What's the significance? Is someone trying to connect with you and then you pick up their scent? I know often I get a person's name popping up in my head and then that person will email or call. That's how it works with me when someone is thinking of me. I wonder if the scent is your signal that a friend needs your help?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/17/17 05:18:23PM
579 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the feedback. The irony of this for me is that I had 10 years of amazingly good luck before where everything was clicking and I was in one of those zones where everything just lined up and worked out the best for me. And then the economy crashed around 2008-2009 and bad luck started trending for me. Back then I did not know I was an empath. There was so much misery and anxiety with the economy and people losing their houses back then that during that period I unknowingly took all that in and it poisoned me 6-7 years. Now that I know I am an empath I know how to manage things and ground myself. But this bad luck part of me hasn't really gone away. I will say that since the "great recession" passed I can't say it's all bad. My health and relationships are good. But lots of other things in my life seem to always be an uphill battle or like running up the down escalator. And then I get lots of freak events hit me or my property. But I will definitely check out that video that Hermes suggested as see if I can find a way to clear or clean myself out this loop.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/16/17 01:30:23PM
579 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

I don't have that happen so much from the living. But there have been plenty of times at my home where I've smelled everything from a stinky rotten egg smell to cigars or perfumes. We do have regular ghost sightings at my home so I just assumed it was them since I would walk in an empty room and get a very strong smell. As an example, about 6 months ago I was at home alone and I heard a woman humming a song in my kitchen. I went to investigate and did not see anything but could smell perfume.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/16/17 01:25:30PM
579 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

I thought I'd reach out to all of you for some advice on this topic. I think I've seen many posts on this topic in the past and thought it would be good timing to discuss it again. I find that sometimes I get so filled up with tough and trying days that the negative energy from that spills out and poisons my life. And from that I seem to get hit with bad luck and overly challenging situations quite often (both at work and at home). Sometimes I can clear the bad luck through intensive grounding. But then it eventually returns again weeks later. And this has gone on for years. It seems like in life there are always obstacles thrown at me to find a way through. 

Has anyone else gone through tough times where you feel like you're just doing your best to plug holes in the titanic to keep it all afloat? Can anyone provide any feedback or solutions on how to break the chain of bad luck and make life more worry free?


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/10/17 09:36:32PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/16/17 01:10:20PM
579 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

@rene

I find all the different personalities of people I meet very fascinating. Particularly narcs and sociopaths. Quite often those people are pretty obvious to define in minutes. My radar on that sometimes goes off just watching them from afar. But others are very adept at hiding who they are. Like you said, after some conversation things can be revealed. And I always say you really find out about a person when they are angry. Their shields are down completely and you see the true person. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/10/17 02:18:19PM
579 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@aiden:

What a story. So you were somehow channeling your friend when you had the dream? Do you channel others often?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/03/17 02:00:05PM
579 posts

Advise please


Empath

 @steffck:

I love @trevor-lewis's answer for you to do a gut check and make your own decision. But if you are conflicted and really want advice, my gut is telling me don't do it. And I'm not sure how you turn down the offer of your boss without offending her. Since she is a controlling person this gives her even more control over one of her employees. And if at the end of a year you don't want to follow through and buy the house, I wonder whether this will damage your work relationship. She may very well mean well, but there would be a lot of strings attached having your boss as landlord.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/03/17 01:52:11PM
579 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@loconnoro:

I had good luck switching to a naturopath years ago. And they seem to have an herbal remedy for just about everything. They have given me some good recommendations for herbal supplements that have been really effective for anxiety and sleep issues that I have.

One product that I take and enjoy is called Deproloft. It's an herbal blend that helps "get your mind right". It lessens my anxiety and depression and keeps my moods even. You can find it on Amazon.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/02/17 04:10:29PM
579 posts

Guides


Empath

@calmidwester:

Did you end up doing the communication with guides course? If so, how did you like it?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/02/17 12:20:09PM
579 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@angel

Thanks for your input. You are the first one I've seen state that a narc can have empathic abilities as well. This is something that I am seeing with my own extended family members. And your Mom sounds a lot like mine. Although my Mom is in her 70s now and has mellowed out in recent years. And as she has become more calm and selfless, she has become more empath-like.

Interestingly my Mom's Mom was a sociopath. But my Mom's grandmother from what I've heard was a very powerful medium. So we have this family history of empaths and narcs/sociopaths coexisting in our blood line.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 01:37:04PM
579 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

I could be wrong but I think one is  born a narcissist just as one is born an empath. I don't think you can convert to one in either case. People can be self-centered and selfish. But narcissists do that on a whole other level that is very innate from day 1 of their lives. 

But that said, our current social media world is bringing out the worst self-centered traits in humans. They aren't all narcs but are in a confused state where it is en vogue to constantly show off yourself, your family, your riches etc... And ironically while we think we are so much more connected with social media, it is artificial and unfulfilling. And I think that is why people in general have been getting more unhappy over the past decade.

And speaking of social media, you can very clearly find the narcs and the sociopaths when you read blogs and posts on other sites. The narcs are classically tied to their own personal agenda of letting the world know how great they are. And the sociopaths are the ugly internet trolls who just for their own kicks want to brutally hurt someone.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:52:09PM
579 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@deborah-craig:

I agree that narcissists don't have much empathy. But at least in my family they do seem to have empath-like skills. My Mom is hyper sensitive to other's emotions and body language and also shows some clairvoiyant skill. And my brother, who is the more intense of the two, seems to also pick up on vibes and emotion. I also have a father-in-law that is closer to the sociopath spectrum. And he also seems to be very skilled at reading emotional energies as part of his manipulation schemes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:33:58PM
579 posts

A Strong "Feeling" Of Knowing That's Usually Correct?


Psychic and Paranormal

I think you are right and I am using the wrong term. What I really get are premonitions. Sometimes it comes in the form of knowing where I feel solidly that something will happen or that I am making the correct decision. But less often I get a premonition where I see a vision of an event and watch a short movie in my mind of that event and then have very strong feelings that this will happen. There is a particular tingling sensation I get when this happens. And in almost every case the premonition has come true.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:26:29PM
579 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It almost sounds like many of us don't have clinical ADD/ADHD, but exhibit similar traits due to our minds doing so many things due to our empathy.

I used to have exceptional concentration skills. But as my empathy has grown in recent years I seem to lose my mind at times. And what I mean by that is my mind will unexpectedly get pulled in different directions with many unrelated thoughts to the point where I lose control and ignore the task that I should be doing. Or I just get a lot of noise in my mind where my head just feels heavy and I start feeling anxious and my chest gets tight. This happens most often when I am in crowds. But oddly, I get the ADD distractions at my relatively quiet workplace. But I guess I could be picking up on others in the office complex.

I just posted some questions on narcissists. And as that topic relates to this one, when I run into one I can feel their energy trying to tap into my mind to figure me out (or steal my energy). I also get this with emotional troubled or needy people who can equally be energy vampires. In all these cases I get weakened and foggy-brained while communicating with them. And it takes quite a while to recover. I find myself drinking a lot of coffee throughout the day trying to shake my mind daze and to get my own energy and focus back. Has anyone had any success with herbal supplements that help sharpen focus?


updated by @hop-daddy: 04/28/17 12:27:25PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:13:21PM
579 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

I am always interested in this relationship. It seems that for a lot of empaths we are born into families with narcissist relatives (siblings, parents etc...). I thought this would make an interesting discussion. Here are a few of my questions that I was hoping to get feedback on:

1) I personally can't stand narcissists. They may me cringe and disgust me. And I make them very uncomfortable as I reject them in my mind as fakers and manipulators. They must pick up on that as narcissists both in and out of my family are really uncomfortable in my presence. So why in the world does the universe throw empaths and narcissists together in the same families? What possible good can come from this? It's a complete struggle just to co-exist.

2) My mother and one of my brothers are narcissists. But they also seem to both be very sensitive and exhibit empath-like skills. Is this typical or is it more a rarity that someone who leans to the narcissist spectrum can also exhibit some empath skills?

3) Please share your empath-narcissist stories so that we can better understand this relationship.


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/02/17 01:12:00PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 11:51:48AM
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Parents/Upbringing?


Empath







I was also brought up in a pretty religious upbringing. One of my brothers is gay and is also a narcissist. It is interesting how often empaths and narcissists end up in the same family. But my brother many years ago was very nervous about coming out given our religious background. But it went pretty well for him and we all had to issue with it. I think even in very religious families accepting homosexuality is a lot easier that it used to be. Good luck with that when you feel ready.


What my religious family cannot handle is the paranormal and the topic of me being an empath. It's a very misunderstood topic where I find most religious people label it as witchcraft or devil worshiping. So my question for you is whether you feel your family will have an easier time accepting your empathy or homosexuality?

Hop Daddy
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04/28/17 11:43:41AM
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A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal







Visions are always a fun topic. I get them too. I had some very strong visions leading up to meeting my future wife 21 years ago. In that situation I was set up on a blind date with her and did not know what she looked like. And then I had a couple visions of her and that we would be married one day. And when I finally met her she looked exactly as I had seen her in my vision. And we hit it off and have been inseparable ever since. So maybe in your case you have some spirit guides sending you some visions to encourage you to pursue this person? When I get visions they usually are telling me a truth of a future event. It's almost like a slap to my face to pay attention to the message and pursue it.


The one thing that I struggle with on visions is that they come in completely random. I get a handful of visions a year and they sometimes come in sleep dreams while other times they happen like day dreams when I am awake. I never know when to expect them. But I would really like to better understand them and maybe develop the skill. 


Here's a related post that we discussed a few weeks back that you may find interesting.


http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/psychic-and-paranormal/46647/a-strong-feeling-of-knowing-thats-usually-correct

Hop Daddy
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04/27/17 01:14:29PM
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emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

I know, it doesn't make sense unless you understand that being overwhelmed as an empath causes burnout that eventually becomes physical and mental ailments. Your situation sounds very similar to what I struggled with for years. I thought I'd share my story as it may give you a guide on how to repair yourself.

When I went through my "emotionless stage", I found no joy in anything. My motivation was low. The anger emotion was there but that was also muted. But I did feel moody and depressed at times. And that would transition to feeling nothing or numbness. At that point of time I felt like a hermit who only felt my best curled up by myself in a dark room watching TV. If I went out I would be hypersensitive to others emotional energy and would often have panic attacks within minutes of entering a theater or restaurant. It was brutal. 

So back then I did not know I was an empath. My traditional doctor wanted to load me up on anti-anxiety/depression meds. I decided to get a 2nd opinion from a naturopathic doctor. She ran me through quite a few tests and found that I had adrenal fatigue and brain chemical imbalance from all the stress that I was going through. My body chemistry was a bit of a mess. She gave me some natural supplements to rebuild and correct everything that was wrong. I also made some lifestyle changes to limit some of my work stress and fit in more exercise. And over the course of a few months I made solid improvement. However, the anxiety and crazy out of nowhere mood swings continued to be there. And that was due to my undiscovered empathy.

A couple years back I found the term empath and through research and joining this community I better understood who I am and what makes me tick. I quickly discovered and understood that as an empath you have to take care of your spiritual side or else your physical and mental health will suffer. That's where the grounding techniques come in to help rid yourself of the energy that you take in from others that is overwhelming you and numbing you. The good news is that you can improve your well being. Check out that book for some good tips on spiritual self-care. And best of luck to you.

Hop Daddy
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04/27/17 12:53:03PM
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Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

I find that on certain days when my empathy is strongest that I find it really hard to focus and concentrate on projects. On those days it feels like my mind has been hijacked and I'm mentally pulled in different directions. I did a little research and it appears that ADD/ADHD is a trait common to many empaths. That's news to me but does seem to make sense. I would guess  that as I get better at controlling the incoming volume signal on my empathy that I will be able to restore my focus. But since I am not there yet I would love to hear if others here share the same challenge as well as how you manage it?  Thanks for sharing your stories.


updated by @hop-daddy: 09/18/17 05:02:02PM
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04/26/17 11:55:43AM
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emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

You're not a fraud or abnormal. Quite the contrary. You are a text book empath going through emotional burnout. It's very hard after a while for your mind to deal with your own emotions when you are over run by everyone else's. I let this go one too long myself to where I had adrenal fatigue, heart palpitations, and really bad nightly sleep. My biggest block at the time was I didn't know I was an empath so finding a solution wasn't easy. Through grounding and self-care you definitely can get back to the old you and feel better.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/25/17 02:05:37PM
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Struggling Empath


Arts

@corey-easton:

I am sorry to hear you are struggling. It seems for many of us, life is a struggle or test (depending on how you look at it). One thing to remember is that empaths are energy workers. I know you know this. The stuff you take in can bring you down. And being an empath you probably have some particularly strong energy yourself that you have used to help others. But be careful with that as you can accidentally bring yourself down with that same strong energy. When you judge a situation or put a negative label on it you will over time hex yourself (both mentally and spiritually).

We see in every day life two groups of people when it comes to good and bad luck. There are those that are very negative and let little things bring them down and get in their way. They seem to almost attract bad luck as they go through their day. And then you see the other group of people who let bad things roll on by and they don't let it impact their well being. They keep smiling, and have a great attitude. And good things seem to always come to them like magic. There is a lesson there that we can all learn from. Because whether we know it or not, we are putting ourselves in to one of those two groups each day based on how we label and react to what comes our way.

This is not an easy thing to master but is worth your time to try to flip your energy and fortune. If it helps as an example a couple weeks back I had a particularly bad start to my day that I was able to overcome. I didn't sleep well the night before so I woke up a bit off with my empath radar all lit up. My acid reflux was bothering me that morning. So I was cranky just stepping out of bed. I then broke a glass in the kitchen. And when I bent down to clean it up I whacked my head really hard on the corner of the table. I then misplaced my car keys. And then while running late to work, my car had a flat tire. As each negative thing hit me that morning I practiced taking deep breaths, letting the negative roll past me, and I didn't allow myself to react negatively and explode with anger and frustration. I just kept reminding myself that it was a beautiful day outside, and I was not going to let these things cause me to have a bad day. The whole chain of events seemed like some sort of karmic test. But I think I passed the test because my day did not crater and I ended up having a happy and productive day. And the things that had happened earlier that day that were unpleasant were in the past and made a good story to tell friends and family.

Hop Daddy
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04/25/17 01:40:50PM
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emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

I have gone through periods of my life in recent years where I felt just like you do and just felt, numb and emotionless. It often followed times of high stress. I think it's our body's way of coping with all that is going on around you. And I will say that at times I have been so overtaken by other's emotions that for a time I lost touch with my own emotional identity. I think an easy label for this is emotional burn out. What I found helpful to correct this was to increase my meditating and grounding out all those unwanted energies. Once I did that I also took some personal days off from work and just worked on quiet time away from others to regenerate. And I was back to my normal self not long after that. There is a good book that helps explain how to ground and take better care of yourself called "Self Care For The Self Aware". You can get it on Amazon and I highly recommend it. Best of luck.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/21/17 05:50:10PM
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Archangels and You / A list of Archangels and Additional Links


Library of Light

@bing

Thanks for another great post. I am going to spend some time going through the videos you referenced this weekend. I found all of this very fascinating but found the line about ear buzzing really helpful. While I mostly experience ear ringing in one ear, there was a period of time a few months back where I was getting a low buzzing sound at times. No one around me heard it and I couldn't really figure out what it was other than a few non believers told me to get my ears checked. Happy

Hop Daddy
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04/19/17 12:45:49PM
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10 Lies That We Tell Ourselves


Library of Light

@bing:

Thanks for the enlightening post. Everything in our culture seems to be divided up in to good and bad. The info. you presented really helps explain why things are not always so black and white.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/18/17 10:39:35AM
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Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@hermes, thank you for your advice. What you said did sink in and resonate with me and helped put my mind at ease. I have had good luck with protection stones but at times throughout the year I still get overloaded. I'm going to try out your green stones. One of my goals this year is to try to do a better job of keeping my chakras balanced.

And thank you @nocturnes-angel as you added another level of understanding. You are correct that my empath skills went hay wire strong when I was sick. And then since it was an extended illness, they actually went away. Oddly it took almost two months after I was well again before my skills went back to a more normal state. So it would make more sense that stressful times where my defenses are down would cause a similar lowering of my defenses.

@cat-whisperer, I don't normally feel uncomfortable or fear from seeing bad things in patterns. But occasionally they are extra creepy where the eyes seem to watch me as I move through a room (like the busts at the haunted mansion at Disneyland). But I usually just ignore them. 

Hop Daddy
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04/17/17 04:28:09PM
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Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@nocturnes-angel:

I wanted to respond to your post as well. Both the faces I see and the number 4 don't seem to have relevance to my life. I have a wife and two kids so there are 4 of us. But aside from that, I don't know why that pops up. And the faces I see that pop out of patterns are not something I have seen before. And none of them are really the same either. The faces are very different and random and don't repeat.

But it is like you said where it can be very distracting. This doesn't happen every day but when it does, I'll see dozens of these faces pop out on a given day. They always leave me wondering how do I interpret and react? Is this a warning?

 
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