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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/16/17 01:25:30PM
502 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

I thought I'd reach out to all of you for some advice on this topic. I think I've seen many posts on this topic in the past and thought it would be good timing to discuss it again. I find that sometimes I get so filled up with tough and trying days that the negative energy from that spills out and poisons my life. And from that I seem to get hit with bad luck and overly challenging situations quite often (both at work and at home). Sometimes I can clear the bad luck through intensive grounding. But then it eventually returns again weeks later. And this has gone on for years. It seems like in life there are always obstacles thrown at me to find a way through. 

Has anyone else gone through tough times where you feel like you're just doing your best to plug holes in the titanic to keep it all afloat? Can anyone provide any feedback or solutions on how to break the chain of bad luck and make life more worry free?


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/10/17 09:36:32PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/16/17 01:10:20PM
502 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

@rene

I find all the different personalities of people I meet very fascinating. Particularly narcs and sociopaths. Quite often those people are pretty obvious to define in minutes. My radar on that sometimes goes off just watching them from afar. But others are very adept at hiding who they are. Like you said, after some conversation things can be revealed. And I always say you really find out about a person when they are angry. Their shields are down completely and you see the true person. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/10/17 02:18:19PM
502 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@aiden:

What a story. So you were somehow channeling your friend when you had the dream? Do you channel others often?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/03/17 02:00:05PM
502 posts

Advise please


Empath

 @steffck:

I love @trevor-lewis's answer for you to do a gut check and make your own decision. But if you are conflicted and really want advice, my gut is telling me don't do it. And I'm not sure how you turn down the offer of your boss without offending her. Since she is a controlling person this gives her even more control over one of her employees. And if at the end of a year you don't want to follow through and buy the house, I wonder whether this will damage your work relationship. She may very well mean well, but there would be a lot of strings attached having your boss as landlord.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/03/17 01:52:11PM
502 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@loconnoro:

I had good luck switching to a naturopath years ago. And they seem to have an herbal remedy for just about everything. They have given me some good recommendations for herbal supplements that have been really effective for anxiety and sleep issues that I have.

One product that I take and enjoy is called Deproloft. It's an herbal blend that helps "get your mind right". It lessens my anxiety and depression and keeps my moods even. You can find it on Amazon.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/02/17 04:10:29PM
502 posts

Guides


Empath

@calmidwester:

Did you end up doing the communication with guides course? If so, how did you like it?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
05/02/17 12:20:09PM
502 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@angel

Thanks for your input. You are the first one I've seen state that a narc can have empathic abilities as well. This is something that I am seeing with my own extended family members. And your Mom sounds a lot like mine. Although my Mom is in her 70s now and has mellowed out in recent years. And as she has become more calm and selfless, she has become more empath-like.

Interestingly my Mom's Mom was a sociopath. But my Mom's grandmother from what I've heard was a very powerful medium. So we have this family history of empaths and narcs/sociopaths coexisting in our blood line.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 01:37:04PM
502 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

I could be wrong but I think one is  born a narcissist just as one is born an empath. I don't think you can convert to one in either case. People can be self-centered and selfish. But narcissists do that on a whole other level that is very innate from day 1 of their lives. 

But that said, our current social media world is bringing out the worst self-centered traits in humans. They aren't all narcs but are in a confused state where it is en vogue to constantly show off yourself, your family, your riches etc... And ironically while we think we are so much more connected with social media, it is artificial and unfulfilling. And I think that is why people in general have been getting more unhappy over the past decade.

And speaking of social media, you can very clearly find the narcs and the sociopaths when you read blogs and posts on other sites. The narcs are classically tied to their own personal agenda of letting the world know how great they are. And the sociopaths are the ugly internet trolls who just for their own kicks want to brutally hurt someone.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:52:09PM
502 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@deborah-craig:

I agree that narcissists don't have much empathy. But at least in my family they do seem to have empath-like skills. My Mom is hyper sensitive to other's emotions and body language and also shows some clairvoiyant skill. And my brother, who is the more intense of the two, seems to also pick up on vibes and emotion. I also have a father-in-law that is closer to the sociopath spectrum. And he also seems to be very skilled at reading emotional energies as part of his manipulation schemes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:33:58PM
502 posts

A Strong "Feeling" Of Knowing That's Usually Correct?


Psychic and Paranormal

I think you are right and I am using the wrong term. What I really get are premonitions. Sometimes it comes in the form of knowing where I feel solidly that something will happen or that I am making the correct decision. But less often I get a premonition where I see a vision of an event and watch a short movie in my mind of that event and then have very strong feelings that this will happen. There is a particular tingling sensation I get when this happens. And in almost every case the premonition has come true.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:26:29PM
502 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It almost sounds like many of us don't have clinical ADD/ADHD, but exhibit similar traits due to our minds doing so many things due to our empathy.

I used to have exceptional concentration skills. But as my empathy has grown in recent years I seem to lose my mind at times. And what I mean by that is my mind will unexpectedly get pulled in different directions with many unrelated thoughts to the point where I lose control and ignore the task that I should be doing. Or I just get a lot of noise in my mind where my head just feels heavy and I start feeling anxious and my chest gets tight. This happens most often when I am in crowds. But oddly, I get the ADD distractions at my relatively quiet workplace. But I guess I could be picking up on others in the office complex.

I just posted some questions on narcissists. And as that topic relates to this one, when I run into one I can feel their energy trying to tap into my mind to figure me out (or steal my energy). I also get this with emotional troubled or needy people who can equally be energy vampires. In all these cases I get weakened and foggy-brained while communicating with them. And it takes quite a while to recover. I find myself drinking a lot of coffee throughout the day trying to shake my mind daze and to get my own energy and focus back. Has anyone had any success with herbal supplements that help sharpen focus?


updated by @hop-daddy: 04/28/17 12:27:25PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 12:13:21PM
502 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

I am always interested in this relationship. It seems that for a lot of empaths we are born into families with narcissist relatives (siblings, parents etc...). I thought this would make an interesting discussion. Here are a few of my questions that I was hoping to get feedback on:

1) I personally can't stand narcissists. They may me cringe and disgust me. And I make them very uncomfortable as I reject them in my mind as fakers and manipulators. They must pick up on that as narcissists both in and out of my family are really uncomfortable in my presence. So why in the world does the universe throw empaths and narcissists together in the same families? What possible good can come from this? It's a complete struggle just to co-exist.

2) My mother and one of my brothers are narcissists. But they also seem to both be very sensitive and exhibit empath-like skills. Is this typical or is it more a rarity that someone who leans to the narcissist spectrum can also exhibit some empath skills?

3) Please share your empath-narcissist stories so that we can better understand this relationship.


updated by @hop-daddy: 04/28/17 12:14:23PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 11:51:48AM
502 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath







I was also brought up in a pretty religious upbringing. One of my brothers is gay and is also a narcissist. It is interesting how often empaths and narcissists end up in the same family. But my brother many years ago was very nervous about coming out given our religious background. But it went pretty well for him and we all had to issue with it. I think even in very religious families accepting homosexuality is a lot easier that it used to be. Good luck with that when you feel ready.


What my religious family cannot handle is the paranormal and the topic of me being an empath. It's a very misunderstood topic where I find most religious people label it as witchcraft or devil worshiping. So my question for you is whether you feel your family will have an easier time accepting your empathy or homosexuality?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/28/17 11:43:41AM
502 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal







Visions are always a fun topic. I get them too. I had some very strong visions leading up to meeting my future wife 21 years ago. In that situation I was set up on a blind date with her and did not know what she looked like. And then I had a couple visions of her and that we would be married one day. And when I finally met her she looked exactly as I had seen her in my vision. And we hit it off and have been inseparable ever since. So maybe in your case you have some spirit guides sending you some visions to encourage you to pursue this person? When I get visions they usually are telling me a truth of a future event. It's almost like a slap to my face to pay attention to the message and pursue it.


The one thing that I struggle with on visions is that they come in completely random. I get a handful of visions a year and they sometimes come in sleep dreams while other times they happen like day dreams when I am awake. I never know when to expect them. But I would really like to better understand them and maybe develop the skill. 


Here's a related post that we discussed a few weeks back that you may find interesting.


http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/psychic-and-paranormal/46647/a-strong-feeling-of-knowing-thats-usually-correct

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/27/17 01:14:29PM
502 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

I know, it doesn't make sense unless you understand that being overwhelmed as an empath causes burnout that eventually becomes physical and mental ailments. Your situation sounds very similar to what I struggled with for years. I thought I'd share my story as it may give you a guide on how to repair yourself.

When I went through my "emotionless stage", I found no joy in anything. My motivation was low. The anger emotion was there but that was also muted. But I did feel moody and depressed at times. And that would transition to feeling nothing or numbness. At that point of time I felt like a hermit who only felt my best curled up by myself in a dark room watching TV. If I went out I would be hypersensitive to others emotional energy and would often have panic attacks within minutes of entering a theater or restaurant. It was brutal. 

So back then I did not know I was an empath. My traditional doctor wanted to load me up on anti-anxiety/depression meds. I decided to get a 2nd opinion from a naturopathic doctor. She ran me through quite a few tests and found that I had adrenal fatigue and brain chemical imbalance from all the stress that I was going through. My body chemistry was a bit of a mess. She gave me some natural supplements to rebuild and correct everything that was wrong. I also made some lifestyle changes to limit some of my work stress and fit in more exercise. And over the course of a few months I made solid improvement. However, the anxiety and crazy out of nowhere mood swings continued to be there. And that was due to my undiscovered empathy.

A couple years back I found the term empath and through research and joining this community I better understood who I am and what makes me tick. I quickly discovered and understood that as an empath you have to take care of your spiritual side or else your physical and mental health will suffer. That's where the grounding techniques come in to help rid yourself of the energy that you take in from others that is overwhelming you and numbing you. The good news is that you can improve your well being. Check out that book for some good tips on spiritual self-care. And best of luck to you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/27/17 12:53:03PM
502 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

I find that on certain days when my empathy is strongest that I find it really hard to focus and concentrate on projects. On those days it feels like my mind has been hijacked and I'm mentally pulled in different directions. I did a little research and it appears that ADD/ADHD is a trait common to many empaths. That's news to me but does seem to make sense. I would guess  that as I get better at controlling the incoming volume signal on my empathy that I will be able to restore my focus. But since I am not there yet I would love to hear if others here share the same challenge as well as how you manage it?  Thanks for sharing your stories.


updated by @hop-daddy: 09/18/17 05:02:02PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/26/17 11:55:43AM
502 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

You're not a fraud or abnormal. Quite the contrary. You are a text book empath going through emotional burnout. It's very hard after a while for your mind to deal with your own emotions when you are over run by everyone else's. I let this go one too long myself to where I had adrenal fatigue, heart palpitations, and really bad nightly sleep. My biggest block at the time was I didn't know I was an empath so finding a solution wasn't easy. Through grounding and self-care you definitely can get back to the old you and feel better.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/25/17 02:05:37PM
502 posts

Struggling Empath


Arts

@corey-easton:

I am sorry to hear you are struggling. It seems for many of us, life is a struggle or test (depending on how you look at it). One thing to remember is that empaths are energy workers. I know you know this. The stuff you take in can bring you down. And being an empath you probably have some particularly strong energy yourself that you have used to help others. But be careful with that as you can accidentally bring yourself down with that same strong energy. When you judge a situation or put a negative label on it you will over time hex yourself (both mentally and spiritually).

We see in every day life two groups of people when it comes to good and bad luck. There are those that are very negative and let little things bring them down and get in their way. They seem to almost attract bad luck as they go through their day. And then you see the other group of people who let bad things roll on by and they don't let it impact their well being. They keep smiling, and have a great attitude. And good things seem to always come to them like magic. There is a lesson there that we can all learn from. Because whether we know it or not, we are putting ourselves in to one of those two groups each day based on how we label and react to what comes our way.

This is not an easy thing to master but is worth your time to try to flip your energy and fortune. If it helps as an example a couple weeks back I had a particularly bad start to my day that I was able to overcome. I didn't sleep well the night before so I woke up a bit off with my empath radar all lit up. My acid reflux was bothering me that morning. So I was cranky just stepping out of bed. I then broke a glass in the kitchen. And when I bent down to clean it up I whacked my head really hard on the corner of the table. I then misplaced my car keys. And then while running late to work, my car had a flat tire. As each negative thing hit me that morning I practiced taking deep breaths, letting the negative roll past me, and I didn't allow myself to react negatively and explode with anger and frustration. I just kept reminding myself that it was a beautiful day outside, and I was not going to let these things cause me to have a bad day. The whole chain of events seemed like some sort of karmic test. But I think I passed the test because my day did not crater and I ended up having a happy and productive day. And the things that had happened earlier that day that were unpleasant were in the past and made a good story to tell friends and family.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/25/17 01:40:50PM
502 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

@grace:

I have gone through periods of my life in recent years where I felt just like you do and just felt, numb and emotionless. It often followed times of high stress. I think it's our body's way of coping with all that is going on around you. And I will say that at times I have been so overtaken by other's emotions that for a time I lost touch with my own emotional identity. I think an easy label for this is emotional burn out. What I found helpful to correct this was to increase my meditating and grounding out all those unwanted energies. Once I did that I also took some personal days off from work and just worked on quiet time away from others to regenerate. And I was back to my normal self not long after that. There is a good book that helps explain how to ground and take better care of yourself called "Self Care For The Self Aware". You can get it on Amazon and I highly recommend it. Best of luck.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/21/17 05:50:10PM
502 posts

Archangels and You / A list of Archangels and Additional Links


Library of Light

@bing

Thanks for another great post. I am going to spend some time going through the videos you referenced this weekend. I found all of this very fascinating but found the line about ear buzzing really helpful. While I mostly experience ear ringing in one ear, there was a period of time a few months back where I was getting a low buzzing sound at times. No one around me heard it and I couldn't really figure out what it was other than a few non believers told me to get my ears checked. Happy

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/19/17 12:45:49PM
502 posts

10 Lies That We Tell Ourselves


Library of Light

@bing:

Thanks for the enlightening post. Everything in our culture seems to be divided up in to good and bad. The info. you presented really helps explain why things are not always so black and white.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/18/17 10:39:35AM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@hermes, thank you for your advice. What you said did sink in and resonate with me and helped put my mind at ease. I have had good luck with protection stones but at times throughout the year I still get overloaded. I'm going to try out your green stones. One of my goals this year is to try to do a better job of keeping my chakras balanced.

And thank you @nocturnes-angel as you added another level of understanding. You are correct that my empath skills went hay wire strong when I was sick. And then since it was an extended illness, they actually went away. Oddly it took almost two months after I was well again before my skills went back to a more normal state. So it would make more sense that stressful times where my defenses are down would cause a similar lowering of my defenses.

@cat-whisperer, I don't normally feel uncomfortable or fear from seeing bad things in patterns. But occasionally they are extra creepy where the eyes seem to watch me as I move through a room (like the busts at the haunted mansion at Disneyland). But I usually just ignore them. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 04:28:09PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@nocturnes-angel:

I wanted to respond to your post as well. Both the faces I see and the number 4 don't seem to have relevance to my life. I have a wife and two kids so there are 4 of us. But aside from that, I don't know why that pops up. And the faces I see that pop out of patterns are not something I have seen before. And none of them are really the same either. The faces are very different and random and don't repeat.

But it is like you said where it can be very distracting. This doesn't happen every day but when it does, I'll see dozens of these faces pop out on a given day. They always leave me wondering how do I interpret and react? Is this a warning?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 04:20:17PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

Very interesting that you and I both see the flash-card effect of people faces when meditating or sleeping. Your example of a yearbook photo matches up well with how I see people. And then it's interesting that you see animals in random patterns or wood grain, and I see angry gargoyle like creatures. I appreciate what everyone has posted on this subject to help explain it. But I am still trying to interpret the meaning and how I should react when I see things? Is it a warning, is it a sign? Same for you. If you see a snake or wolf that are predators, how do you interpret that? There must be a reason why we see things and when we see things. In my case, and probably yours as well, it's not like these almost look like something. The way I view it, these are very clear creatures faces.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 04:11:42PM
502 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

@empphire:

I've done some research on this topic and I often see the 5% of the world are empaths statistic. However, while 5% of the world may be empaths, I think it's probably far less than 1% that know it and utilize it. From that standpoint I think we are rare. But there does seem to be some sort of awakening going on where people in fairly large numbers are recognizing their empathy. It almost seems like more empaths are being "switched on". 

The empathic ability does tend to run in families so you may be absolutely correct by taking a look at your relative’s behavior. But it can be tricky speaking to people about what some people may label as a taboo or fantasy subject like empathy. There are a handful of people in my extended family who I think may also be empaths but they are so religious that they are currently closed off to it. I'm very selective with who I share my empath identity with as a lot of people I know would laugh me out of the building. From that standpoint it has been hard to meet others.

I will say that while I really enjoy the empaths I have met on this community, the ones I have met in real life have been tough to be around. I think we all are just trying to figure all of this out, and we all carry our own daily anxiety and feelings that we absorb. And when being around other empaths I can get really drained from their energy and issues. But maybe that was just my tough luck.

I will say that quite a few cities have empath groups that meet weekly or monthly. You can probably search for that online and try to join one that is local to you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 03:43:51PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

The flashcards of people and short movies of people I see when I meditate or drift off to sleep are interesting as well. They are all mostly expressionless faces. And they are usually white men and women aged 20-50. I never see kids or the elderly. But despite the expressionless faces, they seem neutral-happy with no sadness that I pick up. And what usually happens for me is that I get about 3 minutes of flashcard faces and then I get short random "this is your life" movie clips of other people in their lives. Those movie clips as I call them are almost always neutral to happy type of events with no sadness. I find the no sadness interesting considering how much sadness and anger that I pick up from people while living my life during the day.

I have no idea who I am seeing when I meditate or fall asleep. But my sense is that they are real living people somewhere. And a few times a year I have a deeper dream where I meet someone new and really hit it off with them as a friend. And then I run in to them in real life a few days later at a store or gas station. That is a whole other mystery for me. I will say that throughout my whole life I have had an almost photographic memory for faces. I never forget a face and have really fast recall even many years later. It's curious now that my empath skills have grown that seeing faces is such a prominent part of it. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 03:31:25PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

I still see faces or movies of people when I meditate or drift off to sleep. Those seem to be real three dimensional people somewhere (I’m still trying to figure that out as well). This post is about something different when looking at a design in a Persian rug or the wood grain markings on the back of a chair. It reminds me of when I was a kid looking at clouds and making out shapes and objects that I saw clearly but others usually couldn't see the same. In this case I'll look at a floor tile or wood grain pattern on furniture and where others see just a random pattern, I now see faces in pretty good detail. We have travertine stone in my showers and as flooring in my home. And each stone tile has quite a bit of natural imperfections or dark grain splashed across the white tile. And it's almost as if the more complex the imperfection detail on the stone, the more I can pull out as a grouping of faces. Same thing with wood furniture or rug patterns. The faces that I see are almost cartoonish looking and mostly evil or angry looking (growling at me or giving me the stink eye). They almost remind me of gargoyles except with a tinge of cartoon like appearance that makes them look both menacing and comical at times. And it is always faces and never an animal or other object.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/17/17 03:13:58PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you to everyone for their responses. I wanted to add that my ability to pull faces out of abstract markings or designs is either sharp or dull. It seems to come and go with my level of empathy. I notice when I get overloaded and start feeling the weight of being an empath really pull me down to anxiety that my skills pick up. At that point despite me not feeling great, I feel people easier, I have more run ins with spirits, and I start seeing these faces all over the place in the designs of a rug, or in the abstract markings on floor tile or wood. As an example, I was very relaxed and calm this morning before work. I walked by the areas in my house where I can usually see these faces in furniture and in flooring and I couldn't see anything. I only saw abstract markings and imperfections. But if I had been anxious they all would have popped out in appearance almost instantly.

Any idea why my empath skills are at their best when I am emotionally worn out and feeling heavy? And secondly, should I draw any meaning from the fact that when I do see faces that 80% of the time they present as evil or gargoyle like in appearance?

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/13/17 12:43:49PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

I have something odd that is happening daily that started a few years back and has become stronger over time. And I wanted to share to see if others here maybe also see the same things. And what I see are faces everywhere that appear from abstract or random designs or textures. I see faces in the design of a Persian rug, or in the grain of a wood door or furniture, or in travertine floor tiles. The skill reminds me of those paintings you'd see at the mall maybe 20 years ago where it looks like a collection of dots but if you stare long enough without blinking you could make out an image inside the chaos of the dots. 

My mind has improved being able to look at abstract designs to where I can immediately pull out faces. And those faces are quite often evil or threatening looking. But other times it may be a person's happy or angelic image. As an example, there is a spot in my shower tile that looks like the face of Jesus with a crown of thorns. Some of these faces pop out as a one-time thing that my mind can't repeat later while with others I can always see those faces every time I walk by. 

In addition to having faces appear to me, I also have numbers appear to me the same way. And I seem to most often see the number 4. The numbers will show up from etches in floor tile or from cracks.

Does anyone have an idea why I see these things and what possible meaning I should draw from them? I’m also curious if anyone else has had similar experiences?

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/13/17 12:15:26PM
502 posts

Hello


Empath

@finding-peace:

I suspected that you may be new to this. You came to the right place for help. We have all been where you are.

The grounding is key, to keep you from losing your mind. And having physical ailments from all of this is really common until you start practicing grounding to get those feelings and other people’s energy out of your body. When you soak in all that you do each day it has nowhere to go and will eventually impact your physical as well as mental health. Grounding is an empath's way to flush out the energy and vibes back out of your body. When you get good at this you can actually feel that negative energy leaving your body. You will go from a heavy and down feeling to a light and happy feeling. And some of the higher level empaths can actually ground out someone's stuff right there while they are spending time with a person who is dumping stuff on them. I am not yet there myself but that is my long term goal to be able to ground on the spot.

Grounding in part is doing things that you really like to do to repair your soul. The common thread for most of us empaths is that we love the outdoors and spending time with nature. I find solace hiking in the forest or swimming in the ocean and come back recharged. But for many of us we live in cities or are strapped for time. And when that happens I practice meditation and take salt baths to expel all this unwanted energy from me. The below link will give you a place to start on learning about grounding. And then feel free to come back with questions. 

https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/panacea/

Another topic for another time is that I would recommend carrying protection stones as they will limit and shield some of what you are exposed to each day. Carrying protection stones plus regular grounding techniques can really improve your well-being. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/12/17 04:19:43PM
502 posts

Child reoccurring nightmare


Dreams

@rene:

I had a reoccurring dream for about 12 years in my youth. It was horrible. In the dream I was running through some sort of barren wasteland with some sort of howling monster chasing me. But it was like I was running in sand as I could not gain any distance. The monster seemed to be gaining on me by the second as I could hear its hot breath and hooves getting closer and closer. At the end of the dream the monster would always get within 20 feet of me and I knew I was toast and would be overrun and killed. At that distance I could clearly see that the monster was some sort of demonic beast with red glowing eyes. Luckily I would always wake up before I got hurt in the dream. 

Back in those days nothing paranormal or weird really happened to me in my awake life. It was just an awful dream. If there was a message for me in that repeating dream, it is lost on me to this day. But my point is that kids have very vivid imaginations and it is part of growing up to experience those. I don't know how we can really know what parts of a child's dream is spiritual or paranormal, and which part is just a vivid imagination.

But I think you are doing the right thing by trying out some protections stones, cutting back on sugar and food before bed, and just trying to keep her environment calm so that bedtime isn't something she equates to fear. I seem to recall my daughter had a nightmare almost nightly between 4 and 6. And then it just stopped.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/12/17 04:04:22PM
502 posts

Hello


Empath

@finding-peace:

You were given some excellent comments to your post from the three ahead of me. I will try to add a few thoughts without being redundant.

I understand where you are coming from with wanting to remove people from your life that drain or manipulate you. And I would agree that since you feel so deeply, it probably is best to part ways with the manipulators as they are probably narcissists and can be damaging to yo. But if you find yourself parting ways with everyone you will soon find yourself pretty lonely.

I at many times over the years just wanted to be alone and found myself being irritated by just about everyone. Like you, I just felt that my job and relationships just drained me. There was just constant exhaustion and irritability. And I found it hard to find any joy in my life. It was not until I learned about grounding that I was able to get back to being my old self enjoying most of my relationships.

We empaths are sponges as we soak up everyone’s energies and take in the good, the bad, and the ugly. At a certain point you, the sponge have soaked up about as much as you can take. You're maxed out and feeling anxious, exhausted, irritable etc... That's when you know it is time to expel all that energy that you have absorbed so that you can feel better, feel normal, and be more comfortable around others. I'm not sure if you know about the subject of grounding. If you need some help with that please let me and others know.

I did want to say that some of my favorite people in my life can be a bit taxing at times and drain me. They aren't bad people but are very emotional and love to come to me to feel better by unloading their stories of struggle & drama. They feel better after being with me and I feel worse and tired. But as empaths that is what we do. I know I have to put a limit on how much time I spend with those types of people who need me to remove their "stuff". And I know when they leave me that I need to do some grounding to get me back to normal. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/11/17 12:54:21PM
502 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath

@visitor:

I'm not sure if you will see this. But you sound like you have a lot going on and could benefit from connecting with all of us on this site. Why don't you register with as screen name so we can communicate with you? All of us have gone through tough experiences with extreme anxiety. I'm sure we can share some ideas on how to better calm yourself.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/10/17 06:19:12PM
502 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath

@calmidwester:

This is a great topic for discussion. I think times have changed and current parents are probably more free to help their kids with gifts today compared to several decades ago. Obviously not everyone will be open to this. And this is particularly the case for religious families. But I do see progress.

As for my family upbringing, I think my mother is a closet empath. And I know her grandmother used to work at a hospice and as the story goes she would see dying people's souls release from their bodies at death. And she used that skill to help people in their dying moments be calm and then cross over. But my mother became really religious when I was a teen and she cannot deal with the paranormal. It upsets her. And I think what upsets her the most is that I think deep down she knows she has paranormal skills but her deep devotion to Christianity causes her to mistake the paranormal as evil. She was a teacher who retired and became an ordained minister. And then she has come full circle and is now a part time chaplain at a hospital where she helps the dying and their families cope with the death experience. So in a way her own spirit keeps directing her to help people in the way that an empath would, but her religious beliefs keep her blocked from really being who she should be. And I remember about 9 years ago telling her about some of the ghost sightings we've had at our house that at that time revolved around my young daughter. And she freaked out on me as if I had been blasphemous. So I know I can't even bring up my own empathy with her.

But as many of you know, I have two teenage kids who are also both empaths. And at this age they hate the anxiety and depression that they have to deal with when at school. But since I discovered that I was an empath first, I am thankful that I am able to give them guidance on how to ground and release what they absorb. And when they are ready I will teach them how to expand their skills to help people. From this standpoint I think we are seeing progress in my family history of discovering and accepting our skills. And we are very open about who we are and what we experience in my household. I think it greatly helps with our kids development.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/10/17 05:53:18PM
502 posts

Child reoccurring nightmare


Dreams

@rene:

Yowza. That is a terrifying thing to deal with. That poor girl. When my daughter was that age she had some really brutal reoccurring dreams where people were getting butchered in a blood bath. Back then I did not know that she or I were empaths so there wasn’t much I could do. And luckily the dreams never became anything other than a bad dream. But I do know things visit us in our sleep. And in just guessing maybe an entity is getting some kicks out of freaking your granddaughter out? In recent years I have had good luck with placing protection stones in my room and my kid’s rooms. It cuts down on weird stuff and some harassment we get at times while trying to sleep. Maybe try putting some black tourmaline or black obsidian near her bed or under her pillow? I would hope that would improve her sleep a bit.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/10/17 05:44:06PM
502 posts

A Strong "Feeling" Of Knowing That's Usually Correct?


Psychic and Paranormal

@rocky-wolfe:

Thanks for sharing. I have not run in to too many others on this website that have strong clairvoyance like you. But I too have 4-5 major visions a year. And then I get some minor premonitions sometimes as well on trivial stiff like I'll sometimes know when an NFL quarterback is about to throw an interception, or when an MLB batter will tee off the next pitch for a home run. Or I'll sometimes know what a person in real life or on TV will say next even before they speak it. So I know what you are going through. I too had a particularly strong vision about Trump last March of 2016 where I saw him up on a big national stage giving what looked like an acceptance speech. And at that moment I had a very strong feeling that he would win the Republican nomination and the Presidential race. What was especially telling for me was that I had this vision back when he still had to beat out 14 other Republicans and everyone was laughing at his chances. But at the end of the vision I had a very calming feeling like this was a good thing and that everything would work out well for our country. So regardless of everyone's political leanings, that's how it played out in my head. When I get visions I always have the feeling of supreme confidence that this event will happen. And in my case the visions are almost always about good things that will happen. It is a very interesting feeling. And I personally struggle with how to develop this skill as it currently hits me at random.

It does sound like your clairvoyance is turned on at a higher setting than mine since you deal with it more frequently and know more personal things like how relationships will end. I have also met a few people that have told me that when they meet someone new they always have a vision of how and when that person will die. That would be tough to deal with. But I did read somewhere recently that you can actually turn down the power on some of your skills by closing off the chakra a little. I personally do not know how to open and close chakras so hopefully others can offer suggestions. But if you are uncomfortable with your third eye clairvoyance then you may be able to close that chakra down a little so that you don't have to deal with visions as often as you do now. If you are able to do that please check back in on this blog and let us know.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/08/17 12:39:31AM
502 posts



I've read quite a few empath books where they say we can pick up people's feelings all the way across town. I personally tend to pick up people the strongest within a 40 yard radius. But I've heard from other empaths on this website that can pick up on feelings from people they know all the way across the country. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/05/17 05:18:22PM
502 posts

How do you perceive others emotions?


Empath

Great topic. I think the day I can instantly & fully separate my emotions from what I pick up from others, you can all start calling me Master Hop Daddy.  Wink  That is the hardest thing to do. I think we all aspire to be able to do that reliably.

I feel emotional energy just like what @trevor-lewis noted. And it mostly feels like mine. The most common emotions I pick up from people are usually anxiety and just general lowness or unhappiness. And those are the tricky emotions in my opinion as they sneak in quietly and seem to masquerade as my own. I can over the course of minutes be able to think it through and identify what energies are mine and which are others. But I can't do that instantly as some of the more accomplished empaths can.

The only time I know for sure that it is not mine right away is when I witness an argument or someone having a loud angry meltdown. Watching little kids have temper tantrums can be really hard on me. I can literally feel the anger shooting out from them like an exploding grenade. I am especially sensitive to anger and rage. I feel it hit me like a shock wave right in the solar plexus. And my solar plexus will ache for hours afterwards until I find a way to ground it out.

But I do have a question for all of you. When someone is sobbing in despair or really red faced angry, do you feel that intense energy stay in that area even after the person leaves the room? I can sometimes feel that for hours. It's almost as if that intense energy balled up right where the incident happened. Does this happen to anyone else?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/05/17 04:54:30PM
502 posts



@ohda:

Some empaths connect with animals. But you would be doing that all the time and would probably be more aware of that skill. It is possible that you are picking up on someone else in the area. Maybe a neighbor? About a year ago I was having a real struggle with this deep sadness that I was picking up on. It always happened near the front of my house and just walking through the house would take me from a good mood to tears in seconds. I could not figure it out. And then months later I learned that my neighbor across the street had been struggling with cancer and had died. He had a close nit family and I'm sure it was devastating for all of them (they were very private and I did not know them very well). I was picking up on all of that.

I also have picked up on emotions from ghosts before. Some of us pick up on that. It's a little tricky to know that is exactly the cause. But in my case I usually get this anxious feeling out of nowhere and then nearby will hear banging on the walls and ceilings or knocking on windows. 


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/10/17 09:38:14PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/05/17 04:43:12PM
502 posts

Breaking up with someone


Empath

@stills

I think you said it all when you said:  "I think she is a love addict and I was feeling her euphoria and I mistook it for love...This girl isn't someone I really match well with, we have not much in common but that we communicate on this emotional level. I'm more star struck by her, but not sure if it's love. Perhaps crazy love but real love I'm not sure."

You knew she was not a good match for you and yet you were addicted to being with her. It sounds very much as if she got her hooks in to you as a narc. They are good at getting empaths to lower our guards and then they razzle dazzle you on an emotional level. Every story between an empath and narc is almost identical:

The relationship is intense and it's the most deeply you've fallen for someone. And then after a while the use and abuse starts. And after the narc has sucked the life out of you and left you for dead they move on and you are in pieces. Lucky for you you saw the signs and got out when you did. It would have been a mess for you had you stayed (the ex boyfriend etc...).

As for how to move on you do have to cut your cord with her. As an empath you feel so deeply that it will just take some time. I would delete her number from your phone, get rid of pictures and things to keep her out of your mind. Just move on and focus on doing things that make you happy. It sounds like you are pretty aware and smart about who you date. Keep your shield up on future narcs and you'll find the right girl for you. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/05/17 04:25:02PM
502 posts

A Child Empath, does anyone have one that became apath?


Empath

I don't mean to insult Catholics as that was not my intent. I know plenty of people who are Catholics and they are good people. I just find the power structure of the church very hypocritical. It sounds like back when you were a practicing Catholic that you did not know you were an empath. That's probably good because things get complicated once you tell religious people who you are and what your gifts are. Based on my own experiences and shared experiences of others, churches don't understand sensitives very well. The typical reaction is that you are lying for attention, or you are mentally ill, or you are part of a satanic cult. I was raised Presbyterian and still attend church. And Christian churches like mine are usually more open minded about things than the Catholic churches. But even they don't have a way to understand the world of an empath.

But back to you, I called it wrong trying to fill in the blanks. I thought your brother was using the religion to push you away as an empathy. But you said they did not know you were an empath. But in my experience with narcs and sociopaths, they know deep down who they are and who you are. You are dangerous to those types as you can see through their BS and expose them. And for that reason they aim to destroy you. If your son is an apath then he was easily manipulated by your brother. But narcs and sociopaths are master manipulators so there probably wasn't much you could have done about that. I can't comment on the daughter in law much as I don't really know the details there. But it is possible that your brother has poisoned her with negative stories about you as well. It sounds like a classic black-ball situation that your brother set up at your expense.

I don’t know if you have any legal remedy on this since you said your brother stole your money. But maybe too much time has passed. But I see that you have a lot of anger from this situation. And I don't blame you. But yet that anger is very damaging to you as an empath. I would just say to try to let some of that go for your own good. If not forgive then just forget. You may be surprised how much better you will feel waking up one day without that situation on your mind. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
04/05/17 10:49:24AM
502 posts

A Child Empath, does anyone have one that became apath?


Empath

@deborah-craig:

That's a very sad story. I am sorry you have had to endure all that.

Your situation is pretty complex and is a bit hard to dissect. But I will try my best. My two kids and I are all empaths. And it can be hard at times for all of us to be together and get along. We feel each other's emotions intensely. If your son is an empath, he may have felt his worst around you since he likely picked up on what you were going through at the time. At no fault of your own, he probably felt anxious and bad being around you.

You mentioned your brother is a Priest. And since he took your son under his wing, I can only assume that your son is now pretty religious. He must have not wanted to take on his empathy and hid it away and found some peace through the church. The Catholic Church in particular is against empaths and mediums. That church is built on a power structure between God and the church. Empaths are a threat to them since we are so spiritually strong. We are proof that humanity does not need a church or priests to connect with God. And that is bad for business for them. Catholics will label us as either mentally ill or some sort of evil cult. I'm sure your brother ridiculed your empathy and told your son that you have fallen under the spell of satan. And over time he created a wedge where your son feels safe and good with his church relationship and sees you as evil and avoids you. While very sad, it makes sense to me. And I am again sorry that you had to live this. It seems quite often an empath is born in to a family where there is a narcissist or sociopath present. And that appears to be the case for you.

In my life I have found some of the most diabolical people hide behind their churches. It's very fascinating to me but is no accident. If you are a really bad person you can hide your true self behind the mask of the church. A great example of this is all of these Catholic Church child molestation factual stories that have gone on for well over 100 years. I have an attorney who is a devout Catholic that even after his local parish Priest was convicted on child molestation charges would not believe the charges. He kept saying the priest was set up. My point is that the Catholic Church in particular has been able to put their priests in a position of such power and high regard that they are in many cases above the law. This was a perfect fit for your brother the sociopath. And what better way for him to hurt you than manipulate your son against you. 

And now for the hard part of my advice. And I would not blame you if you completely rejected what I am about to say. But as humans it is very hurtful for our health to carry around all of those wounds and grudges. And that goes double for an empath as we feel so deeply. My advice is to try to forgive your son and brother. And if you are not yet ready to do that then at least forget. Try to move on with your life in a positive way and let that terrible chapter in your life become a more minor event in your history instead of such a focal point of every day. As it stands right now, your brother and son continue to win by hurting you every day with your memory of what they did to you. The best way for you to win is to forgive them and remove all that hurtful energy that you carry around each day. Cut your cords with them and look to the future to find happiness. You may at some point be able to rekindle your relationship with your son (after you forgive him).

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/28/17 12:22:26PM
502 posts

Kid's dream mirrors my own experiences lately


Dreams

I have had others tell me that when they meditate and astral travel that they can travel to a specific person's mind and dream and insert themselves there. I'm just guessing but maybe a connection there for you and your daughter?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/28/17 11:58:45AM
502 posts

Kid's dream mirrors my own experiences lately


Dreams

Dreams are always hard to interpret. We do know from science that our brains use sleep to problem solve and deal with our fears and frustrations. The media is fierce and really irresponsible these days with the way they over hype everything and focus on continual bad news. It's possible that she just overheard a few doomsday news stories and her mind is working through that. But I don't mean to discount anything empathic from her dream. I just don't see anything that jumps out with obvious meaning other than the fear of losing you to a disaster. And that's a pretty common type of kid dream.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 11:31:59PM
502 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

@kit-kat:

After reading your post I was on another empath site reading random stuff and happened upon this course. I wonder if this could be helpful to you?

https://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/courses/courseoverview.cgi?cid=302

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 11:19:51PM
502 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@angel:

That is quite a story. That's pretty gutsy to visit the gates of hell as a 12 year old. How do you think you acquired bruises and scratches with your physical body in this world while your mind and spirit was somewhere else? I'm always curious how that works. Did you maybe bring something back through with you? And what do you think was the significance of the hooded entities? 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 04:09:29PM
502 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

@empathinboston:

The salt baths really helped with both of my kids. I have them do that at the end of a tough day so they can neutralize that negative and feel calm enough to get a good night's sleep. My daughter wears an obsidian bracelet for protection while my son keeps a small pouch of black tourmaline, shungite, and black onyx in his pocket. I do the same. We've done experiments with and without protections stones and we are all so happy with the results that none of us leave home without them. Maybe give that a try for both of you. And for her it will hopefully give her a sense of what "normal and calm" feels like. And then you can increase the daily grounding for both of you at that point to get to having much better days.

Many of us empaths have either a lot of bad luck or electronics/mechanical things go wrong when we get filled up with a lot of negative energy. Examples are all of a sudden your car won't start, the toaster shorts out, or your cell keeps freezing up. I think this is negative leaking from us impacting our surroundings. With the two of you so close and anxious, there must be a lot of that power going on to knock out bulbs.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 02:41:45PM
502 posts

Son Seeing UFOs


Psychic and Paranormal

@ohda:

I had to have my son completely stop any deep meditating or astral travel. It brought chaos to his life. In addition to seeing strange things in real life since doing astral travel, he also got walloped with an intense increase in his empathy strength. His daily anxiety went sky high and we discovered he was considering doing drugs as a way to feel better. We intervened just in time. I spent some time helping him improve his grounding technique and now have him wear protection stones daily. And I'm happy to report he is back to normal. The lesson learned was that his attempts at astral travel brought about changes in him with things he would see and feel. And it was just too much for our young man to handle.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 02:32:07PM
502 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

@trevor-lewis:

You bring up an excellent point. After responding to this post I saw some other posts from @empathinboston and now understand that she is also an empath who is struggling with anxiety and some negative feelings.

I can say from personal experience that it is very hard for multiple empaths to be under the same roof. But this is fairly common since empaths run in families. In my house 3 out of 4 of us are empaths. We each go about our day and then bring stuff from the world back and it can be a little tough to be together as we feel and upset each other. I practice and have taught each of them when they come home after a tough day to go do a grounding exercise and salt bath soak. It brings our home back to normal and helps them start the next day on an empath reset.

@empathinboston, with a child so young I would imagine that she has a strong connection to you. I agree that it would help both of your to work on grounding and calming yourself. 

 
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