How Ghosts Impact Us
Psychic and Paranormal
That's a great example. He must feel guilt or some sort of unfinished business that is keeping him here. Good to hear that he is pretty harmless. I've dealt with some aggressive ones myself.
I wanted to share an article that I think does an excellent job of explaining the existence of ghosts, and their impact on the living. It even touches on human mood changes and energy draining from ghost activity. And I think that's something quite a few of us have dealt with. I hope you enjoy the article and look forward to some discussion.
As an empath, when you are up to your ears in emotional energy, it can be hard to know who you are. My view is that when we are maxed out on the energy that we have sponged up, we start to leak some of that low energy out as a natural defense mechanism. And that's why you will start mimicking the ugly energy of those around you by acting out as angry, jealous, depressed etc... I think this is a red flag for you to know that you are badly in need of deep cleaning/grounding of the unwanted energy that you take in.
When I am at my worst as far as being ungrounded and full of low eneregy, I start to feel numb. I've heard the same from dozens of other empaths so I think that must be a defense mechanism for us that makes us go numb to try to stop the overload of the energy around us. When you feel like this it's a sign that you need to take time out to get away from people who are overloading you, and take time for some self-work to unload and ground away that unwanted energy.
The way things are supposed to work with us empaths is that we are supposed to take away the ugly emotional energy from the people in our lives, and transmute it back to mother earth, or source. We're basically the cleaners of bad vibes by literally making people feel better by pulling the bad stuff out of the air. But the problem is while the absorbing low energy from others is very natural and automatic to us, the getting rid of that energy from within, is not automatic. We all have to work at that. My advice would be to do daily assessments of yourself to see if you can recognize internal stress or emotional feelings that are not your own. And then take the time to do some meditation grounding, or a salt bath. And quite often when it gets really bad, its advisable to take a mental health day and be by yourself unwinding that unwanted energy by doing what makes you happy (watching movies, taking a solo walk through the forest etc...).
And quick side-note, I think that black spot you are seeing is a ghost. When a ghost has been around for quite a while after death, they often present as a light or dark orb or circle shape. I have been told that just because an orb is black that it does not mean that its bad so I thought I'd point that out. It takes a tremendous amount of energy for a ghost to present in human form. And that's why most often people see ghosts as orbs, black shapes, shadows, and even mist like figures. I see those dark orbs myself at times out of the corner of my eye. For me they hover about 3-4 fee off the ground within a few feet of me. I can only see them out of my peripheral vision. I find that ghosts and other supernatural things are most attracted to us when we are under stress. And when we are under stress we give off negative energy. They feed off of that and need it to survive. So don't be surprised when you are having a bad empath day or bad empath week to find that you'll see and hear an uptick in paranormal activity around you. Its not a coincidence. I've documented this myself. And when I do a thorough grounding, the paranormal activity lessens substantially.
It seems like things with your ghost visitor are progressing as I would expect. It takes a lot of energy for them to produce physical effects in our realm (like a strong smell, or showing themselves). This visitor felt it worth using up a lot of energy to make his announcement to you. It's always hard to understand what they want. But as I understand it, the aura of an empath shines differently and brighter to ghosts and spirits. And they really enjoy our energy. For these reasons, they seek us out trying to communicate even when most of us are unable to do so. Most of the ghosts are stuck and really confused. Some don't realize they have passed. Many of them are desperate for contact, and can be quite persistent.
I am clairaudient. And it sounds like you may be as well. I can hear ghosts making noises and whispering that other people cannot. But most of the time I cannot discern what they are saying. I am still trying to advance my skills with that. And most of the time I get ear ringing when they are around and trying to communicate. So for me what happens often is I'll be out somewhere having dinner with friends enjoying some conversation. And then one or both inner ears will ring with a loud intensity for anywhere between 5-20 seconds. When it happens I feel something in my brain activate where I get a little dazed, and I can't hear a thing that is said in our world. I only hear the ringing. It's frustrating because I get cut off from hearing people speak in our world, and just get the intense ear ringing from the spirit world that I so far can't translate. (I am told that as I advance my skills that the ear ringing will tune in my mind to being able to hear what the ghosts and spirits are communicating).
I notice that some of the most intense ear ringing happens during a fun and happy time like while entertaining good friends or having Thanksgiving dinner with my extended family. I think the happy energy attracts them. And it's also possible that relatives or friends at that table have dead relatives coming through trying to get me to communicate and pass on a message.
In getting back to you, I think most likely this ghost recognizes you have gifts and is trying to communicate. Its possible that the ghost is jealous (although that's probably unlikely). But it also could be a ghost reacting to the positive energy that you emote when you and your boyfriend are enjoying time together. And it could also be someone dead connected to your boyfriend that may be trying to get you to deliver a message. As in my case, they seem to know who we are and that we can communicate with them even when skill-wise we're not yet at that point.
It will interesting to hear from you how long this ghost hangs around. I find most get frustrated after a few days of trying to communicate with me and they move on. But then I always get another visiting soon after.
I forgot to note that animals can be helpful in detecting paranormal activity in many cases. Except when they become desensitized to it. I have two dogs. And when they were much younger they would scare the crud out of me barking fearfully at various corners of the house at night. But nowadays, their attitude is "unless the ghost is handing out treats, we're going about our night and won't waste time barking at it". I've caught them many times watching unseen things with their eyeballs following something walking across the room. But they don't usually bark at things anymore. I think they see this so often its pretty ho-hum to them. However, I do think if something more negative would appear that they would react.
I wonder similarly that your cat is okay with a harmless ghost hanging around. Many mediums say there is pretty much a ghost everywhere you go. If that's the case, I think animals become more adjusted to a regular harmless ghost passing by here and there.
Has the smoking smell gone away and is your activity still there?
I don't know about you, but when I am stressed and sleep deprived, I have more paranormal incidents. And that includes ghosts waking me up in the middle of the night. I've talked to a 1/2 dozen other empaths and it works the same for them as well.There's something to having your psychic abilities increase when under duress. So I think you may be able to lessen the contact attempts in the middle of the night by having less stressful days with better sleep. I know this is easier said than done. But thought I'd point that out.
I used to love that show Medium. And on that show the main psychic character would often interact with lost ghosts with a story to tell in her sleep. And quite often those ghosts would wake her up as a way to get her attention. I think there is some of that going on for you. I think these ghosts, these restless souls, see empaths as a beacon of light. I think our auras shine brighter to them. And they seek us out. They somehow know we can communicate with them even when most of us are not advanced enough to do our part of the communicating. And as a result we can often feel like we're being haunted by something uncomfortable when it is in fact just a harmless ghost trying to get some help.
As you know from our discussions, I've probably dealt with more than 50 ghosts in my house over the past 15 years. They seem attracted to my house and family. They just show themselves or make a little noise, or even try to wake me up or appear in my sleep. But most leave after a day or two. Its a bit of a revolving door. I think in my case since we have 3 empaths living here, that my home must shine bright to them. So long story short, I don't think you need to be worried. You may want to just ignore the ghost and see if it goes away on its own. And if needed you can ask it to leave or sage to encourage it to leave.
I notice that whenever I investigate or try to zero in on ghosts, their activity increases. At first I thought it was just my mind playing tricks on me due to spending time thinking about ghosts. But in speaking to others I learned that when you spend time focusing on a particular ghost or subject, you create a link or connection through channeling. This may be why you're starting to see more activity and pick up on more vibes on what is near you. I also notice that a ghost tends to give off a smell initially as if announcing themselves. And then you typically don't smell them after the first event.
So for me, I'll smell something. And then the smell goes away, but then I'll feel their presence and hear them from that point on. I usually don't see ghosts. But being clairaudient, I hear them whisper, move, knock on windows & walls etc... That's usually how I know they are around. I also get a lot of ear ringing and sometimes get little energetic zaps/shocks on my skin from ghosts. In any event, I'm curious if your experience is like mine where you smell something out of place, and then the smell goes away and then transitions to other feelings or signals that someone unseen is hanging around.
I've smelled spirits leaving scents like cigar smoke, cigarettes, Old Spice cologne, woman's perfume, B.O., and even fart-like smells. I usually smell them when I walk in to a room. So my guess for you is that you may have a ghost who is following you that may be leaving that scent very close to you. I had a psychic once refer to those types of ghosts as hitch-hikers. They basically jump on your back and hang around for a while. If it doesn't go away after a couple days you could try saging and asking it to leave.
I used to have very mysterious dreams. They confused me and I always wondered if someone was trying to send me a message. I decided to speak out loud to my spirit guides to ask if they are sending me dreams or signals to make it much more obvious. And that seemed to correct that as I am getting much more clear and decipherable dreams and signals now. Although I do think that some of the strange dreams are meant to plant a seed deep in your subconscious to develop certain skills and beliefs over time that will help you with your life's purpose. So there is always that.
The intensity of the emotion definitely delivers a more clear message to me as an empath. But that's not telepathy for me, that's just analyzing a person based on their energy signals (I call it empath radar transmission). My challenge is that the emotional empath part of my brain shuts down any telepathy. In face to face I'll get a pretty good emotional energy read on a person. But my empath radar and telepathy don't currently work together. This is why the telepathy only works when I look away from a person. I also think my mind has to be really relaxed for the telepathy to work. And when I am face to face with a person my mind is engaged too much for the telepathy to work. But I'm still trying to understand this. I appreciate everyone's feedback.
That's another part of it. I often will fill in the blank on what someone has to say. It also happens while having the TV on in the background. I'll be able to finish people's sentences. But it works best when I'm not really paying attention. I have to relax my mind and not focus on anything particular in order for the telepathy to come through.
I wanted to touch on the subject of telepathy to see if any of you have ever had this happen? My psychic abilities seem to always be changing. Some things weaken, while others strengthen. And the ability to read people's minds seems to be the latest skill in transition. I quite often randomly will have an idea pop in to my head and will announce it to others around me. And they will say that's really weird, I was just thinking about that. This happens most often with my wife. In fact, she is creeped out at this point because several times a day she will have a private thought and I'll within seconds bring up the exact same thought. Except that it doesn't come to me like "she is thinking this right now". I'll instead have a thought pop in to my head and I'll say "whatever happened with so and so" or "how are things going with the redecorating of our dining room?" And she'll say she was just seconds ago thinking of exactly that. This happens most often with her. But also with other people as well.
I find that this telepathy seems to work best when I am not face to face with someone. I think watching someone's body language plus my usual empath emotional radar distorts the telepathy when face to face. But if I am working on something with my back turned to someone, I will then have these isolated thoughts pop in to my mind that are later determined to be exactly what that person was thinking. Has anyone else experienced this? I'd like to learn more on how to develop this.
It sounds like you need support right now, so I'll try to do that while offering a basic suggestion.
I think we empaths need regular hugs and/or pats on the back. Because life for us can be day to day challenging. Every day we wake up we don't know whether to expect the worst. Will it be a good day? Will it be a bad day? We just don't know what energy we'll encounter each day and where it will lead us. And since we are energy sponges that tends to focus on picking up and removing low energy, we quite often get the blues, and get run down from just being us. So all I can say is great job, being you. And many thanks for the contributions that you are making daily to better the lives of people around you.
As for your comments on seasonal changes impacting you, I have a couple thoughts. First off, in analyzing the words in your post, you mentioned "I think this time of year is when I am most vulnerable." But then the later 2/3 of your post did not really mention how this season brings you down. You instead noted how voices and people are impacting you during this time. And that you'd rather not interact with people right now.
I have to assume it's the start of fall where you live (correct me if I'm wrong). And fall can trigger a change of emotions for a lot of humans. Summer is a fun and exciting time. The suns out. People moods are generally good. Most people fit in a vacation. It's a great time. And when that party ends, fall comes and it starts getting cold, and the sunlit days get shorter. Flu season hits. And many people do not do well with Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years for a variety of reasons. In general, there's more moody people around in fall. More low energy to deal with. I could be wrong, but I don't think it's the season changing that is so much a problem for you. It's how your subconscious has remembered in recent years how tough it was being an empath during fall when you have to deal with the mood changes of the people around you. I see it as a people energy problem, and not the season itself.
I think the good news is that by recognizing the problem, you can find ways to counter it. Maybe staying at home for a few days here and there to recharge yourself by doing things that you love isn't such a bad idea. Its pretty well documented that even when empaths have only one other person with them in a house, that they are "on" and are not relaxing their brains. Empaths need a "me day" with no one else around just to recharge (as often as possible). And every season has some great parts to it. Whether its hiking in the woods enjoying the changing of the leaves on the trees. Or decorating for Halloween while sipping pumpkin spiced latte. I'm sure there must be some things to do in fall that you really enjoy. The point is to try to flip your mindset from "I really don't enjoy this season" to "wow, I just had a great time hiking in the woods enjoying nature in the transition of fall and it was a terrific time". Life is about creating good memories. Try to off-set the moods of people around you with some terrific seasonal memories focusing on doing things that you love to do. Things that revive and inspire you. And as an empath, it's all about keeping our vibrations high no matter what the season. Do that by doing things that you love. Things that make your heart and soul sing.
Best of luck. Be happy!
Side note to the above, there is a very small percentage of people who actually get more suicidal on certain anti-depressants (particularly teens). If you and your cousin think that prescription made her feel worse and not better, then you can let your doctor know and they'll recommend a different drug to try.
I thought I'd share a quick story to see if this helps you. I have a teenage daughter who is a very gifted empath. And she's had a tough year. And she started becoming suicidal. I did what I could to help her on the spiritual side. And we got her a therapist. The therapist recommended that she see a psychiatrist and start anti-depressants. And I really resisted because I am generally against pharmaceuticals. But my daughter's condition worsened so my hand was forced. We took her to a psychiatrist who got her on Prozac. And it's the best thing that could have happened. She has had a dramatic improvement.
The anti-depressants of course don't solve the issues that got her to this point. But with my daughter having to be among teenagers and all those heavy feelings at school each day, the anti-depressant really helps her cope.
We lose a lot of empaths to suicides. Empaths feel so deeply. And can easily spiral down when things around them bring them down. I would suggest taking another look at anti-depressants for your cousin.
And as for you feeling an overwhelming sensation of emotions that you characterized as an attack, I would totally expect that if you are living with someone who is struggling with depression and suicidal feelings. That's a lot of low energy being emitted at great volume in your home. As an empath, you're going to feel that intensely. But I think once you get your cousin back to more balance, you'll have less of her low energy to deal with.
I hope this all gets better for you and your cousin!
I think you guys covered this pretty well. But the litmus tests for empaths is that we always think of others before ourselves. Narcs are the opposite, they are always looking out for themselves and what they can take in every situation. But narcs in trying to attract an empath can be quite charming and a bit of a chameleon. They can act like someone else if that's what it takes to ensnare an empath. So you can sometimes have a narc act like an empath early on. But soon enough you'll see them for who they are.
This is not say empaths are perfect angels. We're only human and can have our own selfish moments. But at our core, we're the ones who will give the shirt off our backs to help someone.
On the topic of CBD gummies, they are legal and can ship to all 50 states since the oil is derived from hemp oil. I struggle as an empath with nervous energy from others on airplanes. So I tried these gummies out and they worked really well. I also had them on another day when I was pretty stressed out. They just chill you out and get you a little numb. But its a functional numb where you can still talk and drive. It's very interesting how they work and make you feel. Here's a link:
Some empaths are very sensitive to animal energy in meat. I wonder if that's why Vegan makes you feel better and more energized? Because biologically, humans are supposed to ingest meat protein as a main staple. So I'm curious on the vegan move for you two? Unless of course you have allergies or stomach issues that are better suited for a veggie diet.
I recently read a book about protection techniques, and it said that it recommends wearing protection stones in your left pocket since low energy has been known to enter around the left hip area. I naturally keep protection stones on my left pocket so I was glad to hear that I picked the correct side. Interesting that you prefer them on the right.
Rose quartz is a terrific stone for everyone, and works particularly well for females. Good pick there. Fluorite is similar in that it helps balance you and stabilize the upper chakras. Some crystals enhance the strength of others, while some don't play well with others. You generally want to do a little homework and find out what pairs well, and what makes you feel the best or worst as a combination. You mentioned that you also have other stones for each chakra? If so, it is definitely possible that you may be over powering yourself with too many at once. You may want to start off the first few days with less stones. And then slowly add more two days later to allow you time to adjust. And if all these stones are already stringed as a necklace, then just wear it for shorter periods of time at first and then increase gradually. It's very normal to have certain stones overwhelm you. Some are at a much higher vibration to you, so it can make you feel nauseous, dizzy, or a little off until you adjust. And like you, I often feel overwhelmed in crystal shops. There's just too much going on all at once for me so I usually don't stay in there more than 20 minutes at a time.
I also agree with what everyone said about cleaning. Always clean new stones. I find that laying them out in the sun for 24 hours does the trick. And then as you use them you will need to refresh their energy by continuing to lay them out in the sun after a few days (or in salt, moonlight, or whatever you feel works best). I personally noticed my stones worked better from sunlight energy, and didn't do that well with moonlight. But maybe that's just my luck in my area.
As a guy, I'm not sure how to help you with the pregnancy signs. I've had periods of times when I've seen pregnant ladies everywhere to the point where I joked about something must be in the water. It never related to anything in my life. That's what's tricky about signs. It can be hard to know what's a sign, and what's just random in your environment.
But spiders is something that I am very familiar with. Are they real spiders that hang around? Or are they things that you see out of the corner of your eye that quickly disappear? And are they large or more traditional sized spiders? And do you see them hanging around the ceiling in groups? Are they black? (Sorry for all of the questions, but if these spiders are paranormal, I have an idea what they are).
A few thoughts to share while I am waiting for you to get back to me on the questions above. A lot of empaths struggle with things that go on that they think can best be explained by mental illness. And while I think you should rule out mental illness with a doctor's visit, here are some other possible explanations for what you are experiencing:
*Marijuana these days on average has crazy high levels of THC. It is estimated to have 70% more potency than what marijuna had in the 70s. And that THC as you may know, is what has psychoactive effects.
*The pineal gland is known to be connected to our 3rd eye. The pineal gland is already very active in people who are empathic/psychic. When you smoke weed as an empath, you are super charging the impact on your third eye. When humans consume psychiatric drugs, it affects this complex cascade of activity in the pineal gland, in conjunction with various other parts of the brain, to give a subjectively altered state of perception.
Based on the science, and my personal view, it can be a bit dangerous for anyone with psychic abilities to smoke weed since the effects are much stronger than they would be on a non-empath person. It can be very intense and scary. You're going to hallucinate more, and have a much tougher time dealing with the after effects on your brain. And I have heard from many empaths who have suffered from hallucinations and general "out of it slugishness" even 3 days after smoking weed. That's the unpleasant after effect for an empath.
When you are sober as an empath, you can also go through periods where things get very weird with paranormal and inexplicable surreal events that are happening. And I don't know why this is, but as an empath when you are overstimulated and ungrounded, you can and will experience hightened sensitivity and strange paranormal things. I think when we are under that kind of stress, our chakras are just too open, and what we experience is too strong. In some cases the things you experience in that state may cause you to be confused and think you are losing your mind. And I have personally experienced being ungrounded and low vibration having unseen things visit me and try to attach to my aura. Just as said, you can be overwhelmed with energy that you are absorbing from the living and non-living worlds. And lastly, gave you some really good advice on how to ground yourself and raise your vibration. A good 20-30 minute soak in a salt bath can do wonders for making you feel better (it helps pull out unwanted energy so your vibration can return to its normal high level). I would suggest doing a bath with some nice relaxing music and see if that makes you feel better. Most of us do 1-2 salt baths a week for general maintenance to rid us of unwanted energy and keep us grounded and balanced. But when you're having a tough time, there is a lot of benefit to doing a daily salt bath. I like to do them before bedtime so that I wash away the unwanted energy from the day and sleep better. And meditating is also an excellent way to unwind and ground yourself. (Although I find that since a lot of people struggle to relax and meditate that the salt baths are just easier).
And on a final note on the depersonalization, I had to help my teenage empath son through that. He got hit with almost daily periods of depersonalization for a few months. We think it may have come at a time when his skills were in transition. But he was also pretty stressed and ungrounded so I think there is a connection there. For him, doing salt baths and getting improved sleep did the trick for getting balanced. And once balanced, the depersonalization went away. My two cents for you is that depersonalization is something that happens to some empaths at times. It's a red flag for you to just slow things down and do some self-care to get grounded. Try some of these suggestions and we'd love to hear if it is improving your situation.
Congrats on this. It looks awesome!
Great topic. My favorite so far is being able to feel and analyze energy as a way to be able to help a person or group understand how to better their lives. Often times when someone is hurting or upset they will verbalize some but not all that bothers them. Same for a dysfunctional group. I love being able to cut past everyone's blocks and reservations and be able to tell them who I feel that they are, and bring to light what is making them unhappy. It brings about a unique honesty that really helps with talking and healing.
I like you don't have many resources locally that I have found yet. As a result, I've done a ton of reading. And I have found several really good books. Below are two books that I read a couple years back that really helped me understand what being an empath is all about, and how energy works. Here are Amazon links to give you a quick reference:
The first one is basically the beginners guide to being an empath. The second one covers more of the energy topic. The second book also made me aware of how much emotional energy we humans put on our spoken word. It made me realize better the people at work and in my life who use negative stressful words on a regular basis that bring me and others down. In recognizing this I was able to know who the problem people are and try to avoid them. This knowledge also allowed me to actually reduce stress by changing my own speaking habits of accidentally using negative words or hyperbole. I now limit negative word phrases like "I had a brutal day today", and instead choose to say "I had some challenges at work today". It's amazing the power that words have because making statements like "I had a brutal day today" makes me feel really negative saying it, and then projects that negative on to my wife or whoever is hearing me say it. Whereas choosing to use words like "I had some challenges at work today", is a calmer, more neutral way of explaining my day. And I'm not projecting any negativity while getting the same story across.
Both are excellent books. And the authors who are both shamans who made it a fun read by illustrating all the levels of empathy through a fictional story line.
Sometimes I am in awe of the knowing ability. Especially if I can help someone avoid a problem, or solve a problem with it.
But other times it is very random and makes me wonder what was the point of it at that moment? As an example, I was at a birthday party last night for a friend. And they hired a comedian to perform at the party. And at two points during his comedy act my knowing kicked in and gave me the punch line to his joke. And it wasn't anything I could have guessed at. And I knew word for word what his punchline was a few seconds in advance to him saying it out loud. This also happens a lot to me during TV and movies where I'll know the line before it is spoken when I've never seen the show before. If this is knowing, I'm not sure what the purpose is for me to know something so random. Unless it's just my subconscious testing out the use. And sometimes, like in the case of this comedian, I wonder is it my knowing that is working or is it some sort of telepathy where I am picking up on what a person is thinking and is about to say? And then when it happens on previously recorded TV or movies, it couldn't be telepathy if I know in advance what a person is going to say in a movie that wrapped production a year or more ago? So I get confused between the relationship between knowing and telepathy.
I think the empath fatigue we get from our energy exchanges, are just part of the deal for a developing empath. Perhaps it's a lesson to be learned to better control our energy exchange skills to be used sparingly and in the right circumstances. As opposed to how the majority of empaths exist, myself included, who don't yet have full control. And we accidentally exhaust ourselves with our empath radar being up and working on everyone.
This is probably a terrible analogy, but I can't think of a better one. I live in rattlesnake country so this came to mind as a way to explain empath fatigue. And the young youth snakes put themselves in danger because they release all of their venom in their first encounter. So if they are out hunting for a mouse, for example, a young snake will through inexperience use enough venom to kill 10 mice in a one mouse hunting attack. They then get fatigued, and will need many hours or even days to rebuild their venom stores. That leaves the young snake unable to defend against predator attacks in the meantime, and also limits their options to continue hunting for food. On the other hand, an adult rattlesnake knows how to use its venom sparingly. And knows to be picky and very selective on when to hunt, when to fight, with an emphasis on rationing its venom.
I think we empaths are very often like a young rattler in how we use our gift. Most of us, myself included, don't know how to ration our gift and be selective with who we use it on. We might go out to dinner at a crowded restaurant with our empath radar on full and pick up all of the energy in the restaurant thereby allowing an energy exchange with many random people. And that exhausts us. We can also while picking up on all that energy pick up and become like the low energy in the room (nervous energy, sad, angry etc...).
I was recently reading an article by a pretty famous psychic who is very skilled at putting a protective white light bubble around her to protect the empath part of her. That way when she walks into a busy restaurant or public place, she isn't allowing an energy exchange with anyone. She only puts her empath skills to work selectively when she decides someone needs her help. This makes her more powerful and effective on people who she helps, when she chooses to help them. And she doesn't spend her day struggling with any exhaustion from overuse of her resources. And like the adult snake in my above example, she is being highly efficient by being selective.
In a round about way to come full circle on the original question in this post, I think we can manage the fatigue and emotional effects with protection crystals, salt baths, rest etc... But the real relief and much more emotionally stable existence will come once we master our gift and learn how to go through life without having our empath radar on high ready to interact with everyone we meet.
I definitely was not referring to you or anyone else that I've communicated with in this community. I'm sorry you got that impression. But rest assured, I don't pick up on any of that within you. I know you struggle with pain and depression. And I can sense that, but not as a deep blackness as I described. What I do pick up from you is quite a special light inside. I know you often don't feel well. But despite that, your light to me is still burning strong and is unique.
I think when exchanging messages here online I can get a partial scan of each person's energy. But its not as complete as when I meet a person one on one and look into their eyes. There's is something to it when they say the eyes are the window to the soul. And that's how it works for me. I don't how many of you have met a severely depressed person in person. But when I do there is a blackness and dimly lit soul that I pick up on. When its a severely depressed person, I feel immense sadness from them on a level that is hard for me to help with (the very low energy they put off really knocks me off my game). When I meet a person like that, it feels like a 2-3 empath person job to really be able to help them.
I have also met on occasion some deeply disturbed psychotic people from time to time (the kind of person who you meet and within seconds you feel and visualize them having the capacity to gun down everyone in the room at any second). And there is that same blackness to them but at a deeper scarier level. I get the chills when I meet someone like that and it makes me want to run the heck out of there.
Anyway, does anyone else pick up the overwhelming low energy from severely depressed or psychotic people? And I don't want anyone to accidentally misread this and lump them in the same category. They are two very different examples of people expressing very low energy vibration (the former showing sadness, and the later showing as pure evil).
I think what you refer to as deja vu in reverse, is really the "knowing" ability with a twist. I also have a deep sense of knowing when it comes to helping others. I'll just have an idea pop into my mind that this is going to happen, or this is the answer. It comes with a feeling of confirmation that can be best described as "believe it, this will happen". Your knowing seems to come with an extra feeling of confirmation as well as "this was coming, this is now here". I think we humans too often doubt or analyze what we feel and hear. I think the extra confirmation that you and I get is like an exclamation point from spirit telling us to believe what he hear or think. It helps me a lot since being a skeptic is part of my wiring so I unfortunately do doubt a lot of what I receive as messages. But the extra confirmation feeling really erases that skepticism and compels me to get the message out to whoever it is intended.
For me the 3-5 second trance with no memory always happens when there are dozens of people around me. There is loud and increasing ear ringing that goes along with it. My best guess is that I'm either being downloaded info. so my brain needs to shut down momentarily to do that, or I may be getting communicated with by ghosts and spirits that surround people in the room. If it is the later, then I think I'm not yet ready to "hear" the message and that's why I don't have anything to recall. But it's just a guess at this point. I'm taking notes as this happens more to try to figure it out.
I have experienced both myself and had to help family members with it. Here's my take:
Depression is typically called the blues. You feel low, not yourself. You don't hate yourself, but you're also not thrilled with yourself and your life at that moment. In this state you tend to focus on the bad in your life without logically balancing it out with the good in your life. There is usually some anxiety mixed in with this phase (although the anxiety may be an empath thing). Depression can last days, months, or years. You'll have good days, and bad days and ride that roller coaster. If depression continues for any length of time one will generally experience a day to day loss of joy along with an unhealthy focus on the bad in themselves and their life. Brain chemistry will become unbalanced and deteriorate.
Severe Depression is when depression spirals to an even lower level/lower vibration. From a medical standpoint, there is a significant change in brain chemistry at this point where the feel good chemicals like serotonin and dopamine malfunction and a person feels numb instead of joy. A person going through this will often have trouble sleeping and lose their appetite. This is the danger zone for an empath as I believe when we hit severe depression we are often being pushed and held down there by dark entities that want to suppress our light and cause us to emit low energy that they absorb. I know this is a dark topic. And some people may disagree with this theory. But I speak from personal experience on this matter. Even if you do disagree with this theory, I think what we can all agree on is that severely depressed people are stuck in a mental and emotional hole that they don't feel that they can get out of. They feel completely helpless, and completely worthless. Logic flies out the window and a person who is severely depressed cannot see any hope that any part of their life is good. There is a complete loss of joy, and hope. And worst of all, they hate themselves and self sabotage their life. A severely depressed person will often seek drugs or alcohol abuse as a way to try to feel better. And that just makes things worse. And lastly, a severely depressed person is at high risk for suicide.
As an empath, a severely depressed person will present to you as emotionally black (if that makes sense). There is a darkness in the severely depressed that is really unsettling that I pick up on. It is so intense, that it can be very challenging for me to try to help as an empath and remove some of that darkness from them. At that point it's like a 2-3 empath person job to try to offload some of their pain and darkness since the emotional low energy is so strong. And when I say darkness, I don't mean evil. I mean their inner light is being extinquished, and it doesn't feel like their soul is 100% here.
I think our society has unfairly programmed us to think that the depressed or mentally ill are weak and are outcasts. And for that reason a lot of people get depressed and try to hide it and tough it out as they hope it will just pass. And it can often get dangerously worse to where they can become a danger to themselves and others. It's highly beneficial to get a depressed person to see a doctor and when appropriate and medically advised, start anti-depression meds. The chemical changes in the brain during depression is well documented, and can be successfully treated in most cases.
I think once you are a few years into your spiritual awakening you pretty much have an understanding what you major and what you minor in psychically speaking.
Your second question is a good one. For me, my clairaudient and claircognizance compete as the dominant skill for me. And then more as a minor skill, I get clairvoyance randomly at times. But my clairsentience, the empath part of me that used to be dominant, has dropped off a bit while the other clair skills have advanced.
There has been many times over the past year where I find myself not picking up on the emotional energy of people around me like I usually would. In fact, sometimes it is so obvious that I am deeply confused as an empath that I missed that someone around me was really upset or hurt. After thinking about it for a while I reasoned that I'm pretty sure that I'm being programmed regularly for my spiritual advancement. And as part of that, perhaps at times my empathy or clairsentience is dulled so that I can properly focus on my other skills? Being an empath is very challenging and confusing to deal with the constant bombardment of emotional energy. And logically speaking, it would make sense for that skill to be turned down once in a while so that you can focus on the new skills that will perhaps play a larger part in your life path. That's my theory anyway.
Here's what I know for each:
This link goes into deeper definitions:
If I am understanding you correctly, I think you may be clairsentient.
A quick note on the definition of this to anyone who is not familiar:
Clairsentience, which means clear sensing, is the ability to feel the present, past or future physical and emotional states of others, without the use of the normal five senses. Psychics who areclairsentient are able to retrieve information from houses, public buildings and outside areas.
I see a lot of websites advertising services to teach you how to develop all of your clairs so that you can become an awesome psychic and rule the world (LOL). But I am reminded of the scientific debate about homosexuality that took place in the 80s. And that debate was, are people gay because they were born that way, or are they gay because of their environment that pushed them in that direction (officially known as nature versus nurture debate).
I hear quite a few psychics claim that every human has the ability to be empathic and obtain advanced psychic abilities. But after examining narcs and sociopaths, I completely disagree that those types could be empathic. That would go against every fiber of their being. And while it is possible that we humans could have a brain predisposed to be able to obtain and use psychic ability, I think the vast majority of humans never will (unless we have technological advances that do that for them). So to give you a long answer to your question, I think nature plays a role in psychic abilities. And I think we are born with a certain amount of abilities in that area. And for example, I am naturally clairaudient, but I don't think I'm wired to be clairsentient. I don't think I was given the skills to be able to learn and advance that skill. And I think what supports that is you'll see a lot of well known psychics who all sense things very differently, and rarely have multiple clair skills. Some talk to spirit guides for info., some talk directly to spirits but only see images and symbols in communication, and the clairsentients walk in a building and can see immediate images of the people history there.
And I don't mean to discourage you in any way. I just thought I'd open up a discussion on whether its possible to learn. practice, and experience different "clair abilities". This very well may be a core skill of yours. And if so, the below link will maybe help you find a direction on where to learn more.
You can Google around and find plenty of spiritual sites offering to provide you an online course on this type of thing. But I suspect its not an easy skill to learn, and that many of these courses are just money making schemes. The gentleman below is someone who I like to read his blog and podcasts because he covers a wide range of psychic topics, with many visiting psychic guests. And I'd be willing to bet that he has an old podcast or article in his web archive where you can hear from a few experts who offer legitimate clairsentient courses. Here's the link:
Thank you again for your sage advice. I really enjoy your hearing your thoughts and opinion.
If you or anyone else understands or experiences trances, please help me better understand them. I have had trances before where I get a little movie or see something (similar to day dreaming, but there is always more to it like a deliberate message). Anyway, those trances I always remember vividly. But I also get these other trances for a very short duration where I don't have any memory of what happened, it is a true lapse in time for me. When it happens it may only be for 3-5 seconds. And I have no idea where my mind goes when it happens. It almost always happens when I'm speaking to someone one on one in a crowded room. Usually my ears will all of a sudden ring with an increasing intensity. I'll be looking the person I'm talking to right in the eye as I listen to them. But then I'll blink out in a trance and go somewhere for a few seconds with no recollection of what just happened. And when I snap out of it, the person I am talking to usually looks at me funny as if I was looking bored or distracted. It must be pretty obvious to the person I'm speaking to that my mind just went somewhere else. The frequency is very random as I may have an experience like this only one time a month, or it could happen 5 times in a week. And it never happens with someone close to me like my wife, kids, or best friend. It can happen with someone I know who I am friendly with, but not emotionally connected to like a close friend. And quite often it happens with strangers. Any ideas as to what this is, and its purpose?
You sound like I get when I'm at my worst and ungrounded. I get to where I'll sit down with some people who otherwise have good energy, and start shaking and getting panic attacks. Thankfully for me, I got a handle on all that and haven't really felt like that in a few years. Although airports still set me off.
I wonder if during your chakra work, you maybe have some chakras left too wide? And aside from that, being ungrounded can happen even when your chakras are seemingly in good function. As an empath you can start your day perfectly grounded, and have enough intense energy around you that quickly lowers your vibration.
That doesn't surprise me, that the feeling didn't go away right when you left the building. You absorbed some energy that was really tough for you, but that doesn't disappear when you exit. The only time you will feel immediate relief from leaving a place is if someone or something was projecting a psychic attack on you. In this case, you picked up energy that overwhelmed you. And it sometimes can take a couple days on your own to truly get that out of your system. If you happen to be home now, try taking a nice warm salt bath with a cup and a half of rock salt. Put some relaxing music and do some breathing exercises aimed to breathe out the stress. Sit in the tub for 20+ minutes and you should feel a lot better.
I had a couple other ideas for you that I'll send you a PM message on.
Thanks for your kind comments. And now that you mention it, I also often zone out when speaking to people. They always give me a look like I'm not really listening to them. But every now and then I'll be speaking to someone one on one in an area where there are a lot of people nearby, and I'll zone out and stop hearing them completely. I'm not sure where my mind goes when I zone out, its a little bit of everything. I'm always a little embarrassed when I get caught doing this because I don't want to come off as disrespectful or make the person think they are boring me. But I can't control the zone out as it just happens. It must have something to do with all of the people in an area that are overloading my empath radar because it seems to happen most often in public places.
My experience in public is similar to what some empaths have told me happen to them (but not all). Sometimes if I walk into a very busy public place like a Costco, dozens of people will turn around to look at me as I walk in. And it's not a quick look at me, but a gaze at me for 10-15 seconds. It always makes me feel a bit weird as if maybe I forgot to put on my pants and walked in wearing undies. And then usually most of those people after a short while will go back to their business. But there are always a few who watch me and even follow me in a store. And some will approach me and without introduction as if they already know me, they will dump their whole life story of troubles on me. They always have a similar almost trance-like look in their eyes, and they speak with a steady high volume of words with no pauses. All I can say is that these people usually act in the same odd fashion like a computer trying to hurry a download of a large file. And I'll be stuck cornered for 15 minutes or so just nodding my head trying to be polite while I hear about all their problems. And then boom, they're gone without much of a good-bye. And they usually have a smile on their face with a calm air about them. I can tell the interaction lifted their spirits. But I'll feel a little weighted down and low. It's the classic empath energy exchange. Anyway, I have posted about this before and this seems to happen to quite a few of us. I will say it doesn't happen to me all of the time. It's kind of random and I don't understand how it all works. I will say its very creepy to have dozens of people to turn around in unison to stare at me as I enter a store. And creepier still, when I get stalked by a stranger or two while shopping. And these kind of interactions can really physically and emotionally exhaust be so I typically avoid public places unless I am have a good empath day.
As I have noted, good sleep is incredibly important for me to keep my head on straight as an empath. Whenever I have a bad sleep night and wake up feeling like I'm between two worlds it is a miserable experience that day. I'm no good for anyone, including myself. Like most of us empaths, I have a long history with trouble sleeping. It's actually double for me because fairly often I have paranormal things happening in my bedroom that wake me up. I don't use any pharma drugs to sleep and never have. But I do pretty well getting a deep sleep with melatonin supplements most nights, or a benadryl tab. And since getting good sleep is so important for my well being, I don't think I am missing much by sleeping through anything paranormal. I do, however, think we empaths get taught and programmed in our sleep through our subconscious mind. But you need to be asleep to take advantage of that.
Thanks again for your comments and questions.
I haven't experienced things the way you describe. But quite often I tell my wife and kids that I feel in between worlds for a day. It's hard to get people to understand what I mean but I only feel like I'm half here because my mind seems to also be accessing something from another place and it limits my ability to function that day in our realm. It usually happens after 1-2 bad nights of sleep when I am really overly tired. Sometimes it happens during a very stressful period in my life that also causes sleeplessness. I just wake up feeling really off. I get unusually cranky, have trouble concentrating and being present in this reality. People will talk to me and I won't hear them clearly or I hear them but it processes in my mind really slow so I have to pause a lot when conversing. It makes people look at me funny. I think my eyes also change because people who know me look deeply into me eyes as if trying to search for the usual me (it may be that my soul is not 100% here and people pick up on that in my eyes). During an event like this my psychic powers are on high and I get a lot of weird visions and slip in and out of trances/daydreams all day long. And a lot of paranormal things happen with seeing and hearing strange things. My ears ring like crazy. For that day it feels like I am sleep walking through the day. And then I'll go to bed that night and get some sleep and return to normal the next day. I've always wondered what that is all about.
My wife suffers from insomnia quite often and she does a great job of not letting it affect her mood. So she always tells me she has never met a person like me that has such a dramatic personality change, and who is so functionally handicapped after a bad night of sleep. But it is definitely an empath thing. I just don't know what the reason is or purpose is.
Important question: How is that you have two guys in your life who make the bed? My wife would like to know your secret!
You've discovered the magic of crystals and stones. They can be magical medicine for empaths. They can sometimes work on non-empaths, although I find many non-empaths block any benefit (particularly if they assign a negative image such as witchcraft or new age crap to it). When I first started using crystals and stones, I went in with some disbelief, and they didn't start working until I changed my attitude. You have to be all in and believe in what they do for them to work. You also have to take good care of them weekly with cleanings, and re-energizing them in the sun or in salt. And if you take care of them, they'll take care of you. (Just remember that you cannot put an amethyst in the sun as the color and energy will fade. Place them in a bowl of salt overnight to clear and energize them).
You picked the right crystal by using amethyst. Amethyst crystal therapies are primarily associated with physical ailments of the nervous system, the curing of nightmares and insomnia, and balancing the crown chakra.
Rose Quartz is another nice crystal. Although I find that it works better for calming females. It has a bit of a reputation as a female energy stone. So I'm not sure if your TF will experience much from it. But that said, I like having it around because the females in my home are the ones who are most emotional and I find it helps calm them.
You wrote a lot after you mentioned the crystals. And I'm not sure if there was a question in there covering the last half of your post? But it kind of sounds like your relationship with your ex has run its course. That may be hard for you to hear. But in reading your words and feeling your energy, I think you deep down know where you are at with him. It's very important for an empath to match with a spouse or significant other who listens and understands who we are and what we go through. Otherwise it is very difficult to co-exist. It's troubling that your ex is angry about you putting crystals under your pillow. It's not a big deal and is for your own good and will make you a better person with improved sleep. It seems if he is angry about something as small like that, then you two probably have much deeper issues and damage, and almost anything could have set him off. If he's open to joint counseling, and improving your relationship then I say go for it. But if not, then it sounds like your relationship is floundering and it is putting your vibration in a holding pattern on the low end of the spectrum. And that's keeping you as an empath from being and feeling your best.
I wish you well and hope you figure it out.
I can relate to that. Before I realized what an empath was, and discovered that I was an empath, I was a mess. I was the opposite of grounded. And it felt like someone had ripped the fabric of my reality. And then once I figured out how to ground the energy that I took in, boom, I returned to normal.
When doing a deep grounding/rebalancing like that, you are raising your vibration. That's why you feel lighter and more energetic. And while your vibration is high like that, you have an extra layer of spiritual armor. That's why you feel like you can handle certain people easier at this time. The trick for all of is to work on keeping your vibration high because as an empath you can't help but absorb the energy around you. And that will start lowering your vibration again. But since you now have some techniques that work for you, you'll know what to do when you start feeling down.
I saw your note about seeing numbers repeat. I see a lot of repeating numbers that I believe are angel numbers. When I look up the definition they are pretty positive and often are highlighting things in my life that are relevant. I also took my daughter to a well known psychic in our area recently for some life coaching for her. And the psychic said she believes heavily in numerology. So this topic continues to fascinate me as well. If it helps you, here is a good website link where you can look up the meaning of numbers that you are seeing often in your daily life.
Thanks for bringing this topic up. This is one of the skills I'm trying to advance on as well. There are times when thoughts that are not mine that are inserted into my mind that are good and positive that I assume come from my spirit guides. And I also get quite a bit of daily ear ringing that I suspect may also be a spirit guide communicating (the ringing tends to coincide with thoughts and ideas that I have). But its so far a one way communication and I would like to break through and get a two-way communication going. From what I gather, there is not really one way that people communicate with spirit guides as it runs the gamut. It appears that we have to listen to others on what works for them and find a method that best works for each of us. And then like stated, you have to get your "mind right" if you're not naturally tuned for this.
Here's a link from a podcast that I listen to often that touches on this subject. You may find some of the info. and his other blogs useful:
And the same author also offers an online workshop that I have not yet tried but sounds promising:
If you all don't mind opening up on this subject, it appears that there is a fairly large amount of people with mental illness disorders exhibiting psychic abilities (ranging from ADHD to bi-polar and schizophrenia). If I am correct, and this is indeed a common pattern, I am wondering what is the cause? I also notice that while psychic abilities run in families, so does mental illness. And I again wonder if there is a similar connection there?
With what you described as conflict and negative from living in a big family house, you may have trouble keeping everything balanced. You may fix things, and then interact with others that screw up what you just improved. I only live with a family of 4 and quite often even with just them I need to escape to a quiet place to unwind because I can feel their energy when they are not having a good day.
It makes sense what you said about the heart & throat. I don't know your past personal history. But what you have mentioned about family conflict in your home would fit the heart and throat. You certainly can improve that. I just feel bad with your housing environment you may be in a 2 steps forward, 1 step back every time you do energy work.
Have you ever tried acupuncture? I just tried it for the first time. I really feel hurt in my solar plexus area from emotional energy that I deal with each day. And while grounding helps me maintain it, I have had long term stomach soreness, and swelling/bloating from being an empath. I thought I'd give acupuncture a try and my first visit was nothing short of magical. I could feel energy pulsing and being redirected around my body and had an overall sense of peace. And my stomach is much better today.