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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 09:20:43AM
502 posts

Odd interaction with a medium


Psychic and Paranormal

Always hard to tell. I notice a lot of them say its free and then pressure you for a "donation" at the end. While others do a free reading and then identify a problem that needs to be solved as the next step that also requires a fee.

It is so hard initially to tell who is legit. But I would say most legit mediums don't sit on street corners selling things. And it seems in your case if a discussion opens up with something that scares you or is designed to draw you in, that it is probably bogus. And I would say her lack of interest, and possible lack of remembering who you were at the end of the night leads me to believe she is a scammer.

But I'm glad to hear you are doing well otherwise. If you don't mind me asking, what town did you visit for this event?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:41:26AM
502 posts

Protection in known place of paranormal activity


Psychic and Paranormal

I think in a lot of these organized haunting tours that the real spirits don't want to be disturbed by an invading group. And they probably leave for a while if they are able. We've had discussions on this site before about how the latest ghost hunting trend to invade haunted places is pretty unfair to these spirits that are trapped here for various reasons. I would imagine they don't like it.

Did you take any pictures? I do hear that on some of these tours you can get some good orb pics.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:34:32AM
502 posts

Odd interaction with a medium


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

I would say to forget about it for two reasons. First off, from a skeptic point of view, she may throw that line out often to scare people in to paying for a removal service. And along those lines, she was busy with other customers later so she had less interest in you. That kind of had my BS meter going off from your story. I think an honest and legit medium would perhaps invite you to a reading without an opening line to scare the crap out of you.

And secondly, how do you feel? It sounds like you feel pretty good. I have had a spirit attachment before and I can tell you that at the time I felt like crap. I had constant fatigue like something was sucking the life out of me and dealt with constant low depressed feelings. I also got sick really often during that time. If you don't feel like that, and instead feel pretty good for you, then it is unlikely that you have an attachment.

If you are really worried about this then you could find a reputable medium and ask their opinion.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:23:30AM
502 posts

Protection in known place of paranormal activity


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad it went well for you. Maybe its better that it was uneventful. You don't want any hitchhikers following you home.

These haunted tours always make me wonder whether the spirits are long gone or whether they hide during tours (and perhaps come out at night). I did the Queen Mary haunted tour this summer. One room gave me an anxious, chest tightening feeling. But in all other rooms that were supposedly haunted I felt nothing. I also recently did a ghost tour in Jerome, AZ where the whole town is supposed to be haunted. I mostly felt nothing.

But like you, I usually come to haunted places pretty protected and wonder if I am muting things with all my protection stones.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 04:06:53PM
502 posts

Broke and needing some energy work :( Help!!!!


Empath

@4peace:

I'm glad you are using stones because when you find the right ones for you they can really be like medicine.

I have had good luck with the use of stones to de-stress. And while Rose Quartz is a nice calming stone, I have found that when it comes to stress, it doesn't seem to work as well once you are at the point where you are overloaded and anxious. What I have found good luck with are the darker stones that deflect that daily low energy that brings you down. I found that black tourmaline and black onyx stones do a nice job of giving you a shield to keep some of that at bay. I keep these in my pockets in addition to malachite. I find that malachite actually absorbs some of that low energy and removes it from my body. And then Rose Quartz along with amethyst are two I keep under my pillow to help me sleep.

I don't know if you are using any of the stones I suggested. But the black tourmaline in particular is one that I find is used most consistently with success by other empaths.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 03:45:46PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

Great suggestion. I will look into that. So far it seems very random when seeing things switches on and off. But maybe there is a pattern.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 11:40:25AM
502 posts

Broke and needing some energy work :( Help!!!!


Empath

@4peace:

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. While reading your post I'm thinking this poor lady really needs to slow down her life and practice self-care. And then I scrolled down and saw that @zen-angel made some very good suggestions.

I would only add that what makes empaths so special, is also what also causes our downfall. And that is always wanting to care for and fix people without pacing our schedules and taking care of ourselves. As was suggested by others, slow down your life, take time for yourself to ground and do things that make you happy.

I would also add that when we empaths don't take care of ourselves and take on too much from our worlds, we start to break down physically. And a lot of that resonates as stomach issues since the solar plexus chakra is in that area and is an especially active chakra for empaths. It doesn't surprise me that you are having stomach bacteria issues as I have struggled with bouts of the same myself.

I also wanted to add that what you described as empath receptor insanity at the party, is also a side effect of your body, mind, and spirit being run down. When we are in deep need of rest and grounding, our empath skills will often heighten. And while part of that is kind of cool, you need to also realize that as it heightens you are overflowing with harmful energy and are close to a crash. And by crash I mean anxiety attack, psychotic episode, or illness. if you were a car engine your dashboard gauge would show you redlining. But all of this is preventable if you can watch the signs and know when you need to back off your schedule and take time for you to ground and clear that harmful energy out of you.

And one last note, try an experiment of not watching news or violent TV for a couple days. We empaths are really affected by the emotional things we see on the news that is often overhyped and exaggerated. Turn it off for a couple days and I believe you will notice that a good chunk of your worries will be gone.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:30:39PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

I appreciated hearing how it resonates with you. It's been a weird year for me with my empath skills as they have been going in and out. Same for when I see these dark gargoyle type figures. All I can get from it is that my empath skills are back on when I start seeing these things in the woodwork. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:08:52PM
502 posts

Spirit attachments and schizophrenia


Psychic and Paranormal

@laog:

I had some luck getting rid of a spirit attachment through a lot of daily grounding with salt water and constant use of protection stones. I think you and I may have talked on this before. Does any of that help with you?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:03:03PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@femonique

Thanks for your input. When I see faces nothing happens. It doesn't symbolize or foreshadow anything for me. And it comes and goes. This week I see nothing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/25/17 04:49:42PM
502 posts

30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

@empphire:

I'm glad you liked it. You bring up a good point. In fact while science and generally accepted medical practices don't really believe in empaths, they do have a term called highly sensitive person. And some of the traits of these HSPs sound like empaths, while others don't. The HSP definition really sounds more like an extreme introvert versus empaths who feel emotion and interpret energy. It’s the feeling energy and knowing as well as other unusual traits that really separates empaths from HSPs.

But to answer your question, I would imagine a non-empath sensitive person would probably say yes to up to half of that list of questions. Whereas I think based on the feedback I have heard, most empaths check the box on about 85% or more of that list. I scored 28 out of 30 myself.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/19/17 02:15:46PM
502 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

@cheshire-cat:

I am a crystal nut so I couldn't help but comment. I love black tourmaline. But I find rose quartz has a calming effect on me but not so much in a group setting. So I'm a little luke warm on rose quartz but that may just be me. I recently added malachite to my collection and really like it because it both protects against negative and also pulls it out of you. But because of that you have to cleanse it more often. Here's some info. on it if you are interested:

Malachite is a protection stone, absorbing negative energies and pollutants from the atmosphere and from the body. It guards against radiation of all kinds, clears electromagnetic pollution and heals earth energies.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/19/17 02:11:18PM
502 posts

Questions on being Psychic...


Psychic and Paranormal

@loconnoro:

Congrats on your skill. That sounds pretty strong in you. I do get some visions of future events and can sometimes tell when a person or animal is dealing with physical pain that they are trying to conceal (or tough out). But I don't tap into a person's story or future as you do. 

Many years ago my wife had a lady walk up and touch her pregnant stomach and tell her our baby would be a girl who loves music and dance. And we laughed it off at the time (we were non-believers back then). But the lady was right on with all details. I would say it is unnerving for most to interact with someone who can tell them their future. I think most of society is unable to handle that. And like I did, some may laugh it off thinking “that guy is a nut”.

I usually have pretty strong empath skills. And I can read people's energies pretty well. But I don't usually tell people what I know about them. I have to be picky as I think a lot of people can't handle this spiritual stuff. But I generally help those that ask and those that clearly need immediate help (someone distraught etc...). I’m sure others will differ with my view. But I would imagine with your clairvoyance you will also have to be picky with who you help unless you are 100% okay with people identifying you as a psychic. And there is good and bad to having that label in our society. But that said, definitely work your skill and see where it goes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/14/17 01:09:31PM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Great points on being careful if you have blood pressure or other serious issues. I can say that I have taken this adaptogen supplement before. And I did not notice any side effects except that the Rhodiola seems to help me think more clearly and heightens my focus. That was noticeable. And then of course feeling tired at bedtime and sleeping better was a nice effect. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/14/17 11:01:47AM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I'm glad to hear the info. I posted was helpful.

@cheshire-cat brought up some good points about getting diagnosed with a naturopathic doctor. Of course, see a doctor if you can to get a formal diagnosis. But doctor's visits and tests can be expensive as I went through that myself. I was told to take the below adaptogenic formula as a solution for adrenal fatigue. But if money is tight and you don't want a doctor's visit expense I would suggest ordering up some of the below to help improve your well-being and sleep patterns. It takes about 2 weeks of taking it before you will notice big improvements. This is not a drug but is an herbal remedy. The herbal ingredients are all common safe herbs and this is sold by a reputable company.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F1J8EKI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/13/17 07:03:00PM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Thanks for all votes in our poll. Here’s the tally from everyone who participated:

 

Out of 16 respondents, 75% said they are night owls now. And out of 16 respondents, 88% said they sleep poorly and awaken often. I think the results, despite a fairly small sample size, show that falling asleep and staying asleep is a consistent challenge for most empaths.

 

I did some research on various empath websites to find further confirmation and explanation of this trend. And my findings reinforced the belief that sleep issues plague most empaths. I feel my findings are not necessarily earth shattering. But it does help connect the dots on this pretty common empath trait. And it also helps explain why so many empaths struggle with various health issues.

 

Here are some notes on what I found in my research:

 

The Empath-Night Owl Connection

*The theory that I found repeatedly is that empaths crave the solitude that exists late evening after the day is done and most of your family members are asleep. If you are like me, you probably have a pretty quiet home after 10PM. We all know that empaths need alone time to decompress and recharge the batteries. And empaths find that much needed quiet at late evening hours.

*There was also another theory that I found that noted that late afternoon to about 8PM is a stressful and trying time for an empath. That’s when everyone is rushing around taking kids to activities and rushing home from work. The roads and freeways are jammed up with traffic and tensions are high. It was also suggested that when people get home from work that there can often be a lot of conflict between family members (husband & wife battles, arguments between siblings and with their parents etc…). So there is a lot of intensity in the air that we all pick up even if we are not dealing with this stress directly in our own lives. I would say that I personally often feel anxiety as I drive home from work for no obvious reason. Then a couple hours later I feel really tired. And then when it gets close to 10PM all of a sudden I feel as if I just had two expresso shots and spring to life until I get tired around 1PM. This seems to closely follow the energy trends that occur in life where negative energy spikes late afternoon to early evening and then clears up when most of the world goes to sleep.

 

The Empath Poor Sleep Trends

*It’s pretty common knowledge that when someone has a lot on their mind that they are likely to toss & turn in their sleep or even have insomnia. But yet that can be a nightly occurrence for empaths. I think the explanation simply is that we take in so much during the day that our mind has a lot to untangle during sleep. Simply put, we have a lot on our minds mostly because we pick up so much from others.

*There is also a second explanation for the poor sleep that empaths get. And there is a medical reason for this that I found very interesting. We empaths deal with more stressors than a typical person on a daily basis. And that can lead to adrenal fatigue. When you have adrenal fatigue your body chemistry is all off and cortisol levels rise uncharacteristically. At first you will experience weight gain and a weakened immune system making you vulnerable to illness. And then when this continues you can get chronic inflammation, allergies, and auto immune diseases. I also wanted to point out that humans are supposed to have cortisol levels that start each day at a high level as part of the “wake up” process of the day. And then cortisol levels are supposed to drop to almost nothing by bed time (low cortisol levels help make you sleepy). The problem for empaths is that when you get adrenal fatigue, your cortisol levels don’t come down enough at night so you they are stimulating you to stay awake. And when you have a particularly stressful day or days, your high cortisol levels can wake you up in the middle of the night and leave you staring at the ceiling. And since cortisol is known as the stress hormone, it can be unpleasant to have higher levels of cortisol at any point (day or night).

*The last part that I wanted to touch on is the spiritual side of being an empath that is harder to measure. But we all have had weird dreams or visions while we sleep. And we also sometimes are visited by spirits as we sleep. This is another cause of sleep disturbance for some empaths.

 

I think the takeaway from what I researched was that we empaths are at risk of wearing ourselves out. It is both how we are wired and is also due to the fact that we take in so much each day. In the poll we had 25% of respondents vote that they had no problem falling asleep at a reasonably early evening hour. And we had 12% that said they slept well through the night. My guess is that these voters are pretty well adjusted as empaths and have done an excellent job of shielding and grounding. And I would also guess that as a result, they are probably a lot healthier than those of us empaths who live with poor sleep quality every day. I think this tells us that we can improve our sleep and health by doing a better job of grounding before bedtime. I realize that is easier said than done. But it would seem that it should at least be a goal to clear out the negative and get better sleep whenever possible.

 

The good news on adrenal fatigue is that it is very common in our society and can be medically treated. Here’s a pretty good article that I found explaining a lot of how adrenal fatigue impact us:

 

https://adrenalfatiguesolution.com/adrenal-fatigue-symptoms/

 

 

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/13/17 05:10:07PM
502 posts

Lineages


Empath

@kate:

Thanks for sharing your history and questions. I am also a Christian empath. I think the way a lot of religious people interpret the bible puts them at odds with the supernatural and the abilities of psychics and empaths. But my belief is that God gave us these gifts to help humanity. They say 5% of the population has empath abilities. What is less known is how many of that 5% have awakened to their abilities and are using it. I think that number is pretty low and that awakened empaths are a fairly small club as a percentage of the population.

But I have found that most definitely spiritual gifts run in families. But there are some cases where it does not run in families and then someone has a traumatic event that switches on their empathy. So I think it is possible that all of humanity has the equipment to develop empath skills. There is a lot of talk about humans only using 10% of their brain power. And I think as we advance as a species and use more brain power that we will at some point be able to have everyone use empathic skills as well as other skills like telepathy.

But the good news is that for those of us that are empaths we arrived in this life preprogrammed for these skills. My background is that my great grandmother on my Mom's side had some very powerful skills. And then my grandmother on my Dad's side always had this magical ability to raise the vibration in the room and make everyone feel happy. But she was a devout Baptist and I think her religious beliefs probably muted her abilities. But there still seemed to be something there. And then my Mom is a minister who has admitted to me that she sees and feels otherworldly things. And then myself and my two kids are both empaths. So in my case there is a whole family tree of empath genetics being passed down throughout the generations. And if others can comment, I'm fairly confident that they have a similar family history with empathy.

You can definitely still be a Christian and an empath at the same time. I don't see a conflict there and like I said, I believe God gave us these skills for a reason. However, you probably have to keep your empathy a secret from your fellow church members as they will not understand and they may judge and label you as something hurtful.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/13/17 04:47:09PM
502 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

Yes, this can happen as a form of psychic attack. Jealousy is a very powerful negative emotion. And since we are very sensitive to energy, the intensity of jealousy can really derail us. And sometimes these psychic attacks can be orchestrated by someone who really knows how to use it and it comes across even deeper as a hex or spell. This is more rare. But even just someone who is unknowingly projecting a psychic attack, it can be dangerous. And it typically does more damage if you allow the person to remain in your life or in circle of friends.

I would cut ties with this person and cut cords with her as well. When you keep good people in your life who truly care for you and find joy in your successes, that good energy can really propel you to new heights. And the opposite is always true. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 02:32:41PM
502 posts

Changing dimensions


Empath

@cat-whisperer:

5D? I'd love to hear about this. We of course live in 3D. How do you get past 4D all the way to 5D? And do you meditate to see things in that realm?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 02:26:36PM
502 posts

30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

@trevor-lewis:

When I first saw this article I was like geez, 30 traits. That seemed a bit much. But when I read it I realized that I checked the box yes on all but about two. But I did like that the article talked a bit about exhaustion and how empaths can have stomach and lower back problems due to absorbing energy through the solar plexus. This is something I don't usually see addressed in articles but yet plagues quite a few of us.

And funny thing on your last comment. I love movies (especially action movies). And I'm a bit of a news junkie. But yet the negative builds up at times where I have to avoid both. It just goes to show that while empaths can be quite similar, we can differ quite a bit as well.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 12:56:27PM
502 posts

30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

I found this pretty good summary online of empath traits that I thought many of you would enjoy reading. It ties in with many of our recent discussions about fatigue issues and health challenges that include stomach and back pain. I checked the box for the majority of traits on the list. How about you?

 

https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2011/07/01/at-a-glance-30-traits-of-an-empath/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/07/17 02:36:56PM
502 posts

I ran across this article & thought I'd post it here to see what others thoughts are.


Empath

I thought the article was pretty accurate. And it touches on something I have been working on lately. And that is, we have a tendency to want to help everyone to the point of exhaustion to ourselves. Taking on so much each day was really taking a toll on me. But then I read a book that suggested that empaths need to be a little more picky with who we share their gifts with. I have found that there are people who we can help and really make a difference. And then there are the serial help seekers who are stubbornly off their life path and are always bringing their problems to us when in fact they are the problem. This second type always seems to be mixed up in daily drama and is all too happy to feel better by dumping their drama pains off with us. While they are no closer to learning their life lessons and making the life changes that would make them happy and aligned with their intended life path. 

@cheshire-cat, I also am not very good at shielding. I have had luck with some level of shielding from protection stones. But for the most part when I am out in the world I am exposed to raw energy that can really take it's toll. That's why I am learning to pace myself and not be open to every person who needs me for an energy exchange.

I also agree that the title is a little oft-putting. When I hear about someone’s dark side I immediately think evil or bad side. I have yet to meet an empath with a bad side.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/07/17 02:02:40PM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

@womanwhowalks:

I have general restlessness when I sleep. I go through periods of weeks where I too wake up about every two hours during the night. It's usually a powerful dream that awakes me or the feeling that something is waking me up (whispers, energy, feeling of a presence etc...). I have had a lot of that lately.

@cheshire-cat, I was hoping to get some more takers on the poll so that I'd have some additional community feedback to back some of my research. I hope to have it all ready and posted by mid week.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/06/17 01:29:06PM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Thanks for everyone’s votes and comments. This poll is shaping up about as I expected. I wanted to add in my vote to the tally. I'm a yes to both questions myself. I am typically pretty tired when I get home from work to the point of wanting to fall asleep some days. But then similar to what @ruth-calkins noted, I get a second wind around 10PM that is like a shot of caffeine. I struggle to fall asleep before 12:30PM most nights. And staying asleep has been a real challenge the last 10 years. I toss and turn and wake up continuously at night and always have a deep thought or strange dream on my mind. It just seems like my mind is so active when I should be sleeping. I use a lot of natural sleep aids to help settle me down to fall asleep.

So far the tally is that we have 8 yes votes and 2 no votes to question#1. And then for question#2 we have 9 yes votes and 1 no vote. I'm hoping to get some more votes from the community over the next couple days to get a better sample size. And then once we have a final tally I wanted to share some things I have learned from research that explains these empath sleep patterns.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/06/17 01:11:35PM
502 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

I just watched the movie Constantine with Keanu Reaves last night. It had some pretty interesting angel & demon themes with the Rachel Weisz character having empathic abilities. One of the themes to the movie was that there are angels and demons influencing humanity's actions and decisions. And that sure seems to be the case quite a bit in real life.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/04/17 03:00:00PM
502 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I was reading some posts today and was reminded of some traits that I think are common with empaths. I think it has a lot to do with how our minds are wired. But I thought I'd test this theory with polling from the community. And I appreciate the participation from those who want to weigh in. Please answer each of the two below questions with a yes or no and any comments you'd like to add.

#1: Do you consider yourself a night owl with an internal clock that keeps you from falling asleep until late hours of the evening/early morning?

#2: Do you sleep poorly most nights with a lot of tossing & turning and waking up often?


updated by @hop-daddy: 09/28/17 10:02:49AM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/04/17 02:47:55PM
502 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@zacharias:

Of course you do. And truthfully, you won't be able to properly use your gifts as an empath until you can be among huge groups of people. But that will happen in good time. You have to take baby steps and first protect yourself. A couple years back I had a real rough time being around clients and people at work. So I withdrew as best as I could with a lot of telecommuting so that I could hermit a bit at home. I had no control over the strong and intense anxiety that I picked up from everyone and at that time, withdrawing from society was a necessary step while I healed and took time to figure it out. But now two years later I usually don't have problems in crowds. And if I do, I understand it more so I can keep the anxiety at a low level.

A big part of my personal healing and strengthening as an empath came from carrying protection stones with me at all times, and meditating often. When you find the right stone combo for you they will help you be stronger while protecting you at the same time. I did want to note that I don't know if smaller stones that fit in a ring are going to work. I keep stones in a light pouch in my pocket that are each about the size of a quarter.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/02/17 01:23:45PM
502 posts

Strange vision


Empath

@windwolf

You always have tough ones for us to help you decipher. Wink I'm not sure how to help you interpret your vision as I'm not understanding from you what you saw and how it felt to you. I will say that when I get visions that are the strongest, I do get physical side effects. However, they are normally good feeling side effects like tingling or chills or a real happy butterfly in my stomach feeling. I do sometimes get a headache after a day of taking in too much. And I do know some empaths who get migraines often. But I'm not quite sure how that relates to you. You may want to start making notes of your visions and how you feel with each one to see if you can find a pattern to help explain what is happening. After taking notes I finally figured out in the last year which of my visions are what will happen and which ones are visions of what could happen.

I would not know how to explain your co-worker getting hurt in the same area as your vision. For me, my visions have nothing to do with what room or location I am in. So I'm not sure how to explain that for you. We all work differently. But I think we humans, and particularly us empaths, need listen to our gut instincts more often. When ideas and "voice in your head" suggestions pop into our heads, I think we need to trust them. If your gut instinct is that you are being pointed toward your friend, then I would trust in that and pursue it.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/28/17 03:18:13PM
502 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@zacharias:

It sounds like the type of job that fits you best would be doing something outside an office (probably out in nature like what you had with the drill rig). And since you say you struggle with a class environment, I would imagine you would also want to avoid an inside an office job for now. 

My son is also an empath and is in high school and really struggled last year with similar focus issues to what you are noting. There is a close similarity between what many empaths go through and what ADD kids go through. Many of our brains are so busy sensing what is going on around us that we cannot focus on the task at hand in a class environment. We were able to help our son improve by having him carry protection stones with him as a way to block some of the energy that was distracting him. And we also had him take some natural focus supplements that seemed to help. He was also not getting enough sleep. And I don’t know if any of you out there have also noticed this, but some of my worst empath days are when I am sleep deprived. So forcing him to get more sleep also seemed to better help him get through the school day.

But I would say in a case when school causes sensory overload for an empath, a nice short cut fix would be to take online courses. That of course doesn't help you get past the problem of being in a group environment that will surely reoccur later in life. But at least it is an option.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/27/17 06:02:25PM
502 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

@tigerlily:

 People wanting us empaths to fix their problems is always the theme. But just remember, you help who you want to help. You should cut off others. There are a lot of people out there who are not learning their life lessons and just siphon off some of our higher vibrational energy to feel better temporarily. But the next day they go back to behaving the same and having the same problems since they are stuck and are not being accountable in their own lives. You really have to be picky with what drama you allow yourself to get pulled into. Because that does build inside you as you absorb all that and will bring you down (with bad luck to follow).

But there may be a bigger story for you here. I have found that often the bad news or frustrating times in relationships and situations (like work) can be signals to remind me that I am off-track on my life path. I try not to blame all bad days on this. But if it is a recurring situation, you should look for the signals and signs. I love the old saying there are no coincidences. I really believe that to be true. Even in bad times, you are presented with lessons. I try to pull myself back and look at my frustrating times and relationships and see it for what it is. Often I find it is time to move on or make a change. And when I listen to my gut and heart, I usually see that the sign that I was being forced to see helped motivate me to make a change for the better. I don’t know if this can be any help to you. But I think a lot of your frustration and pain are signs that it is time to make some changes to benefit yourself and get back in the groove of the right direction for your life path.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/27/17 05:34:57PM
502 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@soothsayer4:

If you are empowered and energized by other people's "stuff" then you have a really unique skill there. The rest of us just get drained when absorbing other's low energy. Has this always been this way with you or have you learned a technique to transform low energy to high energy as you absorb it?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/25/17 12:34:13PM
502 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@zacharias:

Good questions. I live in Scottsdale, AZ. In our area most homes are fairly new and have been built in the past 20 years. So we don't generally have legacy haunted house issues that you get in other places where houses have been there for 100+ years with a death history. In my case, I built my house on vacant land 17 years ago. I'm the original homeowner. Except that I have learned that the land my subdivision sits on was lived on by Native Americans going back thousands of years. An archeologist told me that tribes used to migrate to my area for months on end in the summer for hunting. It was basically their summer hunting spot.

My daughter sees the most ghosts at our house. She has never seen a Native American ghost. But some ghosts with her appear very clear while others have less definition and are shadowy. For me the ghosts that I see are always shadowy. My daughter has seen one repeating ghost that was in a civil war uniform. And she has seen others that wear clothing that is probably late 1800s-early 1900s. But most of the ghosts seem to be wearing more current clothing. And we see a lot of children ghosts at our home. Recently my son jumped out of the shower only to be face to face with an 8 year old girl ghost. And also recently my wife was pulling into our driveway and saw a very clear image of a teenage boy standing in front of my son's window. He was so life like that she thought he was a trespasser until he vanished before her eyes.

Based on our experiences and the history of us being original homeowners I have come to some conclusions. Three out of four of my family are empaths. I think in general ghosts are everywhere. There are many mediums who say they see them every day walking among us. And as empaths I think we tend to attract them more often. But I also think there is something unique about my area. There must be a portal or something since we get such a variety of ghosts that pass through from varying time periods. I also found it interesting that my daughter slept over at a friend’s house that is 7 doors up the street. And she said she saw more ghosts there than at our house. That tells me it is not just our house that has visitations in the area.

The ghosts around our house for the most part don't bother us. So we are in less of a hurry to have our house cleansed. Plus I'm not sure that would work anyway since day to day different ghosts come through. For the time being we just live with them and try to understand why they are here.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/24/17 12:03:10PM
502 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@zacharias:

When my friend first told me about her leprechaun sightings I didn't know what to think. The skeptic in me said no way. But yet this woman was a very honest and sane person. So it is interesting to hear about this from others that see them as well.

My house is also very active with ghosts. My two kids and I are empaths so I know we attract things plus I have a hunch that there is some sort of a portal on my property somewhere. Some weeks we see dozens of ghosts and usually never see the same one twice (although there are some that I cannot see that bang walls all the time that may be camping out). In trying to better understand this I've been doing some reading about spiritual shamans who help clear people's houses of unwanted spirits. And when they do this they usually go in with a group of 4-5 people consisting of the shaman, several empaths, and a medium or two. And when entering a haunted house the shaman always reminds the group to not show any emotion such as fear, anxiety or anger. The ghosts feed on these emotions as the energy released by humans invigorates them. And it makes it really hard to get the ghost to calm down and be coaxed over to the light to cross over when they are all jacked up from our electrifying energy. In theory this is why sometimes an unhappy family situation like a pending divorce often goes from bad to worse in a home. The anger, frustration, and sadness attracts things that latch on and makes the place darker and more depressing.

So the next time you see a ghost, try not to react with fear or anger. Just be numb. And if it works like it does for me, they come and go a lot quicker. 

I also love your angel story. I do believe we humans (and empaths especially), are influenced by our guides to help people throughout each day. We don't always act on it. But when we do it feels good as if it were meant to be.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/21/17 11:43:42AM
502 posts

Health & Paranormal


Psychic and Paranormal

@just-stevie:

Sorry you are continuing to struggle. It does sound like it is affecting your health. I hate to ask an obvious question. But it often helps. My question is, have you considered staying a few nights at a hotel or relatives house to get away from your home? This is of course assuming that these things don't follow you. But it sure sounds like you could use a mental and physical break from that home.

And separately, there is a very good natural anti-depressant called Deproloft that may be an alternative for you to try the next time you want to wean off of your meds. The science on anti-depressants is that they numb and mask the problem and do nothing to solve the problem. A lot of depression comes from an imbalance of hormones and general brain chemistry. Deproloft improves your health naturally by helping replenish what you may be lacking. I've been on it for two years and it really works. You can buy it on amazon or iherb.com. I would only add that if you try it that you should do so under doctor supervision so that you safely reduce and wean off your anti-depressant meds.

https://www.amazon.com/Thorne-Research-Deproloft-HF-Supplement-Management/dp/B005H3TPKG/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1500662002&sr=8-1&keywords=deproloft


updated by @hop-daddy: 07/21/17 11:44:32AM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/19/17 12:16:56PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

I did some research and humans are pre-programmed to see faces in designs. The science is called Pareidolia. But what makes this more of an empath thing is that it comes and goes. In fact, as are a lot of my empath skills, this seems to work best when activated by my subconscious mind. If I look at something with the intent to see something it rarely works. But instead I'll just go about my day focused on something else and my eye will pick up on a face in something abstract and then I 'll do a double take to get a better look. But then I'll go for weeks where I don't see anything. And then boom, I get flooded with faces peering at me literally “out of the woodwork”. It's very interesting as I continue to sort it all out.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/18/17 02:27:34PM
502 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

I thought I'd put in a post update that my seeing faces in patterns and designs completely went away for the past 3-4 months. And seeing images of people and flash card style faces while meditating or dozing off also stopped. And then all of a sudden it is back again this week but a little less intense. And now when I see faces in the patterns on a wall or rug, it is less menacing than before. But they are very distinct complete faces that appear to me like before.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/18/17 11:20:05AM
502 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@indigo-dog:

Thanks for sharing. And I'm glad you brought this up. I have an old friend of mine that is spiritually gifted at a pretty high level. And she used to tell me that she sees little people that look like leprechauns all the time. When she used to tell me these stories I didn't know how to digest that. Her ghost stories I believed, but leprechauns? I have since only very rarely heard people who have had sightings of them. For whatever reason, very few people see them. I'd love to learn more about what they are and where they come from if anyone has any insight.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/17/17 11:57:14AM
502 posts

Not sure


Empath

@windwolf:

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I think you've already been given some great feedback from others. I would only add that jealousy is one of the more powerful of human emotions and it gets especially messy. My sense is that the boyfriend found out about your "I love you's" and close relationship and through jealousy told your friend to cut you off immediately. If he happens to have a powerful personality or is a controlling narcissist, then you would have been a huge threat to him because you can provide something for her that he can't via the pure heart of an empath. Jealousy is elevated based on threat. And quite obviously you were a huge threat to him as he thought you were trying to take his girl. I'm quite sure something big went down with the two of them on this topic and she just followed his requirement to cut you off. As much as that must hurt, I would not blame her. And definitely do not blame yourself. You did nothing wrong.

As for your heart, we've all been broken up with or have been dumped by lovers and friends. It hurts like a knife to the heart. It is especially hard for you as an empath because you feel so strongly. Just know that time heals all wounds. I'm quite sure your friend will miss you and try to reconnect with you at some point in the future. But in the meantime you need to focus on protecting and taking care of yourself. One of the greatest faults of being an empath is that we feel so deeply that when something upsetting happens we obsess over it and literally beat ourselves up over it over and over again. You have to recognize that and find a way to heal and move on.

You said you suffer from depression and suicidal thoughts. Being depressed is such a common human condition in our society these days that it is very easy for a doctor to diagnose that. However, it is also important to try to find out how much of that condition is caused from you being an empath. Are you overloaded up by all the stuff you pick up from people every day? If you are, this can often manifest as depression. And if it builds up long enough then unfortunately suicidal thoughts can present when you feel spent and helpless.

I would suggest you keep on schedule with what your doctor is recommending for the depression. And then separately try to work on a daily grounding regimen to help you through these tough times. It is critical for us empaths to practice grounding to release the buildup of low energy that we pick up every day. Think of it like a plugged sink filling up with water. At some point you need to unplug and drain the sink or else it will overflow and create a mess. Being an empath is just like that. We need to ground often to allow that low energy to pass or drain out of us. Doing so correctly will give you an almost instant boost in energy and elevated mood.

If you need any help or tips on grounding please let me know. And in the meantime, try to work on being positive. Do things that make you happy and work on surrounding yourself with positive people so that you can heal yourself. You will survive this. When I look back on my life experiences so far, the toughest times presented the greatest lessons. This has especially been the case with regard to my empathy. I have learned to eventually convert every “bad” experience into a lesson that I can use to come away stronger as time passes. I hope you can learn to do the same so that you can strengthen yourself from the inside. I know it is really hard to see a lesson while going through pain. But there is a lesson in everything we experience.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/17/17 11:21:24AM
502 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

@loconnoro:

I know a bit about the military and the Marines in particular break-down the minds and bodies of soldiers during boot camp. And then they reshape them into a unit. It's effectively a form of brain washing and the military is quite good at that. It's not something the average person would want to endure. But for those that become soldiers it is critical for them to make the conversion from self to unit. So your brother is understandably exhausted both physically & spiritually.

As a twin I would expect you two to be very connected. But as an empath that really adds an extra element to your connectedness with your brother. I would think after a few days of being home that he would start becoming less tired and snap back to more of himself. So that in itself may make it easier on you. But I would also suggest carrying protection stones to try to dull some of what you pick up from him. And try to incorporate daily grounding meditations to flush what you take in out of you. Best of luck.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/13/17 04:12:13PM
502 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

@empathinboston, I am always happy to help! Happy

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 05:31:01PM
502 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

@zacharias:

That's generally how it works. I find with empathy, it's hard to focus on using your gift for personal reasons. If you try, it would probably be muted. But when you use your gift from a position of joy and love, you can really raise the vibration and effect a group of people. I think you are seeing that. And it is making your feel really happy. That's awesome.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 12:00:10PM
502 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

@empathinboston:

You bring up a good point. Although I would say there is a definite upside to being able to help people through these group forums. Finding this place and getting some answers turned my life around a few years ago. I'm sure we all can agree that being an empath is a trying experience that can be quite painful. It's nice to have a place like this to post about things we are struggling with where we do not have the answers. There are varied responses to every post. And the poster has to digest that and as you said, find their own solution inside themselves.

On a separate note, I went through a situation that sounds very similar to what you described (except mine was not caught on camera). It was a painful experience but in the end I beat it, and learned a lot and it really helped me understand my empathy and strengths and weaknesses. I'd love to hear more about your situation if you are open to it.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 11:47:14AM
502 posts

Empath meme


Empath

@tigerlily:

Great meme. And so true. Although as an empath it is painful to learn lessons from the punishment that a narcissist will cause. And I would imagine that blade cuts both ways.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 11:43:22AM
502 posts

Empathic practices


Empath

@zacharias:

I love your posts. You have brought up some new and fresh topics.

I think if we did a community poll we'd find that about 99% of empaths are very drawn to music. This is a common trait. Remember the old saying that "music calms the savage beast"? There is something to that for humans as well. Heck, there is even scientific proof that music helps plants grow. And it's to the power of 10 for empaths. Music is a necessity. I enjoy music as part of my grounding process. I put my favorite tunes on in solitude and sing along. And the layers of stuff from the day just peel away. Sometimes it is such a beautiful experience that it brings me to tears (and I am not a crier).

And on that note, choirs can be quite angelic and magical. What you noticed about the love and cohesiveness when singing in a choir makes complete sense to me. You are raising the vibration of the room when the choir sings. You are calming and projecting love to each other and to everyone who listens.

All of us over time learn our true calling or key skills. It sounds like you have found yours with the choir. And while the choir by itself can raise the vibration in the room, I would say you as an empath are raising the vibration of the choir. You are relaxed and happy and are projecting your love and gift. And that is making the choir as a whole, more powerful. I would not be surprised if people at the church pull you aside after service to let you know that the choir moved them and healed them. Music is indeed magic and healing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 11:24:30AM
502 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

@raindancer:

I think we all go through stages as an empath. Early on we are just trying to cope with all that we absorb that makes us sick or uncomfortable. We often like to be secluded to avoid picking up low energy from others. And then at some point we learn how to cope and shield and then can go out in the world among the people. And once we reach that point we can, if we choose, offer to help calm and heal those that need our help. 

I would say there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you do and at this point not wanting to be part of group settings. You have to take care of you first as an empath or else you are no good to anybody. But at some point you will transition to where group settings are less of an issue. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 11:17:57AM
502 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

@tigerlily:

For those of us with the knowing ability, looking into someone's eyes is a way of channeling into their soul a bit. I do that often and can really unmask who a person is (reveal the real them as good, bad, or troubled etc...). I can understand why others would be uncomfortable with it because no one likes to be stared at. But those that get the most uncomfortable are either very insecure or have the most to hide. They sense you are unmasking them through looking into their soul and it makes them squirm. 

As an empath we are very different. We are observers. We take the emotional temperature in a room when entering. We often are not the first to engage into conversation in a group setting as our brains tells us to just listen and absorb and analyze the emotion in the air to determine what is happening. As an empath you couldn't help that if you tried. You are not judgy, you are just you being you as an empath. On the flip side, empaths are excellent listeners and often give sage advice and a feeling of calm to others.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 11:06:38AM
502 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

@zacharias:

As @trevor-lewis said, trauma is often the launch point for empaths to awaken. Not always, but often. But when you ask around it is often the common denominator. I do think that some of us are born with the ability to be empaths. And then for some reason it just switches on. But for quite a few it switches on following trauma.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/11/17 10:58:44AM
502 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

@zacharias:

My view on your situation is of course an alternate opinion to what the others posted here. And I’ve tried to draw on my own similar experiences to try to help you sort this out.

I think we empaths go through periods of time where our sensitivities come in waves. Sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker. I don't know if you have noticed that. But like you, I previously enjoyed flying and for the most part had no fear. And people around me on planes didn't bother me back then. And then about 7 years ago my empath switch turned on and anything crowded with people would freak me out. Being in a shopping mall or theater would overwhelm me being that close to people that I picked up on. But airplanes have been the absolute worst for me. I get hit with such an intensity of feelings from fellow passengers prior to take off that it takes all my effort to keep from having a full on panic attack. Once in flight I settle down. But pre-takeoff and takeoff is the worst. Turbulence and landing approach is a secondary issue that causes anxiety that I pick up on. And if there is a crying baby I am in for a long flight as I pick up on all that anger that people have sitting near a crying baby. This is not a rare circumstance as there have been quite a few posts about empaths struggling to be on planes.

As for traffic, I too have issues with that. And when I see people in road rage events, I suck right in that rage and get tightness in my chest and feel panicky. Our society is all about immediate gratification and no one seems to have patience anymore. So tempers flare during traffic holdups or when someone gets even accidentally cut off. And it makes sense that you would pick up on that. I have no idea why Saturday's are heightened for you, but maybe you live in an area where visitors pour in on weekends. So long story short, I believe your empath sensitivities have been strengthening. And that's why plane travel and even just driving around is causing you to pick up on low energy that is active around you.

As for the two ladies, you can probably tell that I am a little skeptical that they caused your issues. I am personally very sensitive to other’s anger, anxiety, and sadness. And I have had co-workers get pretty upset with me before that was a direct attack of rage that was very powerful. And as it built up I felt the need to get the hell out of the building. But I have never had a complete stranger dominate me with the evil eye. Sure I get the stink eye from strangers every once in a while. But for those ladies to have set you off like that they would in my opinion need to be sending you a sustained psychic attack. They would need to be masters of their ability to do that and then somehow have a motivation to pick you and go after you. And somehow know that you are an empath. I just don't think that's very probable IMO. The exception to that would of course be if racism was involved and they picked you out based on skin color or something else and channeled rage toward you. But if those women were the cause of 100% of your issue that day and if racism had nothing to do with it, then I would say they were very high level witches who know how to direct psychic attacks. And they somehow knew you were an empath and wanted to see you melt down for fun.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/10/17 04:57:49PM
502 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

@stugglebunny:

Groups are tough for empaths. Especially if your senses are heightened and you can almost read people's negative thoughts. I have had good luck carrying around protections stones. They help absorb some of the energy I encounter during the day so that I can function better in public and in group settings. I have a lot of group settings with work and without finding the usefulness of protection stones I don't know how I would have survived. Have you tried using stones? For women there are some decent looking protection stone bracelets you can find on Amazon (the darker black stones like black tourmaline work best for keeping negative away from you). And then aside from that, practice daily grounding exercises so you can rid yourself of everyone else's feelings and energy that you have absorbed.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/10/17 04:48:23PM
502 posts

Vampires?


Psychic and Paranormal

@zacharias:

I have a different theory to what you went through on the plane. On any given plane ride, you are going to have people who are terrified to fly. And the whole airport experience is a stressful mess for everyone. When everyone finally gets through security and everything else you then are usually crammed into a seat with no room. And you wait sit there and wait until takeoff. People are frustrated, angry, and scared and they sit there reviewing those feelings while awaiting take off. As an empath, you are going to absorb all of that from a good portion of the plane. I know I do. Flying is usually one of the more stressful things I have to go through in any given year as I get hit by all that the negative people on the plane are going through. And like you I get that urgent feeling of needing to get off that plane and find a place to calm down.

As for the two ladies, I guess there is a chance that they were bad people who somehow sent you a psychic attack. But I would say that was probably unlikely. They may have watched you squirm and be nervous and were just being nosey. Meanwhile, there may have been a dozen or so really nervous and upset people elsewhere that you were picking up on. 

As for energy vampires, they are real. But in my experience it doesn't happen from someone being across the plane with you. It usually happens when they interact with you in conversation. They normally corner you for a talk and you can literally feel your energy level drop and a state of fatigue hit. A lot of energy vampires are not doing it intentionally. In those cases they are miserable people that subconsciously know that they just feel better after talking to you. They feel better, you feel worse. You know the drill.

 
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