How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me
As a new empath, welcome to the club. You're likely going to notice that since you have realized and accepted who you are that your empath skills with strengthen.
In our current times, we are dealing with a lot of selfish, narcissistic behavior in society. Our social media addictions only exacerbate this bad behavior. And that is very hard for us empaths to deal with because we are constantly bombarded with that low/negative energy. We are sponges and absorb that low/negative energy. When you advance your skills you will learn how to draw in that negative and return positive energy to a person, room, or situation. But early on it is tough because you take in all that negative and become overloaded since you don't yet know how to make the energy conversion and get it out of your system. So for now, just realize that there will be days when you feel really tired, anxious, and even sad without a really good reason why. In your reading on empathy, look for the topic on grounding. It is very important for every empath to learn how to ground out that low energy we sponge up each day and cleanse it from our body and soul.
From your explanation of your friend, he sounds like he may be a narcissist. But slapping a label on it becomes very confusing when drug use is involved. I say this in not meaning to be judgmental. But oftentimes heavy drug use or alcoholism will bring out the worst in a person and cloud their better traits/real personality. But either way, as an empath, you're going to pick up a strong negative from a person like that. And when you are with him it will make you anxious, depressed, and even sick. The closer you let him in relationship-wise, the worse you may feel.
In my opinion, if your friend makes you feel bad, then you probably should move on from that friendship. I know that is a hard decision to make. And it is one that only you can make. But the one word of advice I would give you as an empath is to start trusting how you feel and listen to your intuition. And if a person or place makes you feel bad, trust that feeling.
I want to make sure I try to answer your final question. If your friend is a narcissist, then he likely feels really good around you. People like that feel energized when controlling and dumping on others. He's attracted to you and likes your higher energy. But there is an energy exchange that goes on with narcissists where they draw from your higher energy and dump their lower energy. You can feel it when this happens as you again will feel dizzy, anxious, depressed, or even a bit sick. There was another recent post on narcs that you may find to be an interesting read: