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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/28/17 12:22:26PM
509 posts

Kid's dream mirrors my own experiences lately


Dreams

I have had others tell me that when they meditate and astral travel that they can travel to a specific person's mind and dream and insert themselves there. I'm just guessing but maybe a connection there for you and your daughter?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/28/17 11:58:45AM
509 posts

Kid's dream mirrors my own experiences lately


Dreams

Dreams are always hard to interpret. We do know from science that our brains use sleep to problem solve and deal with our fears and frustrations. The media is fierce and really irresponsible these days with the way they over hype everything and focus on continual bad news. It's possible that she just overheard a few doomsday news stories and her mind is working through that. But I don't mean to discount anything empathic from her dream. I just don't see anything that jumps out with obvious meaning other than the fear of losing you to a disaster. And that's a pretty common type of kid dream.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 11:31:59PM
509 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

@kit-kat:

After reading your post I was on another empath site reading random stuff and happened upon this course. I wonder if this could be helpful to you?

https://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/courses/courseoverview.cgi?cid=302

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 11:19:51PM
509 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

@angel:

That is quite a story. That's pretty gutsy to visit the gates of hell as a 12 year old. How do you think you acquired bruises and scratches with your physical body in this world while your mind and spirit was somewhere else? I'm always curious how that works. Did you maybe bring something back through with you? And what do you think was the significance of the hooded entities? 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 04:09:29PM
509 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

@empathinboston:

The salt baths really helped with both of my kids. I have them do that at the end of a tough day so they can neutralize that negative and feel calm enough to get a good night's sleep. My daughter wears an obsidian bracelet for protection while my son keeps a small pouch of black tourmaline, shungite, and black onyx in his pocket. I do the same. We've done experiments with and without protections stones and we are all so happy with the results that none of us leave home without them. Maybe give that a try for both of you. And for her it will hopefully give her a sense of what "normal and calm" feels like. And then you can increase the daily grounding for both of you at that point to get to having much better days.

Many of us empaths have either a lot of bad luck or electronics/mechanical things go wrong when we get filled up with a lot of negative energy. Examples are all of a sudden your car won't start, the toaster shorts out, or your cell keeps freezing up. I think this is negative leaking from us impacting our surroundings. With the two of you so close and anxious, there must be a lot of that power going on to knock out bulbs.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 02:41:45PM
509 posts

Son Seeing UFOs


Psychic and Paranormal

@ohda:

I had to have my son completely stop any deep meditating or astral travel. It brought chaos to his life. In addition to seeing strange things in real life since doing astral travel, he also got walloped with an intense increase in his empathy strength. His daily anxiety went sky high and we discovered he was considering doing drugs as a way to feel better. We intervened just in time. I spent some time helping him improve his grounding technique and now have him wear protection stones daily. And I'm happy to report he is back to normal. The lesson learned was that his attempts at astral travel brought about changes in him with things he would see and feel. And it was just too much for our young man to handle.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 02:32:07PM
509 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

@trevor-lewis:

You bring up an excellent point. After responding to this post I saw some other posts from @empathinboston and now understand that she is also an empath who is struggling with anxiety and some negative feelings.

I can say from personal experience that it is very hard for multiple empaths to be under the same roof. But this is fairly common since empaths run in families. In my house 3 out of 4 of us are empaths. We each go about our day and then bring stuff from the world back and it can be a little tough to be together as we feel and upset each other. I practice and have taught each of them when they come home after a tough day to go do a grounding exercise and salt bath soak. It brings our home back to normal and helps them start the next day on an empath reset.

@empathinboston, with a child so young I would imagine that she has a strong connection to you. I agree that it would help both of your to work on grounding and calming yourself. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 02:21:25PM
509 posts



@cat-whisperer & @ohda:

I still do not understand the meaning of the flash card/flip book of faces that I see. It's always people I have never met. I don't pick up any emotion from them. I'm not sure what I am supposed to do with that. 

But I also wanted to share a dream story. When I dream I don't usually remember much. As an empath I have had trouble sleeping over the years and have had good luck taking melatonin and other over the counter sleep aids. But they really knock me out so I wake up groggy and don't remember much. However, a few times a year I wake up with a very vivid dream where I meet a total stranger who is usually female and in the dream we either know each other or quickly become fast friends. I wake up happy remembering my special connection with that person. And then a few days later I will run in to that exact person in real life out in a crowd or grocery store. We make eye contact and every time that person looks at me like she knows me from somewhere (despite being total strangers). I never know how to act on this as I don't want to be the creepy grocery store stalker guy that says "hey, I just dreamed about you the other night". But I also wonder what that is all about? Was I supposed to befriend this person or help them? Whenever this happens I see this person once and then never again.

Does this happen to any of you or does anyone have an interpretation of why this happens to me and what I'm supposed to do for this person?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 01:10:07PM
509 posts

Vampirism and Possession


Psychic and Paranormal

@empathinboston:

One more thing to add is that empaths can also attract entities that feed off of our energy. I had this happen where I don't believe it was another person causing my troubles but an unseen entity. When we empaths get heavy with negative, our vibration lowers. And this is when you are especially attractive to the unseen. In fact, I always have a big jump in ghost encounters when I get heavy like this. But I believe for a period of years that I was held in a captive state by an entity that was feeding off me. At that time everything in my life just seemed awful from my perspective. I had the worst luck. I had a bad attitude and lost my own positive personality. I was constantly dealing with feelings of doom and gloom and that I wasn't good enough or that I was weak and didn't deserve a good life.

I ended up hitting such a low point that I prayed for help in trying to take my life back. I was at the end of my rope. And then the answer to my prayers was that I discovered that I was an empath. I found this website and was given really good advice by others. And I learned how to ground and make protection stones part of my daily routine. And the craziest thing happened. I started getting my life back day by day with less anxiety and feeling like my old happy self. And then I was sitting in my office one day and could literally feel this leeching entity leave me for good. I felt really happy at that moment and then right behind my desk there was a desktop fan on my credenza that lifted itself in the air and was thrown across the room. And as the fan shattered on the floor my laptop cord was yanked out and pulled across my desk. I believe that when I finally figured out how to ground and protect myself this entity lost its grip on me. And then defeated it threw a fit on the way out. 

My point to you is that while humans can cause psychic damage, I think quite often it comes from something else. I think when things go wrong in our lives and we hit a certain low point where our defenses are down that unseen things can latch on.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 12:34:08PM
509 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

I should also add that as an empath it is totally normal for her to see ghosts. In fact, ghosts are drawn to empaths. We went through a tough time with my daughter getting approached by ghosts when she was young. And it terrified her. I've used protection stones to help keep her bedroom a little more clear of these entities. And I've trained her to understand that they cannot hurt her. But that is something that you unfortunately will have to deal with.

I also wanted to note that I have to monitor how active my daughter is with others. She at 13 is very social and wants to be out with friends all the time with sleepovers and things. And being around others all the time is very draining to her even when she is having a good time but can be really hard when you mix in some typical teenage girl drama. Good sleep and alone time to recharge is really important to an empath. For my daughter's own good we really make sure she isn't overscheduled.

For your younger daughter I would suggest the same thing. It is really hard for her to be out in an area with crowds of people (like stores and movie theaters etc...). She absorbs a lot when around people. You don't want to hide her from the world. But I would say when you do have her out in public, just make sure that is followed up with some quiet time at home where she can unwind/ground. And for a youngster grounding for her is probably just quiet time watching cartoons or coloring or something fun she likes to do by herself.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/26/17 12:23:54PM
509 posts

Empath Parent/Empath Child Tips?


Empath

@empathinboston:

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I have two teenage empath kids and had some interesting times when they were really young. It does sound like you have a child with high level of empathy. And that's really hard for a kid to take as they don't understand what's going on or how to control it. They just feel intensely. Eventually a doctor will probably try to get her on some bipolar or mood controlling drugs. And under the assumption that there is nothing medically wrong with her, that will just numb her to the world and won't really solve anything. You also have to keep in mind that your child was given this gift for a reason. One day your child's gift can be used by her (if she chooses) to help and heal people.

You noted that physical activity is when she is at her best. That is very telling as it is highly recommended for empaths to get outside in nature and exercise. Unknowingly, you are helping her ground out the emotions she is taking in every time she exercises. Definitely encourage and expand those activities while you are figuring this out.

Your daughter's situation sounds a lot like what we often get with new empaths on this website. They feel out of control and overrun with emotional build up from being who they are. We try to teach people how to get rid of their anxiety through grounding. Having protection stones on and around her is probably a good way to start. Below are two links that have some pretty good info. on how to get an empath to relax and let go of the negative that is causing all the anxiety:

https://shamansisters.com/blogs/blog/15529395-how-to-protect-yourself-from-negative-energies

https://shamansisters.com/blogs/blog/18113919-black-tourmaline-the-powerful-protective-gemstone

I hope this info. helps. An improvement for your daughter really starts with you being able to help her ground out the negative energy. 

Can you explain what the light bulb and power comment is about? I didn't quite understand that.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/24/17 11:44:40AM
509 posts



@ohda:

I have something similar happen often. When I lie in bed at night I often try to meditate. And before I drift off to sleep I will see movies of people I don't know or what I call flashcards of people's faces. In the flashcard phase I basically will see a person's face for about 3 seconds and then it flips to the next one until I go through a couple dozen. I have no idea what it means. And when I see the little movie clips as I call them they can be in color in black and white. But I do have to be in a relaxed meditative state in order for either to happen. And I am always observing and not part of what I see.

In your case it sounds like you are interacting with your visions. That sounds more like past life regression. 


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/10/17 09:38:56PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/24/17 11:23:05AM
509 posts

Guides


Empath

This is a topic I've been doing a lot of research on in recent weeks. I found two good web articles that do a good job of explaining our guides and how to connect with them. I hope they help give you a better understanding.

http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2006/11/connecting-with-spirit-guides/

 

http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2014/05/all-the-different-spirit-guides/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/23/17 04:00:00PM
509 posts

Guides


Empath

@calmidwester:

Great topic. I just started reaching out to my guides myself. I do not see my guides. But I do think they have been leaving me messages and signs for years that I wouldn't notice. How many times have you thought something was a weird coincidence? I think many times that is a sign or message put in front of you by your guides. And this past year I quite often receive very direct but random thoughts in my head that I am now realizing are not my own thoughts. And these thoughts always come through with such purpose. Recently I have started speaking with my guides for help and direction as well as giving thanks. And so far so good. It's intriguing even though for now it is a one way conversation.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/20/17 01:05:45PM
509 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

@hermes:

As always, I appreciate your input. You just opened up a new understanding on how we interact. You are very enlightening. Thank you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/19/17 11:22:06AM
509 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

@paul

I see that Mercury goes retrograde April 9 - May 3, 2017.

What are you referring to happening on March 20th?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/19/17 11:18:35AM
509 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@kate:

I like your observations and you are not alone. I think most of us empaths feel at odds with society. It just seems like there are so many sheep out there under mind control. And humanity right now does not seem to be going in a good direction. This mind control has grown tenfold with the growth of social media. People now seem to be slaves to their phones and the messaging that pops up. I think that is one of our gifts that we can see beyond this spell that so many are under and see the truth in life. But it also makes it difficult to connect with others intimately.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/19/17 10:58:10AM
509 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

@hermes:

I always love your perspective. It is always refreshing and enlightening. 

I have a question for you on your psychic dominance reference. This is a new label that I have not heard before. I would think psychic dominance would be common with empaths since we already have one foot in the psychic world (we use our gifts even on a subconscious level). Is it common or more rare?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/16/17 05:44:03PM
509 posts

Heat/burning sensations


Empath

@calmidwester:

That's awesome. And I'm sure a lot of your anxiety has been from not knowing what is going on with you. And now that you better understand and are finding ways to get it under control (grounding, crystals etc...), it's quite a load removed. And as you evolve you will find that your gifts can be quite fun and helpful to others in need. You'll still have bad days of anxiety and strong feelings now again, but at least you will know how to deal with it. 

We get newly awakened empaths that roll in here every few days. It's usually the same story. They are stressed out, and are hearing, seeing, and feeling things they can't explain. And they don't know if they found the right place etc... So hopefully you can help us welcome in the newbies. It would be great to have you share your story on what you've done to control and advance your empathy to become happy and find your life path.

There is a theory going around that there are a tremendous amount of empath awakenings going on to help humanity through trying times now and in the future. And the new ones will need lots of help.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/16/17 04:33:05PM
509 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

@tigerlily:

I hear you. I'm sick of lemonade at this point. Someone recently told me that when you keep running into messy situations that it is your angels trying to hit you over the head to get you to see the signs and change direction. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/16/17 10:55:59AM
509 posts

Heat/burning sensations


Empath

My best guess is that since @calmidwester just started working on grounding techniques that she was able to clear and open her throat chakra. Here’s a link explaining the throat chakra.

 

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4646/7-Ways-to-Balance-Your-Throat-Chakra.html

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/16/17 08:45:38AM
509 posts

Heat/burning sensations


Empath

@calmidwester:

I don't know if this is similar but last fall I would get random burning sensations on parts of my skin. It would feel like a cigarette burn. I couldn't figure out exactly what it was. But at the time I was being bothered by quite a few ghosts so I figured spirit contact may have been the cause. It did end up going away after a few months.

In your case, if you have the physical empath skill you could be picking up on someone else's pain. But if that is not your skill, it is harder to pinpoint. Although I have been told that the throat chakra relates to communicating with the other side. When I had all the spirit activity in the fall my throat chakra often felt like someone was tickling the inside of my throat. So in guessing, maybe that chakra is opening up? 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/15/17 06:12:07PM
509 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

@tigerlily:

Very good question. My view is that we have some very strong emotional powers. I have the ability to light up the room with light and high energy and have everyone laughing and being happy. And I also have the ability to bring the room down as fast as a dumpster fire when I am low. Based on my exchanges with other empaths it appears that this is a shared experience and not something specific to me. Perhaps you agree with how your moods affect those around you. Let me know on that. 

I have tested this theory out myself by being around people on separate occasions when I was really happy and calm and also when I was anxious and tired. I purposely tried to keep a straight face both times so no one would be able to read my body language. And in the happy mood example, people gravitated to me and were very chatty. And in the anxious low feeling example, people were fidgety around me and kept their distance. So my point is that we as empaths not only absorb energies around us, but we also expel some of those energies that we have absorbed. And that can be very hard on a significant other. In my case, I can't expect my wife to be happy and at her best when I am influencing her state of mind through my empathy. As a result, I have taken responsibility for how I am around her and my kids. And when I come home with a big black cloud over my head from a tough empathy day I ask them to allow me some quiet time so that I can ground and pull myself together. I find we've had a much happier home since I've learned to monitor and control how my empathy impacts the household mood.

I also totally get that none of us wants to be around or live with someone who is toxic. My view is that you can’t honestly judge a significant other on whether they are right for you until to make sure you are not influencing their mood for the worse.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/15/17 12:16:01PM
509 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

That's a great idea. Work on yourself and see where that leads. You may notice that things with him are improved when you are at your best.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/15/17 11:34:16AM
509 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

@calmidwester:

I have gone through and still deal with what you described with my wife. As humans we are very connected with our spouses. And that is double or triple as empaths. In my case my wife often buries her frustrations with me and other things. She bottles it up and then it causes resentment. I pick up on that all the time. And it is really hard to deal with. Sometimes she just feels toxic. She may be having a bad day and try to control it but I pick up on everything that she feels and end up very anxious. I also have trouble when she is really upset with someone else and vents to me. I feel the heat and anger coming off of her words and I get anxious and tightness in my chest. This again isn’t her fault. I’m the empath sponge so I have had to find a way to deal with it.

As for solutions, I try to get my wife to improve communication with me so that things don't get bottled up. But after 24 years of marriage, we still have a lot of room for improvement in that area as bottling things up is how she is. For coping, grounding is a must whenever I can to clear me. And then sometimes distance helps. In other words I don't stick around long when she is upset with someone or me. I tell her we'll talk about it later when things have cooled and I get out of there. I am careful not to abandon her when she needs me, but at the same time if it is going to be a protracted venting session I do put a limit on how much I can take.

As for your situation it is hard to change people. You’ve been married a long time so I’m sure you both have your routines and ways of dealing with each other (right or wrong). Maybe you can talk to him about getting out of your rut and improving how to interact with each other. Having better communication with each other where you can both exchange feelings like “you make me feel like this when you do that” does help better understand each other. But if that is not an option, you need to take care of yourself through grounding and creating your own happiness each day. And by being happier you may actually be able to lift his mood with your higher vibration.

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/14/17 05:49:19PM
509 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@calmidwester:

As empaths we know we can raise our vibration to the point where we make people around us feel realy good (and in some cases we can even heal them with our high vibration skills). But the challenge for me, as I suspect it is for most empths, is that life gets in the way and brings me down. I pick up bad stuff from other people most days that drains me. But I also have a job that can be pretty stressful at times. And that combined with what I already take in as an empath can at times make me edgy, irritable, and depressed/withdrawn.

I've gotten pretty good at grounding and have found a lot of help with protections stones to limit what I take in each day. But every few weeks I hit a point of overload where I'm really overloaded and heavy from my own stress and what I take in from others. It actually usually happens where I go a few days without grounding due to my busy schedule. My vibration is low and even when I try my best not to bring it home to my family, they feel it. Its kind of like when someone in a bad mood walks in the room.

I've only been aware that I am an empath for about a year and a half so before I knew that and found out about grounding I felt like I was losing my mind with all the daily anxiety and crazy mood swings that I would pick up just walking around my house or office. Back then I was just so agitated all the time that I had a short fuse. Thankfully now I am so much better at managing all of his. But its not easy and I do have my off days.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/14/17 01:16:01PM
509 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

@calmidwester:

I don't mean to imply it's all your fault either. I think even in the best relationships there are struggles caused by both people. But in my case I took a step back and was able to recognize how hard it is for others close to me at times to be with me. Over the years as my empathy has grown stronger I am unfortunately more stressed and less happy. And once I really took responsibility for all that I realized that the stuff that was most difficult in our relationship was mostly tied to my empathy and how I can bring down my loved ones at times (even without saying a word). My solution was to try to ground and mellow myself out more. And when I come home from work all charged up I usually try to take a 10-15 minute time out alone to decompress so that I can be more present and calm with my loved ones the rest of the night. That time-out exercise has really improved things at home.

I would also say that I know you are pretty religious from your other posts. Just realize that this empath and paranormal stuff that we live with is very hard for religious people to understand. My experience is that some of them will think you've joined a cult or are being influenced by the devil. Being an empath is not covered in the bible as far as I can tell so many won't know how to understand who and what you are. This includes your husband. Give him time to better understand this. Religion unfortunately makes people closed minded. And to understand the world of an empath one absolutely needs to be open minded.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/14/17 12:48:19PM
509 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

As @jonig stated, we can be attracted and excited about a person who is totally wrong for us (and sometimes that person can be really bad for us). And yet the type of people who may be the best match mate wise we may find boring or unfulfilling.

 As we all are saying and stating, it is really hard to have relationships as an empath. I have struggles with my wife where she wants to be out doing things all the time and at the end of the week I just want to stay in and recharge since being out in public can be exhausting. And then we empaths can be moody and burnt out so our s/o has to be patient with that. And then lastly, we feel so deeply that when there are relationship problems it rips us apart. It’s very difficult for us and for those we love.

 @calmidwester,

I don’t know if this is true for you. But I have found that when I am at wits end with my own relationship that after deep analysis that a lot of what I don’t like about my marriage really results from the problems I cause through my own empathy. By being too emotional, anxious, and then withdrawn, I cause others around me to react to my behavior. I have done better in my relationship when I am in better control of how I act. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/13/17 03:31:40PM
509 posts

My gift is gone


Empath

@slight:

I've been going through this same thing lately. My empath abilities in the fall were stronger than they had ever been. And then I got really sick on 3 different occasions in December/Jan. While sick my empathy initially got even stronger. But as I became weaker from illness, my empathy just seemed to shut off. For the last two months I have been back to normal as far as health. But my empath abilities seem muted like a 2 on a scale of 10 whereas prior to being sick I was probably an 8 or 9. I have no idea what happened but am seeking ways to bring it back.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/08/17 05:59:32PM
509 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

@bill-walker:

I personally have not been near death in the classical sense of being in a comma or bleeding out from a car wreck etc... But I had two distinct events in my life that I would call near-death misses where someone unseen stepped in and caused me to avoid what would have been a fatal accident.

But I can't say either event resulted in me becoming an empath. When I look back to when my empathic skills started in strength it all started after a period of prolonged and extreme stress about 8 years ago. I was not dealing with the stress well at the time and I literally felt something snap in my mind that seemed to reveal my empathy. In hindsight I think I had some empathic gifts as a child that I just thought were coincidences and blocked them. And then it all came together and awakened me 8 years ago.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/08/17 05:49:19PM
509 posts

What Are Your Favorite Crystals?


Empath

There has been a lot of talk about protection crystals lately. I have spent the last 6-7 months really studying and testing out what different crystals and stones can do. It's been both fascinating and life changing.

I still have many more to buy and test so if anyone has any new one's that they especially like please let me know what they are and why you like them. And for those interested, I found a really good crystal healing guide online at Amazon:

The Crystal Healer by Phillip Permutt

The book covers a very large amount of crystals and stones. It explains why these work with the human body and how our ancestors have used them for centuries. And the author makes recommendations on which stones will work best for each health ailment or mood changing that you are trying to accomplish.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/08/17 05:41:20PM
509 posts

Son Seeing UFOs


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you to everyone who shared an opinion. I also found a few outside empath and medium postings on the subject. And it definitely seems that once one astral projects that if you are not careful and prepared, that some bad things can attach or follow you back to the window to our world. And that seemed like a lot for a 15 year old to handle so we had a talk with my son. And he agreed to set the astral projecting aside for many years until he is older and wiser.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/08/17 08:10:04AM
509 posts

The music thing


Arts

@calmidwester:

Music has been found to play an important role with most empaths. In a way it can be medicine for our souls. In fact, when I am at work having a tough stress day, I use soft music to calm and ground. I have also found that as my empathy has become stronger over the years that I struggle with certain noises that didn't used to bother me. Sounds from a blender or my teenager playing loud rap music is like nails down a chalk board for me. 

I wonder if you had a similar reaction to music being playing differently and at a faster pace. We empaths are known as being over-sensitive compared to others. You may have sensed a different vibration from the music that just annoyed you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/08/17 08:03:12AM
509 posts

Has anyone had a fear of trying anything paranormal?


Psychic and Paranormal

@soothsayer4:

If you can elaborate maybe we can help you. What do you mean by paranormal things following you? Are you talking about spirits? And do you see them? If so, please describe them.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/07/17 02:43:22PM
509 posts

Looking for answers


Empath

@calmidwester:

Good job remembering the tourmaline while out shopping. I'm glad you are noticing an improvement. And it's funny you mentioned Costco. Once in a while on weekends I get out of my weekly routine and forget my stones when running errands. And when that happens I have a real tough time at Costco. I don't know what it is about that place as I really like the store but get a lot of anxiety.

In my experience only about 1 out of 10 stones create a buzzing or electrical feeling (or in your case heat). That doesn't mean that the other ones aren't working. It just means the one that vibrates is at a higher vibration and may be a good stone for you. As humans when you are happiest you are at a high energy vibration. And when down and depressed you are at a low vibration. I have read that as empaths we have a higher vibration than others to start and can get our vibration a lot higher. When you learn to raise your vibration you will not only feel better but will bring healing and happiness to those around you.

I think the stones that have high vibrations and buzz in your hands can be useful to raise your vibration. But don't be surprised if they also make you feel dizzy or uncomfortable. That is your body adjusting to it. In that case, just hold the vibrating stone for a short amount of time each day and increase over time.

You will notice that some of the stones that work the best for you don't really feel like anything. My black tourmaline, black onyx, and black obsidian just feel like cold stones to me. They have never radiated or buzzed in my hand. But they work their magic and keep negative energy away from me each day. And I am very grateful for that.

The protection stones go through a lot for us. Some block negative while others absorb it to keep it off of you. So they do need some care. I like to set mine out in sunlight for the day every 2-3 days. But I also at times will let them soak in salt water for a day to clean and reinvigorate them. 

I have a quick story on the practical use of stones. Rose quartz is known to bring calm and love and is supposedly especially effective for females. Every once in a while my wife gets grumpy or stressed and basically is well on her way to having a bad day. And I will covertly put a rose quartz on her nightstand or sneak one in her purse or on her desk. And while it doesn’t have an instant impact, it does calm her down and brighten her day. And just the other day I was at my doctor's office and she had a large rose quartz sitting on her desk. Others in this forum have put Rose quartz around their office to try to create more peace and harmony. Long story short, there are lots of stones and crystals that do some cool things. But for an empath struggling with anxiety and overload, protection stones are the best place to start.

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 12:35:02PM
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You can get a 1 lb box of Morton's salt at Walmart or your grocery store in the baking aisle. Some say sea salt is best but it can be pretty pricey. The key is not to use processed salt that you would normally use for food. I have found rock salt to be reasonably priced and effective.

Epsom salt really doesn't contain salt. It is magnesium. But if you take salt baths to relax and rid yourself of negative, the epson salt does help relax your muscles and pairs well with sea salt or rock salt.

With crystals and rocks I have done some extensive testing. And I have to say the ones that buzz and vibrate in my hand are not necessarily my best functioning stones. I'm still trying to find out the connection there. Some say the ones that buzz are better meditation stones. But black tourmaline is my stead-eddy don't leave home without it stone. And I don't feel any buzzing from it but yet it does the job the best as a protection stone for me. I will say that we all have our favorites and what works well for me may not work as well for you (and vice-versa).

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 12:05:42PM
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@yugcub:

One more thing. After your stones arrive and you clean them, see if any of them do anything in your hand. Test out one at a time in a closed fist. Some work without you feeling a thing. While others that are at a higher vibration to you and a good match for you will make a buzzing feeling. It's almost like an electrical charge. I tested it out with two people who are not empaths. They felt nothing from a stone that had a very strong buzzing pulse while in my hand. This is why I call crystals and stones medicine for empaths.

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 12:00:00PM
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@yugcub:

I find that touching someone can be good or bad. If that person is in a good place of love you may pick up their positive vibes. But if you touch a person with a lot of problems and emotional baggage you will fast track the transfer of it to you.

I feel the same with stones. They do work be near to you (on a desk or nightstand etc…). But they work even better when touching your skin. That’s why some people like to wear them as jewelry. And on that note, some empaths are especially sensitive to negative emotions that may have attached to the stone before it came to you. For example, a poor miner or factory worker in a foreign country may have been involved with your stone at one point. And their misery may have been transferred to the stone. I have heard from many empaths who actually got sick or really down after receiving a new crystal or stone. For this reason you will always want to place new stones in a cup of water with rock salt in it for at least 24 hours to clean it. The salt neutralizes any low energy that may have attached to it.

And if I have a tough couple days I will even soak my stones in salt water to clean it from the stuff that it is getting from my life. And then separately from the salt I like to set the stones in the sun every few days to help keep them in tip top shape to do their job protecting me.

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 11:47:40AM
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Signs Someone is Trying to Manipulate You ( Narcissist / Empath Relationship )


Library of Light

@bing:

Great article. Thanks for sharing. Why do empaths in particular get caught up in the web of narcissists again and again? What is this weird attraction we have with narcissists? And then vice-versa, I often run in to narcissists who desperately want to become my close friend. Why are they so attracted to us?

I have a personal story to share to illustrate this. I personally am not attracted to narcissists. I detest them and see them coming and want nothing to do with them. I politely listen to them brag about how great they are and then keep them at a distance. And I notice that they either keep chasing after me or some will quickly turn on me and put me on their enemies list. I once worked with one who when she realized she couldn't influence me went about trying to get me fired by turning the whole department against me. It was interesting to see her power at work as she influenced people who really liked me to suddenly turn on me with heavy dislike.

My theory is that I think narcs must deep down know that we can see through their mask to see the real monster below the surface. And they don't want to be exposed so they go about discrediting or trying to destroy us.

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 11:29:59AM
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Good for you. At 25 for you she is probably well on her way to adulthood. For my daughter, we kind of knew we were in for some dicey teenage years. We just take it one day at a time. 

Hop Daddy
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03/07/17 11:10:55AM
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@calmidwester:

How old is your daughter? My empath daughter is 13 and is a Scorpio. And she fits the Scorpio personality description to a tee. And she has since birth had the unique ability to turn the house upside down in a total sh*t storm when she is having a bad day. Since I pick up on energies so easily I can literally feel her change the energy in the house to one of anger and anxiety. Her emotions are very powerful at this age. We have a pretty good relationship but she's a handful at this age. She is very bonded to her mother but absolutely wears her out on some days.

I wonder if you go through the same? I have heard from others that it is challenging to be married to or live with other empaths. I think our high vibration and over sensitivities are too strong when around each other under one roof.

Hop Daddy
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03/06/17 11:06:25AM
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@calmidwester:

Remember, there are no coincidences. You may have sensed that I was messaging you. Wink

I'm glad the stones worked for you. After dealing with so much anxiety, it's great to feel better, right? And it is no coincidence that you slept better. The stones are helping you relax and draw the negative out and away from you. Salt is also excellent for that. And your time with nature definitely played in to your ability to feel better.

If you are interested in finding out what others have mentioned as their favorite crystals and stones take a look at this post:

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/27513/what-are-your-favorite-crystals

And as for you feeling your daughter's pain, it is very common for you to have all sorts of connections to those in your family. I personally don't normally have the physical empath skill. But I do with my wife and kids when they are hurt or don't feel well. 

Hop Daddy
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03/06/17 10:51:18AM
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What Are Your Favorite Crystals?


Empath

@paul:

Great to hear from you and that things are better for you. Where can I buy Ray Pinto crystals?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/06/17 10:48:11AM
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@calmidwester:

I was curious if you had the protection stones on you during the competition and lunch to see if you noticed a difference. They should make a difference once you find the right protection stone combo for you. Everyone is different but I notice about a 70% reduction in anxiety when I keep them near. They have really changed my life.

As for salt, a lot of web sites out there recommend Himalayan or sea salt for empaths to bath in. But that gets really pricey. Rock salt works just fine and is what I use. You can pick that up at your grocery store in the baking aisle. Most stores carry Morton's rock salt (Wal-Mart usually carries them as well). The only salt they say doesn't work is table salt since it is too processed.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/05/17 04:33:06PM
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@mythical-spark:

Empaths most definitely run in families. And even if they are not awakened empaths you can spot empaths in your family who exhibit all the traits: Over sensitivity, anxiousness, quiet introverts, hating crowds and going out in public. Struggling with sleep disorders etc...

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/05/17 04:29:50PM
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@calmidwester:

One more related comment that I wanted to mention. I know right now you are feeling weak and not in very good control of your life due to your recently discovered empathy. You are not alone. We all have been there. But you found the right place to come to ask questions and learn how to master things. And at some point soon you will gain control and come out strong and in better control as you flip your energy. You do this by limiting the negative you take in, grounding it away, and living your life in better happiness and love.

So side-note to what you are going through and perhaps something for you to look forward to down the road:  As you probably know by now, narcissists have a very interesting attraction to empaths. It also goes both ways for some (although I personally detest narcs). But based on what you described there were probably more than a few narcissist people sitting at that lunch table. Now that I am in a good place and have a better handle on the negative I let in each day, I would have the narcs at the table self-destructing without me barely uttering a word. What usually happens is they get very drawn to me and if there are multiple narcs they will make fools out of themselves trying to compete to impress me. Simply put, I make them very uncomfortable and insecure just by being there. I think it has something to do with our empath high vibrational energy that they find intoxicating. And these are obviously very vain people who normally bow down to no one. And like I said, I normally hardly say a word and the narcs are all eyes on me trying to win me over. My wife who is not an empath says it is the damnedest thing she has ever seen. It happens all the time. It's literally dinner theater. But this only happens if I am in a good happy high energy place. If I am low energy from a tough couple days the narcs would still be uncomfortable around me but would shoot me dirty looks in more of a bullying type of way. So you really have to be choosy with where you go depending on how you feel.

I know it sucks to be out at these things. And despite the little bit of revenge comedy I get as noted above, I would normally rather be anywhere but at a luncheon like you described. But from asking around, what I experience with narcs from a position of my strength is very typical empath-narc behavior. At some point you will have that to look forward to.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/05/17 03:53:03PM
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@calmidwester:

I honestly don't know an empath who hasn't felt like you did. Not to worry. You are toatlly normal and are one of us. First and foremost, it is hard to be out in public as an empath. You could be picking up vibes from the collective in that whole restaurant or area. And then at your table alone with jealous competitive women, that's your worst case scenario for an empath. Well, maybe there are things worse than that (like funerals, or a cancer ward). But as an empath you are likely strongly opposed to the fake and negative personalities that were at that table. That's very hard to sit through and to me would feel like a grave injustice watching those women at work jockeying for position. Between that and all the negative that they must have put out, my hat is off to you for being able to make it through the whole meal without having a panic attack. 

Remember, we are sponges. And you absorbed a lot of bad stuff at that table. By singing and enjoying nature afterwards I think that was a decent step to get some of that out of your body. But as you eluded to, you didn't get it all out and didn't feel much better. That's where some of the grounding ideas that I sent you in another post come in to help you clean up after an event like that. If you don't ground yourself after a situation like that it could take days of anxiety and depression to get that out of your body on its own. But you can speed it up considerably if you do some grounding techniques. Just remember, in time you will get a better handle on this and will be stronger and better prepared to handle a luncheon like that.

Quick question. Did you have any protection stones on your body or in your purse during the luncheon?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/05/17 03:36:41PM
509 posts

What Are Your Favorite Crystals?


Empath

@paul:

I saw your name pop up in a posting this weekend. We haven't heard from you in a while. Welcome back. I was curious how your Marcel Vogel quartz is working out for you? Have you observed it doing anything spectacular versus a regular quartz?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
03/05/17 12:05:35PM
509 posts

Would this be clairaudience?


Psychic and Paranormal

@raindancer

Wow. You have a great story there. Between running in to a star at Safeway I am guessing you must live in Southern Calif. I grew up there and Kevin Costner used to live up the street from me in my home town. Anyway, dare I ask who the celebrity was? Or at least initials? There seems to be something written in the stars between you and that celebrity.

I myself am starting to understand messages spirit guides are leaving us as we follow our life path. You know them as synchronicities. I happened upon a really informative web site last night that had a really good article about synchronicities. I thought you might like it:

http://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2011/08/how-to-tell-the-difference-between-a-sign-and-a-coincidence/

Of course the main problems for us mortals are that the signs are there but we're not very good at reading them. And we often ignore them or are too busy in our hectic lives to see the forest for the trees. I think this often happens when ideas that are not mine get dropped in to my head. I'm trying myself to slow down my life enough to start examining the ideas and thoughts dropped in to my head as well as the other synchronicities that appear daily throughout life.

 
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