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@tigerlily

The narc-empath dynamic is an interesting one. Many times narcs are flat out intoxicated by us. And they are very good manipulators, as many empaths can attest to. Most empaths can attest to having at least one really bad narc lesson that they had to learn from. The narc will worm their way into your heart, suck out your emotional energy like a vampire, and then will toss you to the side as they abruptly end the relationship. And that's a dark hold for the broken empath to crawl out of at that point. This dynamic happens the same in almost every case, even in non-romantic situations.

I personally have enough on my plate as an empath. I'm not interested in anyone who wants to lie, manipulate, and take from my energy. Not to mention that I can do without the drama. I am empathetic with most types of people. But I never feel sorry for the narcs. Maybe I should feel bad for them, but they are the big fakers and liars in our society. And just crossing paths with them makes me feel repulsed and angry.

I would say for your office guy, just block him out and keep your distance from him. He wants in your energetic life. He would love to attach to you romantically as that is a deeper stab for a narc. Don't let him in. And I would just politely make it clear that you don't want his friendship. 

@sashacat1995:

We often get many signs from our angels and guides. Sometimes it comes in the form of a song that you hear repeatedly or at the perfect time to have meaning. And other times the signs are more obvious like a reoccurring theme on a bumper sticker, billboard or license plate. We are so busy, busy, busy in our current society that I think we miss a lot of signs that are sent our way. I often laugh that my guides and angels must think I'm an idiot for how long it takes me to notice their signs.

With numbers I believe they come directly from angels and are often referred to as angel numbers. My experience is that they repeat often in different ways as a way of confirmation. That way we have proof that it's not random. In my case I kept having 66 show up on my cell phone battery level, my car temp gauge, and even my home thermostat, and even on some work related messages. The interesting thing about it showing on my temp gauges was that it would show me 66 long enough for me to see it and then would revert to 68 or whatever the actual temperature was. Same thing for my cell. phone battery. I'm a skeptic by nature so seeing that number show up and then change to something else before my eyes was confirmation that I was being sent a numeric message.

I would say watch for repeating numbers that show up randomly but in very "in your face ways" that only you would notice.

Here's a decent website that helps you assign meaning to numbers that you see:

http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/p/index-numbers.html

@pinkrose:

You are very welcome!

@sashacat1995:

I have looked into it as it has applied to my own life. I was getting a "66" showing up 4-5 times daily for months recently. It was kind of magical how often and where I would see those numbers. And the meaning of 66 came at a good time for me and helped me make some fork in the road decisions in my life. And my wife has gone through cycles where she sees "11:11" for days. It's very interesting. 

Do you have a question on it?

@pinkrose:

I awakened as an empath about 3 years ago. But it really started for me about 9 years ago. And for the first 6 years I blocked it and tried to ignore it. I had no idea why I was having panic attacks all of the time, or why I couldn't stand to be around most people. And it was a very stressful existence. Back then I had no idea what an empath was. And I was so skeptical minded when I stumbled upon the definition of an empath that I was faced with the decision of either pursuing a mental illness solution, or a spiritual one. I chose correctly the spiritual route avoiding the anti-depressant path. And it's been much smoother sailing since accepting my empath trait and learning how to manage it. But I did have a pretty tough time being around people. I spent a lot of time avoiding people and hermiting alone as best as I could until I figured out how to shield and ground what I take in each day. I had to really clear out some toxic relationships out of my life. And since then, I've become pretty good at identifying narcs and emotionally toxic people and avoid them. 

But while I have learned to be around large groups of people, I still get tripped up with heightened anxiety in some group settings. And I have a terrible time in airports and with taking off in an airplane. I am not normally fearful of flying. But picking up the stress and scared of flying vibes from others has been something that I have not yet figured out how to get past. There is always a lot of adapting and learning to overcome certain things.

But circling back to our discussion about communicating with spirits, I stumbled across this interesting post on this subject from a well known medium. I thought I'd share it:

https://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2011/11/should-i-communicate-with-a-negative-presence-in-my-friends-home/

I know what you mean and I think most empaths feel that way. I have a busy family life, social life, and work life where I am constantly around people. And the biggest struggle for me after awakening was to get a handle on how to function when I am constantly bombarded by the energy of everyone around me. As a result, I come home from work and really enjoy my quiet time alone. My soul craves it as a time to recharge and heal from the day. But I do understand the loneliness that you speak of. We're very different and don't easily fit in most social situations. But yet the best part of being an empath is the ability to effect change by helping people or changing the energy in the room or situation. Once I realized that, it has made it much easier to deal with the anxiety and mood swings that I deal with as an empath.

@friendyloner3:

My teenage daughter is an empath and her senses and spirit activity increases when she has her period. I have a theory that spirits are highly attracted to us when our empath vibration lowers. I wonder if that relates?

@pinkrose

Got it. I know exactly what you mean. The nice thing about this site is that we can share experiences and determine that we are all just normal "empaths". For me about once a week I wake up feeling like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I'm a little irritable but don't really know why. Something just bugs me and my head hurts as if I have a faint headache. When I get like that I just want to be alone and just let my mind rest. I feel very here but not all here, and like you said it's very heady. But when I get like that my empath senses are really heightened. I pick up stuff from near and far. And I can kind of feel as if I have two parts to my brain. One part that has me controlling it, and the other part that is on full blast empath autopilot.

If you experience the same, I have found that a good nap usually gets rid of feeling off like that. But honestly when my senses are heightened I usually take advantage of it and see where it goes. I'm constantly learning how all of this works as it changes all of the time.

@pinkrose:

Not at all. I love your topical questions. It adds to the community and gives us all a lot to think about. Thanks for bringing all of this up!

Please pardon my lengthy response. But I think I may have some things that can help you. Your spirit visitation is intriguing to me. I have never heard of anyone being visited by a spirit that entered a human body and filled them up with positive light and energy. It's just not in their wheel house. While I don't claim to be an expert on this subject, I have had a fair amount of experience firsthand with spirit visitations. And I've done a lot of research based on the accounts of mediums and empaths. And for spirits to visit us or show themselves it takes a tremendous amount of their energy. We humans emote energy with every breath (and I think that has something to do why spirits hang around us). But on the other side energy is something that is in short supply and needs to be absorbed and rationed. For this reason, and the fact that earth bound spirits are typically full of lower energy, I have a hard time believing that you had a ghost/spirit visit you.

But that said, I do believe what you said happened. I am leaning toward thinking that you had an angelic visitation. And I don't know if you were going through a tough time before that night. But I almost wonder if an angel stopped by to give you a pick me up during a tough time. Because that absolutely does happen.

On the Ouija Board subject, a lot of people get excited to try connecting with the other side through various channeling devices. But I've heard some pretty alarming stories about empaths in particular having brought some pretty awful stuff in from the other side. And what followed just about ruined and ended their lives. Just out of caution I bring this up during spirit conversations for anyone who doesn't know about that risk.

And lastly, you said that you had challenges protecting yourself from negative spirits. I have some advice that worked for me. The spirits like it when we are feeling down. I don't know if we leak energy when we are having a bad day, but the paranormal stuff for me really picks up on a bad day. My theory is that we leak energy that they can absorb when we are emotionally drained. So what you want to do is raise your vibration (which is a fancy term for grounding out the low energy you absorb and returning you to a healthy state). To do this I wear protection stones just about 24 hours a day. They help block spirit energy as well as human low emotional energy. (If you need some protection stone suggestions let me know). I have also had really good results from taking salt baths. If needed do them daily until you feel happier and less down. I have also found that the spirits also don't like salt. My theory there is that is weakens their energy. If I am being harassed by spirits that won't go away I'll have a bowl of salt water on my nightstand, under my bed, and a bowl in my office. (Some people have told me just a bowl of salt without water works fine although I have found the effects are better with salt water). Himalayan salt is best to use but is expensive. I use rock salt that you can find at any grocery store (just don't used processed table salt as you want it as raw as possible). The salt baths will ground you and raise your vibration. The protection stones will help shield you a bit from lower (negative energy). And the salt water bowls around you will also create a barrier from low energy and any spirits that may try to make unwanted contact. And as a fun sidebar, there is a reason why churches over the centuries have blessed salt and water when making holy water. And they use that holy water for religious ceremonies like blessings and exorcisms.

P.S.- I do remember Candyman movie. It freaked me out. Both my kids are also empaths and when they were younger I caught them playing bloody Mary in front of a mirror. And back then my kids saw ghosts daily anyway. I put an end to that game. I may have over reacted but mirrors freak me out. And I didn’t want to chance them inviting anything else to our house.

@pinkrose:

As a P.S., I didn't used to believe in spirit guides and angels. But in recent years I have come to see first hand how they have played a role in my life. And I now believe. And my wife had a one on one interaction with an angel that was very similar to what you described in feeling except that angel did not enter her body. But I don't know if I have ever had someone say before that a ghost made them feel really good and happy, so that makes me wonder if you did interact with an angel?

@pinkrose:

You have been very busy with all of your questions lately. I love it.

I have had some experience with spirits contacting me. It's usually them making a lot of noise or whispering in my ear when I am sleeping. And I've had a few call my name from across the house. Some have touched me. I've also felt some spirits try to collide or enter my body and it was very unpleasant and I was able to resist. My challenge is that I hear spirits but can't usually see them. Since I can't see them they can sneak up on me at times. And I notice if I have a really bad day that spirit activity around me quadruples. I still haven't sorted out exactly why that is.

And my opinion as an empath is that you want to be real careful with communicating and letting them in. There is some bad stuff out there on the other side of the veil that is looking for a way in. There are very good reasons why fellow empaths tell each other to never use Ouija Boards or Ghost Boxes that connect and invite things in. And the earthbound spirits that are stuck in our plane are here because of a tragic death or troubled life that has left them full of regret and unfinished business that is keeping them from crossing over. Their emotional energy is therefore usually low, and you want to be careful not to absorb that as it will really sink you. And unless you are a really experienced medium with protection experience, I would definitely advise against allowing a spirit to possess your body and mind.

You have to get really good at protecting yourself before you want to interact with any of that. One thing to keep in mind that some of the bad stuff out there can often lure you in appearing to you as safe and beautiful. I'm not meaning to say that's what you are dealing with. But just be very careful. And I am hoping others on this site can share some of their personal interactions with spirits and give you some additional advice as well.

@pinkrose:

I think I know what you mean. But can you provide more detail on your feeling of an illusion or nostalgic bubble?

@s

ashacat1995:

I generally don't program them. My reason is that first off, only some crystals are programable (like quartz). And secondly, I did some research and quite a few experts use the crystals and stones with respect for what they are good for. But instead of programming their crystals, they instead program their own life with intent and manifesting. I've followed that path. In fact, I've done a lot of reading about the power of attraction and how we unconsciously attract good and bad in our lives and that this can be controlled by focusing on manifesting good. I've been working on that myself and have seen some progress that it works.

I'd love to hear from others that program their crystals as to how they do it and how well it works for them. But so far for me I've been able to focus on my own intent while using each crystal and stone to benefit my health and well-being.

@windwolf:

When we empaths are depressed or under a lot of stress, our natural protections erode. And we take in more bad energy each day than usual. And then you get tired from the depression and stress, and then are extra tired from being more exposed than usual as an empath. Try getting more meditation and rest and see if that improves. I also tell every empath I meet to take a warm bath with a couple cups of rock salt in there. Relaxing in that for 20 minutes or so does wonders for clearing out low energy and making you feel relaxed.

I did want to say that when I did have what I think was a spirit attachment that I was fatigued on a whole other level. I actually felt like something was leaching my energy. I had a sensation like something pulling from the top of my head. I'll have to tell you guys my spirit attachment removal story sometime because it blew my mind when I won the battle. But I'm thinking in your case that you probably just have empath fatigue.

The colors that you are seeing when you close your eyes are your channeling skills. The same thing happens to me. With my eyes closed I often see a kaleidoscope of whirling colors shooting around and sometimes see bright lights as if someone is shining a flashlight at me. But when I open my eyes nothing is there but darkness. I typically see these colors with my eyes closed when I am falling asleep at night. And it's hard to stay awake sometimes to see where it goes. And once I fall asleep I rarely remember much from dream time. But if you can stay awake, find a meditation stone or two when you go to bed and focus on those colors. For me they sometimes transition in to visions and little movies of people. I also get a flashcard phase where I see mugshot like images of people in my mind that switch every 2 seconds as if someone is dealing them out like cards at a casino. I usually will see 20-30 images of people before it shuts off or I fall asleep. I still have no idea what I am seeing when this happens. But it is very interesting. I can also sometimes while meditating get the same outcome of images of people. I would say try to stay awake and relax your mind and see where the swirling colors take you.

@pinkrose:

If I had a dime for every time I have heard a fellow empath say the exact words you mentioned there, I would be rich! 

We have all gone through what you have gone through. Initially as an empath there is a lot of pain. You will learn to adapt to everything over time ad then things get easier. And part of that journey is to see people for who they are and limit who you let in your life. There are some very good people out there. But there are also a lot of bad selfish people who take what they want regardless of the harm they do to others. And those types of people seem to be very attracted to empaths. You will learn to notice that pattern and not let those types in to your life. The narcs out there in particular are the ones you want to watch out for as they will use you and abuse you and leave you devastated. 

I'm guessing none of this will make you feel any better about the hurt that you are going through. Just know that it will get better, and that you will learn to choose friendships in the future with people who are good for you.

@sashacat1995:

Both my teenage kids made fun of me when I started using crystals. And I guess I can't blame them. It did feel a little woo-woo when I first considered it. But both my kids are empaths and they now use crystals as well and benefit from them. My son like me won't leave the house without protection stones in his pocket. And my daughter is the forgetful type and will forget to bring protection stones with her and like clockwork she will have a bad day when she leaves the house unprotected. But she's starting to remember more often as she can see the difference first hand with how her days go.

I like to tell people that the protection stone category is kind of like sun screen for empaths. It's not going to block all of the bad stuff out there that you pick up each day. But it does do a decent job limiting negative energy that you take in. And some empaths do well with crystals and stones near them in a room. But I have noticed that my kids and I have to have body contact with the stones & crystals in order for them to work best. My daughter has some bracelets that I found for her. And my son and I have a small pouch of protection stones that we keep in our pockets.

But coming full circle to your question on cleaning. I clean my crystals and stones that I use daily every couple days. And I always cleanse them when I buy them new. Some people say putting crystals and stones under running tap water cleans them. Other say prayers and channel white light over them. And I've met quite a few people who feel that leaving them out in the moonlight works. What I like to do is leave them in sunlight for 24 hours. I have duplicates of several of the stones and will alternate stones every couple days so that I'm using a reenergized set while the other set is sitting in the sun. But not all stones do well in the sun so you have to do a little research. Amethyst for example will bleach and lose its power from sitting in sun. But another good stone cleaning method is to put your stones in a cup of salty water for 8-12 hours. The salt really helps neutralize any bad energy that the stones have taken on.

@pinkrose and @sashacat1995:

When in a crystal store, they say to focus on stones and crystals that you feel drawn to. But from my experience, I always feel a little overwhelmed by all of the energies in crystal stores. Sometimes I have to limit my time there. And I was at one store about a year ago and picked up a baseball sized hematite sphere. And I immediately got hit with vertigo and felt sick to my stomach. I guess that sphere was too strong for me. So depending on how sensitive you are, you may experience feeling a little off with some crystals and stones. There have also been a few that I have touched that made me feel energetic and happy. But like I said previously, the majority of crystals and stones that I use daily don’t give me a feeling at all. But they work very well in improving my life. The key is to understanding which ones do what. Some are great meditation stones. While others have healing or protective powers.

Here's a good book I found that you may want to check out to tell you what the various crystals will do. Since not everyone responds to crystals the same, not all of the book's crystal recommended healing powers have worked for me. But also many have worked well so I'd say it's 50/50 for me on what works and what doesn’t. And a few crystals that didn’t work well for me have helped out others that I know.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1904991637/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

@pinkrose:

That's a good question. I have seen my mother for one suppress/block her empath abilities. Part of this for her is done through very strong religious beliefs. But as I was awakened a few years back I tried to ignore it as I definitely did not believe in any of this. But my anxiety kept building and I kept having very strong and strange things happening to me (like visions, having ghosts contact me, some telepathy). It got to the point where I had to either face that this was real or consider that I maybe was losing my mind. And as I accepted it and learned more about spirituality and being an empath, my skills increased significantly. And over time, I was calmer. 

Out of curiosity, what's your reason for wanting to shut the door and go back as a non-empath?

@windwolf:

Keep meditating as it usually strengthens your abilities.

If you are seeing full rainbow auras around people then at that point you can trust what you see. People that can see full auras will tell you that when a person has an area that is weak and causing them problems that part of the aura will project as kind of muddy brown or fuzzy black. But if you are not yet seeing full auras, I wouldn't worry about that assuming that you are seeing your aura.

I do, however, have some experience with ghosts and rid myself of a spirit attachment a couple years back. It sounds like this could be an explanation for what you are seeing and working through. First off we all have to realize and accept that ghosts are everywhere. And the vast majority of them are harmless. They are particularly attracted to empaths. Because of who we are and our natural higher vibration, the ghosts are very drawn to us. 

I do not usually see ghosts, my ability is that I can hear them. However, on the occasions where I have seen ghosts they have always been shadowy black and in different shapes and sizes. I usually see them as blobs and not in any type of body outline. My daughter is an empath and normally sees ghosts in human shape and she tells me that they mostly appear as shadowy. Most present that way. From what I hear from others, ghosts normally only present with great detail when they have passed recently. 

In getting back to your situation, I had something black on my back not too long ago. I couldn't see it in the mirror. But when someone dropped something at my house I whipped around really fast and saw this black object that was attached to my back and almost looked like a black cape. I saw it at various times for about a week and nothing since. I think this may be what you are seeing. With my hearing and general empath radar I feel certain ghosts come hang around me for a few days regularly. And then they usually move on. When it gets on my nerves I ask them to leave and they usually comply. I believe the same thing happened with that black cape-like thing on my back as it disappeared about a week later. 

As an empath you already know that you pick up on living human emotions. But you also can pick up on ghost emotions as well. The thing about earth-bound ghosts is that they are here because they have not crossed over yet. And they are usually here due to confusion, unfinished business in their former life, or guilt/strong emotional attachments that keep them here. If you ever watch one of those legitimate ghost hunter tv shows where the empath or medium walks into a haunted house and feels pressure on their chest and picks up on anger, sadness etc... It's exactly like that. While humans have a range of emotions, ghosts normally exhibit the emotions that are keeping them bound to the earth-plane. For example, if someone died from a drug overdose, their ghost may present with feelings of sadness and regret. 

If I am a correct and you have a ghost keeping close to you, I would just test it out by trying to clear your mind and see if you can pick up any emotions from the entity. If you are noticing unusual moodiness or ill feelings yourself, that may also be you reacting to ghost emotions. As an empath we are always asking ourselves "is this emotion mine?" So if you all of a sudden are feeling angry for no reason, a lot of times our brains accept that as "our own feelings" and we just go with it and feel anxious and angry. But as an empath progresses, we learn to discern what is not ours and recognize it as incoming emotions from others. This is the same with ghost emotional energy that you may be picking up. You'll feel it as your own. But you can block that or just ask the ghost to leave. Protections stones also work well to keep ghosts from impacting your energy field.

Let me know if you feel that this info. helps. And if you are feeling a lot of fatigue lately, let me know on that as well as that is an off-shoot of this topic.

@sashacat1995:

I'm a huge crystal person. In fact, using protection stones was a game changer for me as I adjusted to being an empath. I don't know how I would have kept sane without it. And I have discovered more and more crystals over the years that have helped me and my environment in various ways. In fact I was just laughing at my 14 year old daughter the other day because she said I was embarrassing her by leaving me spiritual books and crystals where her friends can see them at our house.

I have found with crystals that you first have to 100% open yourself up to the belief that they will work. If you go into it thinking "I guess I'll give this crazy Shirley Maclean mumbo-jumbo a try", you will likely block their benefit. That's how I was initially and the whole experience was a dud. To get it to work you have to open yourself up to believing that they will help you with the intent of your purpose. You also have to clean and re-energize them regularly or their functional powers will dull. And along those lines don't share your stones with others or immediately use them after buying them. You don't want to pick up on other people's energies that imprint on the stone. Always clean them before use when you buy them new. If you need tips on that let me know.

Some people do pick up on stones and will feel a vibration, a warming sensation, or even a shock feeling. Some stones make me feel high energy while others make me feel a bit nauseous and dizzy. You should visit a crystal store some time and hold various stones and see what your initial reaction is. If there is a crystal or stone that is useful to you but makes you feel weird, you may adapt to it over time. I also want to say that just because a stone doesn't make you feel something doesn't mean it isn't helping you. One of my favorite protection stones is black tourmaline. I feel nothing when holding it, but it is the stone that has made the biggest difference with protecting me from low people energy while I am at work or out in public.

I did want to note that if you walk into a crystal store with friends who are not empaths or sensitives, they will likely not feel anything from the crystals and stones. Those people are not wired like us so they just aren't ready to feel what we feel. 

@pinkrose:

I pick up on energy and emotion from messages, texts, emails. It's a blessing and a curse. A blessing because I can know how a person is really feeling. And a curse because picking up on other's emotional energy all the time gets me all jacked up with anxiousness and mood swings. It is definitely real. And as I read and respond to messages in this forum I generally pick up on the vibes of everyone posting. There is energy in everything. There is energy in spoken word, written word, and body language. And there is also energy in environment. This last one I find interesting as we humans leave an energetic imprint on our environment. Have you ever walked into an elevator with a couple that looked upset with each other as they exit? Their low anger and frustration energy left an imprint that you get to enjoy as you enter the elevator.

On your other question, empaths are typically very loving people. The type that help others before they help themselves. We'll give people the shirt off our backs if asked. Whereas narcs are self-absorbed, and self-centered to a fault. Empaths and narcs are polar opposites. I don't really see an empath acting like a narc. Although I will say that when we empaths become emotionally overloaded we will leak the negative energy that we take in and it will leak out in like kind. For example, let's say you had a rough day at work dealing with really angry and combative people. You may get home and be short tempered and snap at a loved one and get angry in response to that emotional energy overload. And I do think at a certain point an overloaded empath mind goes into survival mode and starts to become withdrawn and self-centered as a way to protect against further emotional stress. So from that respect, in freak out mode, an empath could show some self-centered traits for a very short period of time. 

@tigerlily:

I think I won the contest. I live in AZ in a county of almost 5 million people. But my city is closer to 250k. So overall pretty big surrounding area. I used to live in Southern California so I've mostly lived in large areas. It's an adjustment as an empath.

I think small towns certainly have their appeal. For one, big cities tend to be asphalt jungles with the hustle and bustle of people. Whereas small towns are usually rural and perfect for those who enjoy nature and tranquility. But I have lived in smaller towns before. And while it's nice to pretty much know everyone in a small town, it can also get quite gossipy with everyone knowing your business. I would think a rural city with population under 50k would be ideal.

I thought I'd add in this link that relates:

http://belindadavidson.com/why-empaths-intuitives-often-have-bad-health-2/

@wileycat:

My best guess is that you are feeling what is classically known as empath fatigue. It's very common. An earth vortex does not usually sap your energy. Usually the opposite happens where you feel tranquil and recharged. I think what’s impacting you is where you are as a new empath and the people you encounter in your area.

You said you recently accepted that you are an empath. When this happens your conscious mind stops fighting the subconscious and your empathic abilities increase as you accept who you are. But since you are a relatively new empath you don't yet know how to control or shield what energy you take in from people. It's as if someone has your dial all the way up to the max and you don't yet know how to turn it down. As a result, your body goes into overload and starts having negative reactions. You may feel dizzy, headachy, anxious, and get sick often. And many people in this state feel very worn out and unmotivated. I have experienced what you are going through many times.

I don't know your area that well. But vortex areas attract a lot of different people bringing all of their problems in looking to heal and restart their lives. You're going to pick up on all of that. And over time it just builds and wears you out.

I don't know if you have heard about the term empath grounding. But that is what you need to do often (even daily until you feel better). Grounding releases all that energy that you have pulled in from others that is stuck in you and is causing you to not feel well. The reason the hot springs water felt so good to you is that it was giving you a form of grounding. Water has healing properties for empaths. You can step that up even further by taking Himalayan or rock salt baths at home. The salt and the water work well together to release that pent up negative energy that you carry.

I'd say step up the amount of time each week that you spend at the hot springs in addition to taking salt baths. And you should start noticing that you are feeling better. Another tip is to focus on getting a little more sleep each night. Not having adequate sleep can really make you more unstable as an empath the next day. 

@bing:

Thanks for the post. This was a very enlightening read!

@cheshire-cat:

Thanks for commenting on Seth. It's a very old book series that seems to have been way ahead of it's time. I find that most people have not even heard of it. But it's fascinating with many teachings that make a lot of sense. I did want to ask you which book references the Calvary? And what's your take on that? I'd be interested in hearing more.

@crystalsage:

You bring up an interesting concept. Sometimes I wonder if we are living in a world environment much like that in the Matrix movie series. It seems so much of the world is under mind control that is preprogrammed by masters (the masters being technology, the deep state, media, politicians etc...). And the bulk of society is just sleep walking through life completely off the path with their role or lifepath for the greater good. And then those of us who feel like we are awake feel so out of sync with society.

I recently started reading the Seth book series and his teachings have reinforced my ongoing spiritual beliefs. For those that don't know of this, Seth is an entity who channeled through a woman named Jane Roberts in the 70s. And the purpose of this was for Seth to speak through Jane in order to have his teachings released as books for us humans to better understand of our current lives and how it relates to the big picture and afterlife. I first heard about this a couple years ago but was too skeptical to really get into it. It took a couple years of my own spiritual growth to have confidence that the teachings by Seth are legit and not fantasy. Anyway, long story short, Seth talks about a lot about the reincarnation, other dimensions of consciousness, and the universal order of things. And that we all need to get in touch with our inner consciousness to be awake and in tune to our life's purpose. He breaks it down that as we reincarnate that we come to this life with a purpose with set goals. And then as soon as we are born our outer consciousness loses touch with our inner consciousness and the game of life begins with us forgetting why we are here and what we are to accomplish. We spend the rest of our lives trying to realize our purpose. But most don't come close. If interested, you can find his first book here:

https://www.amazon.com/Seth-Speaks-Eternal-Validity-Soul/dp/1878424076/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1515958222&sr=8-1&keywords=seth

@womanwhowalks:

I have no idea what dual ear ringing means. I don't get that very often. Does that occur often for you?

This link also explains clairaudience pretty well in deeper detail:

http://intuitivesoulsblog.com/clairaudience/

@sashacat1995:

Thanks for sharing. This is a fun topic for me. I am clairaudient. And I believe that @womanwhowalks is as well. I have for many years had ringing in my ears. But through a lot of personal work and meditating, it really became active a couple years ago. It sounds like you have also activated this same psychic skill.

Clairaudience is your ability to tap into spirit through your hearing. But you will hear things that others cannot. Others won’t hear the ringing. I also hear banging on walls or ceilings where a person standing next to me won’t hear a thing. But for the ringing, they say it is not actually your ears hearing the ringing, but is actually a part of your brain that detects the clairaudience and presents it as sound. But that aside, when I hear ringing my ears get a little warm and tingly. And it feels like the ringing is in my ear but seems to be more internal near my middle ear canal. From what I understand about this the ringing, when it happens in your left ear it is coming from spirit guides. And ringing in your right ear are from ghosts. I also get an occasional deep octave buzz in my right ear as well. In both cases these entities are trying to communicate with you. But at this beginner level, you only hear ringing and you are not yet skilled enough to pull words through the ringing. Here’s a web link to help you learn more about this very cool talent:

http://www.ask-angels.com/spiritual-guidance/hearing-frequencies/

Two side bars to the above:

 1. I also get a voice inside my head that I believe is also related to clairaudience. It gives me ideas and thoughts. And sometimes the voice will say I need to this, or I need to call a certain person. The voice has come through as my own thought so for many years I just went along thinking that I had a pretty active mind. But now that I understand this better I believe that angels are giving me these thoughts. As an example, I may be at work typing up an email and then a thought will pop into my head to call Suzie. And then I’ll think to myself, I haven’t spoken to Suzie in over a year. I wonder how Suzie is doing? And then I call Suzie to find out that her mother just died and she is devastated and really needs some help. I now realize that these type of random thoughts being dropped into my head are not my own.

 2. So while I get those thoughts or instructions randomly dropped into my head, I also get the ear ringing. And I have to admit the ear ringing is an ongoing mystery for me as to how to better develop it. But if I remember how all of this goes, the thoughts in my head are angels speaking to me. They have the ability to do that to give you ideas and subtle pushes to act on something. And spirit guides are the ones ringing in my left ear. And then ghosts ring in my right ear. And I will say that when my right ear rings it also sometimes comes with burning sensations in my legs or arms. As if something is sparking me (like small cigarette burns or ant bites). And from what I have been reading, those feelings are ghosts trying to touch me. Ghosts have energy and create a little static shock sometimes when they make contact. I don’t know if that relates to what you felt in your legs. But that’s how it is with me.

Which ear was ringing?

@crystalsage:

Wow. You have quite a story there. I’m glad to hear that you didn’t hurt yourself. And I can tell from the tone in your posts that your life is on the rise right now. And your curiosity about your gifts has given you a new lease on life. Good for you!

I can relate to the anxiety and confusion that you went through before understanding that you are an empath. The awakening process for many empaths can be painful and lonely. When was the last time that you had the dream? And what do you mean by “last year was a 9”?

Take a look at the below post link as I think it may help should you ever feel down in the future. Being an empath can drain you mentally and physically. And studies have shown when people are thinking about suicide that they are lacking optimal brain chemistry. And the good news is that this can be improved fairly quick.

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/49527/understanding-major-depression-and-suicide

@wanderingfrog:

It does sound like you are an empath. A sociopath is something completely different. I think the reason you mentioned that possibility is that you feel like you are losing your mind and seem to be picking up on and are feeling the energy of others you encounter. You’re basically an empath newbie. And that can be a strange and challenging time. But it can also be exciting as you realize who you are and start learning to get a handle on it.

@crystalsage made some good suggestions on how to calm your mind and better yourself. I would suggest spending a few hours going through blog posts on this website to learn more about the empath community. I think you’ll find we all have or are currently going through what you are at the discovery phase. And there is a lot for you to learn and get caught up on right on this website.

Below is a quick article as well as an empath quiz to help you get confirmation on your empathic abilities. I would suggest that you start there. And then feel free to ask away any questions by posting on this site. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201602/10-traits-empathic-people-share

http://www.empathtest.com/

@crystalsage:

So your dream is basically about dying and meeting the grim reaper?

Dreams are always tricky to pinpoint the cause or reason. As humans we dream to solve problems and work through issues. A dream interpreter or psychologist would probably tell you that you must have a deeply subconscious fear of death. There is some hidden meaning in your name being circled and the mixed up pages on the floor that you are sorting through but not able to read. But people (and especially empaths) get dreams sent to them for the purpose of messages or learning. But I'm not sure that I can see any connection to a lesson with in what you explained. It's usually pretty obvious and less of a mystery when you are being sent a dream to learn from.

The meditating part of it is also interesting. Although if you were by chance lucid dreaming then it would not surprise me that your subconscious led you back to a reoccurring dream. There may be some issue there your deep mind wants to resolve.

I will say that when I dream and draw in other senses, that is usually worth noting. It's almost like highlighting something specific. This could be either a message to you or else your subconscious is in itself noting particular emphasis on that one part. You may want to make a mental note to try to hone in on and try to remember what exactly is happening in the dream next time to determine what is going on when you feel and smell the air. Like a detective try to note who,why,where,when at that point. There may be something to be revealed.

I can only say that when I am given a lesson or communication in a dream that it is usually a one-time thing. Any reoccurring dreams that I have tend to be what I would call unexplainable things my brain was working out. But that's just me. Everyone is a little different. So maybe others here can draw from their personal experiences and help you sort this out.

Good luck. Each empath reacts differently to different stones. Although the ones I suggested seem to work consistently for most. And pretty much everyone has benefitted from salt baths. I hope it all helps you.

@tigerlily:

One more thing to add. You said you are terrible at grounding. I used to feel like that as well. It takes some practice to get better at it and gain confidence. I would just say don't give up and be persistent. Sometimes I'll take a salt bath and feel like a million bucks. Other times on especially bad day I'll do a salt bath and maybe only feel 25% better. That tells me that I probably need to do a little more self-work and exercise or meditate or do a fun activity. Meditation and visualization exercises where I mentally push the bad out of my body works the best for me. But admittedly, sometimes I'm just too frazzled to focus effectively. That's when I'll add in some exercise. Some days grounding is easy and other days it's quite a process. But it's necessary. And relationship-wise, I know I'm not good to be around when I'm frazzled so I need to stay balanced and grounded to be a better husband, father, and friend. I'm also a big time user of protection stones that I wear daily.

And I have worked hard the last few months to avoid the news on TV, radio, and on my phone. Reading about all the negative that the media manifests and broadcasts has been really harmful for me. The old "if it bleeds it leads" has never been more true. All they report on these days is negative and frightening. I switched to books on CD in my car and just have kicked the habit for the most part with news. This by itself has really settled me down. I don't know if the rest of you are as impacted by the negative 24/7 news culture. But if you are, try removing it from your life and track how much better you feel.

@tigerlily & @cheshire-cat, there is a certain amount of grounding that occurs when you have some quiet "me time". And then a lot of people feel better and grounded by doing activities that light your fire and put a smile on your face. For me it's playing tennis or hiking. Some people like to paint, write poetry, garden, binge watch TV etc... Doing something you love opens up happiness that helps drives away the blues. I think a lot of times in our fast paced lives we forget to make time for the things we love. You get some basic grounding by doing the above. And then more extensive grounding comes through meditating. I will admit it's not always easy to have my mind right to meditate ground myself. Sometimes I'm too tired or my mind is racing from all that went on that day and I can't meditate. But a good short cut to grounding that doesn't require a lot of effort is a salt bath. Throw in a couple cups of rock salt or sea salt and then add some bubble bath or oils and just relax with quiet music and quiet your mind. Some people like to also add in epsom salt which is magnesium to relax muscles. As long as you have a true salt base in the bath it really works. I usually soak for 20-30 minutes. It's especially good before bed.

I think the lesson that I have learned from being an empath is that it can be a curse if you don't monitor how you're doing and get your mind right daily. I think of it like diabetics who have to test their blood daily to monitor how they are doing and whether insulin or diet changes are needed. By focusing on how you are doing as an empath and grounding as needed, you can really gain control over your life. I work on this daily to try to avoid allowing myself to spin out of control.

@crystalsage:

One more thing. Lapis Lazuli is a great stone for your throat chakra. It's a good one to meditate with or just keep in near you. It does have some protection qualities. But it is known mostly for being one of the best stones for throat chakra issues (which tie into how you communicate). 

@crystalsage:

I have learned to love crystals. Early on as a realized empath, it was a game changer for me. It gave me a force field and really made living more tolerable as I am more shielded from energy around me.

My advice on the kyanite is to go with blue kyanite. That does a good job of balancing all chakras when you keep it close to your body. And if you have an overactive chakra that is making you more sensitive than the blue kyanite will help get everything back to normal. But it's not a protection stone in the traditional sense.

I have heard a lot of people liking hematite for protection and grounding. But for me that stone makes me dizzy. I for some reason don't tolerate it well. But I absolutely love black tourmaline, black onyx, and shungite for my protection stone tri-fecta. I keep all three on me at all times and they do a good job limiting what I take in each day. And then I wanted to add that I have become a fan of malachite. Malachite actually pulls the negative out of your body so this is a good one to use at the end of the day or when sleeping as it makes a noticeable difference with helping you feel better.

And lastly, I found that sleeping with a salt bowl near your head on a nightstand really pulls negative out of you at night. I put water in the salt bowl as I think that works best. But some others just have salt all by itself in a bowl (don't use processed table salt use a raw salt like rock salt). I have learned that salt is a fantastic neutralizer for empaths. In fact on a few occasions in my life I have walked into a salt cave and felt refreshed and almost reborn within minutes. 

@tigerlily:

You hit the nail on the head on why empaths can be described as moody people. We take in all that emotional energy each day. And if we don't do regular grounding activities, it overflows and leaks out of us in bad moods and bad ways. I find myself being very short tempered/impatient when I am wound up empathically. I can feel that low emotional energy taking over trying to get out of me. And that's usually a reminder to me to start doing some grounding and breathing exercises to help get it out and return my mood to neutral. Otherwise I'm not a very pleasant person to be around in that wound up state. Even when I remain calm and quiet in a wound up state, I notice people around me acting like they are walking on eggshells. It's as if I am leaking that low energy and regular people are reacting to my internal mood. I've even tried hard to fake it and put on a happy face despite feeling like I'm going to explode inside and people still react funny around me when I get like that. So there is definitely something very unseen and spiritual going on when we leak the bad stuff back out. And being like this does absolutely impact relationships because people don't know what version of us they are going to get at any given moment. That's the life challenge for us. The good news is that with grounding techniques you really can push that bad stuff out in private and then bring your mood back to neutral or even happy.

@crystalsage:

I also believe that empaths are older souls. And that is a fairly popular belief. The theory is that it takes many lives of experience before our souls can ascend to a point where we are able to use these skills. I explain it to my kids that I believe its like leveling up in a video game. When you get to the next level and you are rewarded with more cool stuff. But as they say, with power comes responsibility. And once we master our empath skills I believe we are supposed to use it for the betterment of mankind.

Happy New Year everyone! I have a feeling that this will be an improved year over 2017. Hopefully a lot less hate and negative energy floating around for this year.

@curious-child:

From what I understand, the ringing in my ears is typical for someone with early stages clairaudient abilities. Supposedly I can develop it to where I can focus and have the ringing transform to actual words that I can understand. But at this point if the ringing is from someone communicating with me, I don't know who it is (ghost or angel) since I rarely see things with my eyes.

I also get words dropped into my head that are not mine sometimes that are answers or ideas, and random thoughts that later become something. I believe that is related as well. But back to the ear ringing, it is inside my ear when it happens. I hear ringing plus feel a physical warming sensation. And when it happens others around me have told me they don't hear anything. 

I'm hoping to connect with other clairaudient people to better understand this ability and where I should go to develop it.

@cat-whisperer:

I get mostly ringing in my left ear. Occasionally it hits my right ear. But very rarely is there ringing in both ears. It's always high pitched like yours. It can be really intense ringing in my left ear when a spirit is close by or trying to touch me (or atleast I assume it is a spirit). But I keep hearing some people say left ear ringing are spirits and right ear ringing are angel communications or downloads. But I have also heard it the other way around. I'm curious if you know any reliable info. on this?

I've also been getting a lot of angel number 66 presenting to me the past couple months (showing up everywhere daily). My daughter made me laugh as she immediately thought I had a demon after me since it was close to el diablo's number. But we looked it up and angel# 66 is a bit of an awakening signaling positive change. So long story short I am trying to see if there is maybe a connection between my ear ringing and these constant angel numbers.

And side note, if I relax my mind and have quiet time I can pick up on fainter ringing in my ears that seems like it is almost always going on. In fact, as I type my right ear just rang. But most of the time it's noisy around me and I only pay attention to the really loud ringing that is distracting. I also notice that if I am at a group activity like a dinner with friends or relatives that my ears will ring quite a bit (as if the positive energy from a happy group dinner is bringing in something trying to contact me). The ringing is always very distracting to where for about 5 seconds I cannot hear people talking to me. 

What is an interesting side-bar topic to this is how often a traumatic event triggers an empath awakening. I had something traumatic happen years ago that created high levels of stress and PTSD type responses. And while it was a painful time, it awakened the empath in me. We've had discussions here before about how common this is. 

@goodenergyhealing:

My doctor recently told me that I needed to supplement D3 to get my serum levels up. (Apparently vitamin D deficiency is pretty common). But she warned about over doing it. I have seen your posts where you noted that you are take a higher than recommended amount. Are there side effects from taking levels that high? And are you noticing additional benefits from being at such a high level?

@lastars:

Thanks for the info. This is a good topic to discuss. HSPs are a psychology term that is modern medicine's way of acknowledging the existence of empaths. But where they fall short is they don't acknowledge or explain why true empaths abilities are spiritually based. And their HSP categorization is pretty broad and includes about 20% of the population (whereas only about 5% of the population is estimated to actually be empathic).

I've done some research on HSPs in the past as I was curious about it. And I found that an empath can be characterized as an HSP, but not all HSPs are empaths. We've all met people who are really sensitive and wear their emotions on their sleeve. You know the types (hot heads, complainers, and teary-deary types come to mind). But upon examination they are just sensitive people that don't feel emotional energy like an empath. But they would be labelled as HSPs. It gets a little confusing as their are similarities.

@cheshire-cat:

I appreciate the detail. I wasn't sure which drugs were Benzos so I looked it up. And I found that Xanax, Klonopin, Valium, and Ativan were some of the big name Benzos on the market. It is estimated that 5-10% of Americans are on those drugs. Very scary.

I am sorry to hear about your personal struggle with Lyme disease and all of the problems that it has caused you. However, it does seem that you have survived and thrived. And you have been a very positive community member. I always enjoy your insights.

@cheshire-cat:

I'm sorry to hear you have so many unique health circumstances that conflict with some of these things. It sounds like those Benzos really caused you problems. I really hope that you can find some things to make you feel better. 

@cheshire-cat, I know in many cases an anti-depressant could be the difference between life and death for a depressed person. Obviously there are side effects to most of those. But sometimes you need that pharma help. I tried an anti-depressant and did not tolerate it well. I ended up working with my naturopath to find some natural ways to restore my brain chemicals and it has worked pretty good.

But adding GAMA producing foods is a way to better things. Here are some diet tips on foods that naturally produce GABA:

Feel good GABA-producing foods include:

• Almonds
• Tree nuts
• Bananas
• Beef Liver
• Broccoli
• Brown Rice
• Halibut
• Mackerel
• Lentils
• Oats, whole grain
• Oranges, citrus fruits
• Rice bran
• Spinach
• Walnuts

Whole wheat, whole grains, wheat bran

As noted, the tricky thing about supplementing GABA is to find products that are formulated so that they can cross the blood brain barrier. Here are three that you can buy without prescription that work really well to calm your mind and body:

Deproloft: This is a natural anti-depressant that you can buy on Amazon and other places without prescription. After trying out a pharmaceutical anti-depressant and hating it, I have been on this for 2 years. I take 2 a day. My doctor recommended 4 a day but I found that it made me too sleepy so I cut it back to 2 a day. This has been a game changer for balancing my mood and for getting my mind right. My empath teenage son is also on this and it has worked wonders for him as well.

https://www.iherb.com/pr/thorne-research-deproloft-hf-120-veggie-caps/38530

Tranquility: I am stable enough now that I rarely take this. But I used to take one in the morning and one in the afternoon and it did a great job mellowing out my anxiety. It makes me feel calm like after a glass of wine feeling. I now only take one when I have a bad day.

https://www.mpn8.com/formulas/tranquility/

Sleep Easy: I still take one of these supplements most nights. It not only does a great job helping me sleep, but I wake up feeling balanced and rested.

https://www.naturalathleteclinic.com/products/sleep-easy-by-mountain-peak-nutritionals?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=googlepla&variant=31832316622

*While all of the above are helpful in the short run, you will see much larger improvements after 2-4 weeks of taking them daily.

*I wanted to note that since I am not a doctor that the above are just examples of what I have taken under a doctor’s care to calm my mind and boost my GABA levels. If anyone is interested in trying these out they should seek the advice of a naturopathic doctor before taking any supplements.

@cheshire-cat, I see that you are not a fan of Passion Flower. The Sleep Easy product has 100 mg of Passion Flower in it. That’s a small amount and I have not had any issue with it. But thanks for pointing out your concerns. I think you also told me previously that an ingredient in the Deproloft raised your blood pressure? I have not had any negative side effects at all from the above supplements. But it is always wise to run these by a doctor first.