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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/26/17 11:44:37AM
599 posts

Don't know what to do :(


Empath

@kit-kat:

That is a tough situation. And like the others said, you already know what to do. In fact, you were already in the process of moving on from him. Narcs love us empaths and are very drawn to us on a spiritual level. But we know they are poisonous and will eventually suck all the good energy out of us and leave us in the ditch as they walk away looking for the next one. Your ex missed the brilliant high energy that is you. He wants that badly in his life (that's how narcs work). And he figured he would try to seal the deal and capture you with an engagement ring. But given that you had already broken up, it's a trap that you must avoid. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/26/17 11:36:32AM
599 posts

I´m almost constantly depressed


Empath

@butterfly:

I am sorry to hear that you are not feeling well. Often as empaths we have times when we are emotionally overwhelmed and burned out on life. This is especially hard if you are a fairly new empath as you may not really understand who you are and how this works. I remember back a few months before I figured out I was an empath. And I was a mess. I was depressed all of the time with constant mood swings. I was not a fun person to be around and did not enjoy being around anyone as I seemed to get really moody and anxious around everyone. Fast forward to today and I now understand when you go through empath overload, it can be painful, and it can go from bad to worse with depression taking over. 

I've posted a few different times on the physical problems that can occur with empaths when we are overwhelmed and slip into depression. As noted in the link below, a brain chemical called GABA is at abnormally low levels when we are in a depressive state. And GABA at normal levels is responsible for your calm and logical thinking. When GABA is low your mind can be scattered with a multitude of bad and irrational thoughts that just sinks you like a stone. I went to a naturopathic doctor years ago. And they tested my GABA, noted it was low, and gave me supplements to help raise the levels. And it made a big difference in bringing me back to normal. Please take a look at the link below. And I would say it would be worth your while to see a doctor, preferably a naturopath, and let them know how you are feeling and that someone with similar issues responded well to GABA supplementation.

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/49527/understanding-major-depression-and-suicide

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/26/17 11:21:17AM
599 posts



@angelgabeandme:

Welcome to the community. And what you are feeling is very normal and typical for an empath. You are going through what I call empath burnout. We are emotional sponges absorbing the energies that we encounter each day. And when our sponge gets full, we start to malfunction. We get anxiety attacks, have trouble sleeping, and then other physical health issues start to manifest. When I am going through burnout I start having an increase in stomach discomfort and seem to catch about every germ that is going around (almost as if I have zero immunity). But when I go to a doctor during that time they test me and tell me my blood readings indicate that I am in perfect health. The empath burnout syndrome that starts causing physical problems is not something that modern medicine can explain. In my case I'm sick or in a lot of stomach pain and the doctors will tell me I check out just fine. I even had a stomach endoscopy scoping procedure years ago and they said nothing was wrong but yet I had constant daily stomach pain.

I have good news bad news for you. The bad news is that as an empath you are probably going to have some times each year where you get emotionally overwhelmed and experience this burn-out syndrome. The good news is that this is your body's way of telling you that you need to make some adjustments in your life. And the better news is that there are ways to heal yourself and squeeze out your empath sponge so that you can return to a more normal existence.

Since you have been an empath for almost a decade, can you let me know what you do to relax and for fun? And do you meditate or practice grounding out the energies that you take in? Let me know and then I can add some suggestions to help you feel better.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/22/17 07:21:19AM
599 posts

Understanding Major Depression And Suicide


Empath

@cat-whisperer:

Thank you. I'm glad this resonated with you. I was reading Erin Pavlina's weekly blog post and saw this one. And I thought it would be a good topic to share info. on. I'm very glad to hear that you have worked through your dark times. And through medication and grounding have found balance and happiness in your life.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/17 09:57:19PM
599 posts

Understanding Major Depression And Suicide


Empath

I was torn about posting on such a dark topic. But I know this time of year we empaths are really pushed to the wall emotionally due to the millions of people who around us are depressed, anxious, and really sad. I'm starting to hear more and more words like "giving up" and "I can’t take it anymore". And sometimes empaths and non-empaths sink into a hole of depression that is really hard to get out of. Their reality is distorted and it feels to them like there is no way out. From time to time on this website I see people coming in posting for desperate help. And then there are some that come right out and admit to be thinking about suicide. In an effort to get the word out for prevention I wanted to post some things that I hope will start a useful discussion and ultimately save someone from ending their life. And at the very least I hope to help others understand the scientific and spiritual components that lead to a person having suicidal thoughts.

Science and medicine have taught us that people who are suicidal have depression so bad that the brain chemical GABA is almost non-existent. GABA’s role is to inhibit neuron activity. If you think about the gas pedal and brakes on a car, GABA is the brakes. GABA is underrepresented in the frontopolar brain cortex of people with major depressive disorder who commit suicide. The frontopolar cortex is involved in higher-order thinking, such as decision making. When GABA is very low or non-existent, depressed emotions take over and logic and sane thinking goes out the window. (Reference: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-origins-of-suicidal-brains). Empaths through our wiring and what we deal with on a daily basis can often be GABA deficient. And that contributes to depression and sometimes a downward spiral. The good news is that GABA can be supplemented to increase this brain chemical back to normal levels that can pull someone out of that dark hole. There are also very effective anti-depressive drugs that do a good job pulling a person back from the brink. If you or someone you know is having severe depression or suicidal thoughts, please take these steps:

 

  1. Call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

 

  1. Seek medical attention and ask your doctor to treat you with a focus on raising GABA levels.

 

The above comments help explain the medical and scientific side of major depression and suicide and how to get help. But what is not widely known is what happens to a person spiritually when they are at the end of their rope wanting out of this world. I came across this very informative and interesting blog post from Erin Pavlina that I wanted to share that helps explain the spiritual side of a highly depressed suicidal person. This info. really made sense to me and helps us understand how one's weakened spiritual health can lead to a suicidal act.

 

https://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2017/12/how-suicidal-thoughts-look-energetically-and-how-to-overcome-suicidal-feelings/

 

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/17 03:01:57PM
599 posts

Are you an open book or not?


Empath

@anna-strobl:

Empaths definitely run in families. But so do narcissists (and often both are in the same family). And I find that really interesting. My great grandmother was a very powerful empath and psychic from what I understand. But my grandmother (her daughter) was a narc from what we can tell. One of my brothers is a narc that I have a real tough time being around. And then my Mom has empath qualities but blocks them due to being devoutly religious. And my two kids are also empaths. It has helped them in their teenage years by hearing from me on how to understand all of this.

I can be myself with my wife and some close friends. But honestly, I don't feel like anyone truly knows or understands me. I feel lonely a lot but at the same time find strength in my solace and can find being around groups annoying. I get this feeling that I don't fit in with most people but yet am pretty well received by others (it's more of a feeling that I am very different). And when I go through tough times I find that I am largely ignored and have to fend for myself. But as you noted, when people need help or want something I am the first one they call. I mostly come to this site for support and read a lot to understand the phases and challenges of being an empath. But I do know that all of these feelings and traits are classic empath traits. I'm past the point of feeling sorry for myself wondering why I have to be like this. And instead am on the path exploring and using my empathy to grow and help others. It makes it easier on bad days to have experienced the good days with my empathy.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/17 02:30:47PM
599 posts

Seeing Faces When Falling Asleep


Psychic and Paranormal

Same here. It only works when I am clear headed. There are no visual clues (although I normally only hear ghosts anyway and very rarely see them). And now that you mention it, I lately have been smelling a burning metallic smell. That is probably similar to what you experience as ozone. And then a couple crazy times where ghosts are calling my name across an empty house. But they are doing it in the exact voice of my wife, Dad, or son. But I'll be alone at home. And then I had a lady ghost humming a nice song in my kitchen not long ago. My dogs were all freaked out but I felt very calm and serene when hearing it. The bummer is that as soon as I investigate the voices always stop as I enter the room. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/17 02:24:48PM
599 posts

Spirit in my house?


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

I also have had alternating hot and cold and a feeling of ant bites along my legs when spirits around me. I almost never see spirits so for me they catch me off guard as I hear them, feel them emotionally, or feel them when they make physical contact. I have even had some incidences where the ringing in me ears was extremely high and I got hit with a sonic boom type of energy that knocked me off of my feet. It was very disorienting. But one time it happened seconds after my wife said she saw a ghost near me so I assume they are trying to attach or make contact when that happens.

And like you said, spirit attachments can happen. I believe I had one years ago that I was finally able to defeat through a lot of daily grounding and use of protection stones. I now carry protection stones everywhere!

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/17 02:19:21PM
599 posts

Spirit in my house?


Psychic and Paranormal

@curious-child:

 

I like your new name much better! It now has a positive meaning.

I was referring to happy hunting grounds as the white light or crossing over. A lot of earth bound spirits are stuck here and afraid to cross over. And in many cases that is due to their low emotionally energy that they took to the grave (guilt, regret, anger, fear etc...). So they wander around and are everywhere. And very often they are attracted to empaths because of our higher vibrational energy.

And I have found a direct correlation to how much spirit activity I experience with how I am feeling. If I am having a rough empath day the spirit activity around me that I sense really jumps. I joke to myself that they are kicking me when I am down. There is something to that. So just know that you can control that by taking care of yourself (doing something enjoyable, grounding etc…). And if you don’t like salt baths or don’t have time for them, I have had good luck using a salt scrub in the shower. I put it on my chakra points for a few minutes (with emphasis on my third eye and solar plexus). And then when I wash it off I feel better. It’s not as good as a salt bath. But it steadies me a bit if I am in a hurry and need to balance myself. Here’s a product that I have used:

 

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00IH0ATYC/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/20/17 04:53:26PM
599 posts

Is depersonalization disorder connected to empathy?


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

My empath son dealt with this last year. It scared him and freaked him out. He said it was like having an out of body experience while awake. He felt like he was in a trance and caught between two worlds where he was frozen in time. He is in high school and it was becoming a problem in class. We got him a good selection of protection stones and it hasn't been a problem since. I will say that he was experimenting with astral projecting right before he started having depersonalization problems. So I think he may have turned on the switch for that while projecting. He was seeing some very strange things while astral projecting (like alien creatures). So I had to force him to stop that for his own good. And luckily no problems since.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/20/17 04:46:30PM
599 posts

Are you an open book or not?


Empath

@anna-strobl:

This is a little bit off topic but I have similar experiences. At times complete strangers track me down and really want to make eye contact and meet with me. I get the blank stare and faint recognition like they know me from somewhere but can't place it. And then boom, they dump their whole life story on me. Whatever is bad or challenging in their lives is thrown out to me in great detail. I hardly say a word while the person will bear their soul. It's the kind of stuff where I'm thinking who walks up to a complete stranger and chats them up about such intimate painful stuff? But I've heard it all. I usually patiently listen to them and after 10-15 minutes the person is done and we part ways. They always seem to have a smile and spring in their step and I'm always left feeling a little off. It's the whole energy exchange that you noted that occurs. But like you said, it is always about them and never about me. They never ask me questions and I barely say a word while they chat away. The same is true with some of my relationships. People come to me to feel better and to get lifted up again.

Since these same things happen to you, I am curious as to your take on why this happens and how/why people find us? I wonder if on a spiritual level we are identified as empath healers and they somehow know this.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/20/17 04:30:55PM
599 posts

Seeing Faces When Falling Asleep


Psychic and Paranormal

@anna-strobl:

You sound clairaudient like me. I usually hear a conversation in whispers and can't really make out what is being said. It usually happens when I walk into a room real fast. It's as if I interrupted a meeting where several whispering voices are discussing something. And as soon as I enter the whispers die down. I'm trying to find ways to improve my clairaudient skills so that I make out what is being said better. Aside from occasional whispers I hear ringing and sometimes music (like old time big band music). It's also common for me to hear a non-living voice and smell something as well (like cigar smoke, perfume, even body odor).

Like you, my psychic stuff works best when my mind is relaxed and I'm focused on any personal thoughts. I don't get much when I wake up (probably because I'm busy with thoughts about my schedule for the day). But I do often get visions and signs and flashcard faces as I fall asleep.

Your vision like the one you noted sounds a lot like your guides are sending you signals. The trick will be to try to interpret them. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/20/17 04:21:42PM
599 posts

Spirit in my house?


Psychic and Paranormal

@abomination:

We have to find you a happier screen name! Happy

I have dealt with all sorts of ghost activity at my home and office in recent years. It comes and goes based on how unbalanced I am. When I have days on end of wearing myself out at work and as an empath, my ability to notice them kicks up a notch. And they must know too because they are pretty loud & active around me when I am at my worst. I also get ear ringing, tickling or burning on my legs and feet,  and mood swings when they are around.

In truth, earth bound spirits are everywhere. Some do attach themselves to particular houses that they like or are part of their prior life experience. But from what I've read and experienced on the subject, there is a great volume of ghosts just passing through everywhere. And they are definitely attracted to empaths. In fact, a lot of people believe they need to be around empath energy to survive so they seek us out.

My understanding is that ghosts carry their departing emotional energy. As an example, if they died sad, angry, or full of regret, you'll pick up on those feelings. In a lot of cases it is that heavy low emotionally energy that keeps them from moving on to "their happy hunting grounds".

My advice is as @womanwhowalks said, just let them be if they aren't bothering you. Keep a journal if you want to try to understand any patterns. And if you are like me where your paranormal activity jumps when you are physically and spiritually worn out, then try daily grounding meditations and salt baths. This will relax you, recharge your spirit, and turn down the volume a bit so that you are not feeling as emotionally overwhelmed.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/20/17 04:05:34PM
599 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

I was flipping around movie channels the other night and caught this movie where the main character had psychic abilities. It was interesting.

Bringing Out The Dead

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0163988/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_57

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 11:58:37PM
599 posts

Empathic Abilities and PMS


Empath

@sashacat1995:

I have a 14 year old daughter who is also an empath. She's also a scorpio so she brings it if you know what I mean. She is very emotional and takes no prisoners (very strong willed). I don't know how much of her energy is just being a teen, but when she is on her period her energy just about blows the roof off our house. She seems to get haywire whenever she is taking in too much energy from her world. So my sense is that during that time of the month she is more wound up than usual. I'm not sure how the physical of that connects with the spiritual. But I just wanted to share my experience from a guy's point of view. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 11:46:33PM
599 posts

Accepting my abilities


Empath

@jaxbeemee:

Welcome. You have some cool gifts. Most of us empaths are dominant with being emotional energy readers. But as you do that you also absorb the energy in the room. At our heart, we are energy changers. We can detect and change low negative energy into positive high happy energy. But in doing so, it can wear us out. That's why you feel exhausted on an average day when you otherwise should not feel tired. Your empath wiring has you doing the energy exchange thing without you even being aware of it. I would guess that over your lifetime you have been the type of person who people go to with their deepest problems. You are the one who listens and lets them pour out their fears, frustrations and hurt. And they walk away feeling better. But then you probably also notice that you feel a bit tired, headachy, or even anxious. That's due to the empath energy exchange that just took place.

While the majority of us are dominant energy readers and exchangers, the secondary strength for a lot of us is knowing. You have a hunch what someone is thinking or is about to do. You may also sense when something is wrong (like a robbery at a bank that is about to happen or that a car crash is about to happen). And you may also have a keen "B.S. meter" where you know instantly when someone is lying to you. This is the knowing skill and is one of my personal favorites. I find it very rewarding to go through life being able to determine who the fakers are, who the bad people are, and who the true salt of the earth good people are.

After the knowing skill we empaths all split off into a lot of different subsets of skills that are lesser skills that in most cases need to be developed. Some of us feel the energy in objects, or in nature. Some of us are telepathic. Some of us have visions and dreams that foretell the future or teach us something important. Some of us see and communicate with ghosts. And then some of us see color auras like you. The cool thing about being able to see auras is that the color presented to you can be analyzed to determine a person's mental, physical, and spiritual health. To me that means that you likely have a healing gift. Much like a doctor examining an x-ray, the colors that you see can tell you what a person needs to do to improve themselves and overcome what they are lacking. For example, if you see someone with a red ring of color that has a break or cloudy black section it could mean that something in their life is off and is causing them anger and unhappiness. This may seem an obvious review of most people as we all have problems to overcome. But the aura doesn't lie and a person with cloudy sections of red could benefit from overcoming the source of anger in their life. I should also note that if you were to walk through a hospital ward or senior center that you would likely see very faded and weak auras for those starting the death process. And conversely, if you walked through a preschool you would probably see very vibrant and solid colors (from innocent kids not yet exposed to the stresses and challenges with growing up). So there is a lot that you can learn from this skill.

Here's a website to help you get started with understanding the auras that you see:

https://www.elitedaily.com/wellness/reading-analyzing-aura-colors/1720916

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 11:07:38PM
599 posts



@angelgabeandme:

Like I said, you found the right place. We are all here to help. If I had a dime for every time someone new says they think they are going crazy and exploding with anxiety from people…  I was in your position a few years ago. But I think I ignored it for a good 5 years before that and just tried to survive my deteriorating life. I didn't understand what was going on. And it was easier to think I was losing my mind than buy into spiritual explanations for what was going on. But I found my way to this website as did you. And we are ready to help you get some answers and control over your life. And believe it or not, it is very likely that there will come a time soon when you will be thankful for your gift as an empath. I  realize that is hard to comprehend right now as you are in pain, confused, and overrun with anxiety. But you will get there.

Many of us empaths that start spinning out of control (especially newbies) start attracting people that are bad for us and run into bad luck. You are very vulnerable right now so you are going to attract a lot of those undesirables. It's like blood in the water to sharks. When you are in a weakened state, those things will happen. You just have to accept that and protect and adjust. I spent quite a bit of time alone "hermitting" for days when I was at your point. And that's okay. You need to be alone and in a low stress environment right now while you start to research and figure all of this out. The good news is that there are many proven ways to survive and thrive as an empath. And the end goal is for you to use your gift of reading emotional energy to help people. You may even end up learning how to use your empathic gifts to heal people. It can be pretty amazing.

So put away thoughts that you are going crazy. With your empath frequency on high right now, you are going to find most people make you anxious. My recommendation is that you click on the empath forum link above and just spend a few hours going through old posts so that you can educate yourself on a variety of important topics. And you're probably going to have a lot of questions. So post away so that we can help. Just remember, you are at the start of your journey. It does get better once you understand the dynamics of being an empath and learn how to take back your control over your life.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 10:30:10PM
599 posts

Giving up


Empath

@tigerlily:

Just remember during this very busy month to take time to smell the roses. When you start having that numb or "don't care" feeling in life as an empath, it's a good signal to slow things down. And try to fit in enjoyable things that you love to do that make you happy. And most importantly during tough days or weeks, practice grounding to relieve the stress and weight of the world that you take on. And I'm a big proponent of taking salt baths whenever you feel down. Put out the candles, and put on some nice relaxing music that you love. Throw in a couple cups of rock salt (and add in epsom salts if you like that muscle relaxing feeling). I personally also enjoy a glass of wine as well. Jump in and just enjoy yourself. Relax! The salts are like magic. Even if you struggle with grounding meditations, the salt baths should really make a difference with relaxing your mind, body, and soul. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 02:05:30PM
599 posts

Giving up


Empath

Just a reminder to everyone that the holiday season is a time of anxiety and depression for a lot of people. Anxiety for all the rushing around to parties and buying gifts. And depression for those who are lonely during a time when everyone else seems to be having fun. This adds an extra layer of stuff for all us to deal with. So keep that in mind when you all of a sudden feel exhausted or especially down. Keep it in perspective and try to ground and cheer up.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 01:57:17PM
599 posts

Are you an open book or not?


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

I tend to have a little trouble picking up fellow empath emotions unless they are going through an emotional crisis where the emotions are more obvious. Some empaths seem to block in my view (even unintentionally).

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/17 01:49:51PM
599 posts



@angelgabeandme:

I am sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. But if you are an empath you are at the right place. We empaths tend to attract the wrong people and sometimes bad luck as well. But the good news is that this is manageable and you can protect yourself and be able to go out and enjoy a healthy social life. Can you tell us more about yourself? Are you an empath or new to this?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/06/17 02:56:37PM
599 posts

Am i emphatic or crazy ? confused!


Empath

@shevone:

 

 @bing just posted a really nice article about empathy that really sums it all up. You may enjoy taking a look at it:

 

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/49223/traits-of-empaths

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/06/17 02:52:18PM
599 posts

May I have a free reading?


Request a Reading

See if this helps. You can save a photo to google drive (free service). And then you can create a link to that google drive pic or folder that you can post here that anyone can view. Or you can do the same thing privately by just friending each other at this site and sending over a google drive link.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/06/17 02:33:22PM
599 posts

Traits of Empaths


Library of Light

@bing:

I continue to enjoy your posts. Thank you for sharing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 04:53:38PM
599 posts

I'm so confused.


Empath

@camq:

Do you know what we hear most often from every new person that posts to this site? "My friends and family tell me I'm too sensitive". And do you know what? You are overly sensitive. And that's your gift. You don't just hear words when you speak to someone, you feel the emotional energy coming off of each word. Quite often you can feel energy with no words spoken. You walk into a room and already know the vibe, right?

Have you ever had a friend who was going through a tough time but put on a brave face and tried to hide their problems from everyone? But as soon as they spoke you knew something was wrong when others did not? Or have you had a friend or acquaintance who always acts and says that their life is so perfect and wants everyone to know how great they are. And everyone is jealous and wants to be like them. But as soon as they speak, you sense their hidden insecurities and see through their mask that they are not who they project that they are?

A nice part of our gift as empaths is that we have a built in B.S. meter. Words carry emotional meaning to us. And people can say a lot of things, and act like they are all that. But they can't hide their real self from an empath. That's one of my favorite parts of this. People come to me for help and before they even really explain their problem to me, their emotional energy is already clueing me in to what's troubling them.

I think you will eventually embrace your empathy gift. Sure, some people will tell you that you're too sensitive. And do you know who points that out the most? The people in our lives who are most threatened by us. They sense at a spiritual level who you are. And sensing that you are knowing and can see through their BS makes them very uncomfortable. It's very subconscious and spiritual. These people don't know what's going on yet they are threatened/irritated by you. And their response is to try to intimidate you or ridicule you so that you keep quiet and are looked at as insignificant to the rest of the group. Hold your ground with those people. You have power over them. They are the ones that are threatened. 

When you have a person hurting you with their words there is an energy exchange going on there. Obviously, no one likes to be made fun of. So there is some regular human hurt from being picked on. But as an empath there is more to it. You attract low emotional energy because you are wired to transform low energy into high energy. Bullies are usually some of the most insecure people in the room. You as an empath have a high vibration (very good high energy). Someone that is really depressed or sad is going to have very low vibrational energy. And someone who is a bully is going to be pretty low on the vibrational scale as well since deep down inside they have issues. They are attracted to you for this reason (again on a spiritual level that they don't understand). And they want to hurt you or knock you down a few notches through humiliation so that they can continue being the alpha male or alpha female. I bet you are surprised to hear that you are such a threat to them?

I have three quick things that you can do to help yourself feel better around others. First off, be choosy where you go. If you have to be with people that stress you out or a place that stresses you out then limit your time there or skip it altogether. If it feels bad in any environment know that your high vibrational energy is being drained and that you need a break. And secondly, if you are feeling too much you can get overwhelmed and feel very weak and helpless out and about. You need to meditate and ground daily to clear your mind. Start getting good at that and you will literally feel the negative of the day coming off of your body. And my last suggestion is to look into protection stones. This is a topic that we discuss often here. For an empath there are stones and crystals that can actually mute or level off the low energy that seeks you every day. It’s like a forcefield that limits what hits you. I have had good luck with black tourmaline, black onyx, and shungite. If you are new to protection stones it is going to sound absolutely crazy. I laughed like I was a nutcase when I first tried it. But it really works. You will find with some protection stones in your pocket or purse (or even better if touching skin as a bracelet), that you will be more stable out in public. And you'll feel more balanced and less weak when facing difficult people.

At this point just take baby steps. Read through this website and others to better understand who you are and your special skills as an empath. Feel free to continue posting questions here. And we're all here to try to help you get more balanced/grounded so that you can see your empathy as a gift rather than a curse.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 03:02:11PM
599 posts

Eyes Wide Open Meditaiton


Tools for Empaths

@sashacat1995:

I have a grounding meditation where I have my eyes open. I usually try to do this some place outside in nature that is quiet and tranquil without much animal activity to distract me. It can be a little tough at times to meditate with my eyes open since I find it hard to relax my mind and get out of my head with eyes open. But when it goes right, I can really feel the cleansing energy that I draw in from nature with the sun and wind touching me. And the visual part of that is very beautiful and relaxing.

I'd love to hear how it went for you?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 02:56:56PM
599 posts

I'm so confused.


Empath

For all of you new empaths trying to make sense of it all, a good place to start is an empath quiz. If you score high on the quiz, then you should have validation that you are indeed an empath and that you are not losing your mind. There are quizzes all over the internet. The one below is a good place to start.

http://www.empathtest.com/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 02:53:22PM
599 posts

I'm so confused.


Empath

@camq@warden:

It's actually pretty widely known that empaths carry a little extra weight. Some have said that it help protects us from all the energy we deal with each day. I have to admit that I don't really understand how that works. But we have on this site taken a few surveys that gave us the conclusion that most empaths can be a little over weight. And during real tough times can gain a lot of weight. And I guess you can probably see that in about anyone who is going through a tough time. Except that we empaths are so emotionally wired that we go through a lot most days. As an example, I had a neighbor a year ago who was dying of stage 4 cancer. I was completely unaware of this except that I went through a couple weeks of immense sadness when I was at the front of my house. I was later able to connect that to his finals days. And I found both food and drink to be comforting during that time and put on some weight.

@warden, I think that is awesome that you got yourself out of a toxic environment and immediately saw an improvement in your health and weight. That's a great example of how much a bad environment can impact us empaths.

@camq, I did want to say that you are a millennial. And from my observation, your generation is going through a cranky, frustrated "us against the world" type of existence these days. And then you add in all the social media use, and you are caught in a web of strong and dark emotions that you get from others all of the time. You are going to want to try to limit your exposure to people and things that bring you down until you have a better handle on your empathy.

I just finished responding to a few posts on this site and they all have the same needs. I recommend looking through the past postings so you can better understand how empathy works. And you really need to learn about meditating and grounding your absorbed energy so that you can cleanse yourself and feel better each day. When I have a little more time later this week I'll try to start a thread that better explains grounding and various ways to achieve that. And if anyone else wants to get a head start on that, I welcome the assistance.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 02:33:52PM
599 posts

Am i emphatic or crazy ? confused!


Empath

@shevone:

Am I correct that you are fairly new at this empath stuff? If so, type in grounding or empath grounding on this site and in Google and read up on that. As an empath you are a sponge soaking up all sorts of energy around you without you even trying. That's just who you are and how you are wired. And the bad energy really hangs on and takes longer for you to clear out of you without grounding and other meditation techniques. When your mind and body as an emotional sponge gets full, you are going to experience some tough times. Certain people's tones and words will really hurt and you won't know why. And you will also tend to attract more negative during a time like this when your sponge is full and you are vulnerable. Things will feel more amplified and intense. You have to ring out that sponge by grounding and really refresh yourself so that you can be at your best each day.

I also wanted to help you by analyzing part of what you said:

After going home and calling my friend i realized that she was no long depressed, my friend was happy and i was sad and depressed... what sort of transfer was that?

Part of what makes you attractive to people is the fact that you are an energy changer as an empath. People don't quite understand why but they just feel better around you. They bring their problems to you and after talking to them they leave feeling better and you feel worse. Does this sound familiar? Without knowing your friend vented her anger out on you and after settling down felt better like she got it off her chest. The clouds cleared for her and she ended up in a happy place. And you felt like a big emotional upset mess, right? That's because you took some of her charged angry energy and gave her some solace in exchange. And then you leave the situation with your hurt feelings and her anger wrapped up in you. When we all adapt as empaths you will be able to take people's low energy (be it anger, sadness, anxiety), and transmute it to good energy that makes them feel better. But the low energy has to go somewhere. And it stays in you until you ground it out.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/04/17 02:14:54PM
599 posts

Decline Invitation


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@tundra2:

I work with many women in my office and know how all of that goes. I would suggest one of two things. One is to go to just participate and keep the peace so to speak. Or if this is not something you are interested in then I would plan a lunch with a good friend of yours that day and tell thanks but no thanks since you have another lunch commitment. And that way you are out of the office during that time so it gives you a little cover.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/30/17 03:25:54PM
599 posts

Giving up


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@tigerlily:

I go through some really bad times like what you are experiencing about 3 times a year. And it always sucks. And I always wonder how I let it get that bad. And usually a lot of it is out of my control due to a flood of people who wear me out. I'm usually pretty good at creating boundaries and grounding as needed. But there are times when I am running through life too fast and too much is thrown at me energy-wise and I get overwhelmed and start to implode. And that is also when all my psychic stuff goes haywire in a bad way. And I stop sleeping and it goes from bad to worse. It feels like total burnout.

I believe that you are experiencing some spiritual burnout as a result of overwhelming outside energy that you are picking up. My advice may be redundant for what you are already doing. But in the hopes that it will help you and others, here is how I handle the tough times. First off, getting good nightly sleep is paramount. Your physical and spiritual body is all out of whack due to lack of sleep. I think you likely have adrenal fatigue which is a common side effect of stress and lack of sleep. Try taking some over the counter sleep aids for a few nights to see if you can improve your sleep. Make sure your room is dark, quiet, and slightly cold to help.

Getting back to regular nightly amounts of sleep may be a little tricky at first since I suspect your adrenal fatigue has your cortisol levels spiking. Cortisol is supposed to sink toward the end of the day making you tired and then rise just enough at early morning so that your body wakes up. But stress causes it to spike erratically during the day and night. And that causes a racing mind, panic, and waking up at 3AM without the ability to fall back to sleep. The lack of sleep also means that your normal force field is down and you are more apt to not be able to handle being around people. I highly recommend getting on the below natural adaptogen supplement to help your adrenals to recover:

https://www.amazon.com/Gaia-Herbs-Adrenal-Support-Phyto-Caps/dp/B00F1J8EKI/ref=sr_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1512083195&sr=8-2&keywords=gaia+adaptogens

And if at first you can't sleep through the night then try to fit in an hour nap later in the day whenever you can. Think of it like banking your sleep and just try to make sure you get more hours of sleep each day until you are back at normal levels.

I also recommend salt baths with a cup or two of rock salt. Put on some soft music, candles, and relax and meditate if you can for 20-30 minutes. Even if you can't relax, the salt water by itself will help remove some of the negative that you are carrying. And lastly, try to fit in daily meditation to set your mind right. A lot of people like meditating before starting their day. But I actually like doing it before I go to bed so that I can relax my mind and get good rest.

You can't always control your environment or the people who cross your path and impact you. But you can only control yourself and how you react and cope with your environment. Good luck. We are all here for you.

Hop Daddy
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11/30/17 02:54:39PM
599 posts

Empaths and Food


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@gardentiger:

Agreed. I feel real bad for empaths who are sensitive to food energy. That would be rough to deal with.

@angeldelight:

Good for you to being so brave to choose empath group#2. I tried that for a while and had a tough time balancing the overwhelming energies that I encounter at work and out and about. But good for you to give it a try. Let us know how it goes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/29/17 12:07:16PM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


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@angeldelight:

I think we all find various ways to cope with stress. The challenge for empaths is that we experience so much emotional energy daily that we can get run down and desperate. And that's why there are a lot of empaths that struggle with drugs and alcohol addictions.

There is no way to really verify this, but I have heard that it is estimated that 5% of the population are born as empaths. But my guess is that only about 1/5 of that number are aware empaths as adults. The rest just don't know it yet or don't accept it for religious or cultural reasons. But the rest of that 5% that are unrealized empaths still struggle with the emotional energy that they take in and don't know how to deal with it. And my hunch is that a lot of people who have drug and alcohol addictions are unrealized empaths that fell down the trap of addiction as a way to try to rid themselves of the pain they pick up from the world.

As for doctors, you have to really dig around to find one who understands and treats empaths through meditation and relaxation techniques. Otherwise a typical doctor will respond to your complaints about feeling too much or being depressed with an anti-depressant drug that will just numb you out completely. And then you miss out on experiencing life as you as well as developing your empathy. That's why this is such a great community site where we can all understand who we are and how we can progress.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/29/17 11:48:19AM
599 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

@angeldelight:

I think as a fairly new empath you will deal with the question of "is this my energy" quite often. I still do. I'll be going about my day and will suddenly become very angry, sad, depressed etc... My whole life I've been known to be "moody" at the flip of a switch. And now as an empath I actually now understand that my personality is pretty chill, but it's these outside energies that make me moody. Recognizing that has helped me improve in relationships. So you'll get better over time to identify if it's your energy or someone else's energy that is influencing you.

I also think that empaths have particularly strong energies. There have been a few times I recall when I have been "fit to be tied" angry after an unpleasant discussion with a girlfriend. And I could feel the anger seething out of me. And although I tried my best in public at that time to put on a neutral & calm expression to try to be more presentable, people literally jumped out of my way as I walked by. I took it to mean that they felt the invisible steam that was coming off of me from my anger. I've also had times when my happiness and positivity lit up a group of people and changed the dynamic in the room in a good way. So I've seen it work both ways. 

This is just my opinion so I'd love to hear feedback from other empaths to see what they think about this statement.  But I think every empath has to make a choice as to what group they want to be in moving forward on a short term and long term path. I feel the first group choice would be to understand their empath skills but try to balance and mute it so you can be more functional in society. This can be accomplished through a lot of self work on grounding, environment control (limiting your exposure to tough empath situations), and the use of protection stones. The second group is where you dive deeper into your psychic skills and experience the world with very few protections or guards. In this manner you really absorb everything good and bad that the world sends you and you grow.

In my case, I am more in group 1 at the moment. I still have to earn a living in my current career where I am constantly meeting people and going to group meetings where I deal with a lot of energies. I have found ways to tone down my empath receptors as a way to survive. And I approach expanding my psychic skills as more of a part time job on the side. But I do feel in my gut that some day I will jump into group 2 and really see where this goes.

Sorry I am a bit long winded getting to my point. But as a new empath your receptors are on really high right now. This is especially the case if you pick up energies from food that really impacts you. From my example you can choose at least in the short term to be in empath group 1 where you can turn down the volume on your empathy. And that way you may find eating and being around people more bearable. And when you are ready you can choose group 2 where you dive deep into learning and expanding your abilities by keeping your empath receptors wide open to experience and learn from what the world sends you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/29/17 10:10:59AM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


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@angeldelight:

I don't do drugs but from personal experience alcohol seems to significantly tone down my empath receptors and numbs me for a couple hours. It relaxes me and allows my mind to temporarily calm down. But that’s not a big secret since alcohol is a depressant that humans have enjoyed/abused for thousands of years . But I do have to say that I usually regret drinking to try to relieve stress as all the heavy energy that was stressing me out is always there waiting for me once I am sober again. I have since found that exercise combined with grounding techniques is a more effective method of calming down and ridding myself of unwanted energy.

I believe doing drugs may have a similar effect of numbing us. Although a few people on this site mentioned in other posts that smoking marijuana actually enhances their empath abilities. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/29/17 09:59:00AM
599 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

One of my favorite empath books has a chapter where an empath who goes a deli one day for lunch. And that empath remarks that his sandwich is made by an attractive young lady who seems really happy. And he notes how great his sandwich tastes and what a positive experience that deli was. And then he makes plans to go back to that same deli the next day. And the same young lady makes his sandwich but her mood seems quite different and sad. And when he ate that sandwich he became really nauseous. He later heard that the girl found out that her boyfriend was cheating on her and was devastated that day. And that deep painful energy transferred to the food that she was making (and the day before her happy energy also transferred to the food).

Picking up on food energy is a subset of empath energy sensitivity that seems a bit rare. I think it would be really challenging to live and be so impacted by any low energy coming out of food. I'd love to hear how those of you who deal with this handle it? Do you just really wash and make your own food and mostly stick to veggies?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/27/17 05:25:04PM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


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@gardentiger:

I have personally not done well with hematite. It makes me dizzy and a bit out of it. But a lot of people swear by it as a good protection stone. And I like to compare protection stones to sun screen. You're getting protection, but it is not going to stop 100% of what is hitting you. I think on a good day my stones probably take away 60-70% of what I get hit with.

And public places like bars can be especially challenging for empaths. But try using 3-4 protection stones at once to see how they work together for you. For example, hematite may work decently for you. But if you add in black tourmaline and jet, you may feel multiple times better. I tested this out with a really emotional guy at my office. He is such an intense, emotional, bombastic person that I used to have trouble talking with for more than 5 minutes at a time. But I finally found a nice 4 stone protection combo that I keep in a pouch in my pocket. And I now can be around him for 1/2 hour or more listening to his stories without his energy making me feel sick or anxious. And these same stones really help when I'm out in public.

But the main thing for you is that I think you now better understand the dynamics of people's energy and how it can impact you. And I think over time you will probably have less interaction or friendships with people that pull down your vibration and don't make you feel well.

On a final note, don't forget to clean and recharge your protection stones regularly. They are your spiritual force field but they need a recharge every few days to perform at their best. The majority of stones rid themselves of negative and recharge by being in the sun for 8 hours or more. If you don't have a lot of time for that then you can put most stones in a glass of water that is mixed with rock salt for a few hours. That salt solution really helps neutralize the low energy that attaches to stones after use. Some people like to leave stones out in the moonlight or bury them in the earth for a day or two to recharge them. I prefer the first two ideas but to each their own.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/27/17 05:05:20PM
599 posts

Why Does It Have To Be So Strong?


Empath

@alledius:

You've hit on a fun theme. As they say, music soothes the soul. And just about every empath I have ever encountered has a deep connection with music. And on that note, the majority of all humans have a deep connection to music. I myself can draw intense "I am invincible courage and strength from music" from one song. And at other times a different song will bring me to tears. In fact, I was out to dinner a couple weekends ago and there was a young female vocalist singing some of the modern ballads as entertainment. And her voice and energy was so wonderful that I walked away feeling very moved by her. It's always a bit refreshing when that happens since we empaths so often deal with low or negative energy that it is almost medicine to listen to music that soothes the soul.

I personally am not a Gordon Ramsey fan. But I know exactly what you mean when you are watching someone that you identify with as inspirational (in a lecture, or movie etc...).

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/27/17 04:52:39PM
599 posts

How to psychically ward oneself?


Empath

@ellicent:

Here's a couple links that I found that you may find helpful:

https://theherbalacademy.com/balance-the-third-eye/

http://www.chakras.info/third-eye-chakra-healing/

I will say that a lot of what you find on the internet about the balancing of the third eye mentions physical ailments that you probably don't have. And this has a lot to do with western Hinduism where they discuss these physical properties but don't always address the spiritual.

In my case, I struggled with my intuition and emotional receptors being too strong. I don't read minds like you do. But I somehow would know very strongly about a person's mood energy and intimate details about what they were going through (again not reading minds, but more reading the energy). The problem was that unless I was one on one with a single person, it was too much to handle. I'd walk into a Costco and get hit with overwhelming emotional signals and messages from dozens of people all at once. It was debilitating and gave me a lot of anxiety. So after some research I started taking steps to turn the dial down a bit on my third eye chakra to bring it back to balance. And it made a big difference. I did a lot of meditating with a blue kyanite stone as it is supposed to be a chakra healer/optimizer. And I think that really helped as well. Based on my experience, I think you can probably try something similar to turn down your powers to a more manageable level.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/27/17 04:36:25PM
599 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

If you are very sensitive you may pick up on animal energy from food. Or the energy from people that handle your food before it gets in your carts at the store. I've talked to empaths who switched to being vegetarian or vegan. But then they still felt bad and picked up on energy from someone along the supply chain who handled their food that had sad energy. I have to say if this describes you, that would be very tough. I don't know what you do as an empath if meat or veggies impact you. You would almost have to meditate and ground out the bad after each meal.

I did want to mention that most empaths deal with a lot of stomach pain/discomfort in general. And I believe this is due to emotional energy that we take in impacting the solar plexus chakra at top of stomach and sacral chakra at the bottom of stomach. When we don't handle the energy environment well, that pent up emotional energy starts to transfer as pain, swelling, and burning in those areas.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/24/17 03:41:15PM
599 posts

How to psychically ward oneself?


Empath

Your third eye chakra may be a little too open. You can get that in better balance and that should help tone down your over active connections to others. I use various crystals while meditating to help open or close various chakras as needed. But there are also some exercises that you can do. Are you familiar with any of this?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/24/17 03:36:11PM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


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@gardentiger:

I've read that drug and alcohol addictions are fairly common with empaths. Its a way to temporarily disconnect. And before I fully realized that I was an empath I can say that I drank pretty heavily after work on tough days. It turned off the empath receptor and allowed me to relax. But it was always temporary, and all the intense emotional baggage that made me feel bad in the first place was always waiting for me after I would sober up. So I get do understand why drugs and alcohol can be attractive to empaths. But I think it can be harmful for an empath to fall into the trap of drug or alcohol dependency as it does pull our vibration down and keeps us from our purpose.

As for stones, I have become quite the crystal and stone enthusiast over the past couple years. I love the protection stones as they really help me function in public or intense emotional areas where I know that I will struggle as an empath. There are even some stones like rose quartz or amethyst that I will plant throughout my office that will often effectively calm down the environment. One thing you will find with crystals in general is that what works for one person may not have much of an impact on another. But there are a handful of crystals that seem to work consistently well for  most empaths. Rose Quartz seems to be a really nice calming stone that will set off a happy & chill vibe in a room (it also seems to do its best work with female energy). And black tourmaline and malachite really do well for anyone carrying or wearing them. The black tourmaline gives you a pretty good negativity shield and limits what negative or low energy will get to you. And malachite is known to draw negative out of you. I really like those two and often throw in Shungite for good measure. Shungite is another stone that protects you from negative. And it helped me rid myself of a spirit attachment issue that I had about a year ago (that's a whole other story). If anyone is interested, this is a good easy to read book explaining what various stones and crystals will offer for protection and healing:

https://www.amazon.com/Crystal-Healer-prescriptions-change-forever/dp/1904991637/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1511566253&sr=8-1&keywords=the+crystal+healer+by+philip+permutt

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/22/17 08:59:44AM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

@gardentiger:

By being a newly realized empath, your energy signals are going to be on high for a while. When I found out a few years ago that I was an empath, my signal strength jumped up quite a bit. And while it was cool getting more validation of my gift, it was also painful (major anxiety in certain places and trouble sleeping, depression etc...). Along the way I found protection stones and they have made a huge difference. That along with other stones have balanced out my chakras and calmed me down so that my empath signal strength has been manageable. It used to be that intense emotional people were near impossible to be around. But with my stones I can now talk and function with them. And this is great at work where you can't control who you have to work with. So long story short, good for you for finding the stones. Keep them on you when out in the world (close to your body in a pocket or skin contact like with a bracelet seem to work best). That will help you immensely while out in the world and with people who you feel a bit heavy, anxious, or sick around.

As for your friend, if you don't feel he is a narc then it may be his drug use. I have done some research on this and drugs and alcohol abuse are said by many to lower a person's energy vibration. While intoxicated it takes one's internal spirit to a lower level where bad things and bad behavior follow. It is said that people who overuse drugs and alcohol lose some of their angelic protections since they are dropping to an energetic level where angels and spirit guides cannot function. And when this happens to a person they lose their way in life while being tempted and directed by things that are not good for them. It's kind of like the old cartoon where the devil is on one shoulder while the angel is on another. Except during heavy drug or alcohol use, the angel goes away and the devil has larger influence because the spirit/soul is closer to that energetic plain (using devil vs angel example as a metaphor). These are of course theories that I have received from other psychics and spiritual teachers. But it really makes sense to me. Especially if you have ever witnessed a person's personality slip away and a darker person emerge from drug or alcohol dependency (or any addiction for that matter). This makes me wonder if you are picking up on your friend's lowered energy and changing personality.

The thing to remember as an empath is that it is all about energy for us. As an empath your energy is unusually high relative to other non-empath humans. A lot of empaths are healers and use some of their higher energy to help people by literally lifting their spirits and in some cases healing physical problems. But as you give and take away someone's low energy/spiritual pain, you lower your own energy in the exchange. That's when you start to feel sick, depressed, weak etc... And a lot of the time this energy transfer happens without your own intent. Just being in the room with someone can create that spiritual energy transfer. That's why being around certain people will bring you down and not make you feel so great. Just remember to practice grounding at least daily so that you can rid yourself of that low energy and bring your high energy self back to balance.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/21/17 10:54:04PM
599 posts

Empaths and Codependent Relationships.


Empath

It appears that either an account got hacked or someone is playing at our expense. I was hoping @Elise would take a look at this.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/21/17 03:20:45PM
599 posts

Empaths and Codependent Relationships.


Empath

@dvrat:

I'm glad my comments were helpful. It's always hard to cut off someone who was once a good friend. And quite honestly, some empaths go through their whole lives being controlled and abused by narcs. While others make their mistakes and learn from it. You can only really advise her and hope that she makes the right choice to end it. But if her friend reconnects and reels her back in, just know that it eventually won't end well. And your wife may end up being about as emotionally exhausted as you've ever seen her. Hopefully that doesn't happen. And if it does, then there are lessons for each of us to learn even in the worst of times.

I did want to part by adding that this won't be the last narc that your wife attracts. Don't be surprised if a complete stranger with traits just like her ex-friend chats her up and draws her in at a coffee shop or somewhere else. Your wife will likely tell you that she met a really nice person and they hit it off like old friends. That's usually how it starts as narcs will early on make an empath feel really special around them. And I don't mean to say all strangers have ill intentions. But with narcs, they find us empaths like moths drawn to a flame. I get approached by narcs all the time. Complete strangers will approach me in public places and they seem almost intoxicated by my energy and quickly go full power with their charm trying to draw me in. It always feels weird when this happens as I feel a bit targeted or stalked. But I've become quite guarded when those types approach and quickly but politely go my way.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/21/17 02:59:40PM
599 posts

How does it feel 'from the other side'? - Dumping Emotions on me


Empath

@gardentiger:

As a new empath, welcome to the club. Happy You're likely going to notice that since you have realized and accepted who you are that your empath skills with strengthen.

In our current times, we are dealing with a lot of selfish, narcissistic behavior in society. Our social media addictions only exacerbate this bad behavior. And that is very hard for us empaths to deal with because we are constantly bombarded with that low/negative energy. We are sponges and absorb that low/negative energy. When you advance your skills you will learn how to draw in that negative and return positive energy to a person, room, or situation. But early on it is tough because you take in all that negative and become overloaded since you don't yet know how to make the energy conversion and get it out of your system. So for now, just realize that there will be days when you feel really tired, anxious, and even sad without a really good reason why. In your reading on empathy, look for the topic on grounding. It is very important for every empath to learn how to ground out that low energy we sponge up each day and cleanse it from our body and soul.

From your explanation of your friend, he sounds like he may be a narcissist. But slapping a label on it becomes very confusing when drug use is involved. I say this in not meaning to be judgmental. But oftentimes heavy drug use or alcoholism will bring out the worst in a person and cloud their better traits/real personality. But either way, as an empath, you're going to pick up a strong negative from a person like that. And when you are with him it will make you anxious, depressed, and even sick. The closer you let him in relationship-wise, the worse you may feel.

In my opinion, if your friend makes you feel bad, then you probably should move on from that friendship. I know that is a hard decision to make. And it is one that only you can make. But the one word of advice I would give you as an empath is to start trusting how you feel and listen to your intuition. And if a person or place makes you feel bad, trust that feeling.

I want to make sure I try to answer your final question. If your friend is a narcissist, then he likely feels really good around you. People like that feel energized when controlling and dumping on others. He's attracted to you and likes your higher energy. But there is an energy exchange that goes on with narcissists where they draw from your higher energy and dump their lower energy. You can feel it when this happens as you again will feel dizzy, anxious, depressed, or even a bit sick. There was another recent post on narcs that you may find to be an interesting read:

http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/community/forum/new_posts/49180/empaths-and-codependent-relationships

 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/21/17 02:15:38PM
599 posts

Empaths and Codependent Relationships.


Empath

@dvrat:

I'm a little late to the discussion and see that you were given some very good advice from others. I would add that most empaths have had a close relationship with a narcissist at one time or another. It’s almost a rite of passage for an empath. In fact, it is very common for an empath and narcist to be family or even siblings.

Empaths are usually introverts while narcs are most always extroverts. But they are extroverts in the most selfish sense of the term. You can go to any social setting like a bar and watch narcs in action working their magic on people. Narcs are easy to spot and go out of their way to make sure that everyone knows that they are the most important person in the room. In that way they garner a lot of attention and are often very popular as human nature loves star power and narcs are wired to draw people and attention their way. But in their world the narc only feels fulfilled when he/she has control over and manipulates every person and every situation to their advantage. A narc will readily admit that they are here to take all they can get from this world. They are all about doing and saying whatever pleases them with little to no concern about who they may be hurting or taking advantage of.

We’ve all heard about Ying/Yang from Chinese philosophy. I forget which is which, but empaths and narcs have a ying/yang relationship and as opposites they attract. Narcs seek out empaths in a very magical and spiritual way as they are absolutely addicted to empath energy. And they take all they can from the empath and at some point leave the empath weakened and damaged. On the flip side of the ying/yang, the empath often falls under the narcs spell. We’ve had many discussion on this at this forum and I’m not sure we’ve gotten to the bottom on why empaths seem to consistently fall in love or deep friendship with a narc in such a dependent way. But it’s the same story every time. At some point in every empath/narc relationship, the narc has taken all they can from the relationship and moves on. It always ends messy with the empath being kicked to the curb in the relationship. And the empath is left feeling deeply hurt, abandoned, and confused.

The important thing for empaths to thrive is for each empath to understand who they are, and the dynamic and dangers of narcissists who seek us out. They want to control us and drain our energy. It’s always best to avoid the narcs and definitely not let them get close. I’m glad to hear your wife is no longer in touch with her friend. Just be ready for that old friend to potentially try to reconnect and regain control at some point. That’s why cutting cords is a deeper step in ridding someone like that from your life.


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/21/17 02:17:51PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/14/17 10:07:31AM
599 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

@womanwhowalks:

I believe he explained it that when he smokes his psychic abilities increase and that is what causes the neighbor to react with anger and bang around. That in itself is interesting. But what is more interesting is that the neighbor seems to know exactly where the psychic power is coming from, and vice-versa with @ellicent knowing who it is that is sending him anger and pain. I'm hoping that @ellicent will find a way to better shield himself or neutralize the effect the neighbor has on him until he is able to relocate to a better space.

P.S.-How come you changed your screen name to @womanwhowalks?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/13/17 08:28:33AM
599 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

@ellicent:

Burning sage is pretty stinky so you'll probably want to give your roommate a heads up on that. But that's a native american ritual that has been very effective for a lot of people.

I did want to mention that the salt bowls seem to draw some negative energy out of me (especially when I place one on my nightstand). And in my home we have 3 empaths here and are constantly visited by spirits at night that disturb our sleep. And I found that the salt water bowls in each of our bedrooms definitely seems to mellow out spirit activity allowing us to sleep better. I have never tried it as a way to block or subdue a psychic attack. But since salt is good at neutralizing low energy, I would think it would work in your situation.

We have also had many others on this site have to deal with angry energy and psychic attacks in their work office environment. And many of them said by placing rose quartz or amethyst stones near their personal work space that it really improved conditions. Those stones tend to have a calming effect. I don't know if that would work for you but placing those stones near you when you are smoking and at risk of the neighbor attack could possibly blunt it. But I'm also torn toward just recommending protection stones. I love black tourmaline for that as it is powerful. But malachite is also a real good one that is known for absorbing negative. I think that could mute the attack. Anyway, I would try the salt and some stones and see if you have any improvement.

Best of luck. Let us know how it goes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
11/11/17 03:59:38PM
599 posts



@artemisia:

You are not alone. A common theme with empaths are stories of being used and abused by people. I think our energy is attractive and can draw people to us. But when we get pulled down by the world our energy sinks and we become less energetically desirable to people. And then there is the whole narc side of things. Narcs will seek you out to control you and drain your energy. They will use you up and energetically leave you for dead. I'm not sure if that describes your former friend. But if she is a narc then you have to recognize that and avoid letting those types close to you in the future.

 
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