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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/12/19 04:33:45PM
971 posts

Essential Oils


Empath

I'm glad you two are enjoying essential oils. They are well known de-stressors. I like lavender. And I ordered Frankincense by accident and ended up liking it. I use an oil diffuser and really like that during meditation. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/12/19 02:38:28PM
971 posts

Kind thoughts can boost immune system


Empath

@tigerlily:

I was just reading a book that referenced a psychologist who said "the brain kills, the brain heals". It was in the context of how one's outlook in life can impact health.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
02/08/19 12:19:13PM
971 posts

Kind thoughts can boost immune system


Empath

I read the below article today and thought it was a good one to share here. Medical science is now showing that people with positive thoughts and outlook have a protected immunity with less illness. And they found the reverse is true that people who deal with a lot of negative thoughts tend to be ill more often. In my view this is energy related and is something that empaths deal with daily (managing our energy to avoid being down and sick). It's nice to see medical science lend some research data to what most of us empaths already believe to be true.

https://uk.news.yahoo.com/think-no-evil-kind-thoughts-060000195.html?guccounter=1


updated by @hop-daddy: 02/08/19 12:19:50PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/10/19 12:53:22PM
971 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

@cheshire-cat:

Glad to hear that worked for you. And yes, the Himalayan salt comes from the foothills of Pakistan. I don't believe it is anywhere near the sea. Sea salt is also useful for cooking and for rituals. But I find it the most expensive type of salt. Himalayan salt is a little cheaper and packed with a lot more nutrients and minerals than most salts. And then could old Morton's rock salt is very inexpensive and works well. When I do salt baths I normally use about a cup of rock salt with a good sprinkling of Himalayan salt.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/09/19 03:43:24PM
971 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

@zacharias:

I'm glad you like some of the blogs and articles that I post. Amy is definitely awesome.

I'm noticing in my travels and discussions with others that some of us empaths are more wired to see/hear/sense entities than others. As you illustrated in your example, your neighbor needed to reconcile with your wife before she moved on. And then once that happened you probably didn't see her again. The vast majority of people at death do move on and cross over. Those that don't and stay as ghosts tend to be confused, regretful, guilty, afraid of the light and judgement. They tend to be very unstable emotionally and can be quite negative in interactions with the living. The Dead Files show really focuses on those troubled ghosts. I know from your prior posts that you've had your share of run ins with some negative unseen things (as have I). I think that once you have the skills to see or sense them, that it's hard not to have run-ins with ghosts or negative entities from time to time. But as of today, I'm in full agreement. I'd much rather help the living.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/09/19 03:28:41PM
971 posts

Do you know the spirit visiting you?


Empath

@tigerlily:

I have a slightly different take. Ghosts are earth bound and stay here until they cross over. But spirits have crossed over and also come to visit. The difference is that they are pretty content and busy on the other side. And in some cases after many years spirits will reincarnate. But they do come by and check on us.

I had a lady who I worked with years ago who had some pretty special medium skills. And her father had died almost a decade before her son was born. But as her son was being born she had two men in the delivery room standing over her shoulder. One was her husband, and one was the smiling spirit of her long dead Dad. She also told me that every year on her Dad's birthday that he would visit her in some way one day to thank her for thinking of him. He might walk in front of the TV and wave, or pass by her at the office and smile at her. She could see him clear as day. 

I don't yet know the answer as to how to tell which is which. Except that spirits seem to come by to see loved ones only once in a while. But ghosts if attracted to your property or you may be there every day. I have also noticed an uptick in paranormal activity that seemed friendly during the holidays. And I like to think that it's my deceased relatives stopping by to say hello. But I only hear them so I don't know.

P.S.- The same lady I worked with that saw her Dad's spirit would also see all sorts of things. We had an awful co-worker who was just about the most negative, offensive, unempathetic human I've ever met. And my psychic friend said she could she dark creatures hovering around that nasty lady at certain times of the day. It would seem that negative attracts negative.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/07/19 02:14:58PM
971 posts

Just Wondering about something....


Empath

@womanwhowalks:

It's pretty bad when they have to try to intimidate you to keep you from asking questions or attempting to leave them. About 25 years ago I was in college and took a summer job at a grocery store. I was only going to work there for 60-70 days before returning to college so I opted out of joining the grocers union. And a union representative visited me repeatedly with subtle threats that I needed to join the union even if I was a short term worker or else I could be fired and replaced by another union worker. I was just a poor college student making minimum wage at about $4.50 an hour bagging groceries. I couldn't believe the strong armed tactics.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/07/19 02:08:08PM
971 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

They do offer the show on Prime and Hulu, but I think you have to pay extra to watch it. But it looks like the website lets you watch quite a few episodes.

I love Himalayanin salt in my food just as much as I like to bathe in it. Normally it is not good to add a lot of salt to your food. But the Himalayan salt has so many other minerals and nutrients that it is actually very healthy (in moderation of course). And I swear as an empath it plays a part in keeping me stable.

You may want to try a salt grinder or a meat tenderizer hammer if you have one (to break up large pieces). I've been buying this 5 pound bag of fine Himalayan salt for $15. It lasts me at least 2+ years. And that's with my darned kids over-using it all of the time.Laugh

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HVJI7KI/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/07/19 01:16:48PM
971 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

@cheshire-cat:

I agree. In fact I've seen that first hand with my empath son. He tried using protection stones and a few crystals to help him cope with empath anxiety at school a couple years back. But he had a bad attitude about it and admitted to not really believing that they would help. So I had to have a talk with him about attitude and intentions. I told him when you tell yourself something is impossible or that something probably won't work, then you block it from the start and it won't work. But when you have a positive attitude and put a positive intention or belief in something, the magic starts to come alive. He calmed down, changed his attitude, and has since had very positive experiences with his crystals and protection stones.

The Dead Files show is on The Travel Channel. Depending on your TV provider, its usually grouped in with the History and Discovery chanels. If you don't subscribe to that channel, you can also find episodes to watch online and on their app here:

https://www.travelchannel.com/shows/the-dead-files

Aside from Amy's point about intentions, I do usually notice that she recommends salt, saging, and selenite during many episodes as a way for people keep their ghosts at bay. And quite often she recommends that a group of mediums or shamans come in to these troubled homes to clear and remove ghosts and all sorts of strange things.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/06/19 10:08:37PM
971 posts

Q&A Article With Amy Allan From The Dead Files TV Show


Psychic and Paranormal

The Dead Files tv show is one of my favorites. Although I have to admit that the episodes can be a little disturbing at times. But they are at the same time fascinating and there are some teachable moments in each episode. For those who watch the show, you know Amy Allan as the show's investigative medium. She is very talented. The link below is from a Q&A session that she did with a small media outlet back in 2014. And in the Q&As she answers questions on a lot of topics that have popped up here at the EC over the past several months. So even if you don't watch the show, I think you'll find it interesting. One question she answered that I found particularly interesting was how ill she has become from doing the work that she does (something many of us experience at one time or another). I hope all of you enjoy this as much as I did. Please feel free to comment or start related discussions.

https://parayournormal.wordpress.com/2014/08/26/amy-allan-of-the-dead-files-is-extraordinary/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/05/19 10:58:24PM
971 posts

A Lifepath Quote For Empaths


Library of Light

Thank you. I'm glad you liked it. I've been trying really hard this past year to listen, see, and notice signs that are sent to me. And when I was watching that movie, that line jumped out at me. I rewinded it three times to make sure I was hearing it right. I think quotes like this can really be meaningful and empowering to us.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
01/05/19 10:45:14PM
971 posts

Just Wondering about something....


Empath

There was a place for unions many decades ago to help with fair pay and workers rights. But now they are obscelete and are mostly corrupt. They are kind of like our politicians who we elect to go to Washington to represent our interests, but they instead self-deal to enrich and empower themselves. It seems the signs with yours are there that they are just leeches taking your union dues without giving you anything in return. And the fact that you guys wanted to disband and they send their thugs in to influence you speaks volumes. I think you're seeing the signs both literally and spiritually that the union is not good for you and your co-workers.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/31/18 01:14:02PM
971 posts

Your current partner...


Empath

@aiden:

You sound like you have a really good handle on that situation as well as your own empath boundaries. You're handling it well by limiting time and emotional connections with those in your life who are vampires or takers. I do the same. There are plenty of people out there who are ready to accept healing from an empath and really change their lives and life path. For the others who continue to be in a vicious cycle of their own making, they have to break the cycle and fix themselves before anyone can really help them. And that's really hard for the vampire types because they simply love the drama. It's part of their identity.

And great job putting yourself first. All empaths are particularly bad at putting themselves first as part of our giving nature. However, accounting for ourselves and our daily needs is a necessary step in our advancement and well being.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/31/18 01:00:13PM
971 posts

Charging crystals


Empath

@tigerlily:

I have read that selenite cleans and energizes other crystals. But I have a palm sized selenite and I have not noticed it helping recharge my other crystals. Or at least it seems no where close to as effective as salt or the sun. I'm curious if you've noticed selenite revitalize your other crystals?


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/31/18 01:15:02PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/31/18 12:55:45PM
971 posts

Driving


Empath

@kate:

Several years ago when I was struggling with how to ground the energy I took in, I had a really tough time driving my car in the city. I seemed to pick up on all the bad moods, anger, and general unhappiness of drivers around me. There were a few times where I was at a stop light and started having panic attacks as a result of the suffocating energy that was hitting me all at once. This eventually subsided for me when I started using protection stones and figuring out how to regularly ground out the energies I take in.


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/31/18 12:56:14PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/29/18 01:52:54PM
971 posts

Your current partner...


Empath

@chrisis:

What makes you think your partner is a narc? Is he draining, manipulative, or hurtful to you at times?

Assuming he is not a narc, he sounds a bit guarded and closed off emotionally. In our society going back 30-50 years we were raised as boys to not show emotion as it is weakness. It is a little different today, but if you were raised in the 70s-90s, you were likely raised in a "boys don't cry" world. So that has caused so many men as adults to have difficulty showing emotion or vulnerability. I wonder if that may be what's going on with your partner? He may be struggling with allowing himself to show vulnerability and heightened emotions around you. And in turn, you don't feel completely connected with him.

If I am correct, I think your partner may benefit from counseling where he can learn to rewire himself to be able to open up and be more vulnerable and emotionally available with you.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/29/18 01:22:26PM
971 posts

Can spirits make you taste and smell?


Psychic and Paranormal

Same with me. It's been close to a year since I smelled a spirit. I'm still not sure why sometimes I smell them, while other times I see, hear, or feel them, but without smells.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/29/18 01:20:54PM
971 posts

How Ghosts Impact Us


Psychic and Paranormal

@tigerlily:

That's really cool. And I think as you accept that it is them visiting that you will find it easier to connect with them. You may get better confirmation through a more personal visit or maybe a dream where you converse with one or both of them. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/29/18 01:18:17PM
971 posts

Charging crystals


Empath

@tigerlily:

I think you probably don't want to use yourself as an energy source for your crystals. As Karen2 said, we empaths don't need any help sharing and draining ourselves of energy. We're constantly bombarded with everyone and everything trying to siphon off of us. Personally, I wouldn't add to that list. Think of crystals and stones as empath medicine to help you, and not the other way around. We've talked about how well the sun recharges crystals. And setting them in dry salt or salty water for 4-8 hours also does a good job recharging. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/29/18 01:12:20PM
971 posts

Your current partner...


Empath

@aiden:

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you may have a bit of what is known as a Florence Nightingale syndrome where as a healer, you are attracted to broken, hurting people. You said yourself, the people who you meet who "have it together" are not that interesting to you. But yet there is an energetic connection with people who are full of problems in their lives. I have a brother who is just like you who has had a long history of only being attracted to wounded and dysfunctional women. And it always ends up in drama and disaster for him. So I am familiar with this.

From your screen pic you look to be fairly young. I think what you are going through with this attraction to wounded souls will disappear with age as you gain more life experience and discernment as an empath. You sound very in touch with yourself and understand how and why you are attracted to people like this. And that's a very important first step. Because once you understand yourself and your emotional behavior, you can work on rebuilding yourself over time to not be as attracted to wounded people.

You of course know that both narcs and damaged people will find you and be very attracted to you as an empath. They are like moths to the flame with us. You mentioned having particularly high energy that night, and how many men were attracted to you. Your healing energy was very strong that night so that's no surprise that you had many people lining up to meet you. I think there was a very good chance that your high energy was pre-planned by your higher self and spirit guides as a bit of a learning test. I would say they are showing you more evidence of how powerful you are as a healer. But they want you to be more careful with who you share your intimacy with because takers and narcs can severely damage a healer like you by getting in close in a relationship, sapping your energy, and turning your life upside down. I believe this was an important lesson that you were given because as a healer, people like that will stand in the way of your life path and happiness.

On a final note, I find that most emotionally damaged people are energy vampires. They usually have a litany of dramatic stories all through their lives, and a general pattern of bad luck. But as you dig deep with a person like this, you will often find that they subconsciously both attract and cause the drama in their own lives and are really their own worst nightmare. Some of these people can be helped by your healing energy. But unfortunately, most will take and take from you, but never change their ways. They will continue a pattern of behavior that creates bad outcomes for them for the rest of their lives. We all know people like this. And while it's okay to be friendly, don't let these energy vampires in close where they can attach emotionally to you and bring you down with them. This is why my advice is to really avoid partnering with these types. There is no end to their drama, and you will literally feel your energy weakening while you spend time with them. I actually get dizzy and nauseous when people like this drain me. And once you enter their world in a relationship, you become part of their drama, and become near destroyed as an empath.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/27/18 04:33:57PM
971 posts

a new angle


Empath

@goodenergyhealing:

I also ground through my heels. It was the original way I found to push out unwanted energy. And it seems to work well. How did you get to the point where energy passes in and out wirelessly as you say? That's definitely on my empath bucket list to learn.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/27/18 04:24:46PM
971 posts

Sound therapy, who's tried it?


Empath

I have not used traditional sound therapy (seeing a practitioner). But I definitely use music as a way to heal and ground myself and others. And I have listened to binaural beats on many occasions while meditating. That's some pretty fascinating stuff.

@crystalsage, I'd love to see you post about your thoughts on spirits coming to visit us during the holiday season. I definitely sense there is a major pick up in activty between October-January every year. And I didn't realize that this was maybe a regular occurance outside my home.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/21/18 02:02:17PM
971 posts

Friendship - finding it incredibely difficult to find friends that are "on the same wavelength"


Empath

@chrisis:

I think loneliness is something we empaths all deal with (even when in a relationship). As an empath we know that quite often people are always taking from us energy-wise. For me, I'm the one who everyone comes to with their problems so I can make them feel better and offer solutions. But when I'm struggling, no one wants to reciprocate and help me out. Sound familiar?

I think part of the problem is that we're just so very different and sensitive. I find that even when I'm close with someone, I'm still not getting the deep down connection that I really want. As a result I have to settle with lowered relationship connections and try not get frustrated with my relationships that tend to come up short by my standards.

If you look at the definition of empathy you get this: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. I think most people who you would want to have a relationship with will have some empathy to their personality. But it is no where close to the level of empathy you have as an empath. And I think that's why we feel disconnected and lonely. We're at another level.

And lastly I can say from personal experience that I'm in the closet about my empath abilities with the majority of the people I know. Both from a personal and professional standpoint, my friends and associates are not ready to accept me in this way. I wish it were different. 

I find belonging to online communities like this one as a way to connect with others like myself. In many cities there are empath communities that meet throughout the year. If you try to google for empath groups in your city, there likely is one.

Best of luck to you. And hopefully some other members will share their thoughts and experiences to help you as well.


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/21/18 02:04:09PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/19/18 03:30:20PM
971 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@tigerlily:

For the first time in about two years, the faces I see when I close my eyes to fall asleep has lessened considerably. I've been really busy the past 90 days and I suspect that my mind is preoccupied and that maybe that is blocking what I can connect with and see. However, I still do see random faces and little movie scenes. But now not every night. But I am starting to see some negative images whereas before it was always very neutral, mostly expressionless images of people (not scary before). But now it's a little more negative (witches, skulls, angry looking people skowling at me). But this is also mixed in with some normal neutral looking people. I'm actually in a good balanced place right now so I don't really know how these negative images correspond with me. Although the other night I watched two episodes of Dead Files on tv before falling asleep. That in itself was a big mistake as that show both intrigues me and freaks me out. I think it gets my mind going and then strange things start to happen.

I see a quite a few angel numbers every day on clocks and on my cell phone. Sometimes they appear in patterns on my calculator or in financial paperwork. I get mostly 11s that show as 3:11, 4:11 etc... I also see 2:22, 3:33, 69 & 66. But the clock showing variations of the 11s is most common. I would say when getting angel numbers, try to stop and highlight the thought you just had when the numbers showed up. That will help you better understand what the message is.

I regretably don't often see positive things like you do with flowers and hearts. They're probably there for me to see but I miss them. I'm busy multi-tasking and tend to notice the negative stuff instead. But, I do get that white flash that you mentioned quite often. And when it happens, I can feel a little energy burst with it as well. I'll either see it out of the corner of my eye while awake, or I will have that happen right when I close my eyes to go to sleep. A bright flash will hit me and I'll open my eyes and see nothing. I didn't know what that was. I would love it if it were angels.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/18/18 01:29:00PM
971 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

I agree. I really didn't know that until my Chinese acupuncturist mentioned the role of the stomach beyond just digestion. I think it helps to understand this as an empath in order to manage it and hopefully avoid unwanted stomach issues.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/18/18 01:08:25PM
971 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

I use a few different things. But this one is the main one that my naturopath suggested that gives me the best relief:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001GDGAFE/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

It contains slippery elm bark, marshmallow root, and DGL. But also recently found the Prelief product that is helping me quite a bit with high acid foods like coffee, red sauces, wine etc...:

https://www.amazon.com/Prelief-Tablets-Dietary-Supplements-sku445783/dp/B00006JIXX/ref=sr_1_1_s_it?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1545167213&sr=1-1-spons&keywords=prelief&psc=1


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/18/18 01:29:15PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/17/18 11:06:10AM
971 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

If anyone is interested, I have a few stomach soothing supplements that I order off of Amazon that have really helped my stomach. I'd be happy to share my protocol. But controlling my stomach pain is really the management of a vicious circle. As an empath my stomach acids kick up and weaken my stomach lining. And when that happens, quite a few foods will aggravate it further. And that causes a lot of pain. So I work on grounding often to keep me more mellow (along with protection stones). And then I take the previously mentioned supplements to help strengthen my stomach lining.

@tigerlily, I also get sinus issues from empath stress. I use allergy sprays that do help. But I also started seeing an acupuncturist for help with some body aches (which has been amazing as the science of it is all about clearing energy blockages in your body so that you can properly heal). And as it turns out, acupuncture is excellent for sinus problems. He'll put a couple needles in and my sinus issues clear up in minutes. It's amazing how well that works.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/14/18 09:09:58AM
971 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@cheshire-cat:

My observation is that empath stress gives me stomach problems that kicks up my stomach acids and weakens my stomach lining. And then with a sensitive stomach I have to be careful what I eat because certain foods make it a lot worse. Before awakening as an empath I used to have a cast-iron stomach. I'm not saying that food allergies don't play a role for a lot of people. But I would say 8/10 empaths admit to having stomach issues relating to empath stress. It seems to be a very consistent problem. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/14/18 09:05:04AM
971 posts

Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

@zacharias:

I think our teenage daughters are about the same age and are both empaths. My daughter always has empath related stomach issues. Last night she had a dance performance that she was in where she couldn't wear her protection stones. And being around that many nervous girls plus the audience gave her really bad stomach troubles. She's had this all of her life when around empath stress (as do I). 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/18 01:28:45PM
971 posts

Lost and Confused


Empath

@so-exausted-from-users:

Congrats on figuring out who you are. There are a lot of empaths out there who are miserable becauase they refuse to examine what is happening and try to block their feelings or mask them with anxiety and anti-depression drugs. So big thumbs up to you for doing the research and figuring it out.

The majority of empaths are born this way while there are others that will go through a tragic event in their life that also can switch on empath abilities. This does definitely run in familes but seems to often skip a generation. Although like you, I also have two empath kids so there was no skipping generations this time.

Every empath typically shares the same main ability to be able to absorb, feel, and read other people's energies. And then from there we all split out differently with different side abilities. Some of us can heal others, some can see and communicate with the dead, some can see visions of the future, or communicate with animals etc... The list of spiritual abilities is quite long and very interesting.

The toughest thing for a newly awakened empath is that your abilities are on overload. It's like having a stereo turned up to maximum on the dial. Everything is working to the extreme. You may see ghosts all of the time, you may hide in your home because you get anxiety attacks from being around others etc... Whatever your skill set is will be amplified until you learn how to balance and ground your energy. And in most cases, this comes with making lifestyle changes.

Your ability to relax and meditate is compromised now because your psychic skills are on over drive and your mind is racing. You simply can't rest your mind at this point. This will change in time as you start to balance and ground yourself. But back to the example of your 16 year marriage, break-ups can be especially debilitating for empaths. Because we feel our own grief, but we also feel the pain, anger, and resentment from our ex. It's a double whammy of emotional energy. And if this hits while your chakras are wide open, it can be a very devastating time. I imagine it was very rough for you. This is the important thing about being an empath. You have to study up and understand how it works, and how you work. 

As an empath, you will achieve a deep emotional connection to anyone you are in love with. It's both a blessing and a curse. That's a big reason why it feels so magical with your boyfriend. You have created a deep spiritual connection with him. And empath energy is very special and unique and can be intoxicating to your partner when you start to date. People are drawn to empaths because they feel better after interacting with one. That's our healing energy taking place there. We take away people's pain and psychological discomfort and exchange it with good happy energy. You just have to be careful who you share your energy with because energy vampires are real. And narcissists are also real and are especially drawn to entraping empaths. Your ex-husband may have been one. And pretty much every empath has at least one ex that was a narcissist. This is why you'll often read on this site about protecting your energy and staying grounded.

As far as your feelings of dread, it could be any number of things. I'll give your a few examples that pertain to me. Every once in a while I get a feeling of dread and then usually something bad happens afterwards in the news. Maybe a big shooting or accident. I also pick up on earth bound ghost energy. And let me tell you, earth bound ghosts are mostly lost & confused with feelings of dread, regret, sadness, frustration etc... So for me sometimes it is that. And sometimes that feeling of dread can be your gut telling you that something is not right in your life and you need to make a change for  the better. You may be off course a bit.

I would say first and foremost, start by focusing on calming down and grounding your energy. It's near impossible to get any real answers with your abilities on full blast. You need to get that settled down and balanced so you can better interpret what is going on. 


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/13/18 01:33:16PM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
12/13/18 11:47:46AM
971 posts

Lost and Confused


Empath

@so-exausted-from-users:

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. You're in a tough period right now as a newbie empath and I know first hand how stressed and confused you feel. I would like to help you better understand a few subjects. Your gut feeling is part of being an empath. It's your knowing skills. It's kind of like a second brain that focuses on your spiritual skills. In fact, I think Chinese medicine describes the stomach best:

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Stomach (and its partner the Spleen) is most affected by chronic worry, anxiety, or overthinking. 

For me, my gut feeling is literal. I actually get odd feelings and pains in my stomach when I get premonitions or the knowing feeling that something doesn't feel right. I often wonder if this is why the term "gut feeling" came about.

As a new empath, your skills are on blast right now because you don't know how to balance them yet. Your chakras are wide open and you are overexposed by the energies of everyone around you. Your mind is having a tough time keeping up with what is being thrown at you. As a result, I'm sure you're pretty stressed and probably worry about more than you should. The solution for you is to learn how to ground and get your chakras balanced. Do you have any experience balancing and meditating to relax your mind, body, and soul?

As far as your twin flame comments, I don't want to disappoint you, but I am not a fan of the new age twin flame belief. The thought that there is one person in this world who is a perfect match for you is not realistic or statistically accurate. I think it puts too much pressure on a relationship when you think "it was written in the stars". I can't tell you how many people we've had come through here with posts about being absolutely distraught because their twin flame broke up with them. Truth be told, there are many people out there who are energetic matches for you. And you will meet many of these people in your lifetime. Sometimes these special energetic match people make a good boyfriend or husband. And other times those people turn out to be mentors, or life long friends. I would just say enjoy the time and relationship with your boyfriend and try not to be overexposed by the twin flame concept as it may leave you disappointed down the road.

And as far as relationships go, being an empath can often doom a relationship and create a lot of ups and downs. And the reason is that we empaths are super sensitive. And we connect to people energetically and basically can read their minds through what their energy is telling us. That can scare off a romantic partner or a friend. As can the fact that we can often be moody and needy. I would say a tip on how to be an empath and in a healthy relationship would be to take better care of yourself, to work on being grounded. Because when you get all wound up and out of balance from all the energy that you take in from this world, you are not going to be a fun person for someone to be around. And you'll literally wear them out.

And in closing, realizing you are an empath at first can feel like a curse. It all seems so negative with a lot of anxiety, sleepless nights, panic attacks etc... Not to mention that quite a few of us hear and see the spirit world. It's a lot to get hit with. But in time you will learn how to ground yourself and keep yourself balanced and protected. And instead of your gut feeling switch being on high all of the time, you'll notice that it works much better with less stress on you when it is switched to medium (balanced). I would just suggest you spend some time looking through past posts on this website. Think of it like an empath library. There is a wealth of knowlege and conversation here that will both fascinate and inform you. And then of coourse feel free to post your questions so community members can help you out.

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12/12/18 10:58:46AM
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Dealing With Health Issues? Your Empathy Is Likely To Blame.


Empath

There have been plenty of discussions here in the past about how often empaths get sick or deal with ongoing health issues. I personally deal with constant stomach issues and a bad cold that I tend to get 2-3 times a year that knocks me out. I found a couple articles that I wanted to share that highlights common illnesses that empaths have, in addition to suggestions on how to improve your health. (Please share your comments on what illnesses you have dealt with that were likely empath related. And any tips you have for others on how to be a healthier empath.)

http://belindadavidson.com/why-empaths-intuitives-often-have-bad-health-2/

http://www.jennifersoldner.com/2017/01/empath-mind-body-health.html


updated by @hop-daddy: 12/12/18 11:47:03AM
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11/29/18 11:23:03AM
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Feeling a little down and confused...


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@tigerlily:

Well said. I wanted to add that negative entities are attracted to places with a lot of negative energy. They thrive and get energized by the low energy that human's release. They also like dark and dirty places like basements and storage rooms. The reason I bring this up is that sometimes a house has a real low vibe from the people who live there. But more often than you think, there are also unseen things there contributing to the overall mood. That's why saging is so effective. It breaks up the negative energy that clings to the walls that they like to have aroud them. So a good saging breaks up their party. And if you have any dark, dirty, and disorganized rooms, a good cleaning, saging, and opening of the blinds to let light in will transform the energy as well.

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11/28/18 02:23:17PM
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Feeling a little down and confused...


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@loconnoro:

You'll be surprised how well saging rooms removes stuck negative energy. Another trick is to open all the windows and doors in a house and let the wind push clean air through for a couple of hours. It breathes new life into the place. And lastly, placing crystals about like amethyst and rose quartz helps promote harmony.

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11/25/18 10:59:23PM
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@jerrysto:

Based on what you are posting, you are already starting to connect remotely to people. It usually starts out with you having strong connections to people who you are bonded and close with. And then as you progress with this you can expand this to be able to connect to complete strangers remotely.

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11/25/18 10:08:55PM
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I AM GRATEFUL FOR.....


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@michelle:

Thanks for the fun and positive topic.

One of the things that I struggled with in recent years as an empath was to not be so negative in my outlook on life. As you all know as an empath, we are negative energy magnets. And we take in all that low energy and it can really impact how we experience our lives. I had a bit of a break through in 2018 where I did a much better job of managing my energy and keeping my vibration at more optimal levels. And that has led me to be grateful for:

1) Grateful for my friends and family near and far. Grateful for the light and love that these people represent.

2) Grateful for this website where we like minds can meet, exchange ideas, and better ourselves.

3) Grateful for the empath and psychic skills that God has given me. There was a time when I felt I was a cursed soul and was doomed to be tortured by my empathy for the rest of this life. And that gave me a bleak outlook. But through a lot of self-work and progress, those curse feelings have transformed to recognizing that I have a gift that I am extremely grateful for. And I look forward to kicking my gifts in to high gear in 2019 and beyond to help raise vibrations everywhere I can.

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11/25/18 09:53:35PM
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@jerrysto:

You ask a very good question that I used to ponder. In fact, for a long time I believed that it was impossible to give remote readings and was probably a scam. But as my psychic abilities have progressed I now have a better understanding of how a remote reading works.

There are some psychics who require that their clients be face to face with them in order to give accurate readings. But I am actually finding that this is the exception more than the rule. I find that most psychics give very good readings remotely. The reason for this is that the ability to connect spiritually to someone is kind of like how the internet works. If you have a friend email you a document that you've been waiting on, you're going to need a computer or mobile device plus an internet connection in order to retireve your friend's email. If the power is out in your neighborhood, you're not going to be able to use your equipment to retrieve that email. But if the power is up, and your internet provider is up, you'll have no problem receiving that email. Similarly, being psychic is like having a spiritual internet connection that the average person doesn't have access to (the power is on for a psychic). We have a built in spiritual modem in our brains that allow us to access this spiritual internet. And as a result, the majority of psychics do not need to see you in person to do a reading. Just speaking with you by phone allows them to connect with your spirit through the spiritual internet and access info. that you are seeking.

I wanted to note in helping you understand this that I actually get tripped up doing readings face to face with people. In person my mind gets a little confused analyzing someone's facial cues and behavior while also accessing that person's spirit. I get mixed messages. For that reason, I am more accurate via email or on the phone with someone where I don't have anything visual to confuse me.

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11/23/18 10:07:09AM
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Pets


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With all the heated #MeToo stuff that's been going on I think a lot of single men are now at a loss on how to meet women without being labelled as a predator. I keep reading articles how they are afraid to try to pick up on women and be labelled a perv. And I'm not talking about the bad male predator behavior that needs to go away. I'm talking about normal guys that respect women and are just looking for opportunities to meet them. I would think having a puppy that attracts women at a park would be innocent enough as long as they care for and treat their dogs well. Heck, I'm surprised that there are still people walking through parks enjoying the scenary instead of being zombified by their phones. Because I've tried an experiment several times walking through a park or shopping area trying to see how many people would be off their phones and in this world enough to make eye contact and be aware of the goings on in the real world. And I honestly think its about 1 out of every 15 people walking through a public place who is looking at people and their surroundings instead of their phones.


updated by @hop-daddy: 11/23/18 10:07:52AM
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11/19/18 05:27:31PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@michelle:

We've had unplugged clock radios without batteries turn on by themselves and start playing radio music at my house. Although I'm pretty sure that's a ghost thing and not us. But electronics malfunctioning or lightbulbs and batteries suddenly shorting out is something we see happen. With electronics malfunctioning I usually find that I'm in a hurry or anxious when that happens. So if I take 3-5 minnutes to walk away and do some breathing to reset myself, my computer, phone or whatever starts working again. Similar to what you did in the medical office walking away. But I'm torn on this as the cause because there is often some ghost activity leading up to these events as well. So I'm not sure if the ghosts are causing problems. Or maybe they are messing with my aura and aggravating me. And my energy surges and causes these electronic problems. I'm just not sure which one is the answer.

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11/19/18 05:14:12PM
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Pets


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I love dogs and can't imagine life without them. I have two Golden Retrievers (one male, one female). We joke the female is a doggie empath. The male is big and a goof ball. Love those two. We used to have cats and I liked them as well. But cats are usually pretty independent whereas dogs are very dependent on their masters as part of their pack mentality.

When my current dogs were puppies under 1 year old they individually went bananas when they would see ghosts or shadows. But they both calmed down as they got older. I do catch them seeing things that aren't there sometimes. But they rarely bark at them. I think seeing things around my house is pretty normal for them and they aren't bothered by them. But one time they did hear a ghost woman humming a song in our kitchen and their hair was sticking straight up in fear. It made me wonder if the singing woman was more than a ghost and maybe was a djinn or something. So basically I feel my dogs would normally only sound the alarm if they caught a ghost trying to steal their favorite treats from the treat jar. 

To the 2nd question, my poor doggie empath has a lot to handle in our house with 3 empaths plus my wife. She sometimes looks devastated from all the energy she takes in from us when one of us is feeling low or grouchy. But my male goof ball Golden is perfect when one of us is down. He knows how to come over and do something funny to cheer that person up. He's really good at that. I would say he grounds me at times or helps get me in the right direction on that. But I find myself often trying to calm and cheer up my female Golden who gets so impacted by us. 

I would say no odd behaviors on any given day. They are pretty routine. They love weekends when everyone is home and our house energy is high. And they dislike Mondays when some or all of us have the Monday blues.

I'm thankful for their unconditional love. Quite often I think dogs are better company than most humans.

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11/19/18 04:56:22PM
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@cheshire-cat:

From reading so many posts here over the past few years I have observed that quite a few community members say that they don't feel like they belong in this world. I wanted to share that I normally don't feel like that. I don't know why. But I have a very strong feeling that I'm supposed to be here and this is my home for now in this world. But I can at times feel like I don't belong when I'm low vibration or in a new setting like a new job. I used to think it was insecurity. But it may just be me picking up on inquisitive energies from a new environment. However, for the others like you who often feel they don't belong, I can understand that. I think it may have something to do with being torn between two worlds (here and the hereafter). You may have a real deep seated connection to the other side.

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11/16/18 01:08:06PM
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@womanwhowalks:

There's a saying that comes to mind that is "With great power comes great responsibility." And I'd like to add to that by saying "Great power/abilities can come at a price of personal suffering". You are obviously quite talented. And you suffer from your work. We all do. And it goes in cycles that can at times be very dark like what you are experiencing now. We persevere and somehow make it through. I am very sorry you're going through all of what is making you feel broken and down. Just know we're here to support you and help you through this until it passes and you are in a happier mind set. Just remember to practice some self-care and try to get that vibration back up. This world needs more people like you!

Hop Daddy
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11/16/18 12:40:50PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@cheshire-cat:

Its glassware, ceramic mugs, eye glasses. And I can't tell you how many times I have spilled a cup of coffee on myself despite having a firm grip on the handle. It's as if something is flipping it on me. I think I need to call Ghost Busters! Wink

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11/16/18 08:27:50AM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

@cheshire-cat:

I believe that's the son. That's great you had a reading with him that went so well.

And now that you mention it, I also have clumsy episodes at inopportune times. And I'm not a clumsy person. I'll be heading out the door to a meeting and a water glass in my grip will suddenly slip out as if pulled from my hand. And then I'll have a 20 minute delay of cleaning up the broken glass and mess. I've also had a couple times where my car keys inexplicably disappeared with everyone in my home swearing they didn't touch them. And then when I finally found them they were in a drawer that no one uses. I don't know if any of this is retrograde related. Just mysterious.

@michelle:

While retrograde doesn't seem to directly effect me as an Aquarious, it indirectly effects me. People around me seem to be more stressed during these times. And there is often bad stuff in the news that happens during these times. So as an empath I indirectly deal with more stress energy in the air.

Hop Daddy
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11/15/18 04:39:39PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


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@cheshire-cat:

As I noted earlier, I don't think I've ever had a retrograde period effect me personally. I've checked the calendar and the bizarre happenings in my life don't line up with retrograde. But maybe you're right and it effects certain people with certain birth signs. But as a larger topic, the empath bad luck phenonmenum is something that has been posted about on this site quite often. But no one has really been able to explain it. And this is especially true when it comes to electronics not working. I can remember a morning earlier this year when my laptop was acting up with flickering screen, my phone had several screen freezes, the microwave tripped a breaker, and then a light bulb blew out when I flipped the switch on. And to cap it all off, as I pulled out of the driveway to go to work that day, I had a flat tire. I have 2-3 times a year where I have that type of black cloud day where things around me just don't work right.

I was reading a Sylvia Browne book earlier this year and she noted that a fair percentage of psychics have telekinetic skills and don't know it. But yet quite often, electronics go on the fritz around them. And she noted in her book that one of her sons has quite advance telekinetic skills. And when he was young every night when he would fall asleep all his shoes would lift up in the air and whirl around the room making a lot of noise as they would hit walls and the floor. There was something about falling into a deep sleep that would activate all of that with him. I know this sounds like sci-fi. But this has me wondering if there is a connection between telekinetics and some empaths that are causing flukey electronic things to stop working or malfunction. And if so, I wonder what causes it to happen? Does it happen when someone is frustrated, aggravated, and low vibration? And since I run into ghosts and entities quite often at my home, I have to wonder whether they play a part in electronics breaking, and lights flickering.

Hop Daddy
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11/15/18 09:13:32AM
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Seeing with closed eyes / attacks


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Thanks @tigerlily. And those are all terrific stones that you are using. And based on my experience and conversations with other empaths, black tourmaline is the best bang for your buck protection stone. The others are great as well in combination with tourmaline.

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11/14/18 09:53:27PM
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Mercury Retrograde Nov 2018


New Age

I usually do not notice any change in myself during retrogrades. But I have seen some non-empath people freak out during it and have reactions that are not normal for them.

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11/14/18 12:46:47PM
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@michelle:

Thanks for the post. Good info. there. I have found this to be very true: "I also think that if one is too interested in them that it acts as a sort of invitation."

We had a lot of neg attacks at my house earlier this year (my kids and I are empaths so we have for years attracted a lot of unwanteds). And my response was to research the topic heavily and find ways to defend and get rid of these things. But the more involved I got, the more the other side upped the invasion amd attacks in my home. So I had to back off and find balance like you said in order to make progress.

Hop Daddy
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11/14/18 09:53:20AM
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Oh, and I'm glad to hear that you use crystals. I also sleep with some of my favorites under my pillow and on my nightstand. If you are not already using them, you will want to incorporate more protection stones to your collection. These are typically darker stones like obsidian, black onyx, black tourmaline, shungite. The protection stones do a great job limiting the negative that you experience from people and really help keep your vibration up. And they also do the same with limiting spirits draining you, and even keep some things away from you. In fact, right now I'm dealing with my teenage empath son who decided on his own to stop carrying protection stones around (despite a track record of success with them). And he is having a low vibration freak out at school right now. He's going to get my speech "Don't ever leave home without your protection stones".

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11/14/18 09:41:30AM
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Seeing with closed eyes / attacks


Empath

@tigerlily:

If your battle/negative entity fights all happen while you sleep, that's a tougher one to analyze. Because sometimes dreams are just dreams where your brain is problem solving. And other times, dreams can be lessons projected to you to teach you something. And then lastly, sometimes you really do go and do battle with bad things in the astral. Below is an interesting blog post by a medium who had a very real battle/lesson while sleeping. This may be very close to what you're experiencing:

https://www.erinpavlina.com/blog/2007/02/fighting-supreme-evil/

You mentioned that you wouldn't want to go through the scary stuff that I do. And at face value, I don't blame you and used to hate my experiences. But a funny thing happened along the way. I progressed, found some tools and knowlege, and ultimately grew stronger. They don't bother me as much anymore. And I think this is a function of my focusing on keeping a high vibration combined with me being a more formidable opponent to the bad guys at this point in my life.

A couple notes to share to help you interpret what you went through:

*When your vibration lowers as an empath from stressful, difficult times in your life, it's like a dinner bell to negative entities. They will start showing up in your life in greater numbers. Conversely, when your vibration is high, you have an extra layer of protection. And the negs pretty much stay away.

*If you feel sudden cold breezes in an enclosed room that shouldn't be there, you already know what that is. I often get that plus a feeling that something is brushing up against my legs or ant like bites on my feet.

*Pay attention to any odd out of place pains that you may be getting. Like a suddently throbbing arm, or a feeling like an invisible stab, or shooting pain that goes in and out. You may also get like a hot flash where you're fine one minute, and then feel feverish the next. You'll probably also feel some unusual fatigue. These are typical examples that you are under attack. Sometimes it can be real subtle while others are more like a slap across the face. They either attack to scare you away from a room or location, or they attempt to attach and enter your aura. Many of them feed on your energy on the outer crust of your aura. But the more harmful ones will try to drill down deep in your aura to get inside your head.

*When at low vibration I also notice them sending me negative messages disguised as my inner voice to try to bring me down lower. I might all of a sudden hear "I'm a failure", or "I'm a loser and everyone just pretends to like me". These are well documented negative entity tapes that they play in your head to get you more depressed and to lower your vibration even more. Their goal is always to lower our empath vibration so that they basically disarm, manipulate, and steal energy from us.

You had mentioned that you woke up from a very active battle in your sleep all hot and sweaty and that you were paralyzed. Since these turkeys often try to attack and influence our minds in our sleep, you may have had some negative entity interference going on. And your guide was there to give you a sense of feeling protected eventhough my guess is that they wanted you to learn to fight back and fend for yourself. But like I said, it very well may have been your higher self allowing all of this as a learning experience. Especially since you felt strong and empowered when you woke up.

My final point is that I've noticed that experiences like yours only seem to happen to light warriors in training (I am also one of those). They don't happen to your average empath or psychic. It is very possible that part of your life path was meant to be a light warrior to protect humanity from the dark side.

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