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Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/18/17 09:27:07AM
471 posts

The Power of Prayer


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

I do this often where I do my empath thing without telling a person or group what I am. In your case you are taking on the mentor-friend role in her mind while you are helping calm her. if she is an unrealized empath she is full of the energy she takes in each day and doesn't know how to ground it out. You connecting with her are helping her by taking away some of her pent up energy from the world. And that's why she is calming down and following you around like a puppy. Her spirit is drawn to you because she feels so good around you. And in her daily life she probably rarely interacts with people like you. So good job helping her. In time as you become better friends you may be able to help her understand who she is and how she can ground herself and live a better life.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/18/17 09:20:16AM
471 posts

Judgmental Person?


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

This sounds like what many people go through when they meet a celebrity in person. There is so much expectational energy that you freeze and stutter. You said he appears kind so I am guessing he is not a narc. He may just have a powerful personality and presence. 

But I did want to mention that it is possible that it is the energy in the class that is contributing to how you are feeling before, during, and after class. It may be all of them reacting to the class or him. Adult students are very different compared to college age students. Many of them work, have families and all the pressures of an adult life. Most of them want to do real well in his class and hopefully graduate and obtain a better job. That will create a lot of emotional energy in there. And that can be tough on you.

In addition to the other advice you were given, I would suggest working on protecting yourself in the class. Protection stones can be really helpful. And some people are able to access white light and create a protective bubble around them. I am not very good at the later so I use protection stones like black tourmaline and black onyx to help mute how much energy I pick up in a group situation. I keep them in a pouch in my pocket and am able to function so much better in a group setting.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/18/17 09:02:51AM
471 posts

Other’s emotions presenting as physical injury?


Empath

@cat-whisperer:

I can't imagine you not picking up his emotional energy (particularly if you intentionally tried to remove it for him).  But if you are good at grounding and protecting yourself, the energy may have been more watered down (so to speak).

I am sorry to hear you had an accident. It could have been a random happening. Or it could have been due to your mind being distracted as you dealt with shedding his energy. It may have been distracting enough that you weren't 100% focused on driving? But I'm glad to hear that you are alright.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/18/17 08:56:37AM
471 posts

Please help - How to get rid of narcissist roommate


Tools for Empaths

@hana:

Congrats on the move! You will feel like your life renewed when you get out of there. And her reaction is classic. Narcs are like children throwing tantrums when they lose control over their target. Enjoy your new place and new found peace.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/13/17 11:45:06AM
471 posts

Please help - How to get rid of narcissist roommate


Tools for Empaths

The thing to remember about protection stones is that they have their limits and need to be cleaned/recharged. Some block negative energy while others absorb negative energy. To keep your stones working in top condition you will need to set them in the sun for most of the day (some people run water over them or set them in moonlight, but I find  sunlight does the trick). What I do is have enough stones to alternate with one set cleansing in the sun while I wear the other set. I like black onyx in combo with black tourmaline. But tourmaline is the better stone of the two so you may want to pick one up. I keep them in a pouch in my pocket. But some people find better luck when they touch your skin (like a bracelet).

You can try the salt pouch idea. That could work although I think the protection stones are a better option. And like I said, most importantly, you need to find a way to draw negative out of you each day through meditation, salt baths or whatever fits you. In doing so you will be much calmer and find your roommate more tolerable. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/12/17 01:02:16PM
471 posts

Astral projected? Lucid dreaming?


Dreams

@rene:

How does astral projecting and lucid dreaming differ? I thought they were similar? I may be doing one or both but am not sure.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/12/17 12:59:56PM
471 posts

Anyone else really sick with multiple sicknesses??? Unusually sick???


Empath

@4peace:

I seem to also go through cycles where I get sick every 3-4 months and can't shake a cold or respiratory flu for many weeks. I am pretty healthy overall but do have constant digestive issues and bloating. I attribute that in part to being an empath (since I know it's very common). And I think cycles of sickness is just my body's way of telling me that I need to do better grounding out the daily negative energy that I take in. And as you touched on, there is a lot of negative out there these days. In many respects, society is not in a good place right now and everyone is on edge and angry. And we empaths get to deal with that each day and it takes its toll.

@eri-ameonna, migraines and stomach issues are classic empath problems. Most of us deal with those issues so you are not alone. Proper sleep and nutrition can help. But I'm not yet ready to trade in my daily coffee. Wink

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/12/17 12:49:27PM
471 posts

The Power of Prayer


Empath

You know how they saw baby rattle snake bites cause more damage than an adult rattle snake because they are too inexperienced and release all of their venom in one bite? Being an inexperienced empath can be like that where you have all that pent up energy causing outbursts and strong mood swings. Speaking from personal experience, it can be so confusing. One minute you are about to cry from energy, and then later you might feel aggressive and want to yell at someone. If the girl in your class seems to act like an empath except that she seems a bit angry and filled with negative, it's because she isn't in control of her empath skills and the energy she encounters in life is overwhelming her. I think you nailed it that she probably doesn't understand who she is. If you choose, you can help her with it. Let us know how it works out.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/12/17 12:38:52PM
471 posts

Famous Empaths


Empath

I just saw Kimmel being referenced in an article on my Google news feed today. And ironically it covers exactly what I was saying about him:

http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2017/10/12/jimmy-kimmel-was-vulgar-comic-long-before-was-americas-conscience.html

I would agree with Curt Kobain being an empath. I also think Jim Morrison was one as well. I think quite a few musicians fit the mold of being an empath. Usually they are thoughtful and quiet and are struggling with the stress of fame.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/12/17 12:31:43PM
471 posts

Please help - How to get rid of narcissist roommate


Tools for Empaths

@hana 

Sorry to hear about your recent life challenge. If you are an empath, then it is no surprise that a narc found you and lured you in. Keeping narcs at a distance is one of the keys for any empath. They are attracted to us like moths to a flame. And they are very harmful once we let them in our lives.

My obvious answer is for you to get out immediately. But I am guessing that finances may restrict how quickly you can move away. Definitely keep your distance as much as you can. You can also neutralize her negative energy with protection stones. I personally love black onyx and black tourmaline for that.

The protection stones help but won't block all of her energy. A narc will drive you crazy and make you really stressed out. You're going to want to work on getting that negative energy out of you as a way to cope. Working out and being outside for breaks helps. Quiet meditation with breathing exercises is another great way to expel negative energy. And I personally really like taking a bath with Himalayan or rock salts. Salt neutralizes negative energy and will draw that out of you. A bath is the best way for your entire body to get exposed to the salt.

Hopefully the above helps you cope while you are planning for a new place to live. Best of luck. I hope you can move on quickly from her.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/11/17 06:11:45PM
471 posts

Famous Empaths


Empath

I actually don't think so with him. I just don't see it. I get that he has recently had some heart felt monologues. But I read that his producers realized that plays well to the audience so after his healthcare speech they have tried to get him to be anti-Trump more often. And after the Vegas tragedy, who wasn't shaken to their core and emotional? I will say that I have watched him for years and he had a pretty shady, selfish, and demeaning history with some of the things he did when he was on The Man Show. I think a lot of women would be shocked to learn of his involvement in that show. I just don't see an empath doing those things for that many years without losing their mind with guilt. But it is hard to tell with actors and TV personalities because they so often project an image on camera that is so different and fake relative to the person they are in real life. 

I will say that one person who I suspect was an empath was the late Chester Bennington of Linkin Park. I think it's pretty obvious in his song lyrics. And I think it played a role in his suicide (not being able to deal with the emotional overload of life as an empath).

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/11/17 05:53:10PM
471 posts

The Power of Prayer


Empath

Don't feel bad. I love your post. It is always interesting to hear about our various interactions with people. Often times your initial feelings on a person are the correct ones. It's just hard at times to decipher some people. In fact, sometimes picking an empath out of the crowd can be the toughest to analyze because their emotions/our emotions change like the wind. And that's because we absorb all the energy around us and can't help but become mad, sad, worried all in the span of minutes sometimes. You say her energy confuses you. I take that as meaning it changes so often that you can't narrow down what she is. Well, they don't call us empaths moody for nothing. Happy '

I could be wrong, but I think your classmate is an empath. And there are so many empaths out there who don't understand who they are and what's going on in their minds. And they tend to be really anxious & punchy, withdrawn, having a tough time fitting in with groups (due to all the combined energy). Empaths are often labelled as the weirdos in the room. My guess is she is an empath but doesn't quite have a handle on who she is and how to control her energy intake. And as a result she has a bit of a negative, hard to deal with personality. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/11/17 01:50:14PM
471 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

@loconnoro:

I find it easier to not tell people about my abilities. I think when you open up on this topic with people that some people will think you are crazy. Others will think you're a witch or have joined a cult. While others aren't comfortable with you being able to interpret their energy or read their minds. And I've had some that tried to debunk my abilities and got confrontational suggesting that I should know what they are thinking. While others got frustrated that I couldn't read their palm or tell them if they are meant to be with their boyfriend etc... Long story short, it opens up mostly negative results when you tell people who you are. The world currently does not understand us or believe that our abilities are real.

However, that said, I am still able to use my empath gifts to help people when I feel I can help even without them knowing what I am. And instead of them thinking I'm some weirdo or other label, they just think I'm a good listener and that they always feel better after discussing problems with me. And I'm okay with that.

You and I have touched on the subject of friends and relationships before. And as an empath it is always akin to walking a tight rope. I personally am very sensitive to people's negative emotions. I can be around really good people but if they are going through a bad day or tough time, that negative feeling makes me have a bad time being with them. And then my opinion of them gets clouded since my brain remembers not feeling good around them the last couple visits so I dread seeing them again. I went through a period where I had a tough time finding anyone who made me feel good to be around. I have since had to rewire how I interpret energy and even turn the volume down a bit so that I can be around most people.

My advice would be not to tell people initially who you are. Let them decide to be your friend based on their interactions with you without the added label of empath or psychic. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/11/17 01:25:08PM
471 posts

The Power of Prayer


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

Out of curiosity, what did the girl do to make you feel that she is a narcissist? Your story made her sound controlling. That is a narc trait but that also comes out in others as a stress response. If she was really that afraid it may have caused her to be out of character and forceful. Narcs are usually dominant and very outspoken personalities that go out of their way to brag about themselves. They like attracting attention to themselves and can get especially charming when trying to ensnare an empath as a friend. But they also rarely let down their guard or show weakness and overcompensate by telling everyone how especially good they are or how awesome their life is (and aren't you all jealous etc...). She doesn’t seem to fit the bill based on how narcs usually act.

I also think you did pick up a true feeling of fear from her. It almost sounds like that girl in your class may have some psychic medium abilities that she has been trying to block. And the ghost story telling made her uncomfortable and she may have let her guard down and started seeing things or maybe remembered things that she didn't like (like the cat). I know for me personally when I am emotionally weak or exhausted that ghosts come at me hard. My theory is that we must leak some energy when we are overly stressed and the ghosts are attracted to that. So in analyzing your post I almost wonder if your group stories triggered something in her that made her real uncomfortable.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
10/11/17 01:00:56PM
471 posts

Sensing Feelings/Thoughts when in the water


Empath

@eri-ameonna:

I am very drawn to water. It’s very calming and feels mystical. I did some research on this a year ago and found that with most empaths, water is the one place they can always relax and rejuvenate. This is especially the case with sea water as salt plays a special health role for empaths as well. 

It's interesting that water has the opposite effect on you and causes panic. While I could see the point of you picking up the panic from someone that drowned in a public place, that would tend to only effect you once in a while. If you think about it, most places like swimming holes, and beaches are very happy places where just about everyone is having a good time. I would think as an empath you would be touched by positive energy at places like that. But the fact that you have this happen even at swimming pools tends to lead me to believe what was suggested by @womanwhowalks. I think you may have strong negative memories about water from a past life. My wife who is not an empath and has not had any swimming trauma in her life is deathly afraid of the ocean. And we think she had a past life drowning that is causing her discomfort in this life.

I don’t know how often you need to be near water and whether this is a phobia you would like to overcome. But I would think that phobia therapy with a counselor would help. And you may even benefit from some past life regression therapy to understand where this fear stems from.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/25/17 08:59:04AM
471 posts

Alien insect creature


Psychic and Paranormal

I just remembered that @Just Stevie had seen similar things. Hopefully we can get you some first hand advice on what that was and what they do.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/18/17 08:53:06AM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

@zacharias:

I agree with you as I get an energy burst and my mind gets clear and creative after 10PM each night. But I do have a day job and kids so I have to force myself to get to sleep at a reasonable hour so that I can be in sync with the rest of the world. But if you like sticking to your own sleep pattern, I say do it. It's a little hard to go against the human circadian rhythm that is hard wired in each of us. But if it makes you happy, I say do it.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/12/17 10:49:14AM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

@gigi-miner:

Your sleep issue is very common for empaths. Medically speaking, I believe most empaths are sleep deprived and are generally tired from taking in what we do from the world. All of this wears down our adrenals and cortisol imbalance becomes more prevalent. The human body is designed to have cortisol levels peak in the morning (to get us awake and ready for the day), and then wane throughout the day to the point where low end of day cortisol levels make us tired and ready for sleep. A lot of times waking up continuously throughout the night can be traced to that pesky cortisol that is spiking during sleep time due to hormonal imbalance. The good news is that this can be improved with exercise, stress management, and by taking natural adaptogen supplements.

But as @cheshire-cat noted, some adaptogen herbs can cause problems if you have blood pressure issues so seeking help from a naturopathic doctor is advisable. For reference, here is an adaptogen product that can be purchased on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F1J8EKI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/12/17 10:32:44AM
471 posts

Odd interaction with a medium


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

That sounded like a really fun town with people like Amy Allan & John Zaffis there (or at least Amy used to be there). Not to mention the history of the town.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 09:20:43AM
471 posts

Odd interaction with a medium


Psychic and Paranormal

Always hard to tell. I notice a lot of them say its free and then pressure you for a "donation" at the end. While others do a free reading and then identify a problem that needs to be solved as the next step that also requires a fee.

It is so hard initially to tell who is legit. But I would say most legit mediums don't sit on street corners selling things. And it seems in your case if a discussion opens up with something that scares you or is designed to draw you in, that it is probably bogus. And I would say her lack of interest, and possible lack of remembering who you were at the end of the night leads me to believe she is a scammer.

But I'm glad to hear you are doing well otherwise. If you don't mind me asking, what town did you visit for this event?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:41:26AM
471 posts

Protection in known place of paranormal activity


Psychic and Paranormal

I think in a lot of these organized haunting tours that the real spirits don't want to be disturbed by an invading group. And they probably leave for a while if they are able. We've had discussions on this site before about how the latest ghost hunting trend to invade haunted places is pretty unfair to these spirits that are trapped here for various reasons. I would imagine they don't like it.

Did you take any pictures? I do hear that on some of these tours you can get some good orb pics.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:34:32AM
471 posts

Odd interaction with a medium


Psychic and Paranormal

@cat-whisperer:

I would say to forget about it for two reasons. First off, from a skeptic point of view, she may throw that line out often to scare people in to paying for a removal service. And along those lines, she was busy with other customers later so she had less interest in you. That kind of had my BS meter going off from your story. I think an honest and legit medium would perhaps invite you to a reading without an opening line to scare the crap out of you.

And secondly, how do you feel? It sounds like you feel pretty good. I have had a spirit attachment before and I can tell you that at the time I felt like crap. I had constant fatigue like something was sucking the life out of me and dealt with constant low depressed feelings. I also got sick really often during that time. If you don't feel like that, and instead feel pretty good for you, then it is unlikely that you have an attachment.

If you are really worried about this then you could find a reputable medium and ask their opinion.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/11/17 08:23:30AM
471 posts

Protection in known place of paranormal activity


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad it went well for you. Maybe its better that it was uneventful. You don't want any hitchhikers following you home.

These haunted tours always make me wonder whether the spirits are long gone or whether they hide during tours (and perhaps come out at night). I did the Queen Mary haunted tour this summer. One room gave me an anxious, chest tightening feeling. But in all other rooms that were supposedly haunted I felt nothing. I also recently did a ghost tour in Jerome, AZ where the whole town is supposed to be haunted. I mostly felt nothing.

But like you, I usually come to haunted places pretty protected and wonder if I am muting things with all my protection stones.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 04:06:53PM
471 posts

Broke and needing some energy work :( Help!!!!


Empath

@4peace:

I'm glad you are using stones because when you find the right ones for you they can really be like medicine.

I have had good luck with the use of stones to de-stress. And while Rose Quartz is a nice calming stone, I have found that when it comes to stress, it doesn't seem to work as well once you are at the point where you are overloaded and anxious. What I have found good luck with are the darker stones that deflect that daily low energy that brings you down. I found that black tourmaline and black onyx stones do a nice job of giving you a shield to keep some of that at bay. I keep these in my pockets in addition to malachite. I find that malachite actually absorbs some of that low energy and removes it from my body. And then Rose Quartz along with amethyst are two I keep under my pillow to help me sleep.

I don't know if you are using any of the stones I suggested. But the black tourmaline in particular is one that I find is used most consistently with success by other empaths.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 03:45:46PM
471 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

Great suggestion. I will look into that. So far it seems very random when seeing things switches on and off. But maybe there is a pattern.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/04/17 11:40:25AM
471 posts

Broke and needing some energy work :( Help!!!!


Empath

@4peace:

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. While reading your post I'm thinking this poor lady really needs to slow down her life and practice self-care. And then I scrolled down and saw that @zen-angel made some very good suggestions.

I would only add that what makes empaths so special, is also what also causes our downfall. And that is always wanting to care for and fix people without pacing our schedules and taking care of ourselves. As was suggested by others, slow down your life, take time for yourself to ground and do things that make you happy.

I would also add that when we empaths don't take care of ourselves and take on too much from our worlds, we start to break down physically. And a lot of that resonates as stomach issues since the solar plexus chakra is in that area and is an especially active chakra for empaths. It doesn't surprise me that you are having stomach bacteria issues as I have struggled with bouts of the same myself.

I also wanted to add that what you described as empath receptor insanity at the party, is also a side effect of your body, mind, and spirit being run down. When we are in deep need of rest and grounding, our empath skills will often heighten. And while part of that is kind of cool, you need to also realize that as it heightens you are overflowing with harmful energy and are close to a crash. And by crash I mean anxiety attack, psychotic episode, or illness. if you were a car engine your dashboard gauge would show you redlining. But all of this is preventable if you can watch the signs and know when you need to back off your schedule and take time for you to ground and clear that harmful energy out of you.

And one last note, try an experiment of not watching news or violent TV for a couple days. We empaths are really affected by the emotional things we see on the news that is often overhyped and exaggerated. Turn it off for a couple days and I believe you will notice that a good chunk of your worries will be gone.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:30:39PM
471 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

I appreciated hearing how it resonates with you. It's been a weird year for me with my empath skills as they have been going in and out. Same for when I see these dark gargoyle type figures. All I can get from it is that my empath skills are back on when I start seeing these things in the woodwork. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:08:52PM
471 posts

Spirit attachments and schizophrenia


Psychic and Paranormal

@laog:

I had some luck getting rid of a spirit attachment through a lot of daily grounding with salt water and constant use of protection stones. I think you and I may have talked on this before. Does any of that help with you?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
09/01/17 02:03:03PM
471 posts

Seeing Faces And Numbers Everywhere


Psychic and Paranormal

@femonique

Thanks for your input. When I see faces nothing happens. It doesn't symbolize or foreshadow anything for me. And it comes and goes. This week I see nothing.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/25/17 04:49:42PM
471 posts

30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

@empphire:

I'm glad you liked it. You bring up a good point. In fact while science and generally accepted medical practices don't really believe in empaths, they do have a term called highly sensitive person. And some of the traits of these HSPs sound like empaths, while others don't. The HSP definition really sounds more like an extreme introvert versus empaths who feel emotion and interpret energy. It’s the feeling energy and knowing as well as other unusual traits that really separates empaths from HSPs.

But to answer your question, I would imagine a non-empath sensitive person would probably say yes to up to half of that list of questions. Whereas I think based on the feedback I have heard, most empaths check the box on about 85% or more of that list. I scored 28 out of 30 myself.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/19/17 02:15:46PM
471 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

@cheshire-cat:

I am a crystal nut so I couldn't help but comment. I love black tourmaline. But I find rose quartz has a calming effect on me but not so much in a group setting. So I'm a little luke warm on rose quartz but that may just be me. I recently added malachite to my collection and really like it because it both protects against negative and also pulls it out of you. But because of that you have to cleanse it more often. Here's some info. on it if you are interested:

Malachite is a protection stone, absorbing negative energies and pollutants from the atmosphere and from the body. It guards against radiation of all kinds, clears electromagnetic pollution and heals earth energies.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/19/17 02:11:18PM
471 posts

Questions on being Psychic...


Psychic and Paranormal

@loconnoro:

Congrats on your skill. That sounds pretty strong in you. I do get some visions of future events and can sometimes tell when a person or animal is dealing with physical pain that they are trying to conceal (or tough out). But I don't tap into a person's story or future as you do. 

Many years ago my wife had a lady walk up and touch her pregnant stomach and tell her our baby would be a girl who loves music and dance. And we laughed it off at the time (we were non-believers back then). But the lady was right on with all details. I would say it is unnerving for most to interact with someone who can tell them their future. I think most of society is unable to handle that. And like I did, some may laugh it off thinking “that guy is a nut”.

I usually have pretty strong empath skills. And I can read people's energies pretty well. But I don't usually tell people what I know about them. I have to be picky as I think a lot of people can't handle this spiritual stuff. But I generally help those that ask and those that clearly need immediate help (someone distraught etc...). I’m sure others will differ with my view. But I would imagine with your clairvoyance you will also have to be picky with who you help unless you are 100% okay with people identifying you as a psychic. And there is good and bad to having that label in our society. But that said, definitely work your skill and see where it goes.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/14/17 01:09:31PM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Great points on being careful if you have blood pressure or other serious issues. I can say that I have taken this adaptogen supplement before. And I did not notice any side effects except that the Rhodiola seems to help me think more clearly and heightens my focus. That was noticeable. And then of course feeling tired at bedtime and sleeping better was a nice effect. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/14/17 11:01:47AM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I'm glad to hear the info. I posted was helpful.

@cheshire-cat brought up some good points about getting diagnosed with a naturopathic doctor. Of course, see a doctor if you can to get a formal diagnosis. But doctor's visits and tests can be expensive as I went through that myself. I was told to take the below adaptogenic formula as a solution for adrenal fatigue. But if money is tight and you don't want a doctor's visit expense I would suggest ordering up some of the below to help improve your well-being and sleep patterns. It takes about 2 weeks of taking it before you will notice big improvements. This is not a drug but is an herbal remedy. The herbal ingredients are all common safe herbs and this is sold by a reputable company.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F1J8EKI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/13/17 07:03:00PM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Thanks for all votes in our poll. Here’s the tally from everyone who participated:

 

Out of 16 respondents, 75% said they are night owls now. And out of 16 respondents, 88% said they sleep poorly and awaken often. I think the results, despite a fairly small sample size, show that falling asleep and staying asleep is a consistent challenge for most empaths.

 

I did some research on various empath websites to find further confirmation and explanation of this trend. And my findings reinforced the belief that sleep issues plague most empaths. I feel my findings are not necessarily earth shattering. But it does help connect the dots on this pretty common empath trait. And it also helps explain why so many empaths struggle with various health issues.

 

Here are some notes on what I found in my research:

 

The Empath-Night Owl Connection

*The theory that I found repeatedly is that empaths crave the solitude that exists late evening after the day is done and most of your family members are asleep. If you are like me, you probably have a pretty quiet home after 10PM. We all know that empaths need alone time to decompress and recharge the batteries. And empaths find that much needed quiet at late evening hours.

*There was also another theory that I found that noted that late afternoon to about 8PM is a stressful and trying time for an empath. That’s when everyone is rushing around taking kids to activities and rushing home from work. The roads and freeways are jammed up with traffic and tensions are high. It was also suggested that when people get home from work that there can often be a lot of conflict between family members (husband & wife battles, arguments between siblings and with their parents etc…). So there is a lot of intensity in the air that we all pick up even if we are not dealing with this stress directly in our own lives. I would say that I personally often feel anxiety as I drive home from work for no obvious reason. Then a couple hours later I feel really tired. And then when it gets close to 10PM all of a sudden I feel as if I just had two expresso shots and spring to life until I get tired around 1PM. This seems to closely follow the energy trends that occur in life where negative energy spikes late afternoon to early evening and then clears up when most of the world goes to sleep.

 

The Empath Poor Sleep Trends

*It’s pretty common knowledge that when someone has a lot on their mind that they are likely to toss & turn in their sleep or even have insomnia. But yet that can be a nightly occurrence for empaths. I think the explanation simply is that we take in so much during the day that our mind has a lot to untangle during sleep. Simply put, we have a lot on our minds mostly because we pick up so much from others.

*There is also a second explanation for the poor sleep that empaths get. And there is a medical reason for this that I found very interesting. We empaths deal with more stressors than a typical person on a daily basis. And that can lead to adrenal fatigue. When you have adrenal fatigue your body chemistry is all off and cortisol levels rise uncharacteristically. At first you will experience weight gain and a weakened immune system making you vulnerable to illness. And then when this continues you can get chronic inflammation, allergies, and auto immune diseases. I also wanted to point out that humans are supposed to have cortisol levels that start each day at a high level as part of the “wake up” process of the day. And then cortisol levels are supposed to drop to almost nothing by bed time (low cortisol levels help make you sleepy). The problem for empaths is that when you get adrenal fatigue, your cortisol levels don’t come down enough at night so you they are stimulating you to stay awake. And when you have a particularly stressful day or days, your high cortisol levels can wake you up in the middle of the night and leave you staring at the ceiling. And since cortisol is known as the stress hormone, it can be unpleasant to have higher levels of cortisol at any point (day or night).

*The last part that I wanted to touch on is the spiritual side of being an empath that is harder to measure. But we all have had weird dreams or visions while we sleep. And we also sometimes are visited by spirits as we sleep. This is another cause of sleep disturbance for some empaths.

 

I think the takeaway from what I researched was that we empaths are at risk of wearing ourselves out. It is both how we are wired and is also due to the fact that we take in so much each day. In the poll we had 25% of respondents vote that they had no problem falling asleep at a reasonably early evening hour. And we had 12% that said they slept well through the night. My guess is that these voters are pretty well adjusted as empaths and have done an excellent job of shielding and grounding. And I would also guess that as a result, they are probably a lot healthier than those of us empaths who live with poor sleep quality every day. I think this tells us that we can improve our sleep and health by doing a better job of grounding before bedtime. I realize that is easier said than done. But it would seem that it should at least be a goal to clear out the negative and get better sleep whenever possible.

 

The good news on adrenal fatigue is that it is very common in our society and can be medically treated. Here’s a pretty good article that I found explaining a lot of how adrenal fatigue impact us:

 

https://adrenalfatiguesolution.com/adrenal-fatigue-symptoms/

 

 

 

Hop Daddy
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08/13/17 05:10:07PM
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Lineages


Empath

@kate:

Thanks for sharing your history and questions. I am also a Christian empath. I think the way a lot of religious people interpret the bible puts them at odds with the supernatural and the abilities of psychics and empaths. But my belief is that God gave us these gifts to help humanity. They say 5% of the population has empath abilities. What is less known is how many of that 5% have awakened to their abilities and are using it. I think that number is pretty low and that awakened empaths are a fairly small club as a percentage of the population.

But I have found that most definitely spiritual gifts run in families. But there are some cases where it does not run in families and then someone has a traumatic event that switches on their empathy. So I think it is possible that all of humanity has the equipment to develop empath skills. There is a lot of talk about humans only using 10% of their brain power. And I think as we advance as a species and use more brain power that we will at some point be able to have everyone use empathic skills as well as other skills like telepathy.

But the good news is that for those of us that are empaths we arrived in this life preprogrammed for these skills. My background is that my great grandmother on my Mom's side had some very powerful skills. And then my grandmother on my Dad's side always had this magical ability to raise the vibration in the room and make everyone feel happy. But she was a devout Baptist and I think her religious beliefs probably muted her abilities. But there still seemed to be something there. And then my Mom is a minister who has admitted to me that she sees and feels otherworldly things. And then myself and my two kids are both empaths. So in my case there is a whole family tree of empath genetics being passed down throughout the generations. And if others can comment, I'm fairly confident that they have a similar family history with empathy.

You can definitely still be a Christian and an empath at the same time. I don't see a conflict there and like I said, I believe God gave us these skills for a reason. However, you probably have to keep your empathy a secret from your fellow church members as they will not understand and they may judge and label you as something hurtful.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/13/17 04:47:09PM
471 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

Yes, this can happen as a form of psychic attack. Jealousy is a very powerful negative emotion. And since we are very sensitive to energy, the intensity of jealousy can really derail us. And sometimes these psychic attacks can be orchestrated by someone who really knows how to use it and it comes across even deeper as a hex or spell. This is more rare. But even just someone who is unknowingly projecting a psychic attack, it can be dangerous. And it typically does more damage if you allow the person to remain in your life or in circle of friends.

I would cut ties with this person and cut cords with her as well. When you keep good people in your life who truly care for you and find joy in your successes, that good energy can really propel you to new heights. And the opposite is always true. 

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 02:32:41PM
471 posts

Changing dimensions


Empath

@cat-whisperer:

5D? I'd love to hear about this. We of course live in 3D. How do you get past 4D all the way to 5D? And do you meditate to see things in that realm?

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 02:26:36PM
471 posts

30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

@trevor-lewis:

When I first saw this article I was like geez, 30 traits. That seemed a bit much. But when I read it I realized that I checked the box yes on all but about two. But I did like that the article talked a bit about exhaustion and how empaths can have stomach and lower back problems due to absorbing energy through the solar plexus. This is something I don't usually see addressed in articles but yet plagues quite a few of us.

And funny thing on your last comment. I love movies (especially action movies). And I'm a bit of a news junkie. But yet the negative builds up at times where I have to avoid both. It just goes to show that while empaths can be quite similar, we can differ quite a bit as well.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/08/17 12:56:27PM
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30 Traits of an Empath


Empath

I found this pretty good summary online of empath traits that I thought many of you would enjoy reading. It ties in with many of our recent discussions about fatigue issues and health challenges that include stomach and back pain. I checked the box for the majority of traits on the list. How about you?

 

https://theknowing1.wordpress.com/2011/07/01/at-a-glance-30-traits-of-an-empath/

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/07/17 02:36:56PM
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I ran across this article & thought I'd post it here to see what others thoughts are.


Empath

I thought the article was pretty accurate. And it touches on something I have been working on lately. And that is, we have a tendency to want to help everyone to the point of exhaustion to ourselves. Taking on so much each day was really taking a toll on me. But then I read a book that suggested that empaths need to be a little more picky with who we share their gifts with. I have found that there are people who we can help and really make a difference. And then there are the serial help seekers who are stubbornly off their life path and are always bringing their problems to us when in fact they are the problem. This second type always seems to be mixed up in daily drama and is all too happy to feel better by dumping their drama pains off with us. While they are no closer to learning their life lessons and making the life changes that would make them happy and aligned with their intended life path. 

@cheshire-cat, I also am not very good at shielding. I have had luck with some level of shielding from protection stones. But for the most part when I am out in the world I am exposed to raw energy that can really take it's toll. That's why I am learning to pace myself and not be open to every person who needs me for an energy exchange.

I also agree that the title is a little oft-putting. When I hear about someone’s dark side I immediately think evil or bad side. I have yet to meet an empath with a bad side.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/07/17 02:02:40PM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

@womanwhowalks:

I have general restlessness when I sleep. I go through periods of weeks where I too wake up about every two hours during the night. It's usually a powerful dream that awakes me or the feeling that something is waking me up (whispers, energy, feeling of a presence etc...). I have had a lot of that lately.

@cheshire-cat, I was hoping to get some more takers on the poll so that I'd have some additional community feedback to back some of my research. I hope to have it all ready and posted by mid week.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/06/17 01:29:06PM
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Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

Thanks for everyone’s votes and comments. This poll is shaping up about as I expected. I wanted to add in my vote to the tally. I'm a yes to both questions myself. I am typically pretty tired when I get home from work to the point of wanting to fall asleep some days. But then similar to what @ruth-calkins noted, I get a second wind around 10PM that is like a shot of caffeine. I struggle to fall asleep before 12:30PM most nights. And staying asleep has been a real challenge the last 10 years. I toss and turn and wake up continuously at night and always have a deep thought or strange dream on my mind. It just seems like my mind is so active when I should be sleeping. I use a lot of natural sleep aids to help settle me down to fall asleep.

So far the tally is that we have 8 yes votes and 2 no votes to question#1. And then for question#2 we have 9 yes votes and 1 no vote. I'm hoping to get some more votes from the community over the next couple days to get a better sample size. And then once we have a final tally I wanted to share some things I have learned from research that explains these empath sleep patterns.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/06/17 01:11:35PM
471 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

I just watched the movie Constantine with Keanu Reaves last night. It had some pretty interesting angel & demon themes with the Rachel Weisz character having empathic abilities. One of the themes to the movie was that there are angels and demons influencing humanity's actions and decisions. And that sure seems to be the case quite a bit in real life.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/04/17 03:00:00PM
471 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I was reading some posts today and was reminded of some traits that I think are common with empaths. I think it has a lot to do with how our minds are wired. But I thought I'd test this theory with polling from the community. And I appreciate the participation from those who want to weigh in. Please answer each of the two below questions with a yes or no and any comments you'd like to add.

#1: Do you consider yourself a night owl with an internal clock that keeps you from falling asleep until late hours of the evening/early morning?

#2: Do you sleep poorly most nights with a lot of tossing & turning and waking up often?


updated by @hop-daddy: 09/28/17 10:02:49AM
Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/04/17 02:47:55PM
471 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@zacharias:

Of course you do. And truthfully, you won't be able to properly use your gifts as an empath until you can be among huge groups of people. But that will happen in good time. You have to take baby steps and first protect yourself. A couple years back I had a real rough time being around clients and people at work. So I withdrew as best as I could with a lot of telecommuting so that I could hermit a bit at home. I had no control over the strong and intense anxiety that I picked up from everyone and at that time, withdrawing from society was a necessary step while I healed and took time to figure it out. But now two years later I usually don't have problems in crowds. And if I do, I understand it more so I can keep the anxiety at a low level.

A big part of my personal healing and strengthening as an empath came from carrying protection stones with me at all times, and meditating often. When you find the right stone combo for you they will help you be stronger while protecting you at the same time. I did want to note that I don't know if smaller stones that fit in a ring are going to work. I keep stones in a light pouch in my pocket that are each about the size of a quarter.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
08/02/17 01:23:45PM
471 posts

Strange vision


Empath

@windwolf

You always have tough ones for us to help you decipher. Wink I'm not sure how to help you interpret your vision as I'm not understanding from you what you saw and how it felt to you. I will say that when I get visions that are the strongest, I do get physical side effects. However, they are normally good feeling side effects like tingling or chills or a real happy butterfly in my stomach feeling. I do sometimes get a headache after a day of taking in too much. And I do know some empaths who get migraines often. But I'm not quite sure how that relates to you. You may want to start making notes of your visions and how you feel with each one to see if you can find a pattern to help explain what is happening. After taking notes I finally figured out in the last year which of my visions are what will happen and which ones are visions of what could happen.

I would not know how to explain your co-worker getting hurt in the same area as your vision. For me, my visions have nothing to do with what room or location I am in. So I'm not sure how to explain that for you. We all work differently. But I think we humans, and particularly us empaths, need listen to our gut instincts more often. When ideas and "voice in your head" suggestions pop into our heads, I think we need to trust them. If your gut instinct is that you are being pointed toward your friend, then I would trust in that and pursue it.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/28/17 03:18:13PM
471 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@zacharias:

It sounds like the type of job that fits you best would be doing something outside an office (probably out in nature like what you had with the drill rig). And since you say you struggle with a class environment, I would imagine you would also want to avoid an inside an office job for now. 

My son is also an empath and is in high school and really struggled last year with similar focus issues to what you are noting. There is a close similarity between what many empaths go through and what ADD kids go through. Many of our brains are so busy sensing what is going on around us that we cannot focus on the task at hand in a class environment. We were able to help our son improve by having him carry protection stones with him as a way to block some of the energy that was distracting him. And we also had him take some natural focus supplements that seemed to help. He was also not getting enough sleep. And I don’t know if any of you out there have also noticed this, but some of my worst empath days are when I am sleep deprived. So forcing him to get more sleep also seemed to better help him get through the school day.

But I would say in a case when school causes sensory overload for an empath, a nice short cut fix would be to take online courses. That of course doesn't help you get past the problem of being in a group environment that will surely reoccur later in life. But at least it is an option.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/27/17 06:02:25PM
471 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

@tigerlily:

 People wanting us empaths to fix their problems is always the theme. But just remember, you help who you want to help. You should cut off others. There are a lot of people out there who are not learning their life lessons and just siphon off some of our higher vibrational energy to feel better temporarily. But the next day they go back to behaving the same and having the same problems since they are stuck and are not being accountable in their own lives. You really have to be picky with what drama you allow yourself to get pulled into. Because that does build inside you as you absorb all that and will bring you down (with bad luck to follow).

But there may be a bigger story for you here. I have found that often the bad news or frustrating times in relationships and situations (like work) can be signals to remind me that I am off-track on my life path. I try not to blame all bad days on this. But if it is a recurring situation, you should look for the signals and signs. I love the old saying there are no coincidences. I really believe that to be true. Even in bad times, you are presented with lessons. I try to pull myself back and look at my frustrating times and relationships and see it for what it is. Often I find it is time to move on or make a change. And when I listen to my gut and heart, I usually see that the sign that I was being forced to see helped motivate me to make a change for the better. I don’t know if this can be any help to you. But I think a lot of your frustration and pain are signs that it is time to make some changes to benefit yourself and get back in the groove of the right direction for your life path.

Hop Daddy
@hop-daddy
07/27/17 05:34:57PM
471 posts

Professions for Empaths


Healers

@soothsayer4:

If you are empowered and energized by other people's "stuff" then you have a really unique skill there. The rest of us just get drained when absorbing other's low energy. Has this always been this way with you or have you learned a technique to transform low energy to high energy as you absorb it?

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