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Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
10/10/16 07:25:59PM
29 posts

What kind of Empath are you?


Empath

this is what i would say happened to me, where i have undiagnosed PSTD. Where i am in survival mode the majority of my life. I know because all my life my body and mind react to stress in a Fight or Flight mode. Where i often overeact to mild stress  , anything from a minor traffic cutoff to a female smiling-flirting with me to getting in an argument and being so upset im drained of all energy. It stems from childhood-teens-young adult years of verbal abuse from parents and older brothers, threats, bullying and never having parents to teach or show me how to do things that a child should be taught as it grows up . That adds anxiety and depression early on and it just carries on thru my adult years.  And yes, the empath traits are suppressed, everything is delayed or not even there and you end up with a broken wounded soul. 

Remember this 4peace... Those children are in that beat down condition because even though they do not look like it, they are in total survival mode. You are familiar with the conditions of PTSD... All humans are born Empaths, and children in survival mode are more susceptible to brain washing...  Have you heard of General Adaptation Syndrome?

Humans are born Empaths. When young children experience an environment that causes constant changes in concentration or there is difficulty in concentrating causes Empath children under this kind of stress to have their free will suppressed, and their Empath talents suppressed. This type of environment works on the majority of the world human population...

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Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
10/10/16 07:14:06PM
29 posts

What kind of Empath are you?


Empath

Well, as far as the christian beliefs influencing me, as i mentioned i barely paid a thought or care to my catechism classes or the nuns or even while listening to a sermon in church. My parents were reaised in a very small ancient relegious town in southern Italy but they were not relegious nutjobs at home with instilling a fear of God or going to hell in me or my brothers. Of. Ourse like many italian catholics my parents had a Jesus statue in the corner and some catholic crucifixes/small photos of saints on the wall but honrstly i wasnt not as heavily influenced by my catholic background as one might think. Asa young boy i was pretty good kid , not getting into fights or attacking other kids my age or younger. And dont think its because i had great parents because i had parents that gave me food, clothing, shelter but next to nothing in terms of loving support or positivity or some kind of parent-child teaching-bonding. It is as i mentioned " i just knew" at very early age right from wrong and not to be harmful towards others.  Most i did was try out new swear words or tease ( which i learnt and heard from my older brothers who were pretty brutal with the insults and threats against me considering  a 7,9,10 year age gap) . I will add im not a total doormatt, i do get mad and tell people off and if i get physically attacked i will not just stand there and smile....i will fight back to just defend and remove myself  from the situation. 

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
10/10/16 03:16:21PM
29 posts

What kind of Empath are you?


Empath

i am human...i have both positive and negative feelings in me. ''Uncorrupted'' as in i will not do bad/evil against others , even when they do against me. Many in this world of ours experience a lot of bad things happen to them such as child abuse, sexual abuse, fraud, physical harm and so on and some of them sour because of those experiences and turn against others, repeating the cycle of harm and hate. I suppose when i use the word corrupt or uncorrupted, i am saying that i have never let my negative experiences sour myself and act out in harmful ways towards others around me. If anything, i kept the negative stuff inside me and it manifests into either depression, anxiety and end up retreating away from others, from life as i try to regroup and recharge myself. As far as teaching for peace, i usually will not vocally go around preaching/teaching for peace, but chose to not participate in destructive behaviour or be malicious towards others. 

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
10/10/16 02:59:42PM
29 posts

....on being an empath with relation to Archangel Michael (Saint Michael)


Empath

firstly, if you do not know who this saint is, here is a link:http://www.summitlighthouse.org/archangel-michael-faith/.   I believe, if you are a true empath, you have St. Michael's spirit inside of you. A burning desire to be good, to do good, to protect others, to fight for the underDog, to be bewildered and confused when people do bad things to another...because you yourself cannot do such bad things towards others...it is not your nature to do so. You are offended and repulsed by evil, by darkness, you cannot stand by idly and watch or listen as somebody   abuses another, you speak up or put yourself into the situation even tho you may be hurt badly. I grew up in a Italian catholic family but for various reasons by a young age i became greatly disenchanted by organized relegion . So even as a child going to sunday mass and attending Catechism classes to achieve my Communion, i was a  bored, inattentive , disbelieving catholic. Not disbelieving in God, but in the many stories in the Bible, the sermons the preacher preached, the rediculous amount of saints that my own mother would pray to (Italians have way too many...as im sure with greeks, portugese, mexicans, brazilians, etc)...it all just sparked something in my young 11 year old mine, a voice that cried out ''BullShit!!!''. And this relates to being an empath...that feeling of ''just knowing''...knowing that a lot of what i was hearing and being taught was most likely stories that came from Man, lies /exxagerations /half truths, distortions made up by Man to control the populace and instil  false fears, keep them inline. So anyways, being a bad catholic who half listened to his church and it's teachers, i didnt follow the bible stories, i did not know any prayers, i did not know any saints....for i was and still am Spiritual. All there is to me is the Creator, i do believe He has his angels who have great purpose and that we humans have a spirit . When our bodies perish at death here on earth, our spirits return back to the Creator/ God , we go over what we did here while alive on Earth and from there God gives us a new purpose to fullfill , which could be in heaven, earth again or other planets /universes. I will say tho , the one saint i do actually believe in is Saint Michael. When i read his story of who he is, what he stands for..i just ''knew'' . As in i know him because i am like him. His spirit is in me, the spirit of freedom from evil, the one who offers his protection and guidance, the resilient one who never gives up or gives in to any dark forces trying to overpower and over rule us. As an empath , do you also feel the calling to do good and fight for all things good and pure?   


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updated by @tonyvancity: 02/26/17 08:13:15AM
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
10/10/16 01:59:58PM
29 posts

What kind of Empath are you?


Empath

what kind am I?  hmmmmm...excuse my negative response but it is honest: I am the Honest empath, the one who looks out for others safety and well being, the one who shares, the one who does little kind things for others , the one who blurts out kind words of encouragement or a compliment just because i hope it will lift you up. But i am also the empath who gets preyed on by many, including narcistic family members, bosses, ''friends''....i am the one does good unto others but the others do not do good unto me.....i am the shunned one, the rejected one, the one who is called upon only when needed, then to be dropped and forgotten-avoided as soon as the favor(s) have been done.  I am the Uncorrupted one. 


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Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
09/24/16 10:38:29PM
29 posts

are you Alone? i mean really alone.


Empath

....i dont get it either. I dont understand why I am the first one to volunteer my time and services , to do favors, to lend a hand, to be a listener and offer good advice....and then get ditched, abandoned, forgotten..ignored. And i mean i have done a lot, some big stuff for family, friends, coworkers....stuff that made me think --''This is it, this will for sure will be remembered by them and will bring us closer together.''.....but it never works out that way. They pretend to be grateful , got what they need from me and that is it. Then it goes back to the usual, the unreturned phone calls, unreplied texts, the facebook snubbings, the body language and tone of voice that shows they dont care for me, i was just used ...a convenient helper when needed, nothing more. So lately i wised up and started doing as nikki3 above mentioned, to do less for others and spend time on myself. But there are only so many things and places to do and go by yourself where you get tired of the solo adventures , of nobody to talk to, nobody to share . And that is a very sad and tough thing to go thru Especially when you are an Empath because we feel so compelled to be of good use, to be helpful and to share and you feel so uneeded...like a baseball player so full of talent and eager to jump in the game but the coach never lets you play ball..so you just sit there on the bench and watch all the other players out there in the game, hoping one day you too can join in on the action and show them what you got. 

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
09/24/16 05:19:33PM
29 posts

are you Alone? i mean really alone.


Empath

are you always alone? i dont mean you ''feel '' alone or lonley...but you are very much all alone. With me, ive noticed it from a very very young age..my earliest memories of feeling alone was from around the age of 5. Even tho i grew up in a big north american city, in a family of both parents and 3 older brothers, of going to full public schools, etc....of always trying to fit in, to please others, to make myself available , to do and say the right things...it ended up in rejection. There are private things i could say here, but im embarrassed and ashamed. The amount of rejection i have recieved in my life would be enough to make many many throw themselves off a bridge. And it was not because i was overly sensitive or uncaring i didnt form close bonds...the opposite, it was me who was always trying , giving opportunities, doing kind things, being good to others and not wanting anything back...except friendship, or love...or just to be liked. But nobody wanted me...they all , one by one, just left me. There is nothing repulsive about me ...i am not fat or ugly (as a kid i was very cute, got some compliments as a young teen/adult), i am not tall, only 5''7 and i know its not really anything to do with height anyways....i always dress clean, i dont have body odour or anything physical to repulse. For the most part, i was a nice kid, a nice guy who had a sense of humor, who would help anybody, anytime...and not ask of anything . I was enthusiastic, i was cheerful and upbeat ...despite the negative stuff that was done and said to me from just about day one on earth. And there was a lot of negativity, a lot of decietful bad stuff said and done to me. I overlooked it, i stepped over and around it...but it just kept coming, from many angles, from many people. Most of it stopped, but it never really stops permanently, it picks up . And here i am...alone, with no one. What was the purpose of me being born if all i do is to go thru life always alone? just existing to eat, sleep , work is not life. 


updated by @tonyvancity: 02/03/17 10:28:16AM
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
09/24/16 04:48:36PM
29 posts

Have you experienced The Dark Night of the Soul


Empath

my mother? well...she is alive. Growing up i always saw her as sweet and loving....but i didnt really see what was going on. She sides with her husband and other 3 sons. She will always make up all sorts of excuses for their bad actions, always defend them when it is very obvious that they act hostile towards me . I use to (until just a few months ago..) have unconditional love for her, thinking she a Mom and that is the way it goes. But i ''caught '' her in too many excuses and i see that she too is part of the family problem . So my heart has turned to stone against her and her actions...if this sounds Cold, you have to know and experience all that i have gone thru from birth till today....and then you will understand why as both Mediums i saw earlier said to me '' You are unbreakable. Your Spirit is too strong. You cant be beaten. You have God's protection, he has a purpose for you . There are Many against you, always will be . That is your Life. ''   . I am stuck in a darkness, waiting to be released from it. So far this is not a happy life, all i seem to be doing is enduring it. 

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
09/24/16 04:14:47PM
29 posts

Have you experienced The Dark Night of the Soul


Empath

The Dark Night Of The Soul....i just now have heard of this and i googled it. This is what i feel im going thru. I should mention here that i only joined this forum about 4 months ago or so as i only recently discovered (rediscovered..) i am an Empath. Something i dont get...a question i ask myself over and over again in my mind...WHY ME?   ...i dont mean why am i an Empath...but Why are people ''unkind'' to me? From parents, brothers, cousins, friends, employers, retail clerks (the list is long ) i have been constantly ignored/put down/taken adavantage of/snubbed/dismissed...unloved...unliked...you name it. It is not paranoia, it isnt anything malicious i have said or dne in the first place to deserve it...it just is. I will tell you i saw a Medium (two different ones on different occasions) and i was extremely careful not to be fooled/conned by a fake medium so i gave no information at all about my life or why i was there to see them....but they ''saw''..they knew me, they knew my life, they knew personal details i never revealed to ANYONE ever, stuff that was impossible to know unless they were there or a video or book of my life was handed to them to research and know. The first Medium was shaking with fear of me...not ME, but what she saw surrounding me. A black Aura....but it wasnt my aura...she saw a huge negative energy constantly attacking me ....and i asked who/what this was (but as an Empath..i knew already the answer )..: ''YOUR FATHER AND 3 brothers...they are against you''. Later on, after the third visit i stopped going to her as she had told me everything about my life , from birth to the day i knocked on her door. About a year or later i saw another medium. She also was not told any info on who i was or why i came to see her..i was also testing her to see if she was a real medium...she was. She knew personal details about my life i never spoke of , she knew the mistreatment i went thru and was constantly going thru with father, brothers, ''friends'', coworkers, employers. Always the same thing ..''They are jealous of you, your spirit is too pure and they are trying to break you . They are working for the devil and their mission is to break you down, to turn away from God and join the DArk side .''.  Now i realize to anybody reading this , you may say to yourself --'''this guy is nuts/ relegious whacko/paranoid delusional...''....But im not...i was never really relegious even tho i was born into a catholic family. I only recently confirmed to myself that i believe in a creator  and that i am Spiritual, not following any man made relegions at all. I have never had schizzofrenia, or paranoia, or border line disorders..i have had mild to bad depresson and anxiety in my childhood and teens, but that was due to family upbringing and later on in teens/adult life problems with people as i mentioned earlier. I find myself extremely lonely, unwanted , low self esteem and always searchng for ways to self improve myself or to anylyze my life and ask myself ''what should i do to get people to like me or keep the ones i have ?''.   but its never any better...people float in and out of my life. Doesnt matter how much good i do for them, how many favors or acts of kindness....they All either turn on me or snub me at some point. I get used a lot for favors and dont ask for anything, just friendship or a closer bond....but they all turn on me and leave me. I am in the dark night of the soul....i think i was born into it. I need to overcome it and be reborn....cuz this life i was given just does not work for me...it is a loveless, cold life of emptiness for me. 

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
07/05/16 11:16:02PM
29 posts

how were/are you with the pets in your life?


Empath

how were/are you with the pets in your life? I have just about had a dog in my life since a baby till about last August when my wonderful dog passed away of old health issues. What i noticed is that any dog i ever had in my life really, really bonded with me. Like a child and parent bond....very very strong love. Even looking back, as a child, the dogs i had were very close, loving and good natured with me....they went nuts for me. Most likely cuz i parented them, was very patient with training and teaching them and altho i am a male, i would be like a watchful protective Mother to them. I did not see my dogs as an animal...how do i explain this?>>> i saw the dogs as a child in form of a dog(their spirit/soul...whatever you like to call it...to me, they were like a child trapped in a dog's body). A puppy to me is just a baby and anytime i saw one or owned one, i had to carry thru om my urges to pick one up and cuddle it/nuzzle it and protect .....very strong mothering instinct that i inherited thru my own mother. So strong was the bond that i somehow could read or sense what was on my pet's mind, stare at each other and read their mind, knowing what they wanted and saying it aloud to them to confirm what they want....and i would get that enthusiastic response as i could tell they were just dying to be asked (walk? hungry? park?want to jump up and sit next to me??). And when their short lives came to an end....they still visit me in my dreams. I catch myself thinking about them in some way everyday , whether a year has passed or 15 years, 40 years . I dont get too emotionally sad or upset or mourn them (i mean i do miss their affection and companionship...they really are Man's best friend) for i know in my heart that these pets were here temporary , that God had sent them to me to enjoy and i was to be their protector, their guardian, teacher ,parent and friend here on earth till time had come and God called them back. For i know we (every Man, animal, you name it..) are here in earthly form for a very brief time , our bodies expire and All our spirits return back to our Creator. So i Know that they are in the very best of hands and one day we will meet again.


updated by @tonyvancity: 01/09/17 12:55:32AM
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/29/16 10:46:33AM
29 posts

sensitivities(touch, hearing, smell, etc)


Empath

Hello!....my question to Empaths today is: are you very sensitive in specific areas? for example i have very sensitive hearing(i can hear Everything), my tastebuds and sense of smell is very strong, i am pretty sensitive to touch by others or can easily feel a tiny bug on my skin or in hair, i get highly offended by bad odours/cigg smoke/chemical smells....but love fragrances of flowers, colognes/perfumes/good home cooking/pastries. Reallllly love music (altho im just too lazy to learn, but i love all sorts of musical instruments...for now i just love music on my radio..). My last sensitivity are from my eyes: all my photos of me i am either squinting from day light or wearing sunglasses outdoors. I was born with a badly unfocused right eye and in general i am fairly sensitive to bright lights , altho i crave the Sunlight and i am always outside. I might of missed a few other senses , but that is the gist of it.


updated by @tonyvancity: 09/18/17 01:16:36PM
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/16/16 09:58:47AM
29 posts

something to Calm you ( it is very good...trust me)


Empath

Hello....i like to share with you a very nice calming soothing free website i am using now as i type this to all of you .It is soothing gentle music of nature scenes , moving waves on the beach or rain forest sounds. I have no affilation to this website nor am i profiting from them by sharing it here..it is just so good and relaxing that when you try it out you will understand why i say it is very wonderful to view and listen....so here it is >>>>https://www.calm.com/ ...i also have the free App on my iphone6 and listen to it with earbuds in my ears after a stressed out day at work , at home relaxing in the garden. The combination of the music/sounds and video is just perfect. Enjoy :)


updated by @tonyvancity: 01/21/17 05:21:09AM
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/13/16 09:07:34AM
29 posts



same situation pretty much all my life for me as well. The real dissapointment came also when i signed up for Facebook about 7-8 years ago to ''connect with family and friends!''....lol...ya right. Back then it was a fun thing to do, search for old high school friends on facebook or add some relatives/cousins, co-workers past and present. I had found a great many of them to be either flakes i didnt care to know or i was blocked/deleted at a whim for really no valid reasons, or the ones i knew who lived in my city would make up too many petty excuses over the months and years of FB text chatting why they could not meet up for a coffee or to hang out for 30 minutes. After many years of rejection from many on many different levels (and many years on my part of self doubting myself, suffering low esteem from the rejections, always searching for ways to self improve or soul searching of Why Am I Being Rejected?What Did I do Wrong?)....i just kinda give up on trying to make friends on a deep level of friendship. Mostly just superficial meetings of people, exchange of niceties....but nobody really to talk with and share caring words or deep conversations about our lives or world events...just Fluff. Some commenters on here and others in person have said to me that us Empaths vibrate at a much higher positive energy and because of that we either have people who are scared of our energy and rebuff us or hide from us. Then there are those that are like narcistic (or just selfish , abusive traits...) that are drawn to us just to get what they need from us and then drop us like a hot rock in hand. Ive found out the two groups i mentioned here are what i have mostly experienced for ''friendship'...with only a tiny tiny fraction of GOOD people who briefly would come into my life and leave . Now i hope this does not come out the wrong way to any of you, as i do not want anybody to think that i have illusions of granduer or think too highly of myself or i am tto good for others....but a reccurring thought in my head is '' If only you/they knew what good of a friend they could of had in me, if only they had given me a chance to develop a true friendship, a true bonding...that they would of had a great and loyal caring friend for Life. To you i would of given you the World if you just asked me, but you chose to shun me...and it is your great lost that i turn my back on you. MY love , my affection and caring will not be wasted on those that chose to dismiss and ignore me .''

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/11/16 08:47:30AM
29 posts

Is it ok to tell people about being an empath?


Empath

hmmmm....a few thoughts on this: I told one close friend and he was mostly neutral, not really discussing it further or agreeing/disagreeing. So with that friend i just let the topic die out and did not persue it further . Online, thru 3 different facebook friends (2 ive known since grade 4 (40 year ago) and the third person went to highschool with me but we never knew each other) went much different. The first two female friends actually responded by telling me they themselves are empaths! So we discussed thru FB chat are experiences and similarities and concluded we are indeed empaths. The third female mostly ignored my conversation about me being an empath. She never knew me at all, only that we went to the same high school and that we just recently chat thru facebook about life, but have never met in person. A little while ago she said to me ''I think i might to be an empath''.....but as i do not really know her and it has only been facebook text chatting/phone call texts (no in person interaction ) i will give it time to meet in person and i will know if for real she is or not. For the most part, my answer here would be that majority of people will think we are a flake or a bit of a weirdo/nutcase if you confide in them we are empaths....the only ones who will respond positively are those with an open mind or empaths themselves. Be braVE and speak to somebody you think you can confide in....just realize you may not get a positive response but that is OK, you will not die from it...dont make it a bigger deal then needed.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/01/16 09:47:48PM
29 posts



you are welcome , Wendy. :) ...by the way....35 is not ''old''. That is a pretty cool age to be....young middle ager. Remember, the moment you start acting like an old timer, when you start speaking like one and behaving like one...then that is what you become. Is that what you really want to be like at only age 35? I say to you...get out and Enjoy life...your life. One day , if fortunate enough, you may reach age 65...75...85...95 years old. And you will (again..if fortunate ) remember when you were only 35...with good legs, good heart, sharp mind...and you felt young and free with a strong body that could take you wherever you felt like going. Live life wendy......we only get one chance, one life...before you know it...you used up all your good years and wish you were 35 again...or 40, 45..etc. ...go talk to the elderly that you work with....really talk with them....ask them if they had one wish, what would it be? i bet they want their health and youth back, not to be trapped in an old failing body.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
06/01/16 09:33:47AM
29 posts



hmmmm...well...let me think. For me, i go to nature. I live in a city surrounded by nearby mountains, located next to the pacific ocean.But in my city ( Vancouver, Canada) we have many nice parks from the usual groomed and designed to the more natural and wild. We have many rivers in my city, public gardens, and so on. When i go to these places my mind calms down and i remember what is real, what is more important. At home i am often in the front yard where i tend after the mini trees, the flowers i planted...i spend a lot of time watering them and making sure they are in good health. My dog died last year after 15 years of life, but when he was alive we spent many hours a day and night in the yard or in the parks i mentioned earlier. The plants , the nature walks, the pet ownership all helps. It is also important to be around young children now and then to return to innocence...watch them play or how they take delight in simple pleasures and if you can, join them...play, laugh...be silly . (here is a tourism video of my city if anybody like to view and visit one day...https://youtu.be/d7oBgDFgwl4)

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/29/16 10:49:27PM
29 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

i scored 58-54......so a plus 4. (androgynous )

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/29/16 09:49:05PM
29 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

....oh i can imagine the loneliness in your family for you. I lived it myself. My situation was very unusual and it compounded the problem. But yes....3 older siblings, a father , a mother...but grew up very lonely in my own family.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/29/16 11:02:23AM
29 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

I kept thinking my father is a narcissist...but i look up the definition and it includes loving their self image so much they always looking in the mirror. Mine was not a mirror looker. He was just cruel and very selfish, no affection ( very very little to me or mom).... I realize different levels of narccissism but im not quite sure he a true narccist. Like i said...more of an A-hole/crappy father and husband/selfish and negative.
Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/29/16 09:24:27AM
29 posts

your ''Luck''...good or bad mostly?


Empath

Hello!.....so i often think of events in my life and how for me i very often seem to have ''good luck''. By that i mean i often seem to be in the right place at the right time in many circumstances, or avoid accidents where i should of been hurt very badly, friendships that dissolve for whatever reason turn out to be a blessing in disguise with the reasons being revealed in the near future (and then it all makes sense..i was being protected), or in times of need such as looking for something i need like a tool/parts, an address, if i get lost somewhere or i am low on funds..i get ''whispered''....by that i mean i hear the answer being whispered to me in my mind...guided/protected. I have been ''told'' where to look for money that others have lost or dropped in parks or items that i could use. The funny thing is...i dont start out looking for money or items, but i hear the voice (s) guiding me and urging me to look and where till i find it. For instance....one day my brother bought a home and it need a lot of renovations. The downstairs was just a 4 foot dirt floor crawlspace that i peeked in there to see what it was like. So a bit later while helping to renovate i needed plastic bags to haul away renovation garbage. I recalled there were a bunch of white plastic bags in the crawl space below the house, so i told my cousin who was also helping to follow me down below and we grab plastic bags. I entered below only first two feet and stopped in my tracks...a voice was very loud in my mind ..''STOP HERE.TURN AROUND. THERE IS MONEY BEHIND YOU IN THE BAG. STOP.LOOK.IT WILL HELP YOU.''......(keep in mind it was dark under there, i had a mini flashlite and there were maybe 20-30 white plastic bags of all shapes and sizes scattered on the dirt floor.)I went back and in the semi dark i picked up a white shopping bag ...right away the voice had told me this was the bag...i felt the weight in thete and i knew in my heart i found something good. Took it outside in the daylight and opened it....10 coin collecter books full of coins, old collecter bank notes etc. I hand it over to my brother immediately as i knew he could use the money for renovations (he of course said next to nothing...very selfish and ungrateful) and a few weeks later got the coin bag checked out at a coin collector shop....$1800. There are many other instances of me finding money with ''voices'' telling me to look and where . Once, i was urged (by inner voices) to hurry and walk to the local corner store to check my lottery ticket. It was 7am in the morning and i just woke up! the voices would not stay quiet till i finally walked over to the store..i handed over my ticket to the cashier before checking the numbers (i was confident i won money, yet i didnt really get excited about it..i just wanted the voices to calm down and give me a rest)....i won $1500. So i seen a Medium in the past about 10 times and both mediums said to me ..''You think you have good intuition and good luck! but it is not You. ...it is your spirit guides helping you and showing you. You do not desire money or ask God for material things and He is very pleased with you. He has sent upon you two spirits that are your relatives, they are the ones who tell you things, who protect you , who guide you..it is not Luck.--keep your mind pure and free of negativity and you will hear them clearly.The days when you suffer is when you have a cluttered mind and choose to ignore and not hear what your spirit guides are telling you!''.


updated by @tonyvancity: 01/17/17 10:32:12PM
Tonyvancity
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05/28/16 11:01:28PM
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empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

hello!.....so i am curious to know from other empaths here what is/was your relationship like with your parents?I tell you about mine: my mother and father are very different from each other. My father was and still is very selfish, showed next to zero affection towards myself or my mother, was very negative in terms of how he spoke to his family and basically had no interest in his wife or children other then providing the basics of food, clothing and shelter. In a nutshell, just an A-Hole. I have 3 older brothers and i noticed that the brothers took after my father's brain/mind and are very similar to him with their selfish ways. My mother is very different, and i don't just say that because she is my mother...if she was like my father, trust me, i would say she is an Ahole too....but she is sweet natured, kind, enthusiastic, very innocent like , thoughtful, caring, considerate and loving. T o be honest...i think she is an Empath. I can see that i got it from her. As a matter of fact, growing up i would often hear my aunts and cousins say to me ..''You are just like your mother!''. We have a very good loving bond and i often protect and look after as she can be very childlike for her age of 80. I had read recently most empaths are female and very likely it runs in the family with mother/daughter/sister empaths....but in my case i am a male . So my questions : do you have a mother who is empath or you suspect an empath? any siblings who are an empath? Anybody have a similar parent background with one parent being the opposite of the other and if so, how did it affect your life ?thank you in advance . :)


updated by @tonyvancity: 01/17/17 12:07:32AM
Tonyvancity
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05/26/16 02:40:48PM
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something about myself....


Empath

Hello. ....SO i realize some things about myself that make sense awakening to the fact i am Empath. --I like to fix things, to improve things, make them better.

--Sometimes if i think i can get away with it or it will please others, i will quietly fix or correct something...just because i can and that it is helping the person out.

--with small children (or young teens/young adults) or dogs i have known i like to teach.I do that because i like to help others and enjoy seeing others better themselves and not struggle.

-- I can be a bit of a safety nerd. Not anal uptight scaredy cat ''gotta do it safe or i want no part of that!!!'' attitude....i mean i like to look out for other people's safety and will forewarn or advise, or i will remind to wear safety glasses or not get to close to some obvious to me-danger. I will fix my bike up with reflectors, bike lights, wear bright clothing if biking or walking....very common sense things. Whether at a work site or family function, i am always the Watcher and take precautions to ensure everybody in my zone is safe and not doing anything stupid to hurt themselves.

-- i think outside the box. I see a problem or some obstacle and i challenge myself to fix it, to improve it..to make it better..not just for me, but for those that may come next ...so they avoid the unpleasant experience.

-- creativity. I look at something in my tool shed or in a drawer, or at my jobsite and my mind is filled with possibilities of how i can put that object to good use or combine it with other objects just gathering dust to form a tool or use it in some way .

-- Compliments....as in freely giving compliments . I do that very often , for a variety of reasns. My compliments are genuine, not phoney or false praise. I give compliments to many, from children to the elderly to pets. I do it because when i see somebody (or animal) doing something good i want them to know i am greatly pleased and that they are acknowledged. Also, i do it to ''raise them up''. But the older i get (late 40's) the more i need to pick and choose who recieves the compliments. Why? because i often will just blurt out my compliments like a child and sometimes people think i have ulterior motives (example: flirting, or sucking up for something in return or they are just insecure and not used to ANY compliments) ....but i have no other reason then to acknowledge and to lift up their spirits. That is the only reasons, nothing more.

-- Gathering things/objects/possessions /clothing and storing for a later use. Not exactly hoarding as it is not truly a selfish motive.....i do it with the intention to give it away as needed to anybody that seems worthy , give it away to charity or maybe bring it to work and give it away to

to a co-worker in need....free! I learnt to be more cautious with who i help and give things away too as some people are paranoid or think i have ulterior motives...like i may somehow trick them or con them . ~the end~


updated by @tonyvancity: 01/09/17 11:56:13AM
Tonyvancity
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05/26/16 11:26:28AM
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can you relate to this?....


Empath

i too stopped watching the news on a regular basis. Also many violent tv shows/movies...was never a big fan of horror movies. I was a big fan of The Walking Dead, but only because of the way it shows the survivors bonding together to survive, the triumph of the human spirit. Never cared for the zombie violence and i am glad they only show 30-60 seconds of that per show. I love comedies, tv documentaries , shows that teach how to cook or renovate/fix something...to learn a useful skill or shows on psychology .The way i see it...already way too much real life ugliness and tragedies in everyday life....i do not want to see it 24 hours a day on my tv.

Tonyvancity
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05/26/16 11:19:17AM
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yes, Tundra....what you said here >>>My thought too was I was not good enough, but now I think it is they who are not good enough. They are to selfish to be in a give and take relationship. I ask myself can I be alone and not lonely? I need to be good to myself, be my best friend......we end up having often low self esteem because of these toxic people in our lives who abuse our friendship, when they were never really friends to begin with. I call these people ''USers''...because really that was what they did to us, use us for our resources, for favors, for company when nobody else was available...to be dropped like a hot rock in hand when something or someone better came along.As i mentioned, it chips away at our confidence, self esteem...we question what we did wrong, how we should self improve ourselves. It saddens us and makes us build up self defense mechanisms such as walls to protect from further possible rejections. And one day you Awake . Then we realize 99.9% of the rejection/low self esteem /self doubting/over thinking was caused by just plain, nasty, selfish people.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/25/16 11:12:50PM
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When i look back over the years from early childhood to present middle aged adult, i see nothing but majority of superficial friendships. I mean, i was a likeable enough of a boy/teen/man, but friendships were very temporary and fairly shallow. Not that i did not try to be friendly enough or commit, actually the very opposite: I was more of a real friend to others then they were to me. People seem to just disappear or act cold, aloof if i tried to re-establish the connection we once had. And i will admit...it hurt me deeply. I had been the better friend, the caring friend, the reliable friend, the one who did you favors or made you smile, made you laugh, the one who was enthusiastic and upbeat. But all that was never enough, not enough for good friendships...and often, not good enough for even a lot of my relatives (cousins, brothers, father). I would say i have had a very lonely life in general.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/24/16 11:26:43PM
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can you relate to this?....


Empath

Hello again! I was over at my neighbor's house and the 4 of us were just chatting and discussing various topics. I mentioned i have this book that if anybody interested to read i could loan it out. The book is about a North Korean torture-prison camp escapee and his life before escaping. We then on to discuss the atrocities the nazis committed during WW2 , specifically to all the Jews and more. That made me recall as a young boy something that used to greatly upset me. My second eldest brother would watch late night repeats of The World at War (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_World_at_War) which was a British tv documentary series that showed old black and white footage of ww2 including the death camps , the prisoners, nazi soldiers , etc. Now i was only age 8 and not into war movies or war tv shows, but each night my 18 year old brother would tune into this documentary tv show and i would pass by the tv on my way to bed and practically freeze in my tracks as i caught a glimpse of Jewish prisoner of war corpses being bulldozed into large open pits in the earth, of nazi soldiers shooting them in the head point blank and every horror they had on film from that time. I was 8 but not a scared little boy....i was disgusted and full of rage and revenge at what i was watching. I dIdnt understand How people could do such things to each other. I wanted to Avenge ALL their deaths....i wanted to wipe germany off the map. Keep in mind i am not Jewish or lived thru any war personally..i am italian/canadian born in 1968.....far far removed from anything to do with what i was witnessing on my tv in 1976. Even now typing this out i can feel myself getting upset at what happened during ww2. I get upset and disgusted (greatly) when i read or watch the news and they show footage of syrian refugees fleeing, of north koreans suffering , of earthquake victims , when hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans....anything to do with mass atrocities and suffering, of dictators and tyrants and so on. I dont know how to explain this....my heart feels wounded, deeply saddened, deeply disgusted and offended that The World, it's people are fighting and killing each other and i cannot intervene and fix it all. Do all Empaths react like this?? Do you often watch a news cast and when you see others suffering from famine-poverty-war get so very offended and take it personally that you feel that you need to avenge or intervene on their behalf ? That as your watching the news or documentary, you can envision and feel the pain suffering, the misery , that you feel like you must apologize for not being there to save them, to help them, to protect them? For me, 40 years later and i am still that same boy who wants to save and protect the peoples of this world from themselves.


updated by @tonyvancity: 11/11/17 12:00:53AM
Tonyvancity
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05/22/16 09:42:33AM
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new member....hello.


Empath

hello and thank you......well..i just googled this >>http://www.angeltherapy.com/blog/8-traits-lightworkers.....and i can relate to the 8 traits again. I am kind of going thru an awakening of sorts, rediscovering things about myself and reflecting on my past and where i have been, what i went thru. Many things are making more sense to me...but i still need to learn more. These last traits (the others too..) especially have meaning ..

6. Want to heal your own life as a first step in healing the world.

7. Feel compelled to write, teach, or counsel about your healing experiences.

8. Feel a sense of time urgency to fulfill your mission before you know that you are here for a higher purpose or even if you are unsure what it is or how to fulfill it. -- even as a child i would have dreams of helping others. But it wasnt for recognization or to be upheld as a great person or hero....they were just dreams that i was helping others in various ways. When i was young i would watch tv/movie super heros , cartoons and would always root for the hero. As a child (and now as an adult) i always have sympathies for the underdog in life or if im watching the news and a bad crimminal person gets caught by police and sent to prison, it brings me great happiness, but i also have sadness and visualize the pain and suffering of their victims when it is described in the newspapers. >>> 4. Have had mystical experiences, such as psychic premonitions or angelic encounters. <<<<.....this too i have experienced. Something is going on in my life and i am still a student searching for answers.

Tonyvancity
@tonyvancity
05/22/16 12:15:49AM
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new member....hello.


Empath

hi....i just joined here the other day. Very interesting site. A friend of mine suggested to me that i am an Empath. I was given a link to read, 30 Traits of an Empath. I read it and i discovered i was 29 out of 30 (one said ''dislikes eating meat ''....i am an omnivore.). When i read the 30 traits web link , my heart just about felt like it was gonna explode , like i was rediscovering myself, who i really am, who i always was, but had no name for it...no idea or clue that is what i am and that there are others like me, including two of my friends from childhood. One of the traits was this one ...''1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. Its a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.''. This first trait on the list fits me perfect. I just KNOW. ....thoughts, or rather, answers, come to me. It is like....messages/warnings/answers and more are ''whispered '' into my mind. Very often they can come to me in my sleep, in my dreams...but always during the day when i am awake and going about my daily life. These thoughts/messages always protect me in some way or show me the way out of a problem, they offer me solutions, advice, they keep me away from bad people, bad situations. The only time i do screw up and get into trouble is when i have too much on my mind, full of distractions...and i either dont hear the messages or choose to ignore them. Then something happens and i'm taught the lesson thru the hard way....experiencing what i was supposed to avoid in the first place. A few years ago, when i was age 40, i got very ill ( overwhelmed by stress...anxiety set in, insomnia...and many illnesses...it did a number on me). It took a year of suffering, and a year or more to heal and recover...if not a few years...but i became strong and healthy over time. When i started to feel better....the messages came back more clearer...and for some reason, i became very interested in seeing a Medium for the first time in my life. So i ended up seeing one medium, who lived only a block from my house!She had told me many deep personal things about my life that only i knew...i gave her no clues or hints about anything ...but she knew me...a complete stranger...she was the real deal...a real medium. Later on, i was introduced to another medium by a close friend. That medium also knew every little private detail about my life, from birth to the present day i went to go see her, and again, i was careful to not tell her Anything about me, to test her to see if she was real or a faker...and she too was a real medium with a gift. She said to me that what i always thought was my good intuition was not really my intuition, but the spirit world that was in contact with me from before i was born. She told me it was two sprits, my guardian angels, who were related to my parents. They were like my dad's aunts ...im a bit hazy to details but i did ask my parents if they knew these two people by their first names (i did not tell them why i needed to know if they recognized the names)...but my parents did know the two long ago relatives on my father's side....they were unusual names, not common names. What this medium told me is this : I am well protected, that my spirit guides were sent by God to assist me, to guide me, to help me, but that I myself was born and chosen and sent here to earth for a specific reason: To help others. My medium had said to me that is my purpose in life, to help others here on earth while i live out my human existance, to please God by doing so and when i finally die i return back to heavan, as there is a special place and job for me that awaits once my earth mission is over. That is what i believe all true Empaths are here on earth for....to carry out the work that God sent us here , which is to be kind and helpful to all our fellow human beings as best as we can. Thank you...i welcome all comments and questions on what i just posted . :)
updated by @tonyvancity: 01/17/17 05:15:52AM
Tonyvancity
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05/21/16 05:55:19PM
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Wendy....wow! Your post reads as if it could of written by me...every word. It is difficult , isnt it? Feels like we live a very lonely life from day one to present, no matter how much fine tuning and self improvement we do to ourselves. Now in my late 40's, i have come to realize that i am not to blame for lack of friendships or not giving my best to bond with others...I have. Also, i was told and have discovered on my own that it is best for me to just have a small circle of close friends(3-5).... But even that circle changes frequently or disolves in time. Thing is...i like people and i do my best to be friendly and caring ....but it never seems to reAch any meaningful level of deep personal friendships.