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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:08:53AM
168 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

     Hello everyone, it's been a very long time since I've been on. I have a question in regards to receiving visions. I forgot for a very long time that I used to have visions when I was a little kid. I went into really bad depression and it messed everything up. I got to a much better place a little over a year ago and I've been working on myself ever since (it was around the time that I joined this community actually.) Anyways, I started getting into researching Intuition and then trying to work on mine, and then I started meditating and eating more natural. I've been working on understanding my body and the way it feels and constantly understanding it, and then a few days ago I had a vision-like occurrence? While it was big to me, the bigger thing was actually that it made me remember that I used to get visions often when I was a kid, and I was so in-tune with myself naturally. It was kind of a big thing for me, but I've lost it and I feel like I'm on the right track now, with self discovery, self acceptance, and self love, but also just caring about people in general. 

     The vision was about someone I'm romantically interested in, and it gave me the understanding that I need to be patient and I need to let things take their course. I've been stressing about our relationship, and it was funny how around full moons I would get in a bad place. The vision was spontaneous like all of my other visions and random insights I had as a kid, except it felt like I had altered it somehow. It was the two of us in a date-like setting, and while the "atmosphere" and the person in the setting felt right, the place didn't. I honestly think that my mind somehow altered it (is that possible?). ANYWAYS, do any of you have any books or recommendations or even stories of visions or feelings that you randomly received? I love hearing about them! Looking forward to the comments, hope you all have a great day!!


updated by @loconnoro: 09/07/17 10:34:44AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/15/16 12:38:34PM
168 posts



I can most definitely relate. I just look around and see the way everyone else lives and wants to have life, but it just doesnt work for me. I can't seem to find friends who add the depth to life that I crave and everyone just seems so superficial and in their own bodies. I'm in my head all the time, but I feel like I see the world even outside the way I'm "suppose to". I feel attached to my body but I feel like I'm more than it, but everyone else just seem so into the illusion of reality and it bothers me. Geez I'm rambling now lol but no I completely relate you're not alone. I'm right there with you. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/09/16 07:04:05AM
168 posts

Advice for possible Narcissist in my life?


Empath

I don't think he's "out" and I just want him to be friends but thank you so much for the response. He's never treated me wrong but I'm still hesitant to get close in case he will be like the other narcissists I've met. It's just a weird situation lol. Thank you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/08/16 08:07:22PM
168 posts

Advice for possible Narcissist in my life?


Empath

I don't want to gossip or anything, but there's a close friend who might be gay and I want to help him out. He hangs out with all guys and acts like a self centered narcissist around them and on Social Media, but when he talks and hangs out with me he seems different? idk it seems genuine and like there's a real connection and he isn't about himself and we have deep conversations like a real person. The only reason I'm not going to assume he's a narcissist is because there is a chance that he is actually homosexual, and that would be extremely hard on someone and force them to act a certain way or as "straight" as he can. When he talks to me it's just this free flowing conversation and he seems different. Idk I had to cut a narcissist out of my life and I feel nothing but anger towards that person, and I don't want that to happen to him, and we have grown a little distant, and I want to be friends with him because he's a genuinely good person from all of the experiences I've had with him, but I'm scared that if he is a Narcissist that I will regret that. I don't know, I've never met someone I can't read like him so this whole thing has been hard for me. Any advice? If you do think he is one, should I try to help him? I feel like I made a difference in his life with the way I treated people and Idk if that will possibly help him. 


updated by @loconnoro: 04/13/17 09:23:06AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 01:25:55PM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Heeyy you're an Intuitive Feeler too! I think all the NF's are empaths or have to potential to be Empaths lol

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 11:10:37AM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

I've noticed this... I mirror people because I like getting to the person, beyond their boarders and mirroring someone is a way to get in and change people's lives (Hopefully for the better). I hate that I mirror people so much, but I love that it helps me connect with someone and work with them better... it's just sad that most people need someone extremely similar to them to talk to....

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 05:05:10AM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

I think I agree with you that Mirroring isn't necessarily bad, It's just exhausting for me though... thank you for the uplifting message, it was really nice to read!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 07:33:55PM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Oh sorry hahaha and I'm glad you like them it takes a lot for me to share i honestly hate it but at the same time I just want to see it help people, thank you for always taking the time to read my posts too!!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 02:45:53PM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Thank you for your kind words and I guess that (having a dysfunctional family) would have that affect on people who are already sensitive to their environment... I never thought of that before thank you for your comment!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 02:40:40PM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

So when I would talk about INFJ I mean the personality type... It's kind of how INFJs brains function, they cant help but mirror what they see the other person wants... Maybe you're one too but I just wanted to share my findings that I do mirror for people more often and when I'm mirroring what they want to see I feel fake and it upsets me and it's exhausting, but I also feel people's emotions, I'm just quicker to do this thing called "INFJ Mirroring" before feeling someone's energy and emotions... Idk I just wanted to share because it hit me hard when I realized this and I want to be able to become a really good empath because I want to help people and I feel like this was a huge piece of understanding myself so I can get there...
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 11:51:48AM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Something I want to add: once you realize who you are and can tell the difference of what it feels like to mirror what someone wants to see and to feel the emotions of someone else, you'll be able to become a better empath and that's when the gift will truely be able to shine as you can help and see anyone you meet, especially because you can see what they see in you which is just another advantage to understand people.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 11:41:31AM
168 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Hey everyone I hope we all are well. This post is definitely aimed towards the fellow INFJs here but everyone is welcome to share thought or opinions too. Thanks to another user on this site I've been able to self explore after finding out I was also an INFJ, but after doing a lot o research I've realized I barely know myself because I mirror what everyone wants to see, which can definitely feel like empathy, especially because it can help people be happier.To understand the difference, people who do the INFJ Mirroring often find themselves feeling almost fraudulent or different with different people they interact with. They see the wants and needs through intuition and are able to mold themselves to help. This is different from feeling the emotions of someone else, don't let this hit you in a negative way though, as it mad me mad when I found out and realized it was actually true.Now this isn't to say that INFJs can't be Empaths as well, I know I'm also an Empath, and I'm sure people who are INFJs that have mistaken Empathy for Mirroring, but we do have every thing in place for being an Empath, it takes us understanding who we are and standing firmly in who we are to realize when we are mirroring and when we are feeling someone else's emotions.The only way I know how to describe this is I found a rare person who genuinely wanted to know me and get to know me. At the time I had no idea how to act and I had this feeling of anxiety constantly because I didn't know how to act around him, but that's because I didn't know who I was to be able to be genuine and completely myself around him. Months after not understand this experience I finally realized this, but in the times that I would be around him I would be able to feel all the emotions of him and the people around me and now I realize that there is a difference, and I have a lot of work yet to truly be able to understand when I Mirror and when I'm feeling someone's emotions. Anyways I just wanted to share this because it's made me realize that I have a lot of work to truely find myself, but I know feel like I'm headed in the right direction instead of pointlessly wandering. I hope this helped someone and please feel free to leave any comments or questions or concerns... See you guys around and I wish the best for everyone!
updated by @loconnoro: 09/02/18 10:10:18PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/29/16 06:37:02PM
168 posts



My family says I'm oversensitive and bipolar too lol xD its horrible but how can we expect them to understand when it's exhausting to go out into the world everyday and pick up everyone's emotions. At points it's legitamately like those scenes in superhero movies where you HAVE to get away from everyone because it's just too much. But yes I do definitely relate to what you're going through..

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 07:23:34PM
168 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you so much for the comment, luckily I went with my gut because I figured she would call back because it was obvious I wasn't going to let her walk on me until the other family came in so I told my manager, and I told her it won't happen again because I learned my lesson, and she agreed with me... she went to far to say "You were in the right, you were trying to be a caring human being and help someone else out and they tried to abandon their children and then turned around and used you... I'm so sorry that happened to you" -- she sees the world as a place to help other people and go beyond the rules if it's necessary... It was just a horrible moment but that you so much for the comment and I will definitely keep the rules on me from now on.. It sounds like you have a lot of experience with this lol do you have to work with the public often?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 06:27:49AM
168 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you for your comment i was scared of the same thing, I had to tell them to stop 5 times and that's part of the reason I wanted them to leave 30 minutes early because I just couldn't deal with the amount of stress TWO kids were causing me... Do things like this happen often where you get used and then you feel like completely hit by what happened... It just felt like this massive loss for me when she did that it really upset me... I don't know thank you again for the comment I'm definitly not helping people on my job like that no matter how much I want to... it just stinks that I've helped kids before and now she messed it up. Oh well :c

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 06:24:12AM
168 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you for the comment I'm definitely not bending the rules again to help people, it just stinks because at my home people I've done it and it helped the situation, but now that I see how some people will use it against me I can no longer try to help people... The whole thing just like made me lose faith in humanity is was a horrible feeling I don't understand how people can just walk on other people like that...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/26/16 07:54:55PM
168 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Hello again everyone!

I've been a lifeguard this whole summer I've had a decent experience... It's not Ideal for what I want to do as a job since I want to really feel like I'm making a difference in people's lives, but it helps for right now as I go to college.

Today was a dead day at the pool and no one was there and this family drove up and tried to drop off two kids around roughly 1:00, which isn't allowed by the pool rules but I could tell that the family was under a lot of stress and me being me I wanted to help them because I really want to help and I strive to help people in everything I do, so I let them in (They also didn't have a key-bob to get into the facility but I knew they lived in the neighborhood and they pay the HOA so I was fine with letting them in.)

I let them stay for an hour and a half (til really 2:30) because at about 3:00 school lets off and it starts to get busy and I can't watch them and it'll get to stressful to watch the whole pool and babysit them and they made a mess that I needed time to clean up so the deck was clean for the families who were going to get there soon, AND I couldn't stand the way the oldest kid (he was 18 but he acted less mature than the 13 year old and talked about women in the most disrespectful tone and way) so I very politely asked them to leave and I was extremely nice about it and they were fine about the whole thing. Another lifeguard was suppose to come in and relieve me so I could close another pool but he was an hour and 30 minutes late so I was stuck there later than I needed to be and the person who was at the other pool was suppose to be home so that alone was causing a lot of stress, but then the family came back right before another 2 families pulled up. I said

"Hey again I'm glad you guys are back, you're with an adult right?" and then the lady asked where the other lifeguard was and I told her

"he's late and I need to go to another pool so it's kind of a problem right now." Then she said

"well I'm dropping my boys back off at the pool for a while." so I told her the rules that they need an adult with them and the youngest was 13 and I told her my home pool (I was subbing at a different pool today) says you have to have an adult to have kids. Then she says

"Well he's 18, he's an adult" so I told her

"Ma'am, at my home pool, you have to be 21 years or older to have childre-"

she started getting really hostile towards me and and extremely rude and interrupted and said

"well sorry this isn't your home pool"
and I said "Well I'll be happy to ask my manager about it"
and then she said in an extremely harsh and aggressive tone (it really screwed with me honestly) "You're going to let my kids in or I will report you for letting them in without a Key-Bob" and at that point I was honestly ready to start something but I could tell that she would have taken it to the next level and started cussing at me and spitting on me and there was family with children walking in at that moment and I did not want them to have to see that so I did nothing except let the kids in... But I can't get rid of the feeling that I should've said something. I hate confronting or making a scene but I could tell that she manipulates and uses people and knowing from experience how much that can mess people up I was going to *gently* put her in her place, I don't believe in talking out of hate but I would've let her know she can't take advantage of people and treat them like a rug and walk all over them. I didn't want to even do it for me I wanted to do it for all the people I could feel like she does that too. I honestly hope to see her again because I feel like I'm one of the only ones who would let her know she's ruining people's lived by treating people the way she does without throwing more hate back at her. I don't know I talked about this with people and they don't understand why I like to help others so I was hoping to talk about it on a community where thats a common thing we are almost forced to do because of how we are... Should I go back to her if I do see her again? The feeling I got from her and the emotions were beyond unhealthy and they can only come from a hateful place. And I can tell she has plenty of issues herself.... and now I'm trying to justify her treating me like dirt lol I always do that xD... anyways please leave any stories or comments or ideas that come to mind it you read this, and thank you all so much! See you all around!


updated by @loconnoro: 09/07/18 09:53:00PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/25/16 07:29:03AM
168 posts

Your Experiences with Physical Touch


Empath

Your post was really informative thank you so much. My family is the same way about hugs, except my, as I've gotten older and I'm close to moving out since I'm at that age now, doesn't hug as often, but she does expect me to sit and talk with her about "our days" but it really turns into her venting time every time. I wouldn't mind it if she didn't force it honestly, but she likes to just vent to me for almost 20-30 minutes on a regular basis and it's extremely draining for me. But yeah I totally relate to what you're saying. I think it is important for BOTH parties to be whole-heartily into a hug, and that's the only time it feels good to me anyways... Thank you so much for the comment!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/25/16 07:23:07AM
168 posts

Your Experiences with Physical Touch


Empath

So I just googled it lol because I have no Idea, but I'm relating to a lot of it... I wanted to be a doctor for some time now to help other people, but I've realized that telling someone "you have a cold, take this" really doesn't help people the way I want to. I want to help them Live happier and enjoy life i guess, I'm not sure. I think I am that tho thank you so much for sharing it!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/24/16 06:03:50PM
168 posts

Your Experiences with Physical Touch


Empath

I completely relate with the Half Hug thing! I mean when I really want to hug someone people say that I'm an amazing hugger or that it feels good to hug me, but most people don't get that from me... I have to be honest it really made me smile to read your comment too. Thank you for your response!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/13/16 10:18:10PM
168 posts



This has happened to me so many time! Like when I was in probably elementary or early secondary school I dreamed about driving on a road in a car, and then at least 5 years later I had a massive deja vu moment. It sorta scared me but it was really cool experience though..

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/13/16 08:41:49PM
168 posts

Your Experiences with Physical Touch


Empath

Hey Everyone, it's me again. I hope we are all doing well. I wanted to ask other Empaths about their ideas or experience with Physical Touch.

I know that through my experiences I don't really like to be touched, at least not without being told or without warning. It feel weird to me but it's not like I feel them when they touch me (Like their Vibe or something). I've also noticed that I can't stand people who are even slightly narcissistic touching me, it makes me cringe. There is something so different between someone who is Narcissistic who cares about me and gives me a hug or touches me than someone who genuinely cares about me from a none-selfish place... it's almost as if the Narcisstic person needs me for themselves and that's the only reason why then care about me, it's not that they actually care about me (Hopefully I explained that well). I grew up in a family of very Narcissistic people who I didn't realize were Natcissistic until I got out of my house and met more people and got more into being an Empath, and I guess I was just always used to disliking them touching me and began hating being touched in general, but then I met other people who it's not a bad experience for them to touch me. It's so weird. I do have a question, There is someone who touches me and it feels oddly good, and I don't know why. Is this possibly because this person cares about me in a none-selfish way or something? It throws me off to how this person has a very comfortable aura... like they obviously have something off about them, like some sort of dark secret, but they are very comfortable to be around for me. Does anyone have any theories about this?

ALSO, I've heard that Empaths naturally have healing vibes, and I rarely touch people, but people really like when I do give them like a "real" hug... Should I be more open to giving people a friendly pat on the back or (Not in a creepy way or anything) in general not being as hands off as I usually am? I never realized how "normal" it is to just casually touch someone in a friendly way, and I always hated it so I never touched other people and now I realize how much it helps, especially in serious conversations or for just encouragement. What are your opinions, share any of them please! Thank you much and talk with you all later!


updated by @loconnoro: 07/20/17 11:03:46AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/13/16 08:41:46PM
168 posts

Your Experiences with Physical Touch


Empath

Hey Everyone, it's me again. I hope we are all doing well. I wanted to ask other Empaths about their ideas or experience with Physical Touch.

I know that through my experiences I don't really like to be touched, at least not without being told or without warning. It feel weird to me but it's not like I feel them when they touch me (Like their Vibe or something). I've also noticed that I can't stand people who are even slightly narcissistic touching me, it makes me cringe. There is something so different between someone who is Narcissistic who cares about me and gives me a hug or touches me than someone who genuinely cares about me from a none-selfish place... it's almost as if the Narcisstic person needs me for themselves and that's the only reason why then care about me, it's not that they actually care about me (Hopefully I explained that well). I grew up in a family of very Narcissistic people who I didn't realize were Natcissistic until I got out of my house and met more people and got more into being an Empath, and I guess I was just always used to disliking them touching me and began hating being touched in general, but then I met other people who it's not a bad experience for them to touch me. It's so weird. I do have a question, There is someone who touches me and it feels oddly good, and I don't know why. Is this possibly because this person cares about me in a none-selfish way or something? It throws me off to how this person has a very comfortable aura... like they obviously have something off about them, like some sort of dark secret, but they are very comfortable to be around for me. Does anyone have any theories about this?

ALSO, I've heard that Empaths naturally have healing vibes, and I rarely touch people, but people really like when I do give them like a "real" hug... Should I be more open to giving people a friendly pat on the back or (Not in a creepy way or anything) in general not being as hands off as I usually am? I never realized how "normal" it is to just casually touch someone in a friendly way, and I always hated it so I never touched other people and now I realize how much it helps, especially in serious conversations or for just encouragement. What are your opinions, share any of them please! Thank you much and talk with you all later!


updated by @loconnoro: 01/21/17 05:23:36AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/16 08:18:50PM
168 posts

People who you can't read


Empath

I totally get being sensitive on the issue, and thank you for the pointers! He was only angry once in the entire time I've ever known him and he would never hurt someone (He jokes about having to fight someone if they messed with him but he never has actually hurt someone). Thank you for your comment!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/16 06:54:19AM
168 posts

People who you can't read


Empath

Thank you that really seems to describe him very well, and it's nice to know that I'm actually helping him by just being there if he needs me. Thank you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/11/16 08:28:39PM
168 posts

People who you can't read


Empath

Hey everyone, it's been a while since I've gotten back on but lately but I've had something on my mind and I was hoping if I could come to more experienced Empaths or Empaths with different experiences to get an answer. (Sorry about this one, it's gonna be a little bit lengthy, but hopefully interesting! ;D)

I'm in college and I had a friend who I met my last year of High School. I never talked to the group of people that he hung out with but for some reason he and I became decent friends and he always treated me like he treated his other close friends, but I could never be myself around him for some reason. He's a great guy, but I always felt almost helpless and powerless around him, but everything seemed fine. I was never able to really read him and be able to understand how he "works" as a individual, like he would talk and act one way around his normal group of friends, but then when he and I would have a class together and talk and things he would seem slightly different... We never really had a great discussion or in any way (in my opinion) bonded, because I just couldn't be myself around him I didn't understand why, but he would act like we were great buddies (I didn't mind and I would love to actually be good friends with him, but I don't understand why he acted like we were that close when we didn't even talk much). I remember one day he was really upset about something and it was one of the strongest emotions I have gotten from another person, it was so weird. I've never ever felt someone's anger that strongly. It was honestly stronger than what I even allow for myself so I was literally cringing from sitting next to him and I got sweaty, my eyes were watering, I was literally shaking... it was a mess lol. And when he listened to music I could feel him get less angry with certain songs and more angry with others. It was a bizarre connection. While he was angry he was short with everyone else he talked to but when he talked to me he seemed really happy almost and he would lose a tremendous amount of his emotion, but it would comeback, not as strong, but it was still there. I remember I asked him what was wrong and he just told me it meant a lot that I cared but never actually told me what the matter was. Away from that experience I later heard that he would talk about how great of a person I was to his friends (very very often from what I understand), and when we graduated he cheered for me louder than literally anyone else in the gym who was cheering for me (Again, we're closer to just two friendly people than we are best friends who scream for each other walking across a stage).

Beyond personal experiences I had with him, I would sometimes check to see how he would act around other people and he would almost exclude himself. He would sit on his phone or sit away from other people in his group, and I knew he had troubles fitting in (his friends liked him, but he wasn't as close as he wanted to be to his friends). I felt horrible because I could see some of his insecurities, but I know that there's something much much bigger going on. I'm upset because it's been on my mind A LOT lately for a reason that I don't know and now that I have a better handle on being an Empath I could definitely really get to know him and be better friends with him and help him with whatever is going on.

It's just weird to me the connection that I had to him and his emotions, yet I couldn't read him or understand him for anything, and that's something I can do with almost anyone else. I need advice on how I should go about talking to him. It seems dangerous to me to be involved with someone you connect to that well... I'm definitely not experienced enough to know what I'm doing. Any Advice/ Stories, or just share anything that comes to mind when you read this post please!

As always, Thank you!


updated by @loconnoro: 01/14/17 01:42:37AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/13/16 07:36:43PM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

I'm the same way about being touched except by people I'm close to. I'm not even close with my family, I guess it's because I've seen how they really are and know it's not in my best interests to talk to them. The only people I don't mind touching me are the people that I like being around and have a good feeling and people that I see myself opening up to and talking with. I have to spend a lot of alone time too, but unfortunately most of the people in my life don't understand that because I'm usually extremely happy and outgoing and sociable when I'm near people... But if I don't get alone time I go crazy and become beyond antisocial haha

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/12/16 08:57:42PM
168 posts

The people that heals with hugs


Empath

I love this personally and I know what you're talking about. My great grandmother gave these amazing hugs and had this amazing vibe and I miss it so much.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/03/16 07:41:06PM
168 posts



Yes, I am like this with my family. They are very negative and never allow me to be alone or have any sort of alone time when I'm around them for extended periods of time and I feel drained and exhausted constantly around them.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/26/16 08:20:32PM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

I try to stay positive most of the time too, even when I'm in a less than friendly mood people find me enjoyable to be around because I tend to be a lot more sarcastic and funny lol.It's the same for me as well! My family doesn't treat me at all like other people do and often times do their best to tell me and make me feel like I'm a horrible person, I'm so sad it's the same for you because I know, too, how hard it can be first hand :( . What I usually do is limit how often I'm around my family because they treat me horribly and after a while they started asking questions why I avoided them more and would stay in my room more often and I let the know the way they treated me made me start avoiding them. It caused major depression and self hate problems and I didn't get over it until my senior year of high School because I made new friends and talked to people and by the end of the year many people were telling me how much they would miss me and it was a real moral booster. I hope things get better for you! best of luck!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/26/16 08:13:19PM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

I feel like I attract people who are suffering or feel less about themselves and I'm very concerned about that for some of the people I become friends with because I'll want to be closer to them because I can tell something is wrong, as in i get this really uneasy and almost helpless feeling every time I'm around them, but then they stop talking to me which is extremely unsettling haha. And I TOTALLY do the same thing, i hate the feeling of how awkward and almost self hate someone gets when they offend me lol.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/26/16 08:01:37AM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

This happens to me too, and I can definitely relate with the childhood part too. I think a lot of us here have that in common in one way or another and all to different extremes. It's so annoying that people feel like they have to act different;y around me, I can tell when they're not being their true selves and that's all that I want from people is for them to be who they are and not worry what I or others think. Thank you so much for the reply!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/25/16 06:09:32PM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

the same thing happens and happened with my mother. To this day I'm the first person she comes to for all of her problems and I don't understand why most of the time.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/25/16 05:36:24PM
168 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

Hello everyone I hope you all are well. I've found recently that people seem to look to me and talk to me easier in situations where we are just meeting, or if someone is a little uncomfortable because there is no one in a room they know to talk to, they'll talk to me. Is this common for other Empaths as well? I've also been called things like "too nice". People always treat me well too and tend to feel horrible if they find out they offended me... I guess what I'm trying to ask is if this is a common response to people who are Empaths... Any and all feedback is appreciated and if you're treated or responded to differently please share haha. Thanks and God Bless!


updated by @loconnoro: 09/07/18 12:01:41PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/25/16 01:05:48PM
168 posts



Hello! In my life I have talked with friends who don't have these abilities (Which is a some points a mistake because this friend just doesn't understand and realizes its real but doesn't understand that I can't read her mind or anything like that). She says she doesn't get any sort of feeling from people when she's around them at all. She will get uncomfortable around people she doesn't like, but it's because of her feelings towards that person. I hope this helped.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/17/16 09:03:36AM
168 posts



I agree too, he is looking at Empathy through a very fixed and pessimistic angle and it kind of makes me cringe lol. I think that Empathy is what makes the world better, he's looking at it from the big corporation and Government side of things, but where it matters most is on the personal side of things. Empathy is what helps feed the homeless. Empathy is what helps people care about others and treat others with the respect they deserve as another human. Emapthy is what makes some people care about Global Warming and destruction of environments on earth. Empathy is what makes the world a better and less hostile place and we need more of it. I feel like he really didn't have an understanding of what he was saying and personally I think he thinks his education makes his opinion more valuable and more worth while to listen to which, again, really upsets me.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/16/16 08:06:30PM
168 posts

Types of people


Empath

I just call them "normal", I've never talked about "them" like this before so this seems foriegn to me lol, but I would just call them "Normal" since they do make up the majority of people...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/16/16 08:02:28PM
168 posts

Types of people


Empath

I like this but for some reason I started reading it in a Morgan Freeman Voice lol. But yeah I totally get what you're saying and I love it!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/11/16 12:17:11PM
168 posts

Help on how we react to Crushing on people


Empath

Okay I emailed Dahabomabou@hotmail.com... I don't email total strangers so I'm a little out of my element here so you might have to bare with me if I seem awkward haha

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/10/16 06:16:31PM
168 posts

Help on how we react to Crushing on people


Empath

Well I've been around them on a bad day and that vibe seemed stronger and I was able to help this person, but now it's just gone, completely... and it's really complimented, people would get hurt if we were to date or anything, that's why I haven't made a move...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/10/16 04:40:34PM
168 posts

Help on how we react to Crushing on people


Empath

Hello, I don't know if this is even a thing for most Empaths, but I heavily rely on how a person feels to form any sort of judgment or to decide how close I want to be to them. I've never dated someone because I have to feel something from them and this year I found someone who just feels "different" and really really REALLY good to be around, I love this person's energy so much and I felt like this person had feelings for me too, but I was never sure. Yesterday this persons "vibe" towards me completely changed (even though they act exactly the same towards me) and I lost any possible feeling of them liking me, even though I subtly gave this person clues that I liked them in that way, but they only would have caught on if I they liked me back... and now that I feel like I've lost this person who I've never had any sort of feeling like this before with, I'm really upset. I can't get rid of this constant feeling of anxiety and I'm feeling more than my own emotions at this point a lot more easily, and I'm really picking up on other people's negative feelings more, even though I'm not becoming negative. The only way I know how to describe it is like we somehow linked and now that link is gone and I have these loose threads catching literally everyone else. I guess I learned how to deal with being an empath while still kinda locked up or something because I'm feeling everyone else more now and at this point it's causing issues because I can't calm myself and my mind down enough to meditate or try to relax and release at all. I don't know what to do... any hints/pointers/suggestions?? I'm open to just about anything right now...


updated by @loconnoro: 07/25/18 03:45:19PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/10/16 03:30:16PM
168 posts



Yes, it's not necessarily that they can sense it, it's that you are too easy for them to talk too so they hold back. Which is a good thing, some people, though, do sense that you see right through them and that is intimidating. I experience this often as well, but I definitely consider it a good thing, even though I love people, most warm up to me after a while.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/16 11:03:45AM
168 posts

Is it possible for us to feel our own energy?


Empath

Hello, I'm still a "new" Empath, but I've been finding that I think that I can feel my own energy. I've always struggled with depression and feeling no self worth or anything, and I would always be able to feel other people, but recently I've found that I can feel something when I meditate or have quiet time and focus on having compassionate and loving thought and it feels extremely healing and really really nice. I've noticed that since I've been doing this I've been happier than every before and I feel like I'm nicer to people and I actually have a sense of self worth. It's extremely weird for me to think that I'm feeling myself, but I know that it feels like someone else's "vibe" or "energy" except i usually feel it around me and when I focus on it, it makes my sides tingle and feels like I'm pulling it in. I don't understand what it is but I can usually tell other people vibes because I'll get it from their direction on the portion of my body closest to them. What I feel is already surrounding me... I don't know, I just wanted to ask a other people if they experience this or even can relate or try it... I personally love it and I hope other people feel it if it is me lol.


updated by @loconnoro: 09/05/18 09:56:49PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/16 10:49:53AM
168 posts

How do other people's emotions effect you?


Empath

good grief it didn't send it all I'm sorry about that... I meant to say "I'm glad to hear that you like this post, i just noticed that people never explain how they feel about things on videos and websites, like the sensation they get..."

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/16 09:02:56AM
168 posts

Discerning a bad feeling please help...


Empath

Thank you for your comment! I'm still not happy that they want me to have surgery tho lol xD but hey it could definitely be worse xD

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/16 08:58:41AM
168 posts

Discerning a bad feeling please help...


Empath

Thank you so much, it's like I took your advice somehow before you gave it lol. My home isn't a good place for me to be around because my family is extremely negative (I'm in college trying to make a life of myself lol and I'm staying at home and going to school and working). I love my family but it's getting to be too much now. I guess it's time to move in with a friend into an apartment lol thank you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/16 07:35:13PM
168 posts

How do other people's emotions effect you?


Empath

Do we feel each other more? It would probably make sense since we are so open and in a way in other people's auroras all the time (we can't help it lol sorry world). That would be interesting to know because there are some people who I feel much more strongly than others... I think I'm going to ask those people now, I mean the worst thing they can say is "nope I don't feel other people" and I probably wont have to go as far as to tell them I'm an Empath unless they say yes lol. Thank you for your comment! I'm happy to hear you comment to begin with, but it made me think about somethings I've never thought about before and I really appreciate that!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/16 03:44:56PM
168 posts

Discerning a bad feeling please help...


Empath

So today I was around the normal people I'm always around and didn't really do anything out of the ordinary, but I do know that a lot of them are energy vampires... but today I was abnormally EXHAUSTED and I couldn't figure out why, and then I came home and got really bad news from a doctor about a mole that I had removed, (they told me to consider cancer treatment options). I'm fine and there shouldn't be anything to worry about so don't stress or anything, I know this a super caring environment, but is it possible that I was feeling so exhausted because I was about to recieve bad news? I'm just not used to being this tired, even when I was in bed for a week with strep throat and the flu at the same time. The only other time I was this tired was when I was going through severe depression, and I am well over that, in fact I've never been happier in my life to be honest... It was just odd for me...


updated by @loconnoro: 09/12/17 07:58:48AM
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