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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:20:10PM
151 posts

Diving into the empathlife again...


Empath

I did a horrible job of recommending you make time to decompress and relax lol. So glad you're back and it sounds like you are doing well, blessing to you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:18:26PM
151 posts

Diving into the empathlife again...


Empath

I relate to this, except I didn't take a break from feeling, I just got away. I went to the beach while almost no one was there and I feel so much more grounded and more of an individual. Getting away from people, Social Media, and even my family helped me to get closer with myself without the constant mirroring and energy-absorbing that I do. I felt more connected with the earth overall too, it was nice and I've decided to spend more time in nature more often. I just need to find a nearby garden or forest now haha.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 03:10:49PM
151 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

Right now I'm still trying to understand why. I just start thinking of people when they need me, as the case for you, but I don't understand why I start smelling them. I'll be honest, I think it has something to do with how close they are or how close they get to me relationship wise

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 01:14:17PM
151 posts

Accepting someone


Empath

This almost sounds like a narcissistic relationship... I wouldn't know unless I saw it but if she's bringing up problems about trust, she's obviously projecting the worst side of herself on someone else. I know how hard this is going to be before I even recommend it so I understand if you don't like what I'm going to say, but I believe she was put in your life for a reason. It sounds like she's broken and confused with her life, and as hard as it will be, I suggest allowing her to get close to you. Keep your guard up, and keep the focus on her, not you (tell her small details but don't get too personal if you can help it). Focus on her and try to set aside your feelings for her. Just let her talk to you about her life and things and see what she really needs. Everyone acts the way they do because of their past, most people don't know how to let go and live openly without restraints from guilt or things they haven't moved past. Just slowly get closer, you'll find her motive, but don't do the easy things and use it against her, help her out and be someone she can talk to. You have an amazing chance to do some good for someone, here.

Now on the other hand, if it gets worse, don't be toxic towards her and always be kind, but definitely keep a barrier up. Don't "avoid" her, but when she talks and you feel like she's lying, ask about it. Let her know you see right through it. But don't pry around if you choose this route. You'll end up hurting someone else and that is always the wrong thing to do, no matter who you're working against. Stay true and stay positive, and if she chooses to stay on a darker path of selfishness and lying, then eventually she will feel unsafe there.  But for the record I think this is a chance for you to help someone else and really build yourself in the process. 

Anyway you choose best of luck and blessings to you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 12:58:21PM
151 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

@cat-whisperer I've noticed that as well with nationalities... they don't all smell the same but there's something similar to different kinds of nationalities, I've always thought that but I was scared some people would take that the wrong way lol. This is really weird, but Ive noticed that I can smell someones body odor and for some reason I'll know something is wrong or if they're eating too much of something that could cause issues, things like that... It's weird... But I really want science to look more into this!

@hop-daddy I've  never had a ghost encounter before, the closest things that I've had was going into somewhere, and feel if it was a negative area with negative people, for example if a family fights a lot it feels like it stains a room almost, and it gets worse that that usually, or if it is a really positive and peaceful place. Usually the most peaceful places for me are outdoors in the woods, or somewhere religious or very spiritual. I don't know thought, a lot of churches feel bad to me to be honest. It's individuals homes of deeply religious people, whatever they practice, or just very happy individuals. But still not even ghostly but it seems related... sorta...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/08/17 04:03:49PM
151 posts

I messed everything up


Empath

Best of luck!!!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/07/17 07:14:50PM
151 posts

I messed everything up


Empath

I don't know what to say except I am so sorry that you're going through that right now... The unfulfilling marriage to this whole incident with this guy... The only thing that I would highly recommend keeping some sort of journal for only your eyes and your eyes only. I keep one and that's where my rants go, and any massive thoughts that take over my mind or grab my attention. I've had a much more positive outlook and its helped me tremendously to write this all down every day. My entries are usually 1-2 pages, but, if you do decide to do this, just write until you feel better. I have found myself actually looking forward to going home and writing in this, and I find I comfort myself, and find the advice I need to hear while I'm writing. It's just a thought, but it has helped me LOADS. Best of wishes for you though! I hope it all gets better somehow! We are here for you anytime.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 03:47:15PM
151 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

Ahhh, that would make sense. All people's "smells" stand out to me, but I certain ones REALLY stand out to me, and those are what I was wondering was some sort of attraction, I should have explained that better... But I think you're right, it has to do with some sort of Intuitive insight like getting visions and things...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 02:08:47PM
151 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

I can tell when someone's ill usually extremely easily, but I don't pick up on other people's problems very well or quickly, but I do after a conversation with the person. The smell this is just so weird to me, I honestly think part of it has to do with some sort of attraction too when it's that intense, but idk it's very odd to me xD I'm reading up on Human Scent and Human VNO glands... it's very interesting... And since Empahts tend to be more in touch with their bodies, or can pick up on what their body tells them easier, it would make sense if this were to happen... Idk, it's so weird to me. But i definitely like the idea that it might be someone is thinking of me xD. @lucky-seven

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 01:37:13PM
151 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

So this is going to be really odd and weird, and I'm still struggling to put this into words to explain this, but does anyone else experience the smell of someone else, even after they're gone or away from you (Anywhere from 10 minutes to Hours afterwards)? It always happens to me with someone with heavy/strong/intense energy. I'll smell them, we don't touch or anything, we just stand close to each other, but then I'll smell them for hours on myself afterwards. It's only happened to a few people, and it's usually has to do with how strong their vibe is, but it is so odd... It happens to me with most people, but it's only been so strong I notice it to the point I'm confused now twice. Any ideas on what this is? Its not usually bad body odor, and it's not whatever cologne or perfume they're wearing (Both times they would wear stuff), it is their body odor that I would be smelling afterward... Any ideas?

I also randomly smell people they're not around and I don't understand it at all... I've never texted the people to see if it's some sort of premonition, I mean imagine texting someone out of the blue, them wondering why, and you respond "I just randomly started smelling you" lol.... 


updated by @loconnoro: 09/23/17 02:41:12AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/17 03:44:30PM
151 posts

To be or not to be....an Empath


Empath

Well you are sensitive, but it is most definitely not a bad thing. You take in so much more than other people usually do and it can easily overwhelm you since you are an Empath. Most people know what it's like to get a bad feeling about someone, and usually its their body responding subconsciously to that persons energy so they only know how they feel, even with that close encounter to another persons energy. HSP (Highly Sensitive People) go past how they feel and actually recognize energy and auras consciously.. But Empaths go a step further and feel the emotions and the things going on that effect and make a persons energy the way it is. It can be extremely overwhelming, but nonetheless a gift I've learned to love.

Anyways I'm happy for you! and I'm glad you posted something! Best of luck for you and those you love... And I would also Highly recommend looking into MBTI if you're into self development and things like that. you can check that out, for starters, by taking the quiz at 16personalities.com

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/17 12:34:44PM
151 posts

To be or not to be....an Empath


Empath

That is so interesting. i think I'm going to look it up online and take it, I love all of these tests. Anyways, you look like an Empath to me, usually Empaths notice other people and pay attention to them so much because they can't help it, it's a pretty major sign. Really, the biggest thing for me is, when you go into public, does the environment seem a little overwhelming? (For example a Mall or something). Another thing is Premonitions and things, that gut feeling to reach out to someone or really when your intuition speaks to you (whatever form that will be). I've learned that really focusing on this gift has helped me the most. I try to fully experience my senses and then I really pay attention to the feeling of other people. I hope this helped at least a little bit. But thank you for sharing!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 07:31:09PM
151 posts

Karma and Spreading Emotions/ Effecting your Energy


Empath

So this is just kind of a post to make you think about Karma and how the emotion and the energy you put out comes back to you... I just kinda want to start a deep-thinking discussion (I have this with friends but it never goes as far lol)

     I think "Karma" works in multiple different ways. One of the most obvious and easy to understand being through basic human interaction where if you compliment someone or make them happy, you're happy while doing it and it spreads to them, which in turn they hold on to that happiness and then spread it to someone else, and then when you give someone else positivity like that they will want to start giving positivity back to you... on the flip side with anger and hate, if you yell or let out your anger on someone, sometimes you feel better, but that person takes on anger and they spread it, and they will stay angry with you and eventually it comes back to you.

     I do think there are other forms, like how a guilty conscience can make you act a certain way that will come back to bite you (I'm still thinking on it, specifically on scenarios). But then there's definitely a bigger picture kind of way that eventually putting out bad energy (whether its through what you say, what you think, and your intentions) will affect your personal overall energy/vibe and will offset people to not interact with you and your overall interactions with other people will be negative.  I know this isn't quite some people's way to pass time, but I love thinking really deep on things, and my mother told me "As you get older and wiser you'll realize there is no such thing as Karma" and It just got me thinking on ways to prove Karma works... (Funny how that came from a superficial and almost narcissistic person...) I would love to hear thoughts on this! Like if you agree, dont agree, why, or even if you think of different ways karma works... 


updated by @loconnoro: 09/07/17 11:58:47AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 05:06:02PM
151 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

I am definitely going to look into that thank you very much @hop-daddy

@jonig

I have had this discussion with some people when I was first discovering I was an empath a year ago, and about half the people I would talk to about it didn't even feel vibes... I know for me, feeling someone enter a room and feeling their presence is extremely important and I never realized I literally depend on it in social interactions... I get horrible anxiety when I lose it. That's really interesting tho! I noticed the more I talk with people and find people who at least understand and have experienced vibes, they feel a little different and I believe I am slowly finding the difference... I just know how closed off I feel when I don't feel other people and other things, like a room or especially nature... And I've been noticing that people who don't feel other people also don't go that deep in conversations, it's extremely hard to converse with them because it's just so much small talk... You should totally start a conversation or Discussion on feeling other people and open this up to a bunch of people, it's an extremely interesting thing to think on and process.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 11:05:23AM
151 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@cat-whisperer Thank you for the suggestions! and same here, I don't like how most doctors nowadays take a "prescribe medicine now and figure out the cause if they come back later" approach. It's funny because right now I'm on my way to become a nurse though lol..

@jonig  I'm the same way, I don't take any medicine because it gives me awful anxiety, it leaves me stuck in my head, or sometimes it makes me feel like I've lost all connection with the outerworld. I can't feel vibes and things when I take certain medicines... it's odd...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/02/17 05:35:19PM
151 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

Hello everyone, I hope you're all doing well. I have a question for any and all who read this, all opinions are welcome to respond; What are your opinions on Medication (anything from ADHD/ADD medicine to Antibiotics) and what are your opinions on Herbal remedies (teas, things like that)...

I know that personally, I prefer to use Herbal Remedies unless I need medicine (if something stays longer than a few days or if I know something needs medical attention like deep cuts or something obvious). Personally I have always had bad reactions to most medicine, or it just makes me feel wrong. I love modern medicine, I just hate how much we depend on it, or are expected to depend on it... I was wondering if any other Empaths have had similar responses?

Like I said, I'm not against medicine, I just feel like all the chemicals are horrible for  our bodies so I avoid them whenever possible, and I've had less doctor visits since I've gotten into herbal remedies and treating things naturally... And if you are into Herbal remedies and know any good books or resources I would love if you shared! Thank you and looking forward to comments!


updated by @loconnoro: 10/01/17 06:29:00AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/30/17 03:31:38PM
151 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

@empphire

You might be INFJ. I had the same issue, INFJs are one of the hardest types to type, and they're also the rarest type on the MBTI list. Theyre so hard because they usually feel like multiple different types fit them... I would recommend at least looking into it...

But if you do, don't get sucked into a label like a bunch of other people do. it is only a label, one that is meant to help you understand yourself better. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/29/17 06:07:23PM
151 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@angel

I really like your perception and I love where you talked about the "Soul Ages", I never considered that aspect. I have similar views but I never connected the two and how they balance each other the way you did. Wonderful comment 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/29/17 02:09:20PM
151 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

@empphire I would highly recommend continuing to look into empaths for a while and then look into MBTI. It's helped me a ton to know my Personality type (you can look it up at 16personalities.com) and then just read about people who are similar. Best of luck!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 07:18:51PM
151 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

I didn't mean to say visitors if I did. I would definitely recommend you post this in maybe dreams area. That sounds extremely interesting though, are they like Ghosts or Spirits? @just-stevie

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 03:08:37PM
151 posts

emotionless empath


Empath

I definitely relate to this. Have you experienced depression due to your past? I noticed that I, myself, tend to be more of a calm person. It's not that I don't have emotions, I just keep a level head more often than others. You might also be over-stimulated or on an extensive burnout. I feel so dull horrible when I get burnout... I don't think this this is relevant for this discussion but I feel like it's relevant to you so I'll explain the Burnout. I know that I experience it most when I go into crowded environments or places that are overstimulating for me. Usually, I'll come back exhausted and emotionally drained, to the point I don't have the capacity to operate. I usually just sleep it off and then the next day take it easy. It's feels exactly the same to the days after I have a migraine, I'm not actually sick, but I'm so drained it feels like it. 

Anyways, you might just be a very calm person naturally, but when you're around others and you're "surfing their energy" as I call it, you totally different. Another thing you might do is mirror people, I do it often. It's when you "mirror" what others want to see. You feel like a different person with everyone you're around. I would definitely recommend spending time focusing on yourself and your needs, and make sure you get enough time to yourself. Pursue what you're interested in and make sure you enjoy it. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 02:50:10PM
151 posts

What color are your eyes?


Empath

My eyes are grey, but they change between between grey, blue, and green, depending on what I'm wearing, light they're exposed to, etc....

I don't think that there's a correlation between Empaths an eye color, but I do think that eyes, for whatever reason, seem to stand out on Empaths... I guess we use them intensely? I've noticed most Empaths get compliments on eyes or contagious smiles. I've met people with brown eyes that were just as interesting, if not more, than people with blue, amber, green, and grey eyes.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 02:23:05PM
151 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

Yes I definitely agree. I actually deleted all Social Media directly linked to me where I showed myself often... But I do think there are different levels and categories.

@deborah-craig I am sure that what he did was very wrong, that's horrible. Just because someone may be hurting in some way doesn't make it right to hurt others. I was just trying to say they're usually blinded to the destruction they cause by their own problems and self interests. Sorry If I explained that wrong, I understand first hand how hard it is to forgive someone who treats you horribly. Best of wishes.

@hop-daddy  I think that some narcissists are narcissists their whole lives, but I've found a lot of them simply never learned empathy or understand why it's important to care for others.  My mother doesn't believe in Karma, and I find that what you put out (whether its positive or negative) will be returned.

I know I learned Empathy through self suffering... but at the same time I don't think people are born like us to begin with... I think Empaths process things deeper than most people overall. I distinctly remember a time in my life where I feel like I "woke up" almost... I don't really know how to describe it except I was more connected to things and I felt completely different. I just started processing things on an entirely different level... it was a noticeable difference for me.... I honestly believe some people never "wake up" and just go through life going through the motions... It's dull and colorless in a way... It's my opinion through my experiences that most narcissists are mostly these "asleep" people, if you will, who are blinded in self interests, and never come to an understanding that we do that everything is connected and related.. that's all I'm trying to say with it... But some Narcissists seem so past the edge that there is no return, I most definitely agree with that. Gosh they leave such an imprint on our life that we talk about them online as well... I try my best to forgive (not forget, but forgive) not for the sake of them, but for myself. As William Shakespeare says, "Love me or Hate me, both are in my favor... If you love me, I'll always be in your heart... If you hate me, I'll always be in your mind."   Narcs and Empaths balance each other and I think it's important to realize that. There are less Empaths because choosing forgiveness is harder than holding grudges not trying to help people and the world... sorry this is so preachy, I just realized how much power the wrongs people, especially narcissists did held over my personal growth and happiness, and I decided to give it up and it's helped me wonders. We're healers by nature and I think we're suppose to promote positivity. I don't mean to sound like I agree with or like I'm trying to take a Narcissists side. I just hate seeing others consumed by their deeds the same way I have been before.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:45:56PM
151 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

Hop Daddy:

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It almost sounds like many of us don't have clinical ADD/ADHD, but exhibit similar traits due to our minds doing so many things due to our empathy.

I used to have exceptional concentration skills. But as my empathy has grown in recent years I seem to lose my mind at times. And what I mean by that is my mind will unexpectedly get pulled in different directions with many unrelated thoughts to the point where I lose control and ignore the task that I should be doing. Or I just get a lot of noise in my mind where my head just feels heavy and I start feeling anxious and my chest gets tight. This happens most often when I am in crowds. But oddly, I get the ADD distractions at my relatively quiet workplace. But I guess I could be picking up on others in the office complex.

I just posted some questions on narcissists. And as that topic relates to this one, when I run into one I can feel their energy trying to tap into my mind to figure me out (or steal my energy). I also get this with emotional troubled or needy people who can equally be energy vampires. In all these cases I get weakened and foggy-brained while communicating with them. And it takes quite a while to recover. I find myself drinking a lot of coffee throughout the day trying to shake my mind daze and to get my own energy and focus back. Has anyone had any success with herbal supplements that help sharpen focus?

What you said about Narcissist I relate to completely. Even when they show you love, it doesn't feel right, its still feels like a pull or something being taken. Especially when they touch you. When someone loves you, it feels safe, warm, comfortable. It's a balance.. When a narcissist who has decided they love you touches you, it's this pull ... you can literally feel the one-sided-ness from the "Love" they offer...

I would highly recommend calming herbal teas, it takes a while to get off of coffee, but between that and finding time to just sit and work on relaxing and feeling out my body, I have become much more relaxed, and even confident in myself. I just found that coffee would give me anxiety when I was trying to be calm (Maybe you relate in your office setting?) Best of luck either way!

@hop-daddy


updated by @loconnoro: 04/28/17 01:46:49PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:37:38PM
151 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

I personally believe that many Empaths are diagnosed with ADHD. When I go into crowded, public places and I'm not with a more extroverted person who thrives and is comfortable there, I get overstimulated by everything going on. A lot of times I end up finding whoever is feeling the strongest emotion in the room and only then I stop looking around constantly. I look like a nervous wreck, and it's awful because I feel the people I'm with staring at me in confusion, and then looking at others. I get screwed up lol xD. I also get distracted in papers and things. To me, everything is connected and related in some way, and some of my papers drift off of the topic. To more "structure" minded people this makes no sense, but others who are very abstract like me, it can turn into an amazing conversation. All of my English teachers either loved me or hated me lol xD. I also have a very broad spectrum of interests. I love Science and especially Anatomy, but I also love Philosophy, and I also love art and music. My Reading and music lists are from just about every genre. I definitely seem like i have ADHD and ADD, and even though it's exhausting, I never want to get rid of it with medicine ... (Medicine and chemicals and how they affect our bodies and inhibit us is a topic of a different discussion lol xD)

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:21:15PM
151 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

To clarify, I think that Narcissist can read the same signs as Empaths, but something processes them much differently. Empaths honestly forced to care because we connect, almost unwillingly, and we feel a connection to everything. Narcissist are focused on their life, but are still sensitive to other people's energies, body language, etc.. but they only work, ultimately, in self interest. I don't even think it's a direct attempt to be manipulative or to hurt others, they are just so focused on themselves (and usually their own problems) that they lose sight of everything else and their problems create more problems. Many Narcissist I deal with often complain and focus on the bad and how everything that happens to them seems to be bad, and are often under the impression that they're the only ones struggling through life. Everyone struggles, to each their own, they just become so self-absorbed, not even intentionally i believe, that they reek havoc on those around them.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:12:56PM
151 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

This has always interested me. I have a narcissistic friend who liked and pursued me romantically, but I didn't like her. When she would touch me it felt horrible, i hated it. My mother is a narcissist, but she seemed to have developed that way, not be born that way. Her parents took care of her, and she goes to them for any advice. She is unhappy with her marriage, and she is unhappy with herself. She'll use words she doesn't understand in an effort to seem smarter, and she puts on this happy outer-appearance to everyone she meets in social situations. She is rarely happy at home, and she even in those moments she tries to take control and it just ruins them. She doesn't respect boundaries, especially of me, and she constantly (every day) will complain to me. I personally believe that Narcissists are just hurting people, but the thing is, it's extremely hard to confront someone that unhappy with themselves. I've learned that people get overly defensive when they feel exposed when you see through them. It's impossible to address things when they wont even address the issues themselves. My mother is extremely manipulative and does know how to read people like a book. I'll be honest I cannot stand her most days, but I live with her and I can't move out because I'm in college and broke. 

My brothers are becoming narcissistic, and my twin just joined the marines, and I am scared that it did nothing but feed his ego... I find ego to be one of the biggest factors in Narcissism. My little brother hasn't developed enough yet, he's in middle school currently. I usually attract people who are at a vital point in their life where they may be becoming narcissists, and I've managed to somehow help 3 that I know of... It's exhausting, and I do think some people will just become narcissists, and after they become one it seems hard to turn them back. They are most definitely exhausting, and once they find someone, like an empath, who likes to give out compliments and help people, they hold on and will cage you up if they get close. It's just this constant game of mind chess and I hate it. It is so hard to find positive people, or even alone time when a narcissist gets close and locks on to you.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:46:42PM
151 posts

A Strong "Feeling" Of Knowing That's Usually Correct?


Psychic and Paranormal

@hop-daddy

Yeah, in my experience, Premonitions for me are just this overwhelming feeling that is usually very clear, but I don't understand how it was triggered. My visions are usually triggered tho, like when I was younger I was playing with legos and then all of the sudden i got this short vision of me looking at something I built, my dad stepping on it, and this intense feeling of fear. It happened a year later, my dad had a ton going on, and then he was mad my room was a mess and then he was yelling at my brother and me, he accidentally stepped on what I had built (exactly like I remembered in the vision) and then it was the first time I remember him actually being abusive... kind of a sad thing but still it was the first meaningful vision I had... Other than that I get Deja Vu often as well... I haven't put the pieces together but I had like 3 in 3 days and they were the days (last week) when a massive asteroid and a comet were closely passing by earth... It was odd...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:38:06PM
151 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath

@hop-daddy

My immediate family is very accepting of my being an Empath because of how often I've done things (as a kid) and they just understood. My Granny (My mother's Grandmother) was a something like an extremely powerful Empath... I don't know if that's a thing, but she was extremely loving and caring and she was extremely in touch with her intuition. You would walk around her and it just radiated, it was this intense but extremely warm and comfortable feeling. So to say the least, my mother grew up with someone who "just knew things" but she knew she could trust her. My mother will also randomly get Vibes and has conversations with me about premonitions (She called it "God tugging on your heart".. The night my Granny was put in the hospital before passing I got this unshakable feeling to go see her or call her, and I told my mother, and on the way home from her funeral we just had a conversation about it. I was 8 I think)

My father just doesn't really care at all. He looks at me weird when I say something feels off but he just accepts it. But i should add that I've never used the term "empath" except around a family friend who I know is one, but never at home. I'm also into medicine and things and my family has always learned to trust my intuition on whats going on as well. To be honest, they probably just haven't looked into Empaths enough to understand or have an opinion on it, they just know family members and friends who are different in a very good way. I know my family won't accept homosexuality because of how often they speak out about it and my cousin came out and their reaction was extremely harsh. They poorly about him all the time. I still have massive amounts of anxiety saying I'm gay even on here, so it was actually a relief to read your response.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:23:16PM
151 posts

A Strong "Feeling" Of Knowing That's Usually Correct?


Psychic and Paranormal

I get premonitions very often, but visions I don't get very often, and there's a noticeable difference between a premonition or vision or just my overactive imagination. When I was younger, I got visions often, a few a year, and premonitions smaller ones almost everyday, but major ones around once every few months. Most of the time they didn't make much sense. But I lost the visions altogether around 10 or 12 and they're just now returning after a year of self development and lots of work. I'm finding that meditation and trying to stay calm is helping with my intuition overall. You just have to learn that you're not in control of anything except your actions and what you do. The universe, God, whatever you believe in. You will be fine, just stay positive and trust your intuition.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 11:49:48AM
151 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you so much for the comment, I will definitely look into the link as well! @hop-daddy

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:52:47AM
151 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

I think most people are sensitive to people's energy, but they don't feel it, the feel their emotions in response to it. I've only recently found this. Empaths I do think are very rare, but it is also common for people to call themselves Empaths who don't fully understand it (not saying you aren't, I'm aiming this towards some profile's I've seen on Social Media lol). You might want to look into MBTI, take a test on 16personalities.com and that might help you out too. Some Empaths fit in very well, but it sounds like you're more introverted, so MBTI might help you out more. But in my experience Empaths are truly uncommon, and in the "real world" of jobs and school, people find some of our abilities extremely odd. When I share things through my Intuition, people don't understand it, even friends, and then you're looked at weird when you're right. But don't look at it through ego, it's extremely easy to do so. We are here to help others as well as ourselves. Don't fall into people-pleasing, but don't become selfish with your gift. You have an opportunity to do some good, and you learn stuff in the world of people who aren't empaths everyday. Never turn down a chance to listen. I hope this helped, but yes, in my experience, we are extremely rare. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:31:02AM
151 posts

Parents/Upbringing?


Empath

Hello, I think this is a great and very interesting topic. I grew up in a Christian Conservative household, my parent's are both possibly narcissistic. I also grew up gay... which I don't really talk about much but it had a lot to do with my self development because I went into severe depression from feeling hated, on top of my parents would have fits of rage and sometimes my brothers and especially me would come out the victims of verbal and even physical abuse. They have gotten much better since then, but as a kid I was very intuitive and Empathic, and my family looked at it as a gift. I remember telling my parents about this odd and extremely urgent need to call my Granny the Friday night she was sent to a Hospital before later passing away. My family was very supportive of that, on top of I was always exceptionally amazing at reading people. My twin brother wouldn't speak growing up so I would always speak for him. My little brother spoke horrible English until he was around 6, and I was the "translator" because I just understood what he wanted. I got along with pets that usually didn't get along with most people. To say the least, I was a weird kid and my family just kinda accepted that part of me. What they didn't accept was homosexuality and they still don't, and while I still hide it from my family, one day I will have to tell them. I don't sleep around because I am the type to wait for the right person, but my parent's see all people in a group they don't agree with the same. But I'm grateful for my experiences because it showed me that people we often see as narcissists are often just mislead and hurting people. We often, as empaths, don't agree with narcissist for obvious reasons, and sometimes I see people looking down on them. I was once included in that, but now I realize they're just hurting souls who we can help, and growing up in the family I did, I feel better equipped to help people. I rarely meet people who actually seem to be bad people, most are just mislead. 

But yeah I grew up in a family that didn't embrace, but also didn't disrespect anything that was "empathic". They just don't understand when I say "I have a feeling that something is off", they've learned that usually if I speak up about it, something is off. They don't, however, respect my efforts to start growing more herbs and going more natural lol. I want us to be on a healthier diet, and I, myself, am trying to be Vegetarian. They make that extremely difficult lol. I hope this helped!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:08:53AM
151 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

     Hello everyone, it's been a very long time since I've been on. I have a question in regards to receiving visions. I forgot for a very long time that I used to have visions when I was a little kid. I went into really bad depression and it messed everything up. I got to a much better place a little over a year ago and I've been working on myself ever since (it was around the time that I joined this community actually.) Anyways, I started getting into researching Intuition and then trying to work on mine, and then I started meditating and eating more natural. I've been working on understanding my body and the way it feels and constantly understanding it, and then a few days ago I had a vision-like occurrence? While it was big to me, the bigger thing was actually that it made me remember that I used to get visions often when I was a kid, and I was so in-tune with myself naturally. It was kind of a big thing for me, but I've lost it and I feel like I'm on the right track now, with self discovery, self acceptance, and self love, but also just caring about people in general. 

     The vision was about someone I'm romantically interested in, and it gave me the understanding that I need to be patient and I need to let things take their course. I've been stressing about our relationship, and it was funny how around full moons I would get in a bad place. The vision was spontaneous like all of my other visions and random insights I had as a kid, except it felt like I had altered it somehow. It was the two of us in a date-like setting, and while the "atmosphere" and the person in the setting felt right, the place didn't. I honestly think that my mind somehow altered it (is that possible?). ANYWAYS, do any of you have any books or recommendations or even stories of visions or feelings that you randomly received? I love hearing about them! Looking forward to the comments, hope you all have a great day!!


updated by @loconnoro: 09/07/17 10:34:44AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/15/16 12:38:34PM
151 posts

feel like I am not human


Empath

I can most definitely relate. I just look around and see the way everyone else lives and wants to have life, but it just doesnt work for me. I can't seem to find friends who add the depth to life that I crave and everyone just seems so superficial and in their own bodies. I'm in my head all the time, but I feel like I see the world even outside the way I'm "suppose to". I feel attached to my body but I feel like I'm more than it, but everyone else just seem so into the illusion of reality and it bothers me. Geez I'm rambling now lol but no I completely relate you're not alone. I'm right there with you. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/09/16 07:04:05AM
151 posts

Advice for possible Narcissist in my life?


Empath

I don't think he's "out" and I just want him to be friends but thank you so much for the response. He's never treated me wrong but I'm still hesitant to get close in case he will be like the other narcissists I've met. It's just a weird situation lol. Thank you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
12/08/16 08:07:22PM
151 posts

Advice for possible Narcissist in my life?


Empath

I don't want to gossip or anything, but there's a close friend who might be gay and I want to help him out. He hangs out with all guys and acts like a self centered narcissist around them and on Social Media, but when he talks and hangs out with me he seems different? idk it seems genuine and like there's a real connection and he isn't about himself and we have deep conversations like a real person. The only reason I'm not going to assume he's a narcissist is because there is a chance that he is actually homosexual, and that would be extremely hard on someone and force them to act a certain way or as "straight" as he can. When he talks to me it's just this free flowing conversation and he seems different. Idk I had to cut a narcissist out of my life and I feel nothing but anger towards that person, and I don't want that to happen to him, and we have grown a little distant, and I want to be friends with him because he's a genuinely good person from all of the experiences I've had with him, but I'm scared that if he is a Narcissist that I will regret that. I don't know, I've never met someone I can't read like him so this whole thing has been hard for me. Any advice? If you do think he is one, should I try to help him? I feel like I made a difference in his life with the way I treated people and Idk if that will possibly help him. 


updated by @loconnoro: 04/13/17 09:23:06AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 01:25:55PM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Heeyy you're an Intuitive Feeler too! I think all the NF's are empaths or have to potential to be Empaths lol

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 11:10:37AM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

I've noticed this... I mirror people because I like getting to the person, beyond their boarders and mirroring someone is a way to get in and change people's lives (Hopefully for the better). I hate that I mirror people so much, but I love that it helps me connect with someone and work with them better... it's just sad that most people need someone extremely similar to them to talk to....

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/02/16 05:05:10AM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

I think I agree with you that Mirroring isn't necessarily bad, It's just exhausting for me though... thank you for the uplifting message, it was really nice to read!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 07:33:55PM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Oh sorry hahaha and I'm glad you like them it takes a lot for me to share i honestly hate it but at the same time I just want to see it help people, thank you for always taking the time to read my posts too!!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 02:45:53PM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Thank you for your kind words and I guess that (having a dysfunctional family) would have that affect on people who are already sensitive to their environment... I never thought of that before thank you for your comment!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 02:40:40PM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

So when I would talk about INFJ I mean the personality type... It's kind of how INFJs brains function, they cant help but mirror what they see the other person wants... Maybe you're one too but I just wanted to share my findings that I do mirror for people more often and when I'm mirroring what they want to see I feel fake and it upsets me and it's exhausting, but I also feel people's emotions, I'm just quicker to do this thing called "INFJ Mirroring" before feeling someone's energy and emotions... Idk I just wanted to share because it hit me hard when I realized this and I want to be able to become a really good empath because I want to help people and I feel like this was a huge piece of understanding myself so I can get there...
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 11:51:48AM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Something I want to add: once you realize who you are and can tell the difference of what it feels like to mirror what someone wants to see and to feel the emotions of someone else, you'll be able to become a better empath and that's when the gift will truely be able to shine as you can help and see anyone you meet, especially because you can see what they see in you which is just another advantage to understand people.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/30/16 11:41:31AM
151 posts

Mirroring Vs. Empath


Empath

Hey everyone I hope we all are well. This post is definitely aimed towards the fellow INFJs here but everyone is welcome to share thought or opinions too. Thanks to another user on this site I've been able to self explore after finding out I was also an INFJ, but after doing a lot o research I've realized I barely know myself because I mirror what everyone wants to see, which can definitely feel like empathy, especially because it can help people be happier.To understand the difference, people who do the INFJ Mirroring often find themselves feeling almost fraudulent or different with different people they interact with. They see the wants and needs through intuition and are able to mold themselves to help. This is different from feeling the emotions of someone else, don't let this hit you in a negative way though, as it mad me mad when I found out and realized it was actually true.Now this isn't to say that INFJs can't be Empaths as well, I know I'm also an Empath, and I'm sure people who are INFJs that have mistaken Empathy for Mirroring, but we do have every thing in place for being an Empath, it takes us understanding who we are and standing firmly in who we are to realize when we are mirroring and when we are feeling someone else's emotions.The only way I know how to describe this is I found a rare person who genuinely wanted to know me and get to know me. At the time I had no idea how to act and I had this feeling of anxiety constantly because I didn't know how to act around him, but that's because I didn't know who I was to be able to be genuine and completely myself around him. Months after not understand this experience I finally realized this, but in the times that I would be around him I would be able to feel all the emotions of him and the people around me and now I realize that there is a difference, and I have a lot of work yet to truly be able to understand when I Mirror and when I'm feeling someone's emotions. Anyways I just wanted to share this because it's made me realize that I have a lot of work to truely find myself, but I know feel like I'm headed in the right direction instead of pointlessly wandering. I hope this helped someone and please feel free to leave any comments or questions or concerns... See you guys around and I wish the best for everyone!
updated by @loconnoro: 03/11/17 07:30:28AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/29/16 06:37:02PM
151 posts

Does anyone else get treated the same?


Empath

My family says I'm oversensitive and bipolar too lol xD its horrible but how can we expect them to understand when it's exhausting to go out into the world everyday and pick up everyone's emotions. At points it's legitamately like those scenes in superhero movies where you HAVE to get away from everyone because it's just too much. But yes I do definitely relate to what you're going through..

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 07:23:34PM
151 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you so much for the comment, luckily I went with my gut because I figured she would call back because it was obvious I wasn't going to let her walk on me until the other family came in so I told my manager, and I told her it won't happen again because I learned my lesson, and she agreed with me... she went to far to say "You were in the right, you were trying to be a caring human being and help someone else out and they tried to abandon their children and then turned around and used you... I'm so sorry that happened to you" -- she sees the world as a place to help other people and go beyond the rules if it's necessary... It was just a horrible moment but that you so much for the comment and I will definitely keep the rules on me from now on.. It sounds like you have a lot of experience with this lol do you have to work with the public often?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 06:27:49AM
151 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you for your comment i was scared of the same thing, I had to tell them to stop 5 times and that's part of the reason I wanted them to leave 30 minutes early because I just couldn't deal with the amount of stress TWO kids were causing me... Do things like this happen often where you get used and then you feel like completely hit by what happened... It just felt like this massive loss for me when she did that it really upset me... I don't know thank you again for the comment I'm definitly not helping people on my job like that no matter how much I want to... it just stinks that I've helped kids before and now she messed it up. Oh well :c

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/27/16 06:24:12AM
151 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Thank you for the comment I'm definitely not bending the rules again to help people, it just stinks because at my home people I've done it and it helped the situation, but now that I see how some people will use it against me I can no longer try to help people... The whole thing just like made me lose faith in humanity is was a horrible feeling I don't understand how people can just walk on other people like that...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/26/16 07:54:55PM
151 posts

I need help dealing with an Experience


Empath

Hello again everyone!

I've been a lifeguard this whole summer I've had a decent experience... It's not Ideal for what I want to do as a job since I want to really feel like I'm making a difference in people's lives, but it helps for right now as I go to college.

Today was a dead day at the pool and no one was there and this family drove up and tried to drop off two kids around roughly 1:00, which isn't allowed by the pool rules but I could tell that the family was under a lot of stress and me being me I wanted to help them because I really want to help and I strive to help people in everything I do, so I let them in (They also didn't have a key-bob to get into the facility but I knew they lived in the neighborhood and they pay the HOA so I was fine with letting them in.)

I let them stay for an hour and a half (til really 2:30) because at about 3:00 school lets off and it starts to get busy and I can't watch them and it'll get to stressful to watch the whole pool and babysit them and they made a mess that I needed time to clean up so the deck was clean for the families who were going to get there soon, AND I couldn't stand the way the oldest kid (he was 18 but he acted less mature than the 13 year old and talked about women in the most disrespectful tone and way) so I very politely asked them to leave and I was extremely nice about it and they were fine about the whole thing. Another lifeguard was suppose to come in and relieve me so I could close another pool but he was an hour and 30 minutes late so I was stuck there later than I needed to be and the person who was at the other pool was suppose to be home so that alone was causing a lot of stress, but then the family came back right before another 2 families pulled up. I said

"Hey again I'm glad you guys are back, you're with an adult right?" and then the lady asked where the other lifeguard was and I told her

"he's late and I need to go to another pool so it's kind of a problem right now." Then she said

"well I'm dropping my boys back off at the pool for a while." so I told her the rules that they need an adult with them and the youngest was 13 and I told her my home pool (I was subbing at a different pool today) says you have to have an adult to have kids. Then she says

"Well he's 18, he's an adult" so I told her

"Ma'am, at my home pool, you have to be 21 years or older to have childre-"

she started getting really hostile towards me and and extremely rude and interrupted and said

"well sorry this isn't your home pool"
and I said "Well I'll be happy to ask my manager about it"
and then she said in an extremely harsh and aggressive tone (it really screwed with me honestly) "You're going to let my kids in or I will report you for letting them in without a Key-Bob" and at that point I was honestly ready to start something but I could tell that she would have taken it to the next level and started cussing at me and spitting on me and there was family with children walking in at that moment and I did not want them to have to see that so I did nothing except let the kids in... But I can't get rid of the feeling that I should've said something. I hate confronting or making a scene but I could tell that she manipulates and uses people and knowing from experience how much that can mess people up I was going to *gently* put her in her place, I don't believe in talking out of hate but I would've let her know she can't take advantage of people and treat them like a rug and walk all over them. I didn't want to even do it for me I wanted to do it for all the people I could feel like she does that too. I honestly hope to see her again because I feel like I'm one of the only ones who would let her know she's ruining people's lived by treating people the way she does without throwing more hate back at her. I don't know I talked about this with people and they don't understand why I like to help others so I was hoping to talk about it on a community where thats a common thing we are almost forced to do because of how we are... Should I go back to her if I do see her again? The feeling I got from her and the emotions were beyond unhealthy and they can only come from a hateful place. And I can tell she has plenty of issues herself.... and now I'm trying to justify her treating me like dirt lol I always do that xD... anyways please leave any stories or comments or ideas that come to mind it you read this, and thank you all so much! See you all around!


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