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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/16/17 09:26:23PM
168 posts

Questions on being Psychic...


Psychic and Paranormal

I know, in my experience, that I'm not a psychic. I've come off as psychic to people before, but I don't identify with being a psychic at all. For me, I read people incredibly easily, I feel their energy, and I pay attention to what I mirror when I'm around them, and then I can put together things. It's scared multiple people in my life when I come out with an oddly specific question to their situation, and they have no idea how I got the information, but it's just obvious for me. 

Now on the other hand, I've started developing a really weird thing where when someone walks in with something going on, for example lung cancer, without knowing what is wrong, I will feel a pressure in my chest, or I pick up headaches from other people. It's very odd, and can be incredibly draining. Another thing that scared me originally was I feel pregnancies, the baby and the mother. I remember the first time I noticed it was when a teacher I knew suddenly "felt" different, her vibe was just different, and then I was asking myself "why" and all the sudden I got the urge to ask her if she was pregnant. Of course I didn't do it at the time, I thought I was going crazy and it can be really offensive to ask a woman if she's pregnant (especially if she's not)... but 3 weeks later she made an announcement that she was (and she hadn't been showing all that time). 

Does anyone else experience things like that? I still don't feel like I'm "psychic" but when I watch other people who identify as a psychic, it confuses me because I've picked up on some crazy things...


updated by @loconnoro: 09/05/18 12:06:24PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/16/17 09:16:30PM
168 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

So I'll start off my saying I've been really trying to understand this entire "Empath Experience", if you will. My mind has a ridiculously rigid and scientific side that has to understand everything inside and out, and it can't have any loose ends when it comes to learning things. Recently, as I've been trying to understand my abilities, I've also been trying to increase my intuition and really get in touch with it, and I realized it goes hand-in-hand with my knowledge. It's like the bigger the library I provide it, more it speaks to me. With all this being said I feel like my abilities have grown some, and in some ways I've been able to get a little bit more of a handle on the experience overall... I still struggle immensely with picking up people's emotions, and bad energy seems to affect me more now as well. 

But on from that overview of what I've been focusing on in regards to being an empath, I've been making a few new "true" friends, friends that I have a really deep and meaningful relationship. I have two people that come to mind when I think about this, but both didn't know how to process my being an Empath. They both recognized weird things like how strong my senses are or how I do weird things like know when they're approaching me, or I've even come off as psychic at times (I'm just really good at reading into people, and then sometimes I've been surprised myself at some information I've gotten), but then when I decided to tell them that I was this thing called an Empath, one just kinda brushed it off (like an eye roll) and then pulled away (This person I'm not concerned about keeping in my life, they didn't stress me out at all). But the other friend (very smart, but very science based and modern world brained) just seems confused. The second friend, I'm concerned about because he and I had a really relationship with great conversations about things, which I never find. We kind of bonded over science and nerdy things like that, and other deep conversations just about anything, and he always seemed amazed by how much "stuff" I know. I am gifted in most sciences, especially biology and anything related to the human body, and he would say I should meet his other friend that is apparently a genius or something. But Last Sunday I talked to him about being an Empath, and specifically "Clairsentient", and I'm not sure how he took it. He seemed very open minded while we talked about it, but he's also seemed a little more distant. I couldn't be completely honest about the extent of what it means for me to be an Empath, but I did talk about "feeling" people. I'm concerned because we were headed to be good friends and I'm scared I chased away a guy who thought a well of me, but now he might literally think I'm crazy. I'm just glad I never let him know how well I read people. He and his girlfriend took some space and it upset him, and I knew about it 4 days before he actually brought it up because when we spoke I noticed something was off and figured it out. It's even harder because I literally feel the distance between us now and this happens with anyone I'm around or talk to about these things. You can feel when people look at you differently or think of you in a different way than before. It really stinks. I'm so glad I didn't talk about being able to feel the energy of trees in the same way I feel it for people. Sorry this was a rant, but I'm just really struggling to find genuine friends and lately it's honestly been getting to me...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/17 07:21:04PM
168 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I'm looking through all the responses and I HIGHLY recommend people looking into the signs of being a medium, and I don't mean this in a way meaning you should let other entities inhabit your body or actively talk with the dead, no. I just mean this as in you're extremely sensitive to energies, from seem and the unseen, so it makes sense that you are more sensitive to spirits and entities as well.

But yeah I love night time, it's where I'm alone, all the people are asleep (usually) and I'm the most awake and most myself. It's a beautiful time for me, although it takes a toll on my day life.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/17 07:14:34PM
168 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

1. Yes, my internal clock is incredibly weird, I usually wake with the sun (6-7am) but I'll fall asleep anywhere from 11-3 in the morning. All though some random nights, usually very rare for me, I'll fall asleep at around 7 or sometime extremely early.
2. Yes

This reminded me of traits of a Medium. I know I feel other entities that aren't necessarily present in the physical world, especially so at night or when I'm alone.
But yes, I struggle with sleep. And it gets annoying when I'm burnt out like I currently am and I get plenty of sleep and all I want to do is sleep (it's been 5 days now)
updated by @loconnoro: 08/12/17 07:22:18PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/31/17 03:35:07PM
168 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

For me it's something more than their eyes, it's all sorts things from body movements to the way their voice sounds to their eyes and especially their "vibe" or energy or whatever it is. I've second guessed it so manytimes and every time I regret it. I'll get a feeling about someone and then someone else will see something entirely different and my feeling will usually be right. Or I'll feel bad about judging them or something and end up regretting not listening to my intuition. It's crazy lol, but energy and vibes play the biggest role for me tbh..
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/02/17 06:41:57PM
168 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

wow that's crazy... It seems like we're in the same boat haha @bunnigirl

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/01/17 08:11:30AM
168 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

Hello everyone, it's be a while since I've been on. My brother went to Marine boot camp for 3 months and had a successful time there, but since he's been back (2 days now) my body has been incredibly tired. I haven't done anything to exhaust myself like this, and I know he's extremely tired right now. Is there anything I can do to at least help myself with this? I go to work and nearly fall asleep because my body is so slow and tired, not to mention I keep having these high anxiety and panic moments. He is my Twin brother if that has anything to do with it... he's tired for sure, and I was getting these anxiety moments while he was doing his Crucible and then again when he was graduating (he gets social anxiety and I'm sure it was emotional)
Any advice please!? Thanks in advance!!
updated by @loconnoro: 11/26/17 11:48:50AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/29/17 09:15:14AM
168 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

I enjoy the TV show the good witch... that's all I can think of like that though haha

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/15/17 09:04:13PM
168 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Thank you @hop-daddy , I did decide to stay at everything and it is all working out better now. I look forward to the day I can move out though, my family is horribly disorganized and I'm the one who cooks, cleans, everything. It's alright though, I do feel like I'm developing myself more so I'll push on until I feel led to take a different path. Thanks again everyone for the comments.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/13/17 04:06:56PM
168 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Thank you @womanwhowalks and @jonig both for your responses, I appreciate them

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/12/17 09:58:23AM
168 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I call out people I'm close to or enjoy in my life. Really the only time I call it out with people is if it hurts someone else in some way or if they're building themselves up over it, like an ego thing. I usually avoid directly calling people out about it but I do have a total and obvious mood change when someone starts lying to me. My family lies all the time and I am currently working extremely hard at not exaggerating or lying, I do blame where I come from for how much I'm urged to just tell a story even to make someone laugh or something... but ultimately it's my fault if I decide to do it. Luckily I've stopped almost completely, it's hard lol I hate that I ever started this awful habit...
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/11/17 08:15:33PM
168 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Alright, so, I'm going to explain everything that's going on for context about this question and then get to my question...

So I'm a College student, I live at home, I have a job as a pool manager. My home environment has never been a good one, my parents don't get along, everyone is always yelling (brothers and parents), and anytime I make an appearance everything sorta shifts to me, first to "fix" whats going on, and when I don't, to yell at me instead... I don't think My family realizes they do this, but anytime I come around in the wrong moment everyone turns to me and I just end up getting yelled at and harsh words are thrown. Its beyond exhausting. This happened especially harshly this morning.

Then I got to work and I was already off my game from dealing with my family this morning. It turned out alright throughout the day but after I left a ton of problems happened with the next guard. The HOA of this pool didn't properly notify everyone in the neighborhood that they switched security systems so everyone would need new key-bobs, so now around half the residents don't have working key-bobs to access the pool they pay a lot of money to use. The guards and I have been consistently yelled at on a regular basis about this. Tonight someone jumped the fence when a different guard was working, and she called me hysterical about the whole issue and another thing that happened that night. Then, I, as the pool manager, got yelled at about since the guard didn't call 911 and I didn't have someone else working (I had everything they asked for, they're just playing the blame game at this point). I got a very angry phone call from an HOA member, who was yelling at me about everything, on top of being back home in this toxic environment. 

Now to the question... I've experienced an overload of emotions from other people, but I was always in an okay spot underneath it all... Now I'm a complete mess with emotions of anger and frustration, I'm ready to go off on this HOA which is not like me, I don't go off on people, and I'm so overloaded with emotion I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted both physically from working for this pool for at least 7 hours a day, my school has me drained mentally from a speech and massive midterm I'm trying to understand (I'm teaching myself currently, college professors... smh) and now I am completely out of control of all my emotions. I can usually keep myself from showing emotions, but as this guard was telling me everything going on I could pick up on her panicking and anxiety and she was ready to cry, and I literally had tears coming out of my eyes while I was trying to calm her down and help her out over the phone... and even now I'm bringing back these emotions that aren't mine and usually I can let go of, but now I genuinely feel bipolar. I'm angry and extremely frustrated and anxious.... but I'm experiencing a ton of other emotions from my family, the guard, the HOA member, A LOT of people. I can't release it like I usually do. I'm not a quitter but I'm about to quit my job and hopefully get a better paying job and try to move out. I need a therapist...

Anyways, any advice on relaxing in hectic situations, similar stories, thoughts... anything??? 


updated by @loconnoro: 10/18/17 03:25:17PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/09/17 07:37:34PM
168 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

I definitely relate to this. I feel like a lot of times I am often a designated listener in some people's lives. Many times they don't even like my advice, and they get mad if I try to share a different perspective. It's exhausting and I honestly don't know how to handle it. I've become so picky with who I even allow myself to talk to that much because I don't want more people pulling doing this to me. I'm usually indifferent to it, but lately it's really gotten to me...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/26/17 03:45:08PM
168 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Going off of names that look and seem familiar, I think it was one of these three;

Agaliarept, Armaros, or Aeshma

I hope it's alright to write them... Lol I know nothing about Demonology or anything... I don't even believe in how the Bible is taught in modern day. I believe in Jesus and things he said, but a lot of the bible I really question... I love studying Buddhism and I'm slowly going through as many different religions as I can in this lifetime and really trying to understand them all.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/26/17 03:09:45PM
168 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

I just found this and I'm definitely going to read through it all, but I remember one time being scared of my house being haunted (something just didn't feel right) and I remember asking myself out loud "what is in this house?" just after thinking on it forever, and then I got this really bad and awful feeling so I went downstairs and when I came back maybe an hour later my laptop was on my desk, and open to a google search page of a specific demon...? I need to go back and find the name of that because I still feel like my house is awful, but as a 15 year old I remember I just got so freaked out I slept downstairs with a bible on my chest xD. It's usually in my room or closet area or my parents closet or bathroom (my closet area is directly above their bathroom and closet). I feel it strongest in their closet and bathroom... I burnt sage about a month ago and since I have felt that feeling come back. The only other thing was one night I was literally yanked out of a dream, I was dreaming and I felt like my foot was pulled on and then when I woke up my knee down was hanging off the bed and out from under the blanket (it was winter so it wasn't like I had done that on purpose).  Another thing was years and years ago I thought I saw something in my little brothers room, something living, and then all the sudden his door slammed. He wasn't home at that time... and then I think it was a few weeks before that, he walked up the stairs and yelled into his room "What are you doing" and then slammed the door behind himself, he was around 8 then...

Before I answered this post these things were always something I had tried to forget but now I'm realizing I should probably look into this. I've never felt safe at home, and I guess this has to do with it..?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/24/17 01:24:27PM
168 posts



Agh, this is a tough one. I should probably start off by saying I am gay, which immediately brings tons of stereotypes into the mix, but I'm not very feminine. I'm a mix honestly. Growing up I was definitely more feminine, but a while ago I noticed I'm slowly becoming more masculine, especially as I hang out with more guys. I'm kind of balancing out now, I'm not super masculine and I'm not super feminine. People are literally confused when they meet me, especially lately. I have an "average male voice" i guess you could say. I don't act or seem flamboyant or act to talk feminine, but I get people telling me often that I am "definitely in touch with my feminine side". But I've also been told that's a huge turn on to girls. 

I'm assuming this came up from being a little self-conscious about it, I was too, I grew up in a christian conservative home who were very against homosexuality and I thought I was extremely obvious. Really, if you are self-conscious about it, don't worry. Depending on how young you are, you could almost change/ grow into a more masculine version of yourself. You're a dude, regardless of how you "act". Some tips if you do want to feel a little more masculine, would be work out. That's by far the biggest piece of advice I could offer. It's uncomfortable for the first week or two, but it gets much better. That will actually increase testosterone. Another huge thing would be jsut get comfortable with yourself, inside and out. Confidence is one of the most attractive things to anyone, and it can be especially hard when you don't want to seem feminine, I know I've been there. The last thing would just make sure you eat a rounded and healthy diet, and get plenty of sleep and rest/ relaxation time. 

All in all, I am definitely in touch with my feminine side, but I'm not "feminine" if that makes sense. Most people are surprised when I do tell them I'm gay.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:35:10PM
168 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

I love what @jonig said. I found that I tend to give good advice and I began to question why I would go to other people when times got rough or complain about it to others. I started writing things down in a journal, just thoughts and things, and I would be completely open and honest, no restraints.

Another thing I do is make sure I've come to terms with my past. I used to have a massive amount of memories that would haunt me that would come back and I couldn't get rid of, and I learned that I had to face those memories, most of the time where I didn't forgive myself for something, and I would tell myself to "let go" of the emotion and guilt and hate, and replay it until I wasn't uncomfortable "watching" it anymore. I do that naturally, anytime I have a haunting thought or anything that is extremely uncomfortable. It has to be organic, and understand why that thought came to you in the first place as well. This is a little off topic but it could help your overall peace of mind.

The last thing I can think of is taking time in nature alone. Go to a garden or the beach or somewhere and get away from everything. One problem I have is mirroring, and I think most of us Empaths have this as well. It's where you show what others want to see, for the sake of harmony in any given situation. That and other people's energy and emotions will overload you. I know times where I'll be with people and I'll start saying things or something to go along with the conversation, but then I'd question myself about it or why I was talking so much or anything, it wasn't even true to who I was. I highly recommend getting away to nature and getting close to nature, really feel it and the emotions it gives you. I've found that through really grounding myself in experiencing a moment in nature and focusing on what it feels like to me and how I feel inside from it, I in turn get closer to myself. It's helped me to stay positive and be in an overall better state of mind. 

I don't want to sound preachy or sound like I'm attacking or anything, but I have genuinely found that when I want to complain about something, it helps me tremendously to list of things I'm grateful for in the moment instead. It keeps me in a better mood, a better place, and I almost feel like I "shine" because people notice when you get to that place. You'll walk in a room and people look at you differently in a very good way, its a contagious smile and it just feels great.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:20:10PM
168 posts

Diving into the empathlife again...


Empath

I did a horrible job of recommending you make time to decompress and relax lol. So glad you're back and it sounds like you are doing well, blessing to you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:18:26PM
168 posts

Diving into the empathlife again...


Empath

I relate to this, except I didn't take a break from feeling, I just got away. I went to the beach while almost no one was there and I feel so much more grounded and more of an individual. Getting away from people, Social Media, and even my family helped me to get closer with myself without the constant mirroring and energy-absorbing that I do. I felt more connected with the earth overall too, it was nice and I've decided to spend more time in nature more often. I just need to find a nearby garden or forest now haha.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 03:10:49PM
168 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

Right now I'm still trying to understand why. I just start thinking of people when they need me, as the case for you, but I don't understand why I start smelling them. I'll be honest, I think it has something to do with how close they are or how close they get to me relationship wise

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 01:14:17PM
168 posts



This almost sounds like a narcissistic relationship... I wouldn't know unless I saw it but if she's bringing up problems about trust, she's obviously projecting the worst side of herself on someone else. I know how hard this is going to be before I even recommend it so I understand if you don't like what I'm going to say, but I believe she was put in your life for a reason. It sounds like she's broken and confused with her life, and as hard as it will be, I suggest allowing her to get close to you. Keep your guard up, and keep the focus on her, not you (tell her small details but don't get too personal if you can help it). Focus on her and try to set aside your feelings for her. Just let her talk to you about her life and things and see what she really needs. Everyone acts the way they do because of their past, most people don't know how to let go and live openly without restraints from guilt or things they haven't moved past. Just slowly get closer, you'll find her motive, but don't do the easy things and use it against her, help her out and be someone she can talk to. You have an amazing chance to do some good for someone, here.

Now on the other hand, if it gets worse, don't be toxic towards her and always be kind, but definitely keep a barrier up. Don't "avoid" her, but when she talks and you feel like she's lying, ask about it. Let her know you see right through it. But don't pry around if you choose this route. You'll end up hurting someone else and that is always the wrong thing to do, no matter who you're working against. Stay true and stay positive, and if she chooses to stay on a darker path of selfishness and lying, then eventually she will feel unsafe there.  But for the record I think this is a chance for you to help someone else and really build yourself in the process. 

Anyway you choose best of luck and blessings to you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 12:58:21PM
168 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

@cat-whisperer I've noticed that as well with nationalities... they don't all smell the same but there's something similar to different kinds of nationalities, I've always thought that but I was scared some people would take that the wrong way lol. This is really weird, but Ive noticed that I can smell someones body odor and for some reason I'll know something is wrong or if they're eating too much of something that could cause issues, things like that... It's weird... But I really want science to look more into this!

@hop-daddy I've  never had a ghost encounter before, the closest things that I've had was going into somewhere, and feel if it was a negative area with negative people, for example if a family fights a lot it feels like it stains a room almost, and it gets worse that that usually, or if it is a really positive and peaceful place. Usually the most peaceful places for me are outdoors in the woods, or somewhere religious or very spiritual. I don't know thought, a lot of churches feel bad to me to be honest. It's individuals homes of deeply religious people, whatever they practice, or just very happy individuals. But still not even ghostly but it seems related... sorta...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/08/17 04:03:49PM
168 posts



Best of luck!!!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/07/17 07:14:50PM
168 posts



I don't know what to say except I am so sorry that you're going through that right now... The unfulfilling marriage to this whole incident with this guy... The only thing that I would highly recommend keeping some sort of journal for only your eyes and your eyes only. I keep one and that's where my rants go, and any massive thoughts that take over my mind or grab my attention. I've had a much more positive outlook and its helped me tremendously to write this all down every day. My entries are usually 1-2 pages, but, if you do decide to do this, just write until you feel better. I have found myself actually looking forward to going home and writing in this, and I find I comfort myself, and find the advice I need to hear while I'm writing. It's just a thought, but it has helped me LOADS. Best of wishes for you though! I hope it all gets better somehow! We are here for you anytime.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 03:47:15PM
168 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

Ahhh, that would make sense. All people's "smells" stand out to me, but I certain ones REALLY stand out to me, and those are what I was wondering was some sort of attraction, I should have explained that better... But I think you're right, it has to do with some sort of Intuitive insight like getting visions and things...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 02:08:47PM
168 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

I can tell when someone's ill usually extremely easily, but I don't pick up on other people's problems very well or quickly, but I do after a conversation with the person. The smell this is just so weird to me, I honestly think part of it has to do with some sort of attraction too when it's that intense, but idk it's very odd to me xD I'm reading up on Human Scent and Human VNO glands... it's very interesting... And since Empahts tend to be more in touch with their bodies, or can pick up on what their body tells them easier, it would make sense if this were to happen... Idk, it's so weird to me. But i definitely like the idea that it might be someone is thinking of me xD. @lucky-seven

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/06/17 01:37:13PM
168 posts

Sense of Smell??


Empath

So this is going to be really odd and weird, and I'm still struggling to put this into words to explain this, but does anyone else experience the smell of someone else, even after they're gone or away from you (Anywhere from 10 minutes to Hours afterwards)? It always happens to me with someone with heavy/strong/intense energy. I'll smell them, we don't touch or anything, we just stand close to each other, but then I'll smell them for hours on myself afterwards. It's only happened to a few people, and it's usually has to do with how strong their vibe is, but it is so odd... It happens to me with most people, but it's only been so strong I notice it to the point I'm confused now twice. Any ideas on what this is? Its not usually bad body odor, and it's not whatever cologne or perfume they're wearing (Both times they would wear stuff), it is their body odor that I would be smelling afterward... Any ideas?

I also randomly smell people they're not around and I don't understand it at all... I've never texted the people to see if it's some sort of premonition, I mean imagine texting someone out of the blue, them wondering why, and you respond "I just randomly started smelling you" lol.... 


updated by @loconnoro: 09/01/18 08:48:32AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/17 03:44:30PM
168 posts

To be or not to be....an Empath


Empath

Well you are sensitive, but it is most definitely not a bad thing. You take in so much more than other people usually do and it can easily overwhelm you since you are an Empath. Most people know what it's like to get a bad feeling about someone, and usually its their body responding subconsciously to that persons energy so they only know how they feel, even with that close encounter to another persons energy. HSP (Highly Sensitive People) go past how they feel and actually recognize energy and auras consciously.. But Empaths go a step further and feel the emotions and the things going on that effect and make a persons energy the way it is. It can be extremely overwhelming, but nonetheless a gift I've learned to love.

Anyways I'm happy for you! and I'm glad you posted something! Best of luck for you and those you love... And I would also Highly recommend looking into MBTI if you're into self development and things like that. you can check that out, for starters, by taking the quiz at 16personalities.com

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/05/17 12:34:44PM
168 posts

To be or not to be....an Empath


Empath

That is so interesting. i think I'm going to look it up online and take it, I love all of these tests. Anyways, you look like an Empath to me, usually Empaths notice other people and pay attention to them so much because they can't help it, it's a pretty major sign. Really, the biggest thing for me is, when you go into public, does the environment seem a little overwhelming? (For example a Mall or something). Another thing is Premonitions and things, that gut feeling to reach out to someone or really when your intuition speaks to you (whatever form that will be). I've learned that really focusing on this gift has helped me the most. I try to fully experience my senses and then I really pay attention to the feeling of other people. I hope this helped at least a little bit. But thank you for sharing!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 07:31:09PM
168 posts

Karma and Spreading Emotions/ Effecting your Energy


Empath

So this is just kind of a post to make you think about Karma and how the emotion and the energy you put out comes back to you... I just kinda want to start a deep-thinking discussion (I have this with friends but it never goes as far lol)

     I think "Karma" works in multiple different ways. One of the most obvious and easy to understand being through basic human interaction where if you compliment someone or make them happy, you're happy while doing it and it spreads to them, which in turn they hold on to that happiness and then spread it to someone else, and then when you give someone else positivity like that they will want to start giving positivity back to you... on the flip side with anger and hate, if you yell or let out your anger on someone, sometimes you feel better, but that person takes on anger and they spread it, and they will stay angry with you and eventually it comes back to you.

     I do think there are other forms, like how a guilty conscience can make you act a certain way that will come back to bite you (I'm still thinking on it, specifically on scenarios). But then there's definitely a bigger picture kind of way that eventually putting out bad energy (whether its through what you say, what you think, and your intentions) will affect your personal overall energy/vibe and will offset people to not interact with you and your overall interactions with other people will be negative.  I know this isn't quite some people's way to pass time, but I love thinking really deep on things, and my mother told me "As you get older and wiser you'll realize there is no such thing as Karma" and It just got me thinking on ways to prove Karma works... (Funny how that came from a superficial and almost narcissistic person...) I would love to hear thoughts on this! Like if you agree, dont agree, why, or even if you think of different ways karma works... 


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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 05:06:02PM
168 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

I am definitely going to look into that thank you very much @hop-daddy

@jonig

I have had this discussion with some people when I was first discovering I was an empath a year ago, and about half the people I would talk to about it didn't even feel vibes... I know for me, feeling someone enter a room and feeling their presence is extremely important and I never realized I literally depend on it in social interactions... I get horrible anxiety when I lose it. That's really interesting tho! I noticed the more I talk with people and find people who at least understand and have experienced vibes, they feel a little different and I believe I am slowly finding the difference... I just know how closed off I feel when I don't feel other people and other things, like a room or especially nature... And I've been noticing that people who don't feel other people also don't go that deep in conversations, it's extremely hard to converse with them because it's just so much small talk... You should totally start a conversation or Discussion on feeling other people and open this up to a bunch of people, it's an extremely interesting thing to think on and process.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/03/17 11:05:23AM
168 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

@cat-whisperer Thank you for the suggestions! and same here, I don't like how most doctors nowadays take a "prescribe medicine now and figure out the cause if they come back later" approach. It's funny because right now I'm on my way to become a nurse though lol..

@jonig  I'm the same way, I don't take any medicine because it gives me awful anxiety, it leaves me stuck in my head, or sometimes it makes me feel like I've lost all connection with the outerworld. I can't feel vibes and things when I take certain medicines... it's odd...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/02/17 05:35:19PM
168 posts

Opinions on Medicine and Herbal Remedies


Empath

Hello everyone, I hope you're all doing well. I have a question for any and all who read this, all opinions are welcome to respond; What are your opinions on Medication (anything from ADHD/ADD medicine to Antibiotics) and what are your opinions on Herbal remedies (teas, things like that)...

I know that personally, I prefer to use Herbal Remedies unless I need medicine (if something stays longer than a few days or if I know something needs medical attention like deep cuts or something obvious). Personally I have always had bad reactions to most medicine, or it just makes me feel wrong. I love modern medicine, I just hate how much we depend on it, or are expected to depend on it... I was wondering if any other Empaths have had similar responses?

Like I said, I'm not against medicine, I just feel like all the chemicals are horrible for  our bodies so I avoid them whenever possible, and I've had less doctor visits since I've gotten into herbal remedies and treating things naturally... And if you are into Herbal remedies and know any good books or resources I would love if you shared! Thank you and looking forward to comments!


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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/30/17 03:31:38PM
168 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

@empphire

You might be INFJ. I had the same issue, INFJs are one of the hardest types to type, and they're also the rarest type on the MBTI list. Theyre so hard because they usually feel like multiple different types fit them... I would recommend at least looking into it...

But if you do, don't get sucked into a label like a bunch of other people do. it is only a label, one that is meant to help you understand yourself better. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/29/17 06:07:23PM
168 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

@angel

I really like your perception and I love where you talked about the "Soul Ages", I never considered that aspect. I have similar views but I never connected the two and how they balance each other the way you did. Wonderful comment 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/29/17 02:09:20PM
168 posts



@empphire I would highly recommend continuing to look into empaths for a while and then look into MBTI. It's helped me a ton to know my Personality type (you can look it up at 16personalities.com) and then just read about people who are similar. Best of luck!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 07:18:51PM
168 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

I didn't mean to say visitors if I did. I would definitely recommend you post this in maybe dreams area. That sounds extremely interesting though, are they like Ghosts or Spirits? @just-stevie

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 03:08:37PM
168 posts



I definitely relate to this. Have you experienced depression due to your past? I noticed that I, myself, tend to be more of a calm person. It's not that I don't have emotions, I just keep a level head more often than others. You might also be over-stimulated or on an extensive burnout. I feel so dull horrible when I get burnout... I don't think this this is relevant for this discussion but I feel like it's relevant to you so I'll explain the Burnout. I know that I experience it most when I go into crowded environments or places that are overstimulating for me. Usually, I'll come back exhausted and emotionally drained, to the point I don't have the capacity to operate. I usually just sleep it off and then the next day take it easy. It's feels exactly the same to the days after I have a migraine, I'm not actually sick, but I'm so drained it feels like it. 

Anyways, you might just be a very calm person naturally, but when you're around others and you're "surfing their energy" as I call it, you totally different. Another thing you might do is mirror people, I do it often. It's when you "mirror" what others want to see. You feel like a different person with everyone you're around. I would definitely recommend spending time focusing on yourself and your needs, and make sure you get enough time to yourself. Pursue what you're interested in and make sure you enjoy it. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 02:50:10PM
168 posts



My eyes are grey, but they change between between grey, blue, and green, depending on what I'm wearing, light they're exposed to, etc....

I don't think that there's a correlation between Empaths an eye color, but I do think that eyes, for whatever reason, seem to stand out on Empaths... I guess we use them intensely? I've noticed most Empaths get compliments on eyes or contagious smiles. I've met people with brown eyes that were just as interesting, if not more, than people with blue, amber, green, and grey eyes.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 02:23:05PM
168 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

Yes I definitely agree. I actually deleted all Social Media directly linked to me where I showed myself often... But I do think there are different levels and categories.

@deborah-craig I am sure that what he did was very wrong, that's horrible. Just because someone may be hurting in some way doesn't make it right to hurt others. I was just trying to say they're usually blinded to the destruction they cause by their own problems and self interests. Sorry If I explained that wrong, I understand first hand how hard it is to forgive someone who treats you horribly. Best of wishes.

@hop-daddy  I think that some narcissists are narcissists their whole lives, but I've found a lot of them simply never learned empathy or understand why it's important to care for others.  My mother doesn't believe in Karma, and I find that what you put out (whether its positive or negative) will be returned.

I know I learned Empathy through self suffering... but at the same time I don't think people are born like us to begin with... I think Empaths process things deeper than most people overall. I distinctly remember a time in my life where I feel like I "woke up" almost... I don't really know how to describe it except I was more connected to things and I felt completely different. I just started processing things on an entirely different level... it was a noticeable difference for me.... I honestly believe some people never "wake up" and just go through life going through the motions... It's dull and colorless in a way... It's my opinion through my experiences that most narcissists are mostly these "asleep" people, if you will, who are blinded in self interests, and never come to an understanding that we do that everything is connected and related.. that's all I'm trying to say with it... But some Narcissists seem so past the edge that there is no return, I most definitely agree with that. Gosh they leave such an imprint on our life that we talk about them online as well... I try my best to forgive (not forget, but forgive) not for the sake of them, but for myself. As William Shakespeare says, "Love me or Hate me, both are in my favor... If you love me, I'll always be in your heart... If you hate me, I'll always be in your mind."   Narcs and Empaths balance each other and I think it's important to realize that. There are less Empaths because choosing forgiveness is harder than holding grudges not trying to help people and the world... sorry this is so preachy, I just realized how much power the wrongs people, especially narcissists did held over my personal growth and happiness, and I decided to give it up and it's helped me wonders. We're healers by nature and I think we're suppose to promote positivity. I don't mean to sound like I agree with or like I'm trying to take a Narcissists side. I just hate seeing others consumed by their deeds the same way I have been before.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:45:56PM
168 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

Hop Daddy:

Thanks everyone for your feedback. It almost sounds like many of us don't have clinical ADD/ADHD, but exhibit similar traits due to our minds doing so many things due to our empathy.

I used to have exceptional concentration skills. But as my empathy has grown in recent years I seem to lose my mind at times. And what I mean by that is my mind will unexpectedly get pulled in different directions with many unrelated thoughts to the point where I lose control and ignore the task that I should be doing. Or I just get a lot of noise in my mind where my head just feels heavy and I start feeling anxious and my chest gets tight. This happens most often when I am in crowds. But oddly, I get the ADD distractions at my relatively quiet workplace. But I guess I could be picking up on others in the office complex.

I just posted some questions on narcissists. And as that topic relates to this one, when I run into one I can feel their energy trying to tap into my mind to figure me out (or steal my energy). I also get this with emotional troubled or needy people who can equally be energy vampires. In all these cases I get weakened and foggy-brained while communicating with them. And it takes quite a while to recover. I find myself drinking a lot of coffee throughout the day trying to shake my mind daze and to get my own energy and focus back. Has anyone had any success with herbal supplements that help sharpen focus?

What you said about Narcissist I relate to completely. Even when they show you love, it doesn't feel right, its still feels like a pull or something being taken. Especially when they touch you. When someone loves you, it feels safe, warm, comfortable. It's a balance.. When a narcissist who has decided they love you touches you, it's this pull ... you can literally feel the one-sided-ness from the "Love" they offer...

I would highly recommend calming herbal teas, it takes a while to get off of coffee, but between that and finding time to just sit and work on relaxing and feeling out my body, I have become much more relaxed, and even confident in myself. I just found that coffee would give me anxiety when I was trying to be calm (Maybe you relate in your office setting?) Best of luck either way!

@hop-daddy


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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:37:38PM
168 posts

Is There An Empath-ADHD Connection?


Empath

I personally believe that many Empaths are diagnosed with ADHD. When I go into crowded, public places and I'm not with a more extroverted person who thrives and is comfortable there, I get overstimulated by everything going on. A lot of times I end up finding whoever is feeling the strongest emotion in the room and only then I stop looking around constantly. I look like a nervous wreck, and it's awful because I feel the people I'm with staring at me in confusion, and then looking at others. I get screwed up lol xD. I also get distracted in papers and things. To me, everything is connected and related in some way, and some of my papers drift off of the topic. To more "structure" minded people this makes no sense, but others who are very abstract like me, it can turn into an amazing conversation. All of my English teachers either loved me or hated me lol xD. I also have a very broad spectrum of interests. I love Science and especially Anatomy, but I also love Philosophy, and I also love art and music. My Reading and music lists are from just about every genre. I definitely seem like i have ADHD and ADD, and even though it's exhausting, I never want to get rid of it with medicine ... (Medicine and chemicals and how they affect our bodies and inhibit us is a topic of a different discussion lol xD)

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:21:15PM
168 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

To clarify, I think that Narcissist can read the same signs as Empaths, but something processes them much differently. Empaths honestly forced to care because we connect, almost unwillingly, and we feel a connection to everything. Narcissist are focused on their life, but are still sensitive to other people's energies, body language, etc.. but they only work, ultimately, in self interest. I don't even think it's a direct attempt to be manipulative or to hurt others, they are just so focused on themselves (and usually their own problems) that they lose sight of everything else and their problems create more problems. Many Narcissist I deal with often complain and focus on the bad and how everything that happens to them seems to be bad, and are often under the impression that they're the only ones struggling through life. Everyone struggles, to each their own, they just become so self-absorbed, not even intentionally i believe, that they reek havoc on those around them.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 01:12:56PM
168 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

This has always interested me. I have a narcissistic friend who liked and pursued me romantically, but I didn't like her. When she would touch me it felt horrible, i hated it. My mother is a narcissist, but she seemed to have developed that way, not be born that way. Her parents took care of her, and she goes to them for any advice. She is unhappy with her marriage, and she is unhappy with herself. She'll use words she doesn't understand in an effort to seem smarter, and she puts on this happy outer-appearance to everyone she meets in social situations. She is rarely happy at home, and she even in those moments she tries to take control and it just ruins them. She doesn't respect boundaries, especially of me, and she constantly (every day) will complain to me. I personally believe that Narcissists are just hurting people, but the thing is, it's extremely hard to confront someone that unhappy with themselves. I've learned that people get overly defensive when they feel exposed when you see through them. It's impossible to address things when they wont even address the issues themselves. My mother is extremely manipulative and does know how to read people like a book. I'll be honest I cannot stand her most days, but I live with her and I can't move out because I'm in college and broke. 

My brothers are becoming narcissistic, and my twin just joined the marines, and I am scared that it did nothing but feed his ego... I find ego to be one of the biggest factors in Narcissism. My little brother hasn't developed enough yet, he's in middle school currently. I usually attract people who are at a vital point in their life where they may be becoming narcissists, and I've managed to somehow help 3 that I know of... It's exhausting, and I do think some people will just become narcissists, and after they become one it seems hard to turn them back. They are most definitely exhausting, and once they find someone, like an empath, who likes to give out compliments and help people, they hold on and will cage you up if they get close. It's just this constant game of mind chess and I hate it. It is so hard to find positive people, or even alone time when a narcissist gets close and locks on to you.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:46:42PM
168 posts



@hop-daddy

Yeah, in my experience, Premonitions for me are just this overwhelming feeling that is usually very clear, but I don't understand how it was triggered. My visions are usually triggered tho, like when I was younger I was playing with legos and then all of the sudden i got this short vision of me looking at something I built, my dad stepping on it, and this intense feeling of fear. It happened a year later, my dad had a ton going on, and then he was mad my room was a mess and then he was yelling at my brother and me, he accidentally stepped on what I had built (exactly like I remembered in the vision) and then it was the first time I remember him actually being abusive... kind of a sad thing but still it was the first meaningful vision I had... Other than that I get Deja Vu often as well... I haven't put the pieces together but I had like 3 in 3 days and they were the days (last week) when a massive asteroid and a comet were closely passing by earth... It was odd...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:38:06PM
168 posts



@hop-daddy

My immediate family is very accepting of my being an Empath because of how often I've done things (as a kid) and they just understood. My Granny (My mother's Grandmother) was a something like an extremely powerful Empath... I don't know if that's a thing, but she was extremely loving and caring and she was extremely in touch with her intuition. You would walk around her and it just radiated, it was this intense but extremely warm and comfortable feeling. So to say the least, my mother grew up with someone who "just knew things" but she knew she could trust her. My mother will also randomly get Vibes and has conversations with me about premonitions (She called it "God tugging on your heart".. The night my Granny was put in the hospital before passing I got this unshakable feeling to go see her or call her, and I told my mother, and on the way home from her funeral we just had a conversation about it. I was 8 I think)

My father just doesn't really care at all. He looks at me weird when I say something feels off but he just accepts it. But i should add that I've never used the term "empath" except around a family friend who I know is one, but never at home. I'm also into medicine and things and my family has always learned to trust my intuition on whats going on as well. To be honest, they probably just haven't looked into Empaths enough to understand or have an opinion on it, they just know family members and friends who are different in a very good way. I know my family won't accept homosexuality because of how often they speak out about it and my cousin came out and their reaction was extremely harsh. They poorly about him all the time. I still have massive amounts of anxiety saying I'm gay even on here, so it was actually a relief to read your response.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 12:23:16PM
168 posts



I get premonitions very often, but visions I don't get very often, and there's a noticeable difference between a premonition or vision or just my overactive imagination. When I was younger, I got visions often, a few a year, and premonitions smaller ones almost everyday, but major ones around once every few months. Most of the time they didn't make much sense. But I lost the visions altogether around 10 or 12 and they're just now returning after a year of self development and lots of work. I'm finding that meditation and trying to stay calm is helping with my intuition overall. You just have to learn that you're not in control of anything except your actions and what you do. The universe, God, whatever you believe in. You will be fine, just stay positive and trust your intuition.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 11:49:48AM
168 posts

A question about Visions


Psychic and Paranormal

Thank you so much for the comment, I will definitely look into the link as well! @hop-daddy

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:52:47AM
168 posts

Are We Rare?


Empath

I think most people are sensitive to people's energy, but they don't feel it, the feel their emotions in response to it. I've only recently found this. Empaths I do think are very rare, but it is also common for people to call themselves Empaths who don't fully understand it (not saying you aren't, I'm aiming this towards some profile's I've seen on Social Media lol). You might want to look into MBTI, take a test on 16personalities.com and that might help you out too. Some Empaths fit in very well, but it sounds like you're more introverted, so MBTI might help you out more. But in my experience Empaths are truly uncommon, and in the "real world" of jobs and school, people find some of our abilities extremely odd. When I share things through my Intuition, people don't understand it, even friends, and then you're looked at weird when you're right. But don't look at it through ego, it's extremely easy to do so. We are here to help others as well as ourselves. Don't fall into people-pleasing, but don't become selfish with your gift. You have an opportunity to do some good, and you learn stuff in the world of people who aren't empaths everyday. Never turn down a chance to listen. I hope this helped, but yes, in my experience, we are extremely rare. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
04/28/17 09:31:02AM
168 posts



Hello, I think this is a great and very interesting topic. I grew up in a Christian Conservative household, my parent's are both possibly narcissistic. I also grew up gay... which I don't really talk about much but it had a lot to do with my self development because I went into severe depression from feeling hated, on top of my parents would have fits of rage and sometimes my brothers and especially me would come out the victims of verbal and even physical abuse. They have gotten much better since then, but as a kid I was very intuitive and Empathic, and my family looked at it as a gift. I remember telling my parents about this odd and extremely urgent need to call my Granny the Friday night she was sent to a Hospital before later passing away. My family was very supportive of that, on top of I was always exceptionally amazing at reading people. My twin brother wouldn't speak growing up so I would always speak for him. My little brother spoke horrible English until he was around 6, and I was the "translator" because I just understood what he wanted. I got along with pets that usually didn't get along with most people. To say the least, I was a weird kid and my family just kinda accepted that part of me. What they didn't accept was homosexuality and they still don't, and while I still hide it from my family, one day I will have to tell them. I don't sleep around because I am the type to wait for the right person, but my parent's see all people in a group they don't agree with the same. But I'm grateful for my experiences because it showed me that people we often see as narcissists are often just mislead and hurting people. We often, as empaths, don't agree with narcissist for obvious reasons, and sometimes I see people looking down on them. I was once included in that, but now I realize they're just hurting souls who we can help, and growing up in the family I did, I feel better equipped to help people. I rarely meet people who actually seem to be bad people, most are just mislead. 

But yeah I grew up in a family that didn't embrace, but also didn't disrespect anything that was "empathic". They just don't understand when I say "I have a feeling that something is off", they've learned that usually if I speak up about it, something is off. They don't, however, respect my efforts to start growing more herbs and going more natural lol. I want us to be on a healthier diet, and I, myself, am trying to be Vegetarian. They make that extremely difficult lol. I hope this helped!

 
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