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LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/19/17 07:04:46PM
151 posts

Can a space affect an empath?


Empath

I think I might be a little late to this, but I have had a similar experience in my home. Now I don't know how your home and family is, emotionally, but if they're like mine and don't along, your body can start reacting that way through association with negative events alone. I know that's been the case for me, and I tend to avoid my family, even though the only way to really solve the issue is spending time with my family, its horribly exhausting and I've given up because something happens and then everything falls apart again (My parents aren't happy with each other and that "energy" or anger and deep-rooted unhappiness has passed to the children, so everyone seems miserable, constant yelling and fighting). 

If your family isn't anything like that, you could be picking up emotions from maybe a neighbor or neighboring family who are unhappy. In my experience, things usually stay to rooms, or specific objects, but I've never lived in an apartment to know if I can feel a different families state. 

The last thing I could think of for you is maybe if you're comfortable, when you get home all the stressors from the day "hit" and really take their toll. If that's the case then I've heard grounding techniques work really well (they don't work for me unfortunately, but I still recommend trying them)

There are also physical elements like maybe mildew or something that you could look into, you'd likely be more sensitive to those things as well.

     I will be honest, every family has some sort of issues, minor or major, but if that might be the cause for you and you're able to, I'd recommend finding a way to either helping the people you're closest too to calm down, or to find a way to just ease the situation the best you can. If it still continues, hold out til you can find a place of your own, some things are simply bigger than us. When people's ego's come into play, ambition and pride can stop any external factor from really helping, it'll take a personal change in individuals.

Best of luck to you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/19/17 06:53:18PM
151 posts

Other’s emotions presenting as physical injury?


Empath

It definitely sounded like the horse might have picked up on "your being on edge" (it likely wasn't from you, but you probably still had that energy/emotion and the horse picked up on it) and then it might have been a little more on edge that night as well. Do you know what spooked her?

I don't think his energy would have "manifested" into a physical injury, however I wouldn't be surprised if it was linked to the actual accident. And, as most people would probably tell you, it could have been a crazy coincidence, it's really up to you and what your intuition is telling you about the overall situation. I'm sure he appreciates your being there and helping him though, it's great that you helped someone who really needed it! Blessings, and I hope everything turns out well for you!


updated by @loconnoro: 10/19/17 07:08:08PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/17/17 04:18:16PM
151 posts

❀Help for Sensitives❀


Tools for Empaths

This is the same thing for me, now I can focus more on handling myself around people rather than being sick all the time. I got migraines almost daily and I got sick constantly. It was honestly really hard to live, but I found out I had to eat healthier because I'm sensitive to everything I eat as well, I only eat some dairy and chicken though, most red meat makes me sick as well. Its so interesting to find another person who experiences something similar!! Thank you for the post!!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/09/17 08:37:43PM
151 posts

Happy Thanksgiving!


Empath

oh that's cool, we dont have ours here in America until November... Happy Thanksgiving to you then!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/09/17 08:36:40PM
151 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

@cat-whisperer I have to be honest, Buddhism has really stuck out, at least some of the teaching. I love them. I'm still exploring, and now I'm headed towards just looking into Native American religion and culture. I'm also naturally very scientifically minded so my brain is just all over the place with what I expose it to lol...


updated by @loconnoro: 10/09/17 08:36:50PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/08/17 09:34:30PM
151 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

thank you @water-lily, I definitely believe in some sort of higher power. I'm not so "religious" and live by the bible as I used to, I just don't think a lot of things that are taught today were what Jesus taught. I've been looking into a bunch of different religions, just because i feel that most religions have so much to offer, spiritually and just different way to think on something. Thank you for the quote too! Quotes are something that I love, half of my storage on my phone are taken up by quotes... 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/05/17 10:07:08PM
151 posts

Questions on how YOU experience vibes/energy...


Empath

I kind of like where you took it @cat-whisperer especially in light of what happened. I can't play any TV at all either, and I've been very, very introverted lately. I've been picking up certain emotions more lately than I usually do and it's been a rough week with school and work. Luckily I have tomorrow completely off, I'm not sure what I'll be doing, but it will be something relaxing...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/04/17 08:56:47AM
151 posts

Sensing Feelings/Thoughts when in the water


Empath

I usually feel at peace when I'm around a large body of water. There are some times when I just don't feel like being in the water, or I don't like being at busy pools, but for me I usually feel other people's emotions less when I'm in water. That's probably why I love showers lol. I would think that most of what you're feeling is from your anxiety with water, although I wouldn't be surprised if other people's anxiety can make it worse. Did something happen to you when you were younger around water?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/02/17 09:40:08AM
151 posts

Questions on how YOU experience vibes/energy...


Empath

The same exact thing happened to me. I was incredibly exhausted before, and luckily i took a nap, but I couldn't sleep last night. I have a bit of insomnia, but I always fall asleep at the latest 2:30, last night I didn't fall asleep at all and I woke up feeling incredibly off, and I turned on the tv and it turned straight on to the news with the vegas shooting. It was horrible and I feel so horrible for the people involved. So much hate today... @mike-simpson-rogers

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/01/17 09:07:01PM
151 posts

Other people's effect on Perception


Empath

thanks so much for the comments, and yes I can definitely relate with you @4peace, I'm currently in college, I lean liberal (more of the classical liberal, really) and my family is very very conservative. Most of my classes are incredibly split, although they usually lean liberal.

Thank you for the comments! @rene I will definitely try some other ways to stay grounded! (I've been meditating more and it's really helping)

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
10/01/17 09:00:11PM
151 posts

Still wondering and wandering


Empath

I definitely have to agree with the idea of forgiveness. I have a horrible relationship with both of my parents, especially with my dad, and I'm always supportive of him, but I them at a distance. I know for myself I had a lot of self-forgiveness. Growing up I made a lot of mistakes, as I'm sure everyone can relate to, but I all my life I have haunting memories of things that I did and things that others did to me. I learned that I had to face those memories that popped in my head and I would focus on releasing the anxiety and any emotions that resurfaced with those memories. I would kind of "replay" those memories until I could "watch" them without feeling an overwhelming emotion or the need to avoid that thought. Your mind should be your safest place, it is the closest thing to you (you're soul, who you are as an individual, as a solitary experience) and you shouldn't feel like you wall parts of your own mind off from yourself. With more physical and relational things with your father, just be compassionate towards him, but keep a healthy distance. I'm not sure what your situation is, just follow your intuition and it will lead to do the right thing. I would highly recommend trying different meditations, like a mindfulness meditation and especially a meditation on compassion. Just focus on that feeling. It is a very healing and encouraging meditation to do when you're feeling down about things I've found out.

Best of luck with everything, and it's good to see you back again!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/28/17 09:50:52PM
151 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

@eri-ameonna
Thank ou for the response! I’ve been understand this experience for about 2 - 2 1/2 years now, and if you need any pointers or help I might be able to help. Or maybe we can both learn something!
From the start I will recommend meditation and setting alone time, for me the best time is at night.
Thank you for the comment and best of wishes!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/27/17 09:34:43AM
151 posts

Is Anyone else the Emotional Scapegoat?


Empath

Oh man I'm sorry. It's sad but at the same time good to know that there are other people experiencing this as I am. It seems to have to do with energy, whether we attract the negative like a positive side of a magnet or something, I'm not sure. It just stinks that everyone who responds seem to really struggle with this as well... Thank you for the response @cat-whisperer and best of wishes!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/27/17 05:05:14AM
151 posts

Is Anyone else the Emotional Scapegoat?


Empath

thank you lol. I don't mind 1 game, I play it by myself without being on the chat with those other people and have a great time, or I play by myself and I talk with other people on both teams and everyone has a good time. The problem is I get on the chat (discord) and talk with them. One of them is a friend I've had since High School, and I want to support and help her, but she's been having a rough time lately and a lot of the time that emotion ends up getting pushed out from her to me whether it's by her being passive aggressive when everyone criticizes the TINIEST thing I do (this happens with my parents as well when I don't let them rant to me, they get angry and find other ways to let out that emotion on me). I've taken a break from the discord, and I don't play often anymore. It's just hard to watch how most people live in their emotions rather than experience their emotions. 

Thank you for the comment! I think I'm going to look into a therapist or someone who can help me without prescribing medicine. @elsa-k

(and you are right about gaming being the saltiest community, they get these massive ego's over being good at game behind a screen... it's frustrating to see, but at the same time kind of funny...)


updated by @loconnoro: 09/27/17 05:06:42AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/26/17 07:32:00PM
151 posts

Is Anyone else the Emotional Scapegoat?


Empath

it did lol. Thank you for the comment, I'm finally calming down from it all lol, today was a crazy day for me... Thanks! @womanwhowalks

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/26/17 06:06:42PM
151 posts

Is Anyone else the Emotional Scapegoat?


Empath

Lately I've been noticing how often other people find a way to channel their emotion towards me. I'll give a few examples, but I have to start off with these people don't seem to notice that they're doing it. It's like the emotion just comes towards me and they don't seem fully aware that they're letting it off on me. It's weird...

ALSO, I wrote this all out and I feel better after writing it, but I would hate to be spreading all the negative emotion I'm picking up (you'll feel it throughout this most likely). I hope I didn't mess with anyone too much the same way I've been messed with. I would hate if it just spreads to another person....

1. I play video games with people online, right now that's the only friend group I really have, and when something goes wrong while we're all playing together, I tend to be the one blamed some how. One guy will always find a way to blame me for him being triggered (Millennial term for "upset" in case anyone is unaware of what it means), another will find a way to assign blame of us losing a game or something towards me, and everyone tends to just let their anger off on me. There are times that I genuinely mess up, and I own up to that, but the majority of the time, the emotion is just coming to me from the 3-5 other people, and I no longer play because it is completely ridiculous.

2. My family always direct their bad emotions towards me. This has been happening since I can remember. The most current events happen mostly between my parents. One of my brothers will mess up and it will upset my parents and my parents will find a way to start a conversation and all their emotion will come out on me. Its a very unpleasant and uncomfortable experience. When I avoid the situation by not allowing them to start the conversation with me, they find a way, whether its that day, or within the next few days, to blow up all that emotion they've been holding on to on me. 

Right now I'm really struggling because everyone I'm associated with seem to be completely emotionally unaware, and far from being self-aware. They live in their emotions too much and while it's very interesting to see how they follow their emotions, and how they're often times directed towards me, it really sucks, and right now I'm really down because 1 I dont have any close friends or anybody close that I really connect with who I can just be myself around and have nerdy conversations about whatever with, and 2, I feel like everyone is constantly mad at me. They're usually not, but all their negative emotions are always finding me. Most of them are associating these negative emotions with me now and it's driving me crazy because I literally doing almost nothing wrong and then I become this emotional scapegoat. I've always noticed this, and I'm curious if any of you do too. I'm close to becoming a complete recluse and not talking to anyone, life is becoming very hard lately, especially since I haven't been in a good place to begin with. I don't think I attract these things anymore than usual, but they're just hitting harder than usual and I've come close to losing it on several people several times.

Wow I think I invested a lot of emotion into this too.. I hope I didn't push it on anyone too much, I do feel better after getting down though...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/24/17 05:11:32PM
151 posts

Questions on how YOU experience vibes/energy...


Empath

Thank you for the comment! I think you described the "absorbing others emotions" much better than I did, I still feel them, but they don't have a massive impact on my mind or my emotional state, so long as I have myself in check. I feel like I have to have  high amount of physical energy to be able to handle going out on my own in public. I easily get overwhelmed. I can relate with traffic as well, I'm rarely surprised on the road, and I've noticed I will pick up on light changes even if there's no way for me to know they're about to change. I'll get the urge to go before the light is green (like around a second before the light changes). I've tested my abilities as well, I will walk up and purposefully feel plants. Now I'm more obsessed with how a plant feels rather than how a plant smells. Anytime I pay attention to the feeling of my phone I feel it, part of the reason I sleep with it away from me. I don't like the way my phone or most electronics feel. At my old job there were these card scanners that we had to use all the time, and I hated the way those felt. I remember I would test myself all the time to see if it was in my head or something, but I would always find them on walls without looking and when my eyes were closed... I would hold the key cards really oddly over the sensor so my hand was as far away as I could get from it because I hated the way they felt, and my friends always made fun of me when they noticed but I don't care. I'm not going to sit there an constantly feel something I dont like. 

I know what you mean about the feeling of broken people. I was visiting my aunt, whose had a rough time throughout life, in the hospital yesterday and today, and you could just feel the brokenness in her life. Especially when she was under the heavy medication and she wasn't as "psychically" or emotionally guarded as usual. She just felt so vulnerable and I wanted to be there for her as much as I could. She's just recovering from a surgery, so she's fine.

Thanks again for the Comment!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/23/17 12:48:29PM
151 posts

Living in a small town


Empath

I live right outside a Big city, but I went to school in a small town. I'll be honest, for the me overall energy I would get from Charlotte NC was busy, but not too bad, just a "hustling to work on an average day". I go to college in downtown Charlotte and I get that energy everyday and to be honest, it has been a little much for me, I sometimes have days where going around a bunch of people can just bee too much for me. I do find a very nice balance living in a smaller town right outside a big city, or even a less populated area where you have space and a backyard. What helps me the most is finding a forest or large park and going and walking with a very close friend or alone and really taking time to relax and soak in that environment. Most people have a tendency of just conforming and blending and and hustling all the time in a world that we've created for ourselves, and Empaths seem to have a largely hard time really getting into a typical routine like that from what I've seen. Best of luck to whatever you end up doing in the end!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/22/17 08:29:00PM
151 posts

Questions on how YOU experience vibes/energy...


Empath

Thanks so much for the comment! I definitely relate with physical touch, I cannot get you out of my head if you're touching me, I rarely touch someone unless I'm really comfortable with that person. People like to hug me a lot, which I might just notice hugs more so it seems more than average, but I get hugged a lot, and I honestly am not a big fan of physical contact unless someone is having a rough time and that's the kind of thing that will help them. When I make a connection it's usually not a feeling for me though, its this deep realization like "I see you" or "I know you" and I feel like I've met that person before. When I connect with anyone, it's always an amazing experience for me at least, I love meeting new people mostly for that reason.

Thank you so much for the feedback! And I'm definitely going to look into that link! I've looked into the Human Electromagnetic fields before and that's usually the closest diagram to what i experience, a Large "bubble" and then a smaller "bubble" inside and closer around the person, within arm length. @krosskelt

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/21/17 04:16:08PM
151 posts

I think my son can see auras


Empath

This sounds both exciting and nerve racking. I think the best thing is you need to worry about taking care of yourself first, do some meditation and get a little more balanced. With him, be there for him and encourage him to explore his gifts. Ask him questions about it, I've heard of some people who have intuition that strong and lost it because our world doesn't accept this. It would probably be best that he doesn't talk a bunch about it to other people, the world is cruel to people who are a little different, speaking from experience.

     I'm younger and I think the best thing I could do for you is speak from what I wish my parents had done for me through the aspect of spirituality and psychic/ intuitive gifts. The biggest and first thing would be to just care and love him first, I'm sure you already do, but make that you're priority over anything else, to look out for his best interest and what will make him happy. The second thing I think would apply for him is to encourage him to chase knowledge and spirituality (not religion). If his intuition works anything like mine, it'll go hand in hand with knowledge and grow as he learns more about the world and himself. Just help him along his journey and try to lightly push him towards books or deep conversations about things. Have a conversation about what he experiences. Ask him how he feels about it. He's likely already talked to his friends about it, and just support him. It's tough being different (as I'm sure you already know as an empath/ intuitive yourself). Really just help him embrace his gift. I would be so lost if I didnt have my intuition to guide me. Best of luck with whatever you do and your journey with him! I hope it all goes well. Everything will turn out and cheers for you with being able to work with this! I know I was a handful as a kid and I didn't have abilities like that either. 

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/21/17 04:05:02PM
151 posts

Questions on how YOU experience vibes/energy...


Empath

1. How do you experience someone's energy or vibe? 

     For me, I feel it almost as a physical sensation. Most people I feel two distinct areas, like a "wider" vibe and then when I'm within arms length I feel almost the same vibe but much much stronger. If I get that close I can rarely ignore their energy. I can't ignore someone's energy if it's any sort of off balance. For me, everyone has an individual vibe or energy, but when I feel an emotion off of someone, that emotion almost "plays" their vibe, the same way you would play a music not on an instrument. I feel people best in closed areas, like rooms or places where there are walls, I guess less gets in and everything else gets bounced off the wall or something and it becomes more concentrated or something. I feel just about anything that is living and I feel things like card scanners or just about anything with an electromagnetic wave (Which is what makes me think that Empaths are feeling electromagnetic waves, another reason I want to hear about other people's experiences). I used to take on other people's emotions and feel them as if they were my own, but I no longer do that. Over time of really analyzing and attempting to understand "feeling" other people it's gotten a little better. However, other people's energy and emotions have a very real affect on me still. If someone is sad I will only be able to focus on that person being down and I will start feeling down from not being able to help them, or anger/ held-in anger will give me anxiety and I start to shake and panic. Walking through public is equally, if not more exhausting than before, but I'm still learning to handle it. (Shielding hasn't worked for me at all, and a bunch of other techniques I've tried have even made it worse before). 

     The vibe itself depends on the person. I list the common words I use to attempt to describe a vibe of someone. Heavy, light, bright, fuzzy, warm, tranquil, "up", "down", confusing, etc. (there's more, but those are the most common)

2. How someone has described your vibe.

     Now I mostly ask this question because after being able to feel people all day long, everyday, I always wonder what I "feel" like. I know how my family feels (not good at all, you can literally feel the selfishness and ego, it's horrible), but I don't know how I feel. I've been told that I lighten up a room, but that wasn't even from an energy sensitive person, and I think in that case it had to do more with the fact that I smile a lot. I have a feeling mine is very "low key" or not intense. I tend to accidentally sneak up on people almost everyday. I know that my vibe would be different from other Empath's vibe, but hopefully if there are some similarities among other Empath's I'll have a better idea of what my presence feels like to other people... I've felt something very unclear similar to a vibe during meditation before, but again I'm not sure if that's a vibe or if it was a very successful meditation where I cleared out other people's emotions. 

Thank you in advance for any comments or shared ideas!


updated by @loconnoro: 10/03/17 12:46:05PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/18/17 08:55:39PM
151 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

Thank you so much for the stories! I definitely get a weird feeling with couples, the moment I see them together I can tell if they'll make it or not or if it's a healthy relationship or who is trying the hardest in the relationship... it's just obvious to me, and it's really awkward to just sit in the intuitive hunches.

I had another time when I got a bad feeling about someone, a new coworker at my old job, and something felt really off and almost bad about him. My friend said "I think you would be good friends with him" and I of nodded and smiled but I knew there was something off. Skip to a month later and he stole a massive amount from the store and was lead out during my shift by a police escort (he was smiling and waving at us too...)

Another one I had which is super weird, was I would get a weird knowing anytime a person who I wasn't close to but would text me almost everyday, calling us "good friends" would think about texting me. She would have something to happen and I guess she would think about texting me or get some sort of emotion towards telling me about it and then she would just pop into my head. Once I caught on and began wondering I started recording and asking times that things would happen and the time she would pop in my head would match up around 5-20 minutes after she would have something happen. Then, I started texting her when she would pop in my head and she would almost always respond "omg I was just thinking/about to text you". I never liked her but she was an important person in my life, helping me learn a few important lessons.

There's more than these but those are just a few more. I love hearing what others experience! Thank you @tigerlily
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/18/17 08:42:22PM
151 posts

Question for Empaths


Empath

I'm sure humans affect it. I haven't thought much in the emotional/energetic side, but the human race in our actions, blinded by ego, ambition, and disrespect for how sacred life is has caused some issues. The earth has a path that's already set, since the creation of the universe, and humanity has hurt the earth and all living things, including ourselves for the majority of our existance. We pollute, destroy, and kill. I know I sound like I hate humanity, which is 50% true... I love all humans as indivuduals, but we always group ourselves up in every possible way and divide each other and choose who is better. We live by our ego and we've only gotten further from who we truely are. I believe that long ago, before humanity was so materialistic, all humans were more in touch with their intuition and being an empath was common.
So no to say the least I do believe humans are in some way linked to everything going on and this might even be natures way of balancing itself.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/13/17 11:13:57AM
151 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

Thank you for the comment! I will definitely look into all of that!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/13/17 07:17:27AM
151 posts

Other people's effect on Perception


Empath

@snap

I definitely agree with what you're saying. The reason I asked the question was because I would start mirroring people and I could tell it wasn't "me" or just a tiny "piece" of me for some people. It's annoying because once I realize it I just get really awkward... Thank you for the comment!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/12/17 07:48:46PM
151 posts

Geomagnetic Storm


Empath

oo thanks for sharing! I'm excited to see if I feel it or can pick up on it! 

(tricky business though, making sure I'm not projecting a feeling because I know something is happening...)

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/12/17 07:47:10PM
151 posts

Anyone else really sick with multiple sicknesses??? Unusually sick???


Empath

I've gotten a lot of pains lately, but I haven't caught anything in a long time, but I have to blame that on a strong immune system from a careful diet. I've been getting a lot of body aches but the world is always a mess tbh. I think the best thing for you would be to look into some natural remedies for those things and if they get worse go see a doctor. I love Natural Remedies because they strengthen your immune system to fight off intruders and helps your body help itself, instead of medicine which either takes your body out of the equation entirely and possibly even hurts it as well.

Regardless, best of luck with everything, I hope it all gets better!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/12/17 07:42:55PM
151 posts

Wind


Psychic and Paranormal

I love storms too. I usually get a weird headache from some of them, the back of my neck/head starts hurting and my eyes hurt, but once i get use to it I love the sound of rain and wind and distant thunder. I definitely see what you're saying about the feeling of a storm, it is a nice feeling. I love most weather for different reasons, but my favorite to fall asleep to is a nice summer storm.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/12/17 07:37:56PM
151 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

Hello everyone, I know that immediately the quotations around Psychic might seem odd or almost degrading, but I'm interested in ways to use my abilities to help other people. 

One of the biggest examples of me picking up on things that I don't understand would be this summer. I was working with a friend and I came in and he just seemed down. I don't know how else to explain in other than he was just down emotionally and I could feel it, like a sad. I was wondering but too anxious to ask him what was going on, but later when I was thinking about it I just had this weird thought/ intuitive feeling that he and his girlfriend broke up (this was a 3 year relationship and he's a very loyal person so it was hard for him to move on). He later confirmed that friday (this happened on a Wednesday) that his girlfriend and him kind of separated. First, he didn't mean to let that out, and he seemed really comfortable even after it came out with me knowing, even though he didn't want to share. It was awkward because I'm 2 years older, I was his manager and he's a senior in High School. (I hate that it was awkward and I would have loved to be friends with him outside the work place but the circumstances just made that inappropriate). Anyways, that wasn't the first time that something like that had happened, that was just the most recent example.

When I interact with people I don't really feel like I'm "me". I just disconnect and try to understand them completely, they might be talking about something but I'm figuring out different about them just by having a conversation... It's kind of scary because it's  easy for me to talk someone into something, which i've learned I really just need to look out and care about other's best interests because I could really hurt someone. Anyways, what's a healing type of thing I can do with these abilities. Feeling people's state of being is incredible (And ridiculously challenging to explain to others) but how can I use this to help? I'm already there for people when they need someone to talk to, but when I have some sort of insight into someone else's life, should I share it? (I have a friend dating a guy I don't like for her, there's nothing bad about him, they just don't seem good for each other in the long run and she gets very loyal, to the point she puts her best interest aside. He seems to close to himself to properly love someone, its an "I need you" rather than a "I love you" kind of thing, where he wants the best for her, he just wants her for himself....)

Anyways, any comments are greatly appreciated! Stories are also welcome, I love hearing about other people's intuitive experiences, or experiences about anything in general. Thank you!

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/11/17 04:47:25AM
151 posts

Other people's effect on Perception


Empath

Thank you for the response @zacharias. The biggest reason I wanted to post this was because i didn't like who I "became" and how I experience things around my family.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/11/17 04:45:27AM
151 posts

Other people's effect on Perception


Empath

Thank you @lastars I will look into all those things!
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
09/10/17 08:31:59PM
151 posts

Other people's effect on Perception


Empath

Hey everyone! I've been actively working to better understand myself and my body really since I found out I was an empath 2 years ago. I've been spending a lot of time alone and enjoying it, and recently I've noticed that when I go around certain people, like certain family members or friends, my perception changes. I might get a little more close-minded or I might start taking the world in a certain way or be more likely to take a side I wouldn't usually take on an issue. It's odd, and I can usually pick up on it now, but does anyone else do this or relate to it? It feels a little deeper than just "mirroring" someone or being a chameleon, but I do think it's closely related to those things. It literally feels like I take on the person or group of peoples "world view" to me. It's hard to explain... Any thoughts?
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/17/17 10:59:07AM
151 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

Thank you everyone for the replies, it stinks how hard it is to find genuin friends... and everyone is so close to their ego's
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/16/17 09:26:23PM
151 posts

Questions on being Psychic...


Psychic and Paranormal

I know, in my experience, that I'm not a psychic. I've come off as psychic to people before, but I don't identify with being a psychic at all. For me, I read people incredibly easily, I feel their energy, and I pay attention to what I mirror when I'm around them, and then I can put together things. It's scared multiple people in my life when I come out with an oddly specific question to their situation, and they have no idea how I got the information, but it's just obvious for me. 

Now on the other hand, I've started developing a really weird thing where when someone walks in with something going on, for example lung cancer, without knowing what is wrong, I will feel a pressure in my chest, or I pick up headaches from other people. It's very odd, and can be incredibly draining. Another thing that scared me originally was I feel pregnancies, the baby and the mother. I remember the first time I noticed it was when a teacher I knew suddenly "felt" different, her vibe was just different, and then I was asking myself "why" and all the sudden I got the urge to ask her if she was pregnant. Of course I didn't do it at the time, I thought I was going crazy and it can be really offensive to ask a woman if she's pregnant (especially if she's not)... but 3 weeks later she made an announcement that she was (and she hadn't been showing all that time). 

Does anyone else experience things like that? I still don't feel like I'm "psychic" but when I watch other people who identify as a psychic, it confuses me because I've picked up on some crazy things...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/16/17 09:16:30PM
151 posts

Long post... But does anyone Relate?


Empath

So I'll start off my saying I've been really trying to understand this entire "Empath Experience", if you will. My mind has a ridiculously rigid and scientific side that has to understand everything inside and out, and it can't have any loose ends when it comes to learning things. Recently, as I've been trying to understand my abilities, I've also been trying to increase my intuition and really get in touch with it, and I realized it goes hand-in-hand with my knowledge. It's like the bigger the library I provide it, more it speaks to me. With all this being said I feel like my abilities have grown some, and in some ways I've been able to get a little bit more of a handle on the experience overall... I still struggle immensely with picking up people's emotions, and bad energy seems to affect me more now as well. 

But on from that overview of what I've been focusing on in regards to being an empath, I've been making a few new "true" friends, friends that I have a really deep and meaningful relationship. I have two people that come to mind when I think about this, but both didn't know how to process my being an Empath. They both recognized weird things like how strong my senses are or how I do weird things like know when they're approaching me, or I've even come off as psychic at times (I'm just really good at reading into people, and then sometimes I've been surprised myself at some information I've gotten), but then when I decided to tell them that I was this thing called an Empath, one just kinda brushed it off (like an eye roll) and then pulled away (This person I'm not concerned about keeping in my life, they didn't stress me out at all). But the other friend (very smart, but very science based and modern world brained) just seems confused. The second friend, I'm concerned about because he and I had a really relationship with great conversations about things, which I never find. We kind of bonded over science and nerdy things like that, and other deep conversations just about anything, and he always seemed amazed by how much "stuff" I know. I am gifted in most sciences, especially biology and anything related to the human body, and he would say I should meet his other friend that is apparently a genius or something. But Last Sunday I talked to him about being an Empath, and specifically "Clairsentient", and I'm not sure how he took it. He seemed very open minded while we talked about it, but he's also seemed a little more distant. I couldn't be completely honest about the extent of what it means for me to be an Empath, but I did talk about "feeling" people. I'm concerned because we were headed to be good friends and I'm scared I chased away a guy who thought a well of me, but now he might literally think I'm crazy. I'm just glad I never let him know how well I read people. He and his girlfriend took some space and it upset him, and I knew about it 4 days before he actually brought it up because when we spoke I noticed something was off and figured it out. It's even harder because I literally feel the distance between us now and this happens with anyone I'm around or talk to about these things. You can feel when people look at you differently or think of you in a different way than before. It really stinks. I'm so glad I didn't talk about being able to feel the energy of trees in the same way I feel it for people. Sorry this was a rant, but I'm just really struggling to find genuine friends and lately it's honestly been getting to me...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/17 07:21:04PM
151 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

I'm looking through all the responses and I HIGHLY recommend people looking into the signs of being a medium, and I don't mean this in a way meaning you should let other entities inhabit your body or actively talk with the dead, no. I just mean this as in you're extremely sensitive to energies, from seem and the unseen, so it makes sense that you are more sensitive to spirits and entities as well.

But yeah I love night time, it's where I'm alone, all the people are asleep (usually) and I'm the most awake and most myself. It's a beautiful time for me, although it takes a toll on my day life.
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
08/12/17 07:14:34PM
151 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

1. Yes, my internal clock is incredibly weird, I usually wake with the sun (6-7am) but I'll fall asleep anywhere from 11-3 in the morning. All though some random nights, usually very rare for me, I'll fall asleep at around 7 or sometime extremely early.
2. Yes

This reminded me of traits of a Medium. I know I feel other entities that aren't necessarily present in the physical world, especially so at night or when I'm alone.
But yes, I struggle with sleep. And it gets annoying when I'm burnt out like I currently am and I get plenty of sleep and all I want to do is sleep (it's been 5 days now)
updated by @loconnoro: 08/12/17 07:22:18PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/31/17 03:35:07PM
151 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

For me it's something more than their eyes, it's all sorts things from body movements to the way their voice sounds to their eyes and especially their "vibe" or energy or whatever it is. I've second guessed it so manytimes and every time I regret it. I'll get a feeling about someone and then someone else will see something entirely different and my feeling will usually be right. Or I'll feel bad about judging them or something and end up regretting not listening to my intuition. It's crazy lol, but energy and vibes play the biggest role for me tbh..
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/02/17 06:41:57PM
151 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

wow that's crazy... It seems like we're in the same boat haha @bunnigirl

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
07/01/17 08:11:30AM
151 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

Hello everyone, it's be a while since I've been on. My brother went to Marine boot camp for 3 months and had a successful time there, but since he's been back (2 days now) my body has been incredibly tired. I haven't done anything to exhaust myself like this, and I know he's extremely tired right now. Is there anything I can do to at least help myself with this? I go to work and nearly fall asleep because my body is so slow and tired, not to mention I keep having these high anxiety and panic moments. He is my Twin brother if that has anything to do with it... he's tired for sure, and I was getting these anxiety moments while he was doing his Crucible and then again when he was graduating (he gets social anxiety and I'm sure it was emotional)
Any advice please!? Thanks in advance!!
updated by @loconnoro: 07/01/17 08:13:29AM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/29/17 09:15:14AM
151 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

I enjoy the TV show the good witch... that's all I can think of like that though haha

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/15/17 09:04:13PM
151 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Thank you @hop-daddy , I did decide to stay at everything and it is all working out better now. I look forward to the day I can move out though, my family is horribly disorganized and I'm the one who cooks, cleans, everything. It's alright though, I do feel like I'm developing myself more so I'll push on until I feel led to take a different path. Thanks again everyone for the comments.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/13/17 04:06:56PM
151 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Thank you @womanwhowalks and @jonig both for your responses, I appreciate them

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/12/17 09:58:23AM
151 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I call out people I'm close to or enjoy in my life. Really the only time I call it out with people is if it hurts someone else in some way or if they're building themselves up over it, like an ego thing. I usually avoid directly calling people out about it but I do have a total and obvious mood change when someone starts lying to me. My family lies all the time and I am currently working extremely hard at not exaggerating or lying, I do blame where I come from for how much I'm urged to just tell a story even to make someone laugh or something... but ultimately it's my fault if I decide to do it. Luckily I've stopped almost completely, it's hard lol I hate that I ever started this awful habit...
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/11/17 08:15:33PM
151 posts

Agh.. this will be a little crazy about my life right now...


Empath

Alright, so, I'm going to explain everything that's going on for context about this question and then get to my question...

So I'm a College student, I live at home, I have a job as a pool manager. My home environment has never been a good one, my parents don't get along, everyone is always yelling (brothers and parents), and anytime I make an appearance everything sorta shifts to me, first to "fix" whats going on, and when I don't, to yell at me instead... I don't think My family realizes they do this, but anytime I come around in the wrong moment everyone turns to me and I just end up getting yelled at and harsh words are thrown. Its beyond exhausting. This happened especially harshly this morning.

Then I got to work and I was already off my game from dealing with my family this morning. It turned out alright throughout the day but after I left a ton of problems happened with the next guard. The HOA of this pool didn't properly notify everyone in the neighborhood that they switched security systems so everyone would need new key-bobs, so now around half the residents don't have working key-bobs to access the pool they pay a lot of money to use. The guards and I have been consistently yelled at on a regular basis about this. Tonight someone jumped the fence when a different guard was working, and she called me hysterical about the whole issue and another thing that happened that night. Then, I, as the pool manager, got yelled at about since the guard didn't call 911 and I didn't have someone else working (I had everything they asked for, they're just playing the blame game at this point). I got a very angry phone call from an HOA member, who was yelling at me about everything, on top of being back home in this toxic environment. 

Now to the question... I've experienced an overload of emotions from other people, but I was always in an okay spot underneath it all... Now I'm a complete mess with emotions of anger and frustration, I'm ready to go off on this HOA which is not like me, I don't go off on people, and I'm so overloaded with emotion I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted both physically from working for this pool for at least 7 hours a day, my school has me drained mentally from a speech and massive midterm I'm trying to understand (I'm teaching myself currently, college professors... smh) and now I am completely out of control of all my emotions. I can usually keep myself from showing emotions, but as this guard was telling me everything going on I could pick up on her panicking and anxiety and she was ready to cry, and I literally had tears coming out of my eyes while I was trying to calm her down and help her out over the phone... and even now I'm bringing back these emotions that aren't mine and usually I can let go of, but now I genuinely feel bipolar. I'm angry and extremely frustrated and anxious.... but I'm experiencing a ton of other emotions from my family, the guard, the HOA member, A LOT of people. I can't release it like I usually do. I'm not a quitter but I'm about to quit my job and hopefully get a better paying job and try to move out. I need a therapist...

Anyways, any advice on relaxing in hectic situations, similar stories, thoughts... anything??? 


updated by @loconnoro: 10/18/17 03:25:17PM
LoconnorO
@loconnoro
06/09/17 07:37:34PM
151 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

I definitely relate to this. I feel like a lot of times I am often a designated listener in some people's lives. Many times they don't even like my advice, and they get mad if I try to share a different perspective. It's exhausting and I honestly don't know how to handle it. I've become so picky with who I even allow myself to talk to that much because I don't want more people pulling doing this to me. I'm usually indifferent to it, but lately it's really gotten to me...

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/26/17 03:45:08PM
151 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

Going off of names that look and seem familiar, I think it was one of these three;

Agaliarept, Armaros, or Aeshma

I hope it's alright to write them... Lol I know nothing about Demonology or anything... I don't even believe in how the Bible is taught in modern day. I believe in Jesus and things he said, but a lot of the bible I really question... I love studying Buddhism and I'm slowly going through as many different religions as I can in this lifetime and really trying to understand them all.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/26/17 03:09:45PM
151 posts

Talking Weird Stuff


Psychic and Paranormal

I just found this and I'm definitely going to read through it all, but I remember one time being scared of my house being haunted (something just didn't feel right) and I remember asking myself out loud "what is in this house?" just after thinking on it forever, and then I got this really bad and awful feeling so I went downstairs and when I came back maybe an hour later my laptop was on my desk, and open to a google search page of a specific demon...? I need to go back and find the name of that because I still feel like my house is awful, but as a 15 year old I remember I just got so freaked out I slept downstairs with a bible on my chest xD. It's usually in my room or closet area or my parents closet or bathroom (my closet area is directly above their bathroom and closet). I feel it strongest in their closet and bathroom... I burnt sage about a month ago and since I have felt that feeling come back. The only other thing was one night I was literally yanked out of a dream, I was dreaming and I felt like my foot was pulled on and then when I woke up my knee down was hanging off the bed and out from under the blanket (it was winter so it wasn't like I had done that on purpose).  Another thing was years and years ago I thought I saw something in my little brothers room, something living, and then all the sudden his door slammed. He wasn't home at that time... and then I think it was a few weeks before that, he walked up the stairs and yelled into his room "What are you doing" and then slammed the door behind himself, he was around 8 then...

Before I answered this post these things were always something I had tried to forget but now I'm realizing I should probably look into this. I've never felt safe at home, and I guess this has to do with it..?

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/24/17 01:24:27PM
151 posts

A question to male Empaths


Empath

Agh, this is a tough one. I should probably start off by saying I am gay, which immediately brings tons of stereotypes into the mix, but I'm not very feminine. I'm a mix honestly. Growing up I was definitely more feminine, but a while ago I noticed I'm slowly becoming more masculine, especially as I hang out with more guys. I'm kind of balancing out now, I'm not super masculine and I'm not super feminine. People are literally confused when they meet me, especially lately. I have an "average male voice" i guess you could say. I don't act or seem flamboyant or act to talk feminine, but I get people telling me often that I am "definitely in touch with my feminine side". But I've also been told that's a huge turn on to girls. 

I'm assuming this came up from being a little self-conscious about it, I was too, I grew up in a christian conservative home who were very against homosexuality and I thought I was extremely obvious. Really, if you are self-conscious about it, don't worry. Depending on how young you are, you could almost change/ grow into a more masculine version of yourself. You're a dude, regardless of how you "act". Some tips if you do want to feel a little more masculine, would be work out. That's by far the biggest piece of advice I could offer. It's uncomfortable for the first week or two, but it gets much better. That will actually increase testosterone. Another huge thing would be jsut get comfortable with yourself, inside and out. Confidence is one of the most attractive things to anyone, and it can be especially hard when you don't want to seem feminine, I know I've been there. The last thing would just make sure you eat a rounded and healthy diet, and get plenty of sleep and rest/ relaxation time. 

All in all, I am definitely in touch with my feminine side, but I'm not "feminine" if that makes sense. Most people are surprised when I do tell them I'm gay.

LoconnorO
@loconnoro
05/22/17 07:35:10PM
151 posts

Any Advice On Overcoming Bad Luck?


Empath

I love what @jonig said. I found that I tend to give good advice and I began to question why I would go to other people when times got rough or complain about it to others. I started writing things down in a journal, just thoughts and things, and I would be completely open and honest, no restraints.

Another thing I do is make sure I've come to terms with my past. I used to have a massive amount of memories that would haunt me that would come back and I couldn't get rid of, and I learned that I had to face those memories, most of the time where I didn't forgive myself for something, and I would tell myself to "let go" of the emotion and guilt and hate, and replay it until I wasn't uncomfortable "watching" it anymore. I do that naturally, anytime I have a haunting thought or anything that is extremely uncomfortable. It has to be organic, and understand why that thought came to you in the first place as well. This is a little off topic but it could help your overall peace of mind.

The last thing I can think of is taking time in nature alone. Go to a garden or the beach or somewhere and get away from everything. One problem I have is mirroring, and I think most of us Empaths have this as well. It's where you show what others want to see, for the sake of harmony in any given situation. That and other people's energy and emotions will overload you. I know times where I'll be with people and I'll start saying things or something to go along with the conversation, but then I'd question myself about it or why I was talking so much or anything, it wasn't even true to who I was. I highly recommend getting away to nature and getting close to nature, really feel it and the emotions it gives you. I've found that through really grounding myself in experiencing a moment in nature and focusing on what it feels like to me and how I feel inside from it, I in turn get closer to myself. It's helped me to stay positive and be in an overall better state of mind. 

I don't want to sound preachy or sound like I'm attacking or anything, but I have genuinely found that when I want to complain about something, it helps me tremendously to list of things I'm grateful for in the moment instead. It keeps me in a better mood, a better place, and I almost feel like I "shine" because people notice when you get to that place. You'll walk in a room and people look at you differently in a very good way, its a contagious smile and it just feels great.

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