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Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
07/31/14 07:47:49AM
86 posts

the same problems


Empath

When I get down on myself for thinking that I am somehow not good enough, fast enough, or that I have not learned enough, I always remember the saying, "Life is a journey, not a destination." We are exactly where we are suppose to be at all times AND we will always be given what we need when we are ready.

I will bet that you are doing wonderfully and that it is just ego giving you these self-doubts. Anyone who is doing ANY sort of Inner work gets gold stars from me. Congratulations. Pat yourself on the back for loving yourself enough to recognize that doing this is not only a benefit for self but is something that helps us all.

Sending you lots of praise and love your way!

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
07/30/14 10:55:48AM
86 posts

the same problems


Empath

When we are born, we come into this world with an agenda of lessons that remain with us until we have chosen to become their master. When you see conflicts/problems/people with the same kinds of problems, pay attention to them. Even though the people, places and events may be different, the battles are always about the same thing. These related conflicts are unlearned lessons from the Universe and until realized, will continue to be a source of trouble for you. As each person is unique, so too are the lessons.

What is a lesson? A lesson is a task and/or exercise that a student discovers and practices within a given time period. Spiritual lessons are also assignments; call it literal homework that deals with ideas, actions, and behaviors. And like the basic definition of a lesson, a spiritual lesson has a given time period in which to attain-our lifetime.

Take some time, meditate and figure out what lesson you need to learn regarding these situations. Sexual problems stem from lack of control, wanting control and not having it or fear of taking control of your life. Where in your life do you feel out of control? Take charge of your life, learn the lesson and your life will become manageable.

Don't forget that you are not alone in this. Ask for heavenly help from your Higher Power and especially from your angels. You are courageous and powerful! You can do this! I am sending you lots of love and positive energy for your journey.

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
06/22/14 06:44:59PM
86 posts



Who of us fits the "one-size-fits-all criteria? No one. Why? Because we are all individuals. This said, being an empath also means that none of us are the same, can do the same things or can think the same way. Words like logical and practical are just traits of your personality, one of those things that sociologists like to argue about-nature vs nurture. Being an empath is who you are. You are born this way and it is something that nature vs nurture cannot change.

Questions? Ask away because people here are very knowledgeable and helpful. You are most welcomed here!

-janett-


updated by @janett-niemi: 03/01/17 07:03:15PM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
06/08/14 11:05:42AM
86 posts

Reoccurring dreams


Dreams

This dream is a fear-based dream. You are afraid of moving on or away from old beliefs/ ways of doing things, old relationships. You want to get out of this pattern of life, but keep repeating the same cycle. i.e. You are going in circles.

DREAM: Starts with a man (assertive/aggressive side of self) with a chainsaw (symbolizes cutting/pruning areas of life that need to be thinned out in order to make room for fresh growth) who is a murderer (again, killing off beliefs or behaviors that are no longer needed) You tell everyone to run (running away from a situation or something that you are not yet ready to see) You get locked up in a garage (a place of safety) and are injected and put to sleep (unwillingness to see or change anything-stagnation)

You wake up and scream for help (when you ask for help, it is ALWAYS given from the angelic realm) You feel safe again. Once home,though, you realize that you have lost your Mother (nurturing side of self, the wise woman who dwells inside you) You don't want to lose that part of self, so you go looking for it, but the bad man is back (starting your cycle of fear again)

I suggest that you take some time and decide what it is or where it is that you want to be/do. Once you make a decision (or even if you can't make a decision) meditate/pray and ask for guidance. This dream is telling you that you are desperately wanting to do/be something else, but lack either the skills or will power to move beyond where you are today.

Sending you lots of love. I know that you can do this!

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
06/04/14 08:14:06AM
86 posts

Reoccurring dreams


Dreams

Interpreting dreams is a very personal thing. First know that God/your subconscious mind/The Universe (plug in your name for your Higher Power) uses dreams to help us find answers to life's problems. He/She uses "symbols" (in not only dreams, but in life too) to talk to us. Finding a good symbol book can be trying, but my favorite book is by Denise Linn, The Secret language of signs.

With that said, using symbols is an art and with all new things, it takes time to learn it. I find that the easiest way to figure out dreams is to just follow your emotions. How were you feeling when "this" happened in the dream? Was it envy, fear, love? Since dreams usually parallel our living world, look to your life and see where you have been feeling envy, fear, love?

Next, examine how the dream ended. What emotion were you feeling? Then, plug that emotion into your waking world and you have a solution to a living problem. Another small item-if you have reoccurring dreams, then whatever the Universe is trying to tell you is not getting through. What do humans do when they feel that no one is listening? We yell! This is how nightmares happen. The Universe is going to great lengths to get your attention about something. If you are having difficulty figuring it out, send me the dream (as much of the dream as you can remember-I know that we lose much once we awaken) and I will help you.

Sending you good vibes...

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
05/04/14 07:10:48PM
86 posts



It sounds like you are doing all the right things, BUT...you are destroying what good you are doing by chastising yourself, putting yourself down. You feel that you are not moving ahead quickly enough when in reality, you have all the time in your life to learn. I suggest that you ponder this phrase....."Love is the answer." It is the answer to almost any question, especially self love. The Universe isn't nagging you about spiritual progress but is instead asking you to turn inward and love yourself.

I sound glib, as if I have all the answers, but the bottom line is that I have struggled with self love my entire life. Maybe that is why I recognize it so easily in you.

How to begin to fix this? Start by listening to yourself, mentally as well as verbally. Once you hear yourself mutter/think something derogatory about yourself, say Cancel, Cancel, Cancel. You can say this out loud or just say it internally. Just keep doing this and it won't be long before you will begin to stop yourself before it happens. This exercise is making you aware of how easily we put ourselves down.

As you do this exercise, begin to watch yourself and if you find that you are doing something, EVEN something small, that is good or good for your mental health, pat yourself on the back for it, acknowledge it. You can even buy yourself small gifts to show yourself gratitude. (Take yourself out for a good cup of coffee or an ice cream cone-show yourself a little love!) We give compliments to others, but rarely tell ourselves that we are good or that we have succeeded at doing something well.

Try these things and keep me posted on your progress. Don't push yourself, just be, live in love, in self-love. You deserve to be loved!

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
05/04/14 08:39:08AM
86 posts



The Universe (Higher Power) is always guiding us, helping us by sending us signs through various mediums. It draws on the events in our life, people/pets, our things i.e. cars/houses, and it especially likes to send us signals in our dreams to help guide us. In this case, the Universe is using your dog as a way of pointing out what is happening in your life right now.

You lost your dog. 1. A dog represents loyalty, friendship, masculine part of self, assertiveness. 2. To lose something is a reflection on you-a loss of who you are, or loss of your purpose, direction or where you are going. In your real life, something is going on where you feel lost, whether it is in a friendship, (even a friendship with self) or a loss of direction in where you are or are going in life,

You dream is just an expansion on what you are feeling in life. In the dream you are the "dog." It says that you are "ok" but something or someone has shaken your foundation/beliefs (legs are the body's support system or your means of staying grounded) You don't know what to do/where to go and are feeling "lost."

First off, relax and be gentle with self. Know that you are loved by the Universe and that it is just trying to help you find your way. Try meditating, go within and find a balance. Use prayer-ask for guidance and clarify-all prayers are answered.

I am sending you love and praying that you find your dog (your physical "dog" as well as your mental "dog")

-janett-

(As far as finding your dog, I would ask neighbors, post signs, go to the shelters, ask vets, post a notice in your newspaper. )

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
02/16/14 09:29:21AM
86 posts



Male dogs like to mark their territory. I have a big border collie and a little chihuahua, both males, and one will pee and the other will follow behind and pee right where he peed. This is okay if they are outside, but I can't bring them into the house together, not unless I want to watch them like hawks!

If you previously had another dog in that house, the puppy may just be smelling the other dog and marking his own scent. I would get soap and water and wash everything the dog can reach and then go to the store and get a can of "No." (I'm not sure, but it is something like that. Says for puppy training. Dogs don't like the smell and will not pee there) Or you can mix some vinegar, dish soap and water and spray where the dog pees. Most animals do not like the smell of vinegar, so they will try and stay away from it.

You are probably right, though about all the emotions in the house. He is just not sure of his place, so follow him as much as you can when he is in the house and you might try crating him when you leave. Get a dog grate, one his size, and grate him when you are not with him. They will not mark where they sleep. This will help also.

Sending you love and patience.

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
02/04/14 01:41:35PM
86 posts



Wow. What a beautiful story. Animals are simply amazing.
I had a similar experience with my Akita.(all 100 pounds of him) Quincy got very sick and the vet said that there was nothing else to be done. A couple of days later I knew that I needed to let him go,(take him to the vet and have him put to sleep) but he had not been on his feet for days, and there was no way I could lift him! I just happened to look outside and there he was walking down the sidewalk! The guy was on his death bed, but he seemed to understand and was saying to me, "Don't worry. I'll help you." We walked to the vet, he got a shot and while resting his head on my lap, he slowly went away. 100 pounds of pure love....

The connection I felt was amazing but I never gave up hoping that I could have that experience again. I have had other dogs since Quincy, but none that special until 2 years ago, when I came across a family of 10 pups. The puppies were cute, but one just stood out. I took him home and he immediately bonded with my other 2 dogs as if he had always belonged here. That night his name came to me in a dream, "Eli" (From the old ong, "Eli's a'coming, better hide your heart, girl!") He is different from Quincy, but still so special.

What I am saying is to not give up. You can still experience this special bond, this love. You just have to open your heart, and then watch out, Cause like me, your love is a'coming. Better hide your heart, girl!"
love to you...
-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
01/15/14 10:45:56AM
86 posts

Breaking up


Empath

Karen:

Chuck said it very well.

Even though Empaths are about helping others, sometimes we need to sit back and ask, "This is my life. What do I need to do to best serve myself?"

I am sending you love and courage to do the right thing-for you!

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
12/18/13 05:29:56PM
86 posts



Welcome to the site. I'm sorry that you experienced unpleasant vibes in the chat room, but I think that you will find most of the people on this site are truly kind, supportive and helpful.

I believe learning some basic empath techniques will help you to block incoming negativity, energy suckers. Check out the different links on this site, especially the Empath Survival Program. Learn how to be an Empath in a sometimes "gimme" world, where everyone wants a part of your energy.

I want to share with you several techniques that I use daily. I hope that they will work for you, too.

1. Wash your hands...sounds crazy, but washing helps to remove energy that is not your own.

2. Learn to breathe. After being with someone, take in a breath and imagine that you are pulling back your energy from them. Attached to your back, is a grounding cord. Imagine your breath coming in and then going out through this cord. Sounds time consuming, but once you get used to it, it can be done in an instant.

3. Learn to meditate. Meditation doesn't have to be time consuming-expanding #2 into several breaths can be meditation. It is amazing what something that small can do for the body. Of course a deep meditation works wonders!

4. Another techniques is, "Tapping." It is a variation of acupuncture. In essence, you tap with your fingers on various meridian points in the body while talking about whatever is bothering you, all of which helps to unblock the negative energy, past feelings, hurts, struggles that are stored in the body. I would start with http://www.thetappingsolution.com Lots of free instructions, information and almost anything that you may need to get started.

It is great that you recognize that compassion and insight are important to who you are. These new skills can help you to embrace and love who you are, a compassionate, loving Empath.

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
11/14/13 10:59:03AM
86 posts



It sounds like you know what to do, but are second guessing yourself. You are right, that it is time to get back to basics and take some "me" time, time to learn who and what you are. Like most of us, you have spent your entire life doing for others, listening to what others have to say, helping them with their life, but forgetting that you have (or should have) a life, too.

How do you do that? First, tell yourself that you are more important than anyone else....YES, you are MORE important than anyone else in this world. I know that is hard to accept-who of us hasn't been told that to put ourselves before others is wrong, that we are on some kind of ego trip, but just keep telling yourself that it is time, it is YOUR TIME to be number 1!.

Second, since you have spent so much of your life helping others, you probably have no idea who or what you are. To start, try answering these questions: "What am I?" What do I like to do, what do I excel at? What do I find joyful in life? and most importantly, What truly makes me happy? By asking, meditating and then journaling your answers you will begin to find a focus, a place to start. It is the getting started that seems overwhelming.

You see, what you like to do, what you excel at, what brings you joy are your gifts from your Higher power. Everyone has gifts, all different, yet similar. (What are gifts? Anything that you like/love to do. Looks like you have discovered painting. GREAT! What else do you like to do? ) When you explore your gifts (my suggestion is to play with each one, challenge yourself to become better at them, have fun with them) you are sending out vibes to your Higher power that you want MORE of this, more time with it, more fun with it, and finally more inspiration from it. It is from this new point that your life is clearer, and you will find yourself focused. Things will start to make sense and it will feel like your life has finally "clicked."

I would also check out the links above, especially the Empath Survival Program. Learn how to be an Empath in a sometimes "gimme" world, where everyone wants a part of your energy.

ALWAYS, Always remember to have fun, play and be happy. Your Higher power wants nothing more from you than for you to be happy-to be love.

I am sending you lots of love and positive energy on your new adventure....

-janett-


updated by @janett-niemi: 01/21/17 08:44:13AM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
11/06/13 08:09:09AM
86 posts

Being in the company of angels


Psychic and Paranormal

We are never alone-none of us-ever. We are surrounded by angels, who help, guide, prod, inspire, protect, comfort and sometimes nag us. No one angel is closer to specific humans, more so than others-they aren't picky or fickle. (in other words, don't assign human nature to angels. They are God's workers, with God's ego-hence all love) That said, it is when a human realizes that he is not alone does this bond grow-so it only seems like specific humans are closer. OR to steal words from The Polar Express, "Believing is seeing."

We always have our guardian angels with us (assigned to us since birth) but if we need specific help, an angel or angels will be there immediately. OR, we can just call on a specific angel. If you need help with "mercy," call on Zadkiel, "wisdom," Uriel, "joy," Haniel, "healing," Raphael or even "strength," call on Michael, though it isn't important that you remember their names. Just whisper a prayer "Hey, I need help with...." and one will show up.

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
10/30/13 06:18:33PM
86 posts



That is an interesting observation. As Empaths, we feel everything in everybody. Since there is a huge populace of folks not believing in themselves or that they deserve almost anything, it goes to demonstrate that we get more of a dosage of "I'm not good enough," than most.

Great insight....though, now that it is out in the open, use this knowledge to overcome any limitations of deserving. Know that you are worthy and that you are special. In 3 short paragraphs, you have demonstrated insightful knowledge, a willingness to clear blocks by meditating and the gift of wonder, in that you are eager to learn more. You are off to a wonderful start. Just keep looking and learning. I have great faith in you.

-janett-


updated by @janett-niemi: 01/20/17 03:25:46AM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
10/27/13 08:51:36AM
86 posts

Being a Healer and where to start..


Healers

Yes, I too have had people just "assume" that I am a nurse, a healer, though professionally that is almost laughable. Since I have always worked in business, I will be the first to say that it can be a very cutthroat endeavor. (I never was, but there were those in my company who could be very competitive!)

There are lots of ways to "heal." I agree that touch is a very important to the human body and can be a great outlet for us healers. But, you can also "heal" with your writings. I am a writer which is one of the ways that I "heal," and being a writer I find myself being drawn to those who also have a knack for the written word. I was impressed with your narrative-it was to the point, concise yet it flowed with loving emotion. Those of us who have this ability, usually have no idea that it is a gift and as in all gifts, it was given to us to help others.

I am sending you lots of loving energy on this quest...

-janett-

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/22/13 08:21:41AM
86 posts



Wow. I usually don't like anything but prose, but this hit a cord with me. I realize that this is a representation of life, but being a writer myself, these are my feelings, fears, hopes, dreams...

Thanks for sharing!

-janett-


updated by @janett-niemi: 01/20/17 01:30:24PM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/20/13 02:58:04PM
86 posts

The Chatter is never ending...


Tools for Empaths

You are welcome.

Lately when I have gone to my secret garden, I have encountered my inner child, the child that has always wanted to do, to have, to be...fill in the blank. We spend time together, walking, talking, being together and this has helped me resolve many of my "hidden" agendas, in the safe, magical environment of my imagination.

Try it and see what magic comes up for you! Wishing you well on your journey....

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/20/13 08:49:21AM
86 posts

saging


Tools for Empaths

I once did a cleansing/smudging with just incense sticks. The house was miles from any "store" so I just used what I could find. It proved to be quite an emotional experience for my daughters and I. The house held such negative vibes that at one point, I broke down crying. Something quite awful had happened in that room, but we were able to clear it out with just the incense. I think smudging is like almost anything-it is all in the energy. We had powerful, determined energy (it was my daughter's first house and she was determined to live in it with her family in peaceful harmony)

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/17/13 08:43:42AM
86 posts



Glad to meet you, I'm Janett. I'm 62 years old, but only learned that I had a name, Empath, a year ago. Of course I knew that I was "different," (my entire life I knew that I was different!) but I didn't know that I had a name or that there are others out there like me, and I find this knowledge very comforting. I have found this community of people here at this site, wonderful, supportive, helpful, only wanting what is best for you-your highest good.

Make use of us, because collectively, we know a lot and we just want to share it with you-so don't be afraid to ask. Take advantage of all the "goodies" that this site has to offer. The more that you learn about being an Empath, the easier the world will be, the easier your life will be.

Welcome!


updated by @janett-niemi: 03/19/17 04:25:23AM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/13/13 10:09:43AM
86 posts

Animals and Spirit Guides


Animal Empaths

That is incredible! I love these kinds of things!

While waiting in line at a self-cleaning car wash, I had a crow land on the side mirror of my car. He looked at me and looked in the mirror, switching from the mirror to me and finally flying off.

After taking a breath (I was afraid to breath because I didn't want to scare the crow away) I realized that it fit what was going on in my life-I needed to take a good look at my myself (crow looking at me) reflect (crow looking at the mirror) and then wash away (the car wash) anything that I didn't need anymore.

Another pretty cool sign from the Universe. Crows are shamans sent from the other realm.

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
09/06/13 07:42:29AM
86 posts

New to Group, need advice.


Empath

It is quite a struggle to remain positive in a negative world and since negative people are naturally drawn to Empaths, it is doubly harder for us. I have several techniques that I use daily that help me to remain focused on the one thing that is most important, love.

One of these techniques is, "Tapping." It is a variation of acupuncture, a way to address physical and emotional ailments but without using needles. In essence, you tap with your fingers on various meridian points in the body while talking about what it is that you hope to accomplish, speaking positive affirmations, all of which helps to unblock the negative energy, past feelings, hurts, struggles that are stored in the body. There are tons of sites out there that talk about tapping, but my suggestion is to start with Nick Ortner website, http://www.thetappingsolution.com He has lots of free instructions, information and almost anything that you may need to get started.

No, I am not getting paid to endorse him or anyone else. I am exactly like you, living the life of an Empath, and anything that I can find that helps me and others find peace (preferably simple and painless) I am in! Let us know if this helps you.

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
07/30/13 06:00:44PM
86 posts



Wow. Did you jaw drop when you saw that?

Everything in the world (The Universe, God, Higher power...whatever you call it) is always talking to us, sending us messages and it is our responsibility to listen to the messages. A dead squirrel is a huge message, though I'm just guessing what that would be. To drop dead right in front of you, wow. According to Denise Linn, a well known sacred author, the sign of a squirrel "pertains to frugality and of comfort through patience. The squirrel gathers nuts for winter. This sign can be telling you to make preparations for leaner times in life by stockpiling your energy or creating a reserve of energy within yourself. Be prepared. "

It sounds like an omen for you, that something in your life will end quickly (an emotion, idea, relationship, belief) and even though it ends quickly, you will not care or get emotional when it passes. It will not be expected, though not missed when it ends.

Signs can be vague and only the person who receives the sign can properly interpret it. I just hope that I was able to send you looking in the right direction. Sending you my best wishes....


updated by @janett-niemi: 01/08/17 04:53:25PM
Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
05/28/13 08:12:51AM
86 posts

The Chatter is never ending...


Tools for Empaths

Well said. I agree, but I was running out of room to go into the other ways, yet still make an impact. It is interesting to note that meditation is a learned experience and as such, is something that needs to be practiced often to get the full benefit from it. Like you said, just keep practicing and coming back because it is the process and intent that sets the stage towards personal joy.

One of the easiest ways to work up to "mindfulness meditation" is to use an affirmation. Repeat a word or a saying, something that you want to be or to see in your life, while meditating. To live a positive life the mind must be fed positive thoughts, so choose words like, "Excitement, Happiness, Joy, Magic" and use phrases like, "I am filled with the light of God", or simply, "I love myself."

In a hurry, but desperately need to relax? There is what I call a "quickie," where you find some place so as not to be disturbed (a quiet room or even a bathroom and lock the door) sit quietly, block out the world and focus your attention on your breathing. Do this for a few minutes and surprisingly you will find your blood pressure dropping, your respiration rate reduced and stress can be put a bay in a matter of minutes.

This is another easy one to practice, "focused awareness meditation" where you focus all your attention on an object such as a candle, lamp, book while breathing deeply. You can do this lying down, at work just about anywhere. I like to do it when I am out for a walk. I find something in the distance, begin focusing on it and do my breathing exercises. It is interesting at how relaxed or what insights you can get from something so simple.

Then there is "Transcendental Meditation" or TM, often referred to as the "state of consciousness." a form of meditation where the brain relaxes as it transcends into a state of peaceful awareness. The mind falls into a state of inner peace by experiencing the unified field, or a physical area of peace.

As SnakeMedicine said, don't give up on something just because it seems hard at first. The benefits from a mindfulness meditation are enormous, insights that are jaw dropping and relaxation like you have never felt before. Still with that all said, you must do what is comfortable for you and if 'story telling' (known as "mental visualization") works, then by all means keep doing it. Just know that you can do that while still practicing and getting better at other forms.

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
05/26/13 08:58:23AM
86 posts

The Chatter is never ending...


Tools for Empaths

We are told that the point of meditation is to create a blank screen in your mind and it is only through this vacuum that the Universe can work. OK, this might be true for some, but it may also be the reason why so many give up. When I first meditated, I tried, didnt succeed, felt I had failed and who wants to be a failure?

The reality is that the mind is ALWAYS thinking, talking, plotting. Once you accept this, your battle is 1/2 over. Yes, there are those who are able to block out the world, but it takes time to learn, so why not try another way of meditating yet still achieve relaxation and clarity?

My favorite way is what I call Story Telling. I initiate all meditations by breathing in deeply, starting with my feet, working upwards, relaxing the muscles and when I feel that I am totally relaxed, I begin my story. I have a secret garden in my mind, a place where only I can access. I enter my garden and allow all my senses to activate-smells, sounds, sights etc. There are several paths ahead of me and I decide on one. As I walk, I hear birds above, see animals around me, all living in harmony and I come to a clearing and sit on a log. Suddenly a man in a long robe appears and hands me a box. What is inside of the box? The first thing that pops into my mind is my gift from my Higher Power. Each time the box and gift varies, and that is what makes it so special. Once I open the box, I allow my meditation to flow. Sometimes I am walking in a meadow with my angels, swimming in the sea with dolphins, or other times I am sitting on a picnic bench with my guides.

If you are in need of guidance, decide what it is that you want upfront and ask your Higher Power to provide help, then count on seeing someone from the other realm to guide you. Next time, take a different path and see where it takes you. Remember, this is your meditation and your life. Relax and live it with Joy and Happiness.

Janett Niemi
@janett-niemi
05/14/13 11:01:59AM
86 posts



First I want to say, I am sorry that you are in a relationship that is all one-sided and you have my sympathy. Have you tried couples counseling or asked for outside help? Sometimes this can help....My gut reaction is that you need to get out and take care of yourself, BUT with all that you are going through, moving on and away may give you the physical freedom that you want, but it will only work as a distraction to the real problem. Emotionally you are looking to find out who you are, who you want to be and instead of looking inward, you are looking around and finding fault with others. (don't take this wrong-your partner sounds like she has lots of problems) You want more in life, but the more won't come if you are directing your energy in the wrong direction.

I know that leaving looks promising, but it comes with a whole lot of distractions. To start anew, there is so much that has to be done, getting a routine established for your kids, moving into a new place-it all becomes a whirlwind of outer things to do. And the bottom line is, you are not done with the old. You have just moved locations.

My suggestion is to give yourself permission to explore self, but with a time limit, say 4 to 6 months. (A time limit frees you to go about doing what you need to do, knowing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel) Set up some parameters at home that will allow for "me" time. Establish some boundaries within self that says, I am okay being who I am, she is okay being who she is. Find some people who support your goals, explore some new hobbies, join a gym, a book club, anything that will take you away a few evenings a week that will give you inner satisfaction. Look to your partner and remember what drew you to her in the first place. Try and reconnect to that joy, but don't push it-just look and explore. Make this a touchy, "feelie" 6 months, a time to get back to basics.

There is no easy answer, here. Know that I'm in your corner routing for this to work for you, whatever you decide.


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Janett Niemi
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04/17/13 10:30:06AM
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Dreams are our Higher Power's way of pointing out things to us in the dream state, things that we may not be seeing in our waking world and it uses symbols that only make sense when dreaming. In this dream all of the symbols, the imagery, the characters, are seen through the eyes of a child-you as a child. It shows how you are living as a child, thinking as a child, feeling as a child, being scared as a child.

I believe that this dream may be telling you that there is something scary in your life that is going on (in your waking world) and instead of looking at it as an adult with adult feelings/eyes, you are scared like a child. If you changed your outlook, moved on using the skills that you have learned as an adult and stop feeling and seeing as a child, whatever it is that is bothering you may be small, easy to handle or may not even be an issue at all. In the light of day and with eyes of an adult, this wolf may just be a golden retriever, all fluff and full of love!


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Janett Niemi
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03/04/13 12:27:25PM
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Color Therapy


Library of Light

This is incredible. Thanks for posting!

Janett Niemi
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10/20/12 08:33:50AM
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This dream is what I call a "Once upon a time" dream. Once upon a time you and your husband went on vacation to a beach and had a wonderful time. etc...It is told in a story, a beginning, (the beach)a middle, (layers of pizza) and the ending (with your husband trying to kill you)

You and Steph are right that the key to this dream is layers; layers of hair, layers of food, layers of personality. People in your dreams represent different aspects of self. A man represents your rational, practical, aggressive part of you and a female represents the intuitive, nurturing, receptive side. People also take on the many roles that we assign them in life. How do you see your husband in the waking world? Do you see him as a loving man, an authoritarian, a weak character?

It seems to me that, in the waking world, you are struggling with the many layers of self. Your aggressive (male) side is trying to kill off the side of you that represents intuition, your nurturing aspect of self. It is a "fight" that is moving slowly, a change in your life that you are not sure not only what you are doing but if you should be doing it at all. The fight is poisoning your life and again I agree with Steph, it is your life so only you can decide on the meaning of this dream.

I can't tell which way you are suppose to go, or if you are suppose to make a decision at all. I think that all the Universe is saying is that you are struggling with who you are, pointing it out to you, but not really giving you an answer except that it is your life, so, What do you want to do about it, or simply, Who do you want to be when you grow up?


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Janett Niemi
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10/18/12 08:51:52AM
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The Universe does not operate in any way that we think that it should, in fact my teenager daughter once told me that if she ran the world, she would communicate on a blackboard in simple English, with letters big and bold so she wouldn't have to use her glasses!

Yes, the Universe was trying to tell you that something was going to happen, something major and this was their way of warning you. Why didn't they tell you exactly what? Humans still have free will and if the Universe had said, this is going to happen and you need to do this or that, there goes our free will. For us to say, well, in a case like this, I want you to take care of this, then how about in the next case or the next?

What I would suggest is the next time you get a dream that you don't understand or don't agree with, ask for answers to come to you in the "waking" world. A big way to receive information is through meditation, yet I know that meditation is hard for some. I hate to meditate, but when I do, I get amazing results.

There are lots of ways to "talk" to the Universe and get answers in the waking world. If you want to know more about "talking" and getting answers, send me an email. I actually have a book (not published yet) on this subject. I would be happy to share. (critrhome1@yahoo.com )


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Janett Niemi
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10/15/12 08:08:15AM
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We have been moving toward a new moon cycle and today is the new moon. It seems that the Universe tries to get our attention loudly before we enter the waxing moon cycle-you are the 3rd person asking about loud dreams today! All I can say is ALWAYS trust your instincts. One of the perks to being an Empath is hearing/feeling and knowing that this hearing/feeling is telling us something very important. As Empaths, we do not see first, we feel first because seeing can be misleading. Go with your feelings and know that your psychic mind is telling you that this roommate is not who she seems.


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Janett Niemi
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10/05/12 09:40:07AM
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It sounds like you have had an interesting upbringing, all necessary for you to get to the point where you are today. (think about it-if you would have had a "wonderful" childhood, would you be where you are today?) You have a good grasp on what it is to be an empath-our relationship to animals, how we can be effected by people and the weather. And you seem to be going in the "right" direction, as life, either living as an empath or non-empath, is about learning and putting these new ideas into practice. My one thought, though, would be to get the heck away from your family. I know it is your family and all, but they are, to coin a phrase from Harry Potter, the worst kind of muggles. Thanks for joining us and good luck with your adventure of life!


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Janett Niemi
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08/10/12 11:33:48AM
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Very wise. What do parents do if a child is not paying attention? Most of the time, they end up yelling. If your dreams are coming to you pushy and loud, pay heed. It is the Universe's (or your unconscious mind-God-Buddha-whatever you call your higher power) way of trying to get your undivided attention about something/someone.

Janett Niemi
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08/09/12 10:46:59AM
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Yes, very true. One of the most important things that an empath can learn, is to trust in themselves, in their own instincts. I think that we are more sensitive to this notion that non-empaths. If you were brought up like me, all the adults around me would tell me that what I thought was going on was wrong-what was wrong was that they were not in tune to their own life, that I could sense something that they had not allowed themselves to believe, but being the child, I was made to believe that my instincts were wrong.

I don't want you to get the incorrect perception about this-I am not bitter-it was all a learning experience and because of this, I am more in-tune and more aware of my life. I believe in "me" and am not easily led astray anymore.

Janett Niemi
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08/09/12 10:09:35AM
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I agree. This works for telling the "story" of the dream, but the next important part of a dream is in the emotions felt. What did you feel while living in the dream world? Did you feel anger, love, fear? Plug these emotions into the "story" and then apply them to your real world life. Where do I feel these emotions right now? Then go back to the dream "story" and see how it ended. The ending is how you can fix, live, plan, (fill in the verb) what is going on in your life right now. Trust your dreams to give you what you need to know to live in the real world.

Janett Niemi
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07/22/12 09:40:58AM
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Sounds like that tale about the snake....kinda goes like this...the girl was walking in the woods and encounters a snake. The snake asks her to take him with her, but the girl tells him that if she picks him up, he will bite her. The snakes convinces her that he won't bite her, so the girl picks him. The snakes bites her. She exclaims, Why did you do this? and the snake says, "You knew what I was when you picked me up...."

So, somewhere in your life you are thinking about trusting someone who before you never would have trusted but you decide that you must be wrong because he/she looks so different, so you trusted again and of course, it bites you. This dream is telling you to believe in your instincts because they never lie.


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