Ruthless Energy Vampires
Tools for Empaths
This is all on you. It is YOU who can't give them up. Your life revolves around them, and you are not living your life, instead your every thought is about them.....Now, don't get me wrong. I understand how you got to this point (Been there, done this) and I understand why you are so adamant to your routine, but you are doing everything you can do, except give them up.
NEVER contact them. I understand the need to "remind" them, but it won't do you any good and isn't this what you are trying to do? Make a better life for you and your family? Drop it, drop them, let it go. Every time that you think of them, you are giving away your energy, giving them what they want and you are putting yourself back into the loop of living their life, not yours.
Time to do some meditating and find out why this is so important for you to keep them in your life? Are you so used to having to deal with them, that you don't want to live or look at your own life?
Now, you may not be ready for that step, and if so, I get it-it is painful, but you need to do it eventually. In the meantime, try this. Start monitoring your own thoughts and train yourself to not think of them. Every time that you think of them, pull yourself away and immediately think of something that you would like to see in your life or somewhere you want to be and then MAKE yourself think of that. Literally hear yourself thinking of them, say, STOP and make yourself think of something pleasant. It is not easy, but it is the only way that you can train your mind. They say it takes 22 to 23 days to break a habit and learn a new way of doing something. Allow yourself permission to learn this, the time to do this and be kind to self while you establish your new life.
I am sending you lots of love and courage to you to use while you partake on this new journey.