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h1234
@h1234
09/06/16 06:49:22PM
49 posts

thinking more about the wellbeing of others more than myself?


Empath

Hi Tiger, up late as its hot here tonight, researching bipolar issues, yes we are identical:) like you been on countless dates but none sticks around:) go to bed and cry alone. none to hold, kiss or hug at night, I'm up again overthinking wondering why life can be cruel, ill message you definitely x

h1234
@h1234
09/06/16 06:10:20PM
49 posts

thinking more about the wellbeing of others more than myself?


Empath

Ive done a lot of healing work on myself , i too like Tiger cut off friends for being users, abusers manipulative, learning to be selfish and sticking with friends who i love and appreciate me. I have some friends who never pressure me if i can't do something. they respect my boundaries. I've just got my heart broken over a bipolar potential boyfriend, i miss his craziness and their is a sadness but deep down he is so wrong for me, id rather be alone, back to being single. i don't think god wants me at almost 38 to have a husband or kids. i work with kids but its not the same, i want my own but can't find a decent man

h1234
@h1234
09/06/16 01:36:40PM
49 posts

thinking more about the wellbeing of others more than myself?


Empath

iI wonder if the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because, I put others first and neglect my love needs, I give my love to every friend child, family member and not to myself

h1234
@h1234
09/06/16 02:50:17AM
49 posts

thinking more about the wellbeing of others more than myself?


Empath

I realised I think more of others well being than of myself sometimes.

In fact, I can't turn of the empathy that I have because helping or being thoughtful towards others makes me feel like I have value.

My father and I had a conversation this morning, he said don't rely on anyone, don't let people control you, i'm in control of my life, basically, I think about me attitude, well in comparison to all three of my family members, i'm the most selfless of the lot. I'm also a christian, that doesn't mean I become a doormat, but it means i feel unfullfied running after others and not meeting my needs.

I want a relationship and kids, but i feel guilty for desiring that, i feel people will say no you cant have that dream, i want to fulfill my wants, hopes and dreams. I pray god will lead me to the man of my dreams.


updated by @h1234: 03/10/17 03:38:31PM
h1234
@h1234
09/02/16 08:16:30AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

I think I can sum it up, to be happy, is to love yourself and feel worthy within yourself, you then attract the right people.To love the person you are, to be of worth to yourself, to like yourself, then it doesn't matter what people think of you, you can be positive and successful. I realise having faith and a positive mindset can project you further if you want something. Im not totally ambitious but I know what i want to achieve and I can make it happen. I need to believe in myself and get better. I stood up and did an open mic the other day, first time singing in front of a pub of people and you know what it was liberating, like a free bird, just letting go of judgements and caring what others thought. Let them see me for the real person i am without hiding away or wearing a mask.

h1234
@h1234
09/01/16 02:45:10AM
49 posts

Why do I attract crazy? Do you?


Empath

Tigerlilly-just wrote a very similar blog on why do i attract the suffering, it appears i can't help myself meddling into others lives. Trying to set boundaries is hard, also my 'disorder' friends know how to pile on the pressure, for example when i tell a friend '' I'm too unwell to attend an event-shed says see how you feel later, then she says it will be good for you, when I've explained I've been sick:) i think this is where boundaries must be put in place.

I think being an empath, we thrive on healing and helping to detriment of our own needs then we piss others off, if we are blunt!!

Its like my bipolar male friend keeps telling me he wants a wife, he's lonely and likes kissing me, but i want the promise of a husband , and kids not just casual friendship kissing, its like i can't meet men to meet my needs!

h1234
@h1234
08/24/16 11:32:42AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

True Heather. Now I read back what I've said, you may have a point.

I had a mother with undiagnosed BPD and always have walked on eggshells, never getting my needs met. I hate anger and conflict in others, and I think that leads me to not rock the boat and speak up when I should. Im learning but its hard for me. If anyone struggles with being assertive, let me know, see if we can come up with some ideas.

h1234
@h1234
08/23/16 01:49:31AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

The thing is I miss the excitement and dopamine when I am with him, he is fun and kindhearted and genuinely caring.

How can I stop having that feeling of addiction, the thing is, if i feel like this, I know other women will be the same, I know he has a roaring eye and I want a monogamous relationship. He is unreliable and irrational and illogical.

Im not the practical of people, so my man needs to be good with money and practical details.

h1234
@h1234
08/23/16 01:45:36AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

Well my date phoned me yesterday and has asked me out, I said only friendship and meant it, I wonder if he is trying to win me over? I told him his mania concerned me and see a doctor, not exactly a positive encouraging friend, he probably hates me now, its because i care too much. He probably deals with that judgement on a daily basis, as a christian, I know I shouldn't judge-he crossed my life path for a reason, can't figure it out, God knows i struggled with a borderline mother, now an aspergers friend and bipolar friend, then my ex- friend was bipolar and let me down, help, got to stop meeting and catering to these types, its just they are attracted to me!!

h1234
@h1234
08/22/16 12:24:27AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

Thanks Ecilia,

He was lovely but I felt drained , he could never sit still, never took a breath, he talked more about himself. I thought there was something wrong with me for not keeping up, he took me to a chinese restaurant, the pub, a country manor for lunch, swimming and singing on a piano, he probably spent 200 pounds in two days we met, wanted me to be his girlfriend, showed me a brides dress in a shop, started telling everyone i was his girlfriend, before i said yes!!

It was the craziest yet funniest date, I've ever experienced, but how do you manage in a long term relationship, id need to be busy with other hobbies, otherwise id burn out!

I'm disappointed, as at 38 next month, I've never been married or had kids, he told me he'd give me kids!!Now whether that was to sleep with him, but, its hurtful, as he felt sorry for me, couldn't understand why i wasn't married.

h1234
@h1234
08/21/16 11:56:49PM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

Thanks for your replies, I just feel sad that my recent date turned out to be bipolar, he was so manic, talking so fast and pressured that I was completely shattered. He was very giving and caring(trying to impress me), but I couldn't keep up with his excessive energy and the fact he kept talking all the time to so many people, being over friendly and really embarrassing me with his inappropriate behaviour.

It's fun, but going out with a person like that would drive anyone calm absolutely bonkers!

h1234
@h1234
08/21/16 08:59:30AM
49 posts

Attracting suffering people


Empath

Ive noticed that all or most of my friendships consist of people with mental health issues, bipolar, aspergers, dyslexia, CFS, Fiberomagia,

I even found out my date this weekend had bipolar, why does God put these types of people in my life, what happened to a normal stable relationship, calm, not too manic?? I'm very kind hearted and try not judge and i think others take advantage of my compassion, my needs aren't listened to or met.

How can i improve myself and attract healthy others?

and other illnesses.


updated by @h1234: 01/08/17 11:25:51PM
h1234
@h1234
07/19/16 12:41:54PM
49 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

thanks Sean, great advice very profound and thoughtful. I wish to god i didn't give 2 hoots what people thought! I'm working on this !

h1234
@h1234
07/19/16 01:32:01AM
49 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

Thanks guys, very good advice, Gem, I need to get down to earth, I like singing, think i need a choir! I like adult colouring books, I like walking outside in nature, I really must get out of the clouds and live in present. Im going to search for a metope meditation class as urgency as I'm not getting real!!

blessings

hayley x

h1234
@h1234
07/18/16 12:50:20PM
49 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

Does anyone have a huge daydreaming issue,? I daydream all day and the world in my head is so much more exciting than the real world. if i could channel my characters , i could write a book. I actually enjoy it but its taking up too much of my day, I'm getting worried!

I feel guilty, maybe its because i live alone and am lonely so i create a fantasy world as its better than the mundane existence I'm living in right now in this present moment in time. I have a rich creative mind always searching for life questions, exploring possibilities, but none knows how my mind works, its so overloaded, I'm scared people think I'm weird. I'm unemployed and i need to sort out something, as life is ticking by, i need people around all the time to stop daydreaming.


updated by @h1234: 01/14/17 01:14:57PM
h1234
@h1234
07/18/16 12:35:57PM
49 posts

anyone been asked if they have inattentive add /adhd


Empath

Hi I have a huge problem lately with daydreaming, it takes up most of the day, its about what my life could, should be, i think its the empath lack of grounding, its worse when I'm out shopping, in huge crowds of people and peoples emotions are dragging me down.

I certainly need to get a grip on my daydreaming, trouble is as an INFP, writer, creative brain, its my rich fantasy world that sends me dreaming away, not helpful and people think I'm lazy, i get so annoyed for living in la la land, I'm looking for employment.

h1234
@h1234
06/26/16 11:21:45PM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

I really think you people are lovely, this forum keeps me sane, when I've got none to talk to, I will take on board how to cope with the loneliness and know even amongst friends, family, we can feel lonely. It fills me with hope that if i learn to love myself wholly, a husband will come along so thank you:)

I suddenly think its important to learn to say NO to others, as I'm getting stronger each day, I realise its up to me and only me to put boundaries in place, I used to just let things people said go, as it was easier than speaking up, and dealing with their reaction, I need to know what tools to use to come back and stand my ground. For example when a stranger, friend, starts to moan, wine become negative, I've tried laughing and saying, right enough of this doom and gloom, lets talk about something else.

I realise as I'm growing, i came from a very negative mother, so my dad and i used to say nothing as she was dominant, controlling and her mood swings bad, I think i had unhealthy boundaries growing up, i was bullied at school and even a teacher said i must learn to be assertive, assertiveness empaths is the key!!

love and peace empath friends

h1234
@h1234
06/26/16 11:49:52AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

Finding out I was an empath recently has been an eye opener, now when i get people being rude, nasty, i say to myself, let it wash over me, its there issues, let their negative, moaning, whining energies drain through me, through the ground. I

'm writing this post, as I have caught up with a friend, he has a pessimistic view on life, i know he often is not really listening to what I'm saying, he won't listen to my views, concerns, its all about me me me, i think after pouring his crap at me for about 30 minutes, he said by the way how are you doing? I've had ptsd for a trauma that happened a year ago, which ill keep to myself, anyway, of course it hurts when i hear a friend bitching behind my back, but i think as an empath, its quite fun we can read people, it gives us huge power and can protect us from the evil ones. today, I cut what i thought was a good friend off facebook and out of my life, i feel sad, but I'm starting a new chapter of my life, new friends, new happiness, new confidence, new strength and if people aren't coming up with me, I'm not worried, i'll attract positive people and fight to change the patterns, i.e from a negative mother and dysfunctional pattern. NO MORE NARCISSITS, TAKERS, USERS, MANIPULATORS, I CLEANSE THEM ALL OUT!1

h1234
@h1234
06/26/16 11:06:50AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

facebook is a massive joke for materialistic people to show off what they have, haven't, people get jealous if you have more than them, more luck, more this, its boring, it weary and I've drifted from anyone who is jealous about me, people are driven by greed and selfishness. also i think as empaths, become we are generally easygoing, unselfish people, people want to test us to see if we'll react to them, and they are often the selfish ones, but blame us as we are like mirrors, we expose their darkness, most of the people in my life who hated me, were cruel to me were the selfish takers, because i provided a good lovely mirror they couldn't stand their reflection in me, I'm allowing all the chords to be cut with the evil people, I'm concentrating on my needs now, so everyone else, by life is just as important , non empaths put themselves first, well so am i now !!

h1234
@h1234
06/26/16 10:40:52AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

I've had a spiritual awakening lately, i relate and a friend who used me in the past, is now bitching behind other peoples back. i have had no choice but to befriend the users, its not easy but i suddenly realised life is too short too have the takers, users, bitches and gossips, I'm surrounding myself with lovely, happy positive people who aren't jealous, of who has what, anyone else fed up , female friends are the worse, women seem to be the worse, jealous of who has this, i prefer male company or older more mature women, gets tiring.

h1234
@h1234
06/25/16 12:41:22AM
49 posts

anyone been asked if they have inattentive add /adhd


Empath

Hi Demi, I found your message thought provoking, i think its due to an empath's mind vibrating at a higher energy frequency. I too seem a free spirit picking up something I'm passionate about then swinging to another interest, that why i work for myself:) I find people are confused by my quick odd thinking , not all the time, but as a feeler INFP, (myers briggs), i seem to talk more of emotions then small talk. I often feel overlooked or ignored when talking, also people are so busy these days running here and everywhere, none is really truly listening to anyone.

h1234
@h1234
06/24/16 09:57:06AM
49 posts

anyone been asked if they have inattentive add /adhd


Empath

hi, as curious mind, I just wondered if anyone has been diagnosed with some form of add /adhd, Im not sure if all empaths have been labelled with this condition,

I always thought I had some form of add , as i get racing thoughts, very distracted, flit from one thing to another, including jobs, relationships, forgetfulness, poor planning,poor organisation, drifting, lack of structure, proscrasination, poor self motivation, very laid back and accused of laziness, and much more that fits with add. Can getting easily bored and making friends, then letting people down because your tired, moody, changeable, touchy, anyone get this?

Never sought help,but now just wondered if that ''adhd''is the anxiety and depression of being ungrounded and having no boundaries with others, and being uncentered and can mindfulness, meditation help? Yet adhd and those on the spectrum like autism suffer with a lack of empathy, social awareness and sometimes empathy and compassion and forgetfilness, even selfishness, anyone relate to this ??

Thanks lovely peeps , love and light on our crazy empath journey!:)

Hayley


updated by @h1234: 01/09/17 12:55:19AM
h1234
@h1234
06/20/16 10:55:04AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

it does get very wearing, I go on holiday and even a foreigner comes up and says why aren't you married, have you been engaged? even my christian friend, she's married with a son, said that she knows another lady who is ashamed that her daughter is 30 and not found anyone, and respected my friend as she was married, its like your second class if your single. I have a lot to offer, but people can't believe I'm single , they think I'm deeply unhappy and lonely. i am lonely, but no need for people to be so nosy or cruel. people can f off, i'm defending some people on Facebook as they are smug marrieds and its boring me senseless!!

h1234
@h1234
06/20/16 09:48:58AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

Thanks Karen,

It takes me a few days just to rid myself of the heaviness that comes in the house, i try to make excuses to not stay over, as its so oppressive. i'll try the cedar, sweetgrass, sage, do you smudge yourself when you get home if mixing with negative vibes.where do you buy all those things from, ebay?

h1234
@h1234
06/20/16 03:08:12AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

Its odd but when I go back to my parent's house, there is such a huge tidal wave of sadness in the air, and negative energy, its like a huge tidal wave of strong emotion, i can't bear to be in the house too long, its so powerful. My home is relatively light in energy after cleansing it and there is a lightness, but if i stay in my parent's house, i feel pysiacally sick, i have to run from the house.

h1234
@h1234
06/20/16 12:46:02AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

I have a feeling that growing up with a dysfunctional , narcistic mother who can't show love may be a factor, i wonder if this makes a difference in finding love?

h1234
@h1234
06/19/16 12:59:27PM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

Thanks Guys,

I think all these depressive, reclusive feelings come from my healing crisis, reiki, inner spiritual work and my body is going through a purification process, yes I'm very much an empath, a newly discovered one, explains so much of my suffering!!

Good- Not heard of the Divine card blanche, could you explain this more?, as I've only just found out I'm an empath and on a road to spiritual awakening, hence all the excruciating loneliness.

I've only just discovered angels, I'm a christian, too,thou, to be honest, i don't read my bible much or have a chat to God as much as i used to, so, i'm quite a complex creature, but i'm drawn towards things now i never considered. In the last three months, I've been reading and buying crystals, empath shielding and grounding and coming here to talk to you lovely people.

I have always known loneliness and emptiness as a kind of familar but unwanted friend, its like the birthmark ive had on my left leg since i was born, I know its there, its not pretty, but I've accepted it.

However, the loneliness i feel lately, is due to the healing crisis i've been dealing with, its like a spirtual road, i'm walking all alone, its like I intensely feel its my journey and my jorney only to walk. I

know i need to let others in, that has always been my biggest issue, not reaching out and not wanting to be a burden and bring people down, i feel its my role for others to dump their issues on me, but i'm strong for them, however, when im feeling vulnerable and deeply alone, who do i ring, call , hug, cuddle reach out to, who gets me, who listens to when i cry myself to sleep??

Being alone has taught me to depend upon me, i realise we all are born alone and we die alone, if others want to join me on my life journey they can, i know too, people will dissappoint me, i used to let that worry me, now i know when i'm defriended off facebook, they are friends no longer serving a purpose in my life.

I think the Divine steps in to keep the toxic people away or our angels are protecting us and bringing friends to us for our higher good.

Saturday nights can be tough, unless i've planned ahead- another bad issue, I proscrasinate so much, forget to plan ahead and bingo! i'm home alone on a sat evening, my own fault, self-imposed!!

How can we connect as people?, how we be sure sure of connecting to the 'right' people,? do any of you refuse to attend certain meet up groups thinking you may be harmed by negative or wrong people, i do.

I'm generally a happy being, with lots of love to give, its just, its hard to see others getting ahead , having families, I do question, why my life plan seems so out of sync with others.

Karen-

Yes i've got my sage and have tried smudging, I'm also without a car, I don't drive, even thou been trying to drive since 17,anyone got any tips on passing their test! Been told i'm a good driver, but get so insecure and nervous!! I get the children thing, it makes it harder, when like me you work with children or when i did, past tense!

Reckless- To be satisfied with yourself is great! I'm getting there, its a batttle thou!

Real- I understand about having goals and ambitions, but having these intense emotions that can make it hard to just go for it, that's very me. Also, I've started a meetup group in my area, i've met some nice people, early days, i do push myself out, it takes huge courage, when your alone, as noone is saying 'go on do it!' you have to motivate and be your own life coach.

Love and peace

Hayley

h1234
@h1234
06/19/16 12:51:18AM
49 posts

lonely


Empath

its very hard to be alone, I get very tired of people saying why i'm single, why am i alone and believe me it hurts, its like if you don't have children or aren't married, something is wrong with you.

I have been self healing for the past few months, had ptsd among other things.

I live alone and the pain of loneliness hurts very deep, I find it hard to motivate myself and I need to really push myself out in getting a job, work.

I often feel society thinks i'm a misfit.

i've become withdrawn and shy more recently and stuck in my own head. I crave friendship and i've turned all my old friends away , for ignoring them.

I've been going through so many healing crisis lately, just got to go through them hoping to god, i make it through, and not feeling so suicidal and alone.

Thank for this site, i feel so much better to offload! can't afford counselling!


updated by @h1234: 01/09/17 12:55:05AM
h1234
@h1234
06/15/16 06:59:23AM
49 posts

EMPATH NEW FRIEND EXCHANGE


Empath

well as an update, i've been quite right putting my needs first for a change, overtime i hear 'i'm being selfish' in my head (often from parents!), I have to be strong and say 'no!' me time!!, just think if I'm well, what a power i can be to others, its my purpose to be well to pass my expertise on to others, its been an up and down 3 months, but I took time off, not working much at moment, just dabbling in a bit of this and that, but as my blocks are moving, I am getting stronger and I've made some good friends through meetup groups, one which I set up myself in my village. Its been slow but to others, keep persisting with your healing. I've been through hell and back for 37 years, well since 14 years old, with all sorts of crap, but, I will not give in until I'm my best self I can be, don't give in, i was suicidal five months ago, but bit by bit we will get there.

h1234
@h1234
06/06/16 11:40:48PM
49 posts

transparent, feeling like a mirror??


Empath

Thank God for this wonderful website and you lovely people hugs xx

h1234
@h1234
06/06/16 11:33:14PM
49 posts

transparent, feeling like a mirror??


Empath

Thanks all, Im a bit teary actually after reading your replies, Lascars- sent message thanks x

Sarah- I've always been the one 'different' in my family, I've always got the blame for everything growing up. Glad i'm not alone. I am just feeling so dreadfully unmotivated to do anything, fatigued and weary. Im finding it hard to keep to any kind of schedule.

My dad and I used to be really close, (not sure if similar to you), but we were always together, as he and mum never communicated, she is more interested in food and drink. I was in a co-dependent relationship and he always even now pours his problems on me. I think now I'm living alone, he sees I'm getting stronger and he wants to break me down, as you say, he might be scared to his 'little girl' grow up or is it that he needs to be controlling. He always has told me what to do, always thinks I'm lazy because I'm not like my sister. The arguments are vicious, i dread being with the family, there is always an atmosphere. Anyway that's enough moaning!! HUGS !!:)

h1234
@h1234
06/06/16 12:06:50PM
49 posts

transparent, feeling like a mirror??


Empath

Ive been receiving healing, spiritual, lots of prayer to remove traumas ptsd etc, however, since becoming more awakened in the last two months, people are finding me to poor their hearts out. my feelings of peoples energies are so ridiculously strong that i only stand at a bar to say the word i want two coffees and the bar lady spills out her guts to me in ten minutes. I'm noticing, i feel smaller around people, shrinking into my identity, but providing a mirror for others issues, the more i work on my inner self, the more the energy vampires are sucking me. my parents are getting worse, they dump all their crap, she said, he said. my dad says I'm a waste of space, as he doesn't understand my spiritual path, I've been ill for years, and suffering from adrenal issues depression and anxiety for over 2o yrs. Since being aware I'm an empath, I'm learning grounding, but after 3 days having family celebrations, I'm drained, taking on everyone's pain, sadness, how can i put boundaries in place?


updated by @h1234: 01/10/17 07:56:29AM
h1234
@h1234
06/05/16 01:29:38PM
49 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

nwow! Ambre, I am shocked at your story, I thought my family was dysfunctional! Im sad to hear about your abuse, I too seem to get everyone's anger, traumas thrown at me, do other empaths feel like their always on the receiving end of people shouting at them, I've been called lazy and stupid most of my life my my parents, yet they are doing the same behaviours! Do you think its because we are more caring than average and soft, so people know we don't stand up for ourselves as maybe we don't know how to be assertive, they treat us like doormats! Has anyone gone to assertive classes? Do you ever have trouble standing up for yourselves?

Im confused whether to sometimes be awkward on purpose and say no more than people know I'm not a soft touch.

Ambre- how have your relationships with men been? For me, Ive turned away most me, as i get bored or restless in a relationship. In my mind, I see the perfect pairing, yet none of the men I've dated or been in relationships with are appealing enough to keep going with? I find it hard to stick with one man, I know deep down I'm searching for a soulmate who 'gets me;, but as i near 37, I realise i need to make my list smaller to 5 qualities rather than 50 odd!

h1234
@h1234
06/02/16 11:38:16AM
49 posts



Thanks Tundra,

I don't know why I'm feeling so sad at the moment, I'm sure its a blip, Im tired of the men I've dated, why can I not find someone 'normal', I've been skyping someone, but he comes across as if he likes the sound of his own voice and can be curt and rude, my empath radar went up, i sense he has bad moods , so don't want to go there!!

h1234
@h1234
06/02/16 08:21:03AM
49 posts



I feel sad because i see my friends and my younger sister paired up with their children, I suppose I'm becoming exhausted of being lonely and I feel my parents are obsessed with the nephews and Im left out, like no-one wants me, as i have nothing to offer, my sister is rich, I'm poor as a church mouse, yet I'm a far nicer person.

h1234
@h1234
06/01/16 08:19:35AM
49 posts

EMPATH NEW FRIEND EXCHANGE


Empath

I can totally relate to this post and similarly to Goodenergyhealing, when becoming spiritual, it tends to put others off. I have been healing from past traumas, clearing traumas etc and I think my lighter energy is confusing my parents , so we always seem to argue more intensely. Has anyone noticed that when they start becoming more 'inner self' aware, a lot of conflict happens?

h1234
@h1234
06/01/16 08:13:12AM
49 posts



I do relate to this post. Ive just moved away from my parents, been a boomerang child for a while now. Ive been doing a lot of intensive inner work, healing , meditation and spiritual growth stuff and I'm finding myself very very lonely. It really hurts that i don't have my friends in my life anymore. Ive had a few traumatic experiences and unfortunately like most of us empaths, we have to eliminate those toxic others who drain the hell out of us.

I reach out to people, but they don't want to know me, I've gone off Facebook as its all about people showing off with their lovely lives, probably fake lives, their rosy little children and doting husbands, while I'm poor, single and childlessness, i could be bitter and angry but I'm bigger than that.

h1234
@h1234
06/01/16 07:28:13AM
49 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

would say my family was similar to heartbroken. I got all the blame and anger directed at me in my family. My mother is clearly a narcisticst and alcoholic. However, since focusing on my healing, our relationship is better. My dad was the enabler, he was like the single parent, raising both my sister and I. My sister is very selfish and I'm the opposite. I still can't understand why my parents married? They are poles apart in education, intelligence, common interest. My dad is now 70 and very cynical cruel and selfish, low tester one maybe, but anyway, he calls me very abusive names when I see him, tells me I'm useless and i daren't ask him for a favour, as he gets mad that if i don't return a caring favour, I'm selfish! I took my computer over to my parents house to get connected to the internet, as I didn't want to pay a computer advisor silly money. Dad then said why didn't you do a chore in the house! Im 37 years old and why do i need to do chore, when I'm not living in your house!! He can leave me in tears, is very harsh and mean, i think i need to send me energy healing to calm him down!!

h1234
@h1234
06/01/16 07:25:36AM
49 posts

empaths and your parents; some questions for you.


Empath

I would say my family was similar to heartbroken. I got all the blame and anger directed at me in my family. My mother is clearly a narcisticst and alcoholic. However, since focusing on my healing, our relationship is better. My dad was the enabler, he was like the single parent, raising both my sister and I. My sister is very selfish and I'm the opposite. I still can't understand why my parents married? They are poles apart in education, intelligence, common interest. My dad is now 70 and very cynical cruel and selfish, low tester one maybe, but anyway, he calls me very abusive names when I see him, tells me I'm useless and i daren't ask him for a favour, as he gets mad that if i don't return a caring favour, I'm selfish! I took my computer over to my parents house to get connected to the internet, as I didn't want to pay a computer advisor silly money. Dad then said why didn't you do a chore in the house! Im 37 years old and why do i need to do chore, when I'm not living in your house!! He can leave me in tears, is very harsh and mean, i think i need to send me energy healing to calm him down!!

h1234
@h1234
05/12/16 12:39:14PM
49 posts

sheer exhaustion everyday


Empath

Thanks Indigo and Karen,Its odd as I was fine on holiday in Egypt, happy outgoing, but suppose we all are away from rainy Uk then I went back to house, the previous owner an elderly man had died and smoked like a trouper, also a trauma happened relating to a date, too painful.I've smudged the house, had energy healing, thou not had counselling as waste of time. Counsellors help some but not found them helpful just costly.I wonder if you spend too much time alone daydreaming about my imagined future, its not helpful and ticket to depression and anxiety. 'm also trying to get back in dating game, not easy. And I see all my friends married with kids it flipping hurts!!Please can you tell me what to say aloud when chord cutting, and smudging, do I need to open doors,windows?? ok thankyou any advice on clearing past traumas including dysfunctional mothers too that would be brilliant!!!well done for reading this far.....Love and light hayley xx
h1234
@h1234
05/12/16 07:38:17AM
49 posts

sheer exhaustion everyday


Empath

Hi I wonder if anyone can relate to me or am I going nuts. Thanks for listening in advance, sorry if it sounds like a whinge!

I feel tired 24/7. I barely can drag myself out of bed, and even then I get terrible mind chatter and anxiety, I always thought I had add until I discovered from a healer that im a hsp empathy! Im working on my diet, cutting out wheat, sugar, drinking more water, sleeping earlier, I'm working from my computer a lot can that be an issue, also Im not in full time employment, perhaps it worry?

I always have negative thoughts and I think that is adding to my consistent low energy, ive been to the gp, but the blood tests come back normal. I catch every cold and cough going.

I have just apathy and no motivation, feel like sleeping all day, is this lack of grounding, do I need reiki, whats wrong with me?

I have just moved and live alone, that is difficult too. too much head space and time to think!!

love and light x


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h1234
@h1234
05/09/16 02:41:19PM
49 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

Thanks for your advice, im trying to love myself the best I can and keeping my heart chakra open to let love in. X

h1234
@h1234
05/09/16 02:07:36PM
49 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

Wow! thanks everyone for your insightful posts and honest viewpoints.

Its hard following your heart, particularly when worried about how things affect others, ill try and write to those who want me to chat individually.

Love and light

Hayley x

h1234
@h1234
04/09/16 01:35:02PM
49 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

thanks Ranar, excellent advice, i'm learning not to rush into relationships and be more discerning, although being lonely is unpleasant, i'll learn to sit with these feelings rather than be even more lonely with the wrong man.

h1234
@h1234
04/09/16 01:14:14PM
49 posts

Where are we all from?


Empath

yes hi Paul, i live in Wiltshire nr Melksham. nice to hear from you, add me to the friends tag if you wish,

h1234
@h1234
04/09/16 12:47:19PM
49 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

Im a newly embracing empath and I am realising that I have no idea how to chose the right man. Im scared of making a mistake, of getting involved with the wrong one. Not been in long term relationships, only short term. Its hard coming from not having my parents having a happy marriage, I know i would make an excellent partner and a mother some day, but I wonder if ive got what it takes thanks x


updated by @h1234: 01/20/17 12:49:51AM
h1234
@h1234
04/09/16 12:47:09PM
49 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

Im a newly embracing empath and I am realising that I have no idea how to chose the right man. Im scared of making a mistake, of getting involved with the wrong one. Not been in long term relationships, only short term. Its hard coming from not having my parents having a happy marriage, I know i would make an excellent partner and a mother some day, but I wonder if ive got what it takes thanks x


updated by @h1234: 01/21/17 12:55:29PM
h1234
@h1234
04/04/16 10:57:32AM
49 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

hi Gem,

Great to hear back from you!

I mainly write journals for myself and sometimes on a forum, I also write on Trip Advisor, I am dabbling in Children book writing currently. I am the ultimate empath multipotentialite,(scanner) personality type, done most jobs on the planet and more qualifications than id like to count. I find working for others draining and especially female bosses who seem to be domineering like my mother, not a healthy happy place to be.

So my search goes on, I love ebay and selling childrens toys, I have a playworker qualification level 3 and two degrees english and media, english and education.

Who says its ''normal to have one career'' our society, culture, stuff that !!

hayley x

h1234
@h1234
04/04/16 01:21:34AM
49 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

Hi, I'm a newly discovered empath, I suspected for a long while but was too depressed to sort myself out. Ive been through every job imaginable, retail, teaching, care work, but I've found right now writing is my saviour, I am thinking to be totally unconventional, as its my life regardless of people's opinions, I need to focus on my strengths. I need to get my self confidence up too.

Is there anyone that lives near to me, South west england, uk . I would love you to write and share your empath tips, meet maybe sometime.

love and light x


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