Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too
"Is your partner an Empath?" No, not at all.
I saw this thread and it interested me because I recently met a woman with more "It" then I've ever seen. In at least 20 years of looking, I've never felt anyone more "right", more perfect for me, my personality.
The screwy thing is, I'd stopped looking years ago. I'd given up trying to find her and was convinced she didn't exist, or that I'd never meet her. She stopped me in a store. She touched my arm and said something innocuous about thinking she'd almost run into me in a parking lot earlier (we both have children in the same school). I was floored because all I felt was that she was sweet, nice, genuine, passionate and she was so full of love that she glowed with it like she was illuminated by a bright, warm light. All this and she's beautiful. Yet she doesn't flaunt it, doesn't dress to accentuate her looks and often doesn't even wear makeup. I know I'm going on and on, I could write a few pages about her, lol.
So yes, I'd say you'll know when you meet someone with "It". For me it was like being struck by lightning. She's not an Empath though. I don't know what I'd be like to get together with another Empath. Seems like it would either be paradise, or hell. Your personalities would have to match for it to last. I'd be a little afraid to meet a woman as emotional as I am! Even though I've learned how to turn my emotions down or even off, it's really difficult at times and like with the woman I'm talking about, I can't seem to completely hide all of what I'm feeling.
The thing you said about how you blend with other cultures and adopt people's accents. I didn't know that was an Empath trait. I thought it was just something I did. But it sounds exactly like what I do, so it's got to be a trait.
What Kit Kat says makes sense. Funny thing is, I like myself when I'm with this woman. I actually feel good about myself and the world when I'm near her. I know that if I'm not attracted to someone, if they aren't my "type", I can't fake it with them. It just won't work for me. I wouldn't worry too much about looking for appearance first. If you meet the right person, you'll know.
I hope some of this helps. Finding this woman has really surprised me. I'd quit looking. Mostly I'd tried to not look closely at people so I didn't have to see the negative stuff that seemed to stand out in so many people. But meeting this woman has changed me. I find that now I've been looking at people and seeing into them without it depressing me. So maybe it was me that was responsible for seeing so much negativity in others?