Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too
The she wont be a centerfold made me chuckle a tad . I think that my posting may not have been fully explained or possibly misunderstood as far as the thinking that external beauty is my "#1" factor. The funny thing is I don't like what most guys would consider gorgeous or hot blue eyed blonde "bombshells" as it were. My preference is actually quite opposite, I tend to like thicker natural looking women and women that my friends wouldn't consider "hot". And its because I search for that inner light first and foremost. But I don't care who you are, you would be lying if you told me that attraction was not an important part in making a connection or being in a relationship with someone.
As for as having too much "ego", I think that word is thrown around in the wrong way. Ego is defined as 1. an inflated feeling of pride in your superiority to others
2. your consciousness of your own identity
I do not in any way shape or form feel any pride or feelings of superiority to anyone. In fact I put others first every time and hold others in high regard. My disclaimer in the beginning about explaining things about myself was for the fact that I hate talking about myself. I get even uncomfortable at times when peopletry to talk me up and divert the attention backto them so they can get credit which I don't need. So its not about me . Do I have a strong sense and know who I am? I do. But that does not give me any feeling that I am superior to anyone.
Aristotle said that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom" so I would counter that claim of your definition of ego.
As for the realistic scenario in which you provide about 5 women in a room. At the end when they turned the lights on if I was not attracted to the individual, then we would probably have a great relationship as best friends however, there would be no biologically triggered feeling of attraction which would not lead to a relationship. I can cite about 5 studies that show the major importance of attraction to your significant other.
All in all I appreciate your bluntness and encouragement of luck on my quest and I hope that I cleared up any misunderstandings in my writings.