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KM
@km
08/18/12 08:35:40PM
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Working out in nature is fun. Keep the dream alive! It is my understanding that Banks and Credit Unions encourage their employees to get out into their community and volunteer. Perhaps you could convince your place of work that in cooperation with a nearby Nature Center, it could be an interesting venture to take out a group of kids to explore nature. It would give you a change in scenery and the Credit Union can have small nylon packs (back packs) imprinted with their logo on them to give out to the kids as souvenirs to take home.

Don't ask me why I thought of this!

;)

KM
@km
08/14/12 04:59:13AM
90 posts



I keep making jokes that "I am a retired empath", but not quite where you are yet. The small farm sounds both nice and a lot of work. People forget that the right type of work can be nice.

:)

KM
@km
08/06/12 10:29:25PM
90 posts



Although I was derailed from my original career path by various circumstances, I can relate to this post. My favorite subject in college was psychology. I work best with children, and originally was hoping to be a physical education and foreign language teacher. I won't even mention what I ended up majoring in, because it was a total FAIL.

After I realized that, I took some time out to work in the Travel Industry. That was probably one of the most rewarding experiences of my (empath) life. I could touch thousands of lives in a very short time. I assisted frightened foreigners who were unable to verbally communicate. I dealt with confused seniors at airports. I rescued many kids from frustrated parents who were ready to kill them if they did not remain calm while on the journey. I comforted people who had to leave dying parents behind at one airport to meet up with their other family members at the next.

When my traveling days (for work) ended, I considered horticultural therapy as a worthwhile thing to study. Gardening was as much of a lifetime passion for me as fitness was. However, I had second thoughts. I ended up working with kids in various ways and later became a Certified Personal Trainer so I could work with people of all ages.

I think my "path" has been anything but usual. Yet it never seems to amaze me how many people have said that I happen to be at the right place at the right time.

I think Artist Empaths have so many sides to them it is difficult to put them into a single career. Yet when I take a closer look at all that I do, there is a common theme that runs along most of the activities I enjoy. That common theme is "design". I design gardens, I design fitness routines, I even decorate the food I serve to my family.

So, I think Hospitality & Tourism as well as training in psychology can be right up the alley of an empath. I would just double check to make sure the jobs in that industry still exist. (If we want to remain practical that is.) My advice, if anyone is asking, is Follow Your Heart! as practicality can derail you from your true calling.


updated by @km: 01/13/17 02:17:13AM
KM
@km
07/15/12 11:02:46PM
90 posts



I have not been drawing for a while now. I got very busy raising kids. I am starting to think about it though, and that is always a first sign that I will pick it up again. With that story, you almost had to be there. When I saw that work on the Wall, it was the first shock, then the date, was even more interesting. Then I started to think that the meeting of this person was meant to be. Almost like not only was I picking up this artist's vibes before, but he could have been leading me to this woman many years later.

Since that old high school drawing, I had done a drawing that was like a layout of a house and property. I can't remember how the idea for the drawing came about. Being a busy mother at the time, I stayed up late one night, just having a little quiet time and started aimlessly scribbling. I ended up with this layout, which turned out to be the exact detailed description of our future house. Down to every detail of where things were located, what was on the property. What part of the property was set up as work areas and everything. I even had a vivid dream about my kids having a specific moment playing in that garden. Like a movie, that exact scenario became true, again in ways that plain imagination could not have produced. There were things I saw in that dream that came true, that I could not have known or even imagined unless I actually seen it.

I think that as I go back to drawing I will be doing both regular sketching of favorite objects or gardens or whatever as well as just draw without thinking and see what emerges.

KM
@km
07/12/12 11:02:14AM
90 posts



Lets hope it is only "busy mother's syndrome". ha ha

Wish you well!

KM
@km
07/10/12 03:35:52PM
90 posts



If a good nutrition plan, adequate sleep and exercise does not help, you should check with your doctor. Women can develop metabolic issues after the delivery of their baby. This can go unnoticed. If this is you, you will be looking around in your play groups and finding that the other mothers seem to have it all together, and you are always one step behind.

A simple blood test can determine this. When (and if) you get your blood work results, don't just take the physician's word on "oh, everything is fine". You should ask, can you please tell me what that means? What part of the Normal range do you find me in. Often, after a discussion like that the physician takes a more careful look, and may actually conclude that the "normal" he/she told you is actually something that is borderline.

If you are not only low energy but finding you have other annoying symptoms, it is good to discuss those symptoms in their entirety. People forget that some disorders affect the body in many ways. Metabolic issues are just such.

Reading your replies made me think there could be more to the low energy issue.

Here is another thing to think about. If a person develops a metabolic issue shortly after delivery of their baby, the person's body will be pumping hormones to try and bring this imbalance back to normal. If the mother ends up breast feeding her baby, the child could be inadvertently receiving more thyroid hormone from the breast milk. I have seen a child in this situation who has shown mild ADD-like symptoms, yet could not be classified as hyper. There was quite a bit of talking with this kid, as his organizational ability in the brain was affected. He naturally had to use more words to explain himself than one who could be concise.

All I am saying is, if you try natural methods to bring some normalcy back in your life, but find that you are struggling constantly, it is a good idea to look seriously to try and find the cause. Early detection of any problem can save you years of headache.

Good luck, and keep reaching out, if you need help.

KM
@km
07/07/12 11:37:25AM
90 posts



Well, I am glad I waited with this reply. The others pretty much covered some points I would have had. The only thing I could add to that, in case it is of help is:

If you give a child your undivided attention FIRST before you get started with your to do list, they will be a little more tolerant and patient when it comes to getting done the things that simply need getting done. (preparing dinner, or picking up other kids from school etc). Oh yes, there will still be some complaining, but you can gently remind them how much fun you had playing and now some things need doing. This may help train a child to tolerate frustration and understand that although they may be the most important to you as children, there are other things that also need your attention. While we are speaking of attention, it is ok to tell, even a young child, that your head is needing a rest from talking and a little quiet time might make you feel better. You will soon find that your children will be sharing (in their own way) how they feel. My son used to say a funny thing. "I have a heart attack in my stomach". Remember they may not have the words to describe their feelings. That is where some of the tantrums and frustration comes from. One of the children's books that was a life saver for us was "I was so Mad".

As for the talking... oh boy! The kid with the "heart attack in his stomach" was my talker. One day, I simply had to get to preparing dinner. So I set up a recording device in my kitchen. The kid would talk and we would have it recorded so that Dad could "share the joy" he was missing. My aim was to somehow get dinner done. When I first said, ok talk, the kid was stumped!! He said Gee? What should I talk about? I finally gave him the suggestion that he recite a story we read earlier that day. Well, that turned out to be one of our funniest days, that we recall to this day. (by now he is 23)

I do sympathize with you though, as I do remember many days, when he would follow me everywhere and the stories and questions never stopped. What is interesting is that questions I never seemed to mind. I stopped whatever I was doing at the time to try and explain the why's. Then we would continue with whatever we had on our to do list. I figured that if I failed to take advantage of these opportunities to discuss, another opportunity may not come. Sure enough, when people were battling with their teens trying to get them to listen, I did not have to do that. My work by then was already done.

At the time though, it was the most demanding job I ever had. Looking back, it was also the most rewarding.

When you get desperate for a little quiet, make a GAME of it! Let's see who brakes the silence first. Then you have a giggle, and your kid will beg to try it again. Make sure you make so many mistakes, that they are successful in winning at the game. They don't need to win all the time, but that is a whole other subject.

:)

KM
@km
07/07/12 10:50:29AM
90 posts

100 Pages!


Empath

Another co-incidence...I got the dog in 2000.

Have fun with the rabbit!

KM
@km
07/06/12 07:43:36PM
90 posts

100 Pages!


Empath

ooo, very long story. Before I knew I was an empath, I had a very strange experience that involved a dog. I was getting a "mental" message while driving that I had to stop in at the local shelter. However, this was a feeling not of my own. I never before this experience or after felt like I had to have a dog. I had plenty of pets as a child, and believe me, all the responsibility always fell on me for the care of most of them. So, I was actually enjoying life without pets at this particular time in my life.

The message kept repeating each time, but only in a quiet way, as I drove by the shelter to a nearby shopping center. One extremely busy day, I drove by the shelter again, and got that message again!! With all the adrenalin that was rushing through me, I almost felt angry. I thought "what on Earth" is in there?

I felt that I simply had to go in there, to settle whatever I needed to do there. I expected my two year old boy and I to just stop in, see the animals and get out and be done with it. The child was getting tired from errands and did not particularly want to go. I promised a quick tour, an "in and out" sort of thing. He agreed.

As I got out of the car, I thought I had to be crazy as I have never been inside an animal shelter before. So, feeling pretty weird, I quickly decided on the way in that I would just ask if it was ok to have a look around. Is that what people do, I thought?? (As you can see, this was clearly not something I have contemplated doing).

On the way into the shelter, my little boy found a small object on the ground. We saw the animals and as a matter of conversation, I asked my son which of the dogs he liked best. I expected him to be fond of a bouncing puppy. He looked at the puppy and then he walked two cages back and said "that one" (pointing to an older dog). By this time the dog came up close and motioned with its paw that he wanted to open the door. I got the message loud and clear "I want to go home". I have no clue why but I said out loud "don't worry, we will come back for you". I don't make promises I don't keep, and I started to feel that we were being swept along this experience and just had to go with it. Yet, I kept thinking to myself that this is all so out of character for me. I was trying to think what my husband's reaction to all this will be. He is going to think I have gone mad! My husband even had some pet allergies. I felt really strange about the whole matter. I felt almost numb, like everything was happening very quickly but I felt that this was something that was supposed to happen. On the way out of the shelter, my little boy found two of the same objects we found on the way in. We looked at each other, and I said: If we end up getting that dog, we already have a name for it.

The strange thing was that when I first started receiving these messages, this particular dog could not have been in there yet. This dog was found without a collar with no information and had only been in the shelter 6 days. The voice in my head has been pestering me much longer than that. However, it got really strong and insistent that day. The rules said the shelter had to wait 8 days before she could go for adoption. The owner of the dog never showed up, so we got the dog (2 days later).

My husband had to pick up the dog, as I had another appointment. As he lead the dog out of the shelter he thought, how on earth will I put her in the car. Will she cooperate, will she bite? As he opened the door, the dog jumped right in and they went straight home.

We thought that this would be the strangest experience that we had with this animal, but things got even stranger. Through the years it was discovered that the animal suffered from the same disease that my husband and I and both of our kids had. In fact when doctors had a difficult time detecting what ailed the dog, I kept suggesting what I thought was wrong. We even had to switch doctors for her, because the doctors would not listen.

We had the dog for seven years and had some great adventures. It is difficult to tell who benefited more from this adoption, the family or the dog.

I continued to privately ponder how strange this whole experience was. A dog that never did the usual "dog" things like destroying anything. Instead it was simply an additional family member. All she wanted to do is be with us...and that she did!

I like to think that this was a family member (coming back), who I did not get to say "good bye" to before she died. In fact we lost one another before we could become the friends we should have been. Being somewhat new at this empath thing, I don't even know how ridiculous that sounds to some of you. All I know is that it helps me to think it so.

KM
@km
07/06/12 05:47:08PM
90 posts



I will hold off on answering this until I am "wiser". Use caution though, unless you are ready to defend your sanity. ha ha


updated by @km: 01/13/17 01:37:55PM
KM
@km
07/06/12 05:25:19PM
90 posts

100 Pages!


Empath

It is funny that you gave the example of... "a vision about a dog"...

As if you knew?!

KM
@km
06/21/12 07:47:33AM
90 posts



In my senior year of high school, we were asked to do a collage. The teacher said draw whatever you like. I filled the paper nicely until I got to the end, and could not think of anything else I wanted to include. Yet, if I did not place something in the lower right corner of the work, the whole project would have been thrown off balance. I finally included flowers to fill the space. What was really interesting about this, is that I chose the type of flowers that really had no meaning in my life. They were not anything from my past, or anything I was interested in in any way. I simply drew them to fill the space.

I moved away from the town I went to high school and traveled widely across the globe. I kept the artwork and was amazed that through the years every part of the collage came true. (like a prediction) All but the lillies at the bottom right (I thought).

Then moving back to the same town many many years later, through a part time job I met a woman and we became good friends. She showed me some of her late husband's art work. I was told that he was a well-known local artist. One wall of her house had a HUGE painting of lillies done by her husband. Looking at the date at the bottom right, it was the same year I drew the lillies in high school. Not only that, but the lillies appeared to be done in the same style as he had done them. In fact, when she looked at the rest of the collection of my art work, she commented that "That is exactly how he used to draw".

So, just like the last straggling thought about that collage, this part of the "life picture" took a while to complete. Now the whole artwork has meaning.


updated by @km: 01/02/17 01:33:21AM
KM
@km
06/12/12 11:14:28AM
90 posts



I think what Tony means is that empaths are isolated to begin with. Now we are asking them to isolate themselves further by having them draw inward whether it is during meditation or shielding or whatever. I see his point. It does not mean that I am against the ideas of either meditation or shielding. Sometimes stepping out, instead of drawing in is the answer. One just needs to know the delicate balance when to apply which one.

For example: All the shielding in the world is not going to help you if you are dealing with deliberately abusive people. After you have been practically run over by one of these people, drawing inward is causing you to dwell further on the horrible feelings created by the attack. You may even be thinking terrible thoughts and questioning what reasons do we have to go on taking abuse like this.

Then, you go outdoors or sign onto a forum where someone posts an intriguing and intelligent question, that makes you think and takes your mind off your problem, and you forget about your run-in with the abusive. So, Tony may have something there, that when the shielding is not fully effective, there could be other alternatives to getting by.

That is only my take on this.

:)


updated by @km: 01/13/17 02:16:20AM
 
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