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01/30/16 05:58:50AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Hi all. Sorry for not replying yesterday, but was just really wiped out from everything + just needed to recharge a bit.

I don't know where the day went on Wednesday, there just weren't enough hours in the day, + my head was struggling to process+ focus properly. I ended up staying up all night trying to make my protective gem stone bracelet + just make sure I was ready. It got to the time when I dare'nt sleep for fear of not waking up to the alarm. (I tend to be late for things a lot, but it's not for the lack of trying not to be. So big things events are big pressure.)

There was a clear atmosphere + divide through the family. There was some pettiness, shameless nose rubbing, + a bit of an unpleasant atmosphere/ tension, + obviously considerable grief. It was awkward, but all things considered it went well.

It's just such a shame that things are the way they are. We didn't go to the wake, so didn't really get to see some family for more than a few minutes. The family split into 2 groups. One half went to the wake, my half went somewhere else for a meal. It was difficult as there was family we hadn't seen for decades due to such a distance,+ were unable to spend any time with them. Other guests didn't feel they could openly speak to us for fear of reprimand, but got the impression they might have liked to if things hadn't been as they were. It was difficult, but we made it through without there being any big arguments at all, + a lovely family meal afterwards. It was about 11:30pm by the time I finally stopped.

I had a quiet + reflective day yesterday, + got some good sleep. Feeling much better + a huge amount of relief that everyone survived the funeral. Just a little heavy hearted at the situation...

I was wondering though... I bought my daughter an Onyx pendant for the event, but during the meal afterwards the stone fell out of the bit that holds it. I put it back together, but the same thing happened again. I was wondering if that might have held some significance somewhere...? As I had a similar experience with a silver necklace breaking a few years back, that definitely seemed to be a sign/foretelling of events at the time. Or could just be a poorly crafted pendant... What do you guys think?

Blink
@blink
01/27/16 12:56:48PM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

The funeral is at 12 tomorrow + I have been shopping up a storm in my local fossil shop today... I bought an Onyx pendant for my daughter who's also coming, a silver + abalone shell pendant for me. As well as some onyx, obsidian, snowflake obsidian, amethyst, rose quartz, + amazonite beads to hopefully make a couple of bracelets in time for tomorrow...

Have been practicing my positive affirmations + survival pointers too. So fingers crossed, + wish me luck!

Thanks again everyone for your support xx

Blink
@blink
01/27/16 12:31:29PM
10 posts

Which are the best gem stones to use for protection + aiding resilience?


Tools for Empaths

Thanks M.

It's my grandmother's funeral, + I am anxious because there's a very big family feud going on between some of her daughters, my mother included. They're a fiery bunch, not always good at controlling their inner fire+ fury, + have a tendency to misdirect it also. The feud is a long standing one which in fact related to my grandmother, + is now even more prominent with her passing.

The funeral is at 12 tomorrow + is a few hours away so wrong have time to shop now. But I did pay a visit to my local fossil shop today, + I bought an Onyx pendant for my daughter who's also coming, a silver + abalone shell pendant for me, + some onyx, obsidian, snowflake obsidian, amethyst, rose quartz, + amazonite beads to hopefully make a couple of bracelets for tomorrow. Unfortunately they didn't have any black tourmaline beads, but hopefully I should have it covered with the rest!!

Thank you so much for replying. X

Blink
@blink
01/26/16 04:00:26AM
10 posts

Which are the best gem stones to use for protection + aiding resilience?


Tools for Empaths

Hi all.

I am new, + very much just beginning my journey. I have a very tense, upsetting + unpredictably volatile event to go to on Thursday, + this group was recommended to me.

I'm planning on making myself a bracelet for the occasion, + am certain that I want to include Rose Quartz for calming + healing, but was wondering what else would be good to include? Something for aiding with protection against negative + toxic energy/characters, + aiding my inner strength + resilience to hurtfulness would be useful, if there is such a thing..??

Someone suggested Onyx as a deterrent for toxic energies, but said it could be different for everyone. Was just wondering what people's thoughts were, + it anyone could help, please?

Many thanks in advance. X


updated by @blink: 03/02/17 10:57:54AM
Blink
@blink
01/25/16 03:12:28PM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

The trouble is, Snap,I say no + then feel nothing but guilty for it. There are very strong ties that make simply walking away very difficult. I am torn between self preservation + wanting to do the right thing by my family.

There is no way for me to make things any better or easier for anyone that I can see, + my last attempt failed miserably + blew up in my face to such an extent that I am still paying for it now + probably will for the foreseeable future... So all there is now is damage limitation, + trying to get through it all without any more additional upset. I can't wait until it's all over. I don't know what to do about repairing the damaged relationship that I'm now seemingly left with. :(

Blink
@blink
01/24/16 04:43:03AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Thanks Eva, + indeed everyone else for your helpful suggestions!

I have been struggling with a physically tight + uncomfortable feeling in my chest for sometime, + it has felt very heavy, centrally. It has come + gone over the past months, + sometimes it will also be accompanied by an uncomfortable feeling around my stomach area too, though it has not been as bad as it was on Friday. Friday I felt as though there was no room inside my body. My stomach felt bloated to the point that I was starting to feel the skin pulling. It was something that has been increasing over the week, along with the uncomfortable heavy + full feeling in my chest. My breathing has been being effected too, much shallower, but no wheezing or anything.

After having followed some of the links, reading a bit more, + listening to some meditations, my head was needing a moment to catch up. So whilst pondering all the suggestions + things that I'd learnt, + prompted by Trevor's suggestion of washing all the bad energy away from my clothes as well as myself. I decided having a shower + doing some laundry might be a good idea, whilst I tried to process everything.

This is the thing though... I started my shower + was trying to just clear my mind a little, trying out survival techniques + trying to work out what was mine + what was other people's stuff (struggling a bit with this at times). I was starting to feel a little better + felt maybe 3-5% less physical pressure within my body, but it was so there+ dominant. That's when I remembered the other part of Trevor's advice about the Epsome salts.... I don't know why but for a long time I went off baths, which I used to love, + just taken showers.

Whilst I have had a big bag of Epsome salts under my kitchen counter for quite some time now, + am aware that they are noted to be a bit of a wonder with all the different applications, I had no idea they could have such a powerful + immediate effect! I have heard that they are good for putting in your bath to help with stress + relaxing the muscles, + have tried them out once or twice before, but I don't think my stress levels were anywhere near the same levels at the time. Lol.

I happened to have just a few left over Epsome salts in a jar to hand, so decided to finish my shower off with a shallow soak, + then go on a house hunt for crystals...

WOW!

The bath alone felt like it lifted at least 40% of all the internal pressure + swelling I was feeling, throughout. The heaviness was still there, inside, like a tight ball, but slightly less. Was stunned at the change, so remembering that I had bought my daughter a rose quartz sphere on a stand a few years back, I went in search of that + then kept it on me for the rest of the day, + next to me at night. I am a little sceptical still, I mean this is all still very new to me, + a little mind blowing, so I didn't really have any expectations as such, but was/am open to possibilities.... Coincidence really doesn't seem to be a word that fits here, at all though.. it's just too much!!

Throughout the rest of the afternoon + evening my discomfort + heavy heart just seemed to gradually fade away. By the end of the night all symptoms had gone! I have had it in my pocket or to hand ever since...

This was a completely amazing experience for me, + I have been feeling better + better ever since finding this community, + just the overall feeling of love + support that there is here. Thank you so much to Elise for setting this all up! I was a complete lost + crying mess on Wednesday, have felt so alone + hopeless. Then I found all of this, + other people with similar experience to my own, + it's offered me a renewed sense of faith + hope for the future. So thank you so much to all of you for being here!!!xxx

Blink
@blink
01/22/16 09:28:55AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Thank you. I still haven't been able to access the Thriving as an Empath file. My tablet has downloaded it, no problem, it just keeps telling me it can't open it though. Wondering if I might get a different result using my laptop instead, though, so will try that once it's charged up a bit.

Blink
@blink
01/22/16 05:04:17AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Hello again, Trevor. Managed to find another source for the zip up technique, as the link doesn't seem to be valid anymore. It kept telling me the video didn't exist. Sadly the last link you gave me to follow, although my tablet is saying it has downloaded the attachment, it says the file can't be opened. Any ideas?

Many thanks

Blink
@blink
01/22/16 03:49:48AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Hi Trevor.

Thank you so much for replying, + for the pointers given. I will definitely have a look!

The funeral is on Thursday next week.

Thanks again.

Blink
@blink
01/22/16 02:19:18AM
10 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Hi. I am still very new to all this, and have only just joined. I saw other people being brave with their posts so thought I would follow their lead... I was hoping to get some helpful advice, if that's OK..?

I have a family funeral coming up next week which will be laced with a bitter family feud. I am really really anxious about this, as I know from previous experience I tend to absorb all the anguish + negativity of the situation + it becomes far too much...More so because it's family I think. I have thought about not going but that's not really an option, + I believe only serve to make matters worse in the long run. As I am very closely related with one of the feuding family members, who's not very good at managing her anger, pain + upset, + has a tendency to be a bit of a fireball, + lash out. She is very articulated, + knows how to deliver a verbal assassination, with all the blazing hatred behind it. This is just one element of her, + it's born from a pain + a vulnerability, trying to protect herself, but it doesn't make it any easier to be on the recieving end of it at all, + I am terrified of what she'll say next. Not to mention who I can talk to at the funeral, who I can't talk to... Where's the line between being a peace keeper + being disloyal??! I have already been accused of it, + I really don't think I was. Am I even allowed to grieve?

There are so many deep seated issues with a lot of pain, anger, + resentment. There is also the loss of our loved one we're meant to be saying goodbye to, + who she was. I'm afraid I'm going to be spending the whole day dodging + managing others emotions, trying to figure out what's expected of me... Watching the politics + trying not to say anything stupid... Trying to stay safe, + avoid any further verbal obliteration + painful + devastating emotional bombs. It's horrendous enough being around it all, I don't want it directed at me as well!

Sorry. Despite my best efforts, it's all come out as a bit of a ramble...

I'm trying the survival guide but any other tips would be very welcome. I really don't want to get involved in anything angry, but I'm being put into a very difficult situation where people's emotions are overruling, + too much. I don't know what to do.

Thanks for reading, even if you can't help. I hope your day is filled with love + sunshine!


updated by @blink: 01/10/17 03:51:42PM
Blink
@blink
01/22/16 12:40:01AM
10 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

Hi. I live in the UK, + am also pretty new to this. I thought your post was inspiring, so would try + follow the lead.

Am also looking to meet people with similar experiences.