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Kera
@kera
03/17/16 07:54:17PM
22 posts

Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too


Empath

I haven't been in many relationships, but the ones I've been in were with manipulative men. I feel like I attract them. I'm too nice and forgiving, I usually let people walk all over me (definitely something to work on!).

I want someone who hasn't been with many others, I guess I'm looking for true love/soul mates type thing. Sometimes I feel it's unrealistic, but you don't NEED to be with someone. So i want to wait and try to find the one, whether that ever happens or not, who knows.

I would continue life as normal. I'm sure someone will come into your life. Much like the one you were with for 10 years. Keep up positive energy and I'm sure you'll attract the one!

Kera
@kera
03/17/16 01:03:25PM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Wow that's pretty sad.

Yeah, My relatives are happy with their lives and the kindest people I know. They would never talk bad about anyone else. It's sad knowing how many people are unhappy with their lives and that they want to push that onto others.

I watched a lady on Youtube talk about empaths and that they usually feel the need to fight the negativity and it really absorbs into them. It's nice to hear that I'm not alone (from youtube to this forum)

Kera
@kera
03/17/16 12:58:17PM
22 posts

Keeping a Job


Empath

I cannot work due to panic attacks and anxiety (among other things). I wonder if this is related to being an empath? Maybe we absorb too much negative energy. It seems things affect us greater than others.. Hopefully one day I'll be able to overcome this and at least volunteer somewhere.

Kera
@kera
03/16/16 05:08:31PM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Wow that's so similar to me! I also get very angry the way people talk. The way people think makes me afraid also. I banned myself from some sites and it's helped me this past week. I was able to unban a site and read articles and some comments without engaging. I just roll my eyes lol! I don't think I should write comments for awhile. As it leads to depressing responses..

Something I need to work on.

I think it's mostly people online. They're unhappy in their own lives and they want to bring that on everyone.

I wish people could just be happy for one another and not judge.

Kera
@kera
03/07/16 10:11:51AM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Thank you for all your replies! You're right, negativity and sadness effect me in a different way than most. It physically pains me when I read some things people say. I need to focus on myself and becoming more comfortable with me, and accepting what my life is. I need to find happiness and understanding for myself.

Kera
@kera
03/07/16 10:10:17AM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Thank you for this! It's very true. I try to make people see the light and to see the world should be about love and happiness, but in doing so I surround myself with negativity. I am going to try to stay away from most news articles and ALL comments (since when I see a negative one, it upsets me and I feel like I MUST respond).

I need to just be me and worry about myself. If I'm okay with myself and where I'm at, I shouldn't let others bring me down. I don't know why it's so hard for me to let things go, and to just know that some people cannot be changed or able to see that life is more than money and the things you have.

I need to work on accepting myself and being happy with myself and working with what I was given.

Kera
@kera
03/07/16 10:06:37AM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

I do watch ASMR videos actually! They are very relaxing.

I'm unemployed, I've tried multiple times to work but it ends in mental breakdowns.. I'm trying to recover by going to therapy. It makes me depressed because others look down upon me. Like because I don't have a job I'm not worth anything.

I do need to focus on positivity. I need to ignore what others say and know that that's not all people that are like that, but It's very hard for me to do for some reason.

I'm stuck right now in life and have no choice but to be surrounded by family that puts me down. I feel like my worrying and anxiety and inability to let things go were because of the environment I was raised in.

Its very hard to overcome, I'm trying to work out it though!

Kera
@kera
03/06/16 07:06:18PM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

Yeah you're right. I just get so frustrated by the way some people act. I know you can't reason with some or show them the light, but I feel like I need to at least try. Same, the negativity overcomes me. But it's definitely affecting me in a bad way. I need to restrain myself and not look at comments. I should start focusing on the positive people, not the negative. I need to limit myself to positive sites (such as this) for awhile.

Kera
@kera
03/06/16 05:27:19PM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

I really don't know. I feel like I'm meant to spread positivity and acceptance. Since I'm home most of the time I go on the internet a lot. Reading the comments has become a habit to me. I like to hear what people have to say about certain stuff, but reading the comments leads to disappointment. I guess I'm hoping for nice people, people to say intelligent responses. I'm hoping for no negativity. But 85% of the time, it's just a bunch of negativity.

I blocked a few forum sites. Because on these 'support' sites it's a lot of bullying and such. I'd hate to block news sites. I need to try harder to stay away from the comments..

I guess I'm just in disbelief over how many people are full of hatred and want to express it online through putting others down. It makes me incredibly sad. I feel like I need to address this then in the comments by writing positivity and not to judge others. Which leads to more disappointment which takes a toll on my mental health.

Kera
@kera
03/06/16 04:40:03PM
22 posts

How to not get affected by negativity ~Please Help


Empath

I have bad anxiety, I worry about everything. I also get very depressed sometimes about my life.

I get so upset and can't get over what some people say think/say. Everything someone feels or says takes a toll on me.

I read forums and news articles online. The comments make me cry. The stuff people say makes me so upset and it makes me hate people. Telling others they should die, and saying nasty stuff about people with disabilities and mental health problems. Even on news articles. About a kid who did a dare and almost died. People were saying he should have died since he was so stupid.

I cannot believe this world. I cannot believe how hateful it is. The only thing people care about is money. I read an article about a girl who quit her high paying,very stressful job, and started a low paying job that she loves. The comments were all saying she's a millennial and needs to grow up, and that life isn't easy and now she ruined her future.

Why? Why is money more important than happiness?

I know a family who lives with their elderly parents. Everyone's happy and they enjoy life. But people talk bad about them because they live with their parents. Why?

The people in this world disgust me.

I cry and get migraines caused by my anxiety from thinking about these things. From taking in all the negativity and hate.

I try to spread positivity and acceptance. Only to get a bunch of thumbs downs and nasty responses saying I need to grow up and face the 'real world'. The 'Real world'? You mean the mean world created by people like you? Saying this is the 'Real World' and we just have to deal with it is such an excuse. An excuse for people to be mean and judge others.

The world should not be full of hate and negativity. You should not hate your life! You should not hate what you do every day. You should not have to be put down for doing what you enjoy/want rather than what's 'normal or makes a lot of money)

I don't know what to do anymore. I like to read news articles and to spread acceptance. I like to be positive. But there are so many negative people who just like to be mean and don't care about others feelings or lives.


updated by @kera: 03/13/17 10:57:09AM
Kera
@kera
01/31/16 02:44:48PM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Accepted! I'm so suprised by all the responses I got and people saying they feel the same way. I always thought there was just something wrong with me

Kera
@kera
01/28/16 12:18:19PM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

I'm so sorry for taking so long to respond!

Thank you so much for this response. It was so beautiful to read and very encouraging that someone feels like I do.

I've always been positive, and I try not to look at the negatives. I put myself in others shoes and try my best to understand why one would do something or feel the way they do.

I've been trying to spread positivity and love. However, There's more hateful/negative people than positive. I see so many horrid responses, and people saying others should die. Its so sad and brings me down. I've been afraid to even post positive comments as I get a ton of negativity. Its definitely taking a toll on me, and making me want to give up.

From reading your response though, I feel more understanding. Pain and negativity breeds pain and negativity. People cannot love or express love when they themselves have never gotten it. Most people were taught their way of thinking.

I try to help people be more open and understanding. However this world is too far gone in my opinion. No one really even cares or wants to be nicer or more understanding.

I've been struggling with myself and I'm still trying to figure it out..

I don't like pills at all. I'm on only a sleeping pill right now. I tried going without it but I do not sleep at all. I feel bad about taking it since Its not natural, But If i don't take it I don't sleep at all and I just feel even more down. :/

Kera
@kera
01/28/16 11:59:21AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you for the recommendations. I've been eating much better this past week. I haven't done any meditating, I've been a little down. Thank you!

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:58:23AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much for the advice! I truly appreciate each and everyone's thoughts and information.

I have recently started an all organic diet. I'm hoping I'll be able to pull through and not give in.

My therapist has said she feels like I have PTSD even though I've never been in a war or haven't been sexually abused. My life has been difficult, I'm still most definitely trying to recover and manage the best I can.

It's funny that you say find some words to live by. I play video games like Final Fantasy, ones with rich stories. A quote that always stuck with me was "This is MY life". It gives me inspiration to not give in, not to change for others, and to live my life the way I want.

As for passions, I like Music, Video games, and Manga. I know that sounds trivial to some, but it's not only an escape, but they provide stories. Unique stories that I learn and grow from.

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:50:23AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much for the photos and response. The pictures were very touching. I've bookmarked the book and plan to buy it once I have some money.

I've had a tough life fighting with depression, emotionally abusive parents, etc. I can't say suicide hasn't been a 'thought' , however I know I'd never do it. It's never been a real option or way of fixing things.

Thank you so much for the information! I will do more meditating and asking for guidance and energy.

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:46:27AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Wow! Thank you so much for your response. It's amazing how many people here I can relate to. It makes me so happy to know I'm not alone.

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:43:49AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

I'm surprised to see so many people who feel the same as me! It's so nice to know I'm not alone. I barely leave the house. When i do its just to go on a car ride so i can look out the window and listen to music. I call my parents mom and dad, but there's not really a connection there. Thank you for your response! I appreciate it!

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:41:47AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much for the touching response! I do try my best to understand why people act the way they do. When I disagree or find anger in something someone does, I try to find reason as to why they act that way. Its still something I need to work on. I need to be understanding and open.

I haven't had a good childhood.. My therapist says she sees PTSD in me, though I've never been sexually assaulted or to war. I live in a household with parents who aren't very nice. It takes a lot out of me on a daily basis.

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:38:16AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much for your kindness!

Kera
@kera
01/20/16 09:37:46AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much for the response and information. I will definitely look into the Chakra system, its something I've heard about but haven't ventured into. Thanks

Kera
@kera
01/19/16 09:05:29AM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

Thank you so much to everyone who's taken the time to read this and to respond.

I have tried meditating in the past, but I usually give up. Its hard for me to find time when It's quiet in the chaotic house I live in, but i need to keep trying!

I do feel like I'm here to spread love, so lately I've been trying to help out people online by respond to their questions, usually about mental health and emotionally or physically abusive households. Its so hard because there are just so many negative people. I get so upset seeing how uncaring and mean some people are. I like to read the news to see what's going on in the world and I see so many horrid comments on every article. I need to stop letting it get to me. I need to overcome it and continue to spread love and peace.

Kera
@kera
01/18/16 04:35:21PM
22 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

I'm 20 years old. My whole life I've had social phobia, depression, anxiety, insomnia

I've always felt different. I look at people like they're foreign and odd. It's hard for me to even believe I'm one of them. Humans are so full of hatred and negativity. Human bodies to me are not attractive. They're so imperfect. I break down every night due to being depressed. I hate it here. This world is not right. Life is not enjoyable. Humans disgust me pretty much.

I'm extremely emotional/sensitive. Ill cry over reading about deaths of people or animals.
I'm nice to everyone and try to help out. I'm compassionate and try to understand everyone's way of thinking. Music moves me in such a strong way. Its an escape for me.

I'm on the outside looking in. I prefer to watch, in fact I enjoy(depending) watching. I don't like to get involved. I feel zoned out, or not in tune with reality.

I don't talk. Like at all. English is in a way foreign to me even though I was born in the US 100% american.

I get extreme Deja Vu. Like I KNOW I've had this happen before. Or i remember reading something at this exact moment. When brand new episodes of shows come on sometimes, I've seen them before. I know I have, i can recall what happens. I feel like I've watched them a long time ago.

I believe in True Love. Forever love. Soul Mates. Not the human love. I don't want to get involved with anyone. I feel like I have someone waiting , or maybe its me wishing i have a 'True Love' elsewhere who understands me.

I find myself saying ' I want to go Home' all the time. Yet I live with my parents at 'home'. But its not home. But i don't know where real home is.

Recently I looked up 'I want to go Home' and found out about Star People and Earth Angels. I cried. It resonated with me. I'm not sure if it's because I'm one, or because I'm not alone in my thinking.

I don't know if souls exist. I dont even know if this earth exists or other people. I hope souls exist. I hope its true, so when i die I'm free and don't have to be here anymore. I don't want to be reincarnated.

I love to read about Alien/UFO sightings, and planets. I want proof of something else.

I've tried to tap into Past Lives, or to get some sort of sign about who I am and why I'm here.
However.. Nothing. I've tried clearing my mind, listening to Celtic music.

They say you need to imagine doors and walking through them. However I have Aphantasia. When I close my eyes its just pitch black. I can't imagine or 'see' anything. I talk think, not see think. Its extremely depressing. I cannot picture faces, objects or anything. I dream, but there are no details. I know there is color, but even hair and facial structures i cannot make out.

I don't know what to do. I hope I'm not just some Human who will just die or get reincarnated. I want there to be more. However I can't see angels/demons/spirits/auras. I have no proof or evidence that I'm more than just a plain human.


updated by @kera: 05/08/17 07:05:11AM