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ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/26/16 07:04:34AM
35 posts

After Recharging?


Empath

I just recently found out what recharging is. :) When we have emotional overload (energy draining experiences, big crowds, etc) - personally, I crave solitude time to grasp my own emotions. It's my understanding that many people do this to cleanse themselves of the energies surrounding the world. It's a time to "recharge" (hehe, get it? lol I love it!)

But, I found out that if you take yourself out of the realm for too long and stay in solitude, you can have "too much" recharge where suddenly your thoughts take over. I'm not sure if it's because you've recharged your internal emotions and are ready to be with the world again (or what). Someone else told me this because it happens to me once I'm in solitude for 2 days or more. Everyone has their own amount of days that can be handled - turns out mine is 2 days max.

So, now I'm finding places to go to (since I'm practically new to town) after recharge days where I can get my emotional "fix". I hope I explained this right.

Feel free to message me and we can discuss more! :) Welcome!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/26/16 07:00:53AM
35 posts

After Recharging?


Empath

All of these options are amazing. I live in a major city near the ocean, but I've always been a little leery of the ocean itself let alone people at the beach. I've grown up at the beach and I can honestly say that there hasn't been a good time on the sand (other than the day I got married. Go figure, we chose the beach). lol

But, there are so many other cool options here! I love them, thank you! And considering that I had too many extra days recharge again this past week and it ended with solitude - I think going to the park or playground would be wonderful. I'm going to try this right now! Thank you everyone!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/22/16 08:29:49AM
35 posts

After Recharging?


Empath

Hello all :)

So, thanks to all of your responses and guidance; I recently found out that I have to minimize my days of recharging to prevent the counteraction of too much. I had no idea that it could do the opposite and resulted in such a low feeling where interaction is actually needed. Pretty cool. lol

Does anyone have any recommendations of where to go or visit after recharge days? I just recently moved back home to my old stomping ground - It's a major city (big crowds, lots of traffic, impatient people, ya - the fun stuff) making parks a little hard to come by. My old life, well, I left that behind when I moved years ago. A little sad because there are already some places that bring bad memories. Good news, I'm heading a little more North and meeting new people to develop a new ones. Point is - I'd like to have some "escapes" for positive social energy (not necessarily for meeting people - more like being around them after recharge). I'm just not sure where to start?

Bookstore, Beach, Puppy Park? Would love to know what works for you! :)

Hope that makes sense! lol Much appreciation for all of you, really, you all have given me so much to feel amazing about. Be well!

-Natasha


updated by @confuciousfeels: 01/13/17 11:17:24AM
ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/22/16 05:46:33AM
35 posts

Upcoming Funeral


Empath

Trevors post is pretty helpful since many empaths have experienced this same thing before. We can learn from others struggles to help minimize ours. :)

I'm glad you found a video link for Zip Up Technique. Even if the last attachment doesn't download properly, you still have a lot of really good information in the link he posted about Thriving as an Empath (The post itself).

In the meantime, I only know this - Yes, it is ok for you to grieve. You should be! I realize the tension will be hard to manage especially when you feel everyone elses animosity. No, it won't be easy and yes there are techniques that can help control these things (handle them better) as you progress on into your gifts. This website is perfect for that.

Including posts! My goodness, post as much as you want!!!! Nothing is too taboo - we are all "weirdos" (no disrespect to anyone) and personally, I like to let my "weirdo" shine bright!

Best advice I can give for you now, I believe, is don't be afraid to disappear (out of the building, take a walk, etc) when things become almost too much. In fact, do it before it gets to that point - make a point to listen to yourself. Any "issues" you get from disappearing won't be nearly as bad as "sucking it up and dealing with it all". And remember your meditation. Before, during, and after if necessary. :)

My condolences all the way and I'll pray for good measure for this upcoming challenge. By the end, without realizing it, you'll be stronger than you were before it all happened. Life is amazing that way.

Love and light Lovey .... :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/22/16 05:37:01AM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

Thank you for that! :) Much appreciation to you! Everyone on here has been extremely helpful and I bet some of the posters are looking for more than just me as a pen pal. I'll add you now - if I can recommend something? Start adding a few people on here and see where it goes! Have fun on your journey! :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/22/16 05:12:01AM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

On my way! :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/22/16 05:10:50AM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

Sending you a friend request now. I'm on the East Coast as well! :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/15/16 11:44:07AM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

Agreed! Gem is right, that personality really starts to shine through during this age. I'm excited for what 4 may bring. lol

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/15/16 08:16:37AM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

I definitely don't have the immediate response expectation. :) Plus, I understand how 3 yr olds can take up some time, too - I have a God daughter who just turned 4 that is a sidekick of mine. lol

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/14/16 08:12:57PM
35 posts

10 Signs You Are Experiencing a Psychic Awakening


Library of Light

The tingling sensation. This one got to me. Completely knocked me off my chair. The others I understood, felt like I can relate, absolutely.

But, the tingling sensation throughout my body. Recently started a couple of months ago and has increased. I now feel it every day. I was just telling my mother this and I couldn't figure out why.

Wow.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/14/16 07:23:34PM
35 posts

Pen Pals (kinda) :)


Empath

Hello all :)

I'm going out on a limb here, a little hard for me to do, but I know it will work out well in the end regardless. From previous posts, I'm new to all of this and am eager to learn. I know it's different for everyone and I'm looking for "pen pals" (so to speak). I'm not sure of the rules on here - we can keep it on the site to make it more comfortable. But, I'm looking to share stories, talk about the day/experiences (for both of us), what we've learned or know, our advice, and of course ... to make a friend.

Seems odd for me which is why this is uncomfortable to do. But, as I said, I know I had to do it and see where this road takes me. I feel it. And that's an amazing thing.

Peace to you all, and with love.

:)


updated by @confuciousfeels: 01/09/17 11:48:52AM
ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/13/16 02:11:21PM
35 posts

What do you feel?


Empath

We all have so many connected stories, it's absolutely amazing. xoxo

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/13/16 02:10:18PM
35 posts

Detached empath?


Empath

Very cool response Karen. I'm going to look into all of that myself. Thank you so much!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/13/16 10:16:24AM
35 posts

Detached empath?


Empath

I personally believe that it won't be long before you feel the emotional side in your heart. From previous replies :) I was detached for a good decade (my entire 20's) emotionally with my heart, but not with anything else. It's where the clairvoyance and healing was possible (without realizing it was empath related). It wasn't until my emotions "boiled over" that I suddenly had no choice but to feel it inside my heart and soul as well.

Scary as hell, though enlightening in the end.

Hang in there, don't analyze it too much, and work on the gifts that you do have control with. Seems like you're learning what triggers set it off (like the drinking) - and that's, in my opinion, learning and fine tuning it. And remember that the journey is the best part!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/13/16 10:00:26AM
35 posts

What do you feel?


Empath

Answers of who I really am.

My whole life I've known myself to be different (weird, as my mother would call it). I've had visions, clairvoyance since I was young, physical ailments, and it was all suppressed by family (unknowing to them). Once I hit 30, these gifts heightened and totally shook up my world.

A couple months ago, the moment the word "empath" and its definition crossed my ears - I had no idea what it all meant - but, knew it was significant when it settled the "I'm weird" ball of confusion I've felt since I was young. Something I knew nothing about made complete sense tome. And am just now learning more.

Figuring out that I'm an empath saved my sanity. And that's a beautiful thing.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/13/16 09:42:08AM
35 posts

Deep question.


Empath

Yes, I completely understand this. I'm there now. It's probably why I start every reply with "I'm still learning, but what I have found is ..." and then provide the information I know, deep inside, to be true. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/12/16 04:11:23PM
35 posts

I always knew I was some sort of 'path


Empath

It all makes sense to me. I was raised by 2 cops (controlling homicide detective and a narcissistic mother). I adore my parents, honestly, for the people that they are - I feel the need to say that when using those descriptions.

Anyway, desensitized is a word I know - emotions were just not allowed in my house. It was easier to turn them off than to deal with them until it became too late (around 30 yrs old).

After the explosion, I started with meditation. For scientific reasons and because my therapist recommended it. Hard at first, but helped big time and I definitely recommend it. I'm still learning other ways myself - maybe we can swap what we find? :)

As for being scared; yep, all the time, still fee that way. But, I realized that my nature to fight all of it rather than accept and be completely open to it makes it harder and a lot more scary. Truth is, now I'm excited of all the things I'm learning, even the scary stuff. Because I now know it's all for a purpose and I'm lucky and blessed to be a part of it.

The good outweighs the bad. I just had to go through a buncha bad to figure that out.

Don't fight it, Meditation helps. The guide here helps. And everyone on here, their posts, and advice help. You're not alone. :) And it's going to be better than okay.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/12/16 01:16:06PM
35 posts

I always knew I was some sort of 'path


Empath

Congratulations on finding the light. There is a whole world of wonder just waiting for you.

I recently have found it as well (within the last year). But, it started from being so cod, as you put it. I spent an entire decade as a very cold individual without realizing that it was hindering my gifts. Didn't think I'd fit well into this category until it all decided to boil over without any control from me. All I can say is don't let it get to that point. lol

My best advice would be to let go, as much as possible, and don't overanalyze any of it. Research, check out the empath training on this website. and literally - be accepting to all that you experience.

Not read, but actually experience.

It's easier said than done, but all I can say being this far along of my own path. In the meantime, enjoy the ride. :) It's going to be an amazing experience. Be well!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 01:46:25PM
35 posts

just a question


Empath

It's very possible. I know many people, including myself, that are able to hide any emotion with the tone of their voice. This came from my job where I spent many years as an owner or manager that had to hide anger, frustration, or fear from staff during critical moments. My facial expressions, however, I still have yet to master. lol But, it's very possible overall.

Trust your intuition. Most often we know how people feel before they even do. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 01:18:11PM
35 posts

David Bowie ...


Empath

I appreciate everyone's responses. I definitely don't feel plugged into someone famous by any means. But, the sadness of the world. Perhaps it's of things to come or from death or more.

But, it was felt. By someone, somewhere - it was felt. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 12:32:15PM
35 posts

I feel guilty because I'm miserable...


Empath

I'm currently job hunting myself. The entire experience is difficult for anyone, I think. I have to believe that the right opportunity will present itself. My job, I guess, is to apply and go to any interview I feel that I should. From there, the options will begin to pour in and I'll just know.

I believe this will happen to you as well. Being rejected is part of the process. Happened to me a couple of days ago, plagued my spirit until I reminded myself of exactly this.

Turns out I was upset about being rejected; not about losing the job. I was happy I lost that opportunity, in the end. It wouldn't have been a good fit for me and I know that.

Have faith and it will prove to be. :) Good luck.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 09:20:23AM
35 posts

David Bowie ...


Empath

It just occurred to me, so I thought I'd share it because this is really the only place that I can.

Throughout the weekend, I've seen posts of crying, sadness from others especially on this site, and an emotional connected between other empaths in regards to the these feelings. I, myself, have had a very emotional weekend feeling a depression that I couldn't understand.

In fact, Saturday (especially) - I had many moments where I felt so empty that I compared it to "a death" in the family of someone close. It was the same exact feeling that I would have if that were true. From recent posts/replies, I've learned that one way to differentiate my own feelings in comparison to anothers is to see whether they hold warrant to my current situation. These feelings, this past weekend, did not in any way shape or form.

So, could it be? Could David Bowie's death that is an obvious sadness throughout the world be the reason for the sadness? I began to feel better late last night and into this morning even after hearing the news. (Though succumbed with my own emotion for his passing, this I can recognize).

Would love to hear everyone's thoughts ....

"RIP David Bowie"


updated by @confuciousfeels: 01/15/17 06:08:20AM
ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 06:55:25AM
35 posts

How far away can an empath feel things?


Empath

I'm very new to all of this myself. I have found so far that distance doesn't account for much. And we can be connected to people that we don't even know! Karen, the first comment, said it perfectly - "Being blindsided". My goodness, I couldn't think of a better description! (Happened to be this past weekend and am now learning, thanks to this site, that it may not have been due to me at all - but someone else!)

Ahhh, the things we learn every day with gifts like these.

My question still remains - how are you able to tell the difference between a regular episode and one caused by your Nan's pain? (I am so sorry to hear, by the way).

I wish you the best with your answers. Blessed be darling. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 06:50:43AM
35 posts



This is a tough decision dear friend. It's easy to say as an outsider to "go and fulfill your destiny of being happy". But, it isn't that simple and no one really tells you of the backlash that will come.

This happened to me and I left my husband of 10 yrs. Much different scenario with many similarities. Most importantly, none of it was done with intention to hurt anyone.

We didn't work out, but I did find myself (after years of trauma). Here is what you need to know if you decide to leave your marriage.

*Follow your heart. It was always guide you the best possible outcome even if it drags you through your mud to get there.

*Be prepared (the best you can). People will ask why. Some will tell you that our decision is a bad one, etc. Don't worry about anyone else and their opinions. You are, after all, the only one living your life.

*Lastly, when your lie does a complete 180 - remember those happy moments that you've been able to experience (and never would have if you didn't make the decision to go).

That being said - you are the only one that has to live with "what ifs" and "regrets". If you decide not to take the road that has been paved in front of you (which is okay! Remember that - you are the master of your own destiny!).

Then that is the path that you are meant to take.

Whatever may happen :) It will be the right thing that is supposed to happen to you. For now, be blessed in knowing that the answer has already been made and you are currently on your journey to figure out what that is. Good luck and blessed be.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/11/16 06:41:10AM
35 posts

Just wondering how many...


Empath

My entire weekend, but moreso Saturday and Sunday. I posted about it on here (somewhere lol).

I'm having a much better day today. Thing is, I'm not sure where mine came from. How do you know it "doesn't feel like yours"?

I figured mine was from too much recharge, but maybe it was from someone else? Because again, I really didn't have any reason to feel as low and down as I did.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 05:58:45PM
35 posts



The hardest part, I think, is admitting that they are truly toxic. Even if intentions are meant well, there's plenty of love, and always hope. Sometimes - it just ends up this way and the lesson is learned.

Happy you figured this out. And keep trusting yourself ... love to hear the fight in you to be, well, you!

Be well. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 02:43:12PM
35 posts

Time alone to Recharge?


Empath

Reading your response brought me back to every single Sunday that I've felt this way the last decade or so. I never really thought of it that way! And usually, it was my own anxiety getting back to work - at least that's what I've always atoned it to. But, I haven't worked over the last 6 months (literally relaxing, coming in touch with myself, and piecing it all together).

Point is, I feel this the 2nd day after I recharge. Thursday was my recharge day; bliss. Friday started ok, had to leave to visit someone in the hospital (keyword), and by that evening, all of Saturday, and the start of Sunday - it's been an spiral of uncontrollable sadness including one day of anxiety in the near future.

Still, being Sunday today - though it's become better than the last 2 days - it's still my typical "Sunday - leave me be world" day.

Hope that helps explain that. And yes, your post helped immensely with understanding all of it. Amazing, Most appreciated!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 11:46:25AM
35 posts

Time alone to Recharge?


Empath

Thank you so much for this response. You've given me amazing insight already.

No, I haven't taken the course (didn't realize there was one?) lol But, I am going to look into it right after this reply.

Some background information about the anxiety - I have actually come to realize that the anxiety I feel is due to energy overload. I don't have many fears of being in public, on the spot, etc. It's more about how I feel during those times (and usually in places with large groups). While my therapist calls it anxiety (which it is) - I now understand why that may be there.

But, this course should help me with that also. :) Thank you so much! Be well!

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 10:59:32AM
35 posts

Are You an Old Soul ?


Library of Light

Beautiful. Happy I came across this! Love accepted and returned. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 10:49:11AM
35 posts

Time alone to Recharge?


Empath

Like everyone else on here, I need times alone to recharge where I seclude myself to the world. My therapist calls it the "effect of anxiety" and I'm supposed to fight that fear and go out any way. (Mind you, he is also my Mindfulness Counselor).

My question is this. When it lasts for days (like this past weekend); it started off amazing (where I felt happy in my own thoughts, feelings, etc). But, it always seems to turn for the worse the following day (and so on). I become very depressed, crying, and my anxiety spirals out of control.

Does any one else experience this? Any reason why? And is there a way to recharge happily?

Thank you in advance and much appreciation for any responses. :)


updated by @confuciousfeels: 05/14/17 10:37:32AM
ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 09:43:33AM
35 posts

I'm having trouble with being an empath all together. I just feels too much


Empath

I know figuring out you're an empath as an adult is difficult let alone being a teenager. There are more advanced empaths on this site that will definitely be able to help. Clicking the link below is a start and reading some of the articles on here is highly recommended. Understanding what you're encountering will be a big step.

It reminds you that you are not alone. And what you are feeling and encountering is shared with others who can calm fears.

Everyday, every second, every minute - say to yourself outloud - that you are strong enough to handle it & this too shall pass.

It's not cliche, it's worth it. And you'll be amazed how much that helps you handle everything else (including this learning time) at a much better rate.

You will smile again. Embrace the change and know that it's all for something amazing.

Be well.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 08:49:56AM
35 posts

Felt someone crying


Empath

The most appreciation for you. And this post. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 08:48:02AM
35 posts

not wanting to talk


Empath

Thank you for this post (and to all the replies!). I've been going through this all weekend! lol

You're not alone and as most have said - it's a good time to recharge. I feel horrible during days like this only because when the phone does ring - I flat out don't answer it. Being that "go to" person can be demanding and our conscious seems to do some damage as well.

But, I'll follow the lead and trust that it's the "recharge" that we need to continue doing what we do.

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 08:45:08AM
35 posts

Is there another approach to addressing people that I clearly discern their emotions?


Empath

I realize that every comment thus far says the same thing. And I agree. It's hard for people to admit their own emotions especially when they can be considered "negative" (ex: angry, sad, etc). It's almost like it becomes a weakness for them to admit such things when in reality - it isn't.

Of course, that makes it harder for us to determine if what we are feeling is correct. I'm sure that "knowing" comes from experience and acceptance (which I am personally still learning myself.)

People I understand. I was wondering - does that ever happen to you with close family and friends? My husband discredits me when I say that only to find out weeks later that I was right. I think that's what makes it the hardest.

So, I was wondering if that ever happens to you as well. Regardless, we're in this together and that's what finally makes it great. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 08:38:12AM
35 posts

Chakras, Reiki, Spiritual, Empath?


Empath

:) Welcome to the group! I'm sorry to see a newbie (like myself) going through the same things, but it's relieving as well.

I'd love to hear more about the "crazy" thoughts. In the meantime, my most appreciation for replying to mine. :)

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/10/16 08:36:34AM
35 posts

Chakras, Reiki, Spiritual, Empath?


Empath

It's funny, because when I hear of ego and fear based - I realize that I completely understand what you're saying and yet am unaware of how to stop it. I'm trying to do everything I can to be open and free because that's the right thing to do - but, the fact is - my ego takes over.

How do you stop something like that when you're not conscious of it?

ConfuciousFeels
@confuciousfeels
01/02/16 10:52:49AM
35 posts

Chakras, Reiki, Spiritual, Empath?


Empath

Hola all. Wanted to introduce myself & say how Happy I am to be here. Some background about me for those curious. ;)

I'm Natasha, 32 yrs old, long time empath, new to the word. As I've read with many, our stories are very similar and i can see the relation, it's practically relieving knowing there are others. But, I"m an analytcal type of woman, very exact, logical, etc.

I've always believed that these things were true, but was raised by law enforcement (my entire family where emotions are controlled, silent, & suppressed. Problem is - I have always knew I was different. And the black sheep I became. Without realizing, I changed it to "fall in line".

For 10 yrs, I felt nothing. I learned how to feel only 2 emotions - anger/anxiety. I was never mean, but always cold. I cared about many peopled, but it was never expressed. I becamse successful, reached goals, broke a heart or two, and suddenly hit a major downward spital.

And here I am. Because the last 2 years - my emotions (due to semitrauma) have suddenly been expose. As my therapist says, my boiling pot of emotions were suppressed for so long - they boiled over.

Medication, therpay sessions, lost career, acceptance of the life change, acceptance of my trauma, and now building a new being - the memories of going through this very thing from child through young adult (before the 10 yr. spree of ice) - I can't believe I forgot who I was.

Feelings, intruition, my success was derived on reading people and being a teacher of our trade. My motivational speaking trainings were national and my favorite part of the job was personally touching/helping staff with personal matters as well. I love helping people & now know that is what I'm meant to do.

I just want to tame it. Not allow it to control my life. Believe that crystals, reiki healing, mindfulness, and everything I am learning truly does make a difference. And if I could tap into my gifts better, understand them, I might be able to help more. :)

What do these words mean? lol Am I even special enough to be intruned with a gift like this or am I just crazy? Is this a psychological example of my nutty brain? lol

Funny to say, I just wish there was confirmation from others that know instead of my own thoughts creating the solution. I don't trust the brain manipulation :)

And that's my story .... Much appreciation for listening.


updated by @confuciousfeels: 04/06/17 11:06:52PM