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StringBean
@stringbean
01/12/16 08:58:07PM
8 posts

I'm a CHRISTIAN and I believe with all my heart in CHRIST and I have this Gift!


Empath

Religion and spirituality are supposed to help us find peace and purpose. If you aren't finding peace with it, perhaps look for something else? You don't have to toss your current beliefs aside...just find a better approach? For me, I couldn't ever find any religion or spiritual doctrine that fit me, and organized religion just doesnt work for me... so I patchworked my own from many different religions and philosophies. I'm so much happier now, and my religion/spirituality is personal to me, not something I feel I need to be on par with others about.

StringBean
@stringbean
01/01/16 11:09:19AM
8 posts

Autism spectrum disorders and empathy connection?


Empath

The chemical fragrances make me disoriented/spacey, uncoordinated, and I have trouble getting my words out. It kinda dumbs me down. The mold specifically makes me wacky emotional (including depressed and hopeless). Having realized that, it makes me wonder exactly what it is that causes mental illness and depression that is so rampant in US society these days.

StringBean
@stringbean
01/01/16 10:56:37AM
8 posts

What if I've shielded myself for so long I don't know what to look for?


Empath

That theory would bring hope that more people could be re-sensitized to be feeling types =)

StringBean
@stringbean
01/01/16 10:52:01AM
8 posts

Autism spectrum disorders and empathy connection?


Empath

I am sensitive to mold, and when I have exposures, its very difficult for me to control the emotions I'm feeling. Its one of the ways I can identify I'm in a building with mold.

StringBean
@stringbean
01/01/16 10:48:28AM
8 posts

Manipulating Negativity


Empath

One of the main differences between the formal definitions of a psychopath and a sociopath is that the tendencies of a psychopath are inherent, and the tendencies of a sociopath are believed to have come from environment/nurturing (or lack thereof).

Maybe you guys are thinking of a psychopath?

StringBean
@stringbean
12/30/15 08:41:15PM
8 posts

Afraid to love


Empath

I used to do that... fall so hard and deep... I didn't understand it. And when I did fall, it was often with someone mentally ill who was very broken and had deep emotions. It was all very painful and confusing to me.

While it isn't conventional, I feel better these days by not having a committed monogamous relationship. Once I let go of the "you must devote all to one person" aspect, and just love whoever, whenever, and how many people I want...I'm so much happier, and I feel my love is healthier. I think that at some point in the future I might settle down with someone just for logistics sake of getting old together, and if I do happen upon "the one", I believe he would have to be a healing type like I am, to where our intensity calmed each other down. I've heard some here state that two empaths shouldn't be together, but I've had a close friendship with a healer, and it was a very neutralizing and peaceful...I will not commit to someone who doesn't understand or appreciate my "intensity" again.

StringBean
@stringbean
12/30/15 05:23:13PM
8 posts



I'm left-handed. I was never forced to use my right hand, ever. I was allowed to be left-handed from the start.

StringBean
@stringbean
12/30/15 05:12:52PM
8 posts

Manipulating Negativity


Empath

I am 42, but have only become aware of these "energy" aspects of myself in the past 2 years....during nursing school, and then in my first hospital nursing job that was inundated with lateral violence (seasoned nurses being very abusive to new nurses)...when I began to realized the real power I had.

I've been spending year after year trying to analyze myself, why I was so sensitive, strengthening myself, not being needy, etc.. I see around the internet, so many HSPs just talking about having to deal with so much negativity and hate, and I wanted to share what worked for me.

Consider this: Hate cannot exist without love. Even in the case of the most evil sociopath murderer who hates women, somewhere along the way his heart was broken, and his subsequent actions are there to avenge his broken heart. His heart is broken because it actually loved so much. When someone spews hate, if you are consciously aware of the broken heart behind it, you can feel the love, and not hate. After a time, it becomes second nature and you rarely ever feel the hate energy anymore.

One might argue that there is literal negative energy that can't be felt any different, but if that were so, how can I feel pain through watching a cartoon character be run over? A newspaper folded up with a tragic story didn't effect me at all until I read the article...that is not from a literal energy...part of this is our mind putting ideas into our head. In this aspect, we have the ability to also put the idea into our head that this negative energy originally spawned from love...

I cannot accurately describe the amazing connection with another human being that comes as a nurse, when your patient is so broken... hateful and crabby, and you sit down beside their bed, feel their love, and return it back to them...it was the very love that they were missing all that time, and then they are at ease...and at a rudimentary level, all I did was bask in their love as a coping mechanism to not feel their hatred.

Don't focus on all this negativity. Hearing you guys describe all the negativity energy is such a downer here, to the point where I almost didn't join. There is so much beauty to be found in this world... people have sooo much love... its heartbreaking, and we are the ones with the ability to help them fix it...it's just a natural side effect of fixing yourself! So go do it =)


updated by @stringbean: 02/03/17 11:14:44PM
StringBean
@stringbean
12/30/15 04:41:57PM
8 posts

What if I've shielded myself for so long I don't know what to look for?


Empath

I'm new here, but thought I would interject...

Is it a childhood trauma that made us this way....or is it because we are this way, that we internalized the experience to be traumatic?

I feel I had quite a blissful childhood...my worst trauma being having to go to kindergarten...or lied to by my mom at age two when I agreed to go into the doctors clinic on false pretenses and then they stuck me with a vaccination needle...I felt so lied to.... these really aren't traumatic experiences, relatively speaking.... but I do know I felt everything so intensely. I also know that even as a preschooler I couldn't handle watching cartoons with my siblings, as they were rolling on the floor cackling while I was cringing in pain to watch Wile E Coyote be run over or stuck in a cactus... I was this insanely sensitive when I was 3... and I really think mine was a result of physical makeup (or response to environment situations), not by emotional stress. I was exposed to a lot of crop dusting as an infant, and in the womb... and I have had physical issues and chemical sensitivities my whole life... if anything, I would think my brain was out of balance from that.