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Justme
@justme
04/27/16 04:30:13AM
11 posts

Why do I feel like I'm not an empath anymore!?


Empath

Hi Miasophie. I have recently been the same, a little angry at the world, moments of why me, what did I do in a past life to deserve this self-pity, the usual :).and no I dont like myself much either when I feel like this, I like myself much more when I am positive, energetic and sure of myself. When I am embracing my gift and at peace with myself, when I am feeding the right wolves...

But then, life is not always so smooth sailing and mine certainly hasnt been of late with respect to my love life. Its hard having romantic relationships when you have the gift of being able to detect a lie or any form of insincerity so easily, because if I do I always have to react or better still respond to what I am clearly feeling, and then there is the disappointment, the lies on top of the lies already spoken that just make me want to back off completely, and thus ends the relationship. So yes I had a bit of an angry day yesterday, but as Gem also suggests, I got out into nature, then visited a friend, had a cry after the anger subsided and today I am putting my best foot forward.

What I am trying to say is, we sometimes need these moments of anger so that we can let out what needs to be let out, air our feelings so that we can make room for more of the good stuff. Talking things through with a trusted friend, getting out into nature, being kind to yourself (in thoughts, words and deeds) are all ways that will help you deal with these difficult phases and get yourself back to your true self. It will pass, but dont be harsh on yourself for feeling this way, ride it through, understand that it is all part of the learning process and that it is temporary. Namaste <3

Justme
@justme
12/30/15 11:36:47AM
11 posts

I Am Awake


Library of Light

It will be an amazing, beautiful world, let us keep passing it on with love and peace and hope in our hearts. And when we are discredited :), let us continue to have strength and faith in ourselves and the light/God to pick ourselves back up and keep moving forwards :) Namaste <3

Justme
@justme
12/30/15 11:16:50AM
11 posts

I Am Awake


Library of Light

A perfect response YeshuasLight, initially it can be a bit scary the whole knowing thing, but fear does separate us from our connection with God, I know from a very recent personal experience asking for His guidance when I was feeling lots of fear....not just the gift, but other things that had left me feeling like that, really made a difference, He is truly amazing when you reach out to him, when you sincerely tell him that you are thankful for all the good things in your life and that you need His guidance, He is there always. Makes you want to skip and dance when you realise the magic in all of that :) We are definitely not alone...Love and light.

Justme
@justme
12/18/15 01:36:15AM
11 posts

Identity and Ego


Empath

Hi Lotusfly,

I know what you mean about feeling the need to take a break from reading etc! I went through a phase of intensive research too when I began my awakening, too much can definitely be over-whelming! Poco a poco as they say in Spain :) I don't "belong" :) to any particular religion either, I was brought up in the Christian church but when it no longer became expected for me to attend mass every Sunday (Mum pressure and trying to please mum!), I stopped going. I've always found that I feel more connected to the divine when I'm in nature, and when I follow my own intuition along my own personal path, ascribing myself to a particular religion would have made me feel too restricted! But I see a lot of wisdom in buddhist beliefs, and Alan Watts, Eckhart Tolle and Pema Chodron in particular have answered a lot of questions for me. Lots of light bulb moments :) <3

Justme
@justme
12/17/15 07:38:38AM
11 posts

I Want Everyone's Intuition On This


Empath

Hi Kaitlyn,

I agree with all of the other posts on here, all very good advice. I too grew up with a very angry dad, though my mother was never brave enough to even consider leaving him...it was the 70s however, and I lived in a part of England where everyone seemed to want to keep up appearances of the happy family despite this being very far from the truth...Nowadays fortunately those kind of stigmas are less entrenched in our society. We do not have to keep up appearances anymore. From my own experience, my advice to you and your mother would be to walk away right now. I have personally spent a lot of time trying to help people who did not want to be helped, I have had relationships with more than one narcissist to date, and I refuse to get entangled with anyone of that nature ever again. It's just not worth it. Life is short. No-one has the right to disturb your inner peace, not even your dad! You and your mother should not have to feel stressed every time your dad walks through the door, in your own home.... You and your mother deserve to be happy. You love your father, as I do mine, despite his anger and abuse, but I think the only way he will learn from his mistakes, will be when he is left to his own devices. You and your mother would not be abandoning him, you would be doing him a favour. When he no longer has anyone to lash out at, he may begin to face his issues and that can only be a good thing for him. My father has changed a lot over the years, I see my parents rarely as I live quite a distance from them now, but time has made him a better man in my eyes, perhaps distance too... Today we get along much better. Your dad needs to first face his problems before he can become a better person, giving him the space to do that might be just what he needs. Love and peace xoxo

Justme
@justme
12/17/15 06:42:35AM
11 posts

Identity and Ego


Empath

Hi Lotusfly, Buddhist teachings also resonate with me too and as I journey along my spirtitual path I've found a lot of answers there :). Like Cat Whisperer, I too found The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle really helpful. I read it about a year before I actually figured out that this gift I have has a name and that other people have it too! I guess it was good preparation for the "knowing" :) Alan Watts I also find very inspiring, I recommend his book "On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are". Pema Chodron too is just wow! What a woman! Her book "How to Meditate" really helped me and I've just ordered "Practicing Peace", cannot wait to delve into it, she is so so wise. Namaste :)

Justme
@justme
12/10/15 12:48:09PM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

I feel just the same, I joined the EC only a few days ago, and it's been a very positive experience for me, I tried to go it alone for about a year, but it helps so much to hear from other empaths, it has allowed me to regain a lot of belief in myself, that I was beginning to lose... Today I had a wonderful meeting with a mature lady who owns my local health food shop, I went in to find some citrine after reading the helpful advice on here as she also sells crystals, incense etc. We had the most amazing discussion as it was so in line with what we have been discussing on here following Jonny's post... and it all came from this lovely lady! If I have ever doubted the fact that I have a spirit guide, I never will again! Somehow mine guided me to this lady today. Her advice too was to tell only those people you think are ready to hear the truth, if not keep your counsel and retain your inner peace. We also talked about the importance of being kind to ourselves and of the importance of being in touch with our inner child. We even said Namaste when we parted, I just wanted to share that, it felt so great :)

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 10:42:01AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

Hi Karen, it's a tough one. When I had my breakdown 10 years ago, my mother told me I should probably seek councelling for my manic depressive disorder. I can't tell you how that made me feel, well quite depressed actually! Ironically. I think the thing that helped me overcome my mother's judgement of me was realising, once finding out that I was an empath, that most empaths are judged this way. You can see why, our moods when we have absorbed too much negative energy swing low, to an outsider we look like depressives. I guess the knowing has helped me a lot. You're not lieing if you don't tell your parents Karen, you don't have to tell them if you're not comfortable about it. I'd like to tell mine too but it just doesn't feel like the right thing to do right now. Time will tell :)

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 10:24:14AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

I'm a pisces too! Yes a good friend always has your back and is there for you no matter what! I thank my lucky stars that I have 2 of these ppl in my life, I don't know if I would have survived without them so far. Things to be grateful for! :)

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 09:19:23AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

C.Cat,

I really understand the complete heartbreak of losing a best friend.

I also lost a childhood friend about 10 years ago too, a friend I had had since the age of 3. She was my best friend, someone I grew up with that I thought would be there for me forever as I undoubtedly would have been for her. I still haven't got fully over it, I think I have forgiven her but it still stings. It's hard to put into words what actually happened and probably a bit too personal to put on here on an open forum, but I felt very betrayed by her and when at the time I questioned her about her betrayal of me, she turned the situation right back round on me and lied repeatedly to me and to other friends in our circle in an attempt to discredit me. I ended up not only cutting ties with her but a wider circle of friends who bought her bs. The injustice of the whole situation led to a nervous breakdown. It's a time in my life that I would never wish to repeat but like you said, it's better to realise when a friend is not a friend and to let them go rather than continue being friends with someone who does not have your best interests at heart. I have less than a handful of really good friends these days, but I feel I can count on them no matter what. When I lost my friend 10 years ago, I had major issues trusting people for a long time, and I still do, but I'm getting there. The healing process takes a while I guess...

On the parent note, well they're not perfect by any means, I have struggled with both my mum and dad over the years and my sister who is so foreign to me sometimes, perhaps they're not really that wonderful to be honest, they have views about certain things that make me shudder...but they are the only mum and dad I'll ever have and well if they tell me reading books written by Eckhart Tolle will turn me into a brain-washed hippy, I simply try to see the funny side of it and love them no matter what :)

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 07:43:12AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

Hi Cheshire Cat,

You were very clear. I can relate to every bit of your message, thank you, I'm new to the site and am finding it very encouraging, most posts on here I feel could have come straight out of my mouth. It's nice to know I'm not alone here :)

You are quite right, although the experience I had with the "friend" that was insulting was extremely upsetting, I realised afterwards that it was a blessing in disguise that our contact came to an end. Time is precious, yes and our free time should be shared with people who respect us (well not just our free time, all time, wouldn't that be nice!). Perhaps I may have subconsciously told him about my abilities to test our friendship, which I had already been having doubts about...so yes, sometimes you just have to let some people go...when this all happened it brought home the importance to me of setting boundaries. It was perhaps a lesson in self-love from the nice people upstairs :) So I've been working on the self-love thing a lot this year and am learning to say no more often than I used to. I am certainly less afraid to let someone know when they cross the line with me these days. Putting myself first in such situations has always been hard, but I just have to keep reminding myself I'm an empath not a bloomin' martyr! I understand what you're saying about time being short, I wish I could tell my family, my parents are wonderful people and important to me, in some ways it might put them at ease to know that I am not mentally imbalanced :) but I fear the worst there, so for now I'll keep schtum, maybe I'll get some guidance about what to do about that in the future :)

I am sorry that you are very ill, and I hope with all my heart that your health may improve. I hope you have a blessed day too.

Justme

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 05:44:47AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

Wise words Ecila, you just reminded me of a Maya Angelou quote that I've always liked "You don't have to tell everything you know, but let what you do say be the truth as you understand it." :)

Justme
@justme
12/07/15 05:16:30AM
11 posts

A word of advice to empaths


Empath

I completely agree with your stance here, when I initially found out I was an empath a year or so ago, (well figured out this thing has a name and that there are others like me!) I went into helping ppl overdrive, I felt strong and on a roll and wanted to tell the world! Not to boast about my "gift" :) but to help ppl that I care about to understand me better. I have a couple of good friends who I've told who are open-minded and understand me perfectly, they too have "gifts", one has premonitions, another is a spiritual healer so I'm lucky I guess to have understanding friends like this. On the other hand, I told another friend I was an empath who completely shot me down, riduculed me and told me that I was basing my personality on a Star Trek character! I was depressed for weeks after this and needless to say, I'm no longer in contact with that person...I no longer associate with people who do not treat me with the respect....but that said, these days I tend to keep it zipped. I doubt I will ever tell my family, far too conventional to believe in any "hocus pocus" concepts! It's probably best to keep them in the dark....as much as I would love to be able to enlighten them! As I always try to put myself into the shoes of another person, I feel that if I was not an empath and someone told me that they were and that they could feel everything I was feeling as if they were feeling it themselves, I would probably feel uncomfortable too. Intrusive is the word that comes to mind! Yes people need their space, our thought processes are not always 100% healthy, we're human, a little flawed here and there, and when a person knows you're picking up on their negative stuff, the majority of people are going to feel freaked out and awkward! I personally don't enjoy freaking people out!