I'm so sorry, Gem. I feel for you and I'm praying for you. Things will get better. I'm sure of it. Keep your head held high for your children and eventually things will smooth out and make more sense. In time, you will have a better perspective. For now, focus on healing and the things in your life that you want. Let go of the rest. Blessings~
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About the people that sometimes come into your life
I can relate. I am in a soul mate/twin flame relationship and sometimes we fight a lot and then we'll grow and realize what's important and then the waters will be smooth again. Fighting is unavoidable until both persons have worked out their issues - individual and relational. The fights should lessen in frequency, intensity, and duration over time. But I don't believe you will have an accurate view of your relationship until you meet in person.
Thank you so much for posting this, Jen. I'm currently an author (and disabled), though my books don't bring in much income, and sitting behind a computer screen for long gets tedious. Though I DETEST traditional employment. I can't imagine working for someone else again. But I want to do something that pays better and is more community involved than just authoring books. I would love to be an intuitive life and health coach or a psychic counselor or tarot card reader, but I feel I would need my own business space to meet with clients in person (and/or a specialized degree or certification), which I can't afford right now.
What I really dislike is how much life is based on money, rather than what makes us happy. Lately, I've been doing reading/research and meditation for self-improvement, healing, and guidance. I'm submerging myself in what interests me the most and having faith that an idea or opportunity will come my way.
Best of luck on your job search!
Same dream dreamt by 2 different people
I view dreaming as therapy for the soul and a way for the soul to communicate with us. Interpret your dreams yourself because you know you best.
Maybe the divine is trying to tell you and the person who had a similar dream something. I suggest that you each interpret your dream individually and then share your observations with each other and see how they relate and why possibly you had a similar dream. Have fun with it
Are you a Light Empath or a Dark Empath?
According to the article, I'm a dark empath. This is because I didn't realize my gifts before adulthood and went the psychological treatment route first.
However, I believe we're all born light empaths and can change, depending on what we're going through and if we heal or not. I'm becoming more light by doing this, but having the skills of the dark empath seem good too
I did not have anyone who could confirm my gifts to me when I was a child. I simply felt different and then assumed there was something wrong with me. If I have a child someday, I will be sure this does not happen to them
Frustration with doctors
I can relate, Cat Whisperer. I have a really sensitive stomach. I have not always been this way. I feel that I'm gluten, dairy, and sugar sensitive. I get an upset stomach and nausea easily when I eat the wrong foods and/or too much. I easily put on weight too. I'm already a vegetarian (became one through my spiritual awakening, because my stomach grew unable to digest meat well). In addition to being an empath, I'm highly sensitive...in all ways...including my physical body and systems.
It appears that you know yourself well and I would then, therefore, try to listen to your body as closely and as often as possible, in order to prevent your symptoms. Do that first, then if something persists, seek medical attention. I believe it IS your body telling you what it prefers. Our bodies are not trash cans. After so many years, we cannot continue to dump just anything in them and not expect a negative result. Think of your body signaling to you as a blessing for you to make a positive change for yourself
"Let food be thy medicine, and medicine be thy food."
How do you ground yourself?
The corporate world and meetings are hard. I hope it gets better for you.
For grounding, I picture that my body is a tree and there are roots growing from the bottom of my feet into the ground. Then with each deep breath, I visualize my chi (energy) flowing from the top of my head, through my body, into the ground, and cycling back to the top of my head. It is very calming and grounding for me, and can be done either standing or sitting.
Best of luck~
Mirroring Vs. Empath
What's helped me grow as an Empath (it's been a year since my realization) is coming into my true self, which has allowed me to distinguish where I end and another person begins (in other words, which feelings are mine and which belong to others). Being an Empath, it's easy to sacrifice oneself to please others, because we can feel what they feel. But I have found that working on developing my sense of self (individuality), by discovering who I truly am and what works for me, has helped me to function better in society and to help others more.
Like the saying goes, we can't truly help another unless we help ourselves first, you should focus on yourself first and foremost, and then you're better equipped to help others, which is essentially the life purpose of Empaths (why we were given this gift).
It takes time though. I had to mentally strip away the layers of conditioning and control from 3+ decades, trauma, and past actions and habits I'd absorbed like a sponge, to get to the root of me - my soul - and then build up from there.
It also takes assertiveness skills: setting boundaries and saying no without guilt. It's all about becoming an individual and respecting others' individuality. We're most effective in this world if we become the best version of ourselves that we can be.
I hope that helps! I was a people pleaser/pushover for years, because I was an introvert and an empath. It's a very uncomfortable state, but once you find yourself and practice assertiveness, you will feel better
Kindness and blessings~
I'm sorry that you feel lonely. It sounds like an emptiness from unfulfilling partners.
Like you've done here, I suggest writing down your perfect life partner; in other words, describe the person you want in your life, and then read it back to yourself and send it out to the universe/divine to manifest for you. Then just follow your hunches (intuition) and you will be led to them.
I have found that when I really want something, I'm able to manifest it. Sometimes it takes a couple of months for the pieces to fall into play and for it to happen, but it always does. Just be thorough with everything you want and also be careful/consciensious about what you ask for.
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As an Empaths, I fall somewhere in the middle
Nice post, Rene'. I think we all have some light and dark in us. I do believe in always being genuine and honest with oneself, so if there is some dark there that needs to be expressed, by all means, do so. Accepting and embracing the darkness is the only way to let it go. So if you want more light (genuinely) in you, you should definitely face your darkness. Not that you have to be explicit about it, because writing and burning pages is effective (as well as talking it over with a therapist), but it definitely needs to be acknowledged, because, as the saying goes, what we resist persists. Best of love, light, and luck <3
Dreamer, I am truly sorry that you are in so much pain, and it is understandable that you would become depressed after all you've been through, but I admire your strength to fight (or surrender to) your depression. It is wise to try to help rather than hurt yourself and to take the high road instead. I hope you get the answers you seek and will one day be pain-free.
I suffer from chronic pain and fatigue and depression myself, so you are not alone. Keep your chin up.
Much love and light~
Becoming a Crystal Human, Do You Have These 11 Symptoms?
Library of Light
Describes me to a T. Thank you. Any idea how long it takes to detox/crystallize?
Mirroring Vs. Empath
I call it people pleasing: changing yourself to cater to those around you. It is a symptom of growing up in a dysfunctional family. I used to do it and I figured out one day I was a chameleon: able to change myself according to my environment. I'm finding my true self now. Granted, it is good to be flexible and change yourself slightly depending on the occasion, but mostly a person should stay true to themselves.
Good luck on your quest to seeking yourself <3
Love and blessings~
I love nature. The more rural and rustic, the better. I recharge in the woods. I also feel different based on the positioning of the Earth, moon, stars, and planets. I also can feel where the Earth's electromagnetic ley lines are. Being an empath, we are more sensitive, not only to people but also to our environment
Empath or Emotionally Intelligent
I agree, that these are two different things. I believe everyone is born with some degree of empathy, from psychic to regular (for lack of a better word), but with time, and as people mature and develop their sense of self, their empathy level changes as well (it can also go away and come back strongly, due to certain circumstances). Although, I believe, most adult empaths were born and stayed that way, though their gift can increase (develop) with time and experience.
Emotional intelligence is more related to IQ and personality, whereas, empathy is more related to the heart (emotions/feelings) and intuition. Definitely two different things.
Thanks for sharing, Rene' <3
Thanks, Renee. I do spend a good amount of time in nature and with animals. It is both grounding and energizing for me. But I feel that I'm supposed to help people, because of all I've been through. I have this desire to help humanity. I'd love to be a medical intuitive and open my own healing institute, though it would be difficult. I would also like to do psychic readings; I just don't know where or how to start.
is this real
I'm not aware of the Facebook group you mention, but the LonerWolf website has a lot of helpful info, which is why I recommended the links.
Sorry you had a bad experience with a FB group, possibly run by an owner of LonerWolf (if they are in fact the same person), but keep in mind that no one is perfect and people do grow and change.
I do not think it's fair to judge LonerWolf based on a Facebook group with a different name in which multiple people participate, not just the owners.
However, thanks for sharing your opinion. It's good to have different views.
is this real
Life is what you make of it, WindWolf. If you change your thoughts, you change your perspective. In essence, we're all manifesting our reality. If you want your life to be different, you have to change your thoughts. It's possible for anyone to do. I've personally seen my reality change numerous times based on my perspective. So, yes, reality is very dreamlike because it can change at a whim
is this real
I'm so sorry that you're feeling so depressed. You cannot leave this world until the Divine/God decides it's your time. Christopher has a nice suggestion of getting professional help to get you out of the funk you're in. It IS possible to be free of depression and glad that you're alive. I, too, am a suicide survivor and I still have my days when I wish I wasn't here, but every day is a new day and a chance to have a different perspective. There IS a reason you're still here. You have a purpose in this life. Maybe see what you can do to contribute to this world in a way that would improve it so that you will feel purposeful and effective at making positive change. That may lift your depression. And find some friends who you can connect with. Because sometimes family is just not the right match for someone, because they need to separate from them and find their own family who will be supportive.
God bless and loving kindness,
I'm not really sure where I fit in because I seem to possess a little of all the different psychic abilities. 17 years ago, I had my first confirmed telepathic experience, though I was in a mental hospital, so I just thought I was crazy. I was born empathic/intuitive and my gifts have only increased over the years with my subsequent traumas and awakenings. I have, in the last year, been feeling ghosts/spirits strongly, affecting electronics/electrical fixtures, and have moved things unintentionally when I have strong emotions. I recently started using oracle/tarot cards. I also feel a connection to nature, animals, and space.
I feel highly spiritual and I'm not sure what to do with it.
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To me, your vision and dream mean that you really wish to help others who are less fortunate than you, but you feel that others in your life are holding you back from your duty. You are likely an Earth Angel - someone incarnated on this planet to make positive change by helping humanity.
I hope that helps!
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It's wise to be on the least medication as possible that will allow you to function well in life. It is fine to adjust meds to find the best dose (or to eventually go off them if possible). You should always consult your doctor for help with adjusting your meds, and the more gradual the adjustment, the better, as meds can cause significant side effects and withdrawal symptoms, depending on if you're increasing or decreasing them.
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You are very lucky and special, Christopher. Thank you, truly, for sharing your story. It helps to get it out. You may have felt exhausted from relief, from releasing something powerful that you've kept inside for a long time.
Coincidentally, my spiritual awakening happened on August 26, 2015, at a group intuitive gathering. I have not been the same since. I have not had the extent of your near-death experience, though I've had similar experiences. I tried to commit suicide about 15 years ago when I was a teen (18/19) living with my alcoholic father. Alcoholics/addicts, abusers, and negative people can indirectly kill Empaths through their energy draining behaviors. I also was hit by a car 10 years later, while attempting to go meet my father for a walk, breaking both my legs, and my soul left my body temporarily just before the impact so I didn't feel it, waking up just moments after landing on the ground.
I am so, so glad you survived your tragic experience(s) and are here telling your story. I hope that you will continue to help and inspire others and live a life of abundance that you and your children so deserve.
Love and blessings~
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I'm sending you a lot of love right now. I was in a very similar situation just a few months ago. My mom pushed me out of her house with her comments. I am now, on my own, finally healing and forgiving her properly; whereas, in her home, it would have been impossible (like the old saying, "too close to home").
I believe that if both family members are not receptive to healing on the same level, it can be fruitless (and possibly, as in my case, harmful) to try, unfortunately.
Because someone can't change (or influence) another if they're not ready, I personally think the best way for someone to heal from old wounds is on their own or with the help of others who are on the same path and/or a professional (e.g. therapist, counselor).
The good news is, once the person heals, they can inspire and help the other person to heal as well (if and only if they are ready, of course). Otherwise, no healing occurs for either person.
So I honestly believe it would be best if you were to venture on your own (if possible) and do your own healing in a safer environment that is not so triggering.
I wish you the utmost best in your quest and please know that it is possible