Coaching for 'new' empaths?
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HI , you have definitely not missed out! Hmm maybe we have to already be friends to pm? I didn't think of that! I'll send you a request now so hopefully then you will be able to - I didn't want anyone to have to share their private email or anything in the forum to avoid bot scraping! Let me know if you're still having trouble sending a message still and we can think of another way around it I'm sure xx
I actually have 2 people-related examples that came to mind when I read your post. My grandfather had I don't know how to describe but a very calm, peaceful, loving energy that always made me feel so safe and happy, especially if we spent time alone together (for example, my family used to often go out shopping for the day and leave me to hang out with my grandfather when I was a kid, because I hated shopping and would have tantrums and cry but when I was allowed to hang out with him and do some drawing or something I was totally happy). I didn't understand anything about empaths when he was still alive, but looking back with the knowledge I have now, i think he might have been one.
The other one is my sister's wedding day - she and her partner had already been together for 10 years, so he was already like part of the family, but we were still all so happy and excited for her. On the day the general atmosphere was amazing in a really positive way, but obviously she is my sister so I am very tuned in to her and she was just radiating joy to the point that if I think about it now I still feel that spark of happiness and it really is a special and beautiful memory for me.
I love this!
Thanks for sharing
I actually came to understanding a lot about myself and about empaths from reading the same book she mentioned. It did start me on my path I would say. I don't know if all empaths are hsps but it seems many are - I identify with a lot of the traits but not all. But I am so grateful I found that book as it helped me to begin to accept myself and that I am not wrong or faulty or something just a bit different and it's ok. I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else but just knowing I'm not some kind of freak and that I'm not alone has brought so much comfort to me
Not sure if this is the type of thing you meant, but it's the first thing that came into my head so feels right to share it!
I'm so grateful every day for the love of my partner, he doesn't really 'get' some stuff about empaths etc but he loves me so much and lifts me up with just the way he is. He has helped me to accept myself (the good, bad and ugly ha ha) I have grown and I really think improved so much because of this and he is a huge part of that. I know I'm extremely lucky to have someone like this in my life, even when I am struggling and start to think negatively, he helps me to remember that tomorrow is another day and I can get back up, I can do better, I can make a difference.
I hope this doesn't just sound like bragging! I want to try and share what a wonderful and positive light his love has brought into my life, and though I may not always be successful, every day I want to try and share a little bit of the joy that he has helped me to find with others
Cool topic Jenstone!
Ash I don't think you should feel too bad about not helping that lady, for one thing you mentioned that she had her granddaughter with her, hopefully she did find some comfort with being with her (I'm sure my grandmother feels this way since my grandfather died). Also, perhaps you were supposed to have this experience to help you understand what you'd want to do in any future, similar situations, maybe try to reach out to the person and offer a friendly ear. But you didn't even know what was happening to you then, it can be difficult to accept and even frightening or upsetting sometimes. I don't think you should be too hard on yourself.
No one is perfect or gets everything right all the time!
I get these feelings too and I am based in the UK
In fact the day before and the day of the EU referendum here, the mood was extemely dark, it was horrible. Then when the results came out everyone was still arguing and all I see is a county split completely down the middle. There was a massive increase in hate crime after the result was announced, without wanting to sound too negative sometimes I feel I don't recognise my home country anymore, it's very sad. So much fear and suffering which is being turned outwards as anger and hate. To be honest the US election has a very similar feeling right now. I do worry about all the division these politicians seem all too happy to stir up, but I refuse to take an apocalyptic view point (or at least I try not to haha). I have to believe we as a race can be and are better than this. I find spending time with my nieces and nephews helps a lot with this lol. I also have to be careful with how much news etc I take in as it does have quite an impact on me, I still try to keep up with what's happening in the world, but when I feel myself tapping in to those highly negative energies I have to take a step back or I feel as though I'm drowning!
I also try to remember we have been through some pretty dark times before as a species, and made it through. Sometimes I like to think maybe this period is a bit like evolutionary growing pains, if that makes sense - we have to struggle through this stage in order to progress and grow. But definitely my advice would be if you're feeling overwhelmed it's perfectly okay to take a step back - you won't be able to help anyone if you don't take care of yourself.
Sorry for rambling, I can't help myself!
I think anyone who has commented recieves 1 notification when the thread is updated, but then they don't get any more notifications after that until they visit the thread again (I think that is how it works, Elise had to move the forum recently so we're still finding our way around - we'll I am! )
It would probably be best to start a new thread with your new questions, so that other people who might be able to help with a particular issue/question can easily find the new thread and respond. Everyone here is always so willing to help, you will get responses.
Welcome to the EC xx