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Bookworm
@bookworm
08/09/17 07:51:25AM
85 posts

Please Take An Empath Poll...


Empath

For me I would say 1) yes, most definitely a night owl and 2) I sleep much better now (and am usually very tired when I finally go to bed!) But when I was younger suffered terribly with insomnia or when I did sleep awful nightmares. I managed to learn to lucid dream and my sleep has been a lot better since then, and I don't suffer from insomnia anymore
Fascinated to hear what you've discovered!
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/28/17 11:36:53PM
85 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

You are making a difference
Bookworm
@bookworm
06/29/17 06:06:55AM
85 posts

Staying positive when worried about sick mother?


Empath

@cat-whisperer thank you for sharing your experiences, and for your honesty, you have really helped.

Thank you so much everyone for responding,I can't tell you how grateful I am for the advice and support of this wonderful community... but perhaps you already know! You are all amazing xxx
Bookworm
@bookworm
06/29/17 01:30:37AM
85 posts

Staying positive when worried about sick mother?


Empath

Thank you so much @finding-peace, your words mean a lot <3
Bookworm
@bookworm
06/28/17 12:46:13PM
85 posts

Staying positive when worried about sick mother?


Empath

Thank you @womanwhowalks, I'm sure you are right about the energy and us both picking up each others emotions - I can feel how frightened she is. Thanks for your advice and kind words, I really appreciate it x
Bookworm
@bookworm
06/28/17 11:54:41AM
85 posts

Staying positive when worried about sick mother?


Empath

Hi guys

If anyone has dealt with similar issues I would really appreciate any advice!

My mother has been ill for a while, went to the dr and they ran a lot of tests and found a big tumour in her right lung and some smaller ones in her left. I was anxious about this but tried to stay positive and keep sending her positive thoughts and love (I don't live very close to her)
After further tests they have said that none of the tumours are malignant, which we were so happy about - but today her surgeon confirmed that they are worried about the big tumour in her lung and because of where it is they are going to remove her entire lung.
I am trying, again, to stay positive but really struggling. Also I am scared for her and she is completely terrified (understandably I think! ) which is not helping at all.

So does anyone have any advice about how they might have coped with a loved one going through a really tough situation and staying positive and not letting fears and negative thoughts take over - I would really love to hear from you if so!

Thanks in advance xx
updated by @bookworm: 10/30/17 01:52:28AM
Bookworm
@bookworm
04/04/17 09:56:30AM
85 posts

Free Empath Videoconference Discussion Group - Monday Apr 3, 2017 8:00 PM Eastern


Empath

Can I add my name too? Missed this one but would love to catch another one if I can! :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
03/31/17 10:45:41AM
85 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

Hi Kit Kat
I don't know if this will help you and you received some good advice already so feel free to ignore me if it doesn't feel right to you!
But I wanted to reply because what you said about obsessive thoughts and not being able to stop thinking about someone even though you want to is something I very much identify with - I've had this problem with one person in particular.
I don't know why but something about your situation seems very familiar in this case. For me, it was a friendship which almost developed into something more but it never did because, although I didn't know anything about empaths back then I did sense that I needed to try and keep some firm boundaries between us because of the many issues he's had to deal with in his life. For a really long time I held onto the idea that we still had a friendship because I could not accept that maybe this person was taking advantage of my good nature - not because he's a bad person or anything but very damaged which as I'm sure you know can result in some hurtful behaviour.
Eventually I did have to come to accept that this friendship wasn't healthy, and that even if the hurtful things he did were unintentional, and even though I really wanted to be a good friend and be there for him, all that was happening was he made me feel crappy about myself and he used me to dump all his shit on and feel better about himself (though I do think this was mostly unconscious.)
Anyway, even just accepting that was HARD. Cutting him out of my life was even harder, and I went through a difficult phase of thinking about him a lot and feeling incredibly guilty and worrying I'd done the wrong thing and wondering if I should cave and try to find some way to reach out to him. But I also knew that a lot of what I was feeling was fear (and I think some of that fear was also his, because he had known he could always rely on me for so long and now he suddenly couldn't). But I had thought really long and hard about severing the links between us and why I should do it, and I felt deep down it was the right decision. Even though I miss him, I know now this was the right decision. I am so much happier now without this toxic relationship skewing my perceptions of a lot of things, including myself. It also helped me to realise some really important things about myself and learn some lessons I probably should have learned a while ago! But overall it has been a difficult but positive experience and I feel more like myself, and like a better person, because I listened to my instincts about this. So the reason I told you that long story about me is because I think the situations are a little similar and what helped me most was:
Cutting cords - it was hard but it made a huge difference. I had to do this more than once and actually it helped me to accept that a part of me was afraid to let go - I needed to acknowledge those feelings before I was really ready to move on.
Reminding myself (a lot!) Why I made this decision and why it would be better for everyone in the long run.
Being patient with myself for taking a long time to get over it and stop obsessively thinking about it all the time - and remembering that some of what I was feeling was headed my way from his direction too, although again I don't think it was intentional.

As I said, I still miss him and think about him sometimes, but I don't feel guilty or blame myself anymore. We both made mistakes and now we can both move on hopefully to a brighter future even if we didn't end up close friends like I wished.
Obviously your situation is different and unique to you, but if any of that is helpful or makes you feel better then please take away whatever is useful :)
Sending you some happy vibes xx hope things get a little easier xx
Bookworm
@bookworm
02/21/17 09:44:19AM
85 posts

Looking for direction/doubting your instincts?


Empath

Thanks everyone who took the time to respond, I really appreciate it. I'm digesting your answers! Lol
Some great advice though so I really wanted to say thank you all :)
You guys are the best! xx
Bookworm
@bookworm
02/20/17 08:30:11AM
85 posts

Looking for direction/doubting your instincts?


Empath

So I have been thinking about some questions I've had for some time, and thought I'd just throw it out there as you guys are so great with the advice it surely can't hurt!
How do you know when doubts which you have, particularly about the direction you're heading, whether your doubts are legitimate or whether it's just fear holding you back?
In particular I've been thinking for a long time about starting a blog, mainly because I think I would enjoy it. But as soon as I start thinking about it seriously I have all these questions/doubts and I'm not sure if they are legitimate questions I need to consider (like, what makes me think I am an expert in any particular topic enough that other people should listen to me?) Or whether these questions are just an excuse for me to not actually do anything, I guess because deep down I am scared? And yet when I push the idea away, sooner or later it comes back around which is partly what makes me wonder whether it is something I need to just do.
So if you guys have any advice on how you help yourself to differentiate between the two - legitimate concerns vs fears/worries - I would really appreciate hearing your advice!
Thanks guys :)
updated by @bookworm: 07/06/17 01:16:04PM
Bookworm
@bookworm
02/02/17 11:24:20AM
85 posts

15 Powerful Beliefs That Will Free You From Negativity


Library of Light

I needed to read this today!
Thanks so much for sharing :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
01/31/17 05:41:49AM
85 posts

Work


Empath

It's funny this seems to be a recurring issue.
This was the very first thing I ever asked for advice on here for - and I'm so glad I did!
It sounds like you are dealing with the situation well, for me when I was in a similar situation I became so unhappy I felt like I was turning into a different person.
But I took a step back, really thought about what I wanted to do and why I was so unhappy - I ended up leaving a job I'd worked really hard to get, and the industry I studied my MA for - and I don't regret a second of it!
I am so much happier now I'm probably unrecognisable to my old colleagues!
Anyway so I guess my point is just to keep doing what you are doing, standing up for yourself, and if you are still not happy and feel unappreciated listen to what your instincts are telling you. Hope things improve :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
01/21/17 12:30:05AM
85 posts

PEACE POST


Empath

I don't know, if anyone else is feeling the same way, but I feel as though there is a lot of fear and sadness around today.
I send all the love and positivity i can, let's try our best to look out for one another.
Thanks for starting this thread bunnigirl
xxx
Bookworm
@bookworm
01/21/17 12:26:57AM
85 posts

What color are your eyes?


Empath

I think I must not be very advanced, my eyes are really dark brown! Lol :) I do often get comments about them though, either my eyes or my smile are usually the only physical features which anyone singles out to comment on (usually positively, which is nice!)
Hm interesting. I wonder why we are so fascinated by eyes. Yet they do seem to really convey quite a lot sometimes, without words.
Bookworm
@bookworm
12/18/16 02:47:21AM
85 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

Cool thanks Elise! :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
12/03/16 05:43:39AM
85 posts

Free Emotion Clearing to the first three responders


Empath

Thanks Trevor, I will do that now!
Thanks for accepting :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
12/02/16 11:38:41PM
85 posts

Free Emotion Clearing to the first three responders


Empath

I would love to take you up on this offer Trevor - if you think it is right :)
Either way what a lovely contribution you bring to the community, thank you!
Bookworm
@bookworm
12/02/16 06:16:50AM
85 posts

New Feature: Chat with other members


Empath

I think it may just not be available in mobile devices - I can't find it either and usually am on my phone - will check the desktop version later when I'm home but seems this is the likely explanation!
Bookworm
@bookworm
11/25/16 06:17:08AM
85 posts

Thank You, Friends


Empath

Not in* the US 

That will teach me for not checking before posting!

Bookworm
@bookworm
11/25/16 06:15:47AM
85 posts

Thank You, Friends


Empath

You always know just how to make me smile :)

I'm not on the us but I like this tradition so I'm joining in - thanks for being you Rene <3

Bookworm
@bookworm
11/11/16 06:16:27AM
85 posts

POST HERE for Peaceful words from 11/11-11/14


Empath

Sending out as much positivity and love as I can! 

Think this is a wonderful idea,  thanks for starting the topic bunnigirl! xx

Bookworm
@bookworm
11/03/16 02:21:06PM
85 posts

What Makes You Feel Good?


Empath

I actually have 2 people-related examples that came to mind when I read your post. My grandfather had I don't know how to describe but a very calm, peaceful, loving energy that always made me feel so safe and happy,  especially if we spent time alone together  (for example,  my family used to often go out shopping for the day and leave me to hang out with my grandfather when I was a kid,  because I hated shopping and would have tantrums and cry but when I was allowed to hang out with him and do some drawing or something I was totally happy). I didn't understand anything about empaths when he was still alive, but looking back with the knowledge I have now, i think he might have been one. 

The other one is my sister's wedding day - she and her partner had already been together for 10 years,  so he was already like part of the family,  but we were still all so happy and excited for her.  On the day the general atmosphere was amazing in a really positive way, but obviously she is my sister so I am very tuned in to her and she was just radiating joy to the point that if I think about it now I still feel that spark of happiness and it really is a special and beautiful memory for me. 

Cool topic :)

Bookworm
@bookworm
10/28/16 06:03:56AM
85 posts

HSP - TED talk


Empath

I love this! 

Thanks for sharing

I actually came to understanding a lot about myself and about empaths from reading the same book she mentioned. It did start me on my path I would say.  I don't know if all empaths are hsps but it seems many are - I identify with a lot of the traits but not all.  But I am so grateful I found that book as it helped me to begin to accept myself and that I am not wrong or faulty or something just a bit different and it's ok.  I certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else but just knowing I'm not some kind of freak and that I'm not alone has brought so much comfort to me :) 



Bookworm
@bookworm
10/14/16 11:25:43AM
85 posts

Are Any Empaths Experiencing Positive/Light Energy/Gratitude? Can we bring it out?


Empath

I'm game! 

Not sure if this is the type of thing you meant,  but it's the first thing that came into my head so feels right to share it! 

I'm so grateful every day for the love of my partner, he doesn't really 'get' some stuff about empaths etc but he loves me so much and lifts me up with just the way he is.  He has helped me to accept myself (the good,  bad and ugly ha ha) I have grown and I really think improved so much because of this and he is a huge part of that.  I know I'm extremely lucky to have someone like this in my life,  even when I am struggling and start to think negatively, he helps me to remember that tomorrow is another day and I can get back up, I can do better,  I can make a difference.

I hope this doesn't just sound like bragging! I want to try and share what a wonderful and positive light his love has brought into my life,  and though I may not always be successful, every day I want to try and share a little bit of the joy that he has helped me to find with others :) 

Cool topic Jenstone! 

Bookworm
@bookworm
10/12/16 10:39:13PM
85 posts

Empaths & love..


Empath

Hi Rene (with one e!) Lol yes,  I meant you :) and I'm very good thanks I hope you are too! xx

Bookworm
@bookworm
10/12/16 10:10:05AM
85 posts

Empaths & love..


Empath

Rene once again I think you hit the nail bang on the head!  Wink

Bookworm
@bookworm
10/05/16 01:31:49PM
85 posts



Ash I don't think you should feel too bad about not helping that lady, for one thing you mentioned that she had her granddaughter with her,  hopefully she did find some comfort with being with her (I'm sure my grandmother feels this way since my grandfather died).  Also, perhaps you were supposed to have this experience to help you understand what you'd want to do in any future,  similar situations, maybe try to reach out to the person and offer a friendly ear. But you didn't even know what was happening to you then,  it can be difficult to accept and even frightening or upsetting sometimes. I don't think you should be too hard on yourself. 

No one is perfect or gets everything right all the time! 

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/29/16 06:04:48PM
85 posts

Feelings of hate


Empath

Lol, I meant loving,  but I guess living is true as well!  That will teach me to post without checking what I've written haha

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/29/16 06:03:30PM
85 posts

Feelings of hate


Empath

You are not a hard person Rene! (I mean that in a good way)

You have such a wonderful kind and living energy about you,  you should know that Laugh

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/26/16 12:25:15AM
85 posts

Trump Vs. Clinton


Empath

I get these feelings too and I am based in the UK

In fact the day before and the day of the EU referendum here, the mood was extemely dark,  it was horrible.  Then when the results came out everyone was still arguing and all I see is a county split completely down the middle. There was a massive increase in hate crime after the result was announced,  without wanting to sound too negative sometimes I feel I don't recognise my home country anymore,  it's very sad. So much fear and suffering which is being turned outwards as anger and hate. To be honest the US election has a very similar feeling right now.  I do worry about all the division these politicians seem all too happy to stir up,  but I refuse to take an apocalyptic view point (or at least I try not to haha). I have to believe we as a race can be and are better than this.  I find spending time with my nieces and nephews helps a lot with this lol.  I also have to be careful with how much news etc I take in as it does have quite an impact on me,  I still try to keep up with what's happening in the world,  but when I feel myself tapping in to those highly negative energies I have to take a step back or I feel as though I'm drowning! 

I also try to remember we have been through some pretty dark times before as a species, and made it through.  Sometimes I like to think maybe this period is a bit like evolutionary growing pains, if that makes sense - we have to struggle through this stage in order to progress and grow. But definitely my advice would be if you're feeling overwhelmed it's perfectly okay to take a step back - you won't be able to help anyone if you  don't take care of yourself. 

Sorry for rambling, I can't help myself!  Laugh

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/23/16 11:57:02PM
85 posts

I am desperate for advice..


Empath

Hi Ash,

I think anyone who has commented recieves 1 notification when the thread is updated, but then they don't get any more notifications after that until they visit the thread again (I think that is how it works,  Elise had to move the forum recently so we're still finding our way around - we'll I am! )

It would probably be best to start a new thread with your new questions,  so that other people who might be able to help with a particular issue/question can easily find the new thread and respond. Everyone here is always so willing to help,  you will get responses. Happy

Welcome to the EC xx

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/13/16 07:37:59AM
85 posts

Are you a Light Empath or a Dark Empath?


Empath

I don't have anything useful to add to this discussion, I just love you guys!  Wink x

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/13/16 07:35:01AM
85 posts

Welcome New Web Site Early Birds!


Empath

What Bing said!  😉

I think the new site looks great and I'm sure there will be plenty of others who agree! So glad you were able to save this valuable resource Elise!

Bookworm
@bookworm
09/01/16 11:21:48AM
85 posts

Empathic sensitivity to earth locations and their energies.


Empath

Ah I couldn't see this reply before ReneWillow is an excellent name for a woman's best friend too! HeheI feel strangely very happy about the fact that I am not the only one who loves trees! :DAnd you're so right Fiddle head, watching the stars in the sky... <3 brings me a lot of joy!
Bookworm
@bookworm
09/01/16 11:05:23AM
85 posts



Done;)
Bookworm
@bookworm
09/01/16 08:35:19AM
85 posts



Elise I just wanted to quickly say thank you for all you have done, and to let you know that I work in my day job in digital marketing and would be really happy to pitch in any way I can to help keep the site running, as I'm sure all the other members would happily do as well!There is such a wealth of information and support here, far too important to lose - just let us know how we can help! I'm sure there are plenty here willing to rise to the challenge any way we can :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/30/16 07:55:39AM
85 posts

Why do I attract crazy? Do you?


Empath

I enjoy reading your answers Goodenergyhealing!Also, I am based in London and always happy to make new friends (can't give any guarantees about being 'normal' though!) :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/30/16 07:35:14AM
85 posts

Empathic sensitivity to earth locations and their energies.


Empath

I feel a particular attraction to trees also. I love being out in nature generally, but bodies of water and trees I feel an especially close connection to - it is nice to know there are others out there who feel the same and don't just think I'm a hippy nutter haha :)Willow trees especially - so beautiful and majestic. I really feel at peace near trees, even thinking about it is making me smile!
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/13/16 11:17:00AM
85 posts

How can I deal with being ugly and social anxiety


Empath

:) good answer as always!
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/11/16 10:44:33AM
85 posts

Is there such a thing as binding an Empath's gifts?


Empath

Only you can decide what path is right for youThe only advice I can really give is that you have to listen to yourselfBut if these gifts are a part of you, I wonder why you would want to strip them away. I don't think normal is really a thing, although I understand why you might feel you want to be free of these 'gifts' which can feel like a curse at times, you are a beautiful and complete person without changing who you are to fit in to what society or culture dictates you should be.As I said only you can make the choice and you have to find what is right for you but there are other ways you can cope with difficulties you might be having without having to strip away a part of yourself.I hope that makes sense! And doesn't sound dismissive, but truly we all have to find the path which is right for us, all we can do for each other is try to be there, offer support and compassion, and try not to judge. I offer all of those things very happily to you :) I hope you are able to find some peace xx
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/10/16 10:12:46AM
85 posts

Any tips on understanding my abilities?


Empath

Where do you live Kimberly? I live in London and would like to meet other empaths but haven't so far - maybe us brits are just too good at repressing stuff!!
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/10/16 12:56:02AM
85 posts

Abortion and Empaths


Empath

I don't think that's wishy washy, everyone is different and every situation is different too, I don't think I could go through with it but as you say until you are in the situation how can you know? And then again as someone else mentioned I wouldn't want that child to be born into a life of terrible suffering (but that might not be the case!) So many variables to consider and usually so much suffering on all sides.I do know women who have been through it and I feel the pain it had caused them to make such a decision living with them for many years, so I just try not to judge I guess those personal experiences may have coloured my judgement somewhat! But it is such a difficult subject I agree
Bookworm
@bookworm
08/06/16 02:53:08AM
85 posts

Is there such a thing as binding an Empath's gifts?


Empath

I have heard of people blocking out their gift as you say by disconnectin from emotion as much as possible (whether intentionally or subconsciously) but I don't think this is a very healthy way of dealing with the problems you might be having. I don't think this is the answer you wanted and I understand why you feel the way you do - have you tried grounding? Also lots of people find meditation very helpfulHave you read the empath survival guide? That's a good place to start if you haven'thttps://www.eliselebeau.com/empath-survival-programAnd there are lots of people here who will be willing to help you xxx
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/28/16 05:48:24AM
85 posts



Whoops I meant goodenergyhealing!
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/28/16 05:47:30AM
85 posts



I really like this Goodhealingenergy, a lot of what you said resonates with me :) xx
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/22/16 06:10:58AM
85 posts

Dreams


Empath

I have had basically identical experiences to you in this respect :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/15/16 12:46:18AM
85 posts

BrainFood


Empath

Maybe that is part of the reason your posts often seem to resonate with me :)
Bookworm
@bookworm
07/14/16 11:10:15AM
85 posts

BrainFood


Empath

Rene I am in the UK but I often identify with your posts and this one in particular - it's like you verbalise exactly what I wanted to say!It does though, male me feel a little better knowing I'm not the only one who feels this way. I hope perhaps you can feel a little the same way xx
Bookworm
@bookworm
06/07/16 10:00:36AM
85 posts

Are you deeply affected around Athiests?


Empath

That was a really interesting and thoughtful response! I enjoyed reading it :)
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