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Amaya
@amaya
06/03/17 02:07:01PM
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One past life reading to the first three people that reply!


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What I do in past-life readings is to ask your guides to show me the past life most in need of healing at this time. With their help, I explore the past life and help the piece of your soul that is stuck there to cross over into the light and rejoin your higher self. Past life readings can be more emotional than you might think, because they can trigger memories you didn't even know you had, and help to explain odd things that you do or have experienced in your current lifetime.

One past lifetime will be explored for each of the first three people that reply to this thread.

Thanks!
updated by @amaya: 10/20/17 04:02:47PM
Amaya
@amaya
05/30/17 10:20:44PM
301 posts

Reaching Out For Help


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Thanks!

Keep the faith. It'll work out eventually, as you said.

There are lots of ways to learn to meditate; I imagine that many are available here on the EC, and there are lots of free resources out on Google as well. One of my favorite "training wheels" of sorts for meditation is binaural beats. Search YouTube for "binaural beats alpha" or "binaural beats theta", or even better if you can get alpha and then theta in one video or playlist. You must listen with headphones, and just relax. It'll train your brain to understand what the meditative state feels like so that you can get there more easily on your own without it.

Alternatively, I do offer training sessions. You can buy a reading at the link above and right and we can use the time to work on getting you in contact with your guides. I have a pretty simple hypnosis process that I use to get you into a trance state deep enough to receive psychic information. It takes the mystery right out of what I do, but I'm okay with that. :-)
Amaya
@amaya
05/29/17 04:14:55PM
301 posts

Reaching Out For Help


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Hi @instinctivelyxintuitive, here's your reading...

What I'm getting about your relationship is that the dominant emotion present for each of you and between you is anger. Typically, anger comes from trying to control things that are actually out of your control, such as getting your expectations met by people or situations that you have no control over. The time when the emotion of anger is of best use to us is when it signals a violation of our personal boundaries. In that case, anger serves to encourage us to effectively set and defend appropriate personal boundaries.

Now, let's take a look at how this applies to your relationship at the current time. The first thing I looked at was your boyfriend. While I don't typically read unrelated third parties, in doing a reading on the relationship itself like we're doing here, there is certain information present that helps us to understand the relationship dynamic. In this case, what I see is that he is someone who expects to receive much more from the world than he is willing to contribute. He wants everything he wants, but doesn't want to have to pay the rate of energy exchange required for those things to come toward him. He is angry that the world isn't operating the way he thinks it should.

Due to this mindset, he is not available to have a real relationship with you. He is available to take whatever you're willing to give him, but he is not able to respond to your gestures appropriately. Based on what I'm seeing now, it may take a full 10 years or more for him to learn that his expectations of the world are inappropriate, and to form a healthier set of expectations and way of interacting with the world and the people in it.

On your part, you are angry that the expectations you have of him aren't being met, and you aren't using that anger to set and defend healthy personal boundaries. You believe that treating him well entitles you to be treated well in return, and are still in disbelief that he is not meeting this expectation. Believe it. And believe that he's doing the best he can at the moment, and what he's giving you right now is ALL THERE IS and all there is likely to ever be. The way he's treating you is not good enough for you, plain and simple. There's no reason to hesitate any longer. No more chances to change are needed. Your appropriate response is to thank him for the time he spent with you, and to walk, quickly, in the opposite direction.

The next step would be to take some time to sit with yourself and think about your assumptions regarding what you're worth and what potential relationship partners are capable of. About your personal boundaries and why you've been so hesitant to set boundaries that are emotionally healthy for you. About why and how to set the bar higher next time. You want better treatment than you've been getting, and there's no real reason not to insist upon it.

Regarding your reiki, that's another area where personal boundaries are critically important. You should not be merging your energy with someone else in a healing capacity until you are strong and confident in your own energetic boundaries. That place that you need to get to isn't far off, but it will take a bit of time and effort on your part. You will want to spend some time on self-worth and boundaries before taking up your reiki practice again.

I apologize if the tone of this reading is a bit harsh; contrary to popular belief, guides can indeed become frustrated and give a somewhat stern response when they believe their human is caught up in an emotional space that they belive is beneath their human's capabilities, that's keeping their human from becoming who they are meant to be. And that's what I sense is happening here. They very much want to see you in a place of strength, with all of the happiness and fulfillment that comes with that.

Please let me know if you have any questions.

Much love,
Amaya
Amaya
@amaya
05/24/17 11:40:35AM
301 posts



Hiya! I approved your friend request. You can also find contact information for me at www.amayaurzaa.com/contact, if that's easier. My # is there if you want to switch to text messaging to set up a time.
Amaya
@amaya
05/22/17 08:02:19AM
301 posts



Excellent! Thanks for your response. As I'm sure comes as no surprise to you, your personal energy field is misaligned. Before I spent a bunch of time and energy figuring out why and how to fix it, I wanted to eliminate the most obvious potential cause.

I don't generally do energy realignment work at a distance, but I'm willing to give it a try, if you would like. We'll need to figure out a time that works for both of us, when you're able to be in a quiet place with no distractions for an hour or so. Weekends are generally best for me, so please let me know what a good time might be for you on a weekend.

Also, it usually takes more than one alignment session to get things moving in the right direction - sort of like wearing an cast for a while to fix a broken bone - just so you know.

Thanks,
Amaya
Amaya
@amaya
05/21/17 09:30:19AM
301 posts



Hey darling! Sorry for the personal question, but it's relevant to your question: What medications are you on currently? Or medications which have been prescribed to you, but you aren't complying with? Please also note any substances, including nicotine, caffeine, etc. that you may be using on a regular basis. Feel free to PM me instead of replying here, if you don't feel like broadcasting your situation to everyone. :-)

Much love,
Amaya
updated by @amaya: 09/22/17 01:28:41AM
Amaya
@amaya
05/21/17 09:20:05AM
301 posts

Request for Reading Please: Purpose and Love Life


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Hi there! Happy Sunday! Here's what I'm getting on this for you:

Your guides recognize that you're at a point of low energy at the moment. Although the difficulties of the last few years were necessary for your personal growth, you're just sort of exhausted by all of it at the moment. This is normal, and an indication that you're moving out of one phase of your life and into another, new phase.

The previous phase has been meant to teach you about yourself and your boundaries, what you want and what you're willing to do or put up with to get it. You're learning what it means to love yourself and go after what you really want in life.

You either have recently or will soon feel new energy and a draw toward new goals. To piggyback on what the previous poster said, much of your attention will be on your family.

About your life purpose, what I'm getting about that is what you wanted to do this lifetime was FEEL. You wanted to feel more deeply than you had before, to go very deep into both joy and pain. You're here to push your boundaries, to learn to become comfortable with a greater level of emotional intensity than you've ever done before. The purpose of this is to help in your growth and development as a soul. Your soul wishes to help those who are in great emotional turmoil, and in order to do that, it is necessary to develop some understanding of what that feels like. Therefore, you've chosen a sensitive body this time, and a life filled with emotional challenges. You've risen to all of those challenges so far, and are ready for more.

Your career isn't feeling fulfilling right now primarily because of your recent exhaustion. As you recover, the way forward will become clear. What I'm seeing is a slight change, but not a wholesale change of career or anything like that. More like a slight alteration of job focus or duties, at most. Your mind is well-suited to what you're doing, and based on what I'm seeing in the short- to medium-term, it's a good place for you to be.

Your love life has been on hold too while you deal with this exhaustion. Right now, you cannot give what would be needed for the type of relationship you wish to be in. Give it time; you will begin to feel better soon. Once you are feeling more yourself again, a real connection with someone new can be made. You are feeling hopeless, but for no reason. It just needs a bit of time.

Please let me know if you have any follow-up questions about this. I generally do readings on Sundays, so don't lose hope if I don't respond right away.

Much love,
Amaya
Amaya
@amaya
06/27/16 02:40:18PM
301 posts

Shamanism


New Age

In my opinion and experience, all (real) shamans are lightworkers and some lightworkers use shamanic techniques. I think the answer to your question depends on how one defines shamanism and lightworking. Specifically, what does a lightworker do?

If you look at the Wikipedia definitionof shamanism, the description in the first paragraph overlaps significantly with other modalities that I believe most people would classify as being under the lightworker umbrella, such as psychic mediumship and energy healing.

Also, I think it's important to note that shamanic techniques can be used by "darkworkers" just as much as lightworkers, but because the title of Shaman is generally bestowed by others and not given to oneself, true shamans tend to be the healers, the lightworkers.

Amaya
@amaya
12/04/15 10:49:28AM
301 posts

Dating Websites


Empath

Hi Evolving,

I've done online dating off and on for many years, and I can tell you that, in my experience anyway, free v. paid makes no difference. In fact, I've had better luck with the free ones. I do both Tinder and OKC right now, and I've found that the important thing is to have just enough information to let someone get a sense for your level of intelligence, and to give them something to write to you about. I think about 5 pictures is the magic number - a good headshot, a full-body shot, a pic of doing something you like, a pic of you with friends and/or family, and one other one. My bio on Tinder is like 5 short sentences in length, and I've met some great people from there. As an empath especially, a picture really is worth a thousand words.

If you'd like to get mad, sad, and frustrated at the state of online dating today, OKC's blog runs down the statistics, and is absolutely fascinating:http://blog.okcupid.com/. In other words, yes, your looks are most of what matters when you're dating online.

Good luck!

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
05/30/15 11:44:16AM
301 posts

Seeing Possible Spirit Guides/Guardian Angels/ Spirit Animals During Acupuncture?


Psychic and Paranormal

Yes, this has happened to me during acupuncture before. I saw my acupuncturist's spirit guide! I agree with what Tami said, too.

Amaya
@amaya
04/10/15 05:42:44PM
301 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Well done, Elise! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Amaya
@amaya
04/10/15 05:27:23PM
301 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Sounds perfect to me! I'll volunteer to take a chapter! :-)

Amaya
@amaya
04/10/15 05:25:49PM
301 posts

The first PhD thesis on Empaths?


Empath

Hi Janet,

I can't speak for Elise, but if you want to purchase a reading with me throughthe Empath Store, I'd be happy to treat it as a spiritual counseling session. But really, this is precisely what the EC was created for. Share your story with everyone!

Much love,

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
03/13/15 07:51:27PM
301 posts



Good question! I work at a bank as a commercial loan officer by day. It's good for me because I have a balance of face-to-face people time with solo, task-oriented, number-crunching work that lets my nervous system relax out of other peoples' stuff. My gift is a huge benefit in my job because I intuitively understand what people need (which isn't usually what they're asking for). They feel comfortable with me even if they don't know why, which really helpful because loans the size of the ones I work on tend to freak people out.

Amaya
@amaya
09/07/14 05:14:07PM
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I read both of these books relatively recently, and loved both. I often find myself recommending them to others. I was glad that I had been doing psychic readings regarding the issues described in the books for some time prior to reading them, because they served to confirm the things I had already experienced, rather than establish expectations.

I do have to say that, as with all things spiritual in nature, the "life between lives" places and experiences are beyond what can be adequately described with something as limited as words. It's important, in my opinion, to read the book as a metaphor for what is, rather than a literal translation. Let your soul read it, and not your brain, I guess.

I've also had the hypnosis session, which I recommend.

Since someone else brought it up, I've met three members of my soul group - two I met so young I don't remember ever not knowing them, and the other, well, that was an experience to be remembered. I think I nearly fainted. It was very wow.

I've also known other people who are clearly important to my soul's work - maybe we're friends on the other side - but they aren't in my 'soul group'. The hypnosis helped to tease some of this out. One of my soul-brothers was glued to the recording of my session; he totally loved hearing all about it! Two of my good friends and two of my soul-brothers showed up in the hypnosis session as part of my soul council, which was really cool - I sent one of them a copy of the book immediately.

Amaya
@amaya
08/24/14 09:56:26PM
301 posts

Psychic Development Workshop: Cultivating Compassion, Exercise 1


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks, Greeney! You chose a tough one. Well done with your letter.

Amaya
@amaya
10/27/13 01:27:27PM
301 posts



Hmmm.... This is an interesting one to me, particularly because I understand a few things about how my gift works in the context of group readings (and I'm so bummed I didn't have time to do the last one!). I have a theory that any issue is like a giant jigsaw puzzle that's been dumped in a pile. Each of us goes in an pulls out pieces of the puzzle, and these pieces form our "reading" of the issue. When I read this picture now, what I'm getting is somewhatdifferent from what I saw the first time I looked at the picture, when it was first posted. That tells me there have been some pieces taken from the pile and correctly interpreted already, so those pieces no longer need to be looked at. Good job, people!

What I'm getting now from this photo is... Yes, I still think it's a man. I'm not really getting evil so much as sad and angry. There's a little bit of a giddy happiness in there, too, like he's pleased with some mischief he's gotten up to. I'd say that childhood physical and/or sexual abuse is highly likely. I'll go with a difficult relationship with his mother - maybe she died early or was sick a lot. May have been married at one time, with a couple of kids. Some people have said serial killer, and I'm having trouble with that because he does have a conscience. If he is a murderer, I'd say that he killed people he thought deserved to die, more of a moral imperative than the power trip that drives most serial killers. We can compare to aknown serial killer (Gary Ridgeway) to see the difference:

Regarding the subject person, I think he had seen a lot of violence and darkness in his life, and I think it did normalize that type of thing for him a little.Also, I think a violentdeath, perhapsby execution or suicide, fits what I'm feeling from this person. I agree with those that have pointed to substance abuse. I'm going to go with "entertainer" for an occupation, like an actor or musician (or both).

Amaya
@amaya
10/03/13 07:42:37PM
301 posts



So, I've wracked my brain trying to guess who this is, and I have struck out. I'm going to take a few stabs at it and say that she feels very old to me. What I mean by that is that she seems like she comes from established familial power and wealth, and feels a responsibility to that. I wondered if she may be royalty of some kind, because she has that weighty sense of duty to the greater good about her. She feels very intelligent and observant, highly educated, well-traveled and/or well-read on matters of international (as well as local) importance.

She is quite sensitive, but strong also. Sturdy is a word that comes to mind. I don't think she'd be the one you'd find half-naked, asleepon the lawn after a wild party. She feels like she has an eye for beautiful things, but beauty more in a well-rounded sense, like she would definitely get teary-eyed at a long-distance telephone commercial (remember when we had those?).

It feels like she was married and the couple'sextended families were quite important to her. Her children were equal in importance to her as the rest of her family members; she held her elders in high esteem. She may have a concern for parks/greenspaces and liked to be outdoors doing active things. She liked to eat fish (random, I know!), so maybe she was a pescatarian (vegetarian that also eats fish). She loved long adventures. I feel that she spoke with an accent that is different than my "standard American" one, but I can't pin down if she was in the UK or simply onthe other side of the US/Canada from where I am.

Amaya
@amaya
10/03/13 07:18:56PM
301 posts



When I first saw the photo, I thought for sure that it was Amelia Earhart, but when I looked up a photo of Amelia, I could tell right away that although they may look slightly alike, their vibes are way different from each other. It's kind of fun to contrast them. If anyone is curious, here is a pic of Amelia in sort of a similar-ish pose:

I think some others may have also been leaning toward Annie Oakley, pictured below (the only one I could find without a hat on):

Fun similarities and differences here! (And apologies for wrecking it for whoever may have wanted to use either of these two in a future Experiment!)

Amaya
@amaya
09/23/13 07:38:48AM
301 posts

Psychic Experiment #2


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Sir Arthur Conan Doyle? Dang it! Good one, Kimberly! I almostwrote thathe reminded me of a detective, but I couldn't get that to square with the amount of money I felt like he had earned, so I left it out. Another good lesson on not "editing"! Thank you!

Amaya
@amaya
09/21/13 07:54:08PM
301 posts



Yay! Will you offer relationship readings too?

Amaya
@amaya
09/21/13 07:51:33PM
301 posts



Hi Merin,

You could have been picking up on a couple of things here. There's not much water in my chart, but I love the water, personally. I live in damp Portland, Oregon, and there is a lot of river energy here. I also have a majorcrush on someone who livesat the coastand has a strong affinity with the sea, plus he's a Cancer, so you could have been picking up on that. I believe I may also have had a number of pastlives on a water planet, so depending on where your skills lie, it could be any one of those things.

Thanks!

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
09/21/13 07:43:21PM
301 posts



A mystic rectangle, two T-squares, a grand trine, a mutual reception, and a kite? That sounds awesome! Like when someone's speaking French to me and I have no idea what they're saying, but it sure sounds nice. :-)

Yes, I am completelyintenseabout my relationships! The empath part does help a little, but jeez... Not that much. (And yes to the better AND worse comment!) :-) I believe this is one of my life path issues - learning to be independent and love without so muchattachment.

I also do have a thing about not going after what I want and agonizing about asserting myself. I think this is my other main"life lesson"this time around, but I know that my soccer teammates would really like it if I could get over that and score some goals every once in a while. :-)

Great interpretation of my chart! Thanks, Snake!

Amaya
@amaya
09/21/13 02:50:46PM
301 posts

Psychic Experiment #2


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My first impression on this guy is that he is someone who sees things clearly. He is not easily misled. More than that, I sense that he has seen the dark, dirty part of people's souls. At the time of this photo, I sense a good deal of disillusionment, or general sadness regarding the human condition. I sense an undercurrent of mild anger, along with a desire to do what he can to make the world a better place. Despite this desire, I am feeling like he did plenty of things he wasn't proud of in his life.

Beyond that, I get a concern for vehicles, like cars were important to him in some way. He may not have been born rich, but I sense that he had a fair amount of wealth later in life. I feel like he was college-educated and liked to read, and liked to ponder the big questions of life. I'm getting a mixture of city and country feelings, like maybe he mostly was tied to a city, but enjoyed spending time in the country as well. I'm feeling like he may have enjoyed horses and staying physically fit. I'm not getting any particular hits regarding personal relationships. He seems like he may have been a hard man, rather emotionally closed off.

Amaya
@amaya
09/16/13 06:53:33AM
301 posts

Psychic Experiment #1


Psychic and Paranormal

My goodness, you all are fantastic. The woman in the picture is Pearl Buck, Nobel Prize-winning author and biographer. I took the photo from here. Her Wikipedia page is here.

What I'd like you to do, please, is to respond to your own post with what you feel you were picking up on from her life. I picked her because she had so many interesting things going on during her life, so there was a lot of material to choose from.

I'd like to assign the choice of the next Experiment to Kimberly, if she's willing. If so, Kimberly,please choose someone and post a thread when you have time. Let's stick with people who are deceased, so we don't violate the "no reading third parties" rule (psychic privacy rules don't apply after death, in my opinion).

Thanks, all! This was fun!

Amaya
@amaya
09/15/13 11:23:51AM
301 posts



Ooh! Ooh! Me, me! Do me! :-)

Amaya
@amaya
09/09/13 08:50:02PM
301 posts

Psychic Experiment #1


Psychic and Paranormal

Hmmm... Very good so far. Very good! :-) Looking forward to more impressions!

Oh, and since two of you said writer, here's a writer in sort of a similar pose,skin tone,and ageto compare and contrast (JK Rowling):

Amaya
@amaya
09/09/13 09:58:29AM
301 posts

Psychic Experiment #1


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi all!

Someone suggested today that we should have a little practice read for everyone, and here it is!

Who is this person? Get into your meditational state and write downthoughts, feelings, ideas, similarities to people you've known, smells, tastes, anything. I'll post the answer on Sunday evening. Meanwhile,there are some great tips about reading photos at Anna Sayce's blog. (And if you know the answer, don't spoil it!)

Good luck!

Amaya


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Amaya
@amaya
09/08/13 08:07:51AM
301 posts

Psychic Development Workshop: The Reading Process - Initial Impressions


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Hi Star,

Thanks for your reply. I don't have any pets myself, but yesterday I was having a great time with a friend at her house, where they have 2 cats and one small dog. Nicely done!

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
09/08/13 08:00:00AM
301 posts

Psychic Development Workshop: Cultivating Compassion, Exercise 2


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks for sharing your experience! These are hard. There's a guy who makes yoga videos that I quite like, and after he has you all twisted up in some crazy yoga pose, he says, "...and breathe smoothly through...". I laugh every time at the ridiculousness of trying to "breathe smoothly through" when my muscles are screaming and I'm ready to topple over, but when I can do it, it's such a good feeling. It's good advice for something like this, too. You can do it. Compassion and gentleness for oneself is maybe the hardest one, but also the most important. Practice makes perfect. ...and breathe smoothly through...

Love,

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
09/07/13 10:22:32AM
301 posts



Wow... This could be a lot of things, possibly even multiple things going on at the same time. But in answer to your question, yes, of course you could be getting glimpses of past life stuff. I'd interpret your Film Noir experiences like that. Alternative explanations include the ones you've mentioned: you could be reading the energy within the photos (like the bridge and castles),the residual emotional imprints of places (like the mailroom), or the information embedded within a song.

This last one happens to me a lot. I have the worst time listening to the radio becausethere's so much I "see" when I hear a song. Sometimes I'll see the artist in the studio recording a song, sometimes I'll see what was going on in their head as they were putting it together, other times I'll see people connected to the song, such as the record producer or label owner. My daughter complains that the music I like is "vapid", because I can't listen to songs with heavy emotional content non-stop for any length of time, like when we're on a road trip. I know these experiences aren't connected to past life stuff, because it's new music.

Any way you want to interpret it, it sounds to me that you have a natural psychic gift! I'm not sure whether to congratulate you or offer you condolences. :-)


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Amaya
@amaya
09/06/13 06:17:06PM
301 posts



I'm so sorry for your loss, Snake! All of the responses so far have been wonderful. I'd like to add that, in addition to the shielding thing that's already been brought up,sometimes it's hard for me to read other empaths. In one of her books, Rose Rosetree (I think it was) said that empaths have "mirror" energy, and I've noticed that when I'm around really strong empaths, it is almost like they mirror my own energy back to me so strongly that I can't see what's behind the mirror. Empaths that strong also tend to be quite distressed by their abilities. Just a thought.

Lots of love to you,

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
08/30/13 08:18:13PM
301 posts

Psychic Development Workshop: Past Life Soul Retrieval


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi all! A quick update for those still waiting for readings... I'll be available for private readings of all kinds through the Made by Empaths store starting on September 1st. It's always harder to find time to give my energy away TO someone than it is to trade energy WITH someone, so I hope that will be an ideal solution for those wanting readings. An in-depth past-life reading like those found in this threadusually requires about an hour of my time, and I'll be charging my standard in-person hourly rate of $60 for each reading, but then donating $20 of that to the EC. I'll also be including a reasonable amount of follow-up questions at no additional charge. Thank you!

Amaya
@amaya
08/30/13 02:40:08PM
301 posts

Psychometry and Empathy


Empath

Yes, the clairs fall under "psychic". Mediumship is a different category, in that all mediums are psychic, but not all psychics are mediums. It can be challenging, being a medium, but I think it's pretty okay once you get the hang of it. Angel has some lessons about mediumship in the Psychic Development Classes group, if you'd like to take a look at those, andthree or four different books on the subject will probably give you plenty of information to move forward with.

Amaya
@amaya
08/30/13 11:53:27AM
301 posts

Psychometry and Empathy


Empath

Yeah, "necromancer" has some connotations that I don't particularly care for, particularly as they relate to the use of rituals involving dead bodies and such. "Medium" feels like the best term to me for what you experience when you feel non-physical beings present.

The terms (empath, clair-whatever, medium, shaman/healer, etc.) are actually quite distinct, but in my mind,where they all blur together is in their use. Most people who are sensitivetend to besensitive in more than one way, sort of like an athlete who is good at more than one sport. Take me for example. I'm an empath, but also have a bunch of the "clair" talents and am a medium too. When I use my abilities, though, I don't approach something like, "Okay, today I'm going to just be an empath." They all run together into one thing: my experience. For me, there'slittle value in trying to separate the abilities into different buckets, sort of like how I'd rather do push ups and pull ups at the gym rather than separating each muscle group withthe chest press machine, the bicep machine, the tricep machine, the lat machine, and so on. Musclesare made tocoordinate and work together, and I think extra-sensory abilities are the same way.

If you're looking to get a better understanding of the different areas of extra-sensory experience, however, a well-stocked "new age" bookstore might be a good place to start. Even a good-sized regular bookstore will have the basics. I recommend actually going to a store for these types of books, rather than ordering online. A book that resonates with someone else may not be right for you, and vice versa. Being able to hold the book, peruse the table of contents, and readcertain sections of the book before buying is important to make sure the book is a good fit for you. There are lots of ideas out there about "the way things are" in the extra-sensory experience, and they're all correct in a way, and all incorrect in a way. Finding what's correct for you is the key!

For me, doing the research was also helpful in that it enabled me to recognize the broad areas in which everyone does seems to have a basic agreement, because these areasthen form the foundation or common vocabulary fortalkingto others with similar abilities, sort of like how all English majors tend to read the same books, and so on. It may not be important to distinguish between clairsentience and claircognizance, for example, butI have found ituseful to know things likewhat a chakra is and how it works, and how differentschoolsof thoughtconceive of the various categories of spirit beings. It just put more tools inmy toolbox.

Amaya
@amaya
08/29/13 09:35:18PM
301 posts

Psychometry and Empathy


Empath

Hi there,

Respectfully, maybe I'm confused by your question. My understanding of "psychometry" is that it's the receiving of extra-sensory information as that information relates to a particular object. For example, you might touch a loved one's coat and immediately know/sense/see/hear something about where he had gone that day. Or, you might pick up a friend's watch and have an immediate understanding that she's having a major blowout with her mother. Maybe my definition isn't broad enough, becauseit sounds like you arereferring tothe place itself, rather than a specific object?

In my experience, certain places do pick up patterns of energy from the people who have been in that place. In my personal opinion, picking up on these patterns would probably be categorized as clairsentience rather than being included as part of the gift of the empath. As has been previously mentioned, many empaths are also clairsentient, and are able to feel/perceive patterns of energy that aren't directly connected to another person.

Along the lines of possible alternative explanations, it's possible that you somehow plugged yourself into the feelings of the people who do stillhave a strong connection to the site, along the lines of what I call tele-empathy, or the empathic gift working at a distance.

Yet another possibility, which I tend to discount but may still beworth mentioning, is that you may have felt the presence of certain souls that had yet to cross over and were still connected to the site. Again, this is rarely the case at these types of sites, due to the vast number of skilled mediums in the world and the highly-publicized nature of the tragic event, but it's possible. This would fall under the category of mediumship, technically, although many empaths do also have a natural talent for mediumship.

If your question was mainly, "does this happen to you too?", then the answer is, yes, absolutely. There are certain places that I stay away from because they just feel bad to me. I also don't buy used cars, I'm not a fan of second-hand clothing, and so on. I was having happy hour with another empath yesterday, and she mentioned that she finds hotel rooms to be terribly difficult to manage, energy-wise. You're not alone!

Cheers,

Amaya

Amaya
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08/11/13 12:22:48PM
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Yeah, I haven't been to the RaR Group in a while, and I was thinking about doing a couple of readings in there just for the practice, but felt weird about dropping that kind of information on someone who was looking for an "empath reading". It's kind of funny, because I never used to feel weird about doing readings in there, so I'm not sure what changed. I started thinking that maybe I would just explain that what I do is a bit different, and let them tell me if they would still be interested, but haven't tried it yet. Maybe today...

Amaya
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08/11/13 12:13:57PM
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Hi Chuck,

It's really tough when the people we love are suffering, especially when we're not able to do anything to relieve that suffering. Empaths tend to be "fixers", and learning to not take responsibility for another's suffering is one of the hardest life lessons I've ever had to learn, and I still work on it every day. I can offer you a few suggestions based on my own experiences. Actually, I'm madly in love right now with aman who has a pile of issues a mile high, so I've been thinking about this topic a lot over the last 18 months or so.

First, let me say that women almost never want a man's advice. Sorry, but it's true. What we usually want is your empathy, for you just to listen and be with us in our pain. When you try to fix it, it makes us feel like you don't have faith in our ability to solve our own problems. A "You'll figure this out, honey" or "What do YOU think you should do?" works WAY better than a "You know, what you need to do is...". If you need some help with this concept, please see this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg. :-) Also, we all have insecurities. It's how we choose to deal with them that's important.

Second, recognize that you're never going to be able to fix her. If she wants to change, she will, with or without your help. At this point, all you can do is accept her completely as she is, pain and problems and all. Or not. Only you know the answer to that. She is who she is and you are who you are, and you have to decide if you can accept the idea that she'll never be anything other than who she is in this very moment.

If you feel like you don't want to live without her, but that her issues are legitimately getting in the way of your relationshipto such an extentthat your relationship is not viable in its current state, you might try having a frank discussion in which you tell her how much you love her and how much you are committed to making the relationship work, and asking her (possibly even requiring her) to seek out a therapist to help her work through the things that are causing her pain and interfering with your relationship.You could even offer to go with her,IF she wants you to. If she's committed to the relationship and ready to change, she'll see the therapist.

Remember, what a woman wants from a man is to feel UNDERSTOOD, APPRECIATED, and SUPPORTED. Support her in her self-directed efforts to solve her problems in her own way (with or without the assistance of a therapist of her choosing),and you'll be on your way to fianc of the year.

Again, just my opinion,

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
08/09/13 07:57:36PM
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Hi Chuck,

I hear what you're saying here. I've experienced the "block" when I'm about to enter into a life situation that just needs to play out in the present moment without my guides' input, and it was very disconcerting the first few times.

I've always been drawn to the "tough" readings when I've given readings out in the readings group, and it took me a whole bunch of practice (and soul searching) to learn how to deliver those sorts of messages well.What I finally figured out works best for me is to simply get out of the way and let their guides speak directly to them. The guidesalways know the right thing to say, it seems to me when I read back what I've written at the end. Generally, I've observed thatguides usually word their advice in a sort of sugar-coated sandwich, with lots of love up front, then a matter-of-fact observation about how the person has been struggling, empathy for the pain that the situation has caused, a little about what the root cause of that struggle is, then a few concrete suggestions about what specific actions the person can take to improve the situation, then more love/affirmations/compliments, etc. (If I could remember to use that format when faced with a problem in real life, my loved ones would probably be a lot happier with me!)

Of course, it helps if I've nailed the problem in a very specific way with little to no input from the person I'm reading for, because then they are more inclined to believe, and either they'll get upset withme and tellme what an idiot I am, or they won't respond at all, or I'll get a delayed response. Occasionally, I'll get a thank you. For me, it's important to remember that I am a messenger in service of spirit, and my job is to deliver the message, not get approval/thanks/awe/whatever. Sometimes people need to sit with a message for a while before it sinks in, and readers have to develop a bit of a thick skin about that. So, what I'm saying is, if you have one chance to reach someone, don't be afraid to make it count! You might be surprised (and clueless, because they'll probably never tell you) just what a huge positive impact you can have on someone's life.

Oh, and if you ever do a reading and get a nasty response, it can really throw your confidence and make you question yourself. When I was learning, I had a few trusted friends that I would ask for help on these sorts of occasions, to have them look at the situation and see where I may have gone wrong. It was very helpful to me to have that backup, both when Idid great ona reading but got an "I don't think so" response, and when I was way off in my delivery and deserved to be chastised (ahem!) needed some coaching. If that ever happens to you (or anyone else reading this thread), I'm happy to act as backup. If the reading wasn't public to begin with, I won't be able to do a re-read of the original request (no reading for third parties!), but can do a reading onthe job youdid with thereading, which can sometimes be just as good, or better, than doing a straight re-read.

As always, just my two cents,

Amaya

Amaya
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08/09/13 07:10:10PM
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Yes, for a long time I wouldn't read for friends, because I knew I wouldn't be able to keep my conscious mind in check well enough to not have it contaminate the reading. I can do it now, but wow, it's taken a LOT of practice. I totally agree with and have experienced myself the rest of the things you mention here. So true!

Amaya
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08/08/13 02:18:31PM
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Ha ha ha! Have I told you lately that I love you? If not, there it is. Thanks for putting this out there. It's something that people really need to know and keep in mind when they're out there "in the realms" searching for "Truth".

One of the hardest things that I've learned when working with spirit guides in particular is that sometimes they'll lie to us for our own good, like if we've been asking the same question over and over because we're not satisfied with the answer, sometimes they'll give us a lie just to see how we like that answer instead. (And the lie is often painful, like a swat on the nose with a rolled-up newspaper.)

There's also the problem you mentioned regarding the filter (aka the reader/channeler). I have been thinking about this a lot lately, and have come to this metaphor: The relevantfield of information for any particular questionis like a bowl of multicolored M&Ms. Let's say my psychic friend knows I'm allergic to the yellow ones. She loves me, and so when she looks intomy question'sbowl, she's probably going to say, "Dang, there are a lot of yellow ones in here." And maybe she'll miss that there are also blue ones in there that, taken together with the yellow ones,work as an antidote to the allergy, because she's so focused onlooking atthe yellow ones. Or whatever. You get the point. There's a lot of information out there to get, and the filter's personality and motivation plays a huge (HUGE!) role in the information that's eventually channeled back here.

In all things, whether acting as filter or the receiver, as you said, it's so important to use discernment to determine if any particular message feels right. Sometimes messages will feel bad because they strike a nerve, like lemon juice in an open wound, and in those cases we'll probably feel angry about the message, and may want to put some thought into what was triggered and why. Sometimes, though, it's just like, "Meh! Not for me!", or the channeled message may actually inspire laughter with its ridiculousness. (I'm SO curious what you were reading!)

Anyway, I didn't mean to get so wordy with that, but you know, I haven't been around much lately. I must miss you all... :-)

Love,

Amaya


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Amaya
@amaya
08/08/13 01:55:47PM
301 posts

Empathic Mediumship 101- Part 1


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi Erin,

I personally don't do much shielding, for the reason you discuss. However, I've found that it can be helpful to consciously set an intention prior to doing medium work that you only want to connect with a certain entity or category of entities, particularly for individuals that are still feeling out their mediumship abilities. Some people are less able to manage interpersonal boundaries while in the moment, whether because of personality characteristics or newness to the work, and setting some firm lines early can be helpful in those cases.

While I don't do much shielding anymore, I do sometimes still do grounding exercises. I think that some people have a more difficult time staying grounded than others do, for a whole bunch of reasons, and perhaps you're on the side of the spectrum that finds it quite easy to stay grounded without much effort? Me, I tend to need to ground when I've been under a tremendous amount of emotional stress (i.e. needing to clear low vibrational energy), or when I've spent too much meditational time in, say, the angelic realms or somewhere else with a very high vibration.

I'm curious what others will have to say about this.

Love,

Amaya

Amaya
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07/18/13 10:26:09PM
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Of course! I am thinking it's not your organs, because you mentioned that your hands were affected. And yeah, 35 is probably a bit young for full-blown menopause symptoms. :-) So, we haven't ruled out auto-immune, but that's something you can just keep an eye on for a while and see if you notice any patterns. If you start having this happen more often, or start having other symptoms such as fatigue, joint pain and/or swelling, other sorts of aches and pains, headaches, muscle weakness, weird fevers, "foggy brain" or lightheadedness, difficulty breathing, upset stomach/GI issues, canker sores, getting sick and not getting better, eczema, acne, (and I could go on and on about all the crazy symptoms I get), you'll probably want to see a doctor. Otherwise, I'm sending you lots of light! :-)

Amaya
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07/14/13 06:28:37PM
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Hi Snake,

Now, you know I'm all about light! That being said, in this case, I'd also recommend keeping a food journal for a while to see if there's a correlation between something you may be eating or drinking and your symptoms. Nerve zinging is a symptom of various auto-immune illnesses, so just to be safe, you may want to give that some thought. The fact that the zinging is clustered at the chakras may be simply a coincidence, since the chakras are based on where our nerve fibers are already clustered, so if you're having some auto-immune nerve-attacking thing, it would feel a lot like what you've described. I'm also pretty sure that ant-crawling thing is one of the hallmarksymptoms of menopause (I'm just barely too young for that, so I'm not totally sure).If you're of that age, just sayin'... Don't discount the organic causes until you've ruled them all out. Also, acupuncture is awesome for nerves. That is all.

Love,

Amaya

Amaya
@amaya
06/12/13 09:08:02PM
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Psychic Development Workshop: Finding Faith, Week One


Psychic and Paranormal

Yay! Going with the gut. Good times!

Amaya
@amaya
06/01/13 06:50:22PM
301 posts

Psychic Development Workshop: Finding Faith, Week One


Psychic and Paranormal

Ah, yes, the second-guessing. It's hard for us all. Let us know how these games go for you!

Amaya
@amaya
04/05/13 07:43:55PM
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Hi Whit,

Thanks for your question! I have lupus too, so I know what you mean about needing to use your energy wisely. As an aside, my lupus symptoms are caused by food allergies.Since I finally figured out which foods I am allergic too, my quality of life has improved dramatically. I'm not saying that's what's going on with you, but if you haven't explored it, you may want to.

My life also improved dramatically when I figured out how to get my psychic sensitivity under control. It's nothing that's a quick fix, but I can tell you what worked for me. For me, the first thing I needed to learn to do was block. I have a super-easy methodI use in emergencies that might work for you, because it takes hardly any energy, and doesn't depend on your ability to concentrate, which as you know, is a must when you're in the middle of dealing with lupus-brain (yes, I'm sure"lupus-brain" isa technical term!). Beyond that, I've written down a bunch of stuff in this group and elsewhere; the index is here. I might suggest starting with 3.1 and 3.4.1, and then 3.5 through 3.9. After you are through with 3.9, youmay want to continue on to 4.1 through 4.3 for additional practice.

If you'd like to read more about this topic, Angel has some great posts on mediumship here in this group. Here is Part 1, and here is Part 2.

Good luck with it! Do let us know how we can be of help to you.

Love,

Amaya


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Amaya
@amaya
01/22/13 08:52:26PM
301 posts

Reincarnation and the 35 Steps of Soul Evolution


New Age

Yep, still an interesting read. Thanks so much for sharing it!

Amaya
@amaya
01/22/13 08:44:13PM
301 posts

Reincarnation and the 35 Steps of Soul Evolution


New Age

Haha. Nice. I was going to say that this was a fun read. And then I saw this, and totally agree. Way to make me think about stuff a little more deeply, Snake. :-)

Amaya
@amaya
11/21/12 05:18:20PM
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Psychic Development Workshop: Keeping Confidences


Psychic and Paranormal

What a great comment! Actually, death and dying is one area in which I, well, pretty much suck. I tend to not have the necessary empathy (I know - ironic) for those left behind, because of a couple of reasons. One is that I've never lost anyone I've been personallyemotionally attachedto, and the other is because of the way I view the world. People are never "dead" to me - I just have to use a different form of communication with them once they've passed on, you know?

It's an excellent topic,and one that I feel utterly unqualified to discuss. EC member Sandy B (a comment from her is above) may be a better person to start with on this one. Sandy, please feel free tochime in? I can also check with my mentor - this is something that she's good with, and she's in the process of writing a bunch of copy for her new website, so she may be willing to prioritize some thoughts on this topic.

That all being said, helping people to cross over to the other side is the same in this life as it is in past lives - if you can develop a talent with one, it's easy to apply the same techiques to the other.

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