Psychic Development Workshop: Communicating your Intuitive Impressions
Psychic and Paranormal
Note: This discussion is part of a series. Find the indexof all of the segmentsin this workshophere.
The most recent segment of this series (yea, though it was many moons ago) dealt with the basic steps involved in the intuitive process:
Beyond this, though, one ofthe most helpful things I ever learned about how to do psychic readings is how to relay the information to the person requesting the reading.Below, I've shared several things that I have come to believeare true about the process of communicating psychic information. I apologize in advance for how long it turned out to be!
The Jigsaw Puzzle
In the world of psychic information, there is no such thing as Truth. You're getting only little bits and pieces of the truth of your readee's situation. I like to compare it todumping out an unassembled jigsaw puzzle and pulling out pieces. In a reading, you'redescribing these pieces that you've pulled out to someone who, unlike you, already knows what several of the other pieces look like. You may have some idea of what the pieces mean or how they go together, but not always, and dont expect your readee to give you any sense of whether youve hit on something or not. Fun, right? No worries! It actually is fun. Read on.
Banish The Editor
When youre pulling out these pieces,it's bestto describe what youre getting as precisely as possible. To use a metaphorical example, lets say that your puzzle piecehas a white triangle, a red oval, and a green square on it. Youll want to say that you are seeing a white triangle, a red oval, and a green square. You may want to discuss their relative size, texture, or distance from each other, or what emotions you feel when you look at each one, or what they smell like. What you want to try to avoid is saying that youre seeing a sail, a rose petal, and an emerald brooch. I hope that makes sense. Unless youre really sure that its a rose petal, its a red oval. Remember, the person youre reading for already knows what a whole bunch of the other puzzle pieces look like. The chances are very good that he/she already knows exactly what that reddish oval-like thingy is.
Its All About Me
As a result of this, the most comfortable way to give a reading is to preface everything with qualifiers like Im getting or Im seeing or It seems to me like it might be. If you find yourself starting your sentence with You, He/She, or They, you may want to think a little bit before finishing the sentence. For example, it will feel much better and safer to say something like, What Im getting is that you have a decision to make about what your goals are in your life right now, instead of something like, You need to decide what you want out of life. I hope that the difference there is clear. You are interpreting a tiny piece of the puzzle, and if you stick to describing what youre getting as precisely as you are able, youll avoid some heartache over how your impressions are received.
The Art of Asking Questions
If you are lucky enough to be giving a reading in person, questions become a useful tool in communicating the overall message of the information you receive.
Recently, a friend asked me that troublesome (but often asked) question: "Will I be alone forever?" The closed nature of the questionis unhelpful, so, in my head, I changed his yes/no question into a more useful format: "What does this person need to know right now about having a fulfilling love relationship in the future?" What I got was that his goal of becoming a life coach and inspirational speaker is more important to him right now than his goal of having a meaningful love relationship. As a result of this, I didn't see any love relationship in the near future. But, how was I to just come out and tell my friend this? It was an unpleasant thought. What people want to hear when they ask this question is that theyll meet the partner of their dreams next week and live happily ever after, right?
So, after I received my intuitive impression, instead of telling him what I'd seen, I started with a question for him: Whats your main goal in life right now, would you say? He said that his main goal was to become a life coach and speaker. I asked him, Is it more important to you right now to be a life coach and speaker, or to have a love relationship?" I waited a moment, but he didn't say anything. I clarified, "If being a life coach meant that you had to delay a love relationship for a while, would you still be interested in doing it? He replied that yes, he would absolutely still want to be a life coach. Well, there you have it, I eventually said to him. What I was getting is that youll be focused onyour goal of becoming a life coachfor a while, and that the type of relationship youre looking for will come some time after that. It was helpful (that is, it made me feela lot more comfortable) to be able to lead him down the path of cause and effect instead of just saying, Sorry, it will be a while before you have another relationship, buddy.
Check Your Blind Spot
Way back in the segment on Compassion, I talked a little about the importance of knowing where yourpersonal blind spotsare. I wrote,
I choose to accept that all people have value, even if I don't agree with or support some of their choices. I can recognize that their moral system seems right to them, even if it seems the opposite to me. This recognition provides the opportunity for a dialogue to begin, for a respectful exchange of ideas to take place.
Inthepsychic world, this attitude canbe very important. For example, I am aware that I have a hot-button aroundaffairs, people being unfaithful to their relationship partners. If a person came to me for a reading that dealt with an affair that he/she was engaged in, that might be difficult for me. If I can recognize in myself that I'm in an area in which my objectivitymay beimpaired, I can take steps to deal with it appropriately. I might refer him/her to another person, or work on double- and triple-checking my information before relaying it, or choose a reading method that's less dependent on what goes on in my own head. I hope that makes sense.
I have a few major blind spot areas. In addition to the one I mentioned already, I also have a blind spotregarding people that are grieving lost loved ones. I have never lost anyone close to me, andI can, for the most part,talk to deceased people whenever I want. Between these two things, I don't understand what people go through when they lose someone dear to them.I want to understand and I want to help, but truth of it is that I don't understand, and soI have been insensitive at times, even when I've tried my best to be helpful. Especially when you're working in a personal blind spot, an area in which your objectivity may be impaired, give yourself extra time to double-check that you'rerelayingyour intuitive impressions as accurately as you are able. Measure twice andcut once, as the old saying goes. You can never un-say anything. Which leads me to the next point...
Check Your Tone
If you're doing an internet reading, you have the benefit of being able to re-read your work before letting your readee see it. I encourage you to do a tone-check of your reading before you send it out. Some questions you might ask yourself include:
- Am I telling this person what to do?
- If I had some bad news, did I offer suggestionsfor how tomove in a more positive direction?
- Is there any opportunity here for my words tobe misinterpreted?
- Is the overall tonehelpful and kind?
- Is any of this my personal opinion (as opposed to psychically-received information)? If so, did I clearly label it as being merely my own personal opinion or personal advice?
- And any others that you might personally want to look out for based on your own self-knowledge
It ishighly likely that you will feel awful after a reading at some point. Maybe youstumbled across a blind spot that you didn't know about before, or maybeyou were SO SURE about what you were saying and yet your readee saidthat you were full of garbage. It happens.Forgive yourself and move on. Provided thatit wasn't your intention to hurt anyone, learn from what happened and let theyucky feelings go. Then, get back at it as soon as possible. Like any endeavor, a few readings will probablynot go so well, most will be good, and a few will be spectacular.Let what you learn from the readingsthat don't go well help you do better readingsin the future.
This Week's Assignment
If you guessed "go to the reading group and do a reading", well, you must be psychic! Discuss how it goes below.
updated by @amaya: 07/13/17 12:32:28AM