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What I'm getting about your relationship is that the dominant emotion present for each of you and between you is anger. Typically, anger comes from trying to control things that are actually out of your control, such as getting your expectations met by people or situations that you have no control over. The time when the emotion of anger is of best use to us is when it signals a violation of our personal boundaries. In that case, anger serves to encourage us to effectively set and defend appropriate personal boundaries.
Now, let's take a look at how this applies to your relationship at the current time. The first thing I looked at was your boyfriend. While I don't typically read unrelated third parties, in doing a reading on the relationship itself like we're doing here, there is certain information present that helps us to understand the relationship dynamic. In this case, what I see is that he is someone who expects to receive much more from the world than he is willing to contribute. He wants everything he wants, but doesn't want to have to pay the rate of energy exchange required for those things to come toward him. He is angry that the world isn't operating the way he thinks it should.
Due to this mindset, he is not available to have a real relationship with you. He is available to take whatever you're willing to give him, but he is not able to respond to your gestures appropriately. Based on what I'm seeing now, it may take a full 10 years or more for him to learn that his expectations of the world are inappropriate, and to form a healthier set of expectations and way of interacting with the world and the people in it.
On your part, you are angry that the expectations you have of him aren't being met, and you aren't using that anger to set and defend healthy personal boundaries. You believe that treating him well entitles you to be treated well in return, and are still in disbelief that he is not meeting this expectation. Believe it. And believe that he's doing the best he can at the moment, and what he's giving you right now is ALL THERE IS and all there is likely to ever be. The way he's treating you is not good enough for you, plain and simple. There's no reason to hesitate any longer. No more chances to change are needed. Your appropriate response is to thank him for the time he spent with you, and to walk, quickly, in the opposite direction.
The next step would be to take some time to sit with yourself and think about your assumptions regarding what you're worth and what potential relationship partners are capable of. About your personal boundaries and why you've been so hesitant to set boundaries that are emotionally healthy for you. About why and how to set the bar higher next time. You want better treatment than you've been getting, and there's no real reason not to insist upon it.
Regarding your reiki, that's another area where personal boundaries are critically important. You should not be merging your energy with someone else in a healing capacity until you are strong and confident in your own energetic boundaries. That place that you need to get to isn't far off, but it will take a bit of time and effort on your part. You will want to spend some time on self-worth and boundaries before taking up your reiki practice again.
I apologize if the tone of this reading is a bit harsh; contrary to popular belief, guides can indeed become frustrated and give a somewhat stern response when they believe their human is caught up in an emotional space that they belive is beneath their human's capabilities, that's keeping their human from becoming who they are meant to be. And that's what I sense is happening here. They very much want to see you in a place of strength, with all of the happiness and fulfillment that comes with that.
Please let me know if you have any questions.