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ellicent
@ellicent
11/18/17 10:48:08PM
38 posts

Empathic Abilities and PMS


Empath

Yup! I can totally relate!
My working theory is that, because mood swings are more of an issue during shark week, we simply just feel more of the incoming emotional energy we face because it's more likely to strongly affect us.

I just try to take good mental care of myself that week, nice hot showers, tea, a few sweet treats and making sure I get to bed on time. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/17/17 07:17:37PM
38 posts

Can a space affect an empath?


Empath

Definitely.
It can be hard to tell whether it's the space itself or another person residing in it however. My empathic issues skyrocketed after moving from my house with two roommates to an apartment building full of people. 

I also for some reason find myself happier and more comfortable and contained in rooms with slanted ceilings or otherwise asymmetric architecture. Something about boxy, square rooms seems to collect and condense energy in a bad and annoying way. 

Try bringing some "happy" energy to the space- put on some music you love, open the windows (only for a few minutes if it's chilly!) and clean/dust. Light some candles or incense or go with some room spray if that's more your jam. I also find that rearranging furniture helps clear out some of the nasty energetic gunk in a room. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/17/17 07:04:44PM
38 posts

How to psychically ward oneself?


Empath

Hello all~
Looking for ways to psychically ward myself so I can avoid unintentionally reading others' minds. It's super distracting and anxiety inducing in many cases and feels outside of my control.

I've tried various energy visualizing techniques and while they do help, they don't feel strong enough and don't last very long. Sometimes I'll have to reset them every half an hour or so and that's just exhausting.

Any help is much appreciated!

ellicent
@ellicent
11/17/17 07:00:56PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

*she but nbd. Got in the habit of not presenting feminine online after years of being a gamer and a programmer. Both those communities can be pretty toxic to us ladies. 

I'm not sure how or why he knows it's coming from me, but it's happened before. My boyfriend's roommate also does the same thing, but he's polite about it so I don't mind.
I have also uh, found myself in previous roommates' and friends' mental spaces, but they never seemed to notice so again, not an issue.

At this point I'm convinced that I'm just extremely psychically inclined, like no one can ward themselves enough to keep me out. I don't intentionally try to get in, that'd be rude. It just tends to... happen. 

I've tried warding and keeping a close hold on myself but it still happens, even when I'm sober. To be honest I don't know what to do about it anymore. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/13/17 01:36:18AM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

yeah, smoke cleansing can be quite difficult here, I miss living in my own separate house where I could just burn whatever I wanted all the time. I'll pick up some sage and do it when I can, I just need to wait for a day when my roommate is scarce - I don't want to bug him. 


As far as directly confronting him or reporting it, that's kind of a no-go. How crazy would it sound to the police/building management that my neighbor is psychically bothering me? Same with going up to confront him. It's far to easy to just act like the other party is insane to make that reasonable. 

The bowls of salt water is a good idea, might try that tonight! 

I'm not sure if he's actually being malicious about it, or if it's just my general sensitivity. Most people who participate in the weed subculture seem to recognize the psychic openness it gives them, and descriptions/experiences of telepathy are very common. I think I just already have a very high "base level" sensitivity, so smoking on top of that just makes me way more receptive and perceptive than most. That seems to be the case, anyways, when I attempt to compare experiences with friends, although it is hard to do so since we're all limited by our own perceptions.

It's totally likely that he's just behaving normally and not understanding the extent of what I experience. A pinch that may translate to a tickle for someone else is a stabbing pain for me, and if he doesn't know that I don't want to hold it against him. It's impossible to tell though so I just want to protect myself from him for my own sanity's sake. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/17 11:45:39PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

Ah! I majored in computer science so I can actually help you with this. 
If he's never had direct access to your PC, it's unlikely it's physically bugged, but a full factory reset should solve it if it is. Just make sure you back up any files you want to keep online or on an external hard drive first. Google drive is a great option for this as long as you don't have too much to save. 

If it's bugged any way energetically, well that's a whole different story and one they don't teach you how to solve in college. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/17 11:30:07PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

I certainly don't want to get into any sort of war with him, I just want to get him to leave me alone at this point.

hmm, yeah, that's tough since it's online so much harder to figure out. 


Tumblr actually has some pretty great discussions on astrology and such, you could try there as it allows you to block users -- you won't see anything they post or any comments they make, but you'll still see all the content. Basically, if he's on the site and you block him, you won't see hide nor hair of him, and he won't see anything you do either. Another option might be making a new account with a different name so he doesn't know it's you, but that can be hard since, if he's empathic too, he'd probably figure that out pretty quick. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/17 11:13:09PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

haha yeah I'm doing my best. Unfortunately he's taken to pinching/physically harming himself to get to me, and it's incredibly hard to ignore. (as well as banging on the floor when I'm trying to relax.) 

I've tested it out with my partner and physical sensations transfer to me quite easily, so it's really irritating and painful to feel like my arm is getting pinched over and over when I'm trying to relax. 

He'll even do it sometimes when I'm not, uh, under the influence and the pain still comes through, albiet to a lesser extent.  

Seriously it's gotten quite bad, but I'm going to take a nice salt bath tonight, do a bit of space cleansing, and take a few days off the grass to see if I can get him to forget/totally leave me alone. 

It's sad though because it seems like he has some pretty serious empathic abilities as well, and I hate to see him so hostile. I'm not sure why he's taken such a distaste to me since whenever I accidentally stumble/get pulled into his headspace I always do my best to be polite and kind. 

you have a good one too Artemisia <3 Thanks for all the advice and help all.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/17 08:38:46PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

Definitely my neighbor -- he will bang on the floor and combine it with messages. It's also highly unlikely it's the smell since I use a vaporizer that hardly creates a detectable smell even if you're in the same room. 

I definitely need to be more careful. [I don't want to stray into encouraging drug use here, but I also want to talk about it, so again, admins, lmk if this isn't okay] So far it's really helped me come to terms with my gifts (and ease pain), as well as figure out my place in the universe and all that good stuff. I'm working on energetically warding myself better because it is becoming increasingly apparent that I'm picking up some nasty gunk by doing it too.

Thanks for the link! I'm reading it now. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/09/17 06:29:52PM
38 posts

What Are Your Favorite Empath/Medium/Psychic Movies?


Empath

Not a movie, but the Magicians on the syfy channel is good! They have a psychic character who gets very annoyed with other characters who have songs stuck in their heads.

Plus its just a pretty entertaining tv show. First season is on netflix.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/09/17 05:13:09PM
38 posts

An Important Message


Empath

I feel it too. Weird undercurrents in the world right now, majorly ramping up on oct 30. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/09/17 03:35:22PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

I've tried some basic warding but I'm not very adept at energy manipulation (yet). I plan to keep trying! 

I'm not really sure what his deal is besides generally being a bit of a psychic jerk. I've tried the whole "hey so it's weird that we're mentally connected despite never meeting in person and that's kind of cool so let's try to be respectful to one another when we accidentally stumble into each other's headspace" angle and he just gets more agitated. 

ellicent
@ellicent
11/09/17 03:11:22PM
38 posts

recent problematic psychic connection with neighbor -- advice?


Empath

Hey all, Known I'm an empath for a while now and was getting really comfortable with it all until I moved recently.I use marijuana almost daily to relieve chronic pain/relax, and it really cranks up my empathic abilities. Usually this is fine, but it's become a problem ever since I moved to my new apartment building. 

Every time I tuck in to smoke and relax in the evenings, my upstairs neighbor becomes very mentally agitated. I'll be doing fine ignoring him, then he'll mentally ping me, and then get very annoyed that I respond/check in/try to figure out why he's doing that. Last night I got a very clear mental "stay out of my head" message, but whenever I try to disconnect myself he'll get even more agitated. Sometimes I get sudden jolts of pain like he's pinching himself. It's become very distracting and is hindering to my spiritual development because I'm spending a great deal of time trying to cut any mental ties I have to him. He makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong, even though every time I try to pull away it feels like he sucks me back in (and then gets annoyed with me being there,) and I certainly don't appreciate the pain he seems to be purposefully causing me. It happens when I'm sober, too, although less extreme. Either way, it's quite upsetting.

  Whenever this happens I try to assume I'm at fault, respond with love and light, and try to politely duck out of his headspace, but like I said, every time I try to leave it's like he's pulling me back in. I'm at a loss, so if anyone has experienced a similar situation and has any advice on how to shield myself psychically from him it'd be much appreciated.

 Edit to clarify: I'm not encouraging using drugs, especially if you're in an illegal state. It's just part of my story so I thought I'd share. Please let me know if it's inappropriate and I'll take the reference out :) 
updated by @ellicent: 11/12/17 02:41:25AM
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@ellicent
01/12/16 04:08:10PM
38 posts

How far away can an empath feel things?


Empath

The longest distance I've personally experienced is about 600 miles, though I'd imagine it's not limited by distance if a distance of that great is possible.

ellicent
@ellicent
01/08/16 07:09:09PM
38 posts

Is this ability to discern others genetic?


Empath

There's evidence in my family too -- she'd deny it to the end, but I've seen my mother predict deaths and disaster just like I do. Stuff like calling a hospital before she new a family member was in a car accident and visiting friends and family out of the blue right before they died of natural causes.

ellicent
@ellicent
01/03/16 09:06:30PM
38 posts



The same thing happens to me. So far I've "sensed" four suicides of my friends before they happened (I was luckily able to prevent the two latest ones thanks to my advanced warning), but I still carry a lot of guilt for not catching the first two.

The same thing happens when people nearby me meet any sort of dramatic end (murders or suicides in my area, though the feelings are less intense than I feel when my friends/family are in peril).

It's a lot to deal with, but the intense feelings can come in handy. I have friends that are only alive because I woke up in the middle of the night and called them when they needed it.

ellicent
@ellicent
12/29/15 01:11:51PM
38 posts



I'm a leftie too! Luckily I'm young enough that I was not forced to switch hands as a child, but I still regularly struggle with many things in the right-handed world. (Can openers in particular)

I wonder if there is any correlation between empaths and being a leftie. It'd be interesting to find out.

I think there may be a correlation between empaths and asexuality, but I haven't gathered enough data to know that it's not just a coincidence.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/15/15 11:02:49PM
38 posts

My head hurts


Empath

I pick up on one of my good friend's depression too - it's really annoying, but it's allowed me to save his life twice now, so I guess some sacrifices are necessary :)

I've never had more than low-level aches and pains from depression, but headaches are a known side effect. You're probably just picking up on that! Try to help your friend, but also take care of yourself. If you need to take a break from being around them, do it. Take care of yourself!

ellicent
@ellicent
11/13/15 08:50:33PM
38 posts

Deja' Vu: Insight or Do Over?


Empath

Being atheist, I don't believe in any divine intervention

However, I also know that time is non-linear, everything, in a sense, happens at once all down the timeline. Deja vus may be a glimpse into a section of time ahead or behind of us...

ellicent
@ellicent
11/11/15 11:27:59PM
38 posts

Help my classmate


Empath

I've had similar dreams and I know the feeling.

Have you tried finding any of his family members of facebook? you might be able to contact him through them.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/15 07:24:20PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

and that seems the most logical explanation, which is why I like it so much. Only problem is it doesn't apply to the situations I've experienced where I haven't been in the same room as someone yet still got their feelings/sense that something's wrong

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/15 07:23:00PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

Well, one for example.

I was on vacation over the summer. (over 800 miles from home) It was around 3:40 in the morning and I jolted awake for no particular reason (no noises, phone was on silent, no wind) and had the strong urge to text my friend from back home because something didn't seem right

I did, and turns out he was feeling suicidal that night.

I've had other similar ones over shorter distances (10 or 15 miles or so)

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/15 07:17:49PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

huh interesting

funnily enough when I was taking one of those personality tests my mum linked to me a couple months ago I got INFP. I'm not sure how much stock I put in those tests as they are voluntary answer and, well, people have self-biases (and i am no exception) but it's still interesting !

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/15 07:15:14PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

Coincidence was always what I attributed all my feelings to too. It's just happened enough that I have started to doubt that.

It's just getting too much to be coincidence, or, at least, the probability of me jolting awake to contact suicidal friends is low compared to the amount of times I've done it.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/10/15 07:12:16PM
38 posts

Denial


Empath

I'm kind of in the same boat, don't worry!

I find that accepting that something's different tends to help.

Still though, I don't buy into the crystals natures signs and whatnot. Remember that you can take bits and pieces of what sounds right to you from the community (I mean, read all of it with an open mind still, since you might find something that actually seems applicable)

I'm interested in finding a scientific justification for empaths. It could help put those uneasy feelings to rest :)

ellicent
@ellicent
11/08/15 11:23:22PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

That's the struggle -- Thinking of a way to "measure" this type of response.

I've noticed the people I mirror the feelings/emotions of people I care about even over a great distance. Perhaps some sort of blind experiment could be set up, have the empath in one room and a person they care about next door. Show pictures/video/whatever to elicit an emotional response from the friend, and ask the empath at the same time how they feel or how they think their friend feels. Take down the feelings and compare...
It's not the greatest, but maybe a place to start?

ellicent
@ellicent
11/05/15 09:48:25PM
38 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

I'm sure many of you, like me, are interested in the cause or source of empathic abilities.

Which category of explanation do you find more promising? Biological/Neural/Electrical, or Quantum? (or something else) and why?

Personally I find the quantum explanation a little more promising. While we'd be definitely closer to figuring it out if it's biological, the fact that I (and many of you apparently) experience emapthic connections over many miles kind of disproves any waves/mirror neurons/whathaveyou as the distance is just too far.


updated by @ellicent: 01/31/17 03:25:35PM
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@ellicent
11/04/15 06:47:19PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Thanks -- I'll see what books I can find on these subjects

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@ellicent
11/03/15 10:56:58PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Both. They're likely both involved, right? What do you know?

also, please share any journal articles or whatnot you've been looking at, as well as any other sources. They're a lot to get through but I like reading the original sources whenever I can.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/02/15 11:21:28PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Thanks for such a long and thoughtful response -- I really appreciate it!

I've been working on being okay with that uncertainly. I'd prefer knowing, but having a working theory seems to satisfy my scientific "itch"

I personally do think that there is a way to explain this scientifically, but we're probably many years away from understanding it. The same way the ancient greeks created gods and goddesses to explain what were (then) mysteries, is the same way we create ghosts and the paranormal to explain things that we just haven't quite figured out yet (and maybe never will).

I really appreciate that you mentioned the "time all at once" theory - it makes sense from a dimensional standpoint and I've been thinking about it for a while as a possible explanation.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/02/15 11:13:53PM
38 posts

Realization! This is kind of gross but i found it interesting!


Empath

ugh, me too!

My boyfriend drank a bit too much friday night and got really sick. I get REALLY bad physical and emotional sympathetic pains from people I care immensely about. It was rough.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/02/15 11:11:57PM
38 posts

A Narcissist walks into my house on Sunday and


Empath

I'm not sure how related it is, but I (kind of) dated a sociopath a while back

he was also really narcissistic and I'm not sure how to separate out the two but i think the main attraction is that I didn't get any emotional "distraction" or "interference" from him like I do with everyone else because he basically did not have emotions. Being around him felt like being alone (it was a really strange feeling)

He turned out to be not that great of a person to be around (really manipulative) so it didn't last, but it's interesting to look back on.

ellicent
@ellicent
11/02/15 11:07:27PM
38 posts

Crystals


Empath

First of all, halloween was fine! The friday before was a little rough though. The boyfriend got super drunk (so drunk he got sick) and I get really bad sympathetic pains (both physical and emotional). eugh. Anyone else get these too? I only seem to get them when I'm directly around the person (as opposed to the emotional connection I seem to have even when across the country from people.

oh well, on to the point of the post.

I'm interested in any actual evidence that crystals are effective at all. Maybe it's just that I have a bad taste in my mouth from seeing so many people use crystals (ineffectively of course) as an alternative to actual, scientifically proven medicines (there's a lot of the anti-vaxxer type around where I live) that's giving me a prejudice, but I see no scientific reason besides good ol placebo effect that crystals would do anything.

Perhaps it is this placebo effect that is key. After all, if empaths sense and respond to the emotions of others, perhaps the placebo effect can be explained by "tricking" ourselves in to an empathic response. Of course, this would mean that the type of rock doesn't matter at all as long as you believe that it does what it's supposed to. That's all just conjecture though.

I'm interested to see what other people on this thread think. While anecdotal evidence is far from anything resembling proof (it doesn't check for placebo, after all) it's a good place to start

If anyone knows of any reputable scientific studies regarding rocks/crystals I'd love to see them.

ellicent
@ellicent
10/31/15 07:15:04PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

I'm very interested!

I think I saw a TEDtalk about this a while ago. I'll see if I can find it again.

ellicent
@ellicent
10/29/15 09:30:34PM
38 posts

Anybody ever sense an approaching death?


Empath

Yes, I just wrote a posttelling my whole storyabout the whole experiences.

Long story short, I have had intense panic attacks/anxiety/unexplained compulsions about ten minutes before people have committed suicide.

I also tend to be awake/have bad dreams/know something's wrong before someone passes from natural causes (a family member died earlier this summer and I knew about it before my mum even called me)

ellicent
@ellicent
10/29/15 09:21:00PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Thank you for taking the time to type up such a long reply! I really appreciate it. It's good to find another scientist on here (Well, technically I'm an engineer, but a STEM field is a STEM field right?)

I try not to carry around so much guilt. I know that ultimately their deaths aren't my fault, and the fact that I was there for my friend this summer is a huge comfort (I'm getting more used to the feeling, and better at recognizing it, it seems)

I'm trying to think up ways to test this phenomenon with scientific methods. I want to find out more about it, and that seems a logical place to start. Have you done any experiments of your own? Or thought of any ways to conduct such an experiment? There are so many issues with crafting a proper test in this situation I'm having a hard time figuring out where to start. Every empath, it seems, seems to be very different (so repeatable trials with a variety of subjects will be tough) and keeping things blind (or hopefully double-blind) will be even harder, given that we'd have to know the person is an empath in the first place.

I'm working out a few ideas, but I need to develop them some more. Will you let me know if you have any ideas of your own?

ellicent
@ellicent
10/29/15 07:18:33PM
38 posts

Searching for explanation


Empath

Hello.
I'm new to the Empath community as a whole.
I feel out of place here so far. I don't put any stock in "positive energy" or "healing crystals" or anything that doesn't have a good scientific explanation, but strange things have been happening to me my entire life (particularly this past year) that I can't ignore, and can't explain. I started doing some digging and found the word "Empath." It seems close enough to what I'm experiencing that I'm here looking for others who may have similar experiences, as well as tips and tricks for dealing with my (our) condition.

Without further ado I suppose I should share my experience. Sorry in advance for the long post.

I seem to have an uncanny ability to predict hardship, injury, and death (particularly suicides).

First incident I remember occurred when I was five or so. I woke up from a dream in which my aunt was clutching a baby bottle and crying. While the content of the dream was what most people would call concerning or sad, I woke up with a crushing sense of dread. Later that morning while I was eating breakfast, my dad got a call that my aunt had been rushed to the hospital in the night and had to have both her ovaries removed (rendering her unable to have children). I was a kid, so I entertained the idea that I was magical or something for a while, but eventually wrote this off as a coincidence.

The second major event occurred when I was in high school I became passing friends with a guy who halfway through the year transferred to a different school. We hadn't talked in a while and one night I woke up in the middle of the night with the urgent feeling that I should text him. I didn't (for a variety of reasons - my phone was across the room, it was late, I didn't want to disturb him) but I wish I would have. The next day one of my school's guidance counselors pulled me out of class and informed me that he had died. He had committed suicide approximately ten minutes after I had woken up.

It's been a few years since then, and This last year has been especially full of events like this. I have a good friend who was going through a rough patch with his girlfriend, and they broke up. I was passing friends with her, and we only lived a few houses away from each other so I still saw her and chatted with her every so often. A few weeks later, I had the strong urge to go for a walk in the park near my house (it was past midnight, not usually a time I'd want to go for a walk) and the urge was very specific to the park and even the route I'd take. I had my shoes and coat on and was halfway out the door before I got distracted helping my roommate take out the trash, and didn't end up going for a walk. The next day I saw my friend walk past my house, sent him a quick "hi" text, and he called me back and informed me that she (his ex) had hung herself in the park last night. I checked my city's police blotter and discovered that the time was about ten minutes after I had started walking out my front door.

That event was really rough on my friend. He came very close to suicide twice over the summer, and twice I awoke during the night in a panic and (not ignoring myself this time) texted him to make sure he was okay. He's commented on the fact that I always seem to know when to text him (I have a tendency to do it when he's just having a mildly bad day too -- same with the rest of my friends) but I don't know what to tell him. I mostly don't want to admit that I had a similar feeling before the girl died. Plus, I have no explanation myself.

There are a bunch of other minor incidents I won't burden you all with (it'd be a lot to read!) but I've also noticed that I seem to mirror other people's emotions and personality. I experience odd, VERY accurate and very long de'ja'vus (some of which I write down and draw ahead of time in my journal... creepy!) and I can always tell when someone is hiding the truth from me (and I know how to hide the truth from others easily -- I'm a very good liar)

Anyways, I'm here to talk to others who may be experiencing the same thing. I suppose I have two main questions:

1) Do you have any ideas of how this phenomenon may be explained scientifically? Electromagnetic waves? Mirror neurons? My personal working theory is that perhaps some people can sense a dimension above the 3rd (possibly time) and gain a small understanding or glimpse of what may be going on there, and that humanity as a whole may begin to adapt in this direction (think of the way eyes evolved -- certain micro-organisms gaining the ability to sense small amounts of light through certain cells that over billions of years evolved into the complicated eyes we have now -- this could also apply to electromagnetic waves or any number of other signals). Perhaps there is no scientific explanation, and I'll have to accept the fact that the paranormal and supernatural are a real thing, but for now (for my sanity) I'd like to think there's a cause just waiting to be discovered.

2) What can I do to become more in touch with this (so far unexplained) sense? I can't help but blame myself for the two suicides I "missed" and I don't want to miss another. Please throw out any and all tips you have. I will probably be skeptical (that's just my nature) but I'm willing to try just about anything, and I welcome any help you have for me.

Alright, thank you for reading this. I'm interested in hearing your experiences, opinions, and tips.


updated by @ellicent: 01/12/17 08:02:03AM