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Lorna Eells
@lorna-eells
11/21/13 06:35:12AM
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S.O.S.


Empath

Hang on tightly Scotty. Thinking of you and sending uplifting vibes of energy and light x
Lorna Eells
@lorna-eells
05/31/13 11:23:32PM
1 posts



Hi. I felt I had to reply to your post, because as I read it so much of what you said resonated for me in my own relationship. In terms of the feeling that you give support, advice and love and somehow it seems like its all understood and then the same thing happens again and again. In all this I get the sense that with all that's going on for your partner and within your relationship, the sense of who YOU are and what you need is lost..I watched the wonderful close relationship I had with my husband slowly drain away, to be replaced with resentment, anger, ongoing soul destroying and long discussions trying to 'fix it'. In the end it was looking hopeless and I got to the point where I felt there was nothing more I could do, I thought of leaving on a daily basis. I knew I loved him but also knew I couldn't continue this way.I was emotionally exhausted and physically I'll (fibromyalgia); in the end I decided to take time out. I went to stay with my daughter for 10 days, while I was there I spent a lot of time thinking, I needed the head space to think about ME. Then us. While away after the 3 days of complete despair and thinking, there was nothing more I could do and that the relationship was over, in other words ....although I loved my husband deeply, I just couldn't live with him; I started to randomly google stuff and came across the term co dependent relationships. I was shocked to realise that that was exactly what was going on in my marriage. Everything that We were experiencing was there in front of me and the best part was that it gave me hope and understanding. I'm happy to say although there's still work to do, we're the happiest, most loving and connected we've been for 7 years.What I guess I'm saying is don't give up hope that you can regain a good and fulfilling relationship with you partner, whom you clearly love. I'm not completely sure about posting links on the site, but the person who gives the best help (in my opinion), is a man called Robert Burney, he has written a number of books and has a website which I found really helpful. You would be able to find him online if you type in his name and perhaps the word 'codependency'. He has quite a spiritual outlook on life which is comforting.I do hope I haven't spoken out of turn here by posting my reply, I sincerely hope it helps.Kind regards