Great article. I have found encasing myself in a bubble of white light before leaving the house protects me from just such people. I can reach out and "feel" the energy of others when I choose to do so and leave the rest of them alone.
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How does an empath heal?
Your words are good and clear. It is easy to understand what you wish to say. So congratulations on your good english.
I have to agree with Trevor you are a natural empath healer. Good for you with allowing yourself to trust in your own instincts and do what feels right, because it is right. It does help them and does heal.
Just understand that all healing may not cure the cancer, or other illnesses that the person is suffering from, you maybe feeling and healing much deeper problems and giving them comfort from pain, or guilt, or other problems that are in the way of their own body processing their illness. This in itself is so important to do and clearly you can "feel" the need when it is there.
There are many ways to let the bad stuff flow through you and into the world. Learning how to do this will help you not feel so drained after you heal and will help you stay in balance daily. So you can go on healing when you choose to do so.
I am sure you are also being drained from just picking up on the feelings of others as you walk through the day. So finding ways to renew yourself and to shield yourself from such bombardments would also help. Check out the link at the top of this page for "free empath training" as there you will find ways to put up shields that will help you.
You are doing well in what you have chosen to do and the world needs people like you.
The work that needs to be done...?
You are reading the world and the people in it correctly. There are others around who feel the same way you do and react with frustration and dismay just as you are, and many more who see things differently.
This always reminds me of Mahatma Gandhi and how he tried to live his life and bring about some kind of social justice in his world. Now I am not saying you have to be like him and try to change the world. He really didn't set out to change it himself just one small thing was where he started. But the reason he succeeded in doing what he did was because he stayed focused on what he saw as the right way to live in the world.
He used only what he really needed. Wore clothes to cover his body but not for success or attention. Treated others with respect and consideration, etc. This is all we can really do ourselves.
By living a life of respect for everyone and everything around you and allowing others to do the same. Your own karma stays healthy and good. By finding ways to find balance in your own life you can be a model for others to find balance in theirs.
You mentioned the forests around you being cut down. Working to stop this happening might actually be a bad thing. It might deprive others from having a home to live in, or work to do. But working to replace some of the forest and helping to work towards a balance between saving some of the old growth while still allowing some to be used might accomplish a better goal.
Find your own balance in this world. Focus on changing your own life to live the most honest respectful life you can live so you do not do the kinds of things others are doing to hurt the world and those in it. That is all you can do.
Will this change the world? Possibly. But that is not your job. your job is to live the best life you can live and let others live the life they choose to live. We cannot see the big picture and what really is right, or wrong. We can only live the way that is right for us.
It is not always easy to do. But it is the right way to do it.
I am glad you are reaching out, exploring, taking control. This is a great thing. Just remember this is a life time journey you on on.
Things will open up to you when you are ready to learn them, not before.
Opportunities will happen when the time, and you, are right.
Accept that you are open to learning and growing. But do not push in any direction. Let the universe offer it to you.
Focus on today and learning as much as possible from what is in front of you. work with that and allow the future to take care of itself and show you the next step in it's own time.
Every night I ask the universe to show me tomorrow the way in which I should go..then I let it go. Knowing the next day will offer me a new direction, or a tidbit of new knowledge, without me having to work at it or try to push anything. This allows me to really see the new day fully and be open to what ever it brings.
You are on your way....
There are times when something comes to us that is so overwhelming and so powerful that we cannot ignore it. Often we don't know why but we must do something and do it now!
One such time came to me when I was about 13 years old. My mother had taken me shopping for a dress. Once there I found several dresses on sale and she said I could have more than one. I was very happy and busy making my choices when suddenly I HAD TO GO HOME. I made her stop shopping and take me home right then. She didn't understand it. I couldn't explain it all I knew was I kept pushing on the dashboard of the car because it wouldn't go fast enough. Once there I found my aunt who was very crippled from arthritis was lying in bed and could not get up. She had been calling for someone to come help her and no one in the house had heard her.
Go into that attic and see if you can find what he is telling you about. It might be a journal, it might only be some thoughts or impressions that come to you as you are there, either way he is compelling you to do something to help him fulfill his destiny.
Being this way is not always easy. We cannot always explain to others these feelings and needs to act in a certain way. But to be true to ourselves we need to believe in ourselves enough to follows these smells, feelings, clues, as much as we can.
You are not alone. There are others like you who do understand. We will always support you and have your back. Learn, grow, and be who you are supposed to be. It is the right thing to do.
First I would suggest you look at the
EMPATH SURVIVAL PROGRAM at the top of the page. There are several ways toshieldand protect yourself there thatmay help.
second I would suggest you take a close look at your own life right now and see if it is out of balance in some way. Over time theseepisodesmight be one of the causes of this out of balance condition, or it maybe some underlying stressors that aregoing on in your life. Depression, stress, oranothercondition (bipolar?)maybe increasing the input andemotionaldensity of these other emotions coming in on you.
I know of many people who arebipolarwho are in balance with themselves and are very good healers for others as well ashelping themselves stay in balance. Just a suggestion that might help you get to the root of this problem and help you live the life you aresupposedto have full of love and life and helping others.
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Our minds are great healers. Your friend believes in your ability to help her, so you are helping her to heal herself. Clearly you are a calming and healing influence. Now you need to get her to see that she does not need you right there to stay that way.
Teach her how to calm herself. How to focus herself using breathing exercises and how she feels when she is with you.
When she can stop what she is doing and meditate for a minute or two by tapping into that calm feeling she has with you in the middle of a busy day, she will have taken over control of herself and will allow her mind to do what is needed to help herself.
Be the teacher but do not become the crutch.
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My Energy Draining Out at my ancestor's place
I hope it helps. I would be very interested in learning what you feel or hear even if it is only faint scrambled noise.
When I have visited certain places I have picked up on this kind of energy. One place was a very old adobe jail in New Mexico, lots of garbled words, and clanking sounds but none of it came in clearly.
Just this last month I visited the oldest cemetery in Los angeles with a tour group. When we got to the area where they had reburied the chinese people who had originally been buried in a potters field type cemetery because they were not allowed to be buried in a official cemetery and the crematorium that was next to these graves I was overwhelmed by the sadness and sense of crying and mourning, plus the anger and outrage I felt.
It didn't feel like it was coming from the graves but from the people who were upset over their loss, or the treatment of their loved ones.. not sure which. But I had to walk away in order not to be totally upset myself.
Possibly it was coming from the few original gravestones they had attached to the wall behind the graves. But it definitely affected my mood when I was right in that area.
My Energy Draining Out at my ancestor's place
I think the house and you have some connections, and you are possibly feeling some of the history of the house.
Houses absorb energy from the people who have lived in them and if this is a old house I am sure it has a lot of echos and vibrations of both good and bad memories in it's walls.
These may not be heard on a conscious level but may be absorbed by your mind and body at a very muted level.. like the very low sounds that only elephants can hear. The sounds can also be very mixed and chaotic which would make your mind spend time and effort to try to figure out but it is so scrambled it really is a cacophony of sound but it is there and keeping you aroused all the time you are in the house.
Even when trying to sleep.
If you can sage the whole house it might help, or it might not make any difference, because I do not feel this is like a ghost in the house and sage is used for cleansing and removing spirits. These are not spirits.
You might try some classical music, softly in the background and see if that distracts your body and mind into not listening to the house's memories.
But maybe just knowing that these are nothing more than fragments of energy left behind by people who lived there and left an energy imprint behind, at very happy times such as a birthday, or christmas, and sad time such as a death in the family might be enough for you to relax and stop trying to make sense of the sounds you cannot really hear.
My Energy Draining Out at my ancestor's place
I am not sure if you are saying that in the past you have taken courses in aura healing, etc. or if you are saying you have tried to do these things in the past two days to stop the energy draining away...
Before we can advise or suggest anything we need to clear this up please.
Dark Empath's - Moved From Main Forum
I agree that there are ways to use what I call negative energy to rid the body of illness.
Guided visualaition is sometimes used with cancer treatments by the patient to help them "see' the bad cells inside and send healing white blood cells to "eat" them.
I have focused my body energy on things like warts to remove them without using anything other than my mind.
I just don't think of this a "dark energy"
Start with the empath survival program here. (click on those words at the top of this page to get there)
It will help you control those bursts of emotion coming at you from others.
Once you learn to block and control you will be much happier and balanced.
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learning to block the incoming "stuff" when you don't want it is very important.These things are not hard to do but will make a world of difference.
Also let me say I am so sorry for your losses and what you have gone through to get where you are today. Please know that your loved ones are still around you and once you can find some calm you will know that for yourself.
The survival program will help you find some of that calm, so will talking, reading here with others who are a step or two ahead of you on this path.
sending you some peace now..
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I can see where calling someone on their lies would make them mad, but doesn't it make you mad that they lie?
I think it might be a good idea to learn to control who and when you confront liars so you can pick and choose your battles. But calling someone on their lies is a good thing (IMO)
Maybe the habit you need is to think about is, asking yourself why they are telling that lie before speaking to them.
If they areembellishing their "story" out of a deep need for attention, love, to help them feel good about themselves, etc. Then seeing that can help you focus your remarks on helping them find different ways to reach their goals without the lies.
being an empath is a way to walk a mile in the shoes of another, doing so will allow you to help them as well as calling them out about the lies.
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Psychic and Paranormal
Thank you for the wishes.
grandfathers are wonderful. Mine taught me so many good things that have helped me get through life.
Now I am old enough to be a grandmother .. and even a great grandmother..LOL
Life is wonderful and full of so many interesting things. I think the best thing is that I really know who I am now and am not afraid of telling the truth about myself and if others don't like that or wish to judge me.. so be it..LOL
Psychic and Paranormal
My husbands birthday and mine are both in March. So the full moon that month is on March 8th.
That is when I will burn the cards and scatter the ashes in the yard.
I will start with the four corners and the center under the house to make thosecrystalsalready there stronger.
The last of them will go around the big oak tree in the front yard where more of the stones he and I collected over the years are in a rock garden there.
He is here with this house and often does things to let me know his 2 cents worth.
Some of us are used to living with ghosts. LOL
Psychic and Paranormal
Many years ago I was raising two sons by myself, when wages for women without much education, were less than a dollar an hour. Iworked nights in a circle K , (quick stop type) store from 11 PM to 7 AM. It paid more for those hours.
I soon learned to "read" the people who came into the store, and to trust my gut.
Saved my life on more than oneoccasion.
Now I always trust myself in that way and don't even try to explain it to others. As you said if it doesnt feel right, it isnt. And I do not ever doubt that any more.
Psychic and Paranormal
Well, this house and property are his most prized possession.
The house is a rock house built in 1932. Hand made of river rock (boulders) with a lot of things that were used in a "make do" manner... like a tractor wheel forming the round openings in the attic that let air circulate in there.
Nothing in the house is plum, or straight. the kitchen is 12 feet long, and 8' 2" wide on one end 8'4' wide on the other. The windows are the same way so custom made glass and frames are needed. My husband made two stain glass windows to go on either side of the fireplace. He also made the deck in back and plastered all the rooms in the house. We were about to finally remodel the kitchen when he was killed.
Right after he died everything started to fall apart. Within the first month, the fence fell over, a pipe was broken in the bathroom flooding it, another pipe was broken under the house compromising the foundation. I couldn't keep up. Finally took some of his crystals and anchored the four corners of the property and put the largest one under the house in the center.
No more problems since then. Other than the ghosts who live here. One of whom is him.
He was cremated. So it really does seem right to burn the tarot cards and return them to him here on his property. Feels right for both the cards, and him.
Psychic and Paranormal
He had not used them for quite some time. They are in a box, not covered by cloth.
I just do not wish to get out of balance with the universe by doing something that could bring down on me some kind of problem for not disposing of them a way that I should.
I would have no problem burning them and scattering the ashes in the yard. Somehow that feels OK to me.
Psychic and Paranormal
I have a quick question for you. I have a set of tarot cards that belonged to my husband and he died several years ago. For some reason when I pick them up or handle them I get the feeling that I shouldn't be doing anything with them at all.
Is this just me and possibly memories of him or should I do something with them ?
I do not know a lot about tarot cards so do I need to dispose of in some way or clean them in a respectful way before I dabble with them ?
Thank you for any info you can provide.
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vibrating hands.. what does it mean?
it's 2:30 AM and I couldn't sleep. I read this discussion a couple of days ago and saw the responses and just let it go ...until tonight.
The tingling in your arms and legs could well be something to do with energy flowing through your hands, but usually this happens when someone is doing a healing rather than when someone is just lying still and trying to go to sleep or sitting in a chair.
I am NOT a Dr but I do know that a pinched nerve in the neck can cause tingling/weakness/shaking/numbness in the hands
Also neuropathy (sometimes caused by diabetes) can do the same thing.
Now I really hope I am very far wrong ... but you might want to mention this to your Dr just to be sure it is not caused by some medical condition.
There I said it. Now maybe I can sleep.
Dream about healing - what does it mean?
Dreams are often our mind trying to solve problems, find solutions, practice new skills we haven't mastered yet, and incorporate every day things into our long term memory.
Since they happen on both sides of the brain they often use symbolism to express concepts.
now all that said, take a look at your dream and remember the day and what was going on in your life at the time.
What problems were/are you facing that need answers. (Problems within family, at work, or elsewhere in your life and relationships can all be mixed in together here)
What are you working toward mastering (skills, jobs, crafts, etc.)
What is going on emotionally in your life and/or relationships right now?
To me, (and I could be totally wrong because I don't know your answers to the above questions .. or anything else about you), the dream could be about you knowing you have healing skills that you share with family (and the rest of humanity since not all of the people could be identified).
Maybe you feel these healing skills growing stronger ... but not yet strong enough to bring back your grandfather. ( I would say memories of him, and your missing him could be part of the dream, along with coming to terms with your loss of him) Coupled with the fear of messing with the universe If you tried to bring him back because you know it would bring up the "thing" with the weird face.
OK that's me brainstorming just from what you wrote here.. but you are the one who can really decide what it means.
it could be giving you some info, or answers to something, telling you something, or just be a mish mash of stuff in symbol form think about it a bit and I think you will figure it out.
A way to help the people of Haiti
This post was passed along as a re-post from yet another board.
One of the beautiful things about the group that I belong to is the myriad paths that converge and the sharing of gifts that come from different traditions.
I am re-posting it here in service to those who may wish to partake in participating in this way should it resonate with your path of service.
FROM THE POST:
*The other day, while meditating, I happened to be thinking about the people of Haiti and their current strife with not having access to food and being hungry. A thought popped into my head about a very easy way to help which was tied to my past experiences and teachings with the Blackfeet & the Lakota.
At certain times in any one's life, we all face uncertaintees and "forks in the road", and we search out to find answers to those pressing questions and situatoins. One of the ways that native americans go about finding their truth is to do a Hunbleceya, or what is commonly known as a Vision Quest. This vision quest involves being put up on a sacred mountain, with no water and no food, from anywhere to 1 to 4 days. There, amongst other things, they will pray to Creator for guidance.
I have been blessed to be a helper at some of these Vision Quests. A helper would help in any way they could for the person going through the Vision Quest, with the excpeption of making physical and eye contact with that person. Ways to help included prayer, drinking water (very important) and . . . eating. Yes, I said drinking and eating. Since the person going through the Vision Quest was not allowed to eat or drink, in order to provide that person with the strength to go through 4 enduring days, the helpers were instructed to eat and drink for that person. This involved being very present when eating and drinking, and to eat and drink with the intent of nourishing the Vision Quester.
Many times when a person came down from the mountain, he/she would ask "Who was eating strawberries? They were delicious! Thank you!" It is all about our intent and being present when eating and drinking. So I ask all of you, when you eat your breakfast, lunch and dinner in the coming days, center yourself and ask your guides to send the nourishing energies of the food that you are eating, and the liquids that you are drinking, to the people and animals of Haiti. Be very present when eating with the intent and the knowledge that this occurring.
I know that this may not fill the hunger and thirst void completely for those starving in Haiti, but it may very well be enough to have them hold on until the food supplies can get to them.
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Could we have felt the earthquake?
We are not done yet with the earthquakes and tremors around us this year.I feel at least one more in central or southern Ca.and not a small one either( we get small ones 4.0 and less all the time) .. maybe only about a 6.0 or could be larger.I also feel there will be more earthquakes around the world this year.. but more toward the middle of the year than now.the last kinda big quake we had here was on MLK day.. in january
I just had to share this article with all of you
I don't know how it would affect someone who is doing it in the expectation of getting something back. but I think it would go back to that thing about getting back what you give out. (Karma?)it is clear to me that the people here are willing and able to give of themselves to others in very non selfish ways especially to those of us who are new here.They don't know us at all yet, so they do not know what they will be getting back from us (if anything.) Yet they open their arms and welcome us and go out of their way to send us notes that help us feel better about ourselves and to make supportive suggestions that help us get on the right path without expecting anything in return.I do know how it makes me feel to give to others that way (warm fuzzy loving feelings), so I do know the benefits for me personally do make me feel rewarded.Maybe if someone was to do this in a selfish way some of them might actually end up understanding how it really works (might tap into those warm fuzzy loving feelings) and end up receiving the reward that would actually change their lives for the better too.Of course if they are not wired for those feeling (sociopaths) they wouldn't get it or understand but those around them would feel it from those of us who give the feeling out and even that would change things.Watched a show last night on PBS about emotions that said if just one person stands up for someone who is being bullied that it stops the bullying. Seems to me to be related to this.
I just had to share this article with all of you
The people who are part of this community have all been so nice to me and so welcoming that I really believe I am getting better daily just from the thoughts and empathy I find here from all of you I cannot say thank you enough...and to find an article that reinforces this.. well doesn't surprise me in the least
I just had to share this article with all of you
Survival of the KindestScientific studies are showing that compassion is the key to successful human evolution.Researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, are challenging long-held beliefs that human beings are wired to be selfish. In a wide range of studies, social scientists are amassing a growing body of evidence to show we are evolving to become more compassionate and collaborative in our quest to survive and thrive.In contrast to "every man for himself" interpretations of Charles Darwin's theory of evolution by natural selection, Dacher Keltner, a UC Berkeley psychologist and author of "Born to be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life," and his fellow social scientists are building the case that humans are successful as a species precisely because of our nurturing, altruistic and compassionate traits.They call it "survival of the kindest.""Because of our very vulnerable offspring, the fundamental task for human survival and gene replication is to take care of others," said Keltner, co-director of UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. "Human beings have survived as a species because we have evolved the capacities to care for those in need and to cooperate. As Darwin long ago surmised, sympathy is our strongest instinct."Empathy in our genesKeltner's team is looking into how the human capacity to care and cooperate is wired into particular regions of the brain and nervous system. One recent study found compelling evidence that many of us are genetically predisposed to be empathetic.The study, led by UC Berkeley graduate student Laura Saslow and Sarina Rodrigues of Oregon State University, found that people with a particular variation of the oxytocin gene receptor are more adept at reading the emotional state of others, and get less stressed out under tense circumstances.Informally known as the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin is secreted into the bloodstream and the brain, where it promotes social interaction, nurturing and romantic love, among other functions."The tendency to be more empathetic may be influenced by a single gene," Rodrigues said.The more you give, the more respect you getWhile studies show that bonding and making social connections can make for a healthier, more meaningful life, the larger question some UC Berkeley researchers are asking is, "How do these traits ensure our survival and raise our status among our peers?"One answer, according to UC Berkeley social psychologist and sociologist Robb Willer is that the more generous we are, the more respect and influence we wield. In one recent study, Willer and his team gave participants each a modest amount of cash and directed them to play games of varying complexity that would benefit the "public good." The results, published in the journal American Sociological Review, showed that participants who acted more generously received more gifts, respect and cooperation from their peers and wielded more influence over them."The findings suggest that anyone who acts only in his or her narrow self-interest will be shunned, disrespected, even hated," Willer said. "But those who behave generously with others are held in high esteem by their peers and thus rise in status.""Given how much is to be gained through generosity, social scientists increasingly wonder less why people are ever generous and more why they are ever selfish," he added.Cultivating the greater goodSuch results validate the findings of such "positive psychology" pioneers as Martin Seligman, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania whose research in the early 1990s shifted away from mental illness and dysfunction, delving instead into the mysteries of human resilience and optimism.While much of the positive psychology being studied around the nation is focused on personal fulfillment and happiness, UC Berkeley researchers have narrowed their investigation into how it contributes to the greater societal good.One outcome is the campus's Greater Good Science Center, a West Coast magnet for research on gratitude, compassion, altruism, awe and positive parenting, whose benefactors include the Metanexus Institute, Tom and Ruth Ann Hornaday and the Quality of Life Foundation.Christine Carter, executive director of the Greater Good Science Center, is creator of the "Science for Raising Happy Kids" Web site, whose goal, among other things, is to assist in and promote the rearing of "emotionally literate" children. Carter translates rigorous research into practical parenting advice. She says many parents are turning away from materialistic or competitive activities, and rethinking what will bring their families true happiness and well-being."I've found that parents who start consciously cultivating gratitude and generosity in their children quickly see how much happier and more resilient their children become," said Carter, author of "Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents" which will be in bookstores in February 2010. "What is often surprising to parents is how much happier they themselves also become."The sympathetic touchAs for college-goers, UC Berkeley psychologist Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton has found that cross-racial and cross-ethnic friendships can improve the social and academic experience on campuses. In one set of findings, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, he found that the cortisol levels of both white and Latino students dropped as they got to know each over a series of one-on-one get-togethers. Cortisol is a hormone triggered by stress and anxiety.Meanwhile, in their investigation of the neurobiological roots of positive emotions, Keltner and his team are zeroing in on the aforementioned oxytocin as well as the vagus nerve, a uniquely mammalian system that connects to all the body's organs and regulates heart rate and breathing.Both the vagus nerve and oxytocin play a role in communicating and calming. In one UC Berkeley study, for example, two people separated by a barrier took turns trying to communicate emotions to one another by touching one other through a hole in the barrier. For the most part, participants were able to successfully communicate sympathy, love and gratitude and even assuage major anxiety.Researchers were able to see from activity in the threat response region of the brain that many of the female participants grew anxious as they waited to be touched. However, as soon as they felt a sympathetic touch, the vagus nerve was activated and oxytocin was released, calming them immediately."Sympathy is indeed wired into our brains and bodies; and it spreads from one person to another through touch," Keltner said.The same goes for smaller mammals. UC Berkeley psychologist Darlene Francis and Michael Meaney, a professor of biological psychiatry and neurology at McGill University, found that rat pups whose mothers licked, groomed and generally nurtured them showed reduced levels of stress hormones, including cortisol, and had generally more robust immune systems.Overall, these and other findings at UC Berkeley challenge the assumption that nice guys finish last, and instead support the hypothesis that humans, if adequately nurtured and supported, tend to err on the side of compassion."This new science of altruism and the physiological underpinnings of compassion is finally catching up with Darwin's observations nearly 130 years ago, that sympathy is our strongest instinct," Keltner said.Copyright: arcticle: Science DailyOriginal article from: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/12/091208155309.htm
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