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karma
@karma
11/20/15 02:53:33AM
159 posts

Anyone else identify?


Empath

I initially came to this site concerning a very traumatic year of almost becoming someone else and realizing what exactly was happening, I have since begun to understand I have been empathic throughout my life without the knowledge of being so.

After reading through responses and discussions I have come to note that empathy is not so black and white as to we are all the same in traits. I sit here reading wishing I had some traits that some of you have as life would be a lot easier.

Many people here are with a good judge of character as part of their empathic ability and can stay away from negativity..... I tend not to have this ability, in fact I cannot make judgements in any shape or form

I am someone who sees the good in everyone regardless of how rude, aggressive or negative they may be. I instantly respect they may have issues, that they are sad, unhappy, angry etc for a reason and that reason (whatever it may be, because I do not instantly know the reason) will overpower any means to walk away from the person. The anger, frustration etc is what draws me to them because I overwhelmingly know and feel they need understanding not rejection regardless of how difficult it is to be round them

I see both sides of every argument (which annoys many people no end) but, I intuitively place myself in anothers shoes without second thought and grasp their anger, frustration etc even when that anger etc is misplaced, I still understand it

Even when I am in an argument or debate of my own, I spend most of my argument/debate understanding where the other person is coming from - I find this extremely difficult because the point I am attempting to get across is valid hence my need to get it across.

Does anyone else identify with this? If yes, how do you confront these situations?


updated by @karma: 10/31/17 04:48:43PM
karma
@karma
11/19/15 01:39:13AM
159 posts

Heavy hearted


Empath

You poor thing... Pets truly are a member of the family. Losing a loved one is difficult.

Sending more love and positive vibes :)

karma
@karma
11/18/15 12:00:20PM
159 posts

Heavy hearted


Empath

Sending some positive vibes your way :)

karma
@karma
11/18/15 11:58:33AM
159 posts

New guy


Empath

Hi :)

I am pretty new too. Nice to meet you

karma
@karma
11/18/15 11:55:52AM
159 posts

Do you let sage burn itself out when smudging negative energy?


Empath

I know what you mean, have you tried meditation music?

Sometimes I just lay in the dark listening to calming music or try visualization meditations that take me away from the norm.

A relaxing bath is always lovely esp with a candle as Fancy Girl suggests

Hope your mood lightens :)

karma
@karma
11/18/15 05:40:11AM
159 posts

Do you let sage burn itself out when smudging negative energy?


Empath

I smudge every few months but, I tend to do a walk around, into corners etc then put the sage out

(the smudging is the means - to let burn out is not smudging its engulfing and over powering if that makes sense - there truly is no need to do this and the house, room will be overwhelmed)

I wouldnt leave anything burning anywhere just to be safe.... A little late in responding though lol you are probably back by now?

karma
@karma
11/15/15 02:37:10AM
159 posts

cancer patient


Empath

I should add.... send love as you severe the tie, say whatever feels right to you,

`I send you love as I release you`

`I send you love but, cannot be bound to you`...... whatever reasonates with you, its your personal message :)

karma
@karma
11/15/15 02:34:46AM
159 posts

cancer patient


Empath

Hi Hon

I am no expert and have been through a hellish year of absorbing excessive negativity that in respects to you I can at least identify the strain and drain you are experiencing (not that I know what you are going through we are all individual and experience individual emotions and feelings)

I can only suggest meditation and visualization in severing the tie you and this person have. Do not feel wrong in doing so, I have felt guilty as if abandoning but, you are merely taking care of yourself, what use are you to yourself or anyone if being made so ill?

I visualize I am attached by a thread (a bit like the one from Donnie Darko right at the end of the film although not so big) I see this thread attached to my stomach and to the stomach the individual I am connected to. I cut this thread, I also visualize the individuals parents, his home, his activity centre etc as I want to cut `all ties` so to speak (thats where the saying comes from).....

To be fully self aware as you do this and have intent to be disconnected is a very sure way to release the bind - Keep doing it until feel clear and still do it again............. Good Luck - come back and let me know how you get on :)

karma
@karma
11/15/15 02:22:37AM
159 posts

Best Tips or Stories for/of Self Discovery?


Empath

Hi Tina

My last year has been a self discovery - I quite literally became someone else, emotionally and psychologically.

I spent almost a year with twinges of anxiety around someone I worked with (a lad with learning disabilities - we were alone together 5 days, sometime 6 out of 7) those twinges were (I now know) messages as a means to get out there and then... I did not understand at the time I thought I was going a lil crazy, feelings of a fuzzy head, confusion ensued.

A few months ago I crashed and burned the anxiety overwhelmed and I could not eat, sleep I was stressed, confused and became erratic esp when trying to verbalize (he had difficulty in expressing himself and was totally emotionally numb) I found myself going over conversations for hours in my head trying to make the perfect conversation (something he would do but out loud)

To explain the entirety here is too much but, in short I was becoming the lad I worked with, we were so close for so long but, the downside was he was extremely challenging and very negative, came to abuse me physically because he felt comfortable in doing so.... the mental drain and anxiety I absorbed more and more in his presence I had to leave because I was slipping into a severe illness (maybe even his own?)

I am of course terrified of anything like this happening again, I feel very sad that I could not help this lad, I have not fully severed the empathic ties that came to be. Had I have recognized the anxiety twinges in the beginning, I could have done something to protect myself? I could have helped him also? I do not know. I know now, if i ever get anxious around someone or feel a negative vibe I will walk away there and then (not sure I am supposed to? Am I to recognize it, protect myself and offer help?)

I do not think I have actually helped you regarding tool tips but, all I know is, I have learned to recognize when I need walk away - maybe thats something that can be taught?

All the best with your Hosting

karma
@karma
11/12/15 04:21:42AM
159 posts

Deja' Vu: Insight or Do Over?


Empath

I have been through an extremely stressful period the last few months (a self discovery so to speak)

I have experienced deja-vu in the past but, at seemingly menial moments, have always liked the feeling but, never thought much of it.

The last month, I have experienced two extremely prominent deja-vus.

I do not want to write you a long description,so in short :) ............

My first deja-vu a few weeks back was with my former one to one basically saying he did not like me (I had already learned I should have walked away from my job at that point, the stress and anxiety was at a point where I had already begun looking for new employment)

My last deja-vu was a few days ago at my new job - I took the first job that came, and believe me I meditated on it insanely, I begged the universe/god/creator of creation whatever one chooses to name the infinite :)

The last year of my life has focused on work, nothing but work I have discovered I am an empath and the universe has been sending me messages to leave NOW.... but I took about 10 months to listen, Once listened, the deja-vu was clear as a bell to me - as was the new employment (not that I should be in it lol.... I am constantly being reminded that I need rest recuperation from every source possible, from adverts, songs, dreams, people etc) The be careful of what you wish for springs to mind.

Are we reliving incarnation to perfect ourselves this time around?(I certainly havent clearly) or are we being given moments to reflect? Be it good moments as yours indeed was (reflect on the beauty in life), or moments of a nudge from a higher source to reflect and alter direction?

I just know of late that I have indeed reflected and undoubtedly believe that my path is elsewhere, I have no idea where it lies though, I am keeping my eyes, ears and all other senses open as a means to find out.

karma
@karma
10/29/15 02:51:08AM
159 posts

Empaths: What kind of people do you attract?


Empath

I too attract very negative souls, I am blessed with a very loving daughter and partner though. Also like your research, mine only results in empathy as a wonderous`gift`

What about the negative and darker side of others attaching itself to your energy.

I do believe we are empaths for a reason, what use would having the ability to soak up other emotional states if there was no reason? So I do believe we are supposed to help them

But how?

Not sure, I theorize maybe that we need learn to place empathy within them and connect to being the oneness that the human race actually is? - turn the table so to speak, our empathy projected - The problem though is we are vulnerable esp if we dont know what we are (I only found out recently).

Your Divine power to bring out the mean in others maybe that your soul is reaching out to the darker souls and inviting them to reveal themselves to you like a message? To prove to yourself you are indeed gifted with empathy that will eventually lead to more revelations as to what and who you really are (not a mere human) - I believe all soul messages are individual and personal, mine has seemingly been anxious twinges around the same situation/individual for over a year.... I brushed aside until the twinges became bigger, even bigger then I crashed, burned out and could not function - it then began to make so much sense.

Recognition of a pattern, even if negative pattern is a step to understanding it maybe?

karma
@karma
10/27/15 12:45:15AM
159 posts

10 Signs You Are Experiencing a Psychic Awakening


Library of Light

Hi, I am a newbie ;)

I agree with the many signs but, believe there are many, many more too. That`s the difficulty in identifying the what the heck we are going through as there is no pattern nor direct route, the route is a personal one so to speak.

I am, and have been for a while all over the place and only recently discovered why - long and very difficult story to explain but, in short I have quite literally become someone else emotionally, even mentally.

The universe hinted at me with twinges of anxiety last year but, I did not understand the signs, not even when I crashed and burned two months ago. Suffered severe anxiety and panic over very small incidents.

Since then the anxiety is always with me unless completely away from a certain individual for at least a few days (this person is whom I work with and has learning disabilities - his mood swings can be drastic from stress, anger, confusion, negativity....) We became so close at one time and that closeness I now understand opened up a real can of worms for me (I did not realize I was able to absorb emotions and mental processes, I did not realize until recently when it just suddenly all made sense from nowhere. I have become like him in so many ways. So confused, worried, stressed and negative for no real reason - This is just not me!!)

Walking away is very difficult, I feel a very strong pull not to leave yet, I know (and the universe is stepping in with miraculous opportunities to get me the heck out) However at the same time there is a pull from elsewhere is trying to enforce my staying, the confusion and a sense of responsibility for this lad is overwhelming.

Any advice is welcome

 
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