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karma
@karma
07/25/16 12:51:09PM
159 posts

Coming off ssri's


Empath

Hi :)

Sorry to be a pain, do you mean you quit your job three years ago and quit the meds 2 weeks ago?

Depending how long you were on them and at what dosage? Even if some symptoms disappear there are many (mild to moderate) symptomatics you wont instantly attribute to withdrawal - these can be both physical and mental - If you are feeling frustrated and a feeling of `lost in life`, confused at some things? (depending on severity) it may be you still need time to adjust.

Advice on how to handle life at present, go slow, take time to contemplate what you want to do - if possible? :)

karma
@karma
07/23/16 12:13:34AM
159 posts

I found my place in the world


Empath

Hey Girl :)

You go with it and hold on to that good feeling, Write it all, express it all :)

As Neville Goddard did say

`A change in feeling is a change in destiny`.....

Hugs :)

karma
@karma
07/19/16 11:22:38PM
159 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

Hi h1234

Sean is expressing pretty much the same as I would - This reality at present is not serving you (it certainly isnt serving me) My mind drifts at all times because my mind does not want to adapt to the world around me. I very much want to detach from the physical realm of false ideals, manipulated media, propaganda and all else that damages spiritual potential.

The caring too much about others thoughts is merely separation from what is considered `social norm` and a feeling you do not fit - If you feel you do not fit, consider you do not fit because you at a subconscious level knowing `fitting in` is a physical response to life - There is no chance of spiritual advancement if focused on physical acceptance

A day dream actually removes the negative thought processes within you - only when you focus on a negative does it affect you - I remove myself often - Do as sean says and embrace the knowledge that comes from a free mind - I find regardless of daydream I create, answers to other issues flow effortlessly because where I did not focus upon them, they did not consume me :)

karma
@karma
07/19/16 11:02:11PM
159 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

Fantastic response seanw4202 - Love it :)

karma
@karma
07/11/16 02:04:56PM
159 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

I do not argue hon, I do what I can to help - You can only do what is right for you

I wish you all the best

karma
@karma
07/11/16 07:22:48AM
159 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

Hon I was 300mg I was suffering severe withdrawals, cold turkey and more - There is no such thing as genetic depression - an unhappy family is unhappy family - to say it has run the line of generations is another form of manipulation to have you take the drug that pharma profits billions from

there is no evidence of a chemical imbalance nor genetics causing mental problems other than the same family members taking the medications.

You (without realising) are constantly saying stopping the meds cause symptoms and you are so ready to believe they are you yet the drug information leaflet will tell you itself it is withdrawal

When I was weaning myself (liquid doses) I was religiously devoted to the medical professionals who actually knew what I as a patient was going through.

http://davidhealy.org/psychiatry-gone-astray/ (Please read the third paragraph because you are truly dependent on both the drug and whomever has drummed into you, you are in need of them)

You will probably even assume my posting to you is an attack on you and your `illness`? Hon on the contrary I attack the drug and medical profession - Taking several vitamins, food supplements and minerals is dangerous (have you checked all interactions?) Taking too many pills and such you are seriously in jeopardy of harming yourself physically from the inside I worry alot about people and hon seriously I am worried you will take all I say as an attack..... please read as I have written to be read.... you truly are able to come off and find yourself again :)

karma
@karma
07/11/16 07:00:46AM
159 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

Hi Visitor Please accept what I say as being from the heart

I will articulate what you are saying yourself - If you do not take them you cant think straight, sleep, or sleep to much - Withdrawal is brutal and forever the intent for you to be on for life - Please read the list of withdrawal symptoms on your meds it is vital to distinguish a cause to why you experience the symptoms - not because you are dysfunctional by nature but because the withdrawal hits within hours.. One minute your brain is flooded with synthetic chemicals the next it is deprived and like a need for a hit for any drug will explode into a manic desperation til it gets it. stopping is brutal (and actually very dangerous)

I, will elaborate on me somewhat- I do indeed know what it is like to be born into emotional hell - taken away by social services at 8 months, in a kids home with siblings till 5, taken away from them all to a life of hell till 14, bounced around care homes till 16 then expected to live as an adult - fell pregnant at 17 and bullied - I was indeed a very unhappy child and not a very happy adult but, I never once looked at my life and blamed my hell on it. The sadness came because I could no longer run away from it all - I had responsibility and feared I would be useless and the bullying was too much to bear - I needed help to be as strong as I always had been and that help came in form of a brain damaging drug.

`Depression` is merely a term meaning `suppression` of emotion that is widely and falsely used to determine dysfunction - it is not a dysfunction to be emotional regardless of the conditioning that has you believing so. It means life is not in balance for you and something has to change :)

No one is born depressed - you are born without expectation - life determines emotional response though - hell is hell - suppressing it further will never assist you. As an Empath you have to identify picking up on others not everything in your mind is yours but, it will be once having learned to clear

please start researching the drugs and the withdrawal - NEVER quit taking only a very slow tapering will ever have you cope with the symptomatic influx

karma
@karma
07/09/16 03:50:01AM
159 posts

In law clique draining me


Empath

Good for you - You have articulated the `too many is too much` and quality truly over rides quantity (applauds you) :)

Make the I AM all about you - the shorter the term, the more direct and powerful it becomes - `I AM respected` will work a lot better than a sentence because the I AM recognizes a definitive intent as opposed to a need or want (does that make sense?)

Still applauding you :)

karma
@karma
07/08/16 01:52:18AM
159 posts

Empaths and Anti-depressants?


Empath

Hi Indigovirgo

This may be a long post from me :) (Nothing New!! f it comes across as ranty - forgive me it truly is a passion

Many people here will already know what I have to say in concerns to synthetic influx of toxins into the brain. My absolute detest for medicinal science etc, etc.

Basically, diagnosed (with mild depression) in 2001 (My ex was truly getting me down - so in truth I was a victim of circumstance - remove the problem the happy would have returned)

I was medicated Venlafaxine/Effexor 75mg daily.... within two years dose upped to 150mg... within another year or so switched to Fluoxotine/Prozac then back to Venlafxine - I was then stuck on Venlafaxine at an extremely high dose until 2009 then finally began to wean off which took till 2012 to do so. (not without severe symptomatic hell)

During the time I was on Venlafaxine I had several mental breakdowns, suggested as Bipolar, Unipolar, Manic Depressive sent for psychiatric evaluation (brutal ugly profession).... Became dispondent, unable to absorb information, had psychotic breakdowns, crying excessively, Hypersomatic - The physical ailments, onset of arthritis, blood thickening, skin becoming transparent, brain pains, bone clicks, sinus problems, eye problems and hell..... every symptom to be had I pretty much had it. But, to the medical profession this had nothing to do with the drug.... I was a problem patient because I was just too physically and mentally ill to deal with.

On the switches and attempts to wean off, my idiotic and narcissistic doctor dropped me 75mg and at worst a full 300mg in which the withdrawal hit like a ton of bricks and more, my mental state became very, very frightening... I could go on forever

My research into these drugs became an obsession for a long time and I am well educated in the brutality of falsified science that cannot even prove itself for all the manipulative marketing in which rakes in billions (study case files, medical journals, patient and doctor testimonials)

The chemical imbalance theory is a theory regardless of the scale in which it is told as fact. Clinical trials last six weeks in opposition to the drugs being administered on a several year (if not life time) basis - I was told I would be on Venafaxine for life - I was also told when my depression became so severe, the drug was helping bring out the underlying causes of my initial `mild depression` - So.... I was just mental, and to further the devastating insult was told my lack of understanding I was mental is why I could not be helped `properly` (basically my refusal to attend psychiatric evaluations because of being bullied by the scumbags)

Chemicals - Norepinephrine, serotonin, dopamine, melatonin..... (not the natural nor synthetic) can be balanced, there is no evidence that they can be measured, weighed, seen, touched, bottled and not at all balanced etc - nothing is more than mere suggestion... in fact what is evident is disruption and erratic behaviour of chemicals, nothing more!

These drugs can indeed produce euphoric effect and even provide people with a calming periods - this being due to a blocking here and there and an influx here and there it does rely heavily on dosage, time medicated, family/medical support, stress free surroundings and a hell of a lot of detailed situational circumstances.

The withdrawal is very problematic because many patients are told as soon as they start to taper, all symptoms are actually the return of the diagnosed disease/dysfunction - Withdrawal is withdrawal and toxic brain chemical withdrawal is brutal beyond words - I (after complaints, begs etc ) managed to get a dr to help me reduce and went via a liquid dose - it took 2.5 years of dropping 2 mls per 4-6 wees - at the end harder and harder with 1ml - Coming off was was not so simple that I instantly felt fine, a year or so of coming and going symptoms - the arthritic onset stopped (still have abnormal protruding bone lumps.... but the growing stopped at least) ..... to go through all symptoms would be pages :)

But, since having recovered, I am without any mental or physical health issues (basically in the same health as I was prior to ever being medicated) although I have poor coordination and memory problems.

I had anxiety last year - again a very long story - This was as some will have already read, an empathic reaction to a lad I was working with - a new dr (of course) told me to try anti anxiety medication - I refused and after leaving the job, meditation, cutting metaphysical ties etc - I am again without any emotional problems.

Depression, anxiety, stress, sadness etc are not diseases nor dysfunctions they are reactions to life and circumstances - that is not to render the debilitating emotions obsolete, the emotions are there and to be learned and advanced from - It is the diagnosis that is obsolete - Pharma and the medical profession is one of the biggest and most powerful businesses in the word and business needs custom to survive - there is no known cures only ever treatments that are riddled with side effects, misdiagnosed and further treated also.

Your, love, anger, stress, sadness...... is you evolving spiritually - science tells you its the brain dysfunctioning - since when did emotion become a dysfunction? - who would you be without your emotional self? The brain is physical flesh and it merely computes and relies on intellect - The mind is not physical, imagination, thought, feeling.... all are non physical have no intellect

I wish you all the best in weaning/tapering - if find too difficult because 7-8 years is a long time.... ask/demand a liquid equivalent because the dose reduction will be less severe symptomatically - you can choose how long between drops also

My apologies if as I say `Ranty` :)

karma
@karma
07/08/16 12:34:44AM
159 posts

In law clique draining me


Empath

I feel for you truly - I wonder what goes on inside the minds of people like this lady

It truly does seem you have exhausted all angles but she just wont play nice. I also hear you in saying she knows that you can see through her behaviour and do not go along - So yes she sounds like an extremely spoiled and obnoxious little madam.

In situations like yours/this, it is clearly to a point where you are suffering and little madam or not, this lady has no right to dictate anything, make you feel left out, cause arguments etc all the while you have opened your holiday home to her....

Maybe write her a letter explaining all her behaviours and for that reason she is no longer welcome to be around you?

I suggest `that` as opposed to confronting or just ignoring because writing does release tension and you will know that she knows she is at fault (regardless of whether she accepts the fact openly) You finally get to have your say and she cannot interrupt

Of course this is easy for me to say - I do not know the impact of what I say above will do concerning the rest of the family and what you want from them?

If they all rally round her and call you out, hold your head high, she will undoubtedly start on someone else eventually - And without any rudeness towards your husband - he can see it but, does not say anything to defend you (that might just be his nature?) but, its not just the son who has to put up with up this lady, she has affected you and upset you.

The methods of trying to deflect negativity don`t work when still around the toxicity, they work when removed from situation and deflecting the energy left hanging around.

Forgiveness meditation can only work when situation is over and done also..... I think you already know this but, being the lovely person you are, are wanting to exhaust every option - Trying too hard is damaging to you, it will drain you further

I am not saying have the answers and I certainly cannot say `kick her to the kerb` its not my situation and the consequences are not mine.

A wonderful way of deflecting negativity without too much effort is to identify `I AM` - It sounds so cliche but, is extremely powerful in vibration and energy field (It is not at all new age and in fact goes back thousands of years in practice) - Recognizing the self and sending out that vibration of the self - To say inwardly or outwardly `I AM strong/confident/loved....` Whatever you want that vibe to be.....and repeat knowingly that you are what you have deemed yourself to be - the vibe will do all the work for you.

I tend to use I AM before work - `The I AM liked` works wonders in my awful role of customer service - I have been attacked many times by impatient, bullish, impolite people yet I am more often than not told how lovely I am, how nice I am etc.... Its a case of saying the I AM in confidence and believing it wholeheartedly to be true....

karma
@karma
07/05/16 11:39:44PM
159 posts

In law clique draining me


Empath

Hey CW.

Have always hated cliques, basically school play ground behaviour in adult form - And it is very nasty and it hurts.

This is a tough one - Have you not attempted to speak one on one with the ringleader herself to as her exactly what the problem is? Do you think this a possible? or is it a case of you already know there would be no use?

Denial would usually be the onset of course but, if you raise every uncomfortable issue and say it may be you did not realise but, this, this and this has been a problem for me, and maybe even suggest different weekends different activities chosen by different people? The kids even?

Of course I dont know if this even possible? I do not now this lady but, clearly she is very determined to be centre of attention and doing her best to undermine you which is unacceptabel.

Well done you regarding the sleeping arrangements - The hell to pay should have been enough for people to see her for what she is, - if it is ever mentioned now, I would politely remind her the campers were suggested.

This lady has no right to dictate your holiday plans at any moment - Nor has she any right to alienate you. I get that the real issue now is what happens if you say enough is enough?

Try a one on one first if you feel comfortable enough?

If it turns sour politely remind her you are/were trying to resolve an issue - Your husband does not have to be alienated from his grandkids - the issue of this woman is with you, he can visit them anytime - the holiday home is open to all if, and only if no animosity aimed towards you - Not suggesting this is easy though

What do you think?

karma
@karma
06/18/16 02:04:56AM
159 posts

Ripped apart .


Empath

Hi Kettybug :)

If you are struggling with your own circumstances at present it is not a selfish thing to give yourself some distance.

Many of us here are conflictive with what we believe we must do as empaths as a means to `heal` others and we very often neglect ourselves in the process - This in turn serves no one because the energies bouncing around become a lot more intense and inevitably you will suffer.

I can see you already know this saying you have to find a safe place in which to work from with this lady- This is a problem though hon. You have identified yourself as a healer in which to work with her and have already burdened yourself as someone with the must to (I am sure many of us here have and, still do - hence the ongoing conflict of us all)

This lady I can imagine has many issues in which you have said has `ripped you apart`- This is dangerous ground because you are opening yourself to someone else`s traumas that can indeed become your own.

It took me a year to identify I was with someone else`s energies/thought processes, it took me months to recover via cutting all ties in deep meditation - even now I have had twinges of a connection still.

As empaths there is a very profound need to want to do what is right for others but, empathy is about you foremost - The who and what you are - It is not about healing everyone that unleashes their burdens upon you - On the contrary many of us here will admit we will at times run a mile because we know too much is too much. This is not an `un-empathic` thing to do because we are not superheroes :)

You say yourself you take breaks because it is an overload - Please take this hint as a need to take care of yourself.

- You have to see it from the angle - If you knew someone was in distress, would you unleash all your burdens upon them? - By this I do not mean you are allowing others to unleash upon you. I am saying you are allowing yourself to unleash upon you too - Its like an attack on the self - you would not treat others this way but, its okay to treat yourself this way...

It is not. You deserve to give the love and kindness to yourself that you offer everyone else (I think this is where we differ from many - we see a duty to heal pain from others but, never our own)

You say/ask, `I feel defeated but, its only feelings right?`

- Feelings are the absolute everything of who you are, without emotion you would be a zombie robot..... Feelings are everything that you are and shape your whole life around you - The way you are and how you are will reflect back upon you. - If there is anyone upon this earth you need heal it is yourself - once in a state of this you will be ready to heal others :)

Shaking with a panic attack is a sign to at least distance yourself from any external sources at present. I honestly believe the only way to centre yourself here is to focus on you :)

karma
@karma
06/17/16 01:29:21AM
159 posts

What is this???


Empath

I watched then had to express myself there and here lol

Truly an awful promotion video so I am guessing the book will be worse

He has mistaken the Empath for the sympath (considering him a `Yale Professor and Psychologist` it beggars belief truly)

He is a psychologist from the science era and obtains info from behaviourism there is no indication of having studied empathy just an opinionated belief of `being nice` and `caring/giving` too much lol - It is yet another load of nonsense to come from the `expert` who knows absolutely nothing :)

karma
@karma
06/17/16 01:02:06AM
159 posts

Needing Good Vibes/Prayers


Empath

Positive vibes and energy heading your way.

I will try focus on your Landlady changing her mind :)

karma
@karma
06/17/16 12:30:25AM
159 posts

Types of people


Empath

Lol - He has a lovely calm and gentle voice - Don`t want to ruin it for you but, in person I would be referred to as a `Kent Commoner` :)

karma
@karma
06/17/16 12:17:01AM
159 posts

Types of people


Empath

Thanks CW :)

I have looked at my post and everybody else`s

I am sure there must have been a way I could have said it without writing an essay? it`s like I have an inability to write anything in short lol:)

karma
@karma
06/16/16 03:19:50AM
159 posts

Types of people


Empath

Those who just live life in sync with what goes on around them daily?

I tend to refer to these people as almost `The Zombie` (which is not a degrading term) Media and film etc depict the zombie as a rotting dead being who feeds off peoples brains (The Hollywood depiction of a very ancient metaphorical prophecy)

but, in truth a zombie is one separated from the source and focused on a brain thought process as opposed to the mind that is not a process so much as a state of being - the physical world is all they really take as fact - The prophecies of the (metaphorical) dead walking the earth for me, are those without any spiritual connection or understanding

The majority of this world live upon brain thought process - are taught what to believe, told how to behave, are taught right from wrong etc - hence the brain storing all this information and keeping it close and shaping a persona.... Very hard to shift thought process when its been all you have ever known - This is what the most `Normal` of people are living on, within, around etc

It is the brain that limits understanding as much as absorbs because it can only rely on what it sees and understands - Take religion - A Rabbi and a Priest - both believe in a higher source but, neither accept the others understanding because it is not what they were taught, so both sides conflict the true meaning and, ego becomes more important in defining their belief (which is only a belief)

The brain is a very limited when it comes to any truth because there is no truth within ego anyway

The Mind being the limitless ability of imagination and creation which is an individual all knowing within - An open mind is not an open brain (there is no such thing as an open brain, it is too limited on understanding what it is surrounded by regardless of the information it stores it is limited to a physical self - the brain is physical and will rot upon death - The mind is the spirit/soul that will leave this place once this life is over, it cannot rot, cannot die)

So many people are disconnected and live in a physical realm that they believe is all there is and, their thought processes reflect a belief the mind and brain are one and the same:(

I am what would be considered `left brain logic` I rationalize everything lol - But, like you I am with the ability to see beyond the physical as being all there is :)

karma
@karma
06/10/16 12:40:21AM
159 posts

Is it ok to tell people about being an empath?


Empath

I agree with Rene it takes the comfort of yourself within your own skin to be able to deal with the responses from who you decide to tell

My `self discovery` would have been great to have been able to express why I could no longer work with a certain individual - To have been able to say - I am an empath and am absorbing this person - He is making me both mentally and physically ill would have been brilliant - Of course this would have made me look `unstable` and somewhat `kooky`

To be given the opportunity to explain what an empath is, how it works etc is hard - If you want to tell someone then it is best that, that someone is with an open mind and who will not mock until you get a full grip on it all yourself - I have, at present, not really felt the need to express myself empathically anywhere but, here because I find that I need fully understand myself first :)

Your question - Would it hurt you, telling someone and making them promise they would not tell but, then they do to someone you do not want to know?

I guess the betrayal of the person having promised but ignored would hurt - The person who you did not want knowing (obviously for a reason) may mock?

There is no `bad vibe` if that is what you mean? Not unless you get stressed or really upset about it all - truly though there is no need - Again, as Rene says - It is not about others thoughts - What goes on in your head is all that matters - People will think what they think regardless, when you allow what they think to take up your thoughts is when it serves no purpose

A lot of people are ignorant to a lot of things - That does not make them bad, just unknowing is all :)

karma
@karma
06/09/16 07:03:50AM
159 posts

Are you deeply affected around Athiests?


Empath

In respect I very much doubt Atheists are projecting fearful hopelessness and depression upon you - Anger and frustration maybe? To combnie this with your belief system a lot of mixed emotions can and will surface. Nothing wrong in that - Its a learning curve is all - Empathy being a tool to overcome conflicts all the while an ego runs rampant on either side :) (believe me I fight mine daily)

An Atheist does not have feelings of hopelessness so much as believe once you die you die so live life to the fullest it is the only one you have got so enjoy it. However like any ego if the boundary of belief is pushed upon the anger flares

It could be said that the devout religious are more conflictive regarding death - Many are very judgmental and brutal in believing we are all going to end up in hell for not following a very ugly concept of worship me or be doomed in torment forever :) very few practice what they preach.

The Atheist, in respect, opposes `this` more than they do the ceasing to exist ideal - thus the war begins between the two - neither really listen because they believe what they believe and as you say `conclusion` if you reach a conclusion - it takes more than a heated debate to respect the other sides view

The Religious (or believer in a higher being) and Atheistic fight (that is the negative energy as opposed to the belief system itself) This does not always have to be physically and verbally projected - Vibes fly regardless

Too much energy is focused upon demanding belief systems of a physical mindset and toxic energies come from this - anger, frustration, hate, venom....... (on both sides)

I do not believe in a God so much as I believe the universe is a consciousness that quite literally thought itself into existence - It is the creator of itself and the everything there is (Good and Bad)

- Our consciousness being a fraction of that same consciousness - we are particles of the whole - ceasing to exist is impossible yet, being stuck with a physical form we cannot see beyond what is around us - nothing other than possibility anyway - when the mind stretches possibility ... We are en route to breaking free from any concept that we have been introduced to in our lives as to idealize what the anything is - That includes a belief system of what God is or is not and what is beyond death :)

I am battered by both sides for my beliefs :)

You dont say why you believe Atheists are affecting you and why so convinced to conclude - you have pluralised so are you surrounded by a few people not sharing your beliefs?

You say these feelings are not yours - It is very hard to distinguish at times, it took me almost a year to discover many a feeling, thought, emotion I was experiencing was someone else - if they are definitely not yours? (because I cannot of course know) - then break them down `I feel hopeless because?` I am fearful because?..... These are the questions that you need ask yourself in meditative silence - It will offer an insight to where the thoughts and feelings are actually coming from - You may well realize they come from a very different source - I wish you luck and would love to hear how you get on :)

karma
@karma
06/08/16 02:53:42AM
159 posts

How to cope with an energetic vampire


Empath

My personal view - not a definite know it all but,.........

Chances are he does not even know he is affecting you in this manner

If he is as you say he is, (Emotionally abusive and Manipulative) he has a narcissistic energy that you are picking up on as opposed to the `feeding` from you - you feel the intensity but not the excessive fatigue and depletion of being drained from a `energy sucker`

He wont know he is affecting you in such a way because he is very self focused and, his intention is to probably affect your sister which could mean you are picking up on her confusions and problems attached to this guy (hence the headaches of him and her combined that you are suffering)

It must be equally stressful knowing he is not a good person and your sister is involved (Have you spoken to her about him? / Does she listen?) - This would undoubtedly add to your emotional health

You have to try and detach yourself somehow - separation techniques - have you tried any?

karma
@karma
06/08/16 02:36:59AM
159 posts

Introvert, Empath, HSP


Empath

Well, Hello Stranger :)

Hon you are a very wonderful person who is in touch with being something far greater than what this world tells you it is to be.

I totally agree you are here to gain experience and differing perspectives to grow stronger - The past has given you so much to reflect and obtain emotionally, spiritually and mentally - The bizarre and complex gift of hell to understand, know, experience and learn from - No sage/sophos was ever born into a free easy life to obtain the wisdom.

I think this is the hard part at times. The recognizing pain and trauma suffered for an enlightenment once understood - Purpose in life is a flaw at times (my personal view of course), we seek to make sense or know all what and whys - I have a cliched belief that the once you stop looking (because it tends to always be in the wrong place because we use the rational as opposed to the spiritual) then it will reveal itself.... Maybe the purpose is reaching the christ mind via excessive repetition of sadness, torment etc until recognized?

Since last having spoken to you here I am doing my best to stop using rational thought process - I am hard wired logic but, that is not the same (The logic is innate - if it makes sense it makes sense the truth cannot be denied)

The rational intent to think my way to enlightenment is my most damaging flaw - I am leaning towards allowing my mind to think for itself without conscious input (no easy feat!)

You speak of conformity too - we have all conformed to be accepted, understood, liked etc - I am conforming to rules daily in my job (I want more than anything to flee the corporate world because I know it is wrong to be a part of. I truly want to be free from this entire sham of `Who said life was supposed to be easy` ...

You are in a shelter at present that cant be easy with being around many people you do not know - Maybe as you say, you were led (by your higher self/God) to continue the journey of self discovery? I do not know but, believe you telling your story is a brilliant idea - I believe every experience needs to be expressed and you have many that could offer others an understanding :)

Inner peace is the hardest piece of the puzzle to obtain because of judgment/chastisement of the self is what keeps us so sensitive and prepared to take on all others pain as if we deserve it.

We can indeed be compassionate and experience others without enforcing it as something we must bear - it is not heartless to give ourselves the time out and self love we deserve

Maybe what I write seems a bunch of nonsense? lol (would not be offended if you thought so - your knowing yourself is all that matters)

I am glad you have come back to post though - Its been a while :)

karma
@karma
06/08/16 01:43:19AM
159 posts

We are both empaths, and she's pregnant...what a mess...


Empath

Hi Jed

I can only imagine it would be common if both with empathic traits :)

Have you tried any protection methods? Not to block yourself so much as to need the energy to get up and go to work.

karma
@karma
06/08/16 01:37:46AM
159 posts

Enlightenment?


Empath

Hey Rene`

Could you not create your own group?

That`s basically me saying I don`t know lol but, offering a solution regardless :)

karma
@karma
06/05/16 02:14:28AM
159 posts



Hi :)

It definitely sounds as if you are getting a raw deal concerning job description - If you are a writer but, doing the tasks of a secretary instead, you really should think about pulling your manager/superior to one side and asking why you are not doing the job you applied and are qualified for.

If possible in a calm but firm rational manner explain you feel you have come to be the dogsbody regardless of your talents and qualifications - If you cannot confront in person? Then write a letter instead (this is what I would do). You have every right to be doing the job you studied for and signed up for.

The coworker who did not want you to get anywhere near a client needs addressing also - He had no right to be so arrogant and unfair towards you.

The past can affect you today - The stepping stone is always going to be what and how you relate to yourself (easier said than done I know) - You were teased because you say you had a strange voice - Things like this will of course make you self conscious growing up and cause insecurities around others - It is likely you do not have (answering phones today) - I was always teased for having quite a sharp nose (was called Witch and Concorde - I will admit though I never took it to heart enough at that time to be upset by it but, I still hate my nose to this day am very conscious of it)

Developing early, again I respect causes an extreme self consciousness, not that it should (the education system is terrible for ever introducing a mental thought process to children that identifies any personal difference as normal. The sheep mentality continues into adulthood and the media furthers ideals of what they want the masses to believe is normal - separating yourself and identifying `that` does help somewhat because you can at least understand why you were always the outcast (that many people here were or indeed are today - even if not identifiable. The feeling it and knowing is the tell tale sign :)

I do feel though (and this is said in the nicest possible way because it is a suggestion) - If you talk about the same subject a lot? some people will lose interest and human nature (for some strange reason) is not to contribute and steer conversation elsewhere but, to avoid or be dismissive - Have you tried appealing to their interests?

I am no expert in the art of conversation - Only recently I tried to express in the work place my knowledge concerning medicinal therapies and was shot down quite harshly by someone who knows nothing I was really hurt but, more annoyed at myself for not having the ability to argue back - I was made to feel very stupid.

But, all said and done- I had to accept people do not listen (or care to) instead of the awkwardness of allowing that atmosphere to escalate the next day though. I went back to work and began chatting nonsensical everyday chit chat and went straight for the persons ego by asking them about themselves..... Its not always easy I know

I do think you should be looking into making a complaint about your job role and coworkers - specify certain behaviour is unacceptable and you feel as if you are being taken advantage of also

karma
@karma
06/04/16 01:52:12AM
159 posts



Hi Midnightstarr

A couple of things stand out in your post for me - Firstly the job

In the past 6 months I am in my third job because of complications and at a `Crossroad` also :)

To answer your question regarding your CV/Resume, Yes! if you are working it actually goes in your favour when looking for another job - Employers (albeit wrong) prefer to have someone they ideal as a worker as opposed to the unemployed (regardless of reason)

All this means for you is, you will be asked by your new employer what reasons are behind you wanting to leave the current job - If you make `that` sound good your chances increase tenfold.

My current job, at the interview I stated (albeit truth) My aim is to study from home and work at the same time the fifty hour position I was in was not allowing me to do this - Where the 25 hours offered in the current position did (Then of course I lied about how much I loved being around people.... And all the rest of the nonsense that is required to impress - I of course neglected to add, I hated my former job with a passion and that I had, had a breakdown six months ago due to the previous position and all else)

Work life is incredibly important to have a drive to do, the time spent at work is a huge percentage of our lives - If you are extremely unhappy then it can become toxic because not only is the job/the people wearing you down its the mental state of mind you adapt in the process

- For your new employer adopt a reasoning as to what their company has that makes it appealing and why you want to work for them or something of that sort, it aids the reason behind leaving your current job also

Secondly you say people find you annoying. Have they said this outright to you? Or is it a belief you think that they think this of you? - We (esp the sensitive) have a tendency to over think and decide what others are thinking about us - We are very self aware and take note of much of what we are saying and doing, analyse it in depth and assume the whole world is doing the same - Thing is, these peoples lives revolve around themselves and even if and when you are in their thoughts it wont be the exact same way you are assuming it is

You say yourself, you think you are annoying - there lies a problem, you believe this of yourself so others must view you the same? This is what needs your attention most. The how you view and judge yourself. I have been going through this same conflict for many years - The problem with judging yourself so harshly actually omits a vibe to allow others to judge you also or at least your permission for them to do so.

Look at it like, would you judge someone else so harshly for speaking about themselves and their interests? if not, then why judge yourself for it?

We are all so different, Personally I like it when someone talks about themselves a lot, mainly because it deflects attention from myself lol

karma
@karma
05/17/16 12:09:00AM
159 posts

Psychic Empath mentor wanted


Empath

Hi

I will be brutally honest because I worry when people ask for this kind of thing - It is an undoubted need at times to come and ask of peoples advice and input but, its dangerous ground to ask just the anyone to be a mentor of any kind.

We all want someone or something to provide us with methods and answers but in truth no one but, you can provide the answers and methods that work for you - Being told this or that is the right way will only ever hold you back because your personal experience is exactly `that` - The personal experience

Ask advice etc, but try not to look for someone else to make you more than you are - Only you can do that :)

karma
@karma
05/14/16 12:53:18AM
159 posts

Too embarrassed to apologize?


Empath

I am with Karen on this your boss sounds as if she needs to apologize too - I am the opposite, I over apologize which truly does me no favours

Have suffered anxiety and understand the inability to confront and verbalize - words will come out all wrong and panic sets in - fearing it is the worst part, over thinking conversations etc - I cant say if I was in your situation I would firm it and confront.

I used to have to tell myself `Whats the worst thing that will happen` then I would think of awful scenarios - It truly did not help.

I truly do believe situations like this need a very hard cutting of ties - Imagining the anxiety/ fear/embarrassment as an energy within you bound by a cord - You have to really see it in your minds eye and release it, watch it leaving your body and cut that cord - watch that energy float away and visualize a protective aura around yourself - Be free of the anxiety - It may take a fair few attempts so don`t be dismayed. I do this for everything nowadays - The more you believe in the release the more effective it is, the more you see it leave etc...

Good Luck

karma
@karma
05/12/16 01:38:11AM
159 posts

Social media?


Empath

As it is becoming more and more known `The Anti-Social Media`

Not only are people exposing every detail of their lives to the world they are becoming (as InStillness says) less involved with personal interaction

- Photos and emoticons replace words that express emotion and thought - If not plastering your whole life online then just placing opinion (and without meaning to be rude, opinion is rarely ever backed up with any reasoning behind it other than having it and sticking with it)

The aggressive words used though indeed an expression of trying to make a point, that point can be blocked, refuted or ridiculed by many leading to further anger, stress and frustration - Whats more, many jump on the bandwagon and begin a tirade of nonsensical combat that escalates into threats etc.....

There is nothing social about plastering your whole life on `social media` - Nothing social at all because Its all a case of look at me, rate me, agree with me, know me (at least know the person I portray myself as)l it is egotistical and thousands of egos is undoubtedly overwhelming

Brainwashing? To a degree yes, My conspiring mind reflects a means to have us all hating each other and fighting opinionated battles rather than care about real problems and the real threats in this world.

Trolls (and there are many paid to be as such) are part of the system as a means to enforce the battles which in all fairness most have not the sense to ignore - Regardless of how personal and vulgar these people can be they are merely people hiding behind a computer - Again the ego takes over and people cannot help but, retaliate....

I will of course add their are many people who join these sites and do so as a means to meet new people or interact with friends and family on a sane level :) I am not one of them, I really (without unkindness) have no interest in what people are doing daily - If they want me to know they will tell me

karma
@karma
05/11/16 11:48:19PM
159 posts

Birthmarks?


Empath

Good Luck with that - be interesting to know what you learn :)

karma
@karma
05/11/16 01:12:34AM
159 posts

Birthmarks?


Empath

Hi :)

To me personally I believe this could be a possibility although not always attributed a definitive means as to how an individual died per se - A birth mark on an arm/leg not really evidence enough of a fatality :)

- I believe that we bring innate personalities back to this life from other lives so why not projections of a physical form? I would think (again, merely a personal perspective) that if the birthmark was attributed from a past life it would be to accompany you through this life for a reason - an innate understanding of something - maybe it is a means to recollect something? I would not know :)

Have you ever looked into regression hypnosis?

karma
@karma
04/28/16 04:14:50AM
159 posts



You are welcome :)

My own personal coping mechanism determining whether my feelings are mine or another`s is severing cords - I imagine my body has multitudes of cords/threads attached to people, places, situations etc some clear, some black - the black I specify are the negative - using my third eye take a black pair of scissors and cut the black cords and watch the threads (and attachments) float away and visualize those at the cut off point turning clear.

I find this very effective for me - I use different colours at times to be more specific - If I am angry at someone for example I will imagine a red cord and use red scissors to cut that specific cord - for me this works because your having severed the cord removes all anger from you regardless and if the other person is still angry?..... Well theres your answer :)

karma
@karma
04/28/16 03:52:54AM
159 posts



Hi Irene

You have not given much detail but, I will try to respond - Meditation techniques are individual to us all - I have spent time and effort in the past following others ideals of what perfect/precise meditation is - Meditation is a personal connection between you and source of all that is - No one can tell you exactly how your relationship should be conducted

Some say you `must` clear your mind, others say you must be rested and at total peace etc.... In truth I have had ranting meditations where I vent endlessly at the universe for everything that is going wrong - It is my venting meditations that land me the best result at the given time - Mainly because the what I am asking for is specific and articulate in my frustrations (the more specific and passionate you are for all your needs and wants the simpler the message becomes because there are no hesitations in the asking and, pure faith flows naturally) - The true key of all law of attraction :)

Empathy for me is not so much a gift to use and control but, more a chosen means to learn and experience all emotion and understand the powers of which we can grow spiritually from - unfortunately it is not so exciting when put in those terms - I believe many people wish and believe they are gifted with an ability to impress others and even themselves with - We will never grow spiritually all the while the ego tells us what are capable of

If you are having trouble switching off connections to people at present it maybe because you are trying to switch on and off? My own personal experiences are to do my best to stay away from notably negative people I feel have had enough experience at present in which to understand empathy for what it is - That is not to say I have not much to learn still but, am in need of a break for the time being :)


updated by @karma: 04/13/17 06:32:48AM
karma
@karma
04/28/16 03:09:03AM
159 posts

Feeling Like my life is over.


Empath

Hi

I understand a little more regarding your children - my apologies :)

I fully identify and respect life is not so black and white to just talk to them and all will be rosy. The situation is very complex and dejecting my heart goes out to you.

You have done the right thing in standing back and allowing your daughter to live her life her way because we all truly learn from experience never from what others say or do - Its very tough I know. Her saying your ex has not done anything to her is extremely difficult for you but, to try and see the good in that (albeit very distressing for you) is something you could try?

An example would be my own Daughters Father who would not turn up to babysit, buy clothes and nice things that she could only have when with him..... lots of little things that may sound silly now (shes 23) but, would cause so much upset for me at that time - Over the years the things he has said and done I have had to grin and bear - His words have been extremely hurtful especially but, hes her dad and they meet up regularly - I have just got to see it as He is not treating her bad and that is a good thing.

Again, I understand is not so black and white but, sometimes it takes a new approach of thought. Try not to see it as betrayal but, a lack of understanding and life experience itself... Its very difficult I know

I cant say I know the situation in full but, if you believe he moved next door to your daughter to get at you? At present he wins all the while you vie for your daughters attention and support - You truly are doing the right thing standing back. It will serve you better when she does not feel she is being made to choose and it will serve you better with a knowing he will be knowing you have allowed yourself to let go (I hope that makes sense?)

I fully respect the living pay check to pay check difficulties too. Its like a prison of which money (or lack of) keeps you confined - I truly do believe a considering of seeking help for moving out of the place you live right now - Whereabouts are you (I am assuming America?) There has to be a place at least for advice. Working a fifty hour week is very tough on you I seriously urge you to take a break, book time off and write a list of things to do. Seek advice, look into organizations who assist those in need etc

Its not surprising that you have trust issues with men, nor is it surprising all your thoughts and feelings revolve around all what you have been through - Trying too hard to be positive is like a fight also - you need combat the surroundings you are within before any positive truly will take a hold.

It truly is a time to focus on you in as many positive ways as possible

karma
@karma
04/27/16 04:12:22AM
159 posts

Why do I feel like I'm not an empath anymore!?


Empath

I have moments when I feel I couldnt care less - I find this helps me though - Like a release of the intensity that I did have a few months back - It was all too much at the time and I believe I begged to universe to release me from it several times.

It may sound a silly question to ask but, are you on any medication? has your diet changed at all?

There is the possibility you are being so angry because of having picked up on a negative energy? - When I used to suffer the anxiety and anger of someone else I thought it was mine - I did not give a damn about anyone else at the given times.

A possibility?

karma
@karma
04/27/16 03:57:17AM
159 posts

Feeling Like my life is over.


Empath

Hi Jodi :)

Almost 50..... Look how beautiful you are!!!

Hon.... Clearly the life surroundings that you are within is the primary focus - Place to one side (for now) your husbands antics - Respectfully I understand he has and is hurting you still.

Forget the dating sites (because, and as you already know this, these sites are not really much more than people looking for ways to have a bit of fun - which is okay so long as all recognize `that`)

Your children.... Do they know of your abusive past? Is there no way you can stay at theirs for a time period?

If no then I suggest a possible visit to a refuge of some kind at least to talk through the situation you are having to live with your abuser.

You say you have lost your home to your husband - surely you have rights that will compensate the building of a home together - you really need seek advice concerning this and could in fact declare yourself with a possibility of homelessness (you know, marriage over or not he has no rights to kick you out to move the new woman in - I do not know the full circumstances but, you are entitled to half of that house that was your home, that you raised children in together)

You feel the way you do because you are believing there is nothing you can do regarding your situation - you say you have no friends - Well! You have a new one now :)

You also feel that there is something wrong with you because of your husbands infidelities (to which goes in your favour regarding divorce and entitlements to settlements) - Seemingly he is a serial cheat - It could be understood that an individual could have an extramarital affair, fall in love etc.... The serial cheat however is one who is selfish and cowardly - cowardly to not have what it takes to admit he is selfish and selfish because he wants both freedom and the safety net of home - You are not at fault for his behaviour, he is!

Not wanting to spend life on your own is a worrying that you may do - In all fairness (and I mean this as nice as possible) at present you are deeply unhappy (which is understandable).

However, being deeply unhappy and looking for love can be toxic - it goes one of two ways - either you omit a vibe of unhappy which people tend to shy away from (in turn scaring off any possible perfect match) or you attract those who know they can manipulate and use you - its why people seem to forever be in the vicious cycle of attracting the same kind of partner time again.

There is nothing wrong with you, you have been treated bad and assume it is your fault - this will have stemmed from early on. Recognize the pattern of others and how that pattern affects you each time.

Please retire from the psychics and mediums at least for the time being - having seen numerous is evident you are laying too much hope on answers that do not serve you in the present and the money you are spending on them is not serving you either. (good psychics and mediums offer advice and possible solutions not just predict perfect scenarios)

You feel tired in every possible way - Well! that is because you are depleted of all energy - A wake up call to take note of your situation.

I am here if you want to talk anytime :)

karma
@karma
04/27/16 03:09:10AM
159 posts

Looking to grow


Empath

Hi again - sorry so long in responding :)

Empathy can be very confusing - Emotions are extremely powerful energies - The hard part at times recognizing whether you feel the way you do because of yourself or an attachment of someone else.

A great example from my own experience would be sudden surges of intense anger coming from seemingly nowhere - a wanting to hit out or say something hateful in rage.... (I worked with a very angry and anxious lad with learning disabilities for two years.... during the time with him I took on many mental and emotional dysfunctions which I believed were me having a break down of sorts.... (I literally did in the end - Its how I found myself here)

I know now of course his energies had latched on to me - It was probably after two or so months of being away from him and consistent release meditations that I started to feel the lift and the clarification of my emotional behaviours were never mine - bizarrely never saw it at the time - He would be told No and my anger would surge. He was let down by his parents I would feel distraught and angry - sounds so obvious now but, at the time the emotions were so profound they took my thought processes - I could not process anything but, the feelings I had - This is where the danger lies in seeking to absorb others emotions - you play around with the wrong ones - you may not be able to shift them, let alone recycle.

When he was excited I would become extremely anxious because he could not handle excitement - like christmas - it was all too much anticipation for him, so for me a sudden influx of anxiety (the word does not at all express the actuality of suffering it - fear of absolutely everything and everyone sums it up, furthermore you are not only suffering his anxiety from his mental process of fear you equally suffer fear from your own psyche process too).

He could not verbalize himself well either, I now recognize my patterns of social anxiety throughout the time I had with him......

For me, albeit an extreme case it is a very dangerous game to play in seeking to play with emotions of others (even if with the best intentions) Dark and negative energies exist and do indeed lay dormant

- Those who fall foul to a depression or psychosis are not at all evident throughout their lives with this energy apparent, it can take many a small trigger though.

I was very unlucky indeed - The lad I cared for showed no real signs of psychotic behaviour outwardly. His emotions though were very dark.

I dont advise intently absorbing an emotion and recycling it back to anyone - you put yourself at risk - whoever `shared` this with you - regardless of good intention is not assisting with empathic understanding of what emotions are, nor how powerful!

A vibrant emotion is a wonderful one - if you are lucky enough to absorb it go spread it by being vibrant around others (because that is all it takes)....

Empathy is very complex - the need of it (esp the negative) is to experience and grow from via knowing it and not being it...... :)

karma
@karma
04/25/16 01:35:16AM
159 posts

Looking to grow


Empath

You are never going in the wrong direction if wanting to enhance yourself for the better :) Only you know what your strengths are.

To grow as an Empath though you may have to reconsider the `want` in your comment (albeit I may have misread?)

Empathy is not at all a gimmicky gift to play around with - Emotions of others are not yours to play around with either - What emotions of others are you wanting to absorb and project? and why? Only your emotions should you be concerned with in any form of projection!

- If when having absorbed a negative emotion (which is the most common dilemma of the Empath) it is best to try and dissolve (That is, if not having successfully deflected it) The good vibe however is something that does most of the work on its own - To be able to hold on to would be the gift and sign of amazing empathic strength.

Every one of us absorb and project on a daily basis (even those who have no belief in empathy, the difference being they do not recognize it therefore are not open to it , in turn having no ability to advance with it) - Those who do recognize and, who are open are extremely vulnerable yet amazingly strong because regardless of the excruciatingly difficult emotions and mental processes (of their own and others) they suffer - They do their best to understand, work through. resolve and soldier on (no words fully express how amazing an ability this actually is)

The true gift of Empathy is about understanding and experiencing as a means to advance spiritually and emotionally - Experience of the everything (esp the negative) is the only way to know it and not be it - Playing around and seeing what you can do with it will never serve you any purpose - And like anything, if you play around too much with something you don`t fully understand it can seriously backfire.

Dont look to absorb and project (you do that anyway) look to understand emotions for what they are :)

karma
@karma
04/22/16 02:37:33AM
159 posts

When the life is a living hell


Empath

Hi Johnathon

The sadness I get from your post is you have an undoubted belief you cannot be who you are -You say you accept who you are but, wont ever be who you are.

Family and coming out is the hardest part but, you cannot torture yourself in the way you are doing

You believe at times crying is weak? Not at all - Strength comes from being who you are and the emotions that make you who you are - Anger, Depression, Anxiety.... They are needed to be experienced to ever overcome and learn from - However too many of us allow the given emotion to consume us, learn nothing from it by becoming it and believing we deserve to feel that way - we punish and condemn ourselves for no good reason. If you continue to punish yourself the energy you give off allows others to treat you that way too and it becomes a way of life

You are so young to be putting all this pressure upon yourself - Go with the flow of what makes you happy not focusing on what you should be for the sake of others - You are a product of yourself and you deserve that happiness.

Being with Christian Values.... Well, simply put, any christian who condemns homosexuality is breaking the commandment of `Thou shall not Judge`.... And, in fairness the story of Sodom no one was condemned to Hell because Hell did not exist in the first testament (only when the desperation to keep people in check and under church rule did the second testament introduce the fear factor of hell) - The commandments themselves a guideline of humanity behaviour, not once with a reference of severe penalty - The seven deadly sins not at all referencing homosexuality either.....

What I am trying to express is the way The Bible is interpreted by man today is not the way it was written and read for yourself paints many a different picture. I just had to say what I have because knowing you are so unhappy and believing this is `just life` is wrong.

I wish you all the best in life because like anyone you deserve happiness

karma
@karma
04/22/16 01:55:48AM
159 posts



Not sure lol

I have heard that humidity can cause static electricity in humans - Be careful though as could be dangerous if experiencing it around electrical equipment...

On a more spiritual note maybe you are experiencing an electrical induced energy? Either way, be careful :)


updated by @karma: 03/15/17 09:37:51PM
karma
@karma
04/22/16 01:46:32AM
159 posts



This is tough, friendships survive the same way any relationship does - give and take unless you know (and want to know) someone well enough to accept flaws and work around them (I have a friend who is a terrible gossip, love her to pieces but, never disclose private matters lol)

If this person has the tendency to do things on his terms and not consider you (or others) in the process it really does come down to whether they are worthy of your time and efforts - sounds harsh I know.

We (esp here on this site) seem to allow people to be themselves and neglect our own needs and wants too much - We definitely cling to a romantic ideal of how we want others to be (AKA - Us being too nice!)

You say his interest in you is a romantic one yet he treated you bad when you were romantically involved - Its easy for me to say not to expect too much from this guy even in a friendship but, you know him I do not.

Consider yourself in your decision - How you feel and how he makes you feel , work with that because you truly need look out for you first :)

karma
@karma
04/22/16 12:27:19AM
159 posts



Not in a similar situation but, reading through I wonder whether this is a friendship you want from this man or more?

If it is more then the attention thing is understandable, you want to be shown more and him to sacrifice a little more of his time and efforts for you.

I wish I had more worthy advice but, not understanding whether it is just a friendship or more? I feel I could be jumping to conclusions and assuming to much - I really dont want to be doing `that` :)


updated by @karma: 12/02/16 11:12:20PM
karma
@karma
04/22/16 12:17:37AM
159 posts



You are welcome :)

I hope you? or whoever is suffering with these conditions are able to overcome soon :)

karma
@karma
04/21/16 02:22:30AM
159 posts



From the minimal amount I know I believe that the nerves and such are inflamed that cause TN - like anything synthetic drugs can and will in time cause a further inflamation to whatever they are administered to `treat`

And like everything also whatever you put into your body will determine health of all internal mechanisims and that includes everything from organs to vessels to natural chemicals to nerves and all else...

Oily foods help reduce inflamation of nerves, the more natural (olive oil, oily nuts) are more effective also fatty acids and vitamin B strengthen the nerves,


updated by @karma: 12/25/16 11:00:37AM
karma
@karma
04/13/16 12:48:34AM
159 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

Check out info on balancing your Solar Plexus Chakra - This goes hand in had with digestive issues and anxiety

https://www.anxiety.org/balance-your-chakras-let-your-anxiety-melt-away

I tend to look at emotional issues these days and focus on the charkra associated :)

karma
@karma
04/10/16 01:13:06AM
159 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

Just a personal perception (I am no expert)

Sometimes we believe there is everything in the what we want when truthfully its the wanting it that makes it seem that way.

It is understandable to want to be with someone, have a family - Human nature is hardwired to procreate and be one part of a whole (male and female whole).... It is what life is for right.

You say you know you would make an excellent partner and mother but, then you wonder if you have what it takes - You are (like so many of us here) worrying almost as if you are worthy enough to have what you truly want?

You are more than worthy! :)

The maternal within you is a given so yes, you will indeed be a fantastic mother - The real issue here is `partner` - I sense a fearing of not finding Mr Right and ever finding that perfect future? (correct me if I am wrong though)

Thing is, meeting `the one` is only ever going to happen through trial and error - short term relationships are not failures as much as they are experience. It sounds so easy for me to say I know. Yet, to check my relationship history though it is not at all rosy, I have met a lot of unsavoury characters along the way :)

Empathy and discovery of yourself is hard work - embracing it is extremely tough especially when it comes to relationships with others because you now grasp that you are on a higher level of emotional vibration to the most - Mr Right is the one who will accept you for you but, disagreements, annoyances etc will all come with at some time or another - Choosing the right person for you (only you will know what is right for you) may come with keeping yourself open to someone who may not seem your `type` to begin with?

Wanting something so much can sometimes put barriers up to actually getting it, as if the want almost becomes too much of a focus and everything else about you diminishes - The being a fun loving person or being into a certain subject (things that would attract someone to you) gets lost in the focus of seeking. Take a step back and see what makes you happy in life (as yet you have no responsibilities to hold you back) enjoy what you can and the empathy will blossom with fantastic vibes - This may well attract many to you!

I hope I made sense?

You deserve all that you want and I wish you all the best :)

karma
@karma
04/08/16 02:07:08AM
159 posts

Does the word "No" sound like the word "Maybe" when spoken by an Empath


Empath

Cat Whisperer

I identify with everything you have said.... The guilt makes no rational sense yet, it is overwhelming - I have often been told I overthink everything and at times maybe I do. I am told I always assume to know what the other person is thinking and feeling (Like your feeling someone is angry at you)

This annoys me though, its not so much a case I assume to know what others are thinking as much as I sense it.... To say `that` does me no favours.

I truly do feel like a pushover, it takes me months and months of persistent hassle of the same kind then I implode... It is only then am I taken seriously and understood... But, with the implosion comes the guilt and self loathing. The Why didnt I just put my foot down in the beginning? - But then I counteract the situation why couldnt they just accept my mild mannered self why push me to a point ?....

Regardless of the questions I ask myself - The guilt remains - That said I think over the last few months I am firming up (a little) I am forcing myself to say exactly how I feel as opposed to others telling me I am overthinking what they are thinking..... It seems as if its a bullyish tactic on their part at times.

karma
@karma
04/08/16 01:37:41AM
159 posts

Does the word "No" sound like the word "Maybe" when spoken by an Empath


Empath

Lol - YES!!!

I say No and it is pretty much taken as `she will do eventually` It takes no genius to identify the usual process - I will say No, ponder on it and see myself as in the wrong for having said it so backtrack....

Is it a matter of how our saying No is projected? - If we feel inside ourselves guilt for saying no, uncomfortable in saying it etc then we, (because we are empaths) project that unseen energy of guilt or discomfort... The maybe why we are so easy to bully and manipulate at times

It is not your own fault for saying No..... People are subject to take advantage of anyone nice and helpful, in an ideal world saying No should be accepted as `No` and `End of subject` - We all have a right to say it esp if it serves us well, in health and `Me time`.

It is difficult though - I have a hard time asking others for the help that they may well be asking of me - I somehow feel I have overstepped a mark (though have no rational explanation as to why I feel that way - Maybe because these people are energy takers not givers and I know subconsciously? )

My biggest problem is saying sorry for everything, someone steps in my way, I say sorry for being in theirs, I drop something that belongs to me I say sorry, cant cover someones shift on my day off, I am sorry...... I get so annoyed and upset with myself for saying it.... I took back a sorry not long ago by saying `I dont know why I just said sorry` It didnt make me feel any better though.... Saying it in the first place is the real problem

karma
@karma
04/04/16 01:11:10AM
159 posts

Looking for a mentor or group


Empath

Happy to chat here in private messages :)

Request me as a friend and I will happily respond :)

karma
@karma
03/22/16 02:14:48AM
159 posts



This could be a little difficult to do when not fully prepared - You could start a group inviting people to join everyone suggesting a time that is good for them? :)


updated by @karma: 01/18/17 05:12:27PM
karma
@karma
03/21/16 03:21:00AM
159 posts

Needing Guidance


Empath

Hi Rene`

Why is the Bible so fascinating to me (not offended in the slightest and I know what you mean, I worry about how I come across, always worry I sound arrogant as if I think I know it all - I do not )

Lol Well, there`s my eccentricity :)

`That` and all ancient text, culture, wisdom...

The Bible for me is probably the most amazing book (collective of books) ever written that millions believe to be the everything the key to life is... yet is read only in a manner of a preacher/religion teaches it to be - I am me, I question everything, so when told not to question it I can only question the why I cannot question....

As a kid I read a lot, had a children`s picture bible of Jesus` parables and loved the stories, at fifteen I lived with a Christian foster family for approximately six months - a very impressionable time for me, needed to belong so adapted the christian beliefs somewhat..... None of it really made a lot of sense God being unconditionally loving yet had a hell awaiting for sinners, the passage in which God speaks of being a Jealous God always confused me, the hypocrisy!!

Over the years my interest in ancient cultures, civilizations and wisdom has led to a huge realization that the bible is merely a rendition that reflects every religious belief system - joining the dots in so many ways.

Being written in English but, from Aramaic to Greek to Latin then to English of course so much had to be lost in translation.... My attempts to read from original script has been difficult but, I have managed to here and there - esp singular words that make no sense as written today - The apple in Eden for example (There is no apple the English term is `fruit`) - disobeying God by eating a fruit made no sense, how can fruit teach you good and evil etc..... The original term used in Hebrew/Aramaic is ZRH and Greek translation `Zerah` actually translates as `Seed` and this becomes apparent when Eloah (God) uses the term `Spread your fruit and multiply` he speaks of spreading the seed of life to procreate

To put the story in context of which Genesis is the book of creation - Genesis is Genes, is Genetics.... Human creation..... The seed of life begins to paint a whole new scene and understanding of what is actually being taught regarding this fruit that became the original sin of innocence lost to humanity.

There is no eating of an apple nor any other fruit... here we have a story in which totally changes into the loss of innocence in a very literal term. The Serpent (original term `Nakash` meaning the shining one/the enlightened one - wise beings all over the planet describes as sepentine) has enticed and lured Eve into an act of which procreation begins as - of which `The bad seed Cain` is a result.... Once Eloha learns of the act he immediately places `enmity` between man and beast so this act could not happen again (why do this concerning eating a fruit?).... The discovery of being naked makes no sense unless the story is read in this way also.

Whether people read the bible as the word of God or otherwise there is (for me at least) a need to understand what I am reading. The Bible for me is definitely a book to read properly it holds amazing stories that I have come to believe are true, not so much as a literal truth of people and places but, of a meaning of who we are, where we come from and what we are capable of.

I see no religion within the bible, I see stories of human consciousness and human failures to be learned from - I could go on for hours deciphering biblical stories and metaphors... I hope I have not offended you and your beliefs in any way? :)

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