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Leafherder
@leafherder
10/30/16 08:03:36PM
35 posts

HSP - TED talk


Empath

Wow, thank you for all the responses! I understood HSPs to be a broader category and Empathic traits as an extreme of that category with all the weird that goes with it. Do you know if any Empaths are not also HSP? 

I thought a voice of compassion speaking out for HSPs is one voice closer to compassion and respect for Empaths. <3

"As Krishnamoorthy said, 'There is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society.'"

Leafherder
@leafherder
10/27/16 09:12:28PM
35 posts

HSP - TED talk


Empath

I thought this was worth a share.


updated by @leafherder: 03/30/17 05:57:17PM
Leafherder
@leafherder
08/23/16 03:09:27PM
35 posts

Crystal grid for earth healing and synergy stones


Tools for Empaths

I really like this idea! I've never heard of synergy stones, but if you make the grid, please share how you did it and how it works out.I set up several stones charged by a central crystal in a corner of my living space, all selected and assembled intuitively with the intention to clear muddy/ negative energies, and align to healthy energy systems. It works, and we know it needs charging or restructuring when we get the creeps or start feeling inexplicably sluggish and crabby like we are getting sick (speaking of which... I better tend to that). I wish we could set these up everywhere! Maybe it would take some of the strain off Empaths, too, as I believe this clearing is part of being an Empath.I've done and loved doing other Earth Clearing work (with techniques similar to distance Reiki, but more specific). In my experience, focusing on a small space gets that space good and clear, and it beneficially affects surrounding areas, all who pass through, and makes further clearing elsewhere easier - rather than dissipating energies to a drop in the ocean. Trying to save everyone at once can get you really tired and worn out, and should not come at the expense of the circles of influence you already have. But if you set up a crystal grid with an intention and keep throwing prayers and good energy to it regularly, I'd venture it could amplify that intent and clear a broader spectrum of imbalance and a broader space.Great idea!
Leafherder
@leafherder
08/15/16 11:23:13PM
35 posts

Is there such a thing as binding an Empath's gifts?


Empath

...my edit didn't take: If it were easy, we wouldn't need this website or others like it. But every effort to learn, to be whole, and to do good in the world matters. I like to think that each of us will figure out how to make our way in the world as Empaths, and next generation will be a little easier, and maybe the next will wonder what was so difficult. You make your choices and I hope they work out for you!

Leafherder
@leafherder
08/15/16 10:50:45PM
35 posts

Is there such a thing as binding an Empath's gifts?


Empath

I've been noticing lately that it seems to be a lot more important now than it used to be to ask someone's permission to interfere, in any way. If you don't have permission, you are imposing your will on another. You can always send good intentions/prayers/energy and be present with people without imposing.

I'm getting a hard lesson on this as I was stepping in as mediator as much as I could for a situation between people close to me, but the message is clear now that all I am doing is adding to the flame - each side will just claim I am fighting for the other side. I just have to step back and maintain my own relationships and boundaries, and wait, and hope I can set a good example.

On the binding side, I've been bound before a couple of times in different ways - never by a Wiccan, mind you, but a couple of Christians and a predatory energy worker. (Can we please put down the torches?) I think anyone can do it to anyone with proper motivation and research, and it can be cleared. But it's going to come back to bite them in one way or another. I think the same would be true if you try to deny rather than incorporate part of yourself.

Leafherder
@leafherder
08/15/16 09:53:21PM
35 posts

Have you experienced The Dark Night of the Soul


Empath

I am going through a dark night now, too. For the first time, I want to give some credence to Astrology: I was listening to an astrologer say there's a retrograde of Mars, forewarned way back in February that it would be going on March through end-August this year, when usually it only happens for a couple of days. I am learning Mars is all about division and separation, fight and resistance, getting you to want to move or quit work and be done with things you put up with, no compromises, nevermind the consequences. So, the good news is that according to astrology, relief is coming soon!

Personally, this is maybe my fifth dark night, usually lasting a few months to over a year each time. Each is different, but it holds true that sometimes getting out of it is *not* up to you alone - we people are centered on humanity and the power of ourselves, but all you can really control are your choices and response to a vast, constantly changing universe. And realizing a new way to see things takes the time it takes. When you're not in control, then it is the ability to remain centered and moving with grace that can become your focus.

And I was lucky enough to get a message from my guides a month ago that sounds so much like what you just said: none of our tools are working like we have come to expect. What I was told is that there is a shift happening, and everyone has changed so much, the tools we have learned to use do not work now (like trying to fix an iPad with a wrench), but the spiritual tools we need to take their place have not actually been invented yet - they are in research and development on the spiritual side. But prayer works, and getting together with spiritually-conncted friends and like minds may not help like it used to, but it is important to keep meeting because it is a good time to discover and try new tools - other ways to ground, to connect, to heal, etc. Like this site, I guess!

I have talked with other sensitives and we seem to be experincing it in similar ways: like a thick, impermeable cloud between us and the connection we are used to being able to make. I think appropriate sleep and going through the motions with good habits whenever possible, keeping that structure and keeping things going even when it feels like faking it, that keeps chaos away and put order to what I can, so I can stay open as much as possible, so when the cloud dissipates, I am ready to connect.

Thanks for posting, and I hope this helps.

Leafherder
@leafherder
07/25/16 04:45:46PM
35 posts

handling broken trust when you saw it coming


Empath

I think it's frustrating to feel something is off, but not know *why*. Most of the people I have met who give off that bad vibe act like sweethearts, and if they are truly manipulative, they ask you for a favor here and there so you like them (it's counterintuitive, but it works). Maybe the person in question's secret agenda is a temporary preoccupation and you can get to know the real person when it passes, and maybe they're just manipulative with their own agenda. I respect you for reaching out anyway, and honestly if they do have something on their agenda, you're more likely to find out about it if you reach out. (Like that old saying "keep your friends close and your enemies closer.")

On a more tenuous note, you never know when your being there is going to be what they need to tip the balance to the good. People tend to want to meet the expectations others have for them, and maybe your trust made them a little more trustworthy for a while, or make their conscience haunt them more than it would have otherwise - who knows? I say tenuous because putting yourself out there can bea lot of investment on your part and be too easy to stomp over your own boundaries, discount your own impressions, and feel somehow terrible about it later. I would venture a guess that we've all done it.

That buzz at the back of my head that anything I do or say can be used against me usually makes me pull into my shell rather than get to know the other person better. I'll make an effort, but only as far as I can keep my own mask on. At least, that's what I tell myself...

Leafherder
@leafherder
05/26/16 12:31:23PM
35 posts

Reiki Questions


Healers

Totally normal! An acupuncturist friend of mine said that it is really rare to find someone whose right and left sides vibrate the same way. Some people go so far as to call the right side the "giving" side and the left side the "receiving" side, and I'm vaguely aware of a polarity healing that functions from that.The same exact thing happens to me with hands cooling off or calming down to let me know that it's time to move my hands elsewhere. Oh, and it is also totally normal to sometimes be really revved up by a Reiki healing, and the next time be totally knocked out by it. It's all part of the processing. You're doing great! Enjoy the ride.
Leafherder
@leafherder
05/26/16 12:19:27PM
35 posts

My crystals are lifeless


Tools for Empaths

It is good to clean your crystals, yes, and that is what you did, but you did not mention charging them. Depending on how you use them, you may not be charging them just because you're meditating with them. They vibrate with whatever energy you give them, be it Reiki or other energy, but you have to charge them up with the energy that makes them sing. (If they like the Beatles and you're only playing Sinatra, so to speak, they're going to get lethargic.) Whenever my crystals feel like they've been locked in a dark room for a long time, I take them out to sit for a day or so in the bright sunshine, and a night in bright moonlight (moonstones in some other crystals like that). Besides that, I have been in shops where they cleaned the crystals *too* much, I don't know what they did, but it was like the crystals had been turned into Stepford Wives, no soul of their own. I haven't figured out how to mend a Stepford Wife crystal.
Leafherder
@leafherder
01/26/16 01:14:19PM
35 posts

Full Moon and Emotions


Empath

Yes, I find full moons accentuate whatever energy is already there. For me, I find it is a very good time for me to address one or two issues it is in my power to help. Usually, I want to "clean house" in some way - redesigning or getting rid of the junk - either literally in parts of my home, or as an internal exercise. That gives me something to do and a sense of control. For the surplus, I tend to let all the heightened emotions flow through me. I use all the tools I know to ground myself, and that lets all the screaming buildup of emotion flow through - without trying to label every emotion coming through.The best thing to do to get rid of emotions is to feel them. I mean really feel them through your entire body. Resisting them taps your energy and muddles the emotions together, tricking you into making you think you feel off-balance because of an external event rather than just need to release all the stuck emotion.There are meditations that involve nothing more than crying for a half hour followed laughing for half hour. Personally, I find it more helpful to seclude myself, feel whatever emotion is coming up and expand it like overacting (fake it until you feel it), go ahead and be an emotional wreck about it like some kind of performance art piece, then end with laughing, then centered deep breathing, water, and a snack. It makes more sense to try being a lunatic for a while and feel better than to feel like a lunatic and lock yourself away indefinitely. At least, that's what I said to myself. And now sometimes when the moon's full, I simply feel more energized. I wish you well.
Leafherder
@leafherder
01/06/16 10:31:31PM
35 posts

So this is where I get to introduce myself...


Empath

Welcome, Kate! If only we connected the dots sooner, right? I think it is an amazing accomplishment simply to acknowledge the truth, and another all over to defy habit and all training to the contrary to own that truth and begin to live it. No one sees that tiring struggle, so give yourself some credit. You are here and are well on your way.And yes, I also felt that relief upon my first introduction to this community! Reading others' questions and responses is helping me reframe events in my life with a totally different understanding. And maybe what we learn will help others figure things out sooner, better, without so much struggle. Best wishes on your journey. :)
Leafherder
@leafherder
01/02/16 12:32:48PM
35 posts

Work vs. Private life


Empath

Hello and welcome. :)Well, there's this: https://www.ted.com/talks/nigel_marsh_how_to_make_work_life_balance_work?language=enBesides that, I have noticed that empathy makes setting appropriate boundaries even more complex. I generally have to set boundaries when I am in a sense of power away from the influence of others, or relying on the judgment of someone I trust. People who get to know me knows that means I need a lot of time to myself, and I am almost never going to give a definite response straight away. It is really important to keep your internal batteries charged so you have the energy to sort out, ask for and pursue what you need. Sometimes you can find a partner, work, or both that helps you keep your energy up - developing trust helps a lot, but it takes time. And you can do it all, but you don't have to do it all at once.Best wishes and happy new year. :)
Leafherder
@leafherder
12/13/15 07:26:00PM
35 posts

In a slump


Empath

Oh, good, I am glad things are turning around for you!My first thought when I read your post is to rule out physical causes - vitamin D deficiency is really common, especially in winter, and thyroid issues can cause the same blah, also. A blood test can answer if those are questions.For getting things done, when I was running on empty it helped me to dedicate myself to ten minutes of facing my biggest hurdle, whatever made me feel depleted just thinking about it, because it took less energy to face it than it did to think about it. Best wishes to you for getting better energized.
Leafherder
@leafherder
12/06/15 05:40:49PM
35 posts

Hi!


Empath

We are all "works in progress"! Best wishes on your progress, and welcome!
Leafherder
@leafherder
12/03/15 12:11:46PM
35 posts

Has Anyone Else Noticed This?


Empath

Hmm... Note too that one person can get the count up pretty high if they just keep coming back to the original question to see what's new, or by hitting "refresh". That's not 20 people, that's two clicking on the discussion to see if anyone else posted, yet!
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/19/15 07:11:25PM
35 posts

What do you think about healing people without their consent?


Healers

Been there. I have a few thoughts on this, too. I have also been kicked in the pants repeatedly when I try to go around the person's refusal, or simply their lack of permission - what gives me the right to say I know better than they do about their path? Just because their lack of perfection bothers me? I have come to the belief that for lasting change, a healer creates the space that allows others to heal themselves, so the person needs to be on board. Some people will grant permission verbally and not in truth, and vice versa. Healings are so much more effective with a conscious statement of honest intention from both healer and participant, for this level of healing.There are different levels of healing. The kind that needs permission is the intrusive kind, the kind that can lay vulnerable parts that can be reconstructed or repaired. But verbally, you can always tell a person that you think of them, that you care, and energetically you can always send them the same: love and support that is not attached to any level of control over them. You can say "I am keeping you in my thoughts" or tell them you are praying for them. I have yet to meet anyone who opposes this approach.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/19/15 03:04:37PM
35 posts



Yes, like others have said, that makes sense fight or flight raises our energy levels for survival, and combined with directed focus, that can enhance all our senses.I generally avoid expressing anger while in the throws of anger because I instantly regret it and the regret lasts for days. (Depression = anger turned inward). Now that I think about it, if my empathic ability is heightened during anger, not only do I instantly realize many other explanations and how I may have contributed to the issue, but I pick up on the emotions of being attacked the moment I start to attack like punching myself in the gut, and I cripple myself. (You know the song "De Do Do Do, De Da Da Da" by The Police? That's me in the heat of anger.) Honestly, I would be interested to find how you are able to successfully complete your expression of anger in the moment?In my best moments, when my expectations have been betrayed but I have enough presence of mind to do so, I will pause and request that my anger be tempered with compassion and grace. What I want is an apology, understanding, or change, and I reach for that. When I have done this, I feel a shift, a space separating me from the anger and replacing it with a brightness that seems to come through me from elsewhere, and the perfect words just come. It hasn't happened often, but when it has, the results have been pretty fantastic.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/17/15 12:45:16PM
35 posts

Been Working With Crystals And.....


Empath

I will follow your advice, too, Michellem. ...And moonstone likes bathing in moonlight.First, yes, you may have opened your hand and foot chakras through meditation and crystals. A friend of mine did this and when he went to a Reiki I class, was already attuned. He asked for his money back. ;) If you want to play with that, try sending the energy toward something through an intention and "for the highest good". It may either help to siphon off the excess energy while directing it toward a cause of your choice, or bring more energy through your system and exacerbate the problem. Heal yourself, first.When I am overenergized, I find being on the ground floor, laying on the grass, whatever connects me directly to Earth energy helps bring me back to steady. Apparently, this is called earthing. If you live on a second floor or higher, try spending more time adjacent to the ground.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/16/15 04:15:11PM
35 posts

which category of explanation do you find most promising?


Empath

Well, it took a long time for eyes to evolve, but we guess it started off with a vague sensitivity to brightness and shadow that helped a few creatures survive... and over time, the helpfulness of this sensitivity has provided us with highly complex eyes that see in color in three dimensions, blurred black and white around the periphery and sharp colorful focus in the center - and yet, an ocean shrimp has more color perception than we could dream of, and hawks have sharper vision, and rabbits can see almost all of the horizon at once. I think empathic abilities have evolved in the same way - we are able to perceive a bit more information that could be helpful to our survival, whether or not we have an explanation for how it works, or what exactly we are perceiving. So it makes sense in retrospect that as social creatures, it is an advantage to perceive the physical/emotional/mental state of our loved ones (our support network), particularly when they are in distress.I have had the same sensations you are referring to, and I am also seeking a concept of the universe that accounts for these experiences. So far, quantum mechanics and holographic models (ie. each particle of the universe contains a model of the universe) show the most promise as far as I can tell - though I have varying success keeping my mind wrapped around these concepts when I try to apply them to experience, and I suspect the truth is even more interesting.In some healing circles, the connections we make to others are called "cords," which can vary in strength (from a cobweb with a stranger you passed on the street to a shipping rope-cable with your immediate family), and through which we can exchange energy and information like the internet passes through fiber optics. (Enough to drive an empath sick. I have friends in customer service who visualize dissolving the cords formed each day, and as a result have felt improvements in their vitality.) That's not the only way, but it works like empathic speed dial. How? No idea. ButI conceptualize it assympathetic resonance: you leave part of yourselfwith them, and they do the same with you, so if something is going on you can feel the resonance. DNA is part of it, how you feel and what you think is part of it - and these are all things that can transcend time and space. The fact that the energy has the signature of your loved one makes it easier to understand, define, and act on, which sets it apart from masses of strangers in their everyday grind. Masses of strangers can do it, too - I can get the symptoms of a stomach bug when large natural disasters hit somewhere in the globe. I thought that was a fluke until I met several other sensitives who experienced the same.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/10/15 08:39:52PM
35 posts



Thanks for sharing this, ICAVMHB, and KRenee for your thoughtful response. The same thing happened to me, exactly as you describe but with a good friend of many years, and over the course of several months: she suddenly started looking at me like gum on her shoe and the passive agressiveness was palpable and suffocating. I gave her space to settle down and come back to herself, too, but I kept trying to return to our friendship and she never stopped with the sneering. When I confronted her, she sent me a card with a bowl full of cherries to say her life was perfectly lovely (implying "especially without you" and I could jump off a cliff if I liked, it didn't matter to her). It seemed my former friend found my pain succulent.Sorry to say I wasted a lot of energy being haunted by it -- letting go is not a strong suit, and I like to understand the reason things happen so I learn from it and avoid repeating it.It is certainly more empowering to consider that someone I cared about and respected disses me because they are threatened by me rather than because they believe I am junk - I did not think then that this oppression could be a power play to overcome fear of me. No one deserves to be empowered by my distress. I have learned most people are addicted to functioning at a certain level of distress at all times, and a ceaselessly kind and understanding friend may be more peace than they can handle.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/03/15 07:29:36PM
35 posts

Awaiting for a soulmate or just scared of rejection?


Empath

Nothing attracts love like love - loving yourself, loving what you're doing, loving family and friends.I found a very dear romantic friend this way and suspect I could have been happy with them all my life. Even so, intuition buzzed at me the whole time that I shouldn't get too comfortable. It was irritating and I ignored it as well as I dared. Years later, an old friend I had also dated half a lifetime before looked me up for a visit. When I met them and touched their hand, it was almost like an electric shock, like time slowed down. I never wanted to be without them again. Only then did my buzzing intuition quiet. It still took me a long time to accept that, but sometimes your someone special is someone passed over the first time around. Clarifying what I sought also helped me recognize it.
Leafherder
@leafherder
11/01/15 06:14:09PM
35 posts



What an enlightening question... I lived in a dorm in college, smack in the middle of the building and its inhabitants, directly above the entrance. If I am an empath, it sheds a whole new light on my experience there. I had dreams so vivid and detailed through the time I lived there that they were disruptive; they felt more real than my life. I got confused about what actually happened verses what I dreamed, spent a lot of free time in coping strategies (arts, nature), being present, and trying to understand what was going on, even redirecting my studies to that end. I'm still learning.Some things that helped me besides healthy coping strategies: a regular sleep schedule with enough shuteye (some people need 6 hours daily, some 10 hours...); regular exercise so sleep is more likely; setting boundaries that let me unitask rather than multitask (10 focused minutes and on to the next thing); before bed, writing a (gratitude) journal entry of the high points of the day, which made me run through the whole day in my head and remember it better the next day or when I went back to read the journal entry. I am pretty dismal at sticking to these strategies, now, but I don't live in a packed space full of highly emotional people anymore, and I am always making some attempt at healing and healthy living. I hope my take on this helps you.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/28/15 08:30:41AM
35 posts



This discussion is really enlightening; I love the gloves idea and I will have to try it! I have to say the act of cleaning is cathartic; it feels like I am clearing out both the cobwebs I can see and a sense of heaviness that has accumulated everything feels lighter after I give it a once-over.That said, I am good at organizing stuff into orderly piles (my horizontal filing method) or accumulating repurposing projects, as it feels like the objects contain tiny parts my life that are gone forever if I get rid of the object, like each item is its own external memory hard drive that I can read if I pick the object up again, and only then. So, it's the "will I need this again?" question with a bonus round. I am so grateful for donation sites and recycling, too: both ecologically responsible and a way for me to pass on bits of my memory rather than getting rid of them for good. Going through a stack of items can leave me feeling exhausted, so I have to break it into small chunks of time and be able to leave items in orderly piles until the task is done. But not too long; if I don't move the items within a week at most, heaviness settles and I don't want to approach the array; longer than that and it starts to go invisible to me unless a bout of cleaning or impending visitors reveals it again. If my dear ones decide to tidy up by stacking my piles into one, it has the effect of shredding a stack of papers and saying "but it's all there, you can put it back in order."This all makes me extremely careful now about what I let into my space, and getting the extra out post haste. Also, I balance owning an item against the freedom I feel when a decision is made, followed through, and the energy's released by getting it back out into the world where it can be useful again.So for my comfort levels with stuff, I tend to prefer a little padding, orderly with a dull buzz of stress from remaining disorder that I'd love to offload, to the level of being unable to shed stuff I'll probably never need but keep "just in case...". It feels safer to have extra than to keep only the best and most beloved. Like I said, they are memories; they remind me of who I've been. From past experience, I can say I need the reminders so I don't have to figure out which version of me to be at any given moment of the day, before I try to make other decisions based on that.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/27/15 11:08:38PM
35 posts



I've found diffusing sage oil to be just as effective as smudging, if used with intent. I brought some to the office and keep a spray bottle of sage oil in saltwater for clearing around the house, too - just keep the salt away from corrodable materials.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/27/15 12:47:27PM
35 posts

Empath as a Filter


Empath

Yes - every bit helps. I myself have yet to make a concerted effort at meditating regularly. When I do so sporadically, it is tremendously informative, and I understand that regular meditation can connect you to a source of energy that will keep you from getting depleted so fast. I took a shortcut to that and sought a Reiki attunement when my grandfather got cancer. That connection helped soften the edges of the pain (for both of us) and gave greater depth to the good moments. I hope you get that experience, too.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/27/15 12:11:21PM
35 posts

Who takes care of the Empath


Empath

"The presence of those seeking the truth is infinitely to be preferred to the presence of those who think they've found it." ~Terry Pratchett"I refuse to believe that the same God who gave us sense, reason, and intellect intended us to forego their use." ~Gallileo Gallilei
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/26/15 10:16:54PM
35 posts

Who takes care of the Empath


Empath

Well, first, you are always there for yourself, and second, of course you deserve a listening ear just like everyone else. Caretakers need caretakers so they can keep going - like a home base to come back and regroup so you can go out again. I had music, dance, and art when I was growing up - that took the edge off, because I was never sure what I needed to communicate, only that I needed to communicate something that I did not have the words to express and I had to get it out of my system. It gave me enough time to gather a few friends I would bet are empathic - if we talk out the pains, find laughter where we can, and focus on our positive interests and goals, we suffuse each other with positive energy until we both feel excellent. I've also sought help from an intuitive acupuncturist and Reiki practitioners - for pampering, like going to a spa according to some. It takes time, and for every group of people who looks at you like you are crazy, there is another who is seeking you as a kindred spirit.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/25/15 08:39:54PM
35 posts

Empath as a Filter


Empath

Oh, yes. I came to this concept for myself several years ago. I had been feeling more and more "cloudy" emotionally and mentally, and it was starting to affect me physically. My office had moved a little closer to the city, into a renovated former psychiatric hospital, and my coworkers started coming to me more frequently with personal dramas because I was a good listener. A couple of coworkers told me how much more calm and at ease they felt after being around me. I was glad to help, especially since I was feeling so sluggish and useless, otherwise. I started meditating out of desperation to find if I had an internal explanation for the change in how I felt, and what you described about filtering is exactly my answer. I felt I was moving energy from the ambient area back to the earth, turning it back to grounding energy whenever I used my technique to turn dark into light - meditation, making people laugh, or any of the fine arts work - the rest of the time the energy clung to me and was making me dull. I specialized in dance and found it very effective for me (if inconvenient); it moves the emotions and gets them out of my body. My whole family is into the arts, particularly music, and it is a need like food.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/22/15 07:49:58PM
35 posts

Copying Senses


Empath

Oh, wow... this is an empath thing? I have always loved learning new things in classes or from academic people because I love the feeling of stepping into a more refined way of being, like instant method acting. I couldn't care less about some subjects by myself, but get me near someone who is interested, and I'm rapt, reading over their shoulder. Maintaining that frame of mind out of the space of that person/class has always presented such a challenge to my motivation, been so frustrating, it makes me feel like a fake - I dabble, and for a long time wondered if anything actually interested *me* besides what others are interested in.In my experience, and I am guessing yours is the same here, these skills and abilities (and speech patterns, and habits, and physical presence...) are within my capabilities, but I'm not naturally inclined to them except that I've been automatically encouraged into them through the presence of my friend or teacher.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/19/15 03:43:04PM
35 posts

Has Anyone Else Noticed This?


Empath

I am very new here, and I noticed the same - odd - although I wasn't ready to draw any conclusions from it yet. I do know that I have to click on the post to read it and see if it resonates at all. A lot of them don't, or I have to let it sit with me for a while to see if I have words, and I don't want to post just to fill in empty air unless I have something to say
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/19/15 01:23:53PM
35 posts

Empaths and Seeing things/people


Empath

Yes, like RMEB01 said, someone predisposed to empathy may be predisposed to other variations in perception. But the word "empathy" does not carry the stigma that other forms of perception may. I can sense beings from time to time, a lot if I center and reach out, but to my knowledge no one who has been tagging along with me the whole way.If you have had these two beings accompanying you all of your life, what makes now so special? Has anything changed in your life or are you anticipating a change that might indicate a change in these two?I am with Cat Whisperer that talking with your spirit guide it may help you figure out the issue.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/19/15 12:55:09PM
35 posts

Empaths and Seeing things/people


Empath

Neuropsychologists who are being honest will tell you that there is more we do not understand about the brain (and mind) than what we do. Thank you for taking the logical view stemming from only those subjects for which we have some support; it is good to keep this in mind, and to keep us from flying off into dreamland. However, this subject is not particularly empathy, but more a kind of field research to find some consistency in experience before a hypothesis can be formed. Western Science has little definitive to say about it except as Karen said, to put everyone in the same box and call it mentally ill - you may notice we have very little respect for mental illness or anyone who has it in Western culture, so please be wary of attaching this label to people. Also, be careful of the assumptions you make when you speak in the name of all science so people don't get the wrong idea about science (science is having a tough time in popular culture right now!); this is not strictly a religious experience, and Mouse did not specify if these were hallucinations, or other sensory feelings that she was interpreting through the language of her senses.

I believe science will touch on these experiences after a paradigm shift or two, but please understand we are using the language that we have - like someone in the 1700s trying to describe a smartphone, or like "mental illness" instead of something more palatable. It can be off-putting if you are not open to that form of expression, but maybe we will agree on accurate descriptions eventually.

Yes, if these are actual hallucinations, Mouse should have them checked out to be sure they are not a health hazard. But she did say she's had them all her life, so that seems less likely than the field research tack.

As far as schizophrenia is concerned, I am hoping for many repetitions of successful treatment by shamans, and perhaps after a while we will understand what is actually going on: http://www.wakingtimes.com/2014/08/22/shaman-sees-mental-hospital/ .
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/19/15 11:51:54AM
35 posts

Attacked in Dreans


Empath

Hello, Rose. I feel like your boyfriend brought back "something/someone" (an energy) that he picked up on his trip and for whatever reason (ie. maybe you can help it), it preferred you upon his return. It has your attention, right?
If this is the cause of your nightmares, there are lots of ways to clear energy: burning sage is traditional; acknowledging it directly and talking to it like you would any other person, offering & asking for forgiveness and doing whatever gets you full of love/happiness (meditating, praying, listening to music, etc.) can all help this energy shift or heal and move on so it stops going after you. I hope you find some relief, soon.
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/19/15 10:55:08AM
35 posts

Does anyone have tips for transitioning to a city life and/or changing weather?


Empath

Agreed! But I think Summers do a nice job of making up for the Winter downtime. :)
Leafherder
@leafherder
10/18/15 08:12:31PM
35 posts

Does anyone have tips for transitioning to a city life and/or changing weather?


Empath

Hello! I moved to a colder climate, too, and although I have not lived in a city, a few thoughts came to mind while I read your post. I don't know if they will be helpful, but I hope so - here goes...Nature in cities is as inundated with people's moods as anywhere else, so instead of looking for a grounding place without people energy, maybe use their moods to your advantage and go to the places visited by people who have the moods you are looking for. A friend of mine goes to an empty sanctuary now and then, and sits quietly breathing until calm returns. The antiquities exhibits at a museum can be helpful in grounding, taking the long view. Indoor gardens can attract others who admire living plants, though may or may not connect to deeper nature. Personally, I regularly went to a movie theater that has an atrium with tropical plants, and every time I even thought about that theater, I was filled with a fun, childlike anticipatory energy. That energy got me through one winter. I know some people set aside a space they habitually use as a grounding/centering space; it's a great idea, it takes a while to establish, but I have never found myself with enough energy in the winter to maintain it. I have found that particular stones or objects I take from natural places I love can bring me back there in a vital way, more so than a picture or imagination would do.Now, as for winter in cold climes: nature asks us to withdraw, to rest, to reflect. City life says to go, go, go, and ignore that pesky nature thing. Maybe sometimes, if you have the luxury to do so, allow yourself to respect the nature in you and do what it requests. I have tried it and it does not change anything but my perspective - I felt much more compassionate toward all these other poor grumpy creatures like me, bundled against the elements and lightlessness, fighting hard to keep on business as usual when most of us wanted to hibernate. It lightened my heart, at least. For the lack of sunlight, I get SAD and Vitamin D + light helped for certain, but I felt hungry, almost hunger-pang hungry for actual sunlight. On a few less-frigid sunny midwinter days, I exposed as much skin as I dared (face and arms) to sunlight for a few minutes, and it made the odd hunger subside for a while. I don't do tanning beds, but this perhaps ill-conceived idea worked effectively for me.I wish you the best of luck adjusting and finding coping methods that work for you - and thanks for helping me remember some of mine!