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Gem
@gem
01/07/16 03:18:08AM
220 posts

not wanting to talk


Empath

I just wanted to let you know it's not just you! I get like this often and I love helping people.Sometimes we just need a time out. If we ignore it (like I did for too long) we end up needing a much longer time out than if we'd listened in the first place!If you have your own stuff going on its ok to take some time to get your head round things.My time outs can last a while and I unplug the phone, don't go near messenger and just do what I need to .. To get stronger again si that I can help others.. We can't help anyone if we are running on empty! Don't feel guilty.Grounding and some time to yourself is perfectly ok :)BlessingsGem x
Gem
@gem
01/04/16 03:36:46AM
220 posts



That's lovely :)I have always had white feathers appear, usually when I'm going through difficult times. I find it incredibly comforting x
Gem
@gem
01/04/16 01:47:13AM
220 posts



I've the past month or two been getting 111, 11 and 1111So just ones for me since it started :)
Gem
@gem
01/04/16 12:42:47AM
220 posts

Can't walk away


Empath

I just feel overwhelming sadness reading your post and wanted to send a hug to you.I believe Happysoul is right in that recovering from being the scapegoat child of narcissistic parents is clouding your feelings. You certainly don't owe him anything he made his choices and your priority is to protect you and your child (along with any other innocent children). You'll need help with the pain all that causes someone expert in helping unravel the trauma caused by narcissistic parents.I'm so sorry for all you've been through xx
Gem
@gem
01/03/16 07:11:22AM
220 posts



That's the bit I need to work on the bad ego bit that perpetuates anger/resentment. I'm trying really hard. I'm new to asking for angelic help etc. I've recently found out the name/met a spirit guide through meditation and ask for his help now too.I'm glad you seem to be navigating all this so well :) x
Gem
@gem
01/03/16 02:04:29AM
220 posts



I think you've hit the nail on the head with the word 'observing' it's hard though when there are emotional ties and all humans have that pesky ego lol.I find my energies spinning when thoughts of my inlaws intrude as they did something very underhand and wicked not long ago but anonymously so I can't call them out on it. It could have had serious consequences not just for me but there own grandchild and the fierce mother protector in me..plus probably ego perpetuates the anger/sadness/shock wanting answers why? I do have to pull myself out and back into present moment with lots of meditation and smudging.You've had lots of great advice on your other thread from some knowledgeable people.. I've been blessed with their advice too.Something goodenergyhealing said is true.. I think I subconsciously thought I could only ask for limited help. I now in situations like with my inlaws (or outlaws as I call them) ask for all help possible from every source possible.I sometimes also visualise batting unwanted thoughts /intruding energy away like with a cricket bat as far away as possible.. Then distracted myself so as to ensure I'm not feeding it myself.Good luck with your experiment.. Let us know how you get on :)BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 04/14/17 08:55:17AM
Gem
@gem
01/02/16 04:02:00AM
220 posts

Feeling frustrated


Empath

I've been in the same position for almost 2yrs. Got fibromyalgia diagnosis and cervical disc disease. There are things that don't fit in to either of those boxes so still have tests etc.I feel for you it really is incredibly frustrating and lonely because not everyone can understand the huge impact on your life when you look ok on the outside.Big soft hugs, I hope your flare eases up soon x
Gem
@gem
01/02/16 03:57:11AM
220 posts



When I get like this I do the lot.MeditationSmudge myself and at least my bedroomLong hot soak with aromatherapy oils.It's hard when you're the one people offload to (as most of us here probably are)Maybe an outing on your own to a forest might help..just you and nature to ground and refresh you.Also I've learnt that sometimes I have to do a no contact thing where I tell people I'm completely unavailable for a set amount of time that includes phone/Txt.We can't help others if we're completely spent!Wishing you some solitude as in my opinion that's what you need right now.BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 04/04/17 10:06:05AM
Gem
@gem
12/29/15 01:57:18AM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi Lotusfly :)We are sort of separated. We are working on overcoming it all though. His addiction started before he ever met me and I can understand why he never admitted the problem..even to himself. He's working on that in his own counselling. I love him I'm just still at times struggling with the incredible hurt because I saw the search history I can see it was evolving. He's now having to face up to his own issues with his parents and past. Like most addicts he told himself he wasn't 'actually' doing anything in real life.. He didn't realise he'd become distant from me due to what he was secretly doing. He did something drastic after I found out and was in hospital. That's when I realised I loved him despite of what he'd caused. I do believe if he does the inner work on himself we may come out of this stronger but I do struggle with what it's caused in me.. In part due to my own past experiences before I knew him.I do know I won't ever tolerate it happening again. I absolutely will walk away from the marriage if it happens again.I do experience his anxiety as my own though and so that's also something that needs working on because I still suffer it for up to 24hrs after its passed for him. I don't seem able to shield myself from his emotions like I'm learning to do with others..same with my lovely Dad funnily enough. I only realised I have that experience with my Dad over this Xmas period.I'm going to keep open minded about what may come and I will definitely follow my instincts etc as time goes on...that's definitely been one of the lessons in all of this. <3 x
Gem
@gem
12/28/15 01:02:43AM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi Cbxjohn, I'm so sorry that happened to you! I actually have a link on my page about the connection between Empaths and Narcissists it might be worth you having a read of it.I did a lot of research about it due to my husbands parents and how they made me (and him) feel. I agree you do need to learn how to spot and protect against them before you're going to be able to move on properly.In the meantime take some of the advice people here have offered me.. Look after yourself and be kind to yourself as this has been a huge painful realisation for you. It will take time.I'm finding counselling is really helping me so maybe that could be a route for you to look into. Also meditation. I initially started it for the first time in my life after this trauma and to have a'time out' but it's what triggered my awakening and I wish I'd discovered it years ago!!BlessingsGem x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 02:22:08PM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Thank you..I've also been thinking a lot about the new year and I definitely want to start it positively and embrace things.It's good to have that validation that I'm still on the right path thank you so much I really needed to hear that right now!I will put your advice in place in the morning and give thanks at the start of each day even for the difficult things. :) x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 01:59:02PM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi Journey, thanks so much for your indepth reply I really appreciate it.Yes people do tend to run for feeling. For me I found it easier I suppose to sort through other peoples stuff and box off my own. My husband has realised through counselling that he somehow switches off to avoid feeling anything too deeply..like a self preservation thing.I think I'm more realistic than him with all the work that needs doing. I also think it scares him..whereas I've recognised that for me this may have happened to Forse me to confront other past experiences I've neglected to deal with.. Plus it's as if it's put me on a path, a path that feels right for me to find out who I am and what I can do to help others.It is also what made me finally realise I might be an empath and that my youngest age 3 might be too.I do try to see the silver linings.Im just scared of becoming stunted because I can't let the awful feelings go yet.I'll just have to ride it out like you say..instead of trying to control it.Thank you again :) x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 01:49:22PM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi Lotusfly, thanks for your insight. Yes there is an awful lot of anxiety when this surfaces in me. In fact it re-triggered panic attacks for about a month or so after discovery. Thankfully they aren't as troublesome now..although I've cut myself off socially an awful lot. Initially because I was hot mess in shock... But then I awakened and the isolation is more because I'm feeling the need to spend a lot of time learning.I'm finding pieces of myself I'd buried long ago and that's been borne out of going through this latest stuff...so I suppose it's needed to happen. It really really sucks though.Just kind of feels like I was thrust into awakening and the plateau has coincided with me getting all these negative waves because of what happened.Waking up to all this has been the only good thing to come out of this and I don't want to lose it. X
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 01:41:24PM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Thanks Karen, ive though about what it might be teaching me a lot. I'd sensed things were off for a good year before hand and I'd put it down to him struggling with my becoming ill health wise. I think it's teaching me to trust my instinct. Maybe the biggest lesson though is I can't just put traumatic things in a box. I created a mental 'box' age 12 after something bad happened... Unfortunately bad things kept on happening on and off through life and although I did let myself feel them I put so much of my own pain in the box and preferred instead to focus and help others people with their pain. I became a doormat for everyone else's stuff.Then I got very ill with fibromyalgia/degenerative disc disease and so on. Then this trauma in the marriage really tipped me over the edge .. It rattled my box so much that I'm not just dealing with this event in counselling but also all the stuff going back to when I was 12.Seems maybe it was all intended to come out.It's exhausting. I just don't want to lose the path I seem to have found in the process.Thanks for the solidarity :) x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 07:17:14AM
220 posts

Making a post hidden from public view?


Empath

Ahh ok that's good to know. Thanks Trevor x
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@gem
12/27/15 05:25:58AM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi Karma, thanks for taking the time to reply.Yes perhaps I'm trying too hard..I think maybe Im doing that because I'm scared of the negative taking too big a hold when it occurs.I mean all the spiritual progression articles I read say you have to let negative feelings go. With this particular situation though I'm finding that really hard. I do have times where I'm not in that head space but when it suddenly comes over me it really knocks me sideways for days/weeks..it's like the chink in my armour and all the negative feelings/questions/anxiety begins infecting me.He knows I'll leave if anything like that comes to light again... My finding out actually affected him so bad he did something stupid and ended up in hospital for a few weeks. We're both trying to heal separately and as a couple.I appreciate your honest advice and kindness.Maybe I do need to slow down with all the 'trying'Finding myself spiritually has been the silver lining of the whole situation. It makes me feel less alone. Gives me my own private purpose which I've so needed!Thanks again.Hope you're having a wonderful Christmas x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 02:15:13AM
220 posts

Difficulties moving on from marriage problems stunting my spiritual growth


Empath

Hi all, ive changed my profile picture to avoid anyone I know in real life identifying me to write this difficult post.Tying to find a way to heal from what was extremely traumatic for me is actually what led me into opening up my spirituality (which had always been there but I'd never really spent time developing or trying to progress till what happened).I've had a difficult past and thought I'd found someone who loved me back the same way I love him...incapable of ever hurting me/breaking trust or putting our relationship in jeopardy. A few weeks after our first wedding anniversary I discovered he'd been compulsively viewing acting out to things on x rated sites. For the whole duration of our 5yr relationship and it was clearly an addiction. Not just that but he'd joined sites (later stating, which knowing him I believe.. Was for the pictures not to actually meet up) I also unfortunately stumbled across 3yrs worth of history including dates and times of searches so I know what he was looking at the night before our wedding as an eg. My whole life with him/memories that had been precious were now sullied and I had a breakdown.Now, his parents have many narc traits and his confidence is so so low and I know this is probably the cause of his need to 'escape' 'numb' whenever life throws difficult situations his way.We're both in separate counselling and we love eachother and are working on rebuilding trust/boundaries ect but I feel my spiritual growth is becoming stunted because I'm unable to properly let go of the pain..I have flashbacks to what I discovered and get waves of deep insecurity and fear.I'm having reiki, meditate, aromatherapy, use crystals and ask for higher healing and guidance but I can't shake it off. I can't look at pictures of us before the date of discovery..including wedding/birth of our son...anything.I'm only just wearing my wedding ring (it happened in July) but I wear it on the wrong hand and struggle to look at it.Is there any way...anything I'm not already doing that can help me get rid of these episodes of negativity? I'm feeling like it's why I'm suddenly feeling stunted on my path of growth!Any advice or invites would be hugely appreciated as I want my marriage to work and I want to continue to grow spiritually.BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 03/10/17 12:27:58AM
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@gem
12/27/15 01:34:26AM
220 posts

Making a post hidden from public view?


Empath

Ok thanks for the info :) Yes maybe change to a different profile picture.. Don't know why I didn't think of that lol!Happy Holidays to you too :)Blessings x
Gem
@gem
12/27/15 12:26:19AM
220 posts

Making a post hidden from public view?


Empath

Hi, I'm wondering is there an option to make a post so that members of the public who may stumble across the site wouldn't see it?I'd like imput on something but it's incredibly personal and I couldn't bare anyone in my real life stumbling across it! I know it's probably very unlikely they would but still.. Is there a way?BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 01/29/17 09:30:19PM
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@gem
12/21/15 11:25:20PM
220 posts

Striving to live a spiritual/kind life in a (mostly) unspiritual/unkind world


Empath

I'd love to have one of these in a wood somewhere ;http://www.gizmag.com/low-impact-hobbit-home/20058/I hate the money oriented model we have to live by! It's so screwed up but I can't see it changing in our lifetime. We just have to find a more sustainable way of living so we're able to have the time to stay connected and not work, work, work for the capitalist machine..and nothing to feed our soul.It's hard on disability I know I'm on it too. I have fibromyalgia, disc disease, migraine etc. More walking than usual puts me out for days..it's very frustrating.I'm wondering if there are any spiritual type activities in your area you'd feel up to joining? So you'd have the opportunity to meet like minded people and suss out if a friend connection could be made? I prefer a small circle..in fact I don't have the makings of a circle at all anymore.. Just one friend gets me and she came into my life in the form of a volunteer when I was going through the worst of my illnesses. It's like the universe sent her because she holds a lot of the same ideals as me and I always feel uplifted after chatting to her. She understands my need of space too, without me having to explain if I don't feel up to a visit. Maybe look at what's on in your area?In the meantime... We're always here to chat to :) x
Gem
@gem
12/21/15 03:02:24PM
220 posts

Striving to live a spiritual/kind life in a (mostly) unspiritual/unkind world


Empath

I too can relate so much to this, I'm also going through huge inner transition. Prior to awakening (however was always spiritually inclined) I was getting so poorly physically and emotionally for a good few years. I couldn't understand why..with hindsight it coincided with having stark realisations about the world/how it's run/people around me and I just felt the loneliest person even in a room full of people. I'd hold my baby (almost 3 now) and sob, I didn't want him growing up in this phoney topsy turvy world where your supposed to be a robot and conform.Now I'm further along I'm realising that I eventually (once I'm in a better place physically and emotionally) I need to look to what my heart and soul wants...which is to help people. So I'm going to learn Reiki with the intention to make a modest income but also volunteer at hospitals/hospices that allow that sort of thing. I also plan on making my own aromatherapy products.I can't go back to working in hairdressing or in schools as I used to, in part because of my physical health problems but also because they are not run in a way I agree with.I think the processes we go through as we awaken to our authentic selves leads us to find what sits right with us...that's going to be different for each of us.Personally I'd LOVE to live off grid..I daydream about it all the time!I've cut myself off from many people who I realise only want me for what they can out of me..I view this as a positive..although it's tricky because people just think I'm bonkers lol!I'm like you just now though... Wanting/needing more time to reflect and heal. Not wanting to be rushed or interrupted on my journey.Thank goodness for this safe haven!BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/21/15 02:59:33AM
220 posts

Experiencing Weird Symptoms of Absorbing Others' Negative Energy


Empath

Hi and welcome :)Ive had rashes and other skin issues (newly acquired acne)I have an 18month back story of all sorts of weird stuff which saw me diagnosed with fibromyalgia, cervical disc disease, migraine with aura bla bla bla lol.However the rashes never quite fit in a nice little box however since I became aware of my spirituality and began receiving reiki and had an emotional clearing done by Trevor (on my friends list if you decided to seek him out) the body rashes have stopped but instead I got really bad acne. Both my Reiki practitioner and Trevor believe it's old negative emotions/toxins leaving my body. It's slowly getting better now.I think when we open ourselves up to our authentic selves we shed what no longer serves us.I also suffer depression and anxiety in and off for years, but now believe a lot of that could have been avoided if I'd realised I was processing other peoples stuff. I'm still struggling a bit with this.I'm hoping Trevor sees your post because he'll explain it better than me...he taught me to not give my own energy and instead to visualise divine/universal light coming through my crown and going out through heart/hands to those in need..that way other people's stuff shouldn't stick to you causing these unwanted physical reactions.Also regular grounding meditations (YouTube)I have titanium rainbow quartz to help keep my aura cleansed and balanced and black jet, black tourmaline to shield from the negative. Keep them on your person when around negative energy..hold them.Remember to find ways to regularly connect with your own energy. I use aromatherapy to help my mood.. Sweet orange works to lift me. Peppermint/clary sage/Eucalyptus/lavender helps me feel cleansed and more able to focus on what is me. I'm using Rose oil/neroli at the moment because I'm feeling the loss of a dear friend.Escape your conscious and go deeper into your subconscious with some beautiful guided meditations to connect to your higher self...you'll feel refreshed and may tune in to some important messages.Hopefully others will come along with some other ideas.BlessingsGem x
Gem
@gem
12/21/15 02:19:30AM
220 posts

Hello


Empath

You could use a guided grounding meditation on YouTube.. There are loads so try a few and see what works best. I also love being in nature particularly near water or in forests but I don't get the chance too often.I was also told by a counsellor in my early 20's that I'm a highly sensitive person, although she said there is nothing wrong with that unfortunately I didn't understand about Empaths then..she certainly never mentioned that word and I just kind of felt for years that there was something wrong with me.Have a look at the Empath Toolkit on one of the tabs at the top of the homepage here.As for healing I'm finding I can now feel energy in my hands (predominantly left for some reason) when I consciously imagine sending universal light through myself to another person. I'm going to be doing a reiki course in February too so I can try to learn more about it. I think there are a few methods but I'm relatively new so maybe others here can guide you better.Nice to meet you :) welcomeGem x
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@gem
12/20/15 11:22:24AM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Hi Chris, thank you and I hope you enjoy many many more years of your special friendship...bonds like that are few and to be cherished :) x
Gem
@gem
12/20/15 01:40:13AM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Thank you so much I'm going to do some research now by following your link :)I've always been hsp I'm really waking up to myself these last few months and it brings with it many highs and lows!I'll take all the help I can get. I want to help people but realise I can't if I myself am running on empty.Thanks again it's much appreciated x
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@gem
12/19/15 11:42:50PM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Hi Lastars, I supplements vitamins but don't know much about homeopathy. I'll go check out if they have it on Amazon. I'll certainly give it a go. I've found I can't relay my meeting the older homeless man to anyone eg my son without starting to cry.I have tried voicing my trouble reliving the cause of marriage problems to my husband and he gave me the space to cry it out which helped a little.Thanks for your adviceBlessings x
Gem
@gem
12/19/15 11:36:16PM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Thanks Lotusfly that is a good idea to try to practice. I've never tried anything like that before although I suppose it's similar to trying to think what he'd say to me.I'll be going to his grave Xmas eve with some flowers.. In the meantime I'll try what you said.Blessings x
Gem
@gem
12/18/15 02:07:04AM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Hi Lotusfly, there are elements of the marriage problems that can feel hopeless (his parents have always been a nightmare), the initial Trauma was me discovering unhealthy secret behaviour that spanned across our entire relationship. Started before he ever met me. We're both in separate counselling before we go into marriage counselling.He's a good man and I know he loves me. Unfortunately he'd developed very unhealthy ways (not conducive to marriage) to 'escape' from the damage caused I think by his controlling narc parents.It does sometimes feel helpless because his parents won't ever change and I feel our only chance is to move far away which he agrees to. We need to Wait two years tho for my son to finish his apprenticeship.My friend died in 2008 and I'm missing him terribly right now. I always missed him but this situation with my marriage has intensified it because I know I'd be able to say exactly what comes into my head with him and he'd 'hear' me. I think it's the loss of having him to talk to right now that's made me feel so lost.Thank you for replying :) xBlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/16/15 11:32:59PM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

I never told him how much I loved him and appreciated him as my friend and confidant. I told him over and over after my meditation yesterday though.It's taught me to always let my loved ones know how dear they are to me.Just wish I could feel his hug and hear his kind and wise words one last time... Well until we meet again for my next journey :) x
Gem
@gem
12/16/15 10:53:38PM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Thanks both of you :)Yes I did feel insane for a while. Maybe I didn't let myself grieve properly back when he died.. I mean I did cry a lot at the time and missed him but maybe more needed to come out?He was one of the very few people I could be completely myself with and tell anything tooHe also gave great hugs lol.I agree Karen. I definitely know he's there but I can't see or hear him. He sometimes appears as a white horse in my meditation and o cuddle into him, other times its his human form usually leading me somewhere.I sometimes wonder if he was an empath because he really was like a counsellor as well as friend at times and sometimes cried right along with me.Yes I will smudge.. Last smudged about two weeks ago so suppose I thought maybe it was a bit soon after the last one..but its worth a try.Thanks both of you x
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@gem
12/16/15 11:05:11AM
220 posts

Struggling to shake it off


Empath

Hi all, it's been an up and down week emotionally with my mind harping back to the cause of my marriage problems..then feeling guilty because we've been getting along well so I've not properly voiced how I've been feeling because I don't want to put him on a downer.Then last night I went into the city with a homeless outreach team to give warm drinks/clothing and survival blankets. Obviously it was emotional but I was in control of it till I came across an older man just 3yrs younger than my dad. He'd been sleeping in the rain on the same bench for 4 nights. His leg was injured and he wasn't able to get to any shelter..I felt so helpless and such deep sadness. I only had two women's wool cardigans left which I covered him in. Was heartbreaking to have to leave him there.I'm struggling to shake off the emotions of both the above situations.I've meditated and my departed friend whom I believe is one of my spirit guides came and I saw green and blue light which I believe is love and healing..but then I got profound grief because I miss my friend so so much I wish he would manifest in front of me so we could talk like we used to. I've sobbed and pleaded like a child :(I had been doing so well and now I just feel lost.I'm not sure how to drag myself out of it!Just needed to put that down somewhere but any suggestions are welcome.BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 01/21/17 07:53:11AM
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@gem
12/13/15 08:13:54AM
220 posts

I Want Everyone's Intuition On This


Empath

Hi Kaitlyn, I agree with the others. I believe you already know the answer to this, but it's incredibly hard to fully accept it.I also know from personal experience although it wasn't my parents it was my eldests dad (first love). I lived in fear from the emotional/physical abuse and I became a shell. My whole world revolved around my tip toeing on eggshells to keep him placated to try to keep myself safe. I felt I could 'save him' because I could also feel and see his vulnerability and knew why he had these problemsWe can't save others, untumatly it's their path and their responsibility to figure it out for themselves. If they are not open to gentle guidance or the truth of how detrimental their actions are for those around them...then your responsibility is to protect yourself.You are important, you matter and so does every other member of your family affected by this ongoing situation.Sometimes people unfortunately don't realise the impact of their behaviour until they lose everything. Sometimes losing those things is the jolt they need...sometimes nothing can jolt them and that's their choice.You can't be the one to change a person, but I know you are aware of this already.I'm so so sorry you are all going through this.Sending you huge cyber hugs and an abundance of love and light.Xx
Gem
@gem
12/09/15 07:11:04AM
220 posts



There are loads of meditations for helping build confidence and reduce anxiety.I'm also on anxiety meds and have recently been able to reduce thanks to a mixture of ;CrystalsAromatherapy :lavender (anxiety), Orange (confidence and happiness), Chamomile (anxiety), Clary Sage/Eucalyptus/peppermint/teatree (clarity/cleansing/clearing negativityMeditationHere is one I use for relaxation and confidence building ;https://youtu.be/J6enndSKJKUYou sound a lovely, capable and caring person I'm sure you'll be great at your job and a well valued member of the team :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/04/15 10:38:03PM
220 posts

Akashic records meditation success


Tools for Empaths

Hi Paul, are you the Paul Aryi mentioned? Is it ok to friend request you? I only have one, I went for a Clear Quartz I'm finding it very interesting using one particularly when it gives me an answer that truly surprises me lol.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/04/15 01:49:40AM
220 posts

Testing how different feelings feel in the heart chakra


Empath

I agree, so much is open to individual interpretation. When I followed the initial exercise in the link I did feel an expansion feeling and when I contemplated the feeling of envy I felt contraction and also a heavy feeling towards the lower end of the heart chakra. I found it useful in differentiating between the feelings on a deeper level.I feel I need to pay attention to those feelings in the chakra that can get lost in the melee of daily life so I can hone my intuition.I've come across many narcissistic types and one evil but I was 12 and didn't understand any of these spiritual matters then. I do remember how that person made me feel though and I've had that same feeling reading/watching news ectBlessings x
Gem
@gem
12/03/15 03:04:07PM
220 posts

Testing how different feelings feel in the heart chakra


Empath

Great I'll look forward to your response :)I tried it out and definitely felt different sensations..it's something I'll continue to practice.It's bedtime for me..so off to meditate then sleep.Can't wait to see what you think :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/03/15 10:31:19AM
220 posts

Testing how different feelings feel in the heart chakra


Empath

I've just been reading this articlehttp://www.puramaryam.de/trueheart.htmlIt gives instruction on really feeling different emotions with the heart chakra and learning to identifyI'm going to try it out tonight after my little one goes to bed.My Reiki practitioner told me on Wednesday that my heart chakra is wide open and to remember I'm in control of how open to have it. I wasn't surprised as I've been extremely emotional.. Having forgiveness dreams, contemplating gifts I've received from important people to me through adversity and a really strong urge to get involved in a local homeless project.My whole heart area does indeed feel very open/skips/bursts of love/compassion etc.However I do still struggle with recognising when an emotion isn't mine...I think I'm getting better but thought this might really help!I have read many Empaths feel other people's stuff in the gut solar plexus or sacral... Maybe I feel it in the heart??I'm really hoping this excersise helps.If anyone else fancies checking it out.. Even just to read, let me know what you think :)BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 01/11/17 11:48:16AM
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@gem
12/03/15 10:08:12AM
220 posts

Akashic records meditation success


Tools for Empaths

I'm friends with Trevor..He's lovely and has cleared me and my youngest son. I'll look up Paul and check out his store :)I didn't know you could install and clear with a pendulum that's a new concept to me..I just use it like you said for confirmation.I wonder why I got Pleiades in my meditation... Maybe I'd already read the word somewhere? I've done an enormous amount of reading since realising I may be an Empath.How did you come to find out that's where your soul originated?BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/03/15 01:52:47AM
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Akashic records meditation success


Tools for Empaths

Hi Aryi, it's fascinating and sounds very much like me and my experiences in life.A few days after I posted this I did a session with my pendulum (I'm new to using one only had it about a month), anyway I was asking stuff about my kids and then decided to ask about my experience with the Akashic records... It confirmed I accessed them and gave a yes for everything except the Pleiades thing... So that's left me very confused since and made me doubt my experience somewhat.I don't know if I'm supposed to trust in the above experience or trust in what my pendulum said??The description of Pleiades people is me to a T!!I look forward to chatting with you :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
12/01/15 11:36:43PM
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Any UK Groups or people from the UK?


Empath

Hi, nice to meet you :) I'm in Manchester x
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12/01/15 11:34:44PM
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Curious about what you feel and where..when you send divine light.


Empath

Thanks Kaitlyn :) it's really interesting hearing how other people feel it!Amazing how you can feel such specific things in people and animals.I'll try to start noticing other parts of me like stomach ect when I do it. It's kind of hard because I've a fair few health problems so my body is often feeling multiple things at any given time...I really wish it'd stop not just because it's not pleasant for me.. But so I can really tell what, if anything I'm feeling elsewhere when I try to send healing ect.So far it's just hands for me...but who knows in time :) x
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12/01/15 08:43:43AM
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Curious about what you feel and where..when you send divine light.


Empath

Hi, thanks for sharing how it feels for you :)I start my Reiki 1 course in February so it'll be interesting to see how/if things change once I've done that.I'm looking forward to getting to a point where I can feel where the energy needs to go on a persons body. It's all so fascinating.Blessings x
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11/30/15 06:12:52AM
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How to protect my suspected empathic 3yr old from my physical pain?


Empath

Hi Karma and water_lilyStill got my breakout but my skin isn't on fire anymore thank goodness! My skin obviously was rejecting that cream big time. I've been using aloe Vera, vit a oil etc.My little one has continued to have a difficult time since I posted this. My eldest and his gf were having some heavy issues and during their heightened emotions my little one got night terrors really really bad. Going through family names asking if they were ok. It was heartbreaking and made me very anxious and emotional too.Trevor helped me out with advice privately as I'd had him clear my little one recently.I also smudged him and his room, prayed to his and my guides to protect him and he's been holding my chevron amethyst wand when he's upset. Touch wood he's not suffered night terrors since I did all that and my eldest and his gf seem better after I had a calm chat/offered advice etc.It would be lovely if we could all have a calm Christmas season lol;) x
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11/28/15 11:34:17PM
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Ps my little one (almost 3) seems to be highly empathic and recently had horrific night terrors which coincided with his older brother (18yr) and gf having some turbulence. I sage smudged my little one and his bedroom and he's much better now.Might also be worth a try to get your energy back in sync x
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11/28/15 11:15:26PM
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Hi Yona, welcome and you're in the right place for lots of info from more experienced Empaths (I'm relatively new to the realisation and at present don't get it to the level you describe one to one)Im still learning about how to differentiate what's mine and what's isn't.It sounds like you need a way to switch from this using all your energy to using divine energy. So imagine the divine energy coming through you to him (so keeping your own). Also regular grounding.There is the Empath Toolkit if you look on the site tabs which could help you too.Also with him being spiritual already perhaps he could work on the issues you're picking up on to aid both of you.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
11/28/15 03:48:28AM
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Curious about what you feel and where..when you send divine light.


Empath

Hi, I'd imagine on a site such as this, it will have been asked before..so apologies to long term members if this is a repeat.What do you feel and where...when sending healing?I've not been doing it long but get intense tingling/pins and needles in my hands. I've noticed though that my left hand (I'm actually right handed..so this surprised me a little) tingles to the point of almost feeling like it's vibrating really fast.I've had tingling in hands during meditation sometimes but guaranteed if I'm consciously sending divine light this happens...I recently discovered even when trying to send it to someone far away eg I'm in North west England and I was sending it to someone in North Wales...same intense tingling but much more so in the left hand!It's made me curious about how it is when you guys do it.I'd love to hear your experiences.BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 01/16/17 03:39:57PM
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@gem
11/26/15 11:23:21PM
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Strange day!


Empath

Yes it's something I'm looking into. I'm actually having tests for celiac and crohns etc. If they come back negative though I'm still going to try cutting certain things out to see if it helps :) x
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11/26/15 07:26:38AM
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Strange day!


Empath

I do hope so Cat. I'm pleased to hear you got a clean bill of health. My life's been turned upside down and inside out this last two years with health and personal relationships...it's brought me to where I am now though.. Developing spiritually and finding a new path... Hopefully the right path (given the recent syncronisities).Currently suffering more than I ever have with my skin but thinking maybe it a kind of cleansing that's happening as I'm getting wave after wave of acne and I'm 37 lol...I look like a teenager.Thanks for commenting it's really good to hear from people going through the same..also reinforces to me that im not going crazy lol x
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@gem
11/26/15 06:41:50AM
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Anyone else identify?


Empath

It's been a lifelong problem for me too. Ironically I'm able to voice myself no problem within my own family (my mum, dad,brothers) it's the outside world an in laws.. People who blatantly are takers, only about themselves and feel their opinion is the correct and only one.I'm starting to realise through this awakening that my lesson in this life is to learn to say no and not worry myself to death with all the thoughts of how I'll make them feel. To learn to look after myself against these types in a way that protects myself but isn't unkind.. If that makes sense.At present the best I've managed is isolating myself completely from them but I know it won't be long before that's challenged..given I'm working on saving my marriage to their son. I'm also having to deal with/support my husbands major inner issues that came from growing up with such toxicity.It's such a tough one.Baby steps in the right direction is all we can do. Look into ourselves for what we need to enjoy our existence. Boundaries are so important... I am determined to learn to implement and stick to mine!Blessings x
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@gem
11/26/15 05:08:10AM
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Strange day!


Empath

Good to know. I'll try to be mindful of my thought patterns. X
 
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