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Gem
@gem
12/23/16 06:45:22AM
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My 3yr old is seeing Orbs


Psychic and Paranormal

Thanks I'll try that although my house on one side is attached to another...im the end of a row of 3. So I only have access to 3 of the 4 parameter walls. I have gotten my little one to join me in asking for all negative entities to leave and never return but he said the orbs all stay. I'm presuming they are not negative and his fear is because he finds in unusual? I shall be more direct. I've already carried out an akashic house cleaning which did show a portal and our house is on consecrated land (used to be part of a grand house used as a hospital for soldiers in the war and prisoners of war). I have cleared this though.
I feel this is to do with the traumatic separation me and his dad.
Thank you all for the tips x
Gem
@gem
12/22/16 11:14:06AM
220 posts

My 3yr old is seeing Orbs


Psychic and Paranormal

Ok great I always have a variety of healing organic salts in for our bathing so will certainly give that a try thank you :-)
Yes I'm an empath too although I don't see orbs. I can sometimes see auras and during spiritual practices get claircognizence and sometimes prophetic dreams.
Thanks for taking the time to reply! X
Gem
@gem
12/22/16 08:06:51AM
220 posts

My 3yr old is seeing Orbs


Psychic and Paranormal

Hi, yes I've told him they are only keeping us safe while we sleep but he's very scared of the ones in his room for some reason. I've asked for a lot of comfort and protection for us lately with having gone through a traumatic separation from my husband so it doesn't suprise me that they are there..It's more little ones very fearsome reaction to the yellow ones.
I've been doing guided visualization to help him before sleep..kind of like a pleasant sleep talk down. I'll try saging my son as well as his room to see if it helps any.
Thanks x
Gem
@gem
12/22/16 03:28:29AM
220 posts

My 3yr old is seeing Orbs


Psychic and Paranormal

Ok so my son has always seemed sensitive to others emotions and told me about ghosts but he's been verbalising it much more lately and this morning while in bed with me stated 'mummy you've got 4 ghosts around your head' I asked what they look like and he said 'they are bright white light circles, the ones in my room are yellow'
I got pictures of orbs up on my phone and he pointed out the ones they resemble.
He feels scared of the ones in his room and said one of his yellow ones is quite big. I do smudge our rooms and I've taught him to ask anything he doesn't like to leave..but he said they don't.
Anyone have any thoughts or experiences with this type of thing? X
updated by @gem: 07/02/17 10:36:54AM
Gem
@gem
10/02/16 05:50:43AM
220 posts

Empaths & Divorce


Empath

Rene':

I didn't realize you two were living togeather still.  I have to ask , without going back and reading because I have a huge headache, is your husband a narcissist or is the porn addiction the only major problem with his personality, if I may ask.   And also, have you seen any shadow people in your house?  

Hi Rene, 

We aren't living together now, I asked him to leave just over a month ago. I first discovered the addiction 18months ago (I found two years worth of 'search terms' videos, sites etc including dates & times even the night before our wedding which I've never gotten over). After separating for a few months after that discovery & us both going to counselling, I think we was in genuine recovery for a while but then things were 'off' again and my instincts were telling me he was doing it all again. However when I'd ask he'd act upset that I would think that... He'd say he's just tired or had a hard day at work etc. I started thinking it was me who was crazy. I now know he's been lying since Feb at least. 

His parents are narcissistic & my counselor has wondered whether my husband is...I'm not sure if he is I just know his parents are & my husband had been badly affected by their hostility, neglect & random control whilst growing up. 

I've not noticed shadows in my vision. I have felt a lot of darkness & what I'd describe as a 'hollowness' a void type feeling. My husband 'zones out' a lot, always has I always put it down to a quirk. He has a lot of trauma that needs releasing I think. He's suppressed an awful lot but I can't let his addiction destroy me in the process. Its almost like he has an 'alter ego' the things I've found, his usernames on these sites, its not the man I married, not the man I thought I knew. X

Gem
@gem
10/01/16 03:31:28AM
220 posts

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Empath

Rene':
Gem: I've always been connected to spirit and had that faith. I only realised I was an Empath during my awakening following a lot of trauma in my marriage 18months ago. However I diligently went to counselling to try to recover from my husbands porn addiction. At first it felt he was genuinely in recovery. I opened up to him again..then things felt wrong. My intuition was screaming via recurring dreams, a knowing, you all know how it goes. When someone repeatedly tells you that your instincts are wrong..then cries because 'he feels so bad he caused you this trauma you can't get over' you begin to doubt yourself and your sanity. Well my instincts have been proven right. He's been lying since around Feb. Its hard when one side if them seems/feels warm, caring, funny etc but then you see all the sordid & twisted dark side that is devoid of all feeling. Our 3yr old see's him as often as prior to kicking him out but keeps saying 'daddy's gone' 'I've lost daddy' he panics within minutes of him leaving for work after seeing him. He feels everything. I always knew little one had taken after me with all he feels & I don't know what to do. I can't explain adult things to him. No amount of explaining daddy will see you tomorrow helps because that's not what he means and I know that. I'm now having sever panic attacks (luckily little one hasn't witnessed them) but he sure as hell will feel it. How the hell do I get my Empath 3yr old & myself through this mess? I've smudged us & the house. I've asked our angles, teachers,spirits & guides to surround us & protect us. I've carried out Soul Realignment work on both of us, I've cleared us. What more can I do? Sorry for the rant and for those of you who may feel the pain reading this.

While you was still living with your husband and other than your instinct , did your ever see and shadows in the home?   Dark or black shadows moving around the house, maybe at night?   Maybe something out of the corner of your eyes but you ignored thinking it was nothing ?

I smug my house also but it seems to me, and after some research, smudging is like a lock on your door. A lock keeps only the honest criminals out and sometimes smudging only remove the less aggressive spirits.  I have heard that some spirits  and or entities can be stubborn.    

I have a friend who's husband is addicted to porn, gambling and cheating on her.  She has seen the shadows on her wall moving though the house and she is very religious and prays hard for him to stop.  He is also a violent narcissist and she is afraid to leave him.  I know, that sounds strange in the day and time but she is scared of him.  Personally, no one can keep me anywhere I don't won't to be.  I would put the fear of God and the universe up the side of his head with a ball bat but she isn't as fisty as me. 

As much as I would like to think people with these problems like your husband and my friend husband have,   something evil or low energy has either attached or has entered their body and is in control ,  I think sometimes  they are just bad seeds.   

My friends husband has befriended his demons and doesn't  won't them to leave.  It's become a game to keep secrets, lies, infidelity (I consider porn watching a secret infidelity but that's just me)  gamble.  she has notice is he's not gambling he is cheating and if he's not doing them two he's watching porn.  He will not pull away from that thrill for anyone or any thing.  She tells me she has put it in Gods hands and he will take care of it.  I tell her God has taken care of it,  He has...he put  Louisville Sluggers bats on sale at Walmart.   In prayer, when you ask God or your higher power or powers to "fix" a situation, that don't mean your going to like the fix,  just that the doors of opportunity will open,  He/they seldom pushes you though.    

Hi Rene, 

I'd often wake in the night (husband was a sleep talker) I'd wake feeling he was being unfaithful then not be able to get back to sleep. I've not been on here a day or two because I had a huge panic attack and actually passed out at my therapy session. It's weird but since then I feel I've moved from anger/rage to deep grief & I can't stop crying..I'm crying now.

He asked for a Soul Realignment reading but I told him I didn't feel able to do his. I did my own & my boys but didn't feel able to be grounded enough to do his (plus he's never professed to believe in spiritual matters much so I was dubious). 

Anyway the lady who did it, delivered his reading yesterday & it was spot on right down to his controlling parents & damage they caused him. Apparently he's travelling to negative astrals both at night & in the day which accounts for his zoning out so often. He had a negative guide running a program of despair. Lots of negative stuff which has all been cleared but as all of us here know...clearing is only part of it...new conscious choices have to be made. 

I don't know if I'm supposed to help him, leave him or what. I don't feel I can trust him ever again - yet this reading confirmed things I suspected. My therapist actually called me an empath which surprised me (her being a traditionally trained trauma specialist) she keeps identifying emotional transference where I'm processing emotions that should be his. She calls me a 'rescuer'. 

You know I thought I had my Empath skills under control, seems I did with most everyone but him. I suppose that's common in husband & wife relationships. I think I need to start cutting cords more regularly. 

Blessings 

Gem x 

Gem
@gem
09/29/16 12:39:18AM
220 posts

Empaths & Divorce


Empath

Lotusfly & Cat, thank you both. I actually remember you both being supportive when I first came here 18 months ago in the aftermath of last time (except I never mentioned what the issues had been). 

I know its going to take a lot of time. I know how dirty his parents can play to (from how they were with his ex who he has 2kids with). It's going to be a really crappy few years isn't it :( 

Hopefully my trauma specialist will help me unravel the nice mask of his and this other side so o don't get reeled in again by him like last time. X 

Gem
@gem
09/29/16 12:34:35AM
220 posts

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Empath

Rene':

Dear Gem, so sorry for your pain.  I know they call porn an addiction but to me, it's much more. It's degrading.  A lot of people thinks it's fine, I think it's sickening.   And I really don't care who agrees with me or not.   Why do , we as an society, need porn?   I think it's one of the many things we could do without. Just like drug, alcohol and gambling,  they all cause pain but no one who enjoys them seems to care or sees the innocent victims and the aftermath they caused.   I would say I hate him and his kind but I would be hypercritical because my son is a recovering drug addict and I love him and know he can relaps at anytime. But I would like to poke his eyes out so he could no longer be able to watch it and realize the pain he is causing you and your son.

Mans believe me when I say this, You was good  enough!   You didn't do anything wrong,  you were who you was supposed to be, he wasn't.    Stop blaming yourself because this was out of your control from the begaining.   You daddy not take daddy away, daddy took daddy away from his wife and son.   I will be praying for you and your baby boy.  I feel your pain and I see how unbearable it is.    Stay grounded and don't forget to love yourself.  

Rene. I feel murderous honestly but then I swing into deep despair. This all kicked off again (me finding out) a month ago. I've got myself a trauma specialist who says I have PTSD due to it retraumatising me from last time plus reopening my trauma from being interfered with as a 12yr old by a pool attendant. 

My eldest (19) is also a recovering drug addict. He ended up with psychosis caused by those legal high drugs. This has caused his voices to start screaming and urges to use, but I'm proud of him for coning to me and being honest and getting help....something his step dad (my husband) never did. I pray for continued sobriety for your son. 

It is awful & those women in those films are broken/abused women who often end up needing medical treatment. He also accessed chat features but apparently this is something he knows nothing about...a ghost must have put it there eh! Either that or he's so ill he genuinely blanks out during some of his behaviour? 

I gave my whole authentic self to this man. I feel so incredibly stupid and like I'll never trust anyone again. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to be intimate with anyone again! I have so much love to give its such a shame. X

Gem
@gem
09/29/16 12:25:38AM
220 posts

Empaths & Divorce


Empath

SANDRA FERNANDEZ:

HI GEM: I DO FEEL YOUR PAIN,AND EVERYTIME MEN WATCH PORN TO "GET IN THE MOOD",ITS LIKE WE ARE NOT ENOUGH TO DO THAT SO WE FEEL INSECURE,AND MANY OTHER FEELINGS,ALSO WHEN THEY CHEAT AND ASK FOR A SECOND CHANCE,WHY A SECOND CHANCE? THEY HAD THEIR CHANCE WHEN THEY MARRIED OR LIVED WITH US AND WE STUPIDLY TRUSTED THEM,I SO HATE TO BE BETRAYED,THAT I AFTER 9 YEARS OF BEING PUT DOWN AND HUMILLIATED,THAT WAS THE LIMIT I COULD BEAR,SO I GOT DIVORCED,MY DAUGHTER WAS 5,AND I LIVED IN USA,AND CAME BACK TO LIVE IN MY COUNTRY MEXICO,THERE HAS NOT BEING ONE SECOND IN 21 YEARS,THAT I HAVE REGRETED DIVORCING HIM,IS NOT EASY AND THE FIRST YEAR IS THE WORSE,BUT AT LEAST YOU GET RIDD OF ALL THE PAIN HE CAUSES YOU ALL THE TIME,I RATHER BEING ALONE,I SEND YOU LOVE AND LIGHT SO YOU CAN ASK YOUR GUIDES TO HELP YOU WITH THE ATTACHMENT YOUR SON HAS WITH HIS FATHER,ALL MEN ARE LIARS,BELIEVE ME....OH ONE THING I DIDNT UNDERSTAND,YOU ARE SAYING YOU FOUND OUT NOT LONG AGO OF HIS "NARC" PARENTS,AND I DONT KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN,SOMETIMES IS DIFFICULT FOR ME WITH SOME WORDS,CAN YOU TELL ME PLEASE?,MUCH LOVE TO YOU AND THE LITTLE ONE.....SANDRA Happy

Hi Sandra, 

Thanks for your kind response. NARC is short for narcissists. Both his parents have this (undiagnosed) personality disorder. My husband felt very neglected growing up and was the scapegoat child whereas his brother was the golden child. I think knowing all this is why after the horrific discoveries I made last year I tried to forgive & make things work. 

Also though my husband hurt himself last year when I first found out. This caused me to try to fix things before I actually felt ready to. I was still in a place of deep shock. 

My husband never used porn to get in the mood for being with me. Its been a completely separate thing to him. Apart from when its inevitably crept into his intimacy with me & I ended up being treated like a blow up doll..

Thanks for your prayers, I need them. X 

Gem
@gem
09/28/16 11:01:55AM
220 posts

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Empath

Thanks for the validation, I think all the crazymaking I've gone through with him has made me feel nuts & doubt myself so much. 

I'm scared for the times ahead what with feeling things so deeply. You are right though I've got to trust in my intuition.. Its been proven right every time! I know me our child and my eldest are worth so much more than this! X 

Gem
@gem
09/28/16 09:09:00AM
220 posts

Empaths & Divorce


Empath

Hi Cat, in today's society it may sound silly all this over porn. It's not 'top shelf' or 'now & again' it's been full blown addiction and I've seen things I never wanted to see (especially given I myself was interfered with as a kid) he's not accessed anything illegal but seeing years worth of history last year...and the progression of 'tastes' 'genre's' sent me into breakdown. 

The lies are the worst part really. I don't understand how I've ended up with someone so duplicitous. I always put it down to his /our stress over his NARC parents until what I found last year. 

Its so unhealthy to live with such lies and the fear of escalation not to mention I feel I've had my sexuality stolen. I don't/can't imagine ever trusting a future man with being 'consciously intimate' to tell the truth, upfront about any issues like that. 

I was on the up, working on setting up my own business and now I'm totally floored. 

Thanks for your kind words x 

Gem
@gem
09/28/16 02:42:24AM
220 posts

Empaths & Divorce


Empath

I've always been connected to spirit and had that faith. I only realised I was an Empath during my awakening following a lot of trauma in my marriage 18months ago. However I diligently went to counselling to try to recover from my husbands porn addiction. At first it felt he was genuinely in recovery. I opened up to him again..then things felt wrong. My intuition was screaming via recurring dreams, a knowing, you all know how it goes.
When someone repeatedly tells you that your instincts are wrong..then cries because 'he feels so bad he caused you this trauma you can't get over' you begin to doubt yourself and your sanity.
Well my instincts have been proven right. He's been lying since around Feb. Its hard when one side if them seems/feels warm, caring, funny etc but then you see all the sordid & twisted dark side that is devoid of all feeling.
Our 3yr old see's him as often as prior to kicking him out but keeps saying 'daddy's gone' 'I've lost daddy' he panics within minutes of him leaving for work after seeing him. He feels everything. I always knew little one had taken after me with all he feels & I don't know what to do. I can't explain adult things to him. No amount of explaining daddy will see you tomorrow helps because that's not what he means and I know that.
I'm now having sever panic attacks (luckily little one hasn't witnessed them) but he sure as hell will feel it.
How the hell do I get my Empath 3yr old & myself through this mess?
I've smudged us & the house. I've asked our angles, teachers,spirits & guides to surround us & protect us. I've carried out Soul Realignment work on both of us, I've cleared us. What more can I do?
Sorry for the rant and for those of you who may feel the pain reading this.
updated by @gem: 02/09/17 09:21:51AM
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@gem
07/18/16 11:42:50PM
220 posts

maladaptive dreamer


Empath

Hi, I'd say you need to find a creative outlet. I understand where you are coming from. I've always been a daydreamer, it's so easy to lose hours/days happily away in your daydreams. Underneath it all though, is an unhappiness or sense of emptiness about your current circumstances.We are incarnated here & now, to live and create in our 3d existence. Inner work is incredibly important but so is expressing ourselves here & now.My advice to you would be to get regular grounding nature, barefoot, salt baths, grounding meditation etc.Most importantly though is find a creative outlet. Be it drawing/colouring, making, singing, dancing, cooking class...whatever strikes a chord. A class would be great if you are able to as it would mean meeting likeminded people. The key is to choose something creative, that brings you joy!You need to get grounded & happy in the now!Hope that helps :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
06/26/16 04:01:47AM
220 posts

Is this common among other Empaths?


Empath

Yes people I've just met often tell me their life story or current problems with lightening speed! On the other hand though...I wouldn't say I've had many people (other than very close family or friends) go out of their way for me..quite the opposite actually. Its like they pick up on my unease..of THEIR unease ..like they know they can have me bend over backwards to help them but its not reciprocal. This was my own fault for trying to avoid feeling their displeasure/frustration or anger if I didn't go out of my way for them.Its only since harnessing this gift and developing others ..I've let go of those 'people pleasing' behaviours that ultimately negatively impacted me. I still find it hard and uncomfortable to say 'no' but it's absolutely necessary and it's cut my 'friends' down to just the genuine ones lol! X
Gem
@gem
06/13/16 03:57:32AM
220 posts

4 sycamore trees have taken root in my garden -symbolism


Empath

Not at all :) its still relatable because you felt the cat was meant to be with you...that it came for a reason! I'm glad you found each other!When I read the symbolism for the Sycamore Tree it resonated so strongly with me..like I was supposed to read it.Really hope I can safely move the one near the foundations of the house without harming the tree! X
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@gem
06/12/16 03:37:38AM
220 posts

4 sycamore trees have taken root in my garden -symbolism


Empath

There are Sycamore Trees in my local area. Spaced out purposely along the streets. Tall, mighty and beautiful...my little one calls one we can see from our lounge window 'the giant tree'.There are none to see in any home owners gardens. However I've now got 4 growing to various degrees in my front and back garden lol! They've been appearing over the last 3 months or so but I'd clearly not noticed because two of them are really quite well established.My husband and his family say they need removing...I don't want to and feel the fact 4 of these giants appeared are a symbol..so I looked it up and it resonated a lot (I've added the link for anyone interested).Sadly one is right near the foundations of my house...so I can see this will become a problem due to root size etc...I'm hoping its not going to be too big a task to maybe dig and replant further away from the house..I don't want to kill it :(Anyway wanted to share and ask has anyone else had a particular plant/tree/animal come to the point it seems to hold meaning?I'd love to hear your stories if you have :)BlessingsGem xhttp://spiritlodge.yuku.com/topic/1058/Sycamore-Tree
updated by @gem: 01/09/17 09:36:07PM
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@gem
06/12/16 12:49:35AM
220 posts

Racism, Discrimination, and Sexism hurt the most.


Empath

I enjoyed reading this :) I agree, the heavens/universe etc know no blame. Positive energy/negative energy are a way to express ourselves and to learn & hopefully grow etc.Ive spent most of my life in heated discussions (sometimes turning into arguments) around the subjects you mention...I too would end up in a loop of replaying/re-feeling what occurred. I can't bare discrimination of any kind.. It physically makes me feel sick..hurtsme mentally & emotionally. It's hard though because there are some people who are just not ready to let go of being discriminatory in their beliefs... Perhaps that is a life lesson they've come here to learn/experience and we've stumbled across them too soon for the message to be truly heard (I like to think those conversations at least plant a seed of love).I've always been better at speaking out for others rights than my own..and iveoften been trampled on (in one village I live ridiculed, for showing compassion and belief in a heroin addict....who now is free from it, happy,in a relationship and back in his family fold)I'd take the ridicule as painful as it was again to see that person become who I could see he was underneath the addiction.We should absolutely all stand up and speak out for what's right and good.I need to practice this for myself though (perhaps that's my life lesson huh) lolBlessingsGem x
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@gem
06/09/16 04:29:50AM
220 posts

Attachment/Infatuation or picking up on energies?


Empath

Glad to be a help :) this community helped me so much when I first realised I had this gift. Helped me realise I wasn't bonkers lol.You'll learn a lot here.Welcome by the way ;)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
06/09/16 03:08:30AM
220 posts

Attachment/Infatuation or picking up on energies?


Empath

Cutting cords just makes it easier to distinguish our own emotions. It is a gift but if we are consistently feeling another's emotions it can become an energetic drain on you.Some people find consciously acknowledging the feeling is not theirs and sending it back with 'love and light' or whatever positive feelings you would want to attach is enough.I think because you are regularly feeling this mans emotions it's possible there is a stronger energetic link that may be worth cutting. Its a bit different to walking through the street and picking up random emotions or group consciousness.I had to cut cords with my father in law because I was picking up his anger, frustration (he's very very self involved) but on the other hand im happy enough to have the energetic attachments feeling my children's emotions. I've kept the cord with my husband but that can be hard sometimes because he has confidence issues. Cutting cords doesn't mean not feeling or caring its just a way to avoid energetic drain on your own resources.. Something, as empaths that can spiral out of control if we let it.:) x
Gem
@gem
06/09/16 12:42:00AM
220 posts

Attachment/Infatuation or picking up on energies?


Empath

I'd say you are most certainly an Empath and that you are picking us his energy. His feelings could be towards you or he may be recently infatuated with someone else. I'm thinking the fact you are picking up on it even before you go to see him indicates you should consciously'cut the cord' you can find guided meditations on YouTube on cutting cords if this isn't something you've done before!Cutting cords regularly helps you to discern what's yours and not more easily.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
06/01/16 12:09:18AM
220 posts

Moving house


Empath

I'm just finishing off my soul realignment course and part of that is learning about clearing properties if it's needed.We learn about residual energy (something I've always believed in) and portals/sacred ground etc.Your sentance 'I always felt I was being watched' according to my tutor is often said by clients who live in a home with a portal.Feeling uncomfortable or almost like you aren't welcome or don't belong is usually due to it having been sacred ground at some point eg church or battleground where many lost lives.Perhaps one of the above is why you always felt that way in your old home and now you've moved somewhere that doesn't have any of these issues?I wish you every happiness in your new home :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
05/26/16 11:38:07PM
220 posts

something about myself....


Empath

It's interesting how we start to understand ourselves better once we are following our spiritual path! Sounds like you're really looking consciously at yourself & the things you do. That's good :)Helping others throughout our lives is a huge theme for people here on this forum. As is learning from when we've helped the wrong people..or in the wrong way.Learning self love for me has been a biggie!The safety aspects you mention sound a lot like my parents. It used to annoy me slightly when I was younger..now though I feel the overwhelming love attached to those concerns..and it makes my heart warm :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
05/26/16 09:40:40AM
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Hi Bookworm, it's comforting to know we're not alone in these experiences isn't it! Especially if our day to day lives lack people who are going through this process.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
05/24/16 10:31:57PM
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Just felt the need to send you a long distance hug ... I also fantasise about living deep in the woods! Blesdings, Gem x
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@gem
05/22/16 02:28:51AM
220 posts

Are shielding techniques counter productive?


Empath

I think do them with the frame of mind 'I'm keeping my space energetically hygeinic'Reason being if we do things based in fear...you run the risk of attracting it ..if you see what I mean?Just my thoughts on it :)BlessingsGem x
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@gem
05/21/16 01:08:53AM
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I had this experience so ferociously it led me to become a political tweeter (I'm not now) but I was so overwhelmed by the way society and governments treated fellow human beings I felt I needed to try to get my voice heard. I didn't want notoriety I did it anonymously. I was consumed by wanting to get people to see, to change. I actually made myself ill with it!Looking back...its what led me back to my spiritual path. It was, I feel.. the beginning of my awakening.I had to go through it to shed/change and realise I had to start with myself. To realise I can only truly affect my life..to lead by example and try to offer positive things to those who are ready.Its so tough feeling what you are feeling..I remember it well..I avoid the news because it can drag me back there..which in turn detracts me from trying to 'be the change'.I suppose we all find our own individual way through it. Don't let it consume you though..as hard as it is.Find ways you can be the change you wish to see.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
05/21/16 12:59:46AM
220 posts



Hi Renee, I'm Gem :)I've been on here aprox 8months and have found it invaluable to have somewhere to ask questions and to be amongst like minded people!I feel like I've blossomed spiritually since being here!I wish the same for you..so welcome :)BlessingsGem x
updated by @gem: 11/12/17 11:02:19PM
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@gem
05/16/16 10:38:16PM
220 posts

Struggling with Hate in my heart


Empath

Hi Nightmistress, I'm so sorry for your pain.There are similarities to what happened with my husband and I last year. My husband didn't act out with another person but had hidden his 'viewing' addiction for our entire relationship (by which point we were married with a child).His addiction had started to evolve to signing up to chat rooms (although just for the thrill of signing up and viewing the pics)That rage you feel, I know it very very well. I had to keep finding sordid thing after sorded thing rather than him tell me the truth. I'm ashamed to say..I did lash out (that is not me at all..I'd suffered domestic violence with my eldests Dad and don't agree with it at all) however I did and he just sat there crying and took my hitting him :'(It didn't make me feel any better at all. He actually attempted to take his life a few days later because I'd thrown him out of our home. (He's fine now and in counseling)You DO deserve better. You did NOTHING wrong. You will recover from this. You need plenty of self care now.For me that was meditation (sometimes twice a day), mindfulness colouring books (for when my mind just wouldn't switch off), aromatherapy (palma rose is good for grief, sweet orange is good for lifting depression and lavender/chamomile/benzoin for help with sleep) I also have been in counselling ever since and it helps so so much!This was the wrong man for you..a lesson as the others have said!My husband has narcissistic parents and is the scapegoat child..sadly viewing p was his coping mechanism before he met me and he was too ashamed to ask for help. He's been technology free..and subsequently p free for a year at the end of June. I still have far too many triggers.Sending you much love/light and understanding. I hear you! I acknowledge your pain!A book called 'My Sexually Addicted Spouse' helped loads...maybe check it out if you're struggling to feel 'heard'.This too shall pass!HugsGem x
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@gem
05/15/16 01:23:43AM
220 posts

My 7yr old stepson said he experiences awful thoughts that aren't his!


Empath

Yes that's what I thought..thank you, I'm going to follow my gut and clear him.I can feel his loneliness even though he has siblings and his mum and step dad at home. I think it's because of these issues he's dealing with.. I'd like to lessen the burden of anything not inn his greater good!I appreciate your help and I've just spent some moments in gratitude to your guides and asked my own to follow suit.It helps having a bit of clarification on what's acceptable when dealing with others children. Thanks :)
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05/14/16 10:35:47PM
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My 7yr old stepson said he experiences awful thoughts that aren't his!


Empath

Hi Karen, thanks for that! I have the sage but will need to order sweetgrass.I'm currently at the end of a psychic development modality (my strongest areas are knowing/feeling) I only hear messages in meditation or dreams. I've learnt a clearing modality but I'm unsure ethically of tapping into my stepson this way with not being his mother? Also he knows my husband as his Dad but actually he isn't biologically.. So technically I can't get his permission (although he does have parental rights as he won them in court).I'd be interested in your thought on this Karen..if you don't mind?I've been taught I can clear my own kids without their knowing...would that be wrong for me to do with L?My sense is it wouldn't be wrong because its coming from a place of love and care...but I'd like your view on it please?BlessingsGem x
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05/14/16 10:22:01PM
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My 7yr old stepson said he experiences awful thoughts that aren't his!


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Hi Lastars, thanks. I've told him he must feel free to update me on how the 'bubble of light' and 'order to leave' goes for him. He intuitively didn't want anyone but me to know..and hushed when me husband (his dad) came over and said 'me and Gemma are having a private chat' bless him lol!He's always been very open with me and I enjoy our little chats.I gave him an example of what I put in my bubble when I'm worried/sad or am feeling too much of other people's stuff, he said he wants to put me in his bubble ...made me feel quite emotional when he said that!I'll check out the show you've mentioned!BlessingsGem x
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05/14/16 08:13:25AM
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My 7yr old stepson said he experiences awful thoughts that aren't his!


Empath

So last weekend we had my stepkids stay over. We had a belated bday celebration for (L) who turned 7 a few days before.We were chilling out on the trampoline in the sun..chit chatting and he told me 'I hate being alone Gemma'He went on to say he gets really awful thoughts and feelings..and that he doesn't think they are his. He says he often feels like he's being watched.I asked him what is it about them that makes him feel they belong to someone else?He said 'it feels like they are all around the outside of me' and 'they are really, really horrible and awful'.Now..his mother last year allowed him to watch the 'Child's Play' chucky films :( so obviously I asked did he feel it was to do with that...he was adament this is a separate thing..although he wishes his mum had never let him watch those movies.(L) is, I've always felt a sensitive. After his mothers mum died (he'd never met her as his mum was a foster child all her life) he told me his 'gran' had been in his room while he was in bed at night and whispered horrible things to him about his mum'.So I think (L) perhaps has gifts he doesn't understand.. And I'm not his mum..and my husband doesn't really get my path or beliefs, although he doesn't put it down in anyway either.I've told (L) to imagine he's in a protective bubble..to fill this bubble with lovely things like shining glitter/light/things that make him happy. That nothing bad can get into his special bubble once he's put it around himself. That all he has to do is say 'you are not welcome near me..leave now' and it's the rules that whatever it is much obay.I'm hoping this will help him..and not anger his mother if he mentions it to her.Anyone else known kids with experience of negative energies? As a child luckily, it was only the love energies of my Nana..so I had nothing to fear.BlessingsGem x
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05/06/16 11:48:10PM
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Is it possible for us to feel our own energy?


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I think you are learning to tap into and acknowledge your own subtle energy and as Ren said it is healing.I spent from 18 to last year (I'm almost 38) suffering depression and anxiety with panic attacks on and off. I thought I was such a broken person. Felt totally misunderstood and was always told I'm oversensitive.Coming here last year during my awakening has helped beyond measure. I too for some time now have been able to take sanctuary within myself.. Its heaven! It's because I'm better equipped now to 'shed' what is not mine..and to recognise the calm within. Its still not always easy..when life throws curve balls (or great big stinking rocks lol).I'd say you're on the right path too. Keep doing what you're doing and enjoy the new found freedom and relief it brings :)BlessingsGem x
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05/04/16 01:54:57AM
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How do we live with this


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Rest will do you good. Try to eat something though, even something small.I'm glad you had a friend to talk to.The sun is shining here in the UK..I made the most of it and had a short walk, I make myself notice the beauty of everything when I feel low. The colours of nature, bee's collecting pollen from the flowers etc. It takes my mind out of my own worries for a while.Find some beauty in your day!:-) love and light from the UK X
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05/04/16 12:19:18AM
220 posts

How do we live with this


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Hi Chris, just thinking about you this morning (UK) and hoping you are feeling a little better and supported?Please remember the saying 'this to shall pass' because it really does you know...we never know what's around the corner.You are important and you matter.Please try to find some joy in things outside of this girl..as the others have suggested.Thinking of youGem x
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@gem
05/03/16 12:07:12AM
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How do we live with this


Empath

I agree with Ren, also I'd like to say I spent almost a decade feeling like you do. Single..wishing/hoping for real love..feeling there must be something inherently wrong with me. I self harmed on and off and did have suicidal thoughts but had a son I would never dream of leaving and parents I couldn't bare to cause so much pain to.Hindsight is a wonderful thing. When I look back on those years I can see now that I was putting out totally the wrong vibes to attract the love I wished and longed for. I wanted it so bad I would 'overlook' and 'compromise' what I REALLY wanted...which only ever ended up in heartache of my own creating.Only when I truly at every level of my being decided 'you know what..I'd rather be single and happy than with the wrong person' did I actually meet my now husband. Let me tell you..my journey with my now husband has had much trauma..why? Because I STILL needed to voice what I wanted/needed/expected out of our union. As an empath, I was still compromising my feelings to make him happy..which ultimately caused a rift.We're coming through now though...moral of the story is Self Love!! You really do need to start with that..always.I've found talking therapy so so helpful,maybe consider seeing someone impartial so you can explore yourself and what needs work.You will only attract the love you yearn for if you first learn to truly love yourself.Please seek some counseling.Sending loving, positive and healing thoughts your way.BlessingsGem x
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04/29/16 10:47:41PM
220 posts

Just a thought


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I'm sorry you've lost two such important people. I'm glad its not just me who thinks these things...I've been driving myself mad with this one!I get guidance from my Nana who passed when I was 7 (I'm now 37) so you'd figure she would have reincarnated by now...maybe she has...maybe her soul visits when she's asleep in her new life?? Or maybe she had no karma left? Or maybe she's in spirit with her own group of guides...learning more before reincarnating again and time just isn't'a thing' spirit side. I suppose our loved ones guidance lives inside us always..but if you have visitation (like I occasionally do with my Nana) via extremely lucid dreams, waking to smells or candles relighting after hours of being blown out...then all we can do I suppose is be thankful we have that and trust in it. I hope that's the situation I find myself in once my mum passes I'd just be soooo thankful to have her still there but in a new capacity. Xx
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04/29/16 10:33:01PM
220 posts

Just a thought


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I've asked around a bit in the spiritual community. Its hard because I'm currently nearing the end of my Akishic Records/Soul Realignment course and although part of that is tapping into past lives on behalf of clients to find when choices affecting them at soul level occurred..we don't go into this specific question..and are also discouraged from reading for ourselves or close family (because our ego will have strong veiws which could skew accuracy).So I emailed a blogger who's posts I read, he feels that as time is a concept for 3d its possible that our loved ones exist in more than one dimension and so their soul would also be possibly able to have a new life experience here on earth or elsewhere but still guide people from another plane .It gave me food for thought and had similarities to things I'd already pondered.Personally I believe a soul goes through a readjustment period and the time that takes could be years in earth years, I also know two living people can be connected despite miles of distance in between.. So anything is possible.I suppose my mums love and guidance exists within me now and always has..whether she becomes my angel/guide or not I won't have the 'physical' side of things..and I'll grieve for that..I already am at the thought of it and she's not going anywhere for a couple of years yet (hopefully).I've told her I expect a haunting of epic proportions once she's able. Xx
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@gem
04/29/16 12:47:19PM
220 posts

Views On LGBT+ In The Spiritual Community


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First off to me ...love is love..and all love is a beautiful thing.I've got two cousins who are lesbian and I've had many gay male friends through the years.One of my cousins is in a long term committed relationship. The other is quite reclusive.My male gay friends through the years have evolved.. Like we all do. I knew them when they we're virgins. They knew they were gay but fearful of telling family (particularly their father's). One used to confide his fears about sex and relationships. Eventually like any of us they faced their fears...maybe were slightly fickle inn those younger years.Most are now in their 30s and in committed relationships.One thing I do know is those boys were judged when seen out in dance clubs etc being very flirtatious... Only those doing the judging didn't know they were virgins at that time..frightened of what sex would be like.I think at any given time we're all just trying to figure ourselves out..sometimes people do that by playing a role that fits how they identify themselves at the time. Think most of us lgbt or not have done that at points in our lives :)Ahhh but love...its a wonderful thing even when it hurts xx
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04/28/16 12:35:19AM
220 posts

Just a thought


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I'd ask, if you are reincarnated is the soul still able to be a guide/guardian angel to special people/family from the past life?The reason is because I know I'm losing my Mun in the next few years to cancer and because I believe in reincarnation I fear not having her there for me sprit side.It's selfish really, but that would be my question.BlessingsGem x
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04/26/16 11:38:02PM
220 posts

Why do I feel like I'm not an empath anymore!?


Empath

I agree with Ren, I get this way when ungrounded too. I function better in all ways when I practice plenty of self care.For me that's daily meditation usually in a bath of Epsom salts with essential oils... Or if no time for that I meditate in bed before sleep.When things are particularly stressful or I notice I'm 'snappy' I need to make time for things like mindfulness colouring books or get stuck into other creative activities that give me pleasure. I usually sage smudge myself and surroundings when I get like this too and try get out in nature..water and trees being my favourite.Don't be too hard on yourself... Sometimes the more we fight something the longer it stays around. Try kindly telling yourself 'OK so I'm not feeling myself right now..I accept that but have faith it'll pass' its hard, I know because I've recently been where you are after some devastating news and tried all the things I'm suggesting to you...and got frustrated when it didn't immediately work. I continued though and it did pass eventually.BlessingsGem x
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04/09/16 02:28:55AM
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Anyone feel comfortable with discussing Empaths in the BDSM community?


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Hi, I have no experience in this arena but what comes to mind is opposites, yin & yang?
There is light and dark in us all and we are supposed to face the darker aspects of ourselves in order to progress/evolve.

Also its well documented Empaths are drawn to Narcissistic personality types...is it possible this is a place for them to test these things..unknowingly or not? I've never watched the movie you mentioned (I suffered sexual abuse as a teenager so struggle to watch certain content)..but from what I hear there are 'safe words' so I'm presuming there are reputatable places one can go to explore this side of things and be relatively safe?

Maybe these unrealised empaths are actually doing work on these aspects of themselves...exploring and coming to understand themselfs..or possibly even working through past trauma in what's perceived by them to be a safe place? (Not all abuse victims react as I did...with aversion issues etc).

These are just what comes to mind.

Blessings
Gem x
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@gem
04/08/16 02:20:46AM
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What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

I could feel the love of my parents whilst writing it out...big blanket of love.I don't think it crossed their minds as in 'Empath' I think they both always (still do) believe there is more to what most here can comprehend. There were times where they could see I couldn't handle people or situations..they tried to give me strength and advice on how to 'toughen up' or 'no care so much' I know they often worried about me being taken advantage of because of my open mindedness and kindness.They always helped put me back together though...and in time instead of trying to toughen me up, they tried to focus me (especially mum) on self care, self love and on accepting I'm OK as I am. To not bother trying to fit in with those who saw my sensitivity as a weakness.I have a 3yr old who is showing signs of picking up heavily on moods of those in our home. Sometimes he talks about seeing things in his bedroom or outside the window. He has an affinity with two of my crystals and places them on himself if hurt or cuddles them if sad. I'll try to nurture this without putting my own belief system on him.My life has been turned upside down and inside out the last two years..and I believe this is because I'd drifted into trying to fit into a path that wasn't right for me. I was unknowingly denying my soul purpose...so the universe shone lights in all manner of places until I took action!My family can see the change in me..that I'm no longer denying these parts of myself and although they don't understand it all , they are happy for me.BlessingsGem x
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04/07/16 10:04:06AM
220 posts

Super Hot Feet and Hands - Help?


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Hi Kaitlyn :)Not sure about the feet but hands I can identify with. I would get hot fuzzy feeling hands when worried about someone. More recently since achieving my 1st Degree Reiki its become really intense. So quite possibly it's to do with being/becoming a healer.Feet wise the only thing I get is pulsating through them when using visualisation for grounding.Sounds like you've had a bit of a rough time? I hope you're practising plenty of self care!BlessingsGem x
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04/07/16 12:33:01AM
220 posts

Does anyone feel their empathic sensitivity is getting stronger with age


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I'm also 37 and have a number of conditions affecting me neurologically so I totally understand the worry of where will I be when I'm 60/70. Its hard coping with illness and being an Empath!
I don't bring spirits home but I do isolate myself due to getting too overloaded when I go out..as well as extra physical pain if I do too much walking.
I used to berate myself for liking to have too much time alone.. Now I just accept it's what I need to be able to function for myself and my immediate family. I'm no use to anyone if I allow myself to burn out.
I have visitations but its from past friends and family and it's comforting.

I've never experienced what you describe so it's hard to help. We all have slightly different spiritual beliefs... I'm presuming you've requested these spirits leave you whilst sage smudging? In a very clear and firm way? Asked your guides and angels to protect you and keep them out of your energy field? Sometimes our vibrational state can attract spirits in a similar vibration...so if you are very sad/angry etc for a prolonged time (maybe because of your illness or some other personal matter) its possible you've inadvertently attracted these spirits. If that's the case I'd work hard on meditation daily to find the root cause of any negative emotions within you...any past traumas and allow yourself to feel and acknowledge the emotions of it...then consciously release them. Surround yourself with healing white light and be conscious of trying to be in positive vibrations. They shouldn't be able to penetrate your energy field if its one of love, light, gratitude etc. Hard I know...and nobody can keep it up all the time, it might be worth a try though so you can get some respite from these occurances.

Blessings
Gem x
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@gem
04/07/16 12:02:37AM
220 posts

What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

Hi, I also feel I've always been this way. I have had a number of traumatic experiences which I feel led me to probe into things and ultimately it led me here and now I'm developing more quickly.My childhood was wonderful though, extremely loving and kind parents who always put us first and wrapped us in love...still do.I've always been labeled'sensitive' from being little.My mum took the time to show me morning dew on cobwebs as a tot..I've never forgotten the beauty in nature.I think it was being so sensitive that got me into some of the traumatic experiences. I was too trusting and wanted to fix/help and share the pain of others. I gave my heart and energy to easily to anyone in pain. I truly couldn't comprehend nastiness and it hurt my soul.I always knew there was more because my Nana came to me the night before her funeral when I was 7 so although I didn't understand I was an empath, I did know there was more than we experience here on Earth. I was always drawn to the spiritual.BlessingsGem x
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@gem
04/05/16 12:46:09AM
220 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


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Oops replied to KitKat instead of you Hayley lol...more coffee needed stat!! X
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@gem
04/05/16 12:44:42AM
220 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

I relate so much, it was a female manager that led me to a nervous breakdown.. staff turnover in our department was high due to this woman. I can't put myself in that situation again. It taught me what I can and can't cope with. A shame though as I truly loved helping the kids I worked with.Writing children's books sounds wonderful, creative and happy :) have you tried to get any published yet?My brother is like us...he's currently trying a huge shift in career also due to burnout. He said he thinks he's got at least 5 more types of career in him yet lol! I don't think you have to conform to 'job for life' anymore... Its pretty impossible anyway in today's work climate.Do what makes you tick...that's what living is about follow the dreams that resonate most! Believe in yourself. I'd love the read one of your children's books..I bet they are amazing :)BlessingsGem x
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04/04/16 03:11:14AM
220 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

Hi, I'm im the North West but happy to inbox and chat if you'd like?I too have had varied careers ranging from retail to working with disabled children in mainstream education.I got career burnout really bad. I didn't know I was an Empath but did know I couldn't cope in toxic work environments.Through my process of awakening, healing and soul searching I've found my strengths and for me I need to work for myself. From home so I can cater my need for peace. I'm in the process of setting up an Etsy shop selling my organic skincare products etc, I'm qualified Reiki 1 and looking forward to Reiki 2 in a couple of months and also doing my online Soul Realignment (Akashic Records) course.I've taken a lot on but they are all in line with my soul..I have no doubts at all about that and am getting a lot of synchronicity in my life now I've made these changes in direction.What sort of writing do you enjoy? Never worry about what other people's opinions are..this is your life not theirs.L&LGem x
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@gem
04/03/16 03:24:05AM
220 posts

to feel or not to feel?


Empath

It's worth a try, I'll give it a go during meditation. Thanks :)
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