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Kit Kat
@kit-kat
04/04/16 08:28:30PM
230 posts

What do empaths do for a living?


Empath

That's a great word: multipotentialite :) Pretty much describes me as well! Maybe we're on the same wavelength. I'm interested in writing children's books too! But I also love reading, editing, drawing, painting, beadwork, playing instruments, singing, nutritional advising, traveling, photography...etc etc etc. lol

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/23/16 11:00:41PM
230 posts

Are you a Heyoka Empath


Empath

lol that's exactly what I was thinking!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/22/16 07:37:01PM
230 posts

Are you a Heyoka Empath


Empath

Wow, that's amazing!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/17/16 11:38:15PM
230 posts

Advice on the Toxic Relationship of an Empath and an Emotional Manipulator


Empath

Thanks! Those are great tips! I hope your situation continues to improve as well <3

And I think your child will have it made since you're so aware of what abuse looks/feels like :) We need more parents in the world who can stop patterns of abuse...

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/17/16 11:31:05PM
230 posts

Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too


Empath

Yeah it sounds like we have similar views on what "it" is :) Also, similar to you, religion has definitely shaped my values (e.g. no sex before marriage), however -and this might just be hope- I think I would still follow a code just as strict without religion, not just cause I know it's right, but because I feel it's right, if you know what I mean..

That's funny about your experience in Morocco - reminds me of myself! Anyway, I agree that others will realize our abilities if we don't hide them :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/17/16 11:24:34PM
230 posts

Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too


Empath

Wise words Rene :) to be "IT." I love that philosophy

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/17/16 04:54:01PM
230 posts

Advice on the Toxic Relationship of an Empath and an Emotional Manipulator


Empath

Wow, those experiences you've had with the people you've dated sound pretty rough! Sorry to hear about that <3 I'm not sure why we're such magnets for emotional abuse. It seems like you know a lot more than me about these things :) I haven't researched it as much, but I'm always curious.

I'd be lying if I said my emotions haven't been significantly manipulated throughout my life, however I can't really go in depth about it. My sister and I are working toward a healthier lifestyle: we're going to do our best to not "play along." That's one of the best tactics I know of for right now - Keep your cool, keep your dignity, and don't cry, even when they're saying the most hurtful things. Then they don't get that "winning" feeling as much, as well as that "coming back together" feeling that comes with a resolution.

My situation is definitely not anywhere near as bad as it could be.. But emotional abuse really is a terrible cycle. I hope maybe something I said might help!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/17/16 04:44:51PM
230 posts

Dumping ground of emotions


Empath

Yep, I agree. That's happening right now actually :/ I hate being used... They don't necessarily call me dramatic, but blame is somehow turned on me, and "winning" becomes more important than "resolution." Hang in there <3 Abusers have typically been abused, which is good to remember..

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/16/16 07:53:06PM
230 posts

Compassion


Empath

Yes, "BEING" is the way to live :) Not necessarily "doing." I wish more people looked at life this way...

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/16/16 07:51:42PM
230 posts

Compassion


Empath

Sorry this reply is late, however, I just have to agree with you! :) For many years I've have felt a connection with the even just the word "compassion," and I've sought compassion from others, but especially tried to give it.

To me, compassion is love and mercy. And I know you're right that the world is always in need of more love and mercy. I believe that understanding people with such depth is what brings us so much compassion..

Trevor's article, "Thriving as an Empath," answered a bunch of my questions, which were similar to yours - "are we meant to live a life of pain?" I think it's amazing that letting light and positive energy flow through us to others can actually protect us from all the pain! This always works for me when I try it...

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/16/16 07:39:01PM
230 posts

Interesting video & article


Empath

Thanks! I especially like the part of the article that talks about how being empaths is our natural state of being. I believe that, too.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/16/16 07:34:01PM
230 posts

The fault in our stars


Empath

Such a heartbreakingly good movie :) You're probably right about an empath's reaction to having cancer - I would probably do the same thing... But I hadn't imagined that before, so I think it's really interesting.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/14/16 05:20:17PM
230 posts

Finding Love as a Male Empath but definitely want responses from the Women here too


Empath

Interesting.... I'm just curious - do your moral standards come from religious beliefs, an intrinsic aspect of your belief system, or something else?

Where I fit in is "single and picky as heck." lol. I sort of get what you mean by the "IT" factor. I'm not sure if it's different for everyone, but I use my abilities to determine the 'depth' of a person's soul, so I can tell if they're as deep as I am. It's kind of hard to explain :)

The one time I connected with someone who I thought was as deep as me, it was an illusion. I was reflecting his "love" (not love, just hard to find a better word) back at him which he liked, and I was also projecting who I wanted him to be onto him, which made me think I liked him. It took some time apart to wake me up to what was happening!

I wish I had advice. I don't know - it's tricky. But one of the best ways to attract the person you're really wanting to be with is to love yourself. One way to tell if you've found the right person is to see if you love yourself more when you're around them. That is, of course, only possible if you're being true to who you are. It's all too easy for us as empaths to change who we are based on who we're with.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/14/16 04:45:46PM
230 posts

Great article for Empaths


Empath

Thanks for sharing! That's a cool article :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/07/16 10:53:52AM
230 posts

Hello, I'm new to the forum.


Empath

Welcome to the EC :) I agree that loving yourself is a great way to protect yourself from others' energies. I'm glad we have this place to discuss how we can do that.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
03/05/16 01:02:15PM
230 posts

Being an Empath is truly a gift :)


Empath

Anytime! Hope you have a beautiful weekend, too <3 Namaste :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/29/16 05:35:33PM
230 posts

Anxiety, super sensitivity, high energy...oh my!


Empath

Hi Lotusfly,

Those are really good tips for anxiety! :) I was just having anxiety about an hour ago. Only with me it feels like I'm suffocating :/ It's hard to describe, but I also have the feeling like my body has been plugged into an electrical socket.

Riding the wave is actually how my Mom has taught me to make it through pain and terrible symptoms, so I like how you said it that way. Believing that it will go away is powerful!

Kitkat

P.s. A tip I've heard for anxiety is to do "heart centered breathing," where you imagine your breath coming in through your heart and out through your abdomen. It has helped a little, because one of the major causes/symptoms of anxiety is having an irregular heartbeat.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/29/16 05:30:14PM
230 posts

About physical pain


Empath

Hi Lilly,

From what I've read, most empaths are HSPs, so this is a pretty good place for this question, I think :) I can relate to what you said about how emotional pain turned into physical pain for you.

Empaths who aren't highly sensitive might not understand this quite as much, but I'm highly sensitive, and I think that has dramatically effected my health. Guilt causes pain for me (in addition to being around others who are suffering), so I've had pain throughout my life in different ways. It wasn't as bad as yours sounds like it was, but it was still really hard.

The way I like to describe being an HSP is "having a heightened nervous system." It's like you said - too much noise, and too much going on can be really overwhelming. Just recently I was having so much anxiety from hearing my sister doing the dishes that I had to go outside and lay down. :/

That's terrible that you had to go through all that! I hope you're in a better place in your life now.

We really are too sensitive for the world a lot of the time :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/29/16 05:21:14PM
230 posts

Being an Empath is truly a gift :)


Empath

Hi Daydra!

This is a really great post :) I agree with you that everyone has "empathic" potential, but that a lot of people don't know it or understand it. Also, it's interesting how highly sensitive people tend to be more empathic than those who aren't as sensitive. I think this is because we see so much that other's don't see, and we have the gift of being able to interpret this extra info. in lots of really amazing ways. I read others' body language without trying to, for example.

I also agree with what you said about controlling emotions. It does take a lot of practice, but it's worth it!

You are inspiring to me <3

-Kitkat

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/29/16 05:13:43PM
230 posts



Welcome to the EC! "Seeing the world differently" describes being an empath very well in my opinion :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/29/16 05:12:14PM
230 posts

my first post


Empath

Welcome to the EC :) You're definitely in the right place!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/01/16 07:25:54PM
230 posts

Differentiating Your Feelings from Others


Empath

It is tough to figure that out... For me, I like to compare being alone with being with someone, in order to determine what their energy feels like or how it effects me. Most of the time it feels the best (physically and emotionally) for me to be alone, but there are certain times when I'm built up by the energies of others. e.g. laughing with someone :)

A good positive affirmation for you: "I am strong, inside and out."

The times when I tell myself I'm weak or "can't protect myself" are the times when I feel most vulnerable to other people and the world.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/01/16 07:18:01PM
230 posts

I don't know who/what I am? No spiritual connection / Confused


Empath

I know a lot of people have replied, but I just want to be another voice telling you you're not alone :) There are SO many times I want to go home, and yet I live at home, too...

Thankfully I have a strong belief that there is a God, and that we can return to Him after our lives on earth. It's this truth that really has set me free. And I know that we'll really be home in His kingdom.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/01/16 07:09:06PM
230 posts

Alone


Empath

Travis,

Sorry to hear what you're going through. I can relate so much to what you replied to Rene' about people wanting you around and then rejecting you. That happens to me a lot, too! On the one hand I do feel like that person that everyone wants to confide in (one of the empath traits), and on the other hand, having long-lasting, close relationships seems is such a challenge.

Maybe they see you as a solitary person? I feel like a solitary person all the time, but I try to push myself to show them (at least some of) the light that I have, so that it won't be all used up in the time I'm alone. I think for us it's hard to feel assertive, but I'm learning that the world requires assertiveness.

Hope things get better soon,

K

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/01/16 07:02:07PM
230 posts



Good vibes to you :) Hope all goes well!


updated by @kit-kat: 03/08/17 09:50:37PM
Kit Kat
@kit-kat
02/01/16 06:53:48PM
230 posts

More of a curse then a gift. Any advice?


Empath

I think the feeling that this is also a gift comes when you figure out how to use your abilities in everyday life, to help people. Who is more understanding than us? :) Who is more compassionate?

Not everyone has such depth of consciousness, like we do... That does mean that we are extra conscious of the pain and sadness, true. But we're also extra conscious of the happiness, fun, laughter, fulfillment, and beauty of life - especially as we work to bring this kind of light into our lives.

Starting fresh is always good! I love how it's possible to start fresh at any moment. My advice to you is to look for the things that you can change in your life in order to bring more light into it. This really could be anything. I think if you do this, you will be able to see the good in the world far more. "The world is a mirror" is one of my favorite concepts, because of how true it is.

Lastly, you don't have to help everyone to fulfill a meaningful purpose. Helping one person is excellent, even if it is only yourself.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/29/15 08:21:26PM
230 posts

Connection to people


Empath

Based on my experiences, I think they might be signs of that.. I'm of course not an expert on this stuff, but I find that this happens when I love someone - even just subconsciously. As empaths we process a ton of information and feelings constantly in our subconsciousnesses (if that's a word :) and so in a lot of ways we let our subconscious minds control us, since lots of our empathic abilities work this way.

It's a pretty unusual way of seeing the world, from what I understand, but it's one of those things that separates us from someone who isn't an empath - they don't have quite as much going on subconsciously as we do.

Anyway, maybe you love this person subconsciously?

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/29/15 07:23:19PM
230 posts

Best Tips or Stories for/of Self Discovery?


Empath

Hi Christina,

That sounds like a good retreat! :)

This year has been one of self-discovery for me, too...

Some of my experiences:

Growing up I really enjoyed being alone, and I thought everyone loved it as much as me, but then sometimes my sister would feel rejected when I took time alone because I wasn't spending it with her. So I felt guilty about that, and tried to be more like everyone else.

But I gradually discovered that not everyone experienced the world the way I did, and I couldn't escape the feeling that I was somehow "different" from everyone else, in a way that didn't make sense to me. It was something about my depth of consciousness and sensitivity - I had such a high awareness of others and their feelings and even thoughts. Once in awhile someone noticed that I was different, but they only seemed to notice certain specific attributes, and then they seemed to forget about those things later on.

When I heard about highly sensitive people, I felt like I had the answer! Almost every one of the traits of highly sensitive people rang true for me... but.. it didn't feel like enough. It didn't explain how I was so affected by other people, how I understood their intentions so well, how I could figure out what they wanted and how to give it to them.. or how I became absorbed with making other people happy, so that I could be happy, too.

I felt guilty for so many things growing up. Since I have such a huge database of information about my family members particularly I felt guilty especially when I did something that someone didn't like, even though lots of my understanding is in my subconscious mind.

For example, one Christmas my grandma gave me a gift but said not to open it until she was there to watch me open it. I remember this day as if it happened last year practically. I forgot what she has said, and I opened it without her. Then when she came back I thanked her for the dress and told her I loved it, but she said "I told you to wait until I got back." It was very cold, like a shot to the heart.

There were very few times when I felt like I had really disappointed my grandma like that -, since I was so clever with not making mistakes and we had such a good relationship, but that only made the experience hurt worse somehow... In the end, though, it remains one of the clearest memories I have that show me I've been empathic at least most of my life.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/29/15 06:44:46PM
230 posts

Connection to people


Empath

Yeah, I can relate to that... I can usually figure out the reason though :) Is it because you love them?

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/23/15 06:00:14PM
230 posts



So true! :)


updated by @kit-kat: 02/02/17 09:36:24AM
Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/23/15 05:55:02PM
230 posts

Anyone else identify?


Empath

You wrote, "I intuitively place myself in another' shoes without second thought..." I relate to this more than I can express.

And I also relate to almost everything that you said :)

I must admit that I don't confront these situations as well as I wish I did. But I think combining validation of the other person's feelings with your own thoughts and opinions is the best way to go.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/15/15 10:52:20PM
230 posts

Thinking


Empath

This happens to me, too! I'm curious if there's a name... I guess I call it "reading people." :) We're so understanding of the way that others' minds work that we can predict what they're going to think and say. I had this happen just a couple weeks ago when I was talking to my sister, and she thought it was crazy because it was an unusual word that she didn't even like, but one she just settled on because she couldn't think of another description in the moment.. :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/15/15 10:43:37PM
230 posts

Exploring Who I am


Empath

Thanks for your post... I haven't been on here in awhile, but I really do agree that we can help each other with the understanding we innately have.

And it's not wrong to have such mixed feelings about your gift, I don't think. Just remember that everything happens for a reason and that there are amazing things that you can do with your abilities! We can help people so much when we look for the opportunities.

There's a reason you're an empath - and you do deserve it!

I can especially relate to what you said about exploring who you are and wanting to know it all. I think it's easy for us as empaths to have more of a "long distance relationship" with ourselves, since we're so caught up in the worlds and feelings of others. But I know the more we learn about ourselves the happier and more capable we will be :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
11/15/15 10:33:47PM
230 posts

My head hurts


Empath

I sometimes have pain.. but not always headaches - just some kind of pain. I've heard it called "sympathy pain" but I don't think it is very harmful. Maybe over time it could cause problems? Sorry I can't help more with that. I guess the main thing I would suggest is actually acceptance, as odd as it sounds:

When you really accept that this person going through their depression for a reason, and in so doing separate yourself from their suffering, it can actually lift the physical burden of their suffering that you're body has been carrying.

Acceptance has been helping me with a lot of my health problems, since I've become very afraid of my symptoms, and so when I start to feel them, I begin to panic unless I tell myself "This is okay, to be feeling this right now. And for now I need to believe that everything will be alright" :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
10/25/15 10:54:15AM
230 posts

Irrational fear sparked by empathy


Empath

That's so sad... <3 I hope that you can heal from this experience, and feel better. You're right, we feel SO much.. it's hard to process all the feelings. But at least we can know that we are different in a good way :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
10/25/15 10:49:59AM
230 posts

New to this Group


Empath

Welcome to the EC :) I hope you find what you need here. That's interesting about the castle, and the spirit following you! And it's amazing to be protected...

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
10/17/15 11:01:58AM
230 posts



That's so true! I think you're right that people are afraid of the truth about themselves and since we're so "reflective" of others when we're communicating with them, this can cause them to feel uncomfortable.

From this one site I read that one of the empath traits is:

  • Finding it difficult to fully be present to yourself and your own feelings when conversing with other people. This is because youre busy exploring their aura and responses to life not your own.

When I read this, I realized that I do this all the time :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
10/17/15 10:58:21AM
230 posts



That's a really interesting thought - to consider how people would react. I think they would appreciate the explanation for why we're so different :)

I was talking to my sister yesterday and she said she knew I was different as we were growing up, but she didn't know what it was.

You're probably right that people feel intimidated by us, but I think that projecting happiness and acceptance is the best way to fight against that... You're so right that people being intimidated is "their issue"... I need to look at it like that more, I think, because I tend to hold myself responsible for the feelings of others still.

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/27/15 10:36:15PM
230 posts

Seeking Calgary Empaths, Intuitives, and lightworkers


Empath

Sorry I'm not from Calgary, but I wanted to say that's a cool picture!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/22/15 07:07:32PM
230 posts

Needing Guidance


Empath

You're welcome! :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/21/15 12:42:41PM
230 posts

a simple drawing


Arts

Drawing is so fun...


updated by @kit-kat: 03/04/17 08:38:32AM
Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/21/15 11:39:25AM
230 posts



Thank you for replying :) I definitely agree that positive thinking attracts positive things - that's a great way of saying it. I don't know if you know of Louise L. Hay, but she's a self-help author and healer, and I know she would definitely agree with you. Anyway, it gives me hope to hear how you've overcome... Getting to a place where we can love our lives is so important!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/19/15 09:31:23AM
230 posts

What are your abilities? How to you control them?


Empath

Good question!

My empath abilities:

-I'm very perceptive and sensitive to other people's emotions, thoughts, intentions, dreams, their "inner worlds" basically

-I'm really sensitive to colors, and very perceptive of how they effect human emotion

-My nervous system is highly sensitive, so you could say I'm a "highly sensitive person" and I am sensitive to others' energies, so I need a certain amount of time alone every day

-I have trouble making eye contact with people because I feel like I'm staring into someone's soul when I look them in the eyes

-It's easy for me to make connections with people, because I feel like I know them, even before I've met them or talked to them much

I control my abilities by making sure I have enough time alone to "recharge," by getting enough sleep every night, by eating well (my abilities are much more intense when I'm not healthy... when I'm doing good physically my nervous system is much more able to process all the info. that floods in every day), and lots of other things..

I also try to keep myself away from people with "toxic" energy (people like narcissists..etc.). What I'm working on right now is setting boundaries for my family members, so that they know more about what I need. Most of my life I've pushed my own needs aside, but recently I've found out that doing that has only added to pent up emotions inside of me. I've also been asking others what they want/need, thus taking the pressure off myself to "read their minds." 'Cause that's what I try to do all the time! I'm fairly good at it, but it can be stressful.

I also have a lot of different things that I do to control the "side effects" that I experience :) (like depression and anxiety). But in general, this article,Thriving as an Empathhas helped me a lot.

Hope this helps!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/19/15 09:06:07AM
230 posts



So how did you stop analyzing everything? I do that ALL the time.. lol

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/18/15 12:51:35PM
230 posts

New Moon on sunday


Empath

Thanks! It's been at least a little better! Not quite so depressed anymore... That's great to hear things are back to normal for you! Life really has its ups and downs..

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/18/15 12:49:20PM
230 posts

My soul cannot Rest...are You tired too?


Empath

You're welcome <3 ...that sounds so rough! It's my belief that medication makes lots of health problems worse, but if that's the only thing that works... then I guess it might be the right answer. I hope things get better for you soon!

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/17/15 11:15:21PM
230 posts

Need help, new to this.


Empath

Hi Mouse,

I can really relate to what you wrote.. I'm also having to interact with lots of new people lately, and it's been wearing me down.

You're not alone! Having aches and pains are totally normal for people like us, but it is really hard to not feel good so often, and to have so much more stress than is healthy. Here are some things that I do, that help me:

-Distance yourself from others when possible. Maybe there's a more secluded place at the library that you can work, or a place besides the library that has better energies. From my experience, the atmosphere of public libraries usually lends itself to negative energy, especially in the computer areas :) Not sure why...

-Make sure your breathing is good. Breathe in positive energy (into your abdomen), and breathe out the negative energy (from your abdomen) *make sure your abdomen expands when you breathe, not your chest, and it will make a big difference

-Make positive changes in the other areas of your life that you can. It sounds like you have a LOT going on at once! Change in general really weighs on me, too. But I find that if I give myself the things that I need, in addition to my work and the other (hard) things that are necessary, I feel better and am more able to cope. Some examples are: time alone, time in nature, exercise, healthy food, enough sleep, and time to unwind before bed (I take at least an hour every night to do something that I want to do, whether that's watching a movie or replying to posts on here.. anything relaxing really helps)

*Oh and lastly, a note about sleep. It's my knowledge that for empaths especially, sleep is vital, because our nervous systems are way more sensitive than average and they take in a vast amount of information every day, so without at least 8 hours of sleep a night, we are not giving our bodies nearly enough time to recharge. I've found that some days I really need a nap, as well :)

Kit Kat
@kit-kat
09/17/15 10:51:05PM
230 posts

My soul cannot Rest...are You tired too?


Empath

Wow, I'm really sorry that you only get sleep every few days... that sounds so hard! I can't say I've struggled with this much, but here are some things that I know of that might help:

-When you go to bed, try the "zip up" method. Zip up an imaginary "pouch" around yourself, to block out all other energies

-Meditation (as Sandie suggested)

-Don't eat anything before bed, especially not anything sugary or high in protein

-Don't use technology for at least 30 minutes before trying to fall asleep

-Keep your work space separate from where you sleep

-Try progressive relaxation and visualization techniques (you can find these online)

-Sometimes when I can't sleep I try to "watch" a movie in my mind, and remember as much of it as I can :) This usually makes me tired, keeps me entertained, and distracts me really well from stress and negative energy

-Make sure you're the right temperature; our body temperatures naturally need to drop a little when we fall asleep, so if your bed is really warm, that might be a problem..

-Determine the things that are most on your mind, the things that bother you the most, and make a list of them. Then make plans for what you can do to make them better, and then when they come into your mind as you're trying to sleep, tell yourself that you "have them covered" (that you already have plans for what to do)

-Write in a journal or read a book before bed. Semi-boring books work especially well :)

-Take a warm bath or shower before bed to relax your muscles

-You could also try prayer. As odd as it sounds, this is one of my favorites! It helps me so much..

Anyway, I hope these might help a little. They probably won't work right away, but maybe they can help you get a healthy sleep routine going again. Best of luck!

 
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