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misscr
@misscr
11/05/15 09:01:01AM
3 posts

A Narcissist walks into my house on Sunday and


Empath

I had a 'friend' many years ago who, looking back, was a narcissist. At the time, I had no idea how manipulative she was being, or how much of an effect it was having on me. If I argued with her, she made it known that she was displeased - and for a while I would do anything to stop her being irritated with me or berating me for something she disproved of. And she pretty much examined every aspect of my life; if there was some part of my life she wasn't involved in, she forced me to include her.I always told myself that, at heart, she was a good person. I was looking for the spark of kindness and sweetness in her, and trying to cling on to it even as she hurt me.

I've since realised that losing her friendship - and better, standing the hell up to her, was one of the best things I ever did. I wish her health and happiness wherever she is - but I know I'm better off without her. It was like, in her opinion, I couldn't have any emotion that wasn't completely in line with her opinion.

The final straw came over a ridiculous argument that shouldn't have been too much of a deal - but it was the waves of coldness that came off her when I'm standing there, crying (unfortunately I cry when I'm angry as well as upset,) and trying to explain to her that she was being completely unfair and that family commitments are important, and I couldn't just drop them at the last minute. It was like knowing, finally, that she didn't care about me at all - and that, sadly, the sweet girl she had been at age 12 had completely disappeared into her narcissism by age 16-ish.

I suppose the fact that our friends had been flaking away from her for years should've been a clue - but she was exceptionally good at playing the injured party, and ensuring I never managed to get the full story out of anyone. She had no right to be like that with any of us - and, worse, she made me ashamed of my feelings and, to some extent myself; something which I'm still struggling with, years later. Don't let anyone treat you like this. You have the right to feel whatever you feel - no matter what anyone else says.

I apologise for the rant, but I've never really felt able to explain this to anybody - which, I guess, is what happened to the other girls who broke their friendship with her too.

misscr
@misscr
07/02/15 03:00:20AM
3 posts

Does the colour of are eyes tell anything about empath types?


Empath

Not sure whether I'm an empath (still trying to figure it out) but I have central heterochromia - this is a genetic condition where there is a ring of brown around my pupil (at the centre of the iris) but the rest of my eyes are a greeny-y blue

misscr
@misscr
07/02/15 02:55:09AM
3 posts

Overwhelming emotions


Empath

If you think you might have depression/are having suicidal thoughts - get help. Go to a doctor, honestly, there's nothing more important than your mental health. It shows huge strength to go through what you're feeling, and strength to ask for help. My thoughts are with you, you are worth it, you are special, even if sometimes it doesn't feel like it. Please please please get help and look after yourself!