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LazyCat
@lazycat
08/22/15 02:54:54PM
4 posts

It's almost impossible to be selfish


Empath

I have found i'm really struggling with myself as of lately. Growing up I've been labeled a lot of things.. I was always the motherhen with my siblings (i'm the oldest of 8), I was always the D.D in high school with my group of friends because I didn't want any of them to die or to kill someone else just because they didn't have a D.D. I've been told I have an old soul just because i have a calming effect on EVERYONE. I've been told I'm a good listener because I can listen to other people and not judge, not go out and gossip, I can keep a secret. Anyway, I think i've always been an empath, but have just recently really started looking into it. At first I didn't equate my depression with it, I mean how can I be depressed when I'm making so many people happy. And it isn't me taking on their feelings (I don't think) because it's when I'm alone when I feel this sadness the most. I have trouble because every action and thought that I have is because of someone else. I do most of the things I do because I want others to be happy. Not that it doesn't make me happy either, it's just that it seems that I think about everyone else in my actions and no one thinks about me. I tell myself that my husband does, he buys me flowers for no reason, he takes me on dates and would lie down and die for me without even a hesitation or second thought. Hell he stays clean for me (and himself too). He is a wonderful husband/father, but he also suffers from anxiety. Which can make him put me on the back burner while his mind goes a hundred miles an hour on everything else in our lives... He is the fire and I am the water in this relationship. But it's not just him, it's everyone and everything. I can't seem to make myself be selfish, I'm sure other empaths suffer from this too. When you can actually feel the pain and discomfort you cause from being selfish, you tend to just stay away from that. It's just hard for me because while i have "friends", I don't have a best friend. You know that one girlfriend that could be your sister/wife. I have no one to call about my struggles.. but at the same time I feel like it's my fault. I stay away from social gatherings because i don't like going to the bar and drinking, but I don't go to friends houses because I don't have a sitter for my kids and therefore my husband can't come and I don't want to leave him home alone (even though he tells me to). I can't just call a friend and talk about it because afterwards I feel worse than I did before I called. All I can think about is that person didn't want to hear all that, they don't care not really. Because I know thats how people are no one cares about other people anymore. In a world full of self centeredness I feel like I stand alone making sure everyone else is happy. I know how I think is wrong and I just have to remember not every one thinks like me and no one does it on purpose, but how does one make noise to be noticed when I don't like making noise. And I most certainly HATE being the center of attention. On here I feel I can express these feelings because I feel like a majority of the people reading this know EXACTLY how I feel. I can't tell my husband I'm sad or down because he's been stressed out all day and hasn't told me i'm beautiful or hasn't just grabbed me up and kissed me. Or had me in his thoughts, it's my empath saying stop being selfish he suffers from anxiety and you can't stress him out more. He loves you above all other and would do anything for you, It's not his fault..... ha.. that seems to be my mantra with most people I can see why and how they feel that way.. so I say it's not their fault.. I guess i'm just thankful for a community like this because I'm sure someone knows how I feel


updated by @lazycat: 02/28/17 02:47:11AM
LazyCat
@lazycat
06/20/15 10:28:31PM
4 posts

unexplained feelings


Empath

Sammie your right about the feelings i get! It is something like static electricity and it was always very energizing. I would actually find myself volunteering to take care of those specific people because I knew I would get that feeling. and what is funny is that those people were people the other workers found "difficult" to take care of, but I find I have a huge amount of patience for people like that. I'm able to slow down to their pace and make them feel like they are my only priority. But I also find that in other parts of my life. I just have never felt that from other people like I have with my patients. Maybe I keep my walls up around other people? Thanks so much for the input!

LazyCat
@lazycat
06/17/15 09:19:42PM
4 posts

unexplained feelings


Empath

Thank you so much for the information, I'm looking into it right now.. and what I've found is very interesting

LazyCat
@lazycat
06/11/15 09:22:10PM
4 posts

unexplained feelings


Empath

So I am new here to this site and I am new to calling myself an empath. I was hoping someone here could help me with some sensations and feelings I have had. I work in the health field, for the past ten years I have taken care of the elderly. I love everything about it and I take it very seriously. There are a couple instances where I have had some strange feelings while taking care of my people. I was wondering if someone could help explain what I'm feeling and what it means? or why I am feeling that way? The feeling happens when I'm taking care of an elderly person. Helping them get washed up and ready in the mornings or getting ready for bed at night. But it was always the same people and it was always when I am assisting them. It starts as a tingly sensation at the top of my head and moves down my body almost like a weak current of electricity. It also gives me a sense of euphoria and I feel GREAT/ at ease while this happens. The tingling usually stays in my hands a while after I'm done taking care of that person but eventually fades. I could never just make this come on my own, It was only with certain people and it wasn't all the time. Anyone know what this could be?


updated by @lazycat: 04/12/17 11:18:45PM