I love your explaination GoodEnergy! You look at the down side of being ignored and shed some light on it, lol. The other side of the loneliness...I am married and live way too close to my husband's family. They are all (as described by many here with the same problem) coming around when there is something to be had, or when they need something, but if I call or text....ingnored. There was even a period where all of the step kids and their spouses boycotted me on FB. The reason why? They didn't like that I would say things to oppose their manipulations and hidden agendas (not enough time to go into all the details, but they are masters at playing this game with thier dad, he goes along) They would all want to come to the vacation house for all weekend get together, but I would say one family at a time. (Too many of them at one time wipes me out...like 4 different families at once. The last time was a disaster.) Or if I would mention for them to clean up after the kids. They had a problem with that so I was snubbed altogether. So basically when I excercise my boundaries, they rebel. So with that said, sometimes I entertain the idea of being alone would be much more satisfying than living a life around people that just want to use you for thier own benefit then toss you aside like trash.
that sounds like quite a stressful family life.... I try my best to live after the Buddhist Wisdom - 'No expectations, No disappointments'. I believe that we really only achieve 'free will' once we wake up (or some are born more awake), and free ourselves of a good chunk of negative energies. Till then most are just puppets of their (negative) emotions, thoughts, believes, etc. So when I get upset about someones actions, think they should know better, etc., etc. - I remind myself, that it is not them (their true individualized divine self) acting, but that they are acting out what their puppet masters want them to do.... The true divine part in them would never hurt or disrespect me, but that part is covered up with confused energies, that still have mostly the upper hand. Sure, I still react too, get upset, angry, annoyed etc. - but with that kind of thinking I can calm myself quicker, forgive and let go.....If they cannot do something today, I just have to send them more healing energies, or remain patient that past healing prayers come to fruition....And if sometimes it comes form all sides, I have no time to think stuff through, remind myself of my believes, and act out my reactions, I can forgive myself for that )