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Roxanne
@roxanne
04/25/16 01:58:33PM
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Is It Just Me Who Attracts Narcissists/ Sociopaths?


Empath

I have learned well from the narcissists in my life. Most importantly that life is too short to deal with that particular brand of crazy. As a healer-conscious person I spent most of my life thinking if I didn't try to help them I was not doing my best as a person of caring.
WRONG! -- On the other hand there is a 'range' of narcissistic abuse and disorder. The minute you know you are dealing with extreme range get as far away as you possibly can. It's about survival and self respect.
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow them to do to you.
I wish you luck. Find a nice boring guy. Narccissists tend to be charming and fun. But the quiet "boring' (for search of a better word) kind of guys always tend to be smart and loyal and super nice. We've been brainwashed into thinking 'flattery, charming and excitement' makes for a good catch. But in the end I'll take kindness and loyalty any day!

Roxanne
@roxanne
12/06/15 07:40:35AM
1,562 posts

Picking Up Others Depression


Empath

This is just a suggestion based on my own experience with empathing somebody else's depression, but pray for her. Send healing to her since she is your mirror it will come back to you. But it has been my experience that it takes time.
Or separate a little bit from her (on good terms) and surround yourself with joyful images, movies, maybe get your self one of those new funky little coloring books for adults. Just have fun and give peace a chance. ;-)

Roxanne
@roxanne
07/05/15 06:43:25AM
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Empath or something else?


Empath

social media makes it so hard to walk away from relationships that just don't work anymore. The other person's business somehow keeps flashing across your screen and draws you back into their drama, pulling scabs off a healing wound.
In this case, she also lives so close making it even harder. This isn't an easy suggestion, but just stop caring because that is her way in. Empaths also tend to feel they are being rude when they are asserting healthy boundaries. We need to forget all that self-sabatoging brain noise and just let go of our attachments to what they think or care about us.
If there is a way to visibly block her social media feed, because I would do that too. Good Luck reclaiming your personal space.

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/27/15 09:29:35PM
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So this is new. Any advice for a unique situation?


Empath

I'm sure you speak for many of us with your feelings. I certainly relate. I'm thinking maybe you just need to take a leap of faith. Let go of the old tapes in your head and follow your heart.
P.S.
Unless you are under 18. I would not advise anyone to meet someone from internet dating site without parental notification .... can't help it. I'm a mother. Old tapes still looping in my own head, lol.

Roxanne
@roxanne
05/29/15 12:46:10PM
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Love and Light to a beautiful soul. Bumping up the Love.

Roxanne
@roxanne
01/31/15 12:09:03PM
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Love & Light and everything bright to Ylang Ylang.


updated by @roxanne: 12/29/16 10:27:44PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
01/28/15 08:15:44AM
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Well, you definitely sound like a Highly Sensitive Person. But I also notice your username is Sofaloafa. (which I find very chuckle worthy). I too am a sofaloafa with similar symptoms. Makes me think. First, I'd like to say, rule out the physical: tingling in hands and feet + the sofaloafa factor could be a circulatory thing (which can also affect the brain and heighten senses).
I use to think I was lazy, but then I realized I am anything 'but' lazy. Therefore my major *slowdown* might have another origin. blood pooling (positive) evidence of lyme (positive) Rheumatoid arthritis (positive) and a few etc.s
My point is while we can really be blown away by the heightened senses that go along with some physical ailments. Make sure those physical ailments are ruled out or treated.
Also...treatment did not erase heightened senses. I have a theory once those doors are open...they stay open.
Good luck.
Oh, last but not least....if you have an electromagnetic reader, make sure it' not the wiring in your house. Stray voltage or whatever it's called.

Roxanne
@roxanne
12/13/14 08:11:12AM
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Ah the insomnia dilemma. I suffered from much the same for years. Part of it was because in the middle of the night the surrounding environment shuts down and my *quiet time* kicks in so in a way I believe I *wanted* to be awake. Just not so much when I had to get up early the next day. Another reason is fear. Fear of some impending threat, that no doubt had to do with being an empath. The fight or flight reflex tends to switch on easier than it switches off when you *feel* so much around you.
Medication was my choice when meditation did not work. Sometimes I cannot figure out WHAT is keeping me awake these days....I actually can predict insomnia just by the approaching full moon.
More recently I have used a Yogi *Breath of Fire* approach to stress relief. I've seen different ways people teach this, but my preferred way is to lie peacefully in bed and take full breath (belly must rise NOT chest) and then force it out until you can feel the belly sink back towards spine. This helped me get the blocked energy (stress/fear) out and improved overall relaxation.-- Do it 10 times..or however long you can. Don't judge by how it works immediately. I actually felt the benefits even more the next day. It is a commitment to better overall health...not just immediate gratification, although it has helped quickly too.
Also turning the lights off at a set time each night. Darkness helps the brain release melatonin.
I have no idea what your cause of insomnia is but I would try natural methods/ chammomile tea gentle lavender aroma's, meditation and reading. But if you HAVE to get up early and nothing else is working take your medication at the same time, don't wait until 3 a.m. to see if the *natural* methods will work. At the end of the day sleep deprivation -- the symptom of whatever is troubling you) becomes the cause of dis-ease that follows. So do whatever it takes. But nourish your body so the organs liver/kidney's can flush the medications out. Nurture your body/Nurture your soul....your mind will follow.
I wish you *sweet dreams*.


updated by @roxanne: 03/14/17 07:43:07PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
06/27/14 09:35:22AM
1,562 posts

Psychic Experiment 33


Psychic and Paranormal

Hey, Cheshire,
LOL.. yeah, I figure that ... my Ed way too old to be his son. haha

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/26/14 10:00:29PM
1,562 posts

Psychic Experiment 33


Psychic and Paranormal

LMAO ~ I know who it is and I laughed out loud because in America if you're over 50 the name Ed (which went through my head) def connects to his last name ~~~
But I will not say any more.

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/26/14 09:21:10PM
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A dark person


Psychic and Paranormal

Hey, LW....just flying through for old times sake. Always keep a warm place in my heart for EC. Thank you for kind words!!! <3

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/26/14 02:00:17PM
1,562 posts

Psychic Experiment 33


Psychic and Paranormal

Something about his chest is drawing my attention and making me feel a heaviness in my own chest. I believe this man has known loss/emotional pain. His mouth seems very familiar. His energy is about being strong and surviving. The name Ed went though my mind. But on second thought it may be because he reminds me of a tv character named Ed, sooooooo. Just throwing it out there.

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/26/14 02:31:20AM
1,562 posts

A dark person


Psychic and Paranormal

Remember also that some people are clouded by their *mood of the day*. It is possible this man just received terrible news or felt an utter betrayal.
Say a prayer for him and if you can, try to remember a day when your mood may have felt *black* by anger or betrayal. Did that mood pass?
Let the Universe know that you hope he finds his way back to peace.

Roxanne
@roxanne
11/07/13 11:10:02AM
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REQUEST FOR HEALING ENERGY -- AUNT BARBARA G


Empath

Lightworker, Chuck (the shadow) , Leslie.

Your kindness and *generosity of spirit* is lovely and obvious. Thank you.
Souls like you are the light of this world.
Roxanne

Roxanne
@roxanne
11/06/13 10:34:56AM
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REQUEST FOR HEALING ENERGY -- AUNT BARBARA G


Empath

Blessed Be, Sweet Soul, Blessed Be.

Roxanne
@roxanne
11/06/13 08:12:42AM
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REQUEST FOR HEALING ENERGY -- AUNT BARBARA G


Empath

AhMoondoll yes. The Update on Moondoll is GREAT. She is standing strong ~ And recently thanked me again for all the Empathic love she says carried her through her health crisis.
This if for our Aunt Barbara. Same affliction. Trying to hold strong.
Thanks, Arden.
You seem like a very sweet caring person.
:-)

Roxanne
@roxanne
11/06/13 06:54:29AM
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REQUEST FOR HEALING ENERGY -- AUNT BARBARA G


Empath

Hope this is OK to post in main forum. If not. My apologies. It's been a long time.

focus is on the lungs and spiritual support and pumping up the immune system. Thanks in advance.






updated by @roxanne: 05/28/17 06:15:54PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
11/05/13 08:00:50PM
1,562 posts

Having a Bad Day


Empath

Speak to your doctor, about his problem and how the anxiety is affecting you. I heard a saying once: "..If you don't know what to do don't do anything at all. "
We don't always have the luxury to live that way, but it sounds to me like if you tell him to go tonight you will only ask him back tomorrow. So why don't you just try to hold on, until you can get a doctor to help give YOU advice.
If this is clinical PTSD, medication might be the difference between both of you finding a peaceful solution.
I wish you luck.
If he is a physical threat please call police or domestic abuse hotline for advice.
You are not alone.

Roxanne
@roxanne
09/08/13 06:43:08AM
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Wow! Sounds like you walked a very unique path. I often asked myself *what can be gained from such a path* for therein I believe lies the clue of your mission.
You have lived your life brilliantly and honestly and this allowed you to get the *high view*....you could see how it feels to be popular at the same time you could feel how it *feels* to be lonely. and this gave you a gentle respect for the less popular. Your eyes become wide open and you see truths that have yet to be discovered by many. This is a gift and sometimes you just need to remind yourself that not everyone has reached your point of spiritual evolution. They will respond with petty jealousies/manipulations -- and don't forget *shyness*. Some people do not have your kind of amazing confidence so they may not have the courage to express their admiration for you.
People who say you are stuck up need excuses to fill in the blanks about their lack of understanding. They simply do not know how to relate to someone as confident as you so they interpret it in a way that makes them feel superior.
I'm glad you said you feel lonely. You should take that amazing confidence and share these feelings with more people. it may begin the process of opening their eyes/hearts/empathy to new ways of thinking.
In my humble opinion.


updated by @roxanne: 01/13/17 02:23:07AM
Roxanne
@roxanne
09/03/13 08:51:51PM
1,562 posts

LOVE SHOTS OUT TO MY SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Mwwwwwaaaahhhh....to my ((((((((Angel Baby!!!! ))))))))

Mucho love comin' back atcha'

Roxanne
@roxanne
09/03/13 09:30:57AM
1,562 posts

LOVE SHOTS OUT TO MY SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Thanks, RetroGirl..... hugs back atcha.

Roxanne
@roxanne
09/02/13 12:23:24PM
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Just Had an Amazing Empathic Experience with touch of the Paranormal


Empath

Sorry to anyone who read this in its original version. I was typing so fast I really boggled the flow. I went in and cleaned it up.
Just wanted a recorded memory. And this is the place for EMPATH memories, now isn't it.
Thank God we have a place to talk about such things.

Roxanne
@roxanne
09/02/13 07:59:24AM
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Just Had an Amazing Empathic Experience with touch of the Paranormal


Empath

Thank you, Josette!!!! I'm still amazed and astonished but I LOVE it. ;-)
Great to see you too!!

Roxanne
@roxanne
09/01/13 09:41:14PM
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Just Had an Amazing Empathic Experience with touch of the Paranormal


Empath

Wow! Sometimes something happens and it takes your breath away. That moment of clarity when all the dots connect and you realize what the empathic experience was all about. Sometimes it's about nothing....This time it was quite wonderful.

Yesterday, I woke up with the strangest sense of vertigo and nausea. I had plans for the day but I had to lie down. While lying down because of the vertigo I watched *Super Nanny* even though I never watched it before. (if anything I mocked it as another one of *those shows*.) But it caught my eye and I was drawn to it. Kind'a mesmerized.

Anyhoooo....there has been a terribly tense situation in my family recently -- VERY tense -- A person who can easily snap while under stress was under MUCHO stress and a battle of rage just errupted all over my day. I had been praying for a solution to this problem as it has been happening a lot and building. But as frustrating as this person is they are also very fragile. -- Past traumas in her life make her extremely vulnerable. -- So while I didn't want to enable her by letting her continue to treat me that way, (controlling people's lives by controlling their moods.) -- I had to pray pray pray for a way. Because I know she has potential to hurt herself in the worst way. And I didn't want that. How to find that balance to get her back to calm.

Then today she *errupted* again angry letters the constant texts. Loooooooong letters. And I just kept telling her to *calm down* I let her know firmly when she calms down then we will have the conversation she wants, but only with a third party present. She was rabid. But I stood firm even as I was letting her know not to feel threatened by anything she *thinks* is going on , because everyone loves her, but this conversation will NOT take place until she calms down. Well...she didn't calm down, but I felt the air change. This conversation went on until it was time to end it once and for all, and I did. But the right results were achieved. for the moment. This is anxiety at disease level and nothing happens *quickly*. So for now at least the healthy boundaries were set.

Anyway, I felt better. -- But afterwards I was pretty puzzled about where I got the calm reserve and calm tone from because this girl was insulting me left and right .) Rock steady patience , firm but kind tone/ just the *right words* at the right time. I had become the "Super Nanny!" I laughed out loud, and that's when my pregnant niece called -- She who I call my *angel* for more reasons than just affection -- And she called at *Just the right time.* She told me SHE had been feeling nausea and vertigo the day before at exactly same time I was. Which is exactly why I ended up watching Super Nanny in the first place. She was the empathic connection . She was the *angel* that led me there.
Then it hit me , I remembered I had a strange moment earlier in the day when there had been some odd electronic stuff going on ( you know when it's Odd by its timing). at the same time I was getting a deep spiritual sense of presence. I considered it might be the warmth and glow of a *friend in the room* but then I forgot about it.
that's when it hit me and I realized it was my nieces FATHER.

Its a sad story so I'll spare you the details, but I never left her side during the period of his passing a few years before which was an EXTREMELY difficult situation for her, because of details that are not mine to give away). -- I asked out loud "was that you" did you shine her condition on me to help me with my problem. (Super Nanny, who knew) Half of me was joking, but just as the thought passed through my head (and I think I said it out loud) My eye *winked* . Not a blink. I felt something make my eye wink. ( I think that rascal empathically winked at me with my own eye) !!!
Can't explain but I know it was him. I said it again *is that you* and so help me a white light flashed in the corner of my room so that I jumped, filling me up with the message* *thank you for taking care of my baby* make sure she knows I know about her baby.

I don't understand everything about this empath stuff, but I do know that the same energy we *take in* from each other can come from spirit.
In a connect the dots pattern of empathetic connection my problem found a solution and a loving message to my beautiful niece came through. I put my obsessive *rage ranter* in the *calm down corner* and Peace returns to the mountain.
AFter that the stress of the day melted into joy.
These things don't happen to me a lot But this time it was the answer to my prayers....and I think maybe my nieces too. Can't wait to tell her. Thank God she's a believer.

I don't tell many about this *crossover* kind of empathing, lol.


updated by @roxanne: 01/13/17 01:55:17PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
08/30/13 09:09:04AM
1,562 posts

LOVE SHOTS OUT TO MY SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Just wanted to let the newcomers here know how great this site is. It helped me in my life in more ways than I can ever explain ~~ BEYOND WORDS.
I found the greatest help/love/wisdom here.

I also wanted to shout out to my old soul tribe because I think of you all often and missss you always. But somehow the riptides of life can pull us out to sea for awhile. ~~ At least I know we are all out there rolling in the deep.

There is a special soul who's name starts with * L * that I would REALLY love to get this message to
You were / are/ and always will be a part of me. I think I may even have a tattoo of you somewhere on my soul - (A little friendly witch on a broom probably.)

So if Elise or the Moderators don't think this post belongs here, I apologize for that......but at least I tried!


updated by @roxanne: 01/13/17 01:55:07PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
08/25/13 07:09:53PM
1,562 posts

Being treated like a celebrity at times


Empath

I love that you stay focused on your volunteer work. That is certainly putting one foot in front of the other. I use to struggle thinking I was suppose to keep people happy, make them laugh. Meet a certain expectation as *bringer of sunshine and laughter* . Then one day I realized I was doing that to myself. I was repeating a cycle of behavior that began with my parents. And I was putting that pressure on myself. So I resigned as the *unsolicited entertainment*. -- I learned to step back a little from my empathetic nature and slip into the role of humble observer ... to just *be*. -- I feel a lot healthier mentally/emotionally even spiritually since I took that pressure off myself. So I know what you mean. Humility is a lovely cloak of invisibility to wrap oneself up in.
I wish you mucho luck, Jonny.

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/25/13 06:55:05PM
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I believe you have combined Empathic and HSP nature. HSP can be the root child of empathy/ grief, as you stated you lost 5 people you loved dearly. But you also mention you feel energy from vintage things and that sounds more empathic to me.
I love vintage. I guess if someone was picking up negative energies from an item and did not know how to shield themselves from intense reaction they would NOT like used items with a history. But most empathic people I know love *everything* with a history. I know I do.
I only had one experience at an old hotel that I worried could overpower me. Turned out it had been used as an old insane asylum and that is exactly what I had felt ... not a physical threat but more of an *I'm losing my mind* kind of feeling. Other than that experience I love old historic buildings and antique shops.
Again, I think you have two things going on. HSP and Empathic. -- You also sound *balanced* which would make it easier for you to mix socially. A balanced Empath is a joy to be around. In my humble opinion. -- Having said that some days are better than others, heh. ;-)

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/25/13 06:40:06PM
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Being treated like a celebrity at times


Empath

I believe everything that happens in our life is happening so that we can develop the mental/emotional and spiritual ability to cope with it. Whatever it is. Perhaps your best bet is to embrace it and just let it be. Just keep being yourself.
If you're worried about letting people down by not being able to maintain that blessed image they project onto you that is you putting pressure on yourself. Again, I repeat, just be yourself. We are all human. We all have high days and low days. All you really have to stay focused on is putting one foot in front of the other and move forward. Everyday. Keep moving forward. -- When I feel like blending in or withdrawing, I do...with love and with kindness. No apologies. You have the right to place yourself where you are most comfortable. People will decide if they like me or not...I have no power over that. All we can do is learn to cope best with whatever comes our way.

Roxanne
@roxanne
07/09/13 09:55:46PM
1,562 posts

Exciting change on the EC!


Empath

LOVE!! Will be watching for new developments & participating. Good work, Oh High Holy Janitor!

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/15/13 08:53:57PM
1,562 posts



I never get tired or reading these.
I'm currently working on #35 by Angel

the GET OVER IT Commandment.

I will continue to compartmentalize when I must, but I WILL allow myself to LET GO AND GET OVER IT....one day at a time.

Roxanne
@roxanne
06/14/13 10:59:43PM
1,562 posts

Do empaths collect extra "children?


Empath

LOL....that sounds about right to me. It's the genuine caring. It's a magnet.

Roxanne
@roxanne
05/31/13 12:27:11PM
1,562 posts



Hey, Gene. Thanks for reconnecting. You are too cool to lose.


updated by @roxanne: 01/13/17 01:47:35PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
05/28/13 11:54:03AM
1,562 posts

Message from Elise


Empath

Nice job, Elise. Thanks for all you've given of yourself over the years. BTW: you're adorable (if I'm allowed to say that, ;-))

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/26/13 11:29:28AM
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I feel for you. I get invasive energy too at times. Recently I found myself remembering when I found the most peace ~~ whenever things felt *out of hand* -- and while I don't try to define God, I equate God with a powerful force of love and protection. I was raised Catholic ~~ So the name Jesus is a powerful force of protection for me too. (Again, I don't even try to define them according to dogma or Bible or anything...I just put my faith in the power of the Love.) -- and the truth is I have never felt alone or threatened when I call on the power/spirit of Love/God/Jesus. -- I usually talk to this force the way I would a father or a friend. "Sit with me until I fall asleep...I'm a little scared, can you cover me " -- stuff like that.
After years of searching so many spiritual realms, modalities, etc. I remember that this is the only way I feel truly safe. Truly protected.
I guess it's a faith thing.
So until you figure out what's going on (and sometimes we never do).....just ask God/Your Angel to sit with you until you feel *right and safe* again. Then believe .
I wish you luck.

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/25/13 06:11:58PM
1,562 posts

Strange Energy Photo - taken in Sedona, AZ ~~ Feel Free to Comment


Psychic and Paranormal

Hey, SnakeMedicine ~~ Hope all is well.
I agree, I don't know enough about photography and light either, I just know that this is the only picture that came out with these kind of swirly colorful images. I look at the one on the left with all the colors and I feel that if this were a moving picture it would be pulsating; a kaleidescope-esque lotus blossom or some kind of multi-colored flower light.
Interestingly what caught my eye almost immediately -- well after *the swirls* ~~ I see the face of a wolf slightly abovethat multi-colored swirly thing. Near the foot of the smaller tree. Just the face. Some people don't see it at all...but some do. -- I feel like it's looking right at me. It's ghostly and somewhat incomplete, but I see it so clearly.
Anyhoooo, thanks for your response ...and for your kind words hahaha Yeah, no need for Ex-lax just a good pair of sunglasses.
(Hmmm, the wolf no longer appears to be looking directly at me ~~ now it appears to be looking towards the left ????)

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/25/13 04:37:56PM
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Strange Energy Photo - taken in Sedona, AZ ~~ Feel Free to Comment


Psychic and Paranormal

DW
I remember feeling a very peaceful vibe that day. One of the local guides had called it "the groovy vibe of Sedona" so I was joking about *digging the groovy vibe*. But seriously it was just a wonderful,peaceful feeling...very very peaceful. -- The sense of having *no worries*.
Regarding my left hand, I don't think I was holding anything, I think I was pulling my shirt down or holding the bottom of the bag that is pushed back on my shoulder. It's interesting how different people see different things.
thanks for your response.

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/25/13 10:41:53AM
1,562 posts

Secrets for Sensitive People: Why Emotional Empaths Stay Lonely


Empath

Great information here. My husband and I started living separately from time to time. It makes us better people and we enjoy the time we do spend together even more. I should have read this YEARS ago. It speaks very clearly of these emotions I struggled with. Thanks for bumping this up.

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/25/13 10:28:43AM
1,562 posts

Strange Energy Photo - taken in Sedona, AZ ~~ Feel Free to Comment


Psychic and Paranormal

Oh and no comments on my facial expression, please ~~ I'm extremely aware that I look constipated. haha Actually it was a beautiful -- peaceful -- sunny day and when I squint I *look* angry. ~~ So feel free to comment on the energy swirls if you'd like. ~~ OH, and I do see something that only my sister and husband seem to be able to see, but I won't say anything just in case anyone wants to comment without predisposed thought seeds.
And if I'm standing here talking to myself (because EC seems SO quiet these days) ~~ that's ok too. Much love to the Empath Nation wherever you roam.

xoxoxoxoxoxox

Roxanne
@roxanne
03/25/13 10:18:09AM
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Strange Energy Photo - taken in Sedona, AZ ~~ Feel Free to Comment


Psychic and Paranormal

We were walking the ancient paths of Cathedral Rock. The next day a yellow butterfly led us to some petroglyphs in the wild near Red Tank Draw. Among those petroglyphs spiral swirls. I truly believe those mountains ARE very, very special.


updated by @roxanne: 07/13/17 12:31:15AM
Roxanne
@roxanne
01/18/13 09:20:47PM
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I just saw the date so I guess you are dealing with the when-everything- stops stage of grief (funerals, cards, friends stopping by. It sudddenly all comes to a halt. Or so it seems. ) You're still grieving but life goes on for everyone else.-- I am so sorry for your pain and hope you find your way back to peace soon.

Also, you are absolutely right about what you said in your post;there are times when it's right to be that connected. Just remember to stay *connected* to yourself. I have learned that it is possible to *compartmentalize*. Experience grief and laughter at the same time. The trick is to take time for both sides. Sometimes it feels easier to stay in the laughter when you get there. Maybe even self medicate so you can laugh a little longer. Balance is in staying connected to all the compartments of your life...for the heart has many chambers.
I wish you luck.


updated by @roxanne: 12/19/16 01:28:35PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
11/17/12 07:48:58AM
1,562 posts



I have this feeling at times...and it just came back to me while I was reading your post. I think (just my humble opinion) that as empaths we are inclined to help. And because we are inclined to help we try to come up with ways to help, like giving advice or lending our ear. -- Basically just being there to prove we want to help. -- And I think in this context *prove* is the operative word. We want people to know we are genuine about helping them and feel a need to prove it. Even if it means suspending our own feelings and thoughts for awhile. -- Well the body won't let you do that for too long. We are built like little pressure cookers and sooner or later you have to release some of that pressure. So my point is DON'T see those crying jags as *weak moments*. See them as your body's wisdom in this is how it integrates and recalibrates itself back to a position of strength. Pressure released. Neurons balanced. = Life in balance.
Also, I'd venture to say that we never have to *prove* anything (and I'm not saying you are) this is just a feeling that came to me awhile ago, and returned while I was reading your post. -- It's my reflection right or wrong. But my point is I'm starting to realize that empaths don't always have to do ANYTHING. Just taking in the emotions of others can sometimes -- without any effort -- take that pressure off them, even from a distance. For all you know those crying jags could be you releasing *their* pressure. Just another service of the resident empath. lol. -- You don't need to do anything to help. Don't need to prove anything to help. just the desire to take away that persons pain can often ease it and kick start a healing process.
So cry when you need to... let that holy water fall from your pressure cooker because those tears are healing waters.

Then guide your mind back to the here and now and surround yourself with beautiful images or funny movies and e-cards. Because sooner or later your recalibrated brain WILL be LAUGHING again.

Hope this helps.

:-)


updated by @roxanne: 01/11/17 11:46:38PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
10/27/12 12:30:19AM
1,562 posts

Sending Love, Strength and Comfort


Empath

this storm has me on edge. But instead of getting lost in my own head, I want to send love and support to all those who have taken a battering in the past and feels hypervigilant about the newscast.

We are all in this together. Holding hands. Bound to and by LOVE.

Hang in there, y'all.

Love

Roxy


updated by @roxanne: 01/13/17 01:40:46PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
09/04/12 06:02:13AM
1,562 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

:-)

Awwwww, miss you too, Angel baby!!! It's been a loooong time.Hope you had a kick-a** summer!!! My best to you and your family. Pushing all good things and your way!!!

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/15/12 08:21:14PM
1,562 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Hey, Gene!

I will always remember my time at EC with great affection. Always something new to learn.

xoxoxoxo hope you're doing well

Be happy.

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/15/12 08:20:10PM
1,562 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Thanks for kind words, Nancy. Hope all is well in your world.

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/12/12 07:18:47AM
1,562 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

:-)

I know most of our old crowd has flown. I just had a warm fuzzy moment last night and dropped off this post on the run.

Hope new comers find their own truths here and share the laughter we all found.

Blessed Be

Roxanne
@roxanne
08/11/12 08:47:56PM
1,562 posts

Haven't done this in awhile -- SHOUT OUT TO THE OLD SOUL TRIBE


Empath

Lynn, Sandy, Bren, Deirdre,Angel, Pattie Walker-Moran (from the Walker Valley clan )-- Claire (girl I been thinkin' about you sooooooo much ) , Felix & Rho, Connie & Rook, Tammie (hahahhaa yeah youooooouuuuu tooo -- Lots of laffs from youuuuu -- slam dunk) Elise, Gene --Hell, even Lady Katina, (I think I know who you are , hahahahaha)

don't mean to leave anyone out, but this is a spur of the moment Saturday night, on the run Empath mail blast -- sending out shots of LOVE to the good folks who carried me when I was going through some hard core stuff, and too weak to carry myself. Lost in a world that was forcing change down my throat -- hanging out in cyber land.-- We made magic for a brief moment in time. -- Elise, I will ALWAYS honor you and Ted. Lynn, I will ALWAYS love you like the Sister you are.

Blessed Be.

Good times remembered.

Be well all.


updated by @roxanne: 05/09/17 11:13:11PM
Roxanne
@roxanne
08/04/12 09:45:08AM
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Hey, YES, my husband and I saw this twice this week. I've only seen it a handful of times in my lifetime and then twice in one week. INTERESTING


updated by @roxanne: 01/22/17 09:52:01AM
Roxanne
@roxanne
07/04/12 03:56:10PM
1,562 posts

100 Pages!


Empath

Wonderful...very inspiring!

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