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It defiantly sounds like this to me. And I agree you both are doing the running and chasing. Definatky on a soul level somethibg is there, and it's intense! But, we are stI'll human and our hearts hurt at times. And all those articles I've read about twin flames say they'll never hurt you, but I think it still happens. I think it would be great to talk to each other and express your love and let each other know how deep you feel for each other and understand that there will be times of arguments but want to stay with each other. That running out of the window, hey I felt that and did that once. Only because I couldn't believe I found him, that feeling was so intense! PM if you want chat furthur.
I think i understand what you mean. I've been feeling "confused" what I mean is that I feel like I need to move away, but stay. I've had this wave for like 2 years. Then Lately its been a tidal wave! I've been feeling alot of negativity everywhere that will not go away and it is making me depressed, but can also feel good coming in the future for everywhere. Like bigger picture outside of my own life and for everyone. Even though I feel that, it's almost like someone nudging me like "go on, you'll be fine"
Listen to your gut. I think the negativity is just what's going on in the world today and not what you want to do for you. That big picture of negativity in the world will not affect you.
@ jeramie. I used to feel growing up, that my parents are not my parents. I don't know why I felt this or would think that. Now as I have become older I realized I'm just that independent. Weather we are adopted or not or conceived by a sperm donor, our identity is our own. Growing up it was always a fight with my parents and it still is, and I feel trapped that who I am is not how they want me to be. For years I felt lost and often questioned "who am i" After years of working on me I now know who I am. And it's still not who my parents want me to be lol. I just knew since childhood. You have to go with it and trust in you. You have gifts that not many understand except us here, or anyone else you know in person who has a spiritual gift.
And people these days, my goodness. The people. I almost can't go out on some days or talk to people. And other times I have to because I can feel the good. (Which is rare)
But like you, today is a day I felt like living life was hard. What helps me get through the day is not dealing with idiots and narcs. I don't know why I just angry when they are around LOL.
spiritual dimension and mental/emotinal health
I honestly believe trying to find a healer at no charge will be hard. Think about it. Everyone here talks about narcs and how we are taken advantage of, those healers made a business with it. If they didnt, they would get taken advantage of. Throw a monetary value to it, no being taken advantage of.
Just watch out for the con artists. True healers don't advertise themselves with neon signs and fancy websites.
spiritual dimension and mental/emotinal health
This may sound crazy and absurd, but I had a spirit attached to me. Apparently it was following me everywhere. It didnt harm me in anyway, but I have no idea if it affected my emotions. But I do know I never felt I was "alone" and would get that feeling I'm being watched. The healer I went to released it and then told me of many "gifts" I had. I guess being an empathic person by nature this spirit just felt safe and comfortable around me. As she said.
Past life Regression
seven. I totally understand where you are coming from. I recommend checking out some of Dr Brian Weiss' books. The first book I read put so much into perspective. There is a licensed therapist close to me who studied with him and a few others. But man, expensive. And I get afraid to go lol.
I can tell you from my dreams it appears that the true love, we were always separated somehow by death I believe and infedility and no one wanting us to be together. It's like he listened to everyone about me, like I was never good enough. The last dream I had I was a housewife and miserable and married to a man I didn't like and he didn't care for me either. I had 2 kids, one was a child from him. But dreams prior to that I was pregnant with that try love guy and I believe he died out in sea. Those collections of dreams are all the same era. I was looking up everything on google, to clothes, shoes, transportation, etc. I feel like recognizing that should be enough and forgiving myself. But it's not. The last guy I actually dated several months back, upon first meeting him I was terrified and had a hurt feeling and i never wanted to speak to him again. But I gave him a chance and found out he was actually one of the sweetest guys I met in a long time. He did eventually leave as well, as his family was #1 and he had a lot of family problems he had to tend to. One day it was like a bell went off in my head like he was the on from the past I was married to and unhappy.
I am afraid that in the past life I left my children with this awful guy to get away and was just miserable. And tgat is why I was homeless in the streets.
Past life Regression
Has any here had one, and did it benefit you?
Past 2-3 years I've had more dreams in different eras, and when I've tried translating my dream it made no sense. I've been doing alot of reflection on my current life and see alot of repeating behaviors. Failed relationships, passed up in job promotions, struggling financially. I'm fairly smart, although I don't admit it or portray it. But I feel like there is wave pushing me to prove my intelligence. I'm not cocky or arrogant, but more upset on how these people are succeeding at work, but don't know anything. Or how my relationships continue to fail, and I'm not getting the closure as to why.
A few years ago I met a man, and instantly felt recognition, but as in the "where have you been my whole life" I just knew he was the one for me, this long lost love type of feeling. I felt when I met him I wasn't worthy and why was he attracted to me. I did botch that up. The last time I saw him he had this fear/shocked look in his eyes.
I've met many people throughout life and questioned on "how do I know you, I feel like we've met before" this man in particular was different.
Since meeting him, my goodness the dreams!! I thought it was because he laid so heavily on my mind. But all these dreams with him are of different times. I've also had dreams of being homeless, but he was not there. And my child without a father, this baby also has haunted my dreams.
A few months ago I started thinking about those dreams and started reading about past lives. Then I started to Google some images from my dream, and basically it's historical. Alot of it has familiarity, but here is me being logical "I must have seen this in a movie"
I've had dreams of this man before in childhood and my teen years. I always wondered what it would be like to meet him, and I did and I botched it up.
I'm trying to have more dreams like this to figure this out, and now I cant. I've really been thinking about past life regression. Has it helped anyone?
updated by @tigerlily: 07/28/17 08:32:48AM
Anger...the taught emotion?
, you are great!
I get angry when a see justice is not being served and people getting away with shit. I get angry that this society is catering to idiots and we have to watch we say not to offend people. I get angry that those people take offense to the dumbest thing and don't grow a pair. I get angry when I put my needs first and people have a problem with.
I get it we are supposed to be happy and love everythibg and accept everything for it is. Sometimes I feel that this is not possible anymore and this world/society is getting out of control. To many narcs taking advantage of nice people like us, because they can't figure out there own shit. I know I'm in pain, too many people did me wrong and anger is my wall I use. These days, I've been better at sniffing at the narcs. Not 100% yet, but still trying
Rene, you are more than welcome to post anything anger related. We get you
He's friends with your mother!!?? Omg, I can't believe she is talking to him after all that you have told her. I'm so sorry all this is happening. This has got to be so hard on you. All you can do is not expect much from either. We have to remember with expections, disappointment is hanging around the corner.
Is this why I feel so stressed? I'm getting headaches daily, like a crawling sensation. Sometimes my chest hurts I can't breathe. Then I feel like my body wants to go limp. I can go on and on.
My life has been kind of stressful, but I literally been crying over spilled milk as well.
I'm sorry this is happening and I can relate as it's happened to me multiple times. we are victims to narcissistic people. If the guy isn't a narc, he's completely broken in some aspect. Letting go is the hardest, as like you, fallen for them. You just have to stand tall and firm and tell them goodbye. In a matter of days or weeks you will see you made the right decision.
Empath Related Illnesses
I've had this as well. And with everyone else I have gut issues and it eventually turned into "you'll be diabetic in a few years" per my dr. Stress alone I can't handle, my face literally gets white and I look sick. Past few months have been hard on me as well, got to the point today that I say "F it" yet again
We all know we need to take care of ourselves better, but our strong empathy for everyone gets in the way.
Ok..I'm confused again
I read alot about witches and noticed that too. I sometimes feel they were just "misunderstood" throughout history. like us. and possibly taken advantage of for their gifts to create spells etc. and then resulted in using their powers to do evil for being taken advantage. Maybe I'm just being naive about this as well. But maybe not, if they have gifts to cure people in an unnatural way.
I don't really have this, I remember everything. I do get the "sometimers" renee explained. And that has actually happened alot this year as I changed my diet. But, I'm also tired of the idiots around me. maybe I'm absorbing their dumb energy lol. don't know. I do get forgetful when I have taken in to much from others as I'm just drained of energy and need to clear it out.
Just curious on this. Has anyone noticed electrical disturbences around them? As some of you know this past month in my personal life has had some grief and lots of stress. For example, I had to have my phone reset to factory standards and it has been working great again. Last week was extremely stressful with work and noticed my phone battery was draining really fast. I had nothing running on it. Then my car battery went out, and now have a blown fuse in the fuse box at home. I thought the light bulb just went out, as that has happened before many times where I've turned on the light and the bulb goes out. Even my computer at work is acting weird. Is it me that I'm so stressed I'm pulling the energy from electronic things, or just random acts of coincidences those electronic things need fixing all in one week?
updated by @tigerlily: 09/07/18 11:14:47AM
I feel like I'm going to explode
. I'm a salaried position and as you in the corporate world, it's then frowned upon not staying. I did losee it on a call this week. I know again, not professional but I keep telling my boss I'm not doing this anymore it's not my job role and she supports it. so the girl on the line tried putting it like it's my fault not checking and I said again is that not my job function or in my job description. she got real quiet, it's true.
Anyways, this tidal wave is not stopping, another wave of other cr@p is happening in my personal life.
Few months ago a friend and I had a discussion about people and how negativity just rubs off. That came to mind tonight as I feel like exploding from emotions. We all talk about the narcs, fakes, negative etc. And how they are just drawn to us etc. What about happy people? People who are just happy, positive, takes lemons and makes lemonades. They clearly don't need or want help as they figure it out themselves and life carries on. How do we attract more of them to us? I know they don't "need" us, but nothing wrong with "wanting" to be around us. Must be their confidence. I feel like when I just try and run from a negative person they just chase me more.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/22/17 12:30:47PM
I feel like I'm going to explode
I've had alot going on in my personal life past few weeks. Deaths, parent in the hospital, break up, and my health. And during all this, I get thrown all this work at work -staying late in the office and working at home. Ok, I'm upset. My boss knows all this, and has told me twice to show empathy for people. Are you joking??? I have to do more work because someone is going through a divorce? Did I not just tell you all this going on with me and my family? Where is your empathy?
Now, all my electric stuff at home is not working properly (which my therapist thinks it's my energy shutting them down) I had a good cry tonight, and other nights and felt better. I don't even want to go to work. I'm trying to hold it all together and be there for me and my family and get through this wave, and I'm not empathetic for someone going through a divorce??? I already know hes lazy and using it as an excuse to not work, that is the first thing i picked up from him laziness. Everyone at work is stressed about their jobs, even though im not. Sorry I'm venting and feel defeated.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/30/17 02:28:37AM
Chesire Cat put it the best about bipolar. and I agree with everyone that highs and lows are diagnosed with bi polar, even though not. ugh, I'm so tired of the bad Dr's out there and others in the workplace getting a free ride, and know nothing. (sorry) women with pcos are often diagnosed as bi polar as well due to the hormones causing ups and downs, but no irrational behavior like stealing a baby and taking a road trip. One of the characters in shameless is bipolar, and no empath acts like that. The ups and downs is not bi polar if one day your sad and the other happy, stuff happens in life. But we all absorb it in like sponges and have to work harder to keep sane
I agree with kit kat. The days I somehow block out everything, I'm in a zone at work and nothing stops me. The days I walk into work and can feel that thick pea soup feeling of stress in the office, I feel like a loose canon. It takes a lot of energy out of me just to focus on those days and then I come home and just crash on the sofa. What has helped me is taking my ear phones and listening to music. I don't know why or how. But it works, and I will say I wouldn't be able to tell you the last song I heard
So I'm really struggling...
Dating a man who's guarded is just as hard dating a women who is guarded. I for one am guarded, and can relate on his level to an extent, but also welcome a relationship if I'm into them because I too want to get married. But not everyone really wants that too. As for the wall he has, he's protecting himself and that fear to have the wall come down puts him in vulnerability to get hurt, so hey why not let's keep it up. Until he can heel and learn to trust again it will always be up. I say if you really like this and things are going great, give it time. I wouldn't tell him yet your gift as it can scare people away. that is something to discuss later
Plus, I just dated a guy with a big wall. One of the nicest, sweetest, gentle man I've met in a very long time. He to has been burned by multiple women in his life. He told me how he was letting his guard down around me etc, and I thought I was too. But the trust, omg it's awful. I didn't realize I had it that bad. Either way that trust issue got in the way and I couldn't take it anymore and ended it. Then I realized I'm an idiot. I want to make amends, and just feel dumb. I wasn't patient with him or myself. But, i to would have my moments of crying spells dating him. I didnt know if it waa him or me! So, just be patient with this guy if you are already feeling something special about him. People who are guarded always act weird, I do!
I only went for a day, as I stayed in Arizona for a week with friends. I wanted to go the whole weekend, but when you go with people and stay with them they like to have alternate plans Next time for sure I'd go at it alone to see all of them and see if my experience would change. plus I would like the nature aspect of it to Hike through them and mountain bike. :)
It's just amazing! one thing I noticed is how I felt when I was talking to the people I was with. If what I said came out in a negative way I felt it, like some dizzy Ness-nausea, etc. Or even if they said it. So I was trying to say things in a more positive way I felt good and at peace. I think that's the best way I could describe it. I kind of get this way around negative and positive people. it's also taught me to be more positive in how I speak. (which is still in the room for improvement category
Walking through and around the vortex I would get bouts of goosebumps, bouts of dizzy Ness/lightheaded, nausea, and hard to breathe. Other times I just felt great like a million bucks! My cousin said she felt really nothibg at all, I was like "really?" Walking back to the car I felt kind of nauseated, had a cigarette and wow! what a head rush from that cigarette!
If I could do it again, I'd rather go with someone more positive and happy or just alone. She was in a tough time in her life then.
Lots of people meditate there as well.
Sympathy vs empathy
I do feel you all on this. I feel we need to put more love and compassion to us first. i know when i do my confidence goes amd i can help people better. To me I feel it's a problem in society in general, love you first and the rest will follow. We are being broken down all the time by narcs and fake people. people who themself have to find that love fot themselves. But always look for in it in other people to give it to them. it's a vicious cycle if you follow. But in the end seems we as empaths suffer the most and need to be more compassionate to ourselves as well. From the time I've been on this community I see it alot. I think it takes alot to develop that emotional strength to handle both. I also think alot of us do a great job at it, and others time the energy accumulates and we crash before we know it.
We as empaths need to unite together PLEASE READ and share your input
I LOVE this song!!!!
We as empaths need to unite together PLEASE READ and share your input
I couldn't agree with you more. The hatred today is just awful and I actually fear society more than our presidential election because of how people are acting. I see 11 11 ALOT, and with it being such a powerful number, I agree that this is the day to do so.
What Makes You Feel Good?
Being next to big body of water!! I get so excited and happy i cant stand it sometimes. Right now I can't decide which coast I want to move to!! Being in the water is so cleansing for me. I spent alot of the team at the beach on the great Lakes this summer.
But in the end I do enjoy the most doing things for myself, as I feel I do everything for everyone and feel happy doing it for them. But when those days happen I do for me, I'm very happy and relieved. It really boosts my confidence and im like a new person. (The beach this summer made me realize this) But to know it hurt someone that my needs were important too, hurts me too. I just take it that they are hurt and I felt it too. But we too have to remember our happiness is important too, and there will be times we have to think of ourselves first.
Fake People and Empaths
One more thing, I'm sorry. I didn't mean or want to come across this way. I've been in a whirlwind with these people the past 2 weeks, and they have no consideration but for themselves. I'm trying to deal with 3 deaths in the family the past 2 weeks and then to have my mother hospitalized, I'm focusing on family. And these narcs just don't care and are like "help me" go help yourself as I'm grieving right now. not one them gave condolensces.
Fake People and Empaths
Nikki, you are right and a bigger person for this.
I can't speak for others, but can speak for myself. but one common theme I also see is setting boundaries and people over stepping boundaries. we can set all the boundaries we want and certain people will keep over stepping. my experiences is with those people are that they clearly can't find happiness and draining me of my mine, and they want you to do it for them and then onto the next. I can list a dozen people who do this too me at work and in my personal life. do I have to remind everyone that I too once had a very hard time in life at one point? and who picked me up? Myself, everyone else ran. Do I sympathize and show empathy for them at the same, absolutely. but when I'm constantly being used or don't allow for it, either way I'm considered a bitch. I see ked out therapy for years about this, and my own therapist couldn't believe how often this happened to me. I'm at the point where I can genuinely feel who needs it and doesnt. I know for myself, the strong personality helps me, and I was born with this. Some people can't handle it, but again then I'm not being genuine to myself if I can't be me and have to tone myself down. So maybe I am allowing people who call me a bitch, to really think I am. but I'm done being used to these kinds of people and would rather help those that genuinely need it.
People who block yoi
I really had no idea what to post in the title that made the most sense. BUT I was curious to know do any of you feel like you just can't pick up on someone? Like they don't want you to feel their emotions? I've always wondered if those people were gifted themselves and knew how to control it.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/01/18 11:45:10PM
Fake People and Empaths
You nailed! I have turned into a major "B" as well. That mixed with my strong personality, watch out. I'm tired of the fake people too. If you are so unhappy with yourself, then make changes the right way instead of something you'really not just so people can like you. My work is full of fakes and drama queens, and not very many professionals. It drives me mad, walking around work and feeling insecurities, stupidity, cattiness, and other things. Now, I do like those days they all went out drinking the night before and they are all hungover. It's a great stress relief for me lol.
Has anyone on here taken an IQ test or exhibited above average grades in school? I recently saw an article of characteristics of genuises, and one of them was having high levels of empathy. Thought it was interesting because I remember taking IQ tests and scoring really high on them.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/07/18 02:45:27PM
Do you give advice?
I did this all the time! I was always saying you should and shouldnt, etc. It was called out to me once about it, so now I try not to do it anymore. It still happens from time to time and I catch myself and say "shoot I did it again" lol.
Now, I think I'm so exhausted from people and actually trying to focus on myself that when they do ask "what should I do" I get immediately so tired I'm like "I don't know" lol.
It's like how Karen described, finding that awareness. Recently I started having stomach and GI problems again then I learned my close friend is having problems again. When we don't talk I'm ok, but when we do it comes back. Saw her this weekend for a few hours and left completely drained and had a brain fog. When I came home I started to feel fine. The man I'm seeing, my blood has been pumping pretty hard. Once I tried to end it with him, clearly not either oNE of us want, but it stopped. He has alot of stress.
How do you clear up something from the past life? I have female issues that is causing other health complications for me. And this too runs in the family. I had several dreams of a man and myself pregnant. But the dreams with the baby the man is not there as like he died. I did eventually meet this man in present today, and after meeting him the female issues took a turn. One of the other dreams with this baby, he was older and I was married to a not great man and had a second baby. I didn't want to be married to him, nor him to me. How do I clear this??
Yes!!! I do as well! One of the things is my round face and hair. And smile. Like my face should be more narrow, and we'll I wear hair extensions. The hair now to me feels this is how it should be. My eyes appear as they should. It's weird right? Same for smoking, we all know how it is with society and health, but I always had the urge to smoke since a kid.
discussion re: soul mates / new loves
I have no idea on anything with him anymore lol. The dreams, the signs, all drove me a little nuts for a while. But now I just see it as more of a guide/direction to the right path in life. I decided already to not think any more of it and just move in. It was a very strong connection that's for sure, one I never felt b4.
But I will say this, it's a great feeling and it did put things at ease inside me. I wish upon everyone to meet theirs.
discussion re: soul mates / new loves
I have no idea where the fear came from. But I know I had fear for him as well. After we met about a year later I started having more dreams about him, a few were him saving me from something, and others were like he wanted me there but didnt. Since nothING ever happened and he moved earlier this year I said it was time to let him go and establish other relationships. Then I dreamt of him again the other night only it felt like he was talking in my ear and I couldn't make sense of it. I really don't think about him anymore and focusing my energies on this new guy, whom I really like and want to see where it goes. I figure if this man comes back again (as he has disappeared and come back), I'll deal with it then. For now just going about life and live it to the fullest to the best I can