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TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/05/16 07:56:01PM
308 posts

Am I an Empath or a Emotional Manipulator?


Empath

Yes. And this may came across as strong but, he drove me nuts I had to can him. Nothing I said or could do helped him. He couldn't stand when I did something for me tgat made me happy, and his way of making me happy was not. He disregarded alot of what I wanted or said so he can have it for him. I'm very accomadating, but this was just leaving me more and more unhappy causing me anxiety and panic attacks. Once we finally ended it, it was almost instant I felt better.This is your wife, so I understand you can't just leave her, but I feel your hands are up in the air now and are exhausted. Have you talked about her seeing a therapist? Or if she is seeing one, to go more often and have the therapist assign homework. She really needs to start within her to fix it, and not really so much on you. She'll never really get better if you keep trying to do this for her.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/05/16 07:16:09PM
308 posts

Too much positivity?


Empath

I think there is NOTHING wrong with being positive and happy. It's healthy. Those who are not so much and more negative, I think that's their issue. We can't control how they feel, but we can control to not be around it if it's going to bring us down. Life has so much to offer if you take up on it. Those that don't, let them be and let them drown in their sorrows. Sometimes I feel that people who do have a problem with the positivity and happiness from you, is their own jelousy and insecurities. Where they say "I wish I can be more like you" well you can, they just choose not too. They look at all the wrongs versus all the rights. Have you ever met someone going through a hard time and they always have a smile on their face? They don't allow that to bring them down, they see it as a life obstacle and one day it will be over. That's what I strive to be more and more each day. For me personally I'm done with those negative people and I can't help you be happier like they ask. And I really tried over the years with people, and in the end my energy was just sucked out. I think with our gift it is harder on us to be positive and happy when we can see and feel so much sorrow in this world, and want to help.I really don't think you should tone it down. This is who you are. Don't change yourself because someone can't handle it, it really isn't fair to you. All you can do is change how often to be around these people or look for new friends.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/03/16 12:08:02PM
308 posts

How important is your diet


Empath

It took me about 2 1/2 months.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/03/16 05:59:22AM
308 posts

How important is your diet


Empath

Sugar is so hard! I even had to cut out fruit, ugh. I waa consuming way too much sugar, but then again my third chakra was way out of balance. I'm a big believer in mind body healing. So, once I got my diet straight and worked on that chakra I feel like a million bucks. I notice on days where my confidence lacks or dress like a tomboy or a lil more negative the hypos come back. My intuition also feels jumbled up. So weird!!! Lol
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 07:11:26PM
308 posts

How important is your diet


Empath

You know what, i never thought about diet. And the past several months i noticed in me a changed person. I'm sure all the self work I did contributed, but I also dramatically changed my diet. My glucose levels were dropping to low and the dr ordered I change my diet b4 my pancreas shut down turning me to diabetic. I'm on high protein, good fats, very low carbs, and almost no sugar. I did a chakra reading to find out more of what is going on with me and why this was happening and my third chakra was really unbalanced it was clouding my intuition. Now that I have the diet down to a Tee, I feel amazing. My intuition is really good again, I'm having very vivid dreams again. Im getting back to staying away from toxic people, and more. It's all happening so fast I can't comprehend sometimes lol. If it is diet, I think it just enhanced everything as I had to do alot of work on me as well.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 07:01:59PM
308 posts

Have you told anyone about your ability?


Empath

I've told my friends and they think I'm crazy. My father is the same way, but he knows good boundaries. I used to never understand how he knew how I felt even when I lied about it lol. But now I understand. I'm still no expert at this, but everyday is a learning experience. Sometimes I can tell through text messages or their pics how they are feeling, and when I comment on it they lie amd say they don't feel that way. But truth comes out later, and in the end I was right about their feelings. My one friend now believes she's an empath and to me it was "I told you so"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 06:54:02PM
308 posts



Halime, I totally understamd your poibt. It's sometimes not always about men, it's the women whom we are friends with or new women friends that this happens to as well. For me, I have a great relationship with my parents and still call them every other day and visit more than my siblings. They trully are my best friends. I think what it comes down is as an empath, we are genuine and kind hearted. These "broken" people from my experience have a lot insecurities, have depression, lack cofidence/esteem etc. They see how nice or humble we are and probably envious of it. I know for me these broken people comment on that with me, my confidence etc. It's really hard for them to find out where to begin with the self healing. We as empaths probably know better how to fix this? If that makes sense? But again, I can only speak for my experiences and what I did for myself to raise my confidence/esteem, work on my insecurities and trully love myself. With tgat knowledge and what I did for me, I felt I could help them. Yet in the end I realized they were just draining me with problems and negativity. Now, I just can't help people anymore amd learning to establish better boundaries. Its hard for me, but i have to do it. And i always value the opinions and advice of others. It still good for us to talk about this and help each other go through this. All the dumping people do on us, it's almost natural to dump in another way and see what others to do to release this energy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 10:00:58AM
308 posts

Psychic through dreams?


Empath

Those types of dreams you have mentioned happen like rarely for me, so I guess 10% of the time. Rarely ever what I watch before bed or think about b4 bed do I dream. And if I do, I debunk it to the night b4. Recently I've had a few dreams about whales (funny you mention dolphins) because the other day my friend asked to go to California and it will be whale watching season. Which I had no intention of going to California this year and whale watching. So I'm not sure if it's it related or if this part of me will strengthen with journaling.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 04:56:08AM
308 posts

Psychic through dreams?


Empath

I noticed the past few months a few dreams have come true. I started a dream journal. Some of have been so significant that I actually remember them without the journal, and recently come true. I've never been so aware of my dreams until the past year, and more so the past 6 months.People say what you go to bed thinking about is what you dream about and that doesn't hold true for me, ok maybe 10% of the time it's true. I think I'm also having past life dreams. I guess I'm a little scared yet fascibated and at this point can't differentiate between, future, past life, or my subconscious worries. Besides the journal, anything else I can do? Or does anyone else have this? It feels like also since I've been Journaling my intuition has gotten better.P.S. I find it funny how I got a fortune cookie yesterday saying "you were born with a 6th sense and a superb insight" Because a few days ago another dream came true and I was like "wow, I can't believe this" lol
updated by @tigerlily: 02/08/17 08:33:00AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/16 04:45:29AM
308 posts



I have the same problem. My one ex cheated on me, and the one after was also very insecure and he flirted with other women. After them all the dating I have dine, once again "broken" men. I learned from the first 2, and ran from those others. Once I started understanding our gift better, it helped me pick up that "broken" alot quicker. I still attract "broken" people in general and it's annoying. It kind of did hurt my confidence and esteem thinking "is this all I'm worthy of" I wish I knew how to attract different. Right now I managed to get my confidence and esteem up once again, and I think by doing that I'm able to put better boundaries. But, they still come, ugh. My friend told me I come across very nice and genuine, as I assume everyone else on this site does as well. But when I act a lil mean, I feel it closes me off to our gift, and I learned to love the gift at times. I'll let you all know if setting boundaries really helps and attracts different people, my new test :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/25/16 08:19:54PM
308 posts

Meeting new people


Empath

Yes! New friends and no counseling lol. There's more to talk about in this world than problems. Whenever I have one people don't care to listen and make it all about them, it's like I give up.I'd love to take a class.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/25/16 07:01:59PM
308 posts

Meeting new people


Empath

I mostly get the "you are so easy to talk to and a good listener" lol. I don't really think I've had the soulmate thing lol. But I do agree with you, some things get shared to quickly and next thing I know all this person wants to do is complain all the time.I'm trying better boundaries with a new coworker, as a test for myself. Yet he keeps talking about his problems, even when I just get up and walk away lol. I get what you mean about being closed off, but maybe we just need to be smarter about who to help?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/18/16 04:56:57AM
308 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

I also suffer from non diabetic hypoglycemia, made a dramatic change to my diet and it has helped my digestive issues tremendously. I also live in a big city, and retreat out from time to time and notice a big difference in how I feel. I plan out moving for good next year as I couldn't believe all my nature escapades and love for the water has been so cleansing.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/15/16 04:38:34AM
308 posts

Meeting new people


Empath

I really understand now I cant "save" anyone unless they are willing to "save" themselves. Yes I have tried helping people because of what I went through, but it turned out it was a waste of energy. I saw a psychic and he told me this was a common theme with people in my life and why I never became a counselor. All this was happening even before my bad time.I think you are right and I need to start sending out different vibes. My cousin also told me last night that it's hard for my friend to accept and see my happy and confident in life and she's not. (I recently had a friend explode on me because I couldn't help her) I really didn't feel I deserved that after all her "what do I do, you have to tell me what to do" People even have called me some rude names when I told them "you have to figure this out as I can't make decisions for your life"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/14/16 10:14:33AM
308 posts

Meeting new people


Empath

I've been struggling the past few years making new friends. Seems like everyone new person just wants to dump all their emotions problems. Some of these problems with people are pretty serious and they need help. Is this common for everyone else? I'm very happy and content in my life and it's great talking about other things besides their problems, and going out to enjoy all that life has to offer without a debbie downer. It really brings me down, and then when they are gone I feel much better yet alone. I started to notice this year the massive chest pains I get are from these people, and when they are gone the chest pains go to. Right now I feel alone as all my close friends and family are married with kids, and do things with other couples. Anything I can do to stop attracting crazy to me?
updated by @tigerlily: 05/24/17 03:02:50PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/13/16 05:18:15PM
308 posts

Problems with attending spiritual events


Empath

You are so right these days about people unloading onto people like us. I'm getting really tired of it lol.I agree with you on the people at these events and at the gym.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/12/16 05:06:20PM
308 posts

Any empaths have digestive problems?


Empath

Yes, I do. Been to a GI doctor and nothing is wrong with me. Told me it was anxiety. When I went to visit my friend for a week, who was going through an awful divorce. I was in so much pain from bloat, gas, and acid reflux. When I got home it was gone the next day. Yesterday at work I was training a new guy and he just started dumping out all his marital problems, I didn't ask about it btw, and I got so bloated I had to loosen my belt. I think it's just bad energy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/12/16 05:01:43PM
308 posts

Problems with attending spiritual events


Empath

I have only been to a few, and I honestly want to run out. I have no idea if people project there energy out and you are like a strong magnet. Thats what my reiki lady says about me, maybe for you as well? The gym, I have a hard time with as well and don't go anymore.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/11/16 06:56:18PM
308 posts

What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

If it wasn't for that time I honestly wouldn't be where and who I am today. In a sense I realized it was ment as a blessing in a strange way to happen and to restore this. As for managing it, I'm sure one day i'll figure it out :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/11/16 05:11:10AM
308 posts

loneliness and seeking love


Empath

I agree, you will just instinctively just know if this person is right for you. If you feel you are fighting that instinct, this person is not right. I will say that I got lost during my years of dating with what I trully wanted and put it all on paper. What this person looks like, personality traits, type of career, etc. I used to think about this list all the time. As well as tell my married friends what I'm looking for (I'm the last single one in the group) One day, about 2 years later I met a man with nearly all those qualities, we are only friends today but my intuition told me he's the one. I think putting it out there will bring this person to you. You may ask why im not with him, well im still working on to better myself and almost feel I'm not ready for this man. Guess I got scared this man on paper turned into a real deal. I'm still dating and seeing what is out there, as I'm not holding my breath over him. My psychic friend said he'll eventually come around, and to just keep in contact with him. But again I'm still going to live my life as if he's not a part of it, and do things for me that I haven't done for myself.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/11/16 04:59:45AM
308 posts

How many of us are single out of choice


Empath

I would say you are doing the right thing by being single to work on you, major kudos to you :). I never thought it was fair of people who have issues within themselves that they choose not to resolve because they think a partner is going to help them with it. One of my friends is going through this, but she is completely lost on how to work on her. Yet relies on men to make her feel good. I'd say for myself it's not much of a choice, but then again I'm also very picky on what I want. Yet again, our gift has also allowed me to pick up on whether the guy would be good for me or not. Which I guess is a blessing in disguise :) It's good being single as I've spent over a year working on me to better me as well, without the influence of someone else. As of recent I've experienced a bump with my health so it's better that I laid low as my symptoms subsided.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/08/16 05:15:03AM
308 posts



My father gets prominations, so that could be a future thing to come. Or it could be something that happened in the past that you picked up. Like maybe to you in a past life?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/08/16 05:09:11AM
308 posts

What do you think triggered your empathic abilities?


Empath

I never knew what an empath was until a few years ago. Growing I could always felt when something was going on with friends or family. Being around people who were happy made me super happy and being around debbie downers of course I felt that. Growing up people have told me I was too sensitive. Back 7 years ago I went through one of the most difficult times in my life that I think woke me up in more ways than one. When it was over and got back out there on my own again, I started having full blown panic attacks. Got put on meds and immediately had to stop them as it made it worse. But I continued therapy. I learned from my therapist about empathic people as she said that's who I was. And during traumatic events like I went through the gifts really can come out. I didn't get as serious about being more spiritual until last year. Other things started to happen to me again more frequently , like feeling someone was always around following and watching me. I've seen things, heard things, smelled scents around that are not mine. (Had many experiences like this growing up, just not as frequent as of recent) Saw a psychic and he told me I was very empathic, intuitive, and had traits of a medium. But all this was shut off at a young age by a parent. Later I had done a chakra balance and she told me the same things. I couldnt believe or undeestand what was going on with me, so i confined in my parents. Turns out he's like this, but the community shut him out for his gifts. That same night that i was terrfied of seeing unnatural figures, sounds etc. Was the same night i saw my grandpa walking down the hall, he was VERY religious. I believe my dad was the one who turned this off for me as a child, as a way to protect me. But not fully if that makes sense, but i always thought everyone had this so it was no need to discuss. After my tramautic experience brought this all back on again much stronger. All I know is that now I have a tougher time in groups, social settings, large crowds. Nature and retreats out of the city often help ground me. I'm still no expert at managing all this :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/27/16 08:17:29PM
308 posts

Cosmic Changes


Empath

This all explains why I'm so tired and can't get enough sleep lol. People at work have been so negativity so I left some stones on my desk to deflect it, I really need bigger ones :) maybe it's the energy of the big city, but I feel no one is happy anymore. Makes me so inpatient to move out next year.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/27/16 08:10:15PM
308 posts

Need help understanding how energy works


Empath

Hi bella. I'm still learning as well. But here are my recent experiences with 3 of my closest friends, if it helps :)I have noticed the past month out of the blue one night I started to get heart palpitations, my close friend gets them when she is highly anxious. So I texted her saying "weird, I jut git heart palps" and she wrote back saying she's been having them the past 20 minutes. My other 2 friends are going through dramatic times with men. and I've been having a tight chest feeling. Now, I thought this was my own anxiety, but it was again out of the blue. Im pretty aware what causes my anxiety. but my friend just told me last night how the past few weeks how bad her chest hurt from being broken hearted and how she can't breathe at times etc. I also wake up with a different feeling after certain dreams. I may not remember them but I get an idea about what i dreamt with how I feel on what I dreamt about.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/18/16 12:02:43PM
308 posts

Dumping ground of emotions


Empath

I've tried communicating with the whole "I feel" and "that hurt me" and they don't care. I do like tgat reminder of I'm human too like them. I think I have to figure out better boundaries as well.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/17/16 12:09:31PM
308 posts

Dumping ground of emotions


Empath

So when they have hurt you or say something rude, you don't say "that hurt my feelings?"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/17/16 11:06:15AM
308 posts

Dumping ground of emotions


Empath

Does anyone else feel at times like a dumping ground for drama/emotions/problems with their friends or family? And that when you have a problem or something going on, they have no time or make little time to talk to you? Or if they hurt your feelings and you tell them, they turn it around on you saying your being dramatic?I had this with 3 of my friends this week, all have done something to hurt my feelings or won't talk about my stuff. Yet I was there to talk intensely about their divorces, boyfriends, kuds, family ptoblems.
updated by @tigerlily: 01/24/17 07:40:31AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 08:38:43PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

My friend is psychic in her dreams. She's dreamt of him and I a few times. And to be sure she had to see a pic and she confirmed it. You think he's dreaming about me??
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 08:25:57PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

I LOVE dreammoods.Com. been going to tgat site for 10 years. I keep saying I'm going to start a dream journal. Only, I always felt my dreams ment more than what that site says.Funny you mention soul connection. I used to have dreams about a man only I could never see his face perfectly. One day I met a man and had an "aha" moment. Now my dreams are with his face. I don't even talk to him anymore, but he's in all these dreams of different eras. Am I supposed to contact him again?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 08:14:37PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

So then these are past life dreams I have?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 07:23:13PM
308 posts

My pet came to visit me!


Empath

I still to this day here residual cat collar bell sound in my parents house. It always reminds me of the family cat we put down nearly 10 years ago. Makes me happy her free spirit is still around :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 07:13:29PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

Who are you?? Lol. I dreamt of zombies last summer trying to get in a house and it turned out all they wanted was for me to heal them. In my dream I didn't know I had the power too, but I did. And I don't even watch zombie shows or movies.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 07:10:40PM
308 posts

Dream of a child


Empath

It could be!!! I believe it's in the future. I have had dreams about children, and like you I'm single and no kids. I remember having dreams of my ex cheating on me with a woman, and we it came out that he cheated the woman in my dream was the woman he cheated on me with. Recently I dreamt a friend's father passed and 3 weeks later he did. I didn't know the father was even sick.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/01/16 01:44:46PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

Similiar dreams to mine? Or the blurry/fuzzy of the dream?No, the harbor doesn't flood. I am no able to recall much of the brick/castle area except for a man helping me out of there. Lots of people and I remember ducking down with flying objects being thrown.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/29/16 05:29:35PM
308 posts

Past life dreams


Empath

Been having some strange dreams. Never dreamt like this before. I've had 3 dreams where it seems fuzzy and black fuzzy edges around. They are short and just glimpses. One was I woke up and went to the living room to find a boy sad looking out the window very sad and he embraced me, like my son. The second I was running and a man was trying to help me out, seemed like a castle or some type of big brick area. The third was am Arial view of harbor and then to me drowning, I think it was me. Then last night I dreamt I could feel pain in my dream, like shards of glass falling on me amd feeling the bite from a cat. Is this past life????Btw, I started to Google where I saw this harbor and it actual exists in an area I'm not familiar with. It was an Ariel view of the great Lakes that zoomed into the harbor with big bardge type ships and smaller boats.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/22/17 09:24:03PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/27/15 04:24:34PM
308 posts

Looking for that connection in someone?


Empath

I'm always told I'm judging a book by its cover. I get it. So I tested this the past few years, and people I didn't like upon meeting I gave them a chance and in the end saw what I didn't like. Those that I did like, I keep them as a friend. It feels like there are alot of "not nice" people out there right?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/30/15 04:26:05PM
308 posts

Best Tips or Stories for/of Self Discovery?


Empath

This has been my year, alot of soul searching. Reflecting back on some of the things in my life where it seemed not normal in a societal perspective. Along with looking back at the past 8 yrs of my life and where did I go wrong to fix lol. I have always felt different or unique, and do appreciate my "me" time now more than ever!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/30/15 04:12:43PM
308 posts

Connection to people


Empath

Yes, maybe I do love this person? But do you think it's there feelings for me I'm feeling this way? I haven't really spoken to them much the past few weeks, and communication with this person is very blunt I guess. So I thought to just let it fade. But it's hard when I dream about them or see all these things about them and I'm not looking for them. It's like the universe is telling me don't forget. I've never had this before. All my friends think it's very strange aND definatly believe something is there and that this person didn't expect to meet me. My psychic friend thinks he's gifted like us, and is just afraid.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/29/15 08:25:32PM
308 posts



How long have you known this person? How often do you see him/her? If you have become hugely empathetic after meeting this person, it may not just be this persons emotions you are feeling but others as well. I live in a big city and I'm jumbled up all the time. When I leave the city for a retreat and come back, sometimes the energy hits me like a big wave. Only on days I haven't grounded myself completely in nature I feel that big wave.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/29/15 06:48:11PM
308 posts

Connection to people


Empath

You think I love this person? Are these signs?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/26/15 07:10:58PM
308 posts

Seeing ladybugs lately


Empath

That is great to hear Daydra! Maybe the ladybugs are telling you that you are on the right path :) I'm the same way this year with what you mentioned above and never been happier. And everything will fall into place as they should :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/26/15 08:17:49AM
308 posts

Connection to people


Empath

Has anyone had such a strong connection to someone that it drives you nuts? I feel I have that with someone, and everytime I try to let it go or forget about it something about that person pops up? Like a dream, hearing their name everywhere, seeing their name in the most unusual places?
updated by @tigerlily: 01/20/17 12:47:21AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/26/15 05:39:38AM
308 posts

Seeing ladybugs lately


Empath

Ladybugs are good luck. I've also heard of bringING love and joy. I've had so many on me and around this summer. One day I left qork and there were 1000's around the bldg. Maybe think of how things in your life or around you are going? Has things turned for the better in anything? Has a special someone come back into your life?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/31/15 10:45:57PM
308 posts



I'm opposite. I have to keep it clean and organized. Don't get me wrong, I do get lazy and my place tends get messy. I keep it clean for a clear flow of energy, and when it's not my place feels cloudy. I'm not OCD, and will clean up before people come over. But this like cloud doesn't feel right. So clean and organized and the energy is better.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/13/15 06:55:36PM
308 posts

Is anyone else feeling lost?


Empath

I'm not sure, but curious to know. The techniques etc I think is where school comes in handy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/11/15 07:51:02PM
308 posts

What is this intense feeling I'm having in my chest?


Empath

Question, how do you know if this love is coming from whom? I have been having the same thing, and the entire time I've been thinking/feeling it's from a certain man. Then my ex contacted me out of the blue telling me he thinks about me often and still loves me. I honestly don't think about my ex, this other man I do and see signs everywhere about this man.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/11/15 07:45:38PM
308 posts



Wow! Have you encountered individuals whom you can't hear their thoughts?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/11/15 07:35:58PM
308 posts

Is anyone else feeling lost?


Empath

Same here! I think it is a great way to help people. People ger massages for a variety of reasons. I've always been told by friends I give great massages, and hey the pay is great as well :) if I did pursue I would have my own space as an entraprenuer.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
10/08/15 05:52:20PM
308 posts

Is anyone else feeling lost?


Empath

Daydra, as I was reading your post and what others had commented I was thinking message therapy or reiki would be good for you as you seem to be a healer. To my surprise you actually thought about it, so I think this is a sign :) I have also been thinking about massage therapy or even reiki for some time.
 
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