Forum Activity for @tigerlily

TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:04:12PM
425 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

Hi, I have alot of friends like this as well. As for selfish, I picked up on that to lately. And I agree the social media is bringing out the worse. It's been driving me crazy. And I know 150% how you feel where people call you to tell you something stupid like that but then never want to listen to you or acknowledge what you say.

I think it's an empath trait, we are always there and people just become codependent on us. It really is up to us to set better boundaries, I haven't mastered it yet. But I have been saying no more, and that's hard really hard. It bothers me all day and I keep thinking about it because I know I can help them, but no one is helping me but me so I'm just trying to focus my energy on me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/01/17 04:54:29PM
425 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

Yes, the adrenals are actually a "medical" thing I have. I get tested for them and even my dr doesn't understand why they are elevated on some tests, and other tests not. Looking back now, I can see how the stress is causing it. The bloat gets to me sometimes cause as you know it can hurt and be uncomfortable. I'm hoping now a consistent workout schedule will help with this. I usually run/bike ride through a forest by my house and I always feel great.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/31/17 07:08:51PM
425 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

So when people loose weight from stress and depression, would that mean they are a narc???? This is just fascinating to me now that you all can relate.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:08:05PM
425 posts



Sometimes dreaming about death is the end to something. Whatever hardships you are going through could be coming to end and for the better. Maybe the angel in your dream is pointing you to your niece and mother as a way for them to help you?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:04:18PM
425 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

It's people negative energy. And yes, the stress has had me off a bit trying to focus on me as I'm too mentally exhausted at the end of the day. I tried finding the "joy" to help others, as it can be rewarding. But then they just cling to me like a leach. Leading me to then turn very negative. It took ALOT of motivation to just get up for a run and a bike ride. And the negativity I got from friends about that too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 06:35:58PM
425 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

This is a weird one, but has anyone experienced weight gain from negative energy? I've had a lot of negativity with some friends recently and basically had to take a break from them, same with work I'm taking a lot of vacation time. I feel like my gut is bloated, and the scale has gone up. My digestion is off too.
I get it has to do with your third chakra. I'm trying this "I don't care" attitude, but that's hard because I start shaking if I don't help. Then I'm stressed all day if I don't help, like it lingers. I started exercising again, and I can honestly say that is the best energy cleansing for me. All that pent up energy I guess and I can run and bike for miles and miles, and not feel tired.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/01/18 10:20:58AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 08:14:15PM
425 posts

Strong sensations???


Empath

My empathic skills and intuition has grown tremondously the past few months. It's so strong that I almost can't function. People at work and in my personal life are questioning what I am doing. Even though something logical to do, my gut says no. So I follow it and I'm right. So now naturally I'm so impressed with my intuition and fascinated more by it. People are asking me to justify myself. What???
updated by @tigerlily: 08/04/18 02:26:14AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 07:57:57PM
425 posts

Advise please


Empath

Don't do it. I get it logically it sounds right to you. But it's your boss. Whatever she is charging for rent, she'll profit. And the appreciation of the home in a year of rent. She's only asking you so you take care of the house and won't trash it. That's what my gut says. Protect you first :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/17 04:08:17PM
425 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

My ex fiance was a narc. Typical narc as he just sucked the life out of me. Taking and taking but not giving back. They are drawn to people who can help them as they can't help themselves, the empath. In person they may act like an angel, on social media I agree it's what they post or say. I'm starting to notice the wording they use when they speak or write, and that stench of BS makes me sick.

I'm all for helping others, and now I'm making myself more aware and will just cut the BS they give. After years of being taken advantage of you can't help but to grow a tight backbone. I look like the jerk to them, and I don't care. I tried to help, but I can see taking advantage of starting to happen. I'm starting to think my best friend is a narc, although I'm still in denial about it, hard to ignore the signs. I cut contact back with her this year and she flipped out on me a few times. It really bothered me that she's doing that, but I stood up for myself.

Putting up a stance to a narc I've noticed is this feeling of powerless from them and some kind of sadness. It's a battle of emotions I feel inside too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/18/17 06:45:43PM
425 posts

Men


Empath

Yes I've read about soul mates and soul connections, I guess when it happens to me I almost can't believe what I read or what you all have said. That attraction is intense! Maybe my logical side kicks in too much.

I don't think I've ever felt a bad feeling from him, but I do feel like he is lonely or empty. As from anything I did learn from him is probably what the dr ordered about stress mgnt. As I'm letting things go, but yet feel it come back I think of him. As for my dreams, it doesn't seem he's been a past lover, but maybe a protector of some kind.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/16/17 07:09:39PM
425 posts

Men


Empath

What do you do when you have met someone that you have some soul recognition? I've met several men over the past few years and feel like "I know you" These are the men that I feel maybe I try to hard with and they leave? It's an over bearing emotion I get of "don't leave me" One in particular I felt was the one, and he came in and out of my life alot. But last year I met another man, and after several dates he said there wasn't a connection and my heart/stomach dropped to the floor. I was upset, but tried to get over it and just continued dating and eventually forgot about him. About 2 months or so ago he came to my mind for no reason and i wondered how he was, and then to my surprise I get a text from him 2 weeks later. Wow! Creepy I thought. He has said many times since we met again that I'm an amazing woman. But we are not dating or anything. We went out once a few weeks ago. I want to ask him to meet up again, but I feel like I'm pushing it. I also get a feeling he's not interested anymore or is just lost?? I even had a few dreams of him which didn't feel like this era. Same kind of dreams that I had with the other guy who I thought was the one.

This really bothers me and I feel very uneasy. Any other man I would just write off. Why do they come back?
updated by @tigerlily: 09/03/18 10:31:08AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:43:16PM
425 posts



I don't know how to explain it except for like a vacuum. I just suck it right up. It's an intense feeling of happy/sad/anger/etc emotion that the person is feeling. When I've totally destress ed and grounded is when I feel it hit the hardest, but if I'm bottled up it mostly makes me dizzy/light headed sometimes a chest tightness if it's just negative emotions. The negativity clearly affects me and I'm sure everyone else the most.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:36:13PM
425 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

@ kit-kat. I would like to say first, don't allow this situation to doubt who you are as an empath. You are going through a rough bump right now and are actually feeling your own feelings for a change. Which is a good thing. Take the time now to just focus on you. I know easier said than done right? What is it that you want, that maybe you didn't have the opportunity to before?

As for Co dependent. I'm not sure on this because I've been single for years, but I have dated alot but that's it. Being single does get lonely, and I do like being around others (sometimes) But the one good thing about it, I answer to no one. I never have to worry about someone getting upset about anything in the house, except for myself for not doing it. Then I do it and then feel better lol.

As for thinking about him. That's hard, I still struggle with this and dating!!! You are used to this person and have had them in your life for some time. It's only natural. You miss them. Over time it will go away. People always say "pick a hobby" "try doing xyz to get your mind off of it" Those things never helped me, the only thing that did was being around friends and family as much as I could. I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this and my heart goes out to you.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 06:54:02PM
425 posts



I agree, but to me I feel as a human on this earth, it feels like my energy dictates that person. And I have to keep working hard to keep me up to bring others up yet battle the negativity that person is feeling so I dont absorb it. And if im down, they are down. The energy needed to have to put back in us to bring my sunshine smile while someone takes it. Guess it's a "life is not fair" Where we work hard to bring us up/ground/etc and those around us don't and just continue to take. Yet if I take or just feel their energy to feel good is wrong, we all know that. I'm getting sucked dry by people, and when I need my space they are mad. I'm exhausted with this battle.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 05:53:35PM
425 posts



I have a question. Maybe this is a separate discussion. Why is it that we need to lift ourselves up for our partner to be? What if it is there negative energy bringing us down, and then making them more negative? We all know this is exhausting, and if it's the "gift" it's alot of work lol. Sorry I'm emotional and physically exhausted these days.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 07:34:38PM
425 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

Things were going great for years and I was able to finally feel relief. Then that tidal wave came again. I'm not sure what I did to cause this, but I've been trying to follow my gut more the past year. I know of times when I didn't and did. I truly learned alot. Right now, somethibg just feels awful in my gut at work but I'm in a tough situation where I have to and I know it's wrong. I feel like I need to just quit and start a whole new life elsewhere. But we all know we need financials in this world.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 06:47:49PM
425 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

How do you know what your karma is? I thought I had resolved it as things got better then I got hit with a tidal wave, and another and another. I'm drowning here.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 05:45:46PM
425 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

I am not sure ig something is in the air or if this is another empath thing. Life keeps giving me lemons to make lemonade and I'm tired of making leamonade. I feel like I've learned alot and enough. When does it stop?
updated by @tigerlily: 08/08/18 02:18:24AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:24:49PM
425 posts

My gift is gone


Empath

I notice when I wrap myself in my own bubble and focus on me, everything is gone. Not in a bad way, but take care of me and say forget others. Like isolation almost, but not. I struggle now with focusing on me, and honestly I just feel like shit. Yet everyday I say I'm going to stop and everyday I dont.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:20:37PM
425 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

My NDE was about a decade ago, and after that I felt my central nervous system was shot. I thought it was because of that, about 2 years after something triggered and I started havibg full blown attacks. Started seeing a therapist and from then on I learned about my gifts. It made sense how growing up I'd hear and see things not there, but as a kid who doesn't like a good ghost story right? Then again I always thought people could feel and sense otheRS emotions.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/03/17 11:04:44PM
425 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

My relationship history with men. Hmm my ex was a narc and did me all kinds of wrong to me, and I loved him deeply. The one after him, completely controlling. Ever since those relationships ended, I noticed I "attract" men who have some type of emotional issue that needs fixing or are typical momma type boys who want a woman to take care of them. Ok yes so narcs. Of the few "nice boys" I was not attracted. I could not bear the thought of settling as I knew I'd be unhappy. I guess you can say I am still and will always be attracted to the "bad boys" So, I shifted my search to older men and the maturity I adored. Which i know family would not approve. But, none of those lasted either.

The ones I've met who have a "familiarity" about them are the ones I try to keep, and we'll I just sound like a stupid women who doesn't see the signs that they are not interested. But that familiarity and goosebumps tell me something inside that is special and to hang on. I'm assuming those are past life related. Go figure as somehow they return or keep some slight contact.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/03/17 11:07:00PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 07:21:34PM
425 posts



If you like coffee try decaf. I drink coffee alot, but it's mostly decaf. I forgot I used to use nature sounds at night. Pandora has a station and it will shut off after a few hours. Nature always calms me and grounds me. I used to also have a station with all kinds of soothing piano music, as well.

And I agree with the social media and news. It really makes my blood boil reading all those things. It got to the point I was so mad they were recording waiting for the giraffe to give birth. It's like "give this poor creature that is locked up in this small area some privacy" I think birth is amazing and new life, but I don't know why it just bothered me? Also, try not talking or texting or emails before bed. Unless you are here chatting with us :) no one here wants you to feel burdened or upset :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:49:51PM
425 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

I do agree with what everyone is saying. It all makes more sense now. But that darn anxiety with stress then makes my mind wander causing me more stress lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:43:09PM
425 posts



My sleep issues improved when I started working stable hours, where I can go to bed every night about the same time and wake up the same time. It took many months, but it eventually worked. Right now with a health issue I'm just tired all the time anyways, but I cut out alot of caffeine/sweets/carbs which has also helped. The nights I can't sleep I use lavender oil. The good kind that is pure. I shake the oil all over my bed and I'll knock out. If that doesn't help still, I'll drink some wine :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 05:35:36PM
425 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

@hop-daddy, I like to think "positive" that the spirits are around to comfort us and that it will be ok. But it kind of freaks me out more in a way when I'm that heightened that we can feel or see them. I'm still spooked by them. I guess since I had one attached to me once (I was told that the spirit safe and protected with me) But, as for the dreams I've had about spirits, they all have been good.

The other thing I heard, is all that stress we have alot more energy which the spirits like as well. But I think that stress energy is more negative attracting negative. Please tell me if I'm wrong on that, because I really like to the more positive approach on it I mentioned in the beginning lol.

And yes, that much stress is just awful, but I pick it up at work. Which I'm looking to get out of.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 05:28:31PM
425 posts

Relationship Between Stress And Empathy?


Empath

This is a interesting topic. Does the stress just heighten our sensitivity?? I recently saw an apparition the other day, and I haven't seen anything in a while. But I was under a lot of stress where my chest hurt and thought the stress was that high I was seeing things. I've also been having alot of vivid dreams again and my gut has been spot on. But sometimes there days wherelated I just feel like a tornado from all the stress amd emotions in a given situation. Feels like I was at a rock concert or night club when I'm finally alone.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 04:32:30AM
425 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

I'm really happy you had a great time :) I'm happy that you brought someone with you :) Maybe your gut/instincts told you to bring that friend?

I've started reflecting back on the past year and a half and my "gut instincts" and when I did this, alot I remember didn't make any sense at the time. Now fast forward it completely does. It's especially hard when the gut says no to somethibg that you desire and would cherish. But as I JUST learned, when I passed it up, the next day something better came along. I couldn't believe it and I still think about it. It really was very very hard passing up the first thing because it was such a great deal and didn't think I could find better, and the very next day I found better. The universe did step in and prevent it, as I was defying gut and thinking it was stress. I think this recent experience alone has made me fully be 150% inclined to follow it.

Moral of story, follow gut. No matter how difficult it may be to defy it. The universe sometimes has an alternate plan to point you in the right direction. :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/27/17 04:16:14AM
425 posts

Health worries


Empath

Thank you for the article! I can relate to a few of those!

There are several family members who suffer from anxiety and depression. I can see how that is inherited.

I recently had my arm hurting for months, which I thought I had injured from moving things around. Some days it lingered, then the next I was fine, then it came back. I recently noticed the pain was gone again, and it's been gone for about 3 weeks. The moment I thought "weird, so and so always has elbow pain, I wonder what he's up to" The pain disappeared. I do have a connection to this person, but we don't talk as much anymore since he moved. Maybe I need to pick up the phone and see how's he doing?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/26/17 09:09:48PM
425 posts

Health worries


Empath

I don't know where to start or how to say this. Guess looking to see if others experience this. I feel like I feel everything go on in my body. I was diagnosed years ago with an anxiety disorder, then later my therapist told me I was an empath. Lucky for me I guess I landed a therapist who is spiritual :)
I know anxiety can manifest into many things, and I've experience many. I guess that's what turned into this health anxiety. It was interesting to learn from my therapist that being a sensitive individual also results to feeling everything go on in the body. Curious if others feel this about themselves.

Also, I have noticed that sometimes I feel others pains. So not sure if that is also why I feel everything going on. Exampke,Out of nowhere I'll get a pain in my abdomen, and I'll dismiss as gas. 10 minutes later my coworker sitting next to me is complaining about gas pains. Another example a friend was so upset about an injury it caused him distress. My chest started to hurt and I asked him "are you so stressed about this that you have chest pains?" He said yes.
updated by @tigerlily: 07/04/17 05:49:39AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/21/17 08:10:51PM
425 posts



I agree with Rene, whatever works for you. Definitely try what others suggest and see what suites you. Getting out in nature has worked the best for me. Hikes, beach, driving in the country, just sitting somewhere.
This may sound crazy but ive noticed is having a few glasses of wine. Only a specific bottle of wine and alone. I don't know why I feel recharged the next morning especially if I havent had any drinks in a long time. But it has to be by myself. If I'm out, I don't feel the same. Or if friends are over, not the same. And it's only that one brand that does it the most!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/21/17 07:57:58PM
425 posts



I have been feeling this to. I know some of it is me, and the rest not. I've become so sensitive and the urge to help has been out of control. I caught myself helping someone who I know is a narc!! Do you feel really stressed?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/15/17 05:33:47AM
425 posts

Work


Empath

Well that good opportunity has gone and I didn't get it. As well as now that person at work as has been gloating about getting that recognition, but asks questions and more. I balled my eyes out last night. Started a doc and documented all that she is asking and any complaints I get from other people. I don't understand. Oh and on top of that I got sick again. I'm sorry to vent. You all get it and understand. I guess I'm still shocked about this all. :(
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/14/17 03:42:32PM
425 posts

Residual energy from past


Empath

I totally get about the forgiving. I have forgave so many times, and then there is a trigger that brings it all back. I guess maybe finding all that stuff, was maybe silly to burn it all or throw away. But again, I'm all for out with the old and in with the new.

Does the stuff from before still bother you? Or have the triggers stopped.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/14/17 04:25:13AM
425 posts

Residual energy from past


Empath

Hi, I was looking for feedback on this and what you all may have done.

Years ago I went through a difficult time in my life and it still haunts me today. Sometimes it feels like a curse. A friend of mine told me to write everything down on paper as to what happened during that time and burn it and to get rid of anythibg from that time. He said he did it and felt better and then his life changed. I will say he is doing really well for himself now. Back to me :) I did do this, but I never burned it, I just ripped it up and threw it in the garbage and said be gone because I had no access to a fireplace, and worried what if I set something on fire. This weekend I decided to fully clean out my car and found papers and such during that bad time. I waa at a family members house and asked if I could just burn these in their fireplace and I did. It did feel good doing so and getting rid of those things, like a toast to new beginning. I am curious to know that if what I did helped long term and not short term in the moment? All these years I had some form of bad energy around me, that I didn't even know?
updated by @tigerlily: 09/06/18 04:44:48AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/10/17 05:40:53AM
425 posts

Work


Empath

@hop-daddy

I know right now things are poorly managed, they are making decisions more on the line of quick fixes. When the reality is, a restructure needs to happen. The narc of a an upper manager doesn't see that or understand that. Yet again, it's me constantly fixing the issues and managing. But like you, you knew that and took charge and made it better for everyone. That is also what I know to be true.

After the past few weeks I'm more eager to leave, and a friend at work told me about another opportunity. I guess I just have fear thinking that why I'm looked upon for that is because of the "helper" in me. But it can pose good money. Which I'll need because it looks like I may have broke down my car :(
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/08/17 09:01:56PM
425 posts

Work


Empath

I do want to say thank you to everyone. The support and all your kind words, it feels so nice to hear and provide this kind of help. I almost feel bad as all my life I helped everyone, and never really got much in return, except from here :) Thank you, thank you, thank you :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/08/17 08:58:08PM
425 posts

Work


Empath

@hop-daddy

I agree with you. I do believe I'm being totally used. More problems have risen, and I'm being looked at to take the lead. I have another meeting with my boss to discuss things. She actually just admitted the other day what is and isn't my duties and working to remove them.

I have often thought about that, my life path. I think I'm off of it. When I first took this job years ago, I got such a bad feeling about it. I got sick. Now years later looking back, it's been stressful. However, I did learn more about people from it. But the stress is taking its toll and my health has declined.

I work in such a toxic negative environment it's hard to be positive. I still try everyday. I feel chaos all around. It's not like that thick pea soup feeling of tension, but more like pillow everyday. I often think have I absorbed this much negative energy that is why my car battery keeps dying? Mechanics can't find anything wrong. The lights tend to flicker more, and of course my computer at work keeps freezing up and our IT dept has no idea why.

I need a sick day.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/02/17 03:35:08PM
425 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

Right? I used to for years have that feeling and not understand what it was. I'd say the past 2 years I'm trusting more, but that damn logical side of me gets in the way alot. And then I don't trust it, and sometimes it's just stuff in the air I guess where I just feel "off"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/01/17 08:35:27PM
425 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

The moment you said you have horrible anxiety and going to the shower, well, I've had this to countless times. :) I never listened to mine and something always happened, not bad, but that uncomfortable bad, awkwardness from the vibes/energy there. I really didn't need to read furthur, but....

I understand you want to go for your friend and you should. But I also understand about that other one.

The mad anxiety is telling you something, and I think you should listen to it and figure out what it means. Maybe go, see for yourself what it means. You may have this anxiety again in other situations too. Learn from them. Then, a year or two from now you will keep learning and discover more about you and the feelings. It only grows stronger, but hey that's a good thing too :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 09:01:04PM
425 posts

Signs You are living With a Narcissist or Psychopath


Library of Light

Thank you for this post. It is a good reminder for all of us to watch out for the narcs and psychopaths. :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 08:50:11PM
425 posts

Questions for the psychic mediums


Psychic and Paranormal

To answer your questions, yesses. :)

Your mom is still watching over her children and she probably will do so onto you all pass. That maybe her time to then ascend higher and then choose to be reborn again.

I'm a big believer in reincarnation. I think we all have lived many lives. And I believe spirits or souls are still with us who have chosen to not "go to the light" And this could be for many reasons why the soul chooses not to. For reasons listed above. For where I believe that is where we like "report" to the highers on what we have learned in this lifetime and resolve karma in the next. As far as how long that process can take, is probably up to the souls who have ascended and ready to descend.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 05:20:31PM
425 posts

Balance


Empath

@ renee

That FB group was probably full of people who wished they were spiritual. It was probably a group of low self esteem narcs who felt threatened because a true spiritual person like you joined. Those idiotic people probably felt being spiritual is the "in thing to do" And saw you are good hearted etc and they did what a narc would do. Throw ya under the bus to FB.

I agree with others on trying to reach out to FB and find out wtf happened?

It's probably best right now you are not on FB. All this political stuff is just crazy. Every post is about trump and everyone hating him. Barely do you see cute kid/family/pet photos and all that other stuff.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 03:51:56PM
425 posts

Work


Empath

@renee thank you. That is what I've learned in this dept. They want you to help and go above and beyond, ok any job. But it's a competition on who does it the most and who kisses butt the most. You have both of those, you get the promotion and next in line. Yes, its shitty. But our senior manager wants that. Ill say hes a complete moron. Experience doesn't matter to these people, and anyone can BS their way through it because there's nothing to quantify on it. All my work you can. After this recent shit storm, I threw my hands up in there and said F it. Going to do things my way. I was lucky the past few days to convince a head hauncho some lady was not right for some tasks, and well my boss got upset. And i also got another dept to start taking accountabikity. Hey, I wasn't going to let that lady take my thunder again. And I'm not going to stand for horrible business decisions like they do, and this mouth is going to be open and say yay or nay. My gut is telling me to do so, so I'm following.

Just awful that they do take advantage, and I agree. This one I just didn't see coming, but I think I was naive and felt relief to have things off my plate. I'm going to keep pushing back.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 04:22:06PM
425 posts

Work


Empath

I understand my job is just a job, but we still need financials to carry out in life. Empath or not. I understand my job is an empath, but I also understand that I need to give and provide to me and future with kids. That is number 1 to me, because I don't see a narc paying my bills. But I just helped pay theirs?? Maybe we are going about this all wrong and need to help people that actually need it. Narcs don't need it, they just want someone to do it for them. Seems a common theme among empathic people, always being taken advantage of narcs. We can already sense when someone may not be great, but sense that need for help and that overpowers. Maybe we need to take a step back and think about before we jump.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 04:12:44PM
425 posts



I trully agree.

Even though I've never experienced tgat with a man. It still brings me joy to hear others do (and vice versa) I completely understand why it's important to you that she can read you. Whatever she went through, you want her to know that you are there in a way where you don't always have to tell her, but because she can just feel it everyday :) Love it!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 05:05:25AM
425 posts

Work


Empath

I know we have had discussions about work and what kind of work we do. Mine is more of the lines of "helping" in the corporate sector. Ok makes sense, as empaths we help right? Long story short I've been working hard to get a promotion and yet turned down. Then working hard and justifying why we need some new positions and was turned down. I just broke down again and cried yesterday because the one thing I put alot of sweat into was given to this lady as a new position, who for better words "lacks the skill set" to manage. Since I already set up that program, now a few months later she got the credit for it. Anyone here knows that a new program can take several months to take off and show results. She's done nothing with it and just asked questions etc. It really hurt me. Yet all I get from the higher ups is "I am very smart and have such a tremendous work ethic and skills" I couldn't help but to cry because I should have received that recognition and pay bump/bonuses. Or the 2 times I was passed up for a promotion was given to people who for better words "lack people skills" yet I have a decade experience of leadership, and they had none.

Am I just in the wrong field? Wrong job? I just don't get it? Or has the world really turned into catering to brown nosing? Or is it just back to the fact that we as empathy somehow just keep loosing to the narcs.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/01/18 11:12:40PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/26/17 07:12:07PM
425 posts



I'm really happy to hear such a success! You are an amazing man and I can tell you love her dearly. And clearly nothing to hide :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/26/17 12:41:33PM
425 posts

Strange Feel/Expectation


Empath

@hop-daddy. I couldn't agree with you more and you said it perfectly.

Now who is going to help us stay sane trying to keep everyone else sane lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/23/17 06:56:09PM
425 posts



It defiantly sounds like this to me. And I agree you both are doing the running and chasing. Definatky on a soul level somethibg is there, and it's intense! But, we are stI'll human and our hearts hurt at times. And all those articles I've read about twin flames say they'll never hurt you, but I think it still happens. I think it would be great to talk to each other and express your love and let each other know how deep you feel for each other and understand that there will be times of arguments but want to stay with each other. That running out of the window, hey I felt that and did that once. Only because I couldn't believe I found him, that feeling was so intense! PM if you want chat furthur.
 
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