Forum Activity for @tigerlily

TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/08/17 08:58:08PM
339 posts

Work


Empath

@hop-daddy

I agree with you. I do believe I'm being totally used. More problems have risen, and I'm being looked at to take the lead. I have another meeting with my boss to discuss things. She actually just admitted the other day what is and isn't my duties and working to remove them.

I have often thought about that, my life path. I think I'm off of it. When I first took this job years ago, I got such a bad feeling about it. I got sick. Now years later looking back, it's been stressful. However, I did learn more about people from it. But the stress is taking its toll and my health has declined.

I work in such a toxic negative environment it's hard to be positive. I still try everyday. I feel chaos all around. It's not like that thick pea soup feeling of tension, but more like pillow everyday. I often think have I absorbed this much negative energy that is why my car battery keeps dying? Mechanics can't find anything wrong. The lights tend to flicker more, and of course my computer at work keeps freezing up and our IT dept has no idea why.

I need a sick day.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/02/17 03:35:08PM
339 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

Right? I used to for years have that feeling and not understand what it was. I'd say the past 2 years I'm trusting more, but that damn logical side of me gets in the way alot. And then I don't trust it, and sometimes it's just stuff in the air I guess where I just feel "off"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/01/17 08:35:27PM
339 posts

advise needed, has anyone dealt with this?????


Empath

The moment you said you have horrible anxiety and going to the shower, well, I've had this to countless times. :) I never listened to mine and something always happened, not bad, but that uncomfortable bad, awkwardness from the vibes/energy there. I really didn't need to read furthur, but....

I understand you want to go for your friend and you should. But I also understand about that other one.

The mad anxiety is telling you something, and I think you should listen to it and figure out what it means. Maybe go, see for yourself what it means. You may have this anxiety again in other situations too. Learn from them. Then, a year or two from now you will keep learning and discover more about you and the feelings. It only grows stronger, but hey that's a good thing too :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 09:01:04PM
339 posts

Signs You are living With a Narcissist or Psychopath


Library of Light

Thank you for this post. It is a good reminder for all of us to watch out for the narcs and psychopaths. :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 08:50:11PM
339 posts

Questions for the psychic mediums


Psychic and Paranormal

To answer your questions, yesses. :)

Your mom is still watching over her children and she probably will do so onto you all pass. That maybe her time to then ascend higher and then choose to be reborn again.

I'm a big believer in reincarnation. I think we all have lived many lives. And I believe spirits or souls are still with us who have chosen to not "go to the light" And this could be for many reasons why the soul chooses not to. For reasons listed above. For where I believe that is where we like "report" to the highers on what we have learned in this lifetime and resolve karma in the next. As far as how long that process can take, is probably up to the souls who have ascended and ready to descend.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 05:20:31PM
339 posts

Balance


Empath

@ renee

That FB group was probably full of people who wished they were spiritual. It was probably a group of low self esteem narcs who felt threatened because a true spiritual person like you joined. Those idiotic people probably felt being spiritual is the "in thing to do" And saw you are good hearted etc and they did what a narc would do. Throw ya under the bus to FB.

I agree with others on trying to reach out to FB and find out wtf happened?

It's probably best right now you are not on FB. All this political stuff is just crazy. Every post is about trump and everyone hating him. Barely do you see cute kid/family/pet photos and all that other stuff.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/30/17 03:51:56PM
339 posts

Work


Empath

@renee thank you. That is what I've learned in this dept. They want you to help and go above and beyond, ok any job. But it's a competition on who does it the most and who kisses butt the most. You have both of those, you get the promotion and next in line. Yes, its shitty. But our senior manager wants that. Ill say hes a complete moron. Experience doesn't matter to these people, and anyone can BS their way through it because there's nothing to quantify on it. All my work you can. After this recent shit storm, I threw my hands up in there and said F it. Going to do things my way. I was lucky the past few days to convince a head hauncho some lady was not right for some tasks, and well my boss got upset. And i also got another dept to start taking accountabikity. Hey, I wasn't going to let that lady take my thunder again. And I'm not going to stand for horrible business decisions like they do, and this mouth is going to be open and say yay or nay. My gut is telling me to do so, so I'm following.

Just awful that they do take advantage, and I agree. This one I just didn't see coming, but I think I was naive and felt relief to have things off my plate. I'm going to keep pushing back.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 04:22:06PM
339 posts

Work


Empath

I understand my job is just a job, but we still need financials to carry out in life. Empath or not. I understand my job is an empath, but I also understand that I need to give and provide to me and future with kids. That is number 1 to me, because I don't see a narc paying my bills. But I just helped pay theirs?? Maybe we are going about this all wrong and need to help people that actually need it. Narcs don't need it, they just want someone to do it for them. Seems a common theme among empathic people, always being taken advantage of narcs. We can already sense when someone may not be great, but sense that need for help and that overpowers. Maybe we need to take a step back and think about before we jump.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 04:12:44PM
339 posts

Question/help


Empath

I trully agree.

Even though I've never experienced tgat with a man. It still brings me joy to hear others do (and vice versa) I completely understand why it's important to you that she can read you. Whatever she went through, you want her to know that you are there in a way where you don't always have to tell her, but because she can just feel it everyday :) Love it!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/27/17 05:05:25AM
339 posts

Work


Empath

I know we have had discussions about work and what kind of work we do. Mine is more of the lines of "helping" in the corporate sector. Ok makes sense, as empaths we help right? Long story short I've been working hard to get a promotion and yet turned down. Then working hard and justifying why we need some new positions and was turned down. I just broke down again and cried yesterday because the one thing I put alot of sweat into was given to this lady as a new position, who for better words "lacks the skill set" to manage. Since I already set up that program, now a few months later she got the credit for it. Anyone here knows that a new program can take several months to take off and show results. She's done nothing with it and just asked questions etc. It really hurt me. Yet all I get from the higher ups is "I am very smart and have such a tremendous work ethic and skills" I couldn't help but to cry because I should have received that recognition and pay bump/bonuses. Or the 2 times I was passed up for a promotion was given to people who for better words "lack people skills" yet I have a decade experience of leadership, and they had none.

Am I just in the wrong field? Wrong job? I just don't get it? Or has the world really turned into catering to brown nosing? Or is it just back to the fact that we as empathy somehow just keep loosing to the narcs.
updated by @tigerlily: 06/16/17 02:57:31PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/26/17 07:12:07PM
339 posts

Question/help


Empath

I'm really happy to hear such a success! You are an amazing man and I can tell you love her dearly. And clearly nothing to hide :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/26/17 12:41:33PM
339 posts

Strange Feel/Expectation


Empath

@hop-daddy. I couldn't agree with you more and you said it perfectly.

Now who is going to help us stay sane trying to keep everyone else sane lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/23/17 06:56:09PM
339 posts

Twin Flames! Runner or Fake Twin?


Empath

It defiantly sounds like this to me. And I agree you both are doing the running and chasing. Definatky on a soul level somethibg is there, and it's intense! But, we are stI'll human and our hearts hurt at times. And all those articles I've read about twin flames say they'll never hurt you, but I think it still happens. I think it would be great to talk to each other and express your love and let each other know how deep you feel for each other and understand that there will be times of arguments but want to stay with each other. That running out of the window, hey I felt that and did that once. Only because I couldn't believe I found him, that feeling was so intense! PM if you want chat furthur.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/23/17 06:40:41PM
339 posts

Strange Feel/Expectation


Empath

I think i understand what you mean. I've been feeling "confused" what I mean is that I feel like I need to move away, but stay. I've had this wave for like 2 years. Then Lately its been a tidal wave! I've been feeling alot of negativity everywhere that will not go away and it is making me depressed, but can also feel good coming in the future for everywhere. Like bigger picture outside of my own life and for everyone. Even though I feel that, it's almost like someone nudging me like "go on, you'll be fine"
Listen to your gut. I think the negativity is just what's going on in the world today and not what you want to do for you. That big picture of negativity in the world will not affect you.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/23/17 05:58:31PM
339 posts

feel like I am not human


Empath

@ jeramie. I used to feel growing up, that my parents are not my parents. I don't know why I felt this or would think that. Now as I have become older I realized I'm just that independent. Weather we are adopted or not or conceived by a sperm donor, our identity is our own. Growing up it was always a fight with my parents and it still is, and I feel trapped that who I am is not how they want me to be. For years I felt lost and often questioned "who am i" After years of working on me I now know who I am. And it's still not who my parents want me to be lol. I just knew since childhood. You have to go with it and trust in you. You have gifts that not many understand except us here, or anyone else you know in person who has a spiritual gift.

And people these days, my goodness. The people. I almost can't go out on some days or talk to people. And other times I have to because I can feel the good. (Which is rare)

But like you, today is a day I felt like living life was hard. What helps me get through the day is not dealing with idiots and narcs. I don't know why I just angry when they are around LOL.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/23/17 06:09:10AM
339 posts

spiritual dimension and mental/emotinal health


Empath

I honestly believe trying to find a healer at no charge will be hard. Think about it. Everyone here talks about narcs and how we are taken advantage of, those healers made a business with it. If they didnt, they would get taken advantage of. Throw a monetary value to it, no being taken advantage of.

Just watch out for the con artists. True healers don't advertise themselves with neon signs and fancy websites.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/18/17 03:40:00PM
339 posts

spiritual dimension and mental/emotinal health


Empath

She mostly does chakra and reiki, but studied with shamans. She's communicates with spirits during the sessions as well. She really wanted to work more with me, but I'm broke lol.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/18/17 03:24:53PM
339 posts

spiritual dimension and mental/emotinal health


Empath

This may sound crazy and absurd, but I had a spirit attached to me. Apparently it was following me everywhere. It didnt harm me in anyway, but I have no idea if it affected my emotions. But I do know I never felt I was "alone" and would get that feeling I'm being watched. The healer I went to released it and then told me of many "gifts" I had. I guess being an empathic person by nature this spirit just felt safe and comfortable around me. As she said.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/18/17 04:57:26AM
339 posts

Past life Regression


Empath

@lucky seven. I totally understand where you are coming from. I recommend checking out some of Dr Brian Weiss' books. The first book I read put so much into perspective. There is a licensed therapist close to me who studied with him and a few others. But man, expensive. And I get afraid to go lol.

I can tell you from my dreams it appears that the true love, we were always separated somehow by death I believe and infedility and no one wanting us to be together. It's like he listened to everyone about me, like I was never good enough. The last dream I had I was a housewife and miserable and married to a man I didn't like and he didn't care for me either. I had 2 kids, one was a child from him. But dreams prior to that I was pregnant with that try love guy and I believe he died out in sea. Those collections of dreams are all the same era. I was looking up everything on google, to clothes, shoes, transportation, etc. I feel like recognizing that should be enough and forgiving myself. But it's not. The last guy I actually dated several months back, upon first meeting him I was terrified and had a hurt feeling and i never wanted to speak to him again. But I gave him a chance and found out he was actually one of the sweetest guys I met in a long time. He did eventually leave as well, as his family was #1 and he had a lot of family problems he had to tend to. One day it was like a bell went off in my head like he was the on from the past I was married to and unhappy.

I am afraid that in the past life I left my children with this awful guy to get away and was just miserable. And tgat is why I was homeless in the streets.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/17/17 09:33:43PM
339 posts

Past life Regression


Empath

Has any here had one, and did it benefit you?

Past 2-3 years I've had more dreams in different eras, and when I've tried translating my dream it made no sense. I've been doing alot of reflection on my current life and see alot of repeating behaviors. Failed relationships, passed up in job promotions, struggling financially. I'm fairly smart, although I don't admit it or portray it. But I feel like there is wave pushing me to prove my intelligence. I'm not cocky or arrogant, but more upset on how these people are succeeding at work, but don't know anything. Or how my relationships continue to fail, and I'm not getting the closure as to why.

A few years ago I met a man, and instantly felt recognition, but as in the "where have you been my whole life" I just knew he was the one for me, this long lost love type of feeling. I felt when I met him I wasn't worthy and why was he attracted to me. I did botch that up. The last time I saw him he had this fear/shocked look in his eyes.

I've met many people throughout life and questioned on "how do I know you, I feel like we've met before" this man in particular was different.

Since meeting him, my goodness the dreams!! I thought it was because he laid so heavily on my mind. But all these dreams with him are of different times. I've also had dreams of being homeless, but he was not there. And my child without a father, this baby also has haunted my dreams.

A few months ago I started thinking about those dreams and started reading about past lives. Then I started to Google some images from my dream, and basically it's historical. Alot of it has familiarity, but here is me being logical "I must have seen this in a movie"

I've had dreams of this man before in childhood and my teen years. I always wondered what it would be like to meet him, and I did and I botched it up.

I'm trying to have more dreams like this to figure this out, and now I cant. I've really been thinking about past life regression. Has it helped anyone?
updated by @tigerlily: 07/28/17 08:32:48AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/17/17 08:51:35PM
339 posts

What color are your eyes?


Empath

Big blue eyes. I've had people just stair right into them and omg I can't handle it.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/09/17 05:55:17PM
339 posts

Anger...the taught emotion?


Empath

@rene, you are great!

I get angry when a see justice is not being served and people getting away with shit. I get angry that this society is catering to idiots and we have to watch we say not to offend people. I get angry that those people take offense to the dumbest thing and don't grow a pair. I get angry when I put my needs first and people have a problem with. :)

I get it we are supposed to be happy and love everythibg and accept everything for it is. Sometimes I feel that this is not possible anymore and this world/society is getting out of control. To many narcs taking advantage of nice people like us, because they can't figure out there own shit. I know I'm in pain, too many people did me wrong and anger is my wall I use. These days, I've been better at sniffing at the narcs. Not 100% yet, but still trying :)

Rene, you are more than welcome to post anything anger related. We get you :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/05/17 05:47:56PM
339 posts

Emotional manipulation


Empath

He's friends with your mother!!?? Omg, I can't believe she is talking to him after all that you have told her. I'm so sorry all this is happening. This has got to be so hard on you. All you can do is not expect much from either. We have to remember with expections, disappointment is hanging around the corner.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/04/17 04:00:17PM
339 posts

Stress


Empath

I forgot about the comet passing the moon. Maybe that did something.

Also, I'm feeling better. I had a very bad feeling about something, my gut as always. Realized it may be work, confronted my boss. And yet again I was being taken advantage of, so I put it to rest.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/03/17 08:53:19PM
339 posts

Fluctuations


Empath

Is this why I feel so stressed? I'm getting headaches daily, like a crawling sensation. Sometimes my chest hurts I can't breathe. Then I feel like my body wants to go limp. I can go on and on.

My life has been kind of stressful, but I literally been crying over spilled milk as well.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/03/17 08:49:11PM
339 posts

Stress


Empath

Is there something in the air? My stress levels are so high over the littlest things. I started isolating myself and don't want to do anything or be around people.
updated by @tigerlily: 05/06/17 07:30:16AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/03/17 08:37:26PM
339 posts

Emotional manipulation


Empath

I'm sorry this is happening and I can relate as it's happened to me multiple times. we are victims to narcissistic people. If the guy isn't a narc, he's completely broken in some aspect. Letting go is the hardest, as like you, fallen for them. You just have to stand tall and firm and tell them goodbye. In a matter of days or weeks you will see you made the right decision.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
01/03/17 08:27:19PM
339 posts

Empath Related Illnesses


Empath

I've had this as well. And with everyone else I have gut issues and it eventually turned into "you'll be diabetic in a few years" per my dr. Stress alone I can't handle, my face literally gets white and I look sick. Past few months have been hard on me as well, got to the point today that I say "F it" yet again :)
We all know we need to take care of ourselves better, but our strong empathy for everyone gets in the way.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/28/16 06:10:01PM
339 posts

Ok..I'm confused again


Empath

I read alot about witches and noticed that too.  I sometimes feel they were just "misunderstood" throughout history.  like us.  and possibly taken advantage of for their gifts to create spells etc.  and then resulted in using their powers to do evil for being taken advantage.  Maybe I'm just being naive about this as well.  But maybe not, if they have gifts to cure people in an unnatural way.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/28/16 06:04:57PM
339 posts

Memory Issues


Empath

I don't really have this, I remember everything.  I do get the "sometimers" renee explained.  And that has actually happened alot this year as I changed my diet.  But, I'm also tired of the idiots around me.  maybe I'm absorbing their dumb energy lol.  don't know.  I do get forgetful when I have taken in to much from others as I'm just drained of energy and need to clear it out.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/27/16 06:44:36AM
339 posts

Electrical disturbence??


Empath

Just curious on this. Has anyone noticed electrical disturbences around them? As some of you know this past month in my personal life has had some grief and lots of stress. For example, I had to have my phone reset to factory standards and it has been working great again. Last week was extremely stressful with work and noticed my phone battery was draining really fast. I had nothing running on it. Then my car battery went out, and now have a blown fuse in the fuse box at home. I thought the light bulb just went out, as that has happened before many times where I've turned on the light and the bulb goes out. Even my computer at work is acting weird. Is it me that I'm so stressed I'm pulling the energy from electronic things, or just random acts of coincidences those electronic things need fixing all in one week?
updated by @tigerlily: 03/31/17 01:05:14AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/26/16 05:47:24AM
339 posts

I feel like I'm going to explode


Empath

@paul, lol.  You sound like me when I talk about people to my friends.  

@Bing.  I'm a salaried position and as you in the corporate world, it's then frowned upon not staying.  I did losee it on a call this week.  I know again, not professional but I keep telling my boss I'm not doing this anymore it's not my job role and she supports it.  so the girl on the line tried putting it like it's my fault not checking and I said again is that not my job function or in my job description.  she got real quiet, it's true.  

Anyways, this tidal wave is not stopping, another wave of other cr@p is happening in my personal life.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/16/16 08:00:03PM
339 posts

Happy People


Empath

Few months ago a friend and I had a discussion about people and how negativity just rubs off. That came to mind tonight as I feel like exploding from emotions. We all talk about the narcs, fakes, negative etc. And how they are just drawn to us etc. What about happy people? People who are just happy, positive, takes lemons and makes lemonades. They clearly don't need or want help as they figure it out themselves and life carries on. How do we attract more of them to us? I know they don't "need" us, but nothing wrong with "wanting" to be around us. Must be their confidence. I feel like when I just try and run from a negative person they just chase me more.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/22/17 12:30:47PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/16/16 07:41:36PM
339 posts

I feel like I'm going to explode


Empath

I've had alot going on in my personal life past few weeks. Deaths, parent in the hospital, break up, and my health. And during all this, I get thrown all this work at work -staying late in the office and working at home. Ok, I'm upset. My boss knows all this, and has told me twice to show empathy for people. Are you joking??? I have to do more work because someone is going through a divorce? Did I not just tell you all this going on with me and my family? Where is your empathy?
Now, all my electric stuff at home is not working properly (which my therapist thinks it's my energy shutting them down) I had a good cry tonight, and other nights and felt better. I don't even want to go to work. I'm trying to hold it all together and be there for me and my family and get through this wave, and I'm not empathetic for someone going through a divorce??? I already know hes lazy and using it as an excuse to not work, that is the first thing i picked up from him laziness. Everyone at work is stressed about their jobs, even though im not. Sorry I'm venting and feel defeated.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/30/17 02:28:37AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/16/16 07:25:19PM
339 posts

Differences between Bipolar Disorder and Being a Empath


Empath

Chesire Cat put it the best about bipolar.  and I agree with everyone that highs and lows are diagnosed with bi polar, even though not.  ugh, I'm so tired of the bad Dr's out there and others in the workplace getting a free ride, and know nothing.  (sorry)   women with pcos are often diagnosed as bi polar as well due to the hormones causing ups and downs, but no irrational behavior like stealing a baby and taking a road trip.  One of the characters in shameless is bipolar, and no empath acts like that.  The ups and downs is not bi polar if one day your sad and the other happy, stuff happens in life.  But we all absorb it in like sponges and have to work harder to keep sane :)

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/15/16 07:53:07PM
339 posts

Constantly Distracted


Empath

I agree with kit kat.  The days I somehow block out everything, I'm in a zone at work and nothing stops me.  The days I walk into work and can feel that thick pea soup feeling of stress in the office, I feel like a loose canon.  It takes a lot of energy out of me just to focus on those days and then I come home and just crash on the sofa.  What has helped me is taking my ear phones and listening to music.  I don't know why or how.  But it works, and I will say I wouldn't be able to tell you the last song I heard :)

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/15/16 07:41:20PM
339 posts

So I'm really struggling...


Empath

Dating a man who's guarded is just as hard dating a women who is guarded.  I for one am guarded, and can relate on his level to an extent, but also welcome a relationship if I'm into them because I too want to get married.  But not everyone really wants that too.  As for the wall he has, he's protecting himself and that fear to have the wall come down puts him in vulnerability to get hurt, so hey why not let's keep it up.  Until he can heel and learn to trust again it will always be up.  I say if you really like this and things are going great, give it time.  I wouldn't tell him yet your gift as it can scare people away.  that is something to discuss later :)

Plus, I just dated a guy with a big wall.  One of the nicest, sweetest, gentle man I've met in a very long time.  He to has been burned by multiple women in his life.   He told me how he was letting his guard down around me etc, and I thought I was too.  But the trust, omg it's awful.  I didn't realize I had it that bad.  Either way that trust issue got in the way and I couldn't take it anymore and ended it.  Then I realized I'm an idiot.  I want to make amends, and just feel dumb.  I wasn't patient with him or myself.  But, i to would have my moments of crying spells dating him.  I didnt know if it waa him or me!  So, just be patient with this guy if you are already feeling something special about him.  People who are guarded always act weird, I do! :)

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/14/16 05:50:05PM
339 posts

Sedona's Vortex


Empath

There are other vortex in the United states, just not as big and many in one area like Sedona.  I Googled and couldn't find any in my area.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/14/16 04:41:32AM
339 posts

Sedona's Vortex


Empath

I only went for a day, as I stayed in Arizona for a week with friends. I wanted to go the whole weekend, but when you go with people and stay with them they like to have alternate plans :)  Next time for sure I'd go at it alone to see all of them and see if my experience would change.  plus I would like the nature aspect of it to  Hike through them and mountain bike.  :)

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/13/16 06:11:51PM
339 posts

Sedona's Vortex


Empath

It's just amazing!  one thing I noticed is how I felt when I was talking to the people I was with.  If what I said came out in a negative way I felt it, like some dizzy Ness-nausea, etc.  Or even if they said it.  So I was trying to say things in a more positive way I felt good and at peace.  I think that's the best way I could describe it.  I kind of get this way around negative and positive people.  it's also taught me to be more positive in how I speak.  (which is still in the room for improvement category :)

Walking through and around the vortex I would get bouts of goosebumps, bouts of dizzy Ness/lightheaded, nausea, and hard to breathe.  Other times I just felt great like a million bucks!  My cousin said she felt really nothibg at all, I was like "really?"  Walking back to the car I felt kind of nauseated, had a cigarette and wow!  what a head rush from that cigarette!  

If I could do it again, I'd rather go with someone more positive and happy or just alone.  She was in a tough time in her life then.  

Lots of people meditate there as well.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/12/16 04:07:10PM
339 posts

Sympathy vs empathy


Empath

Amen sista!  I've been so stressed too the past few months, and sometimes I don't even know why lol.  And I'm so tired I don't even follow up with my close friends and family like I used too.  I think all the me time has turned me into a hermit :)  (and yes, when you wrote this :)

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/11/16 05:22:18PM
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Sympathy vs empathy


Empath

@renee, you seem very stressed today like everythibg inside is shaking.  Are you ok?  

  I do feel you all on this.  I feel we need to put more love and compassion to us first.  i know when i do my confidence goes amd i can help people better.  To me I feel it's a problem in society in general, love you first and the rest will follow.  We are being broken down all the time by narcs and fake people.  people who themself have to find that love fot themselves. But always look for in it in other people to give it to them.  it's a vicious cycle if you follow.  But in the end seems we as empaths suffer the most and need to be more compassionate to ourselves as well.  From the time I've been on this community I see it alot.   I think it takes alot to develop that emotional strength to handle both.  I also think alot of us do a great job at it, and others time the energy accumulates and we crash before we know it.  

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/09/16 06:03:19PM
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We as empaths need to unite together PLEASE READ and share your input


Empath

I couldn't agree with you more.  The hatred today is just awful and I actually fear society more than our presidential election because of how people are acting.  I see 11 11 ALOT, and with it being such a powerful number, I agree that this is the day to do so.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/08/16 09:15:18PM
339 posts

Car crash dream came true


Dreams

You may have psychic capabilities through your dreams!  I've had many similar to this.   Start a dream journal.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/08/16 09:11:27PM
339 posts

What Makes You Feel Good?


Empath

Being next to big body of water!!  I get so excited and happy i cant stand it sometimes.  Right now I can't decide which coast I want to move to!!   Being in the water is so cleansing for me.  I spent alot of the team at the beach on the great Lakes this summer.

But in the end I do enjoy the most doing things for myself,  as I feel I do everything for everyone and feel happy doing it for them.  But when those days happen I do for me, I'm very happy and relieved.  It really boosts my confidence and im like a new person.  (The beach this summer made me realize this)  But to know it hurt someone that my needs were important too, hurts me too.  I just take it that they are hurt and I felt it too.  But we too have to remember our happiness is important too, and there will be times we have to think of ourselves first.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/06/16 10:54:51AM
339 posts

Fake People and Empaths


Empath

One more thing, I'm sorry.  I didn't mean or want to come across this way.  I've been in a whirlwind with these people the past 2 weeks, and they have no consideration but for themselves.  I'm trying to deal with 3 deaths in the family the past 2 weeks and then to have my mother hospitalized, I'm focusing on family.  And these narcs just don't care and are like "help me"  go help yourself as I'm grieving right now.  not one them gave condolensces.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/06/16 10:42:44AM
339 posts

Fake People and Empaths


Empath

Nikki, you are right and a bigger person for this.  

 I can't speak for others, but can speak for myself.  but one common theme I also see is setting boundaries and people over stepping boundaries.  we can set all the boundaries we want and certain people will keep over stepping.  my experiences is with those people are that they clearly can't find happiness and draining me of my mine, and they want you to do it for them  and then onto the next.  I can list a dozen people who do this too me at work and in my personal life.  do I have to remind everyone that  I too once had a very hard time in life at one point?  and who picked me up? Myself, everyone else ran.    Do I sympathize and show empathy for them at the same, absolutely.  but when I'm constantly being used or don't allow for it, either way I'm considered a bitch.  I see ked out therapy for years about this, and my own therapist couldn't believe how often this happened to me.   I'm at the point where I can genuinely feel who needs it and doesnt.  I know for myself, the strong personality helps me, and I was born with this. Some people can't handle it, but again then I'm not being genuine to myself if I can't be me and have to tone myself down.  So maybe I am allowing people who call me a bitch, to really think I am.  but I'm done being used to these kinds of people and would rather help those that genuinely need it.

TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/03/16 05:24:26AM
339 posts

People who block yoi


Empath

I do want to add, that it's not that I want to know how they are feeling.  But it's more like "how do you do it".  I don't know how to explain.  It's the people that are to me "I just can't figure you out"  I will add that it is nice and almost like a fresh of breath air.  

 
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