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TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/13/17 06:58:53PM
320 posts

So lonely and jaded with life right now


Empath

I so relate!!! I'm very jaded, and just love this word! My trust continues to be broken, and 2 weeks ago it was severed by someone who I thought I can trust. I'm actually quite frankly mad at this person. My honesty is high and when someone deceIves you it's heart breaking. I've acknowledged that this is who I am, but that care for people is still there. But it is awful when you want to trust but hard too. I recently thought of taking a different approach, those who I feel I can't trust maybe I should. Because those that I thought I could, I learned the hard way i couldnt. Those narcs man, they just creep up.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/13/17 06:51:08PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

@hop-daddy great you mentioned this. I have noticed the past several days I'm sleeping alot and feel depressed all of a sudden. A shift from how I waa feeling before. The giving up is still there, it's just different. I'm at a point where I don't care anymore.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/11/17 07:36:10PM
320 posts

I'm so suicidal right now


Empath

You don't want to do that. There is so much more in life. The people who are using you are jerky people. Set boundaries and just say no. When someone asks "can you help me with. .... " you say "no, I'm busy"
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/08/17 08:52:58PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

Does this dark time also make you more physically sick, depressed, tired, drunk feeling, loss of direction, forgetfulness, not wanting to leave your bed?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/06/17 09:40:28PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

It's a combination of work and family. The work situation has become bad once again. My headaches have become chronic along with chest pain and muscle stiffness. My family says it's life and to deal. I want to move away far far away. Is that really the solution? It will happen again? I feel like all the negativity is making me super hyper sensitive that I'm just the bomb blowing up with no time in life to release the excess energy. I desire to go way out in nature, and living in a big city is hours of a drive. I took cold medicine just so I could sleep in peace as my dreams have been "wild" I periodically wake throughout the night.

I feel like I'm loosing it.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/06/17 09:25:22PM
320 posts

Am i emphatic or crazy ? confused!


Empath

You are not crazy, just highly empathic.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/06/17 09:16:38PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

Stuck is it! This blows.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/04/17 07:01:00PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

Verbal boundaries. I know my energetic boundaries support it. Maybe they just don't like them because it doesn't benefit their needs?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/04/17 05:35:31PM
320 posts

Empaths and Food


Empath

I find I do the best when I make my own food and stay away from specific types. I don't know if I go out to eat, if it's the cook who is angry or sad. But I'll feel bad after eating it, even if it falls within my dietary needs. I guess we can feel if something is made with love or not :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
12/04/17 05:27:30PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

I have been trying to get sleep and relax and cool down. I have also been better at setting boundaries. Recently the boundaries I've been setting with others has been stepped on again. Leaving me feeling worthless and this agonizing pain inside. Everything is a bad feeling, but yet the only good feelings are running away for a while. I sense and feel a change needs to be made but trying to figure it out is not coming clearly enough.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/28/17 10:24:57PM
320 posts

Giving up


Empath

I'm so terrible for even posting this, but I just can't sleep anymore. As I thought things were going great, a bomb hit me. That bomb made me realize or feel, that some people are just hopeless. No matter what I did or didn't do, it was all my fault. I believe you all can relate.

My energy has been wiped dry once again and I can't even remember what that holiday cake is called. I'm tired and burnt out. For a while it was held good by my boundaries and my boundaries once again got knocked down. As if a narc blind sided me a slap shot. How is it possible to be around so many negative people in my life and be so sneaky? If I don't help I hear that voice in my head saying "you should have"

If our gift is to help others, why don't they listen? I must generate a lot of "feel good" that it is all they need. Boundaries are violated all the time. I don't like how I feel right now.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/19/17 07:46:15PM
320 posts

Empaths and Codependent Relationships.


Empath

Being someone like myseld who has had multiple strong friendships with narcs, its hard. I'm the same way, trust them, speak all the time, etc. The moment you don't want to do things their way anymore, they explode. Then one feels like treading lightly. It's not a healthy balance and not always will it be there way or the highway. The narcs just don't see that. They will put out enough to keep you on their leash, and just take advantage. Once the narcs sees the "leash" is not working, they'll start to back down. After a couple of meltdowns of course, which causes the empath hurt. But then it's onto the next.
I feel bad for the narcs that they can't find inner peace, but it's not our place to fix them. We can wish them well and send positive vibes, but piggy backing off our good energy is just selfish.
I had to give up these friendships as I was just fI'll of negativity and just drained all the time. I became so used to feeling drained, that now when they are not around the energy level is high again. I'm surrounding by narcs at work, I refuse to have them in my personal life.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/13/17 07:40:59PM
320 posts

Sensing Feelings/Thoughts when in the water


Empath

I agree, I think you have something past life going on with the water. Read about past life regression, Brian Weiss has some amazing books!

I love the water and I couldn't imagine living somewhere in the middle of the US. Small lakes and rivers just don't cut it like the great lakes or ocean. I am a little afraid of being in water where I can't see the ground or what is around. It has to be clear. Or being submerged on the water, with only my head sticking out. I can't breathe. This maybe past life for me if dreams serve correct. I can never get sick of sitting on a beach or a cliff just staring out at the big body of water, after I feel at such peace and sometimes tired releasing all that energy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/08/17 05:17:06PM
320 posts

Anyone else really sick with multiple sicknesses??? Unusually sick???


Empath

My stomach has been a mess the past 2 weeks as well. Heartburn, bloat, and gas in my chest. Hard to breathe sometimes and I am belching constantly, which is not lady like at all. And hiccups. I rarely ever hiccup.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/07/17 06:35:40PM
320 posts

Intuition vs. assumption


Empath

I get that actually feelings or emotions. This is how I feel between good or bad. If intuition is saying no, its literally a bad feeling in my stomach, sometimes nauseating. If the intuition says yes. The feeling is throughout my body like a chill, and goosebumps feeling.

I'm a very logically person, so naturally when the brain and intuition are against each other, my body feels like it's trembling. But intuition always wins in the long run. No logic can explain it.

And I agree with zach about assumption, you only look like an ass if you do. I think it's a funny statement too. But, your intuition should tell you too. I get that bad gut feeling when I assume something.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/07/17 06:24:12PM
320 posts

Random thoughts


Empath

Uncomfortable is correct! The ego,,,hmmmmm. That explains why it comes in waves. The more I let go or surrender. The more it happens and I think I'm going crazy! And then after that it goes away, and back again.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
11/02/17 04:00:26PM
320 posts

Random thoughts


Empath

I don't know what this is called. But sometimes things pop in my head or I'll hear like a whisper of some kind in my ear. I thought this was stress related until one day, when that thought popped in my head and 10 minutes later I found it to be true!!! Basically someone got hurt at work and it was an uproar. A name came to my mind, when things settled I asked who it was that got hurt and that name was that person!!! I've never been able to validate that until now.

Today, out of nowhere, a guy I used to work with he came to mind. Few minutes later on the street I see him!

What is this called? Is it a premonition of some kind?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/23/17 01:42:25PM
320 posts

Living in a small town


Empath

That is what I was looking at, a town about 20-25 thousand people, possibly less depending on what I can find for a new home. It's also surrounded by alot of lakes and rivers, and I really enjoy water. Where i can paddle board and kayak in peace. Plenty of trees and hills as well. Ive seen properties on the outskirts of those towns with anywhere from 2-50 acres of land. That really warmed me as I'd still have distance from people at night when I want to distress. Right now I'm an apt in a city with over 3 million people and work in the downtown area. It takes me about 2 hours just to get out of the city for nature. And the traffic, yuck, I'm sure you all can pick up the stress of road rage from the drivers.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/23/17 09:50:54AM
320 posts

Living in a small town


Empath

I want to know if anyone here lives in a small town and how it compares to a big city. Meaning, the people aspect and energy of it. I live in one of the largest cities now and there are days I just cannot take it anymore from always feeling people who are sad, insecure, negative, etc. Im considering moving to a small town, but never lived in a small town. I'll miss the social aspect of a big city, but when I really think about it, I'm always home anyway and don't go out much at all for what I pick up.

When I think small town I think of all the nature around me and peace and quiet.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/18/17 09:05:10PM
320 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

I've had that with coworkers too. I learned from it, I think. Well ok, I still try to give people a benefit of a doubt. Same for the text messaging with friends or important people. It's crazy!!!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 09:09:38PM
320 posts

Signs everywhere


Empath

They drive me nuts sometimes! Sometimes they are so easy where the universe is telling me to eat better and exercise more. And other times I keep getting bombarded by the same thing I literally say out loud "I'm trying here, I've done xyz, if it's not right just tell me" Then those signs go silent for days or weeks and then I forget what it waa that happened a few weeks ago. Right now, I feel in such conflict of what to do, I just can't see/interpret properly. I've asked to simplify those signs for me, and nothing. I think I'm just confused? Does anyone keep a journal of signs like dreams? I was thinking to try that.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 08:32:45PM
320 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

I have a vast amount of stories to share....as far as what to do with your abilities, for the good of all and yourself. So that you can go in the right direction of life as well.

#1. I had this feeling my best friends husband was cheating on her, it came out of nowhere. Instead of telling her this, I just asked how she was and kept checking in with her. Many weeks went by and she finally started saying how she thinks her husband is cheating. My response "what gives you that idea?" (I couldnt tell her i had this feeling, but i could lead the conversation in that direction.) Back to her, she told me her reasons why and we discussed. She managed to figure out his email password and found out he was exchanging emails with another woman from the past. Talking about their feelings for each other, planning on trying to meet up, to then talking how they met up seeing each other and planning a new meet up. This went on for months, until one day he told this woman he couldn't anymore as he had his family. I guess you can tell he cheated. In the end, she would never leave her husband if he cheated as she told me. But she never mentioned this to him, nor did he to her.

#2. I had a horrible feeling about some things going on at work, and this feeling that I needed to leave. Never listened to it, but to me this was strange as I never felt this before. It's as I was being told in feeling what to do, I just can't explain it. Back to work, a new policy went into effect months later after this feeling, and it was chaos at work. Guess who got dumped with "fix this" "help me" yup, me. And I didn't even implement this new policy or had a say in it. It was a very stressful year and a half. I kept getting feelings of heart attack, again that strange feeling. I finally left that position for a different one in the company. Which I had a bad feeling about too, didn't listen, and it's basically a knight mare too.

#3. My friend has been trying to start a new business with some other guy. He always talked so positively about this business and a niche in the market. One day, over drinks, I just blurted out "this is a terrible idea, don't do it." He got quiet looked down, then looked at me and said "how did you know?" Then I learned all the drama going on with this other guy he wanted to start this business with. He just wanted to start that business so bad he covered it up with positive things.

#4. A family member got married several years ago. I got this feeling of "they are going to divorce anyways" Back then, I didn't know about empaths or gifts, and thought to myself "why am I thinking this and where did this come from" Years go by and their life is great. But that divorce feeling still lingered all those years. One day I get a phone call "I'm divorcing so and so" Now, this isn't the first time as I've had this with other people and they ended in divorce.

#5. Had a friend I lost touch with. One day I dreamt that they had reached out and I could see a phone number, but not clearly in my dream. Just 3 numbers. A week went by and I get a phone call with those 3 digits, same order. It was my friend.

I dont get everything that easily to me, but when i do i sometimes freak out. This is where I say do good with it and yourself. Be there for your friends and family during that pain, and when you get signs or feelings to run from a situation, you better sprint.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 07:28:04PM
320 posts

Question for Empaths


Empath

I've been uncomfortable for years, and the past year has been the highest I ever felt. Thinking it waa my own life. Maybe all these natural disasters are signs from universe/god (whatever you believe in) that we need to wake up, so let's shake the ground and cause violent storms. So yes, I agree on that aspect. The energy is to much. The big one will hit California soon, as I saw it in a dream. And I've had many dreams of violent storms and waves too, which maybe are the hurricanes that hit. It wouldn't surprise me that all the negative energy out there that is causing us(empaths) affecting the earth the earth too, but a slower rate. As we are smaller, and the earth so large can take in a but more, causing a delayed response.

I know personally, I can't stand the media and stay away from it.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
08/14/17 06:03:51AM
320 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

I've only once cut the chord with someone, or at least I think so. Is it visualizing cutting the chord, like literally?? In a meditated relaxed state? If yes, I can do that. I tried crystals around her and carrying the evil eye, but it never worked. It's like she's the wicked with of the west.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
08/13/17 02:47:57PM
320 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

This sounds a little crazy, but I'm going to ask anyways. Is it possible that friend or person can cause negative things to happen to you?

Reason I ask, is because whenever somethibg good happens and I tell one of my long time friends, it goes bad usually in a few days to a month.
I've often suspected jelousy from her, but in all honesty I don't know why she would be. She has a better job than I do, a husband and kid, house. Things she always wanted.

I want to start a business of my own and get out of corporate politics, and I'm afraid if I tell her or she finds out, that I'll go bankrupt!!

How do I break this? Stopping friendship with her would be impossible since she's friends with my relatives. And with social media she'll find out anyways.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 07:44:47PM
320 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

Hmmmmmmmm. I wonder then if my dream is something for us all to know.....remove from the situation to make it easier for us?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 06:43:49PM
320 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

I do want to add, in a dream I had. I was told if I didn't remove myself from a situation life would continue to get harder. I am trying to do so but finding a new job in a new town does and will take some time. I understand that reality and working on that now.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 06:40:16PM
320 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

It's really hard to stay positive in life sometimes. Right now some events at work and in my personal life make me feel everyone is against me. What i mean, is these are not my problems. People are not wanting to fix there own and it somehow comes back to me to fix. I keep pushing back and set boundaries and they are constantly overstepped.
Is it possible that all the negativity around me is what is causing my world to feel like it's crashing and everything against me? These are things that I'm in no position or authority to fix. Or is it that it is something I can fix and that is why the universe is doing this to me??
updated by @tigerlily: 11/25/17 11:08:38AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 01:37:31PM
320 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

Is it possible you are picking up his tiredness? There are days I'm so tired I can't move and I don't know why either. Then I learn that evening my dad has been the same way all day. I'm very close to my father. I have to force myself to do things to get some energy back. Even if it's 5 minutes on a jump rope lol. Maybe go for a walk and listen to music that makes you happy? That helps me too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 05:51:49AM
320 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

@ Zacharias.....you said it perfectly! We all say we need to take better care of us, but then we dont. I think we can learn from the narcs that ourself is #1, we can help after we have helped ourselves first if chosen to do so.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:32:08PM
320 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

Yes. I always had this, but not to the level as now. I was diagnosed with PTSD, refused anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. I learned exercise and nature and a diet to help me. Otherwise, I'd be an alcoholic. The really hard days I drink, when I'm just to emotionally drained to push myself to exercise. After a night of drinks, I feel recharged. The nights I drink when I feel great and not emotionally drained, wow hangover! It's weird right?

I think the trauma just makes us more sensitive instead of desensitized. Like wakes us up.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:26:00PM
320 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Thank you everyone. Now I'm seeing this is more as an empathic trait.

Honestly, I have a hard time looking people in their eyes for this reason! I look away alot, and of course I get from people "I'm trying to hide something" by doing so. Not at all actually. However, Those are the same who say it's "judgy" that im judging. How can i when I see who they are by their eyes? Well if I look long enough I see beyond the shutters and all that inside, and will start absorbing their energies really quick, which actually causes me quite anxiety and disturbences. Unless the person is just genuinely happy then I can't stop laughing.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/11/17 04:52:21AM
320 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I've met alot of people like that who have that "blank look" in their eyes. Some I did get a good feeling, others not, and some just nothing. I got to know each and every one dispight that judgement of feeling I got as well. After that I learned why I did or didn't like that person initially. This is why I tend to run from those right away, and my friend says it's judgy. Not sure how I'm being judgy when each time I guess I see it right away.

With your motorcycle guy, he sounds a little intense of bottled emotions. How do you handle being around that?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/07/17 05:53:50AM
320 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I haven't been wrong yet let's say. It's not that I'm trying or wanting to be judgy, it's the reason why I won't associate with them. It's proven me right every time. Example, The last guy I was with I saw in his eyes that first night i met him he was going to hurt me. I also saw alot of uncertainty
But a good heart. I didn't allow for it to bother me so I waa with him for a while based on that goid heart, and in the end he hurt me pretty bad. Another example, a coworker. Lost and confusion and not very bright I saw. I thought showed me wrong as I did see was kind of bright at doing her job. Well, that was proved wrong again as she tried to get in me trouble, by her not being so bright I had all the necessary documentation to back it up and it backfired on her. Later I heard she just wanted a promotion, which by the lost and confusion I saw in her was where she went the wrong way to get promoted.

Does that make sense? I'm not here to judge them, it's what I see. Do both those people have deep rooted issues in themselves that I cannot see based on that curtain, probavly. It's only helped me recently on who new friends would be or how I am at work.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:46:43PM
320 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Do you all feel by looking in someone's eyes you can tell what kind of person they are? My so called best friend said I'm just judgy. Of course I defended myself and gave examples. I'm taking this as an empathic trait or another type of gift . Would love to hear your stories or experiences around the eyes and that it's not being judgy.
updated by @tigerlily: 11/29/17 01:23:06PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:41:37PM
320 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

Congratulations on your sobriety!!! I'm so happy for you :)

I did the same, I drowned myself in alcolhol and cigarettes and frozen pizza and doritos and cookies. I gained 60lbs from it. I always knew I had a problem with and needed to stop. I can stop for good time, then I slowly trickle back. Everyone always said I had a problem with people. Then as years went and I matured, I realized I wasn't the problem. But all that did emotionally damage me. For years and years people in the group took advantage of me. As I let loose and met new people, same thing. I learned how to set better boundaries and now people come to me again, to fix. It's like I can't avoid it. I to feel alone in this world and uncomfortable with all these feelings that rumble inside. No heeling could permanently fix it, but routine maintenance could for a bit. Until something else in me broke.

I think instead we need to see how strong we are deep inside and ride that. Always remember that when we feel down from all the emotions to rise again. I know how tiring it is, and I get fed up to. I'm trying now to just accept things and let it go, when I have it mastered I will share :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:28:59PM
320 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I actually like calling them out on their BS. Maybe it is all the years of being taken for granted. Even when they overstep, I say it too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/04/17 08:57:16PM
320 posts

Empath meme


Empath

I saw this meme and wanted to share....

"Oh you're a narcissist well I'm going to introduce you to an empath to humble you so you know what it's like to value, respect, and love someone other than yourself.
So you're an empath, we'll I'm going to surround you with narcissists so you can toughen up, realize your ego and value yourself more than you value others."
updated by @tigerlily: 11/10/17 06:20:51PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/28/17 08:38:07PM
320 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

@raindancer this all makes sense and I understand. Yes, it does feel like I'm drowning or like someone playing with me. As a kid remember we would dunk each other and think it was fun until someone got hurt? It is like people are deliberately doing this to me as it is fun for them, toying with emotions as it makes them better. Then I'm hurt. I feel like my power is sometimes being taken from me for their own joy. This is why I want to stop the empathy. The unbalance of emotions causes great destress.
I've seen a few different therapists recently to just get opinions, and each one talks about the negativity in my life. To stop worrying and stop helping others, and to focus on me. I feel my power of positivity and joy being stripped by a current that I can't escape as others keep holding on to me like the fireants to save them. Only they will be the first to let me drown if they can. Feels also like those that need help are just bwing put in my way that I can't avoid. Normally I can hold and not need anyone and be fine. But lately I feel like I need someone. All that stress, negativity just builds inside, I feel like I'm a vortex in my head spinning and need someone to stop me. I don't like this and normally turn to physical activity and nature to release. However, this past week, it feels like they are pulling me to them and I'm trapped. Make sense?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/20/17 07:44:17PM
320 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

It still feels great to put energy to myself. It's draining to help someone if you can't help you first. I'm not here to be selfish or anything, but no one has really helped me when I needed it. Probably neither of you either. They all just run. Great friends right? Same for those at work and acquaintances right?

I've been in those deep waters many times, and this past time around that gave me the health scare, I felt I was dying inside. I started noticing some signs and followed them, and that's how I feel I was able to come back above water and breathe. I feel I was being told my gift was being misused by people hence the signs. If that makes sense. I am tired all the time now, but a good tired where I need sleep and wake rejuvenayed. Not like before.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 08:47:05PM
320 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

Is this why I have a hard time trusting people? Because many lie ALL the time?

I call out the BS when I smell it. Some days I just can't smell it. If I feel trusting, it all goes overy my head. The days I'm super bitchy for some reason I smell that BS more.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 06:07:46PM
320 posts

Men


Empath

Girl I hear ya! Same thing happened to me. I don't talk to the one guy who I thought was the one anymore, and now when I reflect back. I clearly just filled some emotional void he had, which was lonliness. I often thought if he had recognition too. But when I would ask "why are we doing this" his response "I don't know" This other guy, we'll he just intimidates me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 04:14:24PM
320 posts

Men


Empath

@Nikler I completely understand all you are going through. I can tell you that I've been dating around for years and have had no issues telling a guy goodbye amd washing away with it. Like angel says, it's that empath connection right? I have met men that I can relate too and think this is great! But unfortunately I'm not the girl for those guys. The ones that "wow'd" me that I speak of in my post, are the ones I can't shake. I honestly thought it was me, so I questioned myself "am I that lonely desperate myself" it's a "no" now, because I look back at all my dates and nothing hit like that. I guess if it really is lonely and desperation, we would have settled.

I did have a dream that man I know came into my house and met my parents , weird dream to me. Well he didn't meet my parents but he did come to my house, like 2 months later. Which I usually don't invite people over, I just meet them out. But his gentlemen charm wanted to pick me up. So of course that dream hit me later in the evening and I thought shit omg. I know he was dating someone and we agreed to be friends, and if he is a soul mate, I'd like to have him as a friend if nothing more comes from it. Although that hard in itself.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/13/17 05:13:49PM
320 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

I had a minor health scare recently that made me rethink things, ALOT. I know we all talk about taking in others emotions, stress, etc. And how to stop it or can we etc. I know you all have heard me vent about work and friends, and after all the pounding in my head and rapid heart rate, I felt like I was dying inside. I believe I met another soul mate in life, and something again just popped in me. As I'm not "worrying" or "caring" so much and taking in people's stress at work, I've been feeling better. I Like I'm giving them there stress back. Same for friendships, I refuse to be there punching bag of emotions.

I feel like I'M FINALLY taking care of me and falling in love with myself again. I have energy now to work out, dress up, put on make up, eat better, do things around the house, and want to go out. I feel like I'm glowing again, and I must be because I'm getting lots of compliments from people.

I know my coworkers feel more stressed more than ever and still want to vent and push things off on me, but I'm getting good at the "no" and the boundaries. Lot of my friends barely talk to me anymore as they have nothing positive to say.

I seriously never knew how good it feels until now. Yes I miss helping, and still can feel their pain or sorrows or stress and it hurts. But I feel "healthy" again.

So now bigger question, why do I still "feel" bad for not helping? I mean, I seriously haven't felt this happy and healthy in years.
updated by @tigerlily: 11/07/17 05:55:30PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:07:06PM
320 posts

Where does our Empath Gifts come from?


Empath

I agree with Trevor. Look at animals or our pets. They always know when we are not feeling well or our moods. How danger is close. Maybe it is that the sense is suppressed by society.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:04:12PM
320 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

Hi, I have alot of friends like this as well. As for selfish, I picked up on that to lately. And I agree the social media is bringing out the worse. It's been driving me crazy. And I know 150% how you feel where people call you to tell you something stupid like that but then never want to listen to you or acknowledge what you say.

I think it's an empath trait, we are always there and people just become codependent on us. It really is up to us to set better boundaries, I haven't mastered it yet. But I have been saying no more, and that's hard really hard. It bothers me all day and I keep thinking about it because I know I can help them, but no one is helping me but me so I'm just trying to focus my energy on me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/01/17 04:54:29PM
320 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

Yes, the adrenals are actually a "medical" thing I have. I get tested for them and even my dr doesn't understand why they are elevated on some tests, and other tests not. Looking back now, I can see how the stress is causing it. The bloat gets to me sometimes cause as you know it can hurt and be uncomfortable. I'm hoping now a consistent workout schedule will help with this. I usually run/bike ride through a forest by my house and I always feel great.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/31/17 07:08:51PM
320 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

So when people loose weight from stress and depression, would that mean they are a narc???? This is just fascinating to me now that you all can relate.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:08:05PM
320 posts

Dreaming About Dead People


Dreams

Sometimes dreaming about death is the end to something. Whatever hardships you are going through could be coming to end and for the better. Maybe the angel in your dream is pointing you to your niece and mother as a way for them to help you?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:04:18PM
320 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

It's people negative energy. And yes, the stress has had me off a bit trying to focus on me as I'm too mentally exhausted at the end of the day. I tried finding the "joy" to help others, as it can be rewarding. But then they just cling to me like a leach. Leading me to then turn very negative. It took ALOT of motivation to just get up for a run and a bike ride. And the negativity I got from friends about that too.
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