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TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/23/17 01:42:25PM
303 posts

Living in a small town


Empath

That is what I was looking at, a town about 20-25 thousand people, possibly less depending on what I can find for a new home. It's also surrounded by alot of lakes and rivers, and I really enjoy water. Where i can paddle board and kayak in peace. Plenty of trees and hills as well. Ive seen properties on the outskirts of those towns with anywhere from 2-50 acres of land. That really warmed me as I'd still have distance from people at night when I want to distress. Right now I'm an apt in a city with over 3 million people and work in the downtown area. It takes me about 2 hours just to get out of the city for nature. And the traffic, yuck, I'm sure you all can pick up the stress of road rage from the drivers.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/23/17 09:50:54AM
303 posts

Living in a small town


Empath

I want to know if anyone here lives in a small town and how it compares to a big city. Meaning, the people aspect and energy of it. I live in one of the largest cities now and there are days I just cannot take it anymore from always feeling people who are sad, insecure, negative, etc. Im considering moving to a small town, but never lived in a small town. I'll miss the social aspect of a big city, but when I really think about it, I'm always home anyway and don't go out much at all for what I pick up.

When I think small town I think of all the nature around me and peace and quiet.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/18/17 09:05:10PM
303 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

I've had that with coworkers too. I learned from it, I think. Well ok, I still try to give people a benefit of a doubt. Same for the text messaging with friends or important people. It's crazy!!!
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 09:09:38PM
303 posts

Signs everywhere


Empath

They drive me nuts sometimes! Sometimes they are so easy where the universe is telling me to eat better and exercise more. And other times I keep getting bombarded by the same thing I literally say out loud "I'm trying here, I've done xyz, if it's not right just tell me" Then those signs go silent for days or weeks and then I forget what it waa that happened a few weeks ago. Right now, I feel in such conflict of what to do, I just can't see/interpret properly. I've asked to simplify those signs for me, and nothing. I think I'm just confused? Does anyone keep a journal of signs like dreams? I was thinking to try that.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 08:32:45PM
303 posts

What can I do with my "Psychic" Abilities


Empath

I have a vast amount of stories to share....as far as what to do with your abilities, for the good of all and yourself. So that you can go in the right direction of life as well.

#1. I had this feeling my best friends husband was cheating on her, it came out of nowhere. Instead of telling her this, I just asked how she was and kept checking in with her. Many weeks went by and she finally started saying how she thinks her husband is cheating. My response "what gives you that idea?" (I couldnt tell her i had this feeling, but i could lead the conversation in that direction.) Back to her, she told me her reasons why and we discussed. She managed to figure out his email password and found out he was exchanging emails with another woman from the past. Talking about their feelings for each other, planning on trying to meet up, to then talking how they met up seeing each other and planning a new meet up. This went on for months, until one day he told this woman he couldn't anymore as he had his family. I guess you can tell he cheated. In the end, she would never leave her husband if he cheated as she told me. But she never mentioned this to him, nor did he to her.

#2. I had a horrible feeling about some things going on at work, and this feeling that I needed to leave. Never listened to it, but to me this was strange as I never felt this before. It's as I was being told in feeling what to do, I just can't explain it. Back to work, a new policy went into effect months later after this feeling, and it was chaos at work. Guess who got dumped with "fix this" "help me" yup, me. And I didn't even implement this new policy or had a say in it. It was a very stressful year and a half. I kept getting feelings of heart attack, again that strange feeling. I finally left that position for a different one in the company. Which I had a bad feeling about too, didn't listen, and it's basically a knight mare too.

#3. My friend has been trying to start a new business with some other guy. He always talked so positively about this business and a niche in the market. One day, over drinks, I just blurted out "this is a terrible idea, don't do it." He got quiet looked down, then looked at me and said "how did you know?" Then I learned all the drama going on with this other guy he wanted to start this business with. He just wanted to start that business so bad he covered it up with positive things.

#4. A family member got married several years ago. I got this feeling of "they are going to divorce anyways" Back then, I didn't know about empaths or gifts, and thought to myself "why am I thinking this and where did this come from" Years go by and their life is great. But that divorce feeling still lingered all those years. One day I get a phone call "I'm divorcing so and so" Now, this isn't the first time as I've had this with other people and they ended in divorce.

#5. Had a friend I lost touch with. One day I dreamt that they had reached out and I could see a phone number, but not clearly in my dream. Just 3 numbers. A week went by and I get a phone call with those 3 digits, same order. It was my friend.

I dont get everything that easily to me, but when i do i sometimes freak out. This is where I say do good with it and yourself. Be there for your friends and family during that pain, and when you get signs or feelings to run from a situation, you better sprint.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
09/17/17 07:28:04PM
303 posts

Question for Empaths


Empath

I've been uncomfortable for years, and the past year has been the highest I ever felt. Thinking it waa my own life. Maybe all these natural disasters are signs from universe/god (whatever you believe in) that we need to wake up, so let's shake the ground and cause violent storms. So yes, I agree on that aspect. The energy is to much. The big one will hit California soon, as I saw it in a dream. And I've had many dreams of violent storms and waves too, which maybe are the hurricanes that hit. It wouldn't surprise me that all the negative energy out there that is causing us(empaths) affecting the earth the earth too, but a slower rate. As we are smaller, and the earth so large can take in a but more, causing a delayed response.

I know personally, I can't stand the media and stay away from it.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
08/14/17 06:03:51AM
303 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

I've only once cut the chord with someone, or at least I think so. Is it visualizing cutting the chord, like literally?? In a meditated relaxed state? If yes, I can do that. I tried crystals around her and carrying the evil eye, but it never worked. It's like she's the wicked with of the west.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
08/13/17 02:47:57PM
303 posts

Friendship curse


Empath

This sounds a little crazy, but I'm going to ask anyways. Is it possible that friend or person can cause negative things to happen to you?

Reason I ask, is because whenever somethibg good happens and I tell one of my long time friends, it goes bad usually in a few days to a month.
I've often suspected jelousy from her, but in all honesty I don't know why she would be. She has a better job than I do, a husband and kid, house. Things she always wanted.

I want to start a business of my own and get out of corporate politics, and I'm afraid if I tell her or she finds out, that I'll go bankrupt!!

How do I break this? Stopping friendship with her would be impossible since she's friends with my relatives. And with social media she'll find out anyways.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 07:44:47PM
303 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

Hmmmmmmmm. I wonder then if my dream is something for us all to know.....remove from the situation to make it easier for us?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 06:43:49PM
303 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

I do want to add, in a dream I had. I was told if I didn't remove myself from a situation life would continue to get harder. I am trying to do so but finding a new job in a new town does and will take some time. I understand that reality and working on that now.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/26/17 06:40:16PM
303 posts

When the world feels against you


Empath

It's really hard to stay positive in life sometimes. Right now some events at work and in my personal life make me feel everyone is against me. What i mean, is these are not my problems. People are not wanting to fix there own and it somehow comes back to me to fix. I keep pushing back and set boundaries and they are constantly overstepped.
Is it possible that all the negativity around me is what is causing my world to feel like it's crashing and everything against me? These are things that I'm in no position or authority to fix. Or is it that it is something I can fix and that is why the universe is doing this to me??
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 01:37:31PM
303 posts

Body Exhaustion


Empath

Is it possible you are picking up his tiredness? There are days I'm so tired I can't move and I don't know why either. Then I learn that evening my dad has been the same way all day. I'm very close to my father. I have to force myself to do things to get some energy back. Even if it's 5 minutes on a jump rope lol. Maybe go for a walk and listen to music that makes you happy? That helps me too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/16/17 05:51:49AM
303 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

@ Zacharias.....you said it perfectly! We all say we need to take better care of us, but then we dont. I think we can learn from the narcs that ourself is #1, we can help after we have helped ourselves first if chosen to do so.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:32:08PM
303 posts

Does trauma enhance our abilities?


Empath

Yes. I always had this, but not to the level as now. I was diagnosed with PTSD, refused anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. I learned exercise and nature and a diet to help me. Otherwise, I'd be an alcoholic. The really hard days I drink, when I'm just to emotionally drained to push myself to exercise. After a night of drinks, I feel recharged. The nights I drink when I feel great and not emotionally drained, wow hangover! It's weird right?

I think the trauma just makes us more sensitive instead of desensitized. Like wakes us up.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/14/17 07:26:00PM
303 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Thank you everyone. Now I'm seeing this is more as an empathic trait.

Honestly, I have a hard time looking people in their eyes for this reason! I look away alot, and of course I get from people "I'm trying to hide something" by doing so. Not at all actually. However, Those are the same who say it's "judgy" that im judging. How can i when I see who they are by their eyes? Well if I look long enough I see beyond the shutters and all that inside, and will start absorbing their energies really quick, which actually causes me quite anxiety and disturbences. Unless the person is just genuinely happy then I can't stop laughing.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/11/17 04:52:21AM
303 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I've met alot of people like that who have that "blank look" in their eyes. Some I did get a good feeling, others not, and some just nothing. I got to know each and every one dispight that judgement of feeling I got as well. After that I learned why I did or didn't like that person initially. This is why I tend to run from those right away, and my friend says it's judgy. Not sure how I'm being judgy when each time I guess I see it right away.

With your motorcycle guy, he sounds a little intense of bottled emotions. How do you handle being around that?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/07/17 05:53:50AM
303 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

I haven't been wrong yet let's say. It's not that I'm trying or wanting to be judgy, it's the reason why I won't associate with them. It's proven me right every time. Example, The last guy I was with I saw in his eyes that first night i met him he was going to hurt me. I also saw alot of uncertainty
But a good heart. I didn't allow for it to bother me so I waa with him for a while based on that goid heart, and in the end he hurt me pretty bad. Another example, a coworker. Lost and confusion and not very bright I saw. I thought showed me wrong as I did see was kind of bright at doing her job. Well, that was proved wrong again as she tried to get in me trouble, by her not being so bright I had all the necessary documentation to back it up and it backfired on her. Later I heard she just wanted a promotion, which by the lost and confusion I saw in her was where she went the wrong way to get promoted.

Does that make sense? I'm not here to judge them, it's what I see. Do both those people have deep rooted issues in themselves that I cannot see based on that curtain, probavly. It's only helped me recently on who new friends would be or how I am at work.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:46:43PM
303 posts

Eyes-Judgy


Empath

Do you all feel by looking in someone's eyes you can tell what kind of person they are? My so called best friend said I'm just judgy. Of course I defended myself and gave examples. I'm taking this as an empathic trait or another type of gift . Would love to hear your stories or experiences around the eyes and that it's not being judgy.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:41:37PM
303 posts

exclusivity in a group & how that affects an empath, insight please?


Empath

Congratulations on your sobriety!!! I'm so happy for you :)

I did the same, I drowned myself in alcolhol and cigarettes and frozen pizza and doritos and cookies. I gained 60lbs from it. I always knew I had a problem with and needed to stop. I can stop for good time, then I slowly trickle back. Everyone always said I had a problem with people. Then as years went and I matured, I realized I wasn't the problem. But all that did emotionally damage me. For years and years people in the group took advantage of me. As I let loose and met new people, same thing. I learned how to set better boundaries and now people come to me again, to fix. It's like I can't avoid it. I to feel alone in this world and uncomfortable with all these feelings that rumble inside. No heeling could permanently fix it, but routine maintenance could for a bit. Until something else in me broke.

I think instead we need to see how strong we are deep inside and ride that. Always remember that when we feel down from all the emotions to rise again. I know how tiring it is, and I get fed up to. I'm trying now to just accept things and let it go, when I have it mastered I will share :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/06/17 09:28:59PM
303 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

I actually like calling them out on their BS. Maybe it is all the years of being taken for granted. Even when they overstep, I say it too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
07/04/17 08:57:16PM
303 posts

Empath meme


Empath

I saw this meme and wanted to share....

"Oh you're a narcissist well I'm going to introduce you to an empath to humble you so you know what it's like to value, respect, and love someone other than yourself.
So you're an empath, we'll I'm going to surround you with narcissists so you can toughen up, realize your ego and value yourself more than you value others."
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/28/17 08:38:07PM
303 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

@raindancer this all makes sense and I understand. Yes, it does feel like I'm drowning or like someone playing with me. As a kid remember we would dunk each other and think it was fun until someone got hurt? It is like people are deliberately doing this to me as it is fun for them, toying with emotions as it makes them better. Then I'm hurt. I feel like my power is sometimes being taken from me for their own joy. This is why I want to stop the empathy. The unbalance of emotions causes great destress.
I've seen a few different therapists recently to just get opinions, and each one talks about the negativity in my life. To stop worrying and stop helping others, and to focus on me. I feel my power of positivity and joy being stripped by a current that I can't escape as others keep holding on to me like the fireants to save them. Only they will be the first to let me drown if they can. Feels also like those that need help are just bwing put in my way that I can't avoid. Normally I can hold and not need anyone and be fine. But lately I feel like I need someone. All that stress, negativity just builds inside, I feel like I'm a vortex in my head spinning and need someone to stop me. I don't like this and normally turn to physical activity and nature to release. However, this past week, it feels like they are pulling me to them and I'm trapped. Make sense?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/20/17 07:44:17PM
303 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

It still feels great to put energy to myself. It's draining to help someone if you can't help you first. I'm not here to be selfish or anything, but no one has really helped me when I needed it. Probably neither of you either. They all just run. Great friends right? Same for those at work and acquaintances right?

I've been in those deep waters many times, and this past time around that gave me the health scare, I felt I was dying inside. I started noticing some signs and followed them, and that's how I feel I was able to come back above water and breathe. I feel I was being told my gift was being misused by people hence the signs. If that makes sense. I am tired all the time now, but a good tired where I need sleep and wake rejuvenayed. Not like before.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 08:47:05PM
303 posts

Dealing with liars


Empath

Is this why I have a hard time trusting people? Because many lie ALL the time?

I call out the BS when I smell it. Some days I just can't smell it. If I feel trusting, it all goes overy my head. The days I'm super bitchy for some reason I smell that BS more.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 06:07:46PM
303 posts

Men


Empath

Girl I hear ya! Same thing happened to me. I don't talk to the one guy who I thought was the one anymore, and now when I reflect back. I clearly just filled some emotional void he had, which was lonliness. I often thought if he had recognition too. But when I would ask "why are we doing this" his response "I don't know" This other guy, we'll he just intimidates me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/14/17 04:14:24PM
303 posts

Men


Empath

@Nikler I completely understand all you are going through. I can tell you that I've been dating around for years and have had no issues telling a guy goodbye amd washing away with it. Like angel says, it's that empath connection right? I have met men that I can relate too and think this is great! But unfortunately I'm not the girl for those guys. The ones that "wow'd" me that I speak of in my post, are the ones I can't shake. I honestly thought it was me, so I questioned myself "am I that lonely desperate myself" it's a "no" now, because I look back at all my dates and nothing hit like that. I guess if it really is lonely and desperation, we would have settled.

I did have a dream that man I know came into my house and met my parents , weird dream to me. Well he didn't meet my parents but he did come to my house, like 2 months later. Which I usually don't invite people over, I just meet them out. But his gentlemen charm wanted to pick me up. So of course that dream hit me later in the evening and I thought shit omg. I know he was dating someone and we agreed to be friends, and if he is a soul mate, I'd like to have him as a friend if nothing more comes from it. Although that hard in itself.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/13/17 05:13:49PM
303 posts

Trying to stop the empathy


Empath

I had a minor health scare recently that made me rethink things, ALOT. I know we all talk about taking in others emotions, stress, etc. And how to stop it or can we etc. I know you all have heard me vent about work and friends, and after all the pounding in my head and rapid heart rate, I felt like I was dying inside. I believe I met another soul mate in life, and something again just popped in me. As I'm not "worrying" or "caring" so much and taking in people's stress at work, I've been feeling better. I Like I'm giving them there stress back. Same for friendships, I refuse to be there punching bag of emotions.

I feel like I'M FINALLY taking care of me and falling in love with myself again. I have energy now to work out, dress up, put on make up, eat better, do things around the house, and want to go out. I feel like I'm glowing again, and I must be because I'm getting lots of compliments from people.

I know my coworkers feel more stressed more than ever and still want to vent and push things off on me, but I'm getting good at the "no" and the boundaries. Lot of my friends barely talk to me anymore as they have nothing positive to say.

I seriously never knew how good it feels until now. Yes I miss helping, and still can feel their pain or sorrows or stress and it hurts. But I feel "healthy" again.

So now bigger question, why do I still "feel" bad for not helping? I mean, I seriously haven't felt this happy and healthy in years.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:07:06PM
303 posts

Where does our Empath Gifts come from?


Empath

I agree with Trevor. Look at animals or our pets. They always know when we are not feeling well or our moods. How danger is close. Maybe it is that the sense is suppressed by society.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/05/17 06:04:12PM
303 posts

Selfish people or what ??


Empath

Hi, I have alot of friends like this as well. As for selfish, I picked up on that to lately. And I agree the social media is bringing out the worse. It's been driving me crazy. And I know 150% how you feel where people call you to tell you something stupid like that but then never want to listen to you or acknowledge what you say.

I think it's an empath trait, we are always there and people just become codependent on us. It really is up to us to set better boundaries, I haven't mastered it yet. But I have been saying no more, and that's hard really hard. It bothers me all day and I keep thinking about it because I know I can help them, but no one is helping me but me so I'm just trying to focus my energy on me.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
06/01/17 04:54:29PM
303 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

Yes, the adrenals are actually a "medical" thing I have. I get tested for them and even my dr doesn't understand why they are elevated on some tests, and other tests not. Looking back now, I can see how the stress is causing it. The bloat gets to me sometimes cause as you know it can hurt and be uncomfortable. I'm hoping now a consistent workout schedule will help with this. I usually run/bike ride through a forest by my house and I always feel great.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/31/17 07:08:51PM
303 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

So when people loose weight from stress and depression, would that mean they are a narc???? This is just fascinating to me now that you all can relate.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:08:05PM
303 posts

Dreaming About Dead People


Dreams

Sometimes dreaming about death is the end to something. Whatever hardships you are going through could be coming to end and for the better. Maybe the angel in your dream is pointing you to your niece and mother as a way for them to help you?
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 07:04:18PM
303 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

It's people negative energy. And yes, the stress has had me off a bit trying to focus on me as I'm too mentally exhausted at the end of the day. I tried finding the "joy" to help others, as it can be rewarding. But then they just cling to me like a leach. Leading me to then turn very negative. It took ALOT of motivation to just get up for a run and a bike ride. And the negativity I got from friends about that too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/30/17 06:35:58PM
303 posts

Bloating and weight gain from toxic energy


Empath

This is a weird one, but has anyone experienced weight gain from negative energy? I've had a lot of negativity with some friends recently and basically had to take a break from them, same with work I'm taking a lot of vacation time. I feel like my gut is bloated, and the scale has gone up. My digestion is off too.
I get it has to do with your third chakra. I'm trying this "I don't care" attitude, but that's hard because I start shaking if I don't help. Then I'm stressed all day if I don't help, like it lingers. I started exercising again, and I can honestly say that is the best energy cleansing for me. All that pent up energy I guess and I can run and bike for miles and miles, and not feel tired.
updated by @tigerlily: 09/18/17 03:33:32AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 08:14:15PM
303 posts

Strong sensations???


Empath

My empathic skills and intuition has grown tremondously the past few months. It's so strong that I almost can't function. People at work and in my personal life are questioning what I am doing. Even though something logical to do, my gut says no. So I follow it and I'm right. So now naturally I'm so impressed with my intuition and fascinated more by it. People are asking me to justify myself. What???
updated by @tigerlily: 09/10/17 10:31:54AM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/11/17 07:57:57PM
303 posts

Advise please


Empath

Don't do it. I get it logically it sounds right to you. But it's your boss. Whatever she is charging for rent, she'll profit. And the appreciation of the home in a year of rent. She's only asking you so you take care of the house and won't trash it. That's what my gut says. Protect you first :)
TigerLily
@tigerlily
05/02/17 04:08:17PM
303 posts

Questioning The Empath-Narcissist Connection


Empath

My ex fiance was a narc. Typical narc as he just sucked the life out of me. Taking and taking but not giving back. They are drawn to people who can help them as they can't help themselves, the empath. In person they may act like an angel, on social media I agree it's what they post or say. I'm starting to notice the wording they use when they speak or write, and that stench of BS makes me sick.

I'm all for helping others, and now I'm making myself more aware and will just cut the BS they give. After years of being taken advantage of you can't help but to grow a tight backbone. I look like the jerk to them, and I don't care. I tried to help, but I can see taking advantage of starting to happen. I'm starting to think my best friend is a narc, although I'm still in denial about it, hard to ignore the signs. I cut contact back with her this year and she flipped out on me a few times. It really bothered me that she's doing that, but I stood up for myself.

Putting up a stance to a narc I've noticed is this feeling of powerless from them and some kind of sadness. It's a battle of emotions I feel inside too.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/18/17 06:45:43PM
303 posts

Men


Empath

Yes I've read about soul mates and soul connections, I guess when it happens to me I almost can't believe what I read or what you all have said. That attraction is intense! Maybe my logical side kicks in too much.

I don't think I've ever felt a bad feeling from him, but I do feel like he is lonely or empty. As from anything I did learn from him is probably what the dr ordered about stress mgnt. As I'm letting things go, but yet feel it come back I think of him. As for my dreams, it doesn't seem he's been a past lover, but maybe a protector of some kind.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
04/16/17 07:09:39PM
303 posts

Men


Empath

What do you do when you have met someone that you have some soul recognition? I've met several men over the past few years and feel like "I know you" These are the men that I feel maybe I try to hard with and they leave? It's an over bearing emotion I get of "don't leave me" One in particular I felt was the one, and he came in and out of my life alot. But last year I met another man, and after several dates he said there wasn't a connection and my heart/stomach dropped to the floor. I was upset, but tried to get over it and just continued dating and eventually forgot about him. About 2 months or so ago he came to my mind for no reason and i wondered how he was, and then to my surprise I get a text from him 2 weeks later. Wow! Creepy I thought. He has said many times since we met again that I'm an amazing woman. But we are not dating or anything. We went out once a few weeks ago. I want to ask him to meet up again, but I feel like I'm pushing it. I also get a feeling he's not interested anymore or is just lost?? I even had a few dreams of him which didn't feel like this era. Same kind of dreams that I had with the other guy who I thought was the one.

This really bothers me and I feel very uneasy. Any other man I would just write off. Why do they come back?
updated by @tigerlily: 10/12/17 07:07:11PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:43:16PM
303 posts

How do you perceive others emotions?


Empath

I don't know how to explain it except for like a vacuum. I just suck it right up. It's an intense feeling of happy/sad/anger/etc emotion that the person is feeling. When I've totally destress ed and grounded is when I feel it hit the hardest, but if I'm bottled up it mostly makes me dizzy/light headed sometimes a chest tightness if it's just negative emotions. The negativity clearly affects me and I'm sure everyone else the most.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/30/17 08:36:13PM
303 posts

emotional highs and lows


Empath

@ kit-kat. I would like to say first, don't allow this situation to doubt who you are as an empath. You are going through a rough bump right now and are actually feeling your own feelings for a change. Which is a good thing. Take the time now to just focus on you. I know easier said than done right? What is it that you want, that maybe you didn't have the opportunity to before?

As for Co dependent. I'm not sure on this because I've been single for years, but I have dated alot but that's it. Being single does get lonely, and I do like being around others (sometimes) But the one good thing about it, I answer to no one. I never have to worry about someone getting upset about anything in the house, except for myself for not doing it. Then I do it and then feel better lol.

As for thinking about him. That's hard, I still struggle with this and dating!!! You are used to this person and have had them in your life for some time. It's only natural. You miss them. Over time it will go away. People always say "pick a hobby" "try doing xyz to get your mind off of it" Those things never helped me, the only thing that did was being around friends and family as much as I could. I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this and my heart goes out to you.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 06:54:02PM
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Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

I agree, but to me I feel as a human on this earth, it feels like my energy dictates that person. And I have to keep working hard to keep me up to bring others up yet battle the negativity that person is feeling so I dont absorb it. And if im down, they are down. The energy needed to have to put back in us to bring my sunshine smile while someone takes it. Guess it's a "life is not fair" Where we work hard to bring us up/ground/etc and those around us don't and just continue to take. Yet if I take or just feel their energy to feel good is wrong, we all know that. I'm getting sucked dry by people, and when I need my space they are mad. I'm exhausted with this battle.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/15/17 05:53:35PM
303 posts

Negative feelings surrounding one particular person


Empath

I have a question. Maybe this is a separate discussion. Why is it that we need to lift ourselves up for our partner to be? What if it is there negative energy bringing us down, and then making them more negative? We all know this is exhausting, and if it's the "gift" it's alot of work lol. Sorry I'm emotional and physically exhausted these days.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 07:34:38PM
303 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

Things were going great for years and I was able to finally feel relief. Then that tidal wave came again. I'm not sure what I did to cause this, but I've been trying to follow my gut more the past year. I know of times when I didn't and did. I truly learned alot. Right now, somethibg just feels awful in my gut at work but I'm in a tough situation where I have to and I know it's wrong. I feel like I need to just quit and start a whole new life elsewhere. But we all know we need financials in this world.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 06:47:49PM
303 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

How do you know what your karma is? I thought I had resolved it as things got better then I got hit with a tidal wave, and another and another. I'm drowning here.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/14/17 05:45:46PM
303 posts

When life brings you lots of lemons


Empath

I am not sure ig something is in the air or if this is another empath thing. Life keeps giving me lemons to make lemonade and I'm tired of making leamonade. I feel like I've learned alot and enough. When does it stop?
updated by @tigerlily: 07/22/17 10:42:44PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:24:49PM
303 posts

My gift is gone


Empath

I notice when I wrap myself in my own bubble and focus on me, everything is gone. Not in a bad way, but take care of me and say forget others. Like isolation almost, but not. I struggle now with focusing on me, and honestly I just feel like shit. Yet everyday I say I'm going to stop and everyday I dont.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/12/17 08:20:37PM
303 posts

Empaths and NDE's or Near Death Experiences


Empath

My NDE was about a decade ago, and after that I felt my central nervous system was shot. I thought it was because of that, about 2 years after something triggered and I started havibg full blown attacks. Started seeing a therapist and from then on I learned about my gifts. It made sense how growing up I'd hear and see things not there, but as a kid who doesn't like a good ghost story right? Then again I always thought people could feel and sense otheRS emotions.
TigerLily
@tigerlily
03/03/17 11:04:44PM
303 posts

Relationships....help!!


Empath

My relationship history with men. Hmm my ex was a narc and did me all kinds of wrong to me, and I loved him deeply. The one after him, completely controlling. Ever since those relationships ended, I noticed I "attract" men who have some type of emotional issue that needs fixing or are typical momma type boys who want a woman to take care of them. Ok yes so narcs. Of the few "nice boys" I was not attracted. I could not bear the thought of settling as I knew I'd be unhappy. I guess you can say I am still and will always be attracted to the "bad boys" So, I shifted my search to older men and the maturity I adored. Which i know family would not approve. But, none of those lasted either.

The ones I've met who have a "familiarity" about them are the ones I try to keep, and we'll I just sound like a stupid women who doesn't see the signs that they are not interested. But that familiarity and goosebumps tell me something inside that is special and to hang on. I'm assuming those are past life related. Go figure as somehow they return or keep some slight contact.
updated by @tigerlily: 03/03/17 11:07:00PM
TigerLily
@tigerlily
02/28/17 07:21:34PM
303 posts

Sleep issues


Empath

If you like coffee try decaf. I drink coffee alot, but it's mostly decaf. I forgot I used to use nature sounds at night. Pandora has a station and it will shut off after a few hours. Nature always calms me and grounds me. I used to also have a station with all kinds of soothing piano music, as well.

And I agree with the social media and news. It really makes my blood boil reading all those things. It got to the point I was so mad they were recording waiting for the giraffe to give birth. It's like "give this poor creature that is locked up in this small area some privacy" I think birth is amazing and new life, but I don't know why it just bothered me? Also, try not talking or texting or emails before bed. Unless you are here chatting with us :) no one here wants you to feel burdened or upset :)
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