So I'm really struggling...
Dating a man who's guarded is just as hard dating a women who is guarded. I for one am guarded, and can relate on his level to an extent, but also welcome a relationship if I'm into them because I too want to get married. But not everyone really wants that too. As for the wall he has, he's protecting himself and that fear to have the wall come down puts him in vulnerability to get hurt, so hey why not let's keep it up. Until he can heel and learn to trust again it will always be up. I say if you really like this and things are going great, give it time. I wouldn't tell him yet your gift as it can scare people away. that is something to discuss later
Plus, I just dated a guy with a big wall. One of the nicest, sweetest, gentle man I've met in a very long time. He to has been burned by multiple women in his life. He told me how he was letting his guard down around me etc, and I thought I was too. But the trust, omg it's awful. I didn't realize I had it that bad. Either way that trust issue got in the way and I couldn't take it anymore and ended it. Then I realized I'm an idiot. I want to make amends, and just feel dumb. I wasn't patient with him or myself. But, i to would have my moments of crying spells dating him. I didnt know if it waa him or me! So, just be patient with this guy if you are already feeling something special about him. People who are guarded always act weird, I do!